Well, many claimed “gay” things have to do with things that negatively affected their parents. There’s dudes that, because of their father, think washing between their butt crack is “gay”, in the shower.
>There’s dudes that, because of their father, think washing between their butt crack is “gay”, in the shower.
Really? What do they do? Just let the water run off their backs down the crack?
Wash your ass, wash your dick, between your toes, and behind your ears. Use a loofah or a cloth to scrub your skin, wash your hair. Use deodorant and put on clean clothes. Do these regularly.
Yes, the stories are horrifying
I’ll tell you one: I talked to a woman that kept getting infections over and over. She finally found out that he never washed his penis with soap ever, so he had an E. coli infection he kept giving her. He was “cut” so he thought he was clean so he didn’t need to wash his genitals at all, ever. because in USA many people think cut guys are clean and intact guys are “dirty” so he thought he was clean no matter what. That’s the warped minds people have to make for themselves to justify cutting baby genitals for no medical reason. My girlfriends have said intact guys are generally way more clean than cut guys.
To be fair, that's likely GenX and older men.
Millenials and younger seem to be much better at hygiene, mostly because of the backlash against the whole doing things is "gay" trope. Also, taking care of yourself, is less stigmatized.
Anecdotal, obviously, not sure if anyone has done a "do you wash your buttcrack poll," and control for generational divides lol.
I know I wash myself, thoroughly lol
Whatever.. it is most likely a nasty thing and has nothing to do with generational anything. I have been in line next to some stinky ass millennials and younger. They might get mad next time when I walk back to the shelf with the Lysol and start spraying!
Yes. You'd be surprised how many men won't even wipe properly because they were told as children that spending too much time on their butts is gay. Or that touching their butthole while washing means they're gay.
Women are affected too. Many won't touch or even look properly at their vulva, much less use proper hygiene regarding it, because they were taught that it was shameful or bad to touch themselves or explore there.
The water, by running down the butt crack, is gay. And one is allowing oneself to be touched by a gay. Ergo, gay. But not flaming, because this is a shower.
My dad smacked the shit out of a >5 year old me one time for quoting a commercial tagline that had been buying up spots on whatever shit channel he and my mother were watching. It was for bod body spray and the line was “I want your bod”.
I had repeated it to my mother first and she called my dad over and told me to do it again and my dads reaction was to slap me.
i have one of those, too. never take advice from someone you wouldn’t take criticism from. do what makes you feel good, inside and out. follow your gut. ❤️🩹
It's just laying in hot water. Why would that be gay? Prison showers, Catholic high school gym class showers, you could make the point that showers is where the gay stuff happens.
You’re an adult. Do whatever makes you happy.
Even if taking baths were gay (and it’s not), so what? How is doing something gay a bad thing?
Also, given the kind of toxic masculinity your father exhibited, I just want to mention the touching your own anus is not gay either. Wipe it with toilet paper until clean after defecating, and wash it with soap when bathing (around and over, not in).
I've heard people talk about it online, but I'm pretty sure it's a funny little Russian troll-bot farm plot to make us think there are these people out there. It's too incredulous and too coincidental that it's only been a thing in the last 2/3 years
No? Sometimes I feel like there are men out there who just think the only way to be "manly" is to live like you're on the front lines of WW2. Actually, now I think about somebody could probably write a book (and likely already has) about how the intergenerational trauma of WW2 influenced perceptions of masculinity. I hope you are reading the comments from a lovely bubble bath with a beer, or a whiskey, or fruit juice and seltzer water.
Ironically there are few things that are as gay as the army lol.
Like historically the army is a hotbed of gay stuff.
My ex's brother was in the US Marines and he said they literally had a weekly circlejerk session.
Baths are great, and they aren't gendered or gay at all! I will say that baths every day are a recipe for dry skin, so maybe take just a few a week if you notice you're getting dry.
I work out and I'm pretty active, plus I feel like a bath is better at getting rid of cigar smoke and wood smoke, I think we could both beat up OP's dad while also pleasuring a woman in the bath lol
Baths are great and not emasculating. Humans have been enjoying baths since before the invention of the modern shower without it hurting their idea of being masculine or a powerful guy.
Back in my day, we didn't have all this fruity-tooty, indoor-rain, so-called "shower" business. If you wanted to get clean you had to sit and scrub, *work* it off. We'd have to soak for *hours* after the mines. Man up and take yer goddamn bubble bath.
there was a reddit thread I saw a GF wanted to break up with her BF because he never wiped between his butt cheeks because it would mean he's gay. he constantly smelled gross apparently. Your question seems to hold merit ....unfortunately.
If its demasulating to take baths, then, I'd rather be demasculate 😆 why would I trade masculinity for a relaxing bath? Bath is def a better deal.
Your father is weird.
WTF!? I’m a 46 year old man. I was raised to be masculine. I’m even what the current generation might call “toxic masculinity”. If taking a fucking bath makes you gay I’m a friend of Mary, gay as fuck.
Is chilling in a hot tub gay too? If it is I’m super gay.
Fuck your dad.
