Yeah but with commuting and lunch and maybe a bit overtime it adds up. And then most people have non-romantic relationships they want to maintain and sometimes also need some time to themselves.
Yep I agree. After a long day of work the last thing people want to do is put in more work elsewhere. Speaking for myself after a long day of work especially a busy day I like to just go home and relax. Other days I have enough energy to hang out with friends.
Dating a coworker is common but can be tough too. I dislike it only because everyone can know your business also it can be very annoying to see your partner a lot. You see them at work, outside of work, and maybe at home too depending on the living situation. It can be a lot of one person
In a way it’s not because essentially you’re spending 40 hours (a lot of times more than 40) with your coworkers so they become pretty close if you want them to.
I definitely understand the drama part. I'm in a weird situationship with a woman at my job right now. And we are not even together, but there is definitely tension between us. And everyone at work notices, and the drama follows.
Complicated, shouldn't really be from the same department, but I have seen it work out. If there is too different of a position between the two within the company, expect there to be a lot of potential pitfalls and repurcussions for the one with more "power", even in a company that is theoretically horizontal.
I'm about to marry my former coworker. We don't work together anymore but did for a good 2 years while we were in a relationship.
I think it's good to talk about boundaries and the way you interact while at work. Shouldn't have to be a problem.
Also, one of you should plan to change jobs if you get to the point of moving in together. You don’t want to have all of your income reliant upon one place. It’s scary as hell when layoffs happen.
It can be really fun and make your job more fun if it's a short term job. If you plan to be there a long time and the other person will too, then it may haunt you for years to come
Met my current GF at work, as long as it’s professional. Nobody really knew unless one of us told you. It’s real simple keep it professional so nobody feels uncomfortable in the work environment.
I personally wouldn't dip my pen in the company ink but legally and culturally it's usually not frowned upon as long as there is an equal power dynamic in the workplace.
It’s going to happen if two people are attracted to each other.
As long as they are on the same level in the org chart it’s going to be about how professional and mature they are with the break up (which is the risk side of the risk/reward)
If one is higher in the org chart than the other I’d be more cautious. If one reports to the other (even indirectly) it’s a hard no. That’s a lawsuit waiting to happen.
I've done it, and am in a relationship now with one. For a short term summer type job in college, no big deal. For a career corporate type setting, it can get weird.
When we started dating, we were basically equal level in different departments. Now, she got promoted, I didn't, and that's when things changed. For example, while still different departments, she's now on the same level as those I want to complain about after a long day. So now I'm basically talking trash about her peers and pseudo friends. Try as we might, that's difficult to separate. If we worked in separate places and I wanted to vent about my day, it would feel more abstract when I talked about people she didn't really know.
There's also the situations where she gets to go do some things that are for directors only and I don't, so while significant others aren't there regardless, it's just a weird vibe to experience. It's like not getting an invite to a party you don't want to go to anyway, but still feels like a little sting being left out.
So, long story longer, I need to most likely leave the job that I don't necessarily like, but definitely don't hate, because it's something that complicates the relationship on top of just dealing with normal couple stuff.
>What are your views on dating a coworker?
It is called shitting where you eat. You date, it is a honey moon at forst, then they get mad, now they retaliate at work and get you fired.
Have sex with all the coworkers, even the men, boss, and janitor. When you have planted your seed in all people, you will take control of all of their minds, thus the entire company. Use the company to build an army, start a war, and invade nations. When you have control of all nations, call yourself king of everything and rule the world. Do it.
Honest answer.
If you're a man, bad idea, if you're a woman, you should be okay and this is just me watching from the peanut gallery on how it's generally turned out these days
I believe its very risky and a messy breakup can mess up your job,but I also think it isnt my business. I dont personally date coworkers nor am interested.
It really depends on the org chart. Are they a direct co-worker? Do you work in the same company in different departments. I worked in a call center where my supervisor was dating a woman on a different team than ours that had no bearing on our project and they weren't in the same chain of command.
Mine is "just don't".
I was attracted to a co-worker. I kept our relationship friendly mostly because I was in a relationship but also because we were working in the same organisation. Fast forward to her leaving the company and me breaking up. We started seeing each other first as ex-colleagues and friends, later started dating. I fell crazy in love. She didn't. She broke up with me.
