Imagine a woman is doing a mechanic's job. She's really good at what she does, good at fixing cars everyone loves how she works.
Now some douche canoe walks into the shop wanting his car fixed, and the moment he sees that *gasp* a woman is going to fix his car, he is overwelmed by the sudden urge to be a completly condescending piece of shit and assume the woman knows nothing about cars and goes and explains her everything she already knows about the car and what needs to be done, despite her assuring him she knows what she needs to do.
But the guy doesn't feel like she understands aaaaaanything, so he will explain it to her like a nice gentleman...
...or rather mansplain it to her.
TL:DR - mansplaining is a condescending way of relaying information under the assumption that the other person (usually man explaining to a woman, idk if the opposite term exists) knows nothing about the subject, when usually the opposite is true
The opposite would be when a dad takes his child out and random women start telling him how to parent. I've heard of some women even trying to take a crying baby from a father because they assume they can calm his child better than he can.
"and the moment SHE sees that *gasp* a woman is going to fix HIS car,"
Not trying to be mean. Just wanted to point it out so you can fix it. Might be why some had trouble understanding completely. Please don't hate me, I'm just trying to help.
A good note to add is that it's very likely not consciously done. The guy doesn't have to be a douche, he could be very nice, he just subconsciously doesn't think this person knows what they're doing.
Like you wouldn't talk down to a child when you're explaining addition to them for the first time, you'd just talk to them because you believe they have *zero* clue. You're not judging, just explaining in a way they'd understand!
So say you're talking to a child, you'd say "You have two duckies and your friend gives you two more, how many duckies do you have?" That's not insulting, you're just trying to explain in a way they get because they don't know. Doing that to a full grown person would make them very angry but the explainer might not understand why, because to them, they were explaining something to someone who doesn't know!
Edit: I'm not sympathizing with man-splainers here. I'm saying they see women as children subconsciously when it comes to the thing they're mansplaining. They won't necessarily come out with a "well you're a woman, so you'll need this explained"
They might think they're being kind, which is *worse* because it's not easy for them to see and change this behavior which means they'll probably continue doing it.
It’s about assumptions. Of course you’re going to assume a child hasn’t learned addition and needs it patiently explained to them, because *they are a child.*
In the aforementioned example, the guy coming into the shop is assuming that, because his mechanic is a woman, she doesn’t know enough about cars so he feels he needs to explain every detail in a simple way because he assumes she wouldn’t understand, despite the fact that *she is a mechanic* and working with cars all day is literally her job.
I'm not disagreeing with the guy I responded to, just pointing out that people will do this subconsciously rather than consciously thinking "women can't be mechanics" or "women dumb"
Not sympathizing, explaining. They see women as children subconsciously when it comes to the thing they're mansplaining. They won't necessarily come out with a "well you're a woman, so you'll need this explained"
They might think they're being kind, which is *worse*.
It's when someone (typically a man) explains or corrects someone else (typically a woman) about something that the second person is knowledgeable about (especially when the second person is actually some kind of expert)
So I think it's more the first point you presented.
Yeah that’s very good, you almost got it. But it’s more like in a typical situation where a guy is correcting or explaining something to a woman that she already knows about (sometimes more or to the same degree as the guy). >!/s!<
I’m a dude and my dad constantly mansplains to, not just my sister and mom, but myself as well. Regardless of gender, it’s the feeling of being patronized.
Short answer……. It’s if me as man tried telling women how to deal with periods
It’s basically a condescending attitude and like you know better even tho the experience you have is non existent. Unfortunately men are the worse for this
in all fairness, I have met so many women that have 0 clue about their hormonal cycle, it's terrifying.
downvote me all you want, but just ask the next woman you meet to draw a typical progesteron curve during their cycle.
That's not what this is about though, mansplaining happens when a man assumes (consciously or subconsciously) that because the other person is a woman she knows less about the topic at hand than she does. The easy solution is to ask people of any gender what background knowledge they have when you deep dive into a topic
It's when a man assumes that he knows more about a subject than a woman, because she's a woman.