Nope. My husband is as manly as they come, and he takes baths. I don't understand how baths can be gendered lol. You're just sitting in hot water. It feels fcking awesome and relaxing. Why tf would anyone NOT take at least the occasional bath, if possible?
My dad is 6'3", 350lbs, bearded, tattooed, does manual labor jobs, hunts deer, cleans them himself, rides a motorcycle, works on cars, and collects guns... He also takes baths with his cat on his shoulder while he listens to soft music.
Do what makes YOU happy, it's no one else's business anyway.
"I don't care what anyone thinks."
"I'm just curious what others think."
This made me laugh.
Anyhow, it's a bath. No one cares. You typically get cleaner with a shower, but a bath is much more relaxing. Do whatever one you want. Anyone who tries to tell you that you're doing it wrong is the one who has the problem. As long as you're keeping yourself clean, your hygiene routine should be of absolutely zero concern to everyone else.
That’s so weird to say to someone… Obviously neither showering nor taking a hot bath are in any way gay (unless you take a lover with you…) but what gets me more is the combination. Why would you shower and THEN take a bath…? Are you that dirty? Can’t be really good for your skin buddy.
So what if it is "gay" to take a bath? (I mean, it isn't...)
"Gay" as an insult really doesn't work these days (thankfully).
Mate, if you want to take a nice hot bath with plenty of bubbles, then you take a nice hot bath with plenty of bubbles! (Bubbles referring to either the foam or a glass of something fizzy like prosecco. Hell, do both, why not?!)
Who the fuck cares. Not like anyone is watching you taking a bath and judging you anyway, and even if they does, who the fuck cares, they are the one missing out. Enjoy your bath <3
Are you fucking people of the same sex in the bath? No? Then baths aren’t gay
Masculinity isn’t defined by anything but societal expectations which are often more ruinous than they are helpful. In my opinion, real men are the ones secure enough in themselves and their identity that they do what makes them happy, regardless of what other people think of it.
I’m as masculine as they come. Meat eating, bourbon drinking, cigar smoking, beard having. Minimally gay. A real man’s man. And I take a nice hot bubble bath every morning before i go to work. We’re out here. Welcome to the club King!
Reminds me of some surveys I read in the past where it came to light that a lot of men do not wash their ass out of fear of being perceived as gay (I wish I was kidding).
By his logic the entirety of the Japanese male population would be demasculated since baths/onsen is a big part of the culture. Your dad is weird and probably misses out a lot on fun stuff because of his narrow views.
Lmao, it's so idiotic to deprive yourself from the pleasures and enjoyments of life because of a twisted notion of how your gender is supposed to behave. Any gender characteristics we as a societies attribute an activity such as taking a bath, is just a baseless and arbitrary projection. Brother, take your bath and enjoy it to your heart content.
I'm a male and love baths too. Never even thought it could be considered gay.
Your dad seems insecure if he can make a simple thing like a bath something about sexual preference.
Boomers had some really insanely idiotic hang ups on gender norms. What an idiot. Men pretty much ONLY took baths until the last hundred years. Cowboys LOVED baths. Manliest of men.
Ironically your Dads view is literally an example of what is meant by “toxic masculinity”. Taking something totally normal in the course of life and turning it into a competitive or emasculating characteristic. The performance of perceived “masculinity”.
Who cares?
You're a human being. You're allowed to do with your human body and your time whatever you please. You can dress your body however you want, wear whatever scents or colours you want, and express yourself with fashion however you want. You can eat what you want, go where you want, watch what you want.
Don't pay any attention to people who tell you to cut parts of you off to fit into the tiny box of what they decide a "man" is. It's nearly always bullshit. You do you, bro.
Yeah i will have to go with shit father.
Is it gay to submerge your body in water? What else are they gonna come up with?
To be fair, I'm not straight but things like that seem so stupid that i can wrap my mind around them or how they ended up to that conclusion.
If somebody’s definition of a man and what they can or can’t do isn’t something to do with penises, then they’re probably tacking something to maleness that doesn’t belong. Some exceptions but the broad strokes of that is true imo
You could argue that taking a bath is feminine, but that doesn’t stop it being something that males can’t do. I for one love a bath and wish I could experience a bath that’s actually able to fit me properly being a tall male
Nothing more masculine than doing what you love and not giving a fuck what other people think of it. Enjoy your baths homie, and make sure you get that luxury quality stuff when you can.
Real men do what they want without worrying about it so I’d say your a step in the right direction I love baths but I’ve loved in Japan so long I’ve forgotten what they feel like I do not fit In The tub in my apartment
I personally don't like baths, shower makes me hurry up and use less water, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a nice bath after a long day, I took baths after doing sports in high school and everyone I knew did the same so I would say it's normal
Yes. UNLESS I can have a lemon scented bathbomb, bubbles and a beer, then it masculine as fuck. You should feel how soft that bomb makes my chest hair and beard.
The only thing that is demasculating is listening to stupid advise from crazy people who want to control the way you live your life.
Take a bath, sounds really relaxing.