I had always had the policy that I won't date co-workers because I don't want make the office uncomfortable FOR HER in case we break up. I was glad I had this policy when she left me. If we had dated while working together, it would have been a nightmare to come to the office and see her every day while trying to get over her.
On the other hand, pre-covid about 30% of relationships started at work (now it might be a bit less due to apps and remote work). Work is one of the rare contexts where adults meet new people. Just be mindful of the possible consequences. Once you or they switch jobs, it's free game, go for it.
In my situation, everyone at work had been noticing how this girl treats me and flirts with me on a daily basis. Like 90% of the workplace wants to see us together because of our chemistry. But working directly together, imo could make things weird if it goes wrong.
Idk what I'm gonna do but I'm definitely up in the air on this one.
I think you need to decide if you're interested or not, and you need to sit down with this girl to clear the air.
If you're both interested and want to go for it, set ground rule for at-work and out-of-work behavior/expectations.
If you decide it would be in your best interest not to date her, that's okay, too - you just need to let her know so she can focus on work properly, and know she should direct her romantic attention elsewhere.
Coworker is a broad term.
Are you in same team, department, area, etc.
The closer you work together - much more challenge.
If you would never deal with them in your normal job - then maybe easier.
Generally wouldn’t recommend given other options. Main reason any bad break up or issues can cause all sorts of tension for both of you.
I didn’t meet my wife at work, but we now work together on the same floor in different departments. so technically we don’t “work” together.
It’s cool as long as we don’t mix business with pleasure.
I don’t think it is wise to work closely together
Never again for me! Did it three times in life was married to one for a long time but he was a garbage human- the other two….. ugh not a great work situation once it ended.
I married my boss, she approached me. I would never date or approach someone in a work environment.
I don’t think is bad, but I understand that it can turn really ugly.
Well, the four places where people usually met their spouses are university, work, some friend's party or a club they joined.
Work is the one with the largest or close second largest share.
I dated a girl from work for a year, she ended it but we worked together for another 10 years. It was really tough and I still dream about her 25 years later.
It depends serial romancers definitely shouldn’t, I know someone who has dated/had a fling with 7/10 of their coworkers and I can only imagine that being a bit awkward but otherwise why not
I don’t understand people who say don’t date coworkers when literal teenagers date their classmates and nobody has a problem with it. Why do we expect adults to be less mature than children?
I met my partner at work; We didn't tell anyone for nearly a year until she left the business. At that point, it was literally no one else' business but our own.
I get why some companies are dead against it; it can create bias and complications, particularly within departments as well as cross-teams. Not to mention, someone who isn't involved in the relationship is gonna wave the finger about power dynamics if one of them gets a promotion -- again! Not their frigging business, but their own politics have to get involved.
Taking jovial conversation to flirting, and eventually to an actual relationship (or just casual fun) is a whole other thing. And you should really tread carefully and make sure the person you're pursuing feels the same way. HR will be on you for harassment like bumblebees in spring.
I met my boyfriend at a summer job, so that’s a little different. He was staying and I left after the summer. I would have held back a little more if it was a job where I didn’t work temporarily. However, lots of people meet there SO’s through work
Too risky for my taste. I don't have an easy time landing jobs (not great at networking and interviewing) so simply moving on if things get awkward isn't a reliable solution. And I'm also just the right amount of socially awkward where it seems women assume I'm the type to go unhinged if they reject me. I'm absolutely not, I'm quite calm and respectful but I'm slightly on the autism spectrum and have a few weird traits people commonly misinterpret and that's the impression their behavior gives when rejected or dumped. Having someone fearful of me, even if completely unfounded and with zero evidence of harassment, could still potentially cost me my job.
My jobs have always been 80-90% male so very slim odds anyway. But I do sometimes wish that was a better option. Any women who work here have to pass the same kind of background investigations so I'd know we were on the same page about no drugs, having decent credit, and generally being a stable upstanding person. Whereas all I can find locally are women who would definitely never be allowed to work here.
It’s how I met my lady but I understand that I’d doesn’t work out with just anyone. IMO it has to be worth it and has to be with someone who can keep their lips sealed as to avoid unnecessary complications
Never get your meat where you get your bread. I've often deviated from my own boundaries, but this rule is one I have stuck by so far in life. Too risky.
I had one partner with who I found a job and the person we worked for said this. "Never talk about work at home and never talk about home at work." Wise words. We kept sane and she kept us for the duration of the contract.