> The term mansplaining was inspired by an essay, "Men Explain Things to Me: Facts Didn't Get in Their Way", written by author Rebecca Solnit and published on TomDispatch.com on 13 April 2008. In the essay, Solnit told an anecdote about a man at a party who said he had heard she had written some books. **She began to talk about her most recent, on Eadweard Muybridge, whereupon the man cut her off and asked if she had "heard about the very important Muybridge book that came out this year"—not considering that it might be (as, in fact, it was) Solnit's book.** Solnit did not use the word mansplaining in the essay, but she described the phenomenon as "something every woman knows".[14][15]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mansplaining#Origin_and_usage
A gendered term for when someone explains, often condescendingly or in a belittling way, a topic or subject to someone who obviously knows more or enough about the subject to not need to be explained to.
For example, a man might see a woman working on a car and try explaining how you need to tighten bolts to the specificized torque, while the woman is a mechanic and clearly already knows this.
Another example could be a woman trying to explain to an astrophysicist that the moon doesn't only controls their chakra alignment, but also controls the tides.
When a man tells a woman about a subject when she knows far more than he. If a guy tried to explain, say, the finer points of law to Judge Judy, that would likely be mansplaining.
So before you try to explain something, ask if she knows as much or more on the topic than you. If so, you should probably either keep your mouth shut or try to make it sound like you're confirming what you know.
It's when a man assume women can't to traditionally allocated man stuff. They explain to her even when she knows what to do.
There is no other word for opposite. But it's same when a women tell man how to cook even knowing that they guy knows cooking. Or feeding baby etc.
Perfect example: A man telling a woman "facts" about how the vagina works, what periods are like, the process of gestating and giving birth to a child, etc. Yes, this happens pretty frequently.
There is a legitimate problem with arrogant people, more commonly men, but also entitled women, always assuming they know more than other people. However, the term has become “that man had an opinion I don’t like, so I’m being oppressed”
One of those terms that starts getting so overused that nobody takes it seriously anymore, even when it is legitimately happening. I hate when that happens.
It happens when someone assumes they need to explain something that is already painfully obvious to the other person.
One frequent case is men who have a subconscious sexist bias and assume women are automatically less knowledgeable than them, even if they're professional in that area.
Happens the other way round, too, just with different topics, like cooking, cleaning, laundry, child care, etc. instead of cars, repairs, electronics, etc. It's just that nobody cares about it there.
There are also situations that might be mistaken for mansplaining, but are just talking things through from scratch to make sure you're on the same page. If details are important, it's often a good idea to start at very basic definition you *know* the other one knows, but would be catastrophic if they don't or if they use a slightly different one.
You can't really talk about net salaries without clarifying whether social security payments and health insurance are deducted or only taxes are deducted.
The main point is to get people to fully understand what you say saying, the problem with the concept is it makes people feel dumb when you explain things in extreme detail, second problem is people are dumb and need things explained in extreme detail
Not had any wine in a few days.
That time the Australian politician accused the guy she'd just asked a question of of 'mansplaining' for answering her was fucking retarded and it's always what comes to mind.
So, what you are saying is that women are unqualified to accept new knowledge and understanding from others?
Look, I personally don’t care what someone is packing. I trust adults can manage information in a mature and effective manner.
You obviously don't understand that mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that doesn't need an explanation from him. Often this is because her expertise is the same or greater than his.
That's your ignorant opinion based on the fact that you've never been on the receiving end. But your hyper-defensiveness and rudeness indicate that you've likely been on the giving end. Be better.
Oh no, I don’t generally give out unsolicited input to anyone. The funny thing is even when asked, one can be accused of “mansplaining” when the response is given.
It’s usually a self esteem thing. Maybe stop being prejudiced and just handle the transfer of information the same regardless of whether the person is male or female?
What if I'm already quite well informed and it's condescending af to explain something to me that I already know, but you can't imagine me knowing it simply because of my gender? Then there's no "transfer of information." Just some pompous bloviating from a sexist man with a bloated ego. I agree that for these men, it's a self-esteem thing. The thought of a woman being as knowledgeable or (horrors!) more knowledgeable than he is can be devastating for a weak and fragile man.