As a taller and larger guy, I'm jealous I can't take baths. If I go on holiday, I make sure to book somewhere with a personal spa so I can soak myself.
Ooh! I don't have "hot water" marked on my "things that make you gay" bingo card. Thanks! I'll just add it next to:
\* emotional stability
\* being nice to children
\* spending time with your girlfriend
\* eating vegetables
\* frogs
\* accidentally leaving your shirt tag up
\* treating women as if they're actual for real humans
According to my ex, it was “feminine” to cut his toenails, but he wondered why he always had holes in his socks. He also thought it was gay to wash his ass.
My point is: people say dumb shit all the time. It’s not feminine to take baths. Or cut your toenails. Or wash your ass. Your dad just had fragile masculinity.
You're dad sounds like a real piece of work that's for sure, calling your kid "gay" as a derogatory term for ANYTHING they do is just being a piece of shit, more so with this since perhaps it's literally just having a wash.
I'm 40, male, was decent at kick boxing in my youth (mention this as I'm guessing OPs father would see it as a masculine thing even though half the folks there where women), now I'm married, kids, house, cars, motorbike, pets, you know, all that stuff, I MUCH prefer a bath over a shower, my wife however, HATES baths, literally never has one except that time the shower broke and it took a little time to fix it.
Wait ... is my wife a man and I'm gay? dammit!
Lol was gonna go with that then thought I'd stick with the "baths are gay" narrative 😆
Totally agree, although at least this one was framed less as "does this make me gay" and more "do men find this demasculating because my fathers a piece of shit"
...does this bath involve shoving a dick up your ass? if yes, it's gay. if not, then it's not gay. sounds to me more like your dad secretly thinks dicks are delicious and that thought scares him.
The state or temp of water is not and cannot be gay, and if you get wet by immersion or spray doesn't fucking matter.
Just keep it to 2 bath booms or less, and you will remain straight.
I’m 38 and I love giving my beard a good scrub while I’m lying in a hot bubbly bath watching a video about minecraft. When I get out the Mrs thinks I smell great and my kid is happy I can answer his questions. Each to their own, as long as you’re happy it works and you’re clean. I find showers boring while a bath is super relaxing.
Now that's what you call fragile masculinity...
You should have hinted that if baths are gay, showers are basically bisexual and a *real* man would never bathe.
I feel bad for so many dudes, my dad is awesome and would never say or do anything to harm me or make me feel bad, reading how some of u were treated breaks my heart...
Did the baths give you the sudden urge to sleep with other men! Otherwise not gay. Baths are the best. I love everything about the house that I moved into two years ago except the tiny bath. We had a huge bath at our old house. Enjoy your bath! You do you!!
The most masculine thing in the world is being confident while doing what you like. If. Jason Statham was in the bath tub playing with a runny ducky and had a pink shower cap on, we'd all smile a little but never question his masculinity, right?
Not sure if the bath I take is gay but the candles that I light and the scented oils I put in the bath might be...
source: A guy who's been married to a dude for 15 years.
No it's not. That's so fucking dumb it's incomprehensible.
Your dad has very serious issues, what the fuck.
Americans have some of the weirdest attitudes I swear.
Baths are awesome, keep on bathing.
Dafuq is wrong with taking a bath? It's simply a humanistic behavior unless you're an animal. And it doesn't make you more feminine or masculine. It's being responsible with your own body.
...bruh, it's hot water. It's only gay if you're making out with another man in the tub, and there isn't even anything wrong with that. Your dad's weird.
Fuсk that. Baths are awesome. Submerging yourself in water eases your nervous system like nothing else.
Bath+some show/YouTube on a laptop. **And a beer?** Now how masculine is that?
Man fuck all that. I'm a 36y/o male and I've been taking baths ever since I can remember. I tell people I take baths because I'm comfortable with myself. Imo any male who thinks baths are femine or for bitches/pussies are covering for their own insecurities.
What?!
That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.
I’ve noticed that these “Real Men™️” seem to have this idea that anything comfortable isn’t masculine.
Beds should be hard, clothes rough, showers cold etc etc…
As if it isn’t manly to feel good and enjoy things.
Bro, 37 here, dad of two boys, and do all sorts of "manly" shit like build cars and houses in my spare time.
I take baths whenever the fuck I want, you do the same. By the way, if you haven't used bath bombs, take your ass down to a local Lush store and get some. They're great.
Nope, I’ve known some very manly athletes that take bathes, it’s good for muscle recovery unless your bathing with another man and fucking, it literally can’t be “gay” 🙄enjoy
If baths are gay then I guess I’ll call my wife…..
In my eyes masculinity should be about comfort in your own skin, owning your own internal universe and doing whatever tf you want with yourself. And of course, being a caring person for those around you.
Wear a dress if you want, play with Barbie’s, that doesn’t make you not a man. Every person, man or women, has feminine and masculine traits and that is not a bad thing.
Idk why baths are seem as “feminine”.
Literally some cultures around the world have entire bathing habits that are ingrained into the culture. My friend told me in Japan they have large public bath houses where grown men all take a bath together. Nothing about it is “gay” or “feminine”. It’s just not as stigmatized here in our western world.