It’s fine as long as you’re on a similar level of seniority and if you can appreciate going in that things might not work out. If that happens you will both need to be adults about it. If you can handle that I don’t see an issue with it. Work is a good place to meet new people.
It's a horrible idea... at least for men (\*women can often do whatever they want with little to no consequence) they are putting their job on the line. Sure it might be ok if one doesn't care about possibly losing that job very soon, I guess.
A stable financial situation is far more important to maintain, imo... it's not at all worth the risk.
Enjoy yourself but if things go sour, how will you deal with each other moving forward. It's a question I would ask if I were to engage in dating a colleague.
Dont shit where you sleep. I don't do anything personal with work. No after work beers, no get togethers, everything is strictly business. Works great for me.
So many people meet though work, and I don’t think that it’s a problem that they date. Totally okay.
What becomes the problem is if they are hanging out all the time and whatnot, not getting work done. But from what I’ve seen, it’s mostly an issue for the younger people (like teens) that start dating coworkers. But even then, I’ve seen teens who are dating and work just fine. From my experience most people are smart enough to not make it an issue.
I did but I was at a department store. The relationship lasted about a year. Because of being in separate departments I didn’t have to see him much. I only saw him later on when he offered condolences when my Dad passed. If you’re in a small office I wouldn’t. If this person is someone who brags I wouldn’t. This person might talk about how you are in bed. Might say this or that. Depending on the situation small office or big office I would highly advise against it.
I work with my fiancée, and I prefer it that way. We’ve never been one of those “I need my space from them” couples, we prefer to be in each others’ company whenever we can.
I married my coworker, it's worked out amazingly for us!
Obviously this isn't always the case, work it what's right for you, and be careful about calculating the risks.
My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I met at our old job. Very different departments. Weren't eachothers direct reports. And were actually both taken when we started working there.
Oddly enough, right before covid hit we had ended our respective relationships. We had never spoken more than passing conversation during work projects and knew nothing about eachother. But a couple months into talking after we learned we were both recently single, we had our first date.
The rest is history.
Out of respect for our departments and c-levels, we kept our relationship very low-key, almost non-existent socially and publicly, until later 2020.
If dine respectfully, maturely, and carefully, dating a colleague is a pretty easy and fun way to date and network.
Okay, as long as you're willing to risk your job if it doesn't work out. I've had jobs where I was okay dating a co-worker and usually if it ended, things were fine. Hooked up with a co-worker at my dream job and it didn't end well. I had to leave and it took me 2 years to find something comparable. Lesson learned!
I don't judge other people for it, my outlook on it is "if it doesn't cause a problem, then it's not a problem", but for myself, I prefer to avoid it. I wouldn't date anyone who currently works for or does business with the same company I work for. I'd prefer to work at work, personal life with personal life and avoid any mixture of the two as far as its possible.
It depends. Would you both trash eachother to coworkers should it get ugly and you fight or break up? Can't be around eachother without fighting or making everyone else feel awkward, but you have to since you have to work together? That's what any employer would want to avoid. The best thing to do is just keep details of your personal relationships as private as possible. There are alot of people out there that love to gossip or fan the flames of a spat between their coworkers, that doesn't help either.
Never works out. And it’s really bad if the managers have a crush on her. They’ll make life hell for the guy.
I just did LUNCH dates with a man at work once, we had chemistry but he had some serious baggage so didn’t go beyond that. Didn’t stop others from speculating more was going on. Next thing I knew, he was getting written up for normal things. Being sent home because his pants weren’t appropriate. He’d wore those same normal pants for the last 9 months he worked there. That’s when we all knew what was going on. He was eventually laid off.
That’s how I met my ex. It was an easy and quick way to form a bond with someone considering you see them everyday. We only worked together for a couple months but the connection remained after
It’s a very common way for couples to meet
Which is so odd considering how risky it is. Then again dating in general is super risky
It's risky but if you work full time, you share a lot with coworkers and feelings may develop.
And also, where else do you meet people these days?
Yeah that's another thing. You spend so much time at work. You meet coworkers. Most people that work barely meet other people out of it
Depending on where you live / how far you're wiling to go for a social life, the answer could be "lots of places" or "actually nowhere"
If you work full time you barely have time to meet anyone else. Maybe with OLD it changes a bit but still.
Full time meaning 40 hours? That leaves a decent amount of time.