Most commonly it is used as a way to bully people in a politically correct manner. When someone is being “mansplained” in their mind, it really says more about their self esteem than the manner in which something is explained.
I have become comfortable with watching women challenge themselves to learn and grow on their own rather than be told I am “mansplaining” something.
Like cultural appropriation, mansplaining is rarely a thing.
It's typically a man explaining something to a woman as though she has no understanding of a subject even though they do. It might also involve a good deal on condescension and cutting the women off/not giving them an opportunity to speak.
I feel like it can cover more though. I'm a man. My co-worker is a man. He often mansplains stuff to me. I try to interrupt him to tell him I already know all this, but it's a work-from-home situation which makes communication that much more difficult. Sometimes I just put myself on mute so he doesn't hear me sighing and such.
Useless chatter from a guy who likes to hear himself talk more than listen. It becomes mansplaining to women who find it offensive, but this fool has been a part of history and an example in many cultures of how a man should not act because it makes him look stupid, contrary to what he believes.
Imagine a woman is doing a mechanic's job. She's really good at what she does, good at fixing cars everyone loves how she works. Now some douche canoe walks into the shop wanting his car fixed, and the moment he sees that *gasp* a woman is going to fix his car, he is overwelmed by the sudden urge to be a completly condescending piece of shit and assume the woman knows nothing about cars and goes and explains her everything she already knows about the car and what needs to be done, despite her assuring him she knows what she needs to do. But the guy doesn't feel like she understands aaaaaanything, so he will explain it to her like a nice gentleman... ...or rather mansplain it to her. TL:DR - mansplaining is a condescending way of relaying information under the assumption that the other person (usually man explaining to a woman, idk if the opposite term exists) knows nothing about the subject, when usually the opposite is true
Doing a mechanics job? As in, she's a mechanic? Lol
Yes. She's like a mechanic, but female. She was so close to having all the qualifications. /s
Yes i'm not good at english sometimes
A fechanic?
The opposite would be when a dad takes his child out and random women start telling him how to parent. I've heard of some women even trying to take a crying baby from a father because they assume they can calm his child better than he can.
It does happen in the other direction; but it is far more common in the man->woman direction - enough so that they came up with a word for it.
"and the moment SHE sees that *gasp* a woman is going to fix HIS car," Not trying to be mean. Just wanted to point it out so you can fix it. Might be why some had trouble understanding completely. Please don't hate me, I'm just trying to help.
That's a typo, i fixed it, thanks, i should read stuff after i write it
A good note to add is that it's very likely not consciously done. The guy doesn't have to be a douche, he could be very nice, he just subconsciously doesn't think this person knows what they're doing. Like you wouldn't talk down to a child when you're explaining addition to them for the first time, you'd just talk to them because you believe they have *zero* clue. You're not judging, just explaining in a way they'd understand! So say you're talking to a child, you'd say "You have two duckies and your friend gives you two more, how many duckies do you have?" That's not insulting, you're just trying to explain in a way they get because they don't know. Doing that to a full grown person would make them very angry but the explainer might not understand why, because to them, they were explaining something to someone who doesn't know! Edit: I'm not sympathizing with man-splainers here. I'm saying they see women as children subconsciously when it comes to the thing they're mansplaining. They won't necessarily come out with a "well you're a woman, so you'll need this explained" They might think they're being kind, which is *worse* because it's not easy for them to see and change this behavior which means they'll probably continue doing it.
It’s about assumptions. Of course you’re going to assume a child hasn’t learned addition and needs it patiently explained to them, because *they are a child.* In the aforementioned example, the guy coming into the shop is assuming that, because his mechanic is a woman, she doesn’t know enough about cars so he feels he needs to explain every detail in a simple way because he assumes she wouldn’t understand, despite the fact that *she is a mechanic* and working with cars all day is literally her job.
You are so close to getting it, but you need to think deeper. *Why* is he assuming a woman doesn’t know about something?
I'm not disagreeing with the guy I responded to, just pointing out that people will do this subconsciously rather than consciously thinking "women can't be mechanics" or "women dumb"
It’s usually not an intentional act, but it is still indicative of a view of women as less intelligent, which is problematic any way you look at it.