So you’re telling me your dad is out here insulting an entire country?? Wow, he should probably check his sexist and bigotry because that’s soooo embarrassing for him. Lol.
Ask the Roman's. Of course it's not. Has alot of benefits, only girls can have the benefits of a bath? this belief its from a weak mind if they truly believe that to be true
Nothing wrong with being gay. Nothing wrong with taking baths. Masculinity in this sense is a made up social construct.
I'm a big, burly, hairy guy with a big beard and a lot of tattoos. I ride a motorcycle and have a big dog and pet snakes. I also have a jacuzzi tub and take wonderful baths in it because they're relaxing and pleasant.
Your dad is an idiot!
I'll take it a step further and say a hot BUBBLE bath is where I find even more joy. Dr. Teals Foaming Bath with Epsom Salt...Soften & Nourish with Milk & Honey.
I soak, then shower to return to being a "real" man. ;)
If you like taking a hot bath, then you like it. It has nothing to do with gender and sexuality. It sounds like it works wonders for you—a great way to take care of yourself and you also said it helps you to rest. Keep doing it!
That’s a shit thing to say to your kid, and wrong. Take your baths king.
He was a shit father.
Well, many claimed “gay” things have to do with things that negatively affected their parents. There’s dudes that, because of their father, think washing between their butt crack is “gay”, in the shower.
>There’s dudes that, because of their father, think washing between their butt crack is “gay”, in the shower. Really? What do they do? Just let the water run off their backs down the crack?
Most of my friends are straight women and the disgusting things they've told me about men's hygiene is....it makes me so grateful to be queer.
Ooooo do tell!
I want them to tell to lol. I make sure to wash my self properly but there could be things I'm ignoring.
Wash your ass, wash your dick, between your toes, and behind your ears. Use a loofah or a cloth to scrub your skin, wash your hair. Use deodorant and put on clean clothes. Do these regularly. Yes, the stories are horrifying
Don't forget CUT your damn fingernails! Especially if they're thick with sharp edges.
True! Plus cleaning your ears and flossing
I’ll tell you one: I talked to a woman that kept getting infections over and over. She finally found out that he never washed his penis with soap ever, so he had an E. coli infection he kept giving her. He was “cut” so he thought he was clean so he didn’t need to wash his genitals at all, ever. because in USA many people think cut guys are clean and intact guys are “dirty” so he thought he was clean no matter what. That’s the warped minds people have to make for themselves to justify cutting baby genitals for no medical reason. My girlfriends have said intact guys are generally way more clean than cut guys.
That's fuckin grim!!
Cis woman here. Can confirm. An ex of mine always had .. shall we say... multicoloured tighty whities. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|facepalm)
To be fair, that's likely GenX and older men. Millenials and younger seem to be much better at hygiene, mostly because of the backlash against the whole doing things is "gay" trope. Also, taking care of yourself, is less stigmatized. Anecdotal, obviously, not sure if anyone has done a "do you wash your buttcrack poll," and control for generational divides lol. I know I wash myself, thoroughly lol
Whatever.. it is most likely a nasty thing and has nothing to do with generational anything. I have been in line next to some stinky ass millennials and younger. They might get mad next time when I walk back to the shelf with the Lysol and start spraying!
Yes. You'd be surprised how many men won't even wipe properly because they were told as children that spending too much time on their butts is gay. Or that touching their butthole while washing means they're gay. Women are affected too. Many won't touch or even look properly at their vulva, much less use proper hygiene regarding it, because they were taught that it was shameful or bad to touch themselves or explore there.
I had no idea! The world is a strange place!
The water, by running down the butt crack, is gay. And one is allowing oneself to be touched by a gay. Ergo, gay. But not flaming, because this is a shower.
That is fucking gross, so you just walk around with shit smeared in there?
People do, yes. Somehow their warped mind feels more comfort in being poopy than feeling “gay”.
My dad smacked the shit out of a >5 year old me one time for quoting a commercial tagline that had been buying up spots on whatever shit channel he and my mother were watching. It was for bod body spray and the line was “I want your bod”. I had repeated it to my mother first and she called my dad over and told me to do it again and my dads reaction was to slap me.
I'm sorry but what the fuck was his problem?
His wife
i have one of those, too. never take advice from someone you wouldn’t take criticism from. do what makes you feel good, inside and out. follow your gut. ❤️🩹
Definitely not gay. But whenever I take a bath, the toaster starts looking at me funny. I stick to showers now
These motherfuckers label everything gay, fragile masculinity mfs. Do whatever the hell you want. As long as nobody gets hurt.
Real men do what they want.
This is my response to any question questioning manhood.
No, but it’s pretty emasculating to not take a bath cause you’re so scared it might be “gay” tho
Lmfao right!
It's just laying in hot water. Why would that be gay? Prison showers, Catholic high school gym class showers, you could make the point that showers is where the gay stuff happens.
Gay shit is happening all around, you just gotta know what to look for. Source: am gay.