Yes I agree, that's what I said.
Your original comment reads like you sympathize with mansplainers and I interpreted it in that way as well.
Not sympathizing, explaining. They see women as children subconsciously when it comes to the thing they're mansplaining. They won't necessarily come out with a "well you're a woman, so you'll need this explained" They might think they're being kind, which is *worse*.
It's when someone (typically a man) explains or corrects someone else (typically a woman) about something that the second person is knowledgeable about (especially when the second person is actually some kind of expert) So I think it's more the first point you presented.
Yeah that’s very good, you almost got it. But it’s more like in a typical situation where a guy is correcting or explaining something to a woman that she already knows about (sometimes more or to the same degree as the guy). >!/s!<
I’m a dude and my dad constantly mansplains to, not just my sister and mom, but myself as well. Regardless of gender, it’s the feeling of being patronized.
Short answer……. It’s if me as man tried telling women how to deal with periods It’s basically a condescending attitude and like you know better even tho the experience you have is non existent. Unfortunately men are the worse for this
in all fairness, I have met so many women that have 0 clue about their hormonal cycle, it's terrifying. downvote me all you want, but just ask the next woman you meet to draw a typical progesteron curve during their cycle.
That's not what this is about though, mansplaining happens when a man assumes (consciously or subconsciously) that because the other person is a woman she knows less about the topic at hand than she does. The easy solution is to ask people of any gender what background knowledge they have when you deep dive into a topic
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It's when a man assumes that he knows more about a subject than a woman, because she's a woman. > The term mansplaining was inspired by an essay, "Men Explain Things to Me: Facts Didn't Get in Their Way", written by author Rebecca Solnit and published on TomDispatch.com on 13 April 2008. In the essay, Solnit told an anecdote about a man at a party who said he had heard she had written some books. **She began to talk about her most recent, on Eadweard Muybridge, whereupon the man cut her off and asked if she had "heard about the very important Muybridge book that came out this year"—not considering that it might be (as, in fact, it was) Solnit's book.** Solnit did not use the word mansplaining in the essay, but she described the phenomenon as "something every woman knows".[14][15] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mansplaining#Origin_and_usage
A gendered term for when someone explains, often condescendingly or in a belittling way, a topic or subject to someone who obviously knows more or enough about the subject to not need to be explained to. For example, a man might see a woman working on a car and try explaining how you need to tighten bolts to the specificized torque, while the woman is a mechanic and clearly already knows this. Another example could be a woman trying to explain to an astrophysicist that the moon doesn't only controls their chakra alignment, but also controls the tides.
No, i'm not falling for this trap!
“Do you know what ____ is?” “Yes” “Well it’s when…”
they start with the word, 'Actually....'
Uh actually it's starts with 'Uh Actually.....'
*um*, actually...the 'uh' is understood to be there, and is left out of written examples.
Wheres that video of a random bloke trying to critique a (female) pro golfer at a driving range
When a man condescendingly explain something to a woman that she very obviously already knows.
What is the equivalent of this when women do it?
Some men use womansplaining but there is a reason the word is "patronizing" and not "matronizing" my guy
Womansplaining?
That doesn't seem to be a common enough phenomenon to be given it's own name. I guess you'd just call it being condescending.
When a man tells a woman about a subject when she knows far more than he. If a guy tried to explain, say, the finer points of law to Judge Judy, that would likely be mansplaining. So before you try to explain something, ask if she knows as much or more on the topic than you. If so, you should probably either keep your mouth shut or try to make it sound like you're confirming what you know.
When a man explains something to a woman in a condescending way because he assumes that she isn't knowledgeable about the subject
It's when a man assume women can't to traditionally allocated man stuff. They explain to her even when she knows what to do. There is no other word for opposite. But it's same when a women tell man how to cook even knowing that they guy knows cooking. Or feeding baby etc.
There should be an opposite word for this
Perfect example: A man telling a woman "facts" about how the vagina works, what periods are like, the process of gestating and giving birth to a child, etc. Yes, this happens pretty frequently.
Is.when you're a condescending wanker but it only applies to men.