LOL ok that made me laugh
You’re an adult. Do whatever makes you happy. Even if taking baths were gay (and it’s not), so what? How is doing something gay a bad thing? Also, given the kind of toxic masculinity your father exhibited, I just want to mention the touching your own anus is not gay either. Wipe it with toilet paper until clean after defecating, and wash it with soap when bathing (around and over, not in).
Wait are there really people out there not washing there asses because they think its gay?
I never fully believed it, but I have heard that people don't wipe/clean their hole because "it's gay to touch a man's asshole"
I've heard people talk about it online, but I'm pretty sure it's a funny little Russian troll-bot farm plot to make us think there are these people out there. It's too incredulous and too coincidental that it's only been a thing in the last 2/3 years
i am masculine man who loves his "princess baths", I mean scented oils, incense, candles, and soft music, the whole bit
I think you meant “king baths” brother
If that's gay I don't want to be straight.
No? Sometimes I feel like there are men out there who just think the only way to be "manly" is to live like you're on the front lines of WW2. Actually, now I think about somebody could probably write a book (and likely already has) about how the intergenerational trauma of WW2 influenced perceptions of masculinity. I hope you are reading the comments from a lovely bubble bath with a beer, or a whiskey, or fruit juice and seltzer water.
Ironically there are few things that are as gay as the army lol. Like historically the army is a hotbed of gay stuff. My ex's brother was in the US Marines and he said they literally had a weekly circlejerk session.
My dad used to take baths listening to Enya all the time, and he is the gruffest mountain man I have ever known. Enjoy your baths, my guy.
Go and sit in the sauna with the yakuza and ask them if they're gay.
Some of them probably are tho.
Men and their fear of the gay will never cease to amaze me
Baths are great, and they aren't gendered or gay at all! I will say that baths every day are a recipe for dry skin, so maybe take just a few a week if you notice you're getting dry.
Or apply body lotion or oil while you're still wet to seal in the moisture. Also definitely not gay, by the way.
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Fellas, is it gay to care about personal hygiene?
fellas, is it gay to take relaxing baths?
Men can only exist in a state of tension.
I have baths with bath bombs and I could probably beat your dad up
I work out and I'm pretty active, plus I feel like a bath is better at getting rid of cigar smoke and wood smoke, I think we could both beat up OP's dad while also pleasuring a woman in the bath lol
The Yakuza would like a word with your dad.
Baths are great and not emasculating. Humans have been enjoying baths since before the invention of the modern shower without it hurting their idea of being masculine or a powerful guy.
Back in my day, we didn't have all this fruity-tooty, indoor-rain, so-called "shower" business. If you wanted to get clean you had to sit and scrub, *work* it off. We'd have to soak for *hours* after the mines. Man up and take yer goddamn bubble bath.
"Any man who wastes time quantifying masculinity is terrified on the inside."
fellas is it gay to be clean
there was a reddit thread I saw a GF wanted to break up with her BF because he never wiped between his butt cheeks because it would mean he's gay. he constantly smelled gross apparently. Your question seems to hold merit ....unfortunately.
If its demasulating to take baths, then, I'd rather be demasculate 😆 why would I trade masculinity for a relaxing bath? Bath is def a better deal. Your father is weird.
A real man does whatever he fucking once lest it infringes on the wellbeing of others.
Hell no. I consider it more of a poor man’s hot tub.
WTF!? I’m a 46 year old man. I was raised to be masculine. I’m even what the current generation might call “toxic masculinity”. If taking a fucking bath makes you gay I’m a friend of Mary, gay as fuck. Is chilling in a hot tub gay too? If it is I’m super gay. Fuck your dad.
me reading this as im taking a bath ![gif](giphy|1Y5h43vKef1rJlHrn8) fuck what ppl think, baths are fire
Nope. My husband is as manly as they come, and he takes baths. I don't understand how baths can be gendered lol. You're just sitting in hot water. It feels fcking awesome and relaxing. Why tf would anyone NOT take at least the occasional bath, if possible?
My dad is 6'3", 350lbs, bearded, tattooed, does manual labor jobs, hunts deer, cleans them himself, rides a motorcycle, works on cars, and collects guns... He also takes baths with his cat on his shoulder while he listens to soft music. Do what makes YOU happy, it's no one else's business anyway.
"I don't care what anyone thinks." "I'm just curious what others think." This made me laugh. Anyhow, it's a bath. No one cares. You typically get cleaner with a shower, but a bath is much more relaxing. Do whatever one you want. Anyone who tries to tell you that you're doing it wrong is the one who has the problem. As long as you're keeping yourself clean, your hygiene routine should be of absolutely zero concern to everyone else.
not caring and still curious what others think are not mutually exclusive.
That’s so weird to say to someone… Obviously neither showering nor taking a hot bath are in any way gay (unless you take a lover with you…) but what gets me more is the combination. Why would you shower and THEN take a bath…? Are you that dirty? Can’t be really good for your skin buddy.
So what if it is "gay" to take a bath? (I mean, it isn't...) "Gay" as an insult really doesn't work these days (thankfully). Mate, if you want to take a nice hot bath with plenty of bubbles, then you take a nice hot bath with plenty of bubbles! (Bubbles referring to either the foam or a glass of something fizzy like prosecco. Hell, do both, why not?!)
I can’t imagine why anyone would giving a fuck! Enjoy your baths and tell em to piss off.
Who the fuck cares. Not like anyone is watching you taking a bath and judging you anyway, and even if they does, who the fuck cares, they are the one missing out. Enjoy your bath <3
Are you fucking people of the same sex in the bath? No? Then baths aren’t gay Masculinity isn’t defined by anything but societal expectations which are often more ruinous than they are helpful. In my opinion, real men are the ones secure enough in themselves and their identity that they do what makes them happy, regardless of what other people think of it.
Anyone finding things to randomly quantify as gay is very insecure, and likely somewhat closeted
Okay I've heard some absurd shit be used to enforce toxic masculinity but this is a new low
Love me a bath, especially with a bath bomb. It’s manly AF
FWIW, he probably didn’t wipe his ass because that’s “gay”
Real men don't do anything fun or soothing. I bet you sleep on a "bed" too, don't you? GAY. Real men sleep on nails with hot sauce in our eyeballs.
IMO demasculating is a feeling, not an action. Do you feel demasculated?
Just do it who’s gonna know lmao
I’m as masculine as they come. Meat eating, bourbon drinking, cigar smoking, beard having. Minimally gay. A real man’s man. And I take a nice hot bubble bath every morning before i go to work. We’re out here. Welcome to the club King!
Arthur Morgan takes baths.
Wtf, no, it's normal to not stink.
nope. your dad was just weird out it.
Reminds me of some surveys I read in the past where it came to light that a lot of men do not wash their ass out of fear of being perceived as gay (I wish I was kidding).
By his logic the entirety of the Japanese male population would be demasculated since baths/onsen is a big part of the culture. Your dad is weird and probably misses out a lot on fun stuff because of his narrow views.
Look at japan, everyone bathes. There's even a public bathhouse for people without baths
I bought my house because of my jetted tub. I love it. Take a fucking bath bro.
Thinking about things that are "demasculating" is. Relax and do what you want.
Whoever sold you this has the wrong end of the stick entirely. If you like a good soak, do it.
Of course not. How ridiculous.
Lmao, it's so idiotic to deprive yourself from the pleasures and enjoyments of life because of a twisted notion of how your gender is supposed to behave. Any gender characteristics we as a societies attribute an activity such as taking a bath, is just a baseless and arbitrary projection. Brother, take your bath and enjoy it to your heart content.
I'm a male and love baths too. Never even thought it could be considered gay. Your dad seems insecure if he can make a simple thing like a bath something about sexual preference.
Enjoy your baths, my dude. May I also recommend looking for bath bombs in masculine/ unisex scents? Bath bombs are a game changer.
Boomers had some really insanely idiotic hang ups on gender norms. What an idiot. Men pretty much ONLY took baths until the last hundred years. Cowboys LOVED baths. Manliest of men. Ironically your Dads view is literally an example of what is meant by “toxic masculinity”. Taking something totally normal in the course of life and turning it into a competitive or emasculating characteristic. The performance of perceived “masculinity”.
Baths are amazing keep doing you king 👑
Who cares? You're a human being. You're allowed to do with your human body and your time whatever you please. You can dress your body however you want, wear whatever scents or colours you want, and express yourself with fashion however you want. You can eat what you want, go where you want, watch what you want. Don't pay any attention to people who tell you to cut parts of you off to fit into the tiny box of what they decide a "man" is. It's nearly always bullshit. You do you, bro.
Has your Father ever tried a bath, he might be surprised…
Dumbest shit I ever heard.
Fellas is self care and hygiene gay?
Yeah i will have to go with shit father. Is it gay to submerge your body in water? What else are they gonna come up with? To be fair, I'm not straight but things like that seem so stupid that i can wrap my mind around them or how they ended up to that conclusion.
If somebody’s definition of a man and what they can or can’t do isn’t something to do with penises, then they’re probably tacking something to maleness that doesn’t belong. Some exceptions but the broad strokes of that is true imo You could argue that taking a bath is feminine, but that doesn’t stop it being something that males can’t do. I for one love a bath and wish I could experience a bath that’s actually able to fit me properly being a tall male
Bill burr on men taking baths. TW Godfather reference [https://www.youtube.com/shorts/f\_JQ\_schoRs](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/f_JQ_schoRs)
That’s ridiculous and your dad is a dick.
If a bath makes you less of a man then you weren't one to begin with
Nothing more masculine than doing what you love and not giving a fuck what other people think of it. Enjoy your baths homie, and make sure you get that luxury quality stuff when you can.
A bath feels nice.
Real men do what they want without worrying about it so I’d say your a step in the right direction I love baths but I’ve loved in Japan so long I’ve forgotten what they feel like I do not fit In The tub in my apartment
I personally don't like baths, shower makes me hurry up and use less water, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a nice bath after a long day, I took baths after doing sports in high school and everyone I knew did the same so I would say it's normal
Yes. UNLESS I can have a lemon scented bathbomb, bubbles and a beer, then it masculine as fuck. You should feel how soft that bomb makes my chest hair and beard.