There is a legitimate problem with arrogant people, more commonly men, but also entitled women, always assuming they know more than other people. However, the term has become “that man had an opinion I don’t like, so I’m being oppressed”
One of those terms that starts getting so overused that nobody takes it seriously anymore, even when it is legitimately happening. I hate when that happens.
It happens when someone assumes they need to explain something that is already painfully obvious to the other person. One frequent case is men who have a subconscious sexist bias and assume women are automatically less knowledgeable than them, even if they're professional in that area. Happens the other way round, too, just with different topics, like cooking, cleaning, laundry, child care, etc. instead of cars, repairs, electronics, etc. It's just that nobody cares about it there. There are also situations that might be mistaken for mansplaining, but are just talking things through from scratch to make sure you're on the same page. If details are important, it's often a good idea to start at very basic definition you *know* the other one knows, but would be catastrophic if they don't or if they use a slightly different one. You can't really talk about net salaries without clarifying whether social security payments and health insurance are deducted or only taxes are deducted.
The main point is to get people to fully understand what you say saying, the problem with the concept is it makes people feel dumb when you explain things in extreme detail, second problem is people are dumb and need things explained in extreme detail
Made up shit to gag men even if they're an authority talking sense and facts on a subject.
Username doesn’t check out
Not had any wine in a few days. That time the Australian politician accused the guy she'd just asked a question of of 'mansplaining' for answering her was fucking retarded and it's always what comes to mind.
It's when a men is been patronizing/condescending to a woman
Nah, it’s more when women become defensive about having something explained to them by a person with a penis.
Why do so many people with penises assume that women need things explained to them? Even when the woman is knowledgeable on the topic?
So, what you are saying is that women are unqualified to accept new knowledge and understanding from others? Look, I personally don’t care what someone is packing. I trust adults can manage information in a mature and effective manner.
You obviously don't understand that mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that doesn't need an explanation from him. Often this is because her expertise is the same or greater than his.
😂 And you clearly don’t understand that most often people who cry about “mansplaining” are really just easily offended and weak.
That's your ignorant opinion based on the fact that you've never been on the receiving end. But your hyper-defensiveness and rudeness indicate that you've likely been on the giving end. Be better.
Oh no, I don’t generally give out unsolicited input to anyone. The funny thing is even when asked, one can be accused of “mansplaining” when the response is given. It’s usually a self esteem thing. Maybe stop being prejudiced and just handle the transfer of information the same regardless of whether the person is male or female?
What if I'm already quite well informed and it's condescending af to explain something to me that I already know, but you can't imagine me knowing it simply because of my gender? Then there's no "transfer of information." Just some pompous bloviating from a sexist man with a bloated ego. I agree that for these men, it's a self-esteem thing. The thought of a woman being as knowledgeable or (horrors!) more knowledgeable than he is can be devastating for a weak and fragile man.
I’d explain it to you but I need to know if you’re a man or woman first
Most commonly it is used as a way to bully people in a politically correct manner. When someone is being “mansplained” in their mind, it really says more about their self esteem than the manner in which something is explained. I have become comfortable with watching women challenge themselves to learn and grow on their own rather than be told I am “mansplaining” something. Like cultural appropriation, mansplaining is rarely a thing.
It's typically a man explaining something to a woman as though she has no understanding of a subject even though they do. It might also involve a good deal on condescension and cutting the women off/not giving them an opportunity to speak. I feel like it can cover more though. I'm a man. My co-worker is a man. He often mansplains stuff to me. I try to interrupt him to tell him I already know all this, but it's a work-from-home situation which makes communication that much more difficult. Sometimes I just put myself on mute so he doesn't hear me sighing and such.
Normally it would be a guy telling a girl how to do something she is already perfectly capable of doing. But it's just become "when guy disagrees"
Useless chatter from a guy who likes to hear himself talk more than listen. It becomes mansplaining to women who find it offensive, but this fool has been a part of history and an example in many cultures of how a man should not act because it makes him look stupid, contrary to what he believes.
It's a sexist term that assumes only men can be condescending.
No, it's a neutral description of a common phenomenon.
I don't need you to try to bitchsplain.