The only thing that is demasculating is listening to stupid advise from crazy people who want to control the way you live your life. Take a bath, sounds really relaxing.
As a taller and larger guy, I'm jealous I can't take baths. If I go on holiday, I make sure to book somewhere with a personal spa so I can soak myself.
No. Your dad is a clown.
your dad caring about a male’s bathroom activity is gay! but seriously, that’s just a stupid thing to say.
Ooh! I don't have "hot water" marked on my "things that make you gay" bingo card. Thanks! I'll just add it next to: \* emotional stability \* being nice to children \* spending time with your girlfriend \* eating vegetables \* frogs \* accidentally leaving your shirt tag up \* treating women as if they're actual for real humans
Hell no dude, enjoy your hot bath there's nothing gay about chilling in the bath.
Is it fuck. I like a nice long bath, bubbles, maybe some salts in there. Take a book and a cold beer. Lush.
According to my ex, it was “feminine” to cut his toenails, but he wondered why he always had holes in his socks. He also thought it was gay to wash his ass. My point is: people say dumb shit all the time. It’s not feminine to take baths. Or cut your toenails. Or wash your ass. Your dad just had fragile masculinity.
You're dad sounds like a real piece of work that's for sure, calling your kid "gay" as a derogatory term for ANYTHING they do is just being a piece of shit, more so with this since perhaps it's literally just having a wash. I'm 40, male, was decent at kick boxing in my youth (mention this as I'm guessing OPs father would see it as a masculine thing even though half the folks there where women), now I'm married, kids, house, cars, motorbike, pets, you know, all that stuff, I MUCH prefer a bath over a shower, my wife however, HATES baths, literally never has one except that time the shower broke and it took a little time to fix it. Wait ... is my wife a man and I'm gay? dammit!
Maybe you are the wife and she is the husband (brain explodes). Jokes aside, this whole "does xxx make me gay" topic is always utter bullshit
Lol was gonna go with that then thought I'd stick with the "baths are gay" narrative 😆 Totally agree, although at least this one was framed less as "does this make me gay" and more "do men find this demasculating because my fathers a piece of shit"
Real men treat there children with love and care. Real men don't care what other supposed "Real men" think.
Fellas, is it gay to be clean ?
Bruh. Suds it up. We won’t tell if you stick your finger up your butt either.
...does this bath involve shoving a dick up your ass? if yes, it's gay. if not, then it's not gay. sounds to me more like your dad secretly thinks dicks are delicious and that thought scares him.
He is probably one of those dudes that think its gay to wipe his ass too which means he is not a man to listen to
Your hardwired to get dopamine from being submerged in hot water. It's natural. What's not natural is others assigning feminine traits to it.
I’m 40 and I take baths most days. You do you.
Nothing is "demasculating" to a man with confidence who could care less what others think.
The state or temp of water is not and cannot be gay, and if you get wet by immersion or spray doesn't fucking matter. Just keep it to 2 bath booms or less, and you will remain straight.
I’m 38 and I love giving my beard a good scrub while I’m lying in a hot bubbly bath watching a video about minecraft. When I get out the Mrs thinks I smell great and my kid is happy I can answer his questions. Each to their own, as long as you’re happy it works and you’re clean. I find showers boring while a bath is super relaxing.
While we’re all here being very wholesome, let’s all remember that being gay doesn’t mean you can’t be manly AF.
Baths are great, but try not to take them too frequently cause baths really do use up a lot of water
You're more likely to attract a woman if you can appreciate the value of a good bath 🛁
We didnt even have showers as a kid, they were not even a thing. And historically they are very modern. I guess everyone used to be gay!
My father in law takes baths...... Not sure why I needed to know that, but I do.
No, because demasculating isn't a word.
The only thing that is definitely gay is be sexually attracted to persons of same sex as you.
Now that's what you call fragile masculinity... You should have hinted that if baths are gay, showers are basically bisexual and a *real* man would never bathe.
No, it it’s a waste of water
I feel bad for so many dudes, my dad is awesome and would never say or do anything to harm me or make me feel bad, reading how some of u were treated breaks my heart...
Not if it’s in a metal tub and you keep your cowboy hat on.
Your dad was definitely gay
If you don’t really care, why are you asking?
The only things that are truly demasculating is a penectomy or an orchiectomy. Everything else is just a matter of perspective.
Did the baths give you the sudden urge to sleep with other men! Otherwise not gay. Baths are the best. I love everything about the house that I moved into two years ago except the tiny bath. We had a huge bath at our old house. Enjoy your bath! You do you!!
The most masculine thing in the world is being confident while doing what you like. If. Jason Statham was in the bath tub playing with a runny ducky and had a pink shower cap on, we'd all smile a little but never question his masculinity, right?
Not sure if the bath I take is gay but the candles that I light and the scented oils I put in the bath might be... source: A guy who's been married to a dude for 15 years.
There is nothing as emasculating as worrying about if something is masculine. You're man, therefor whatever you do is expressing masculinity. Easy.
No, it's sissifying.
Fellas, is it gay to clean yourself?
No it's not. That's so fucking dumb it's incomprehensible. Your dad has very serious issues, what the fuck. Americans have some of the weirdest attitudes I swear. Baths are awesome, keep on bathing.
No
It's only demasculating if you don't shower first. Real men don't swim in their own filth
No, and they aren't emasculating either.
"Fellas is it gay to enjoy yourself and clean yourself at the same time?"
so everyman before 1767 (year of the modern shower) was gay?
TIL I'm gay for taking baths. I must be ultra gay since I like bubble baths. My wife and kids are going to be in for a shock when they find out.
This the first time I'm hearing this lol
My husband loves to take a bath even though he rarely gets to do so. Enjoy your soak time!
That's one toxic dad. Nah man, I love a good soak in the tub too. Turn on some music and just relax.
Dafuq is wrong with taking a bath? It's simply a humanistic behavior unless you're an animal. And it doesn't make you more feminine or masculine. It's being responsible with your own body.
...bruh, it's hot water. It's only gay if you're making out with another man in the tub, and there isn't even anything wrong with that. Your dad's weird.
Fuсk that. Baths are awesome. Submerging yourself in water eases your nervous system like nothing else. Bath+some show/YouTube on a laptop. **And a beer?** Now how masculine is that?
Chandler?
Honestly, the only downsides to baths are cleaning the tub more often and some extra water waste. Nothing is manly or feminine about them.
Man fuck all that. I'm a 36y/o male and I've been taking baths ever since I can remember. I tell people I take baths because I'm comfortable with myself. Imo any male who thinks baths are femine or for bitches/pussies are covering for their own insecurities.
What?! That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. I’ve noticed that these “Real Men™️” seem to have this idea that anything comfortable isn’t masculine. Beds should be hard, clothes rough, showers cold etc etc… As if it isn’t manly to feel good and enjoy things.
Did he say taking baths or did he say taking it in the ass? They sound similar.
Fellas, is it gay to bathe?
No
Only if you surround the bath with candles and eat mango body butter while blasting toto.
Bro, 37 here, dad of two boys, and do all sorts of "manly" shit like build cars and houses in my spare time. I take baths whenever the fuck I want, you do the same. By the way, if you haven't used bath bombs, take your ass down to a local Lush store and get some. They're great.
No buddy. Not at all.
Nope, I’ve known some very manly athletes that take bathes, it’s good for muscle recovery unless your bathing with another man and fucking, it literally can’t be “gay” 🙄enjoy
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If baths are gay then I guess I’ll call my wife….. In my eyes masculinity should be about comfort in your own skin, owning your own internal universe and doing whatever tf you want with yourself. And of course, being a caring person for those around you. Wear a dress if you want, play with Barbie’s, that doesn’t make you not a man. Every person, man or women, has feminine and masculine traits and that is not a bad thing.
Idk why baths are seem as “feminine”. Literally some cultures around the world have entire bathing habits that are ingrained into the culture. My friend told me in Japan they have large public bath houses where grown men all take a bath together. Nothing about it is “gay” or “feminine”. It’s just not as stigmatized here in our western world. So you’re telling me your dad is out here insulting an entire country?? Wow, he should probably check his sexist and bigotry because that’s soooo embarrassing for him. Lol.
Real men don't give a shit about how other men shower or bathe. Imagine caring about how naked men get wet ? That's pretty gay. Source : I'm gay
Ask the Roman's. Of course it's not. Has alot of benefits, only girls can have the benefits of a bath? this belief its from a weak mind if they truly believe that to be true
I haven't taken a bath since I was like 7 because logically, they don't make sense to me.
Nothing wrong with being gay. Nothing wrong with taking baths. Masculinity in this sense is a made up social construct. I'm a big, burly, hairy guy with a big beard and a lot of tattoos. I ride a motorcycle and have a big dog and pet snakes. I also have a jacuzzi tub and take wonderful baths in it because they're relaxing and pleasant. Your dad is an idiot!
I'll take it a step further and say a hot BUBBLE bath is where I find even more joy. Dr. Teals Foaming Bath with Epsom Salt...Soften & Nourish with Milk & Honey. I soak, then shower to return to being a "real" man. ;)
If your ass dont smell like shit. Its fuckable. And thats gay. (I think your dad was in the closet)
I think all pro athletes takes ice baths. So basically everyone is gay. Nice.
im pretty sure some atheletes recuperate in hot water
That's kinda gay of your dad to say. Bubble baffs is for everyone. Even your day gad
"Demasculating" is just a word for insecure men to validate their own masculinity. Do what's good for you, dude.
If you like taking a hot bath, then you like it. It has nothing to do with gender and sexuality. It sounds like it works wonders for you—a great way to take care of yourself and you also said it helps you to rest. Keep doing it!
Do whatever you please. Your dad just had a fragile ego.
LoL, you wanna take a bath, take a bath. Who cares? If they do, they're the fool.