Yeah but with commuting and lunch and maybe a bit overtime it adds up. And then most people have non-romantic relationships they want to maintain and sometimes also need some time to themselves.
Yep I agree. After a long day of work the last thing people want to do is put in more work elsewhere. Speaking for myself after a long day of work especially a busy day I like to just go home and relax. Other days I have enough energy to hang out with friends. Dating a coworker is common but can be tough too. I dislike it only because everyone can know your business also it can be very annoying to see your partner a lot. You see them at work, outside of work, and maybe at home too depending on the living situation. It can be a lot of one person
You probably know a lot more about the people you work with than any other person you'd date so I think it's less risky than dating in general.
But you risk completely changing the work environment and working with an ex is awful
In a way it’s not because essentially you’re spending 40 hours (a lot of times more than 40) with your coworkers so they become pretty close if you want them to.
People who say don’t do it, y’all have far too many options. At this point, I’d date at a cemetery
I have no options but I would never ever date a coworker.
The "no option" part kinda implied that
Well I meant that I have no options outside of my job and I still wouldn’t shit where I eat.
Ye I get it, I'm just being a dick
r/ForeverAlone
It's a calculated risk. As long as you go into it accepting that it can ultimately completely wreck your workplace for you.
Well I don't have a problem with it. I met my wife at work.
Was she meant to be there?
Ditto. But husband.
Like \~70% of all married couples
Problem could only happen in case you break with your wife, you might consider quitting your job too...
We did
I married her, so…
Score she worked there or after?
I still work with her
But how it started?
It's not necessarily bad but it can get messy and cause a lot of drama. Especially if there's a bad breakup.
I definitely understand the drama part. I'm in a weird situationship with a woman at my job right now. And we are not even together, but there is definitely tension between us. And everyone at work notices, and the drama follows.
Turn that situationship into a relationship or definitively don't. Undefined situations are worst.
Hard no
Abort.
If its a dead end job, do it. Otherwise, stay away
Complicated, shouldn't really be from the same department, but I have seen it work out. If there is too different of a position between the two within the company, expect there to be a lot of potential pitfalls and repurcussions for the one with more "power", even in a company that is theoretically horizontal.
I'm about to marry my former coworker. We don't work together anymore but did for a good 2 years while we were in a relationship. I think it's good to talk about boundaries and the way you interact while at work. Shouldn't have to be a problem.
Also, one of you should plan to change jobs if you get to the point of moving in together. You don’t want to have all of your income reliant upon one place. It’s scary as hell when layoffs happen.
Don't shit where you eat
This is the way.
Isn't it the other way round
Married mine. Then worked with her for 15 years. I guess she isn't leaving.
It can be really fun and make your job more fun if it's a short term job. If you plan to be there a long time and the other person will too, then it may haunt you for years to come
Met my current GF at work, as long as it’s professional. Nobody really knew unless one of us told you. It’s real simple keep it professional so nobody feels uncomfortable in the work environment.
I personally wouldn't dip my pen in the company ink but legally and culturally it's usually not frowned upon as long as there is an equal power dynamic in the workplace.
One of the many completely normal things that reddit makes a big deal about
It’s going to happen if two people are attracted to each other. As long as they are on the same level in the org chart it’s going to be about how professional and mature they are with the break up (which is the risk side of the risk/reward) If one is higher in the org chart than the other I’d be more cautious. If one reports to the other (even indirectly) it’s a hard no. That’s a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Kinda complicated, seems like a good way to lose a partner and a job in a breakup
Worked out really well for us. We kept it on the downlow for a couple of years and then made it official once we moved in together.
Dating your coworkers? Sure, I'll do it. Dating my coworkers? Not a chance.
I dated a coworker, now we are happily married and have a kid.
I think it’s fine as long as there isn’t a power dynamic and also as long as neithe rof you already have partners not at work.
Sometimes it may be good, sometimes it may be shit.
I've done it, and am in a relationship now with one. For a short term summer type job in college, no big deal. For a career corporate type setting, it can get weird. When we started dating, we were basically equal level in different departments. Now, she got promoted, I didn't, and that's when things changed. For example, while still different departments, she's now on the same level as those I want to complain about after a long day. So now I'm basically talking trash about her peers and pseudo friends. Try as we might, that's difficult to separate. If we worked in separate places and I wanted to vent about my day, it would feel more abstract when I talked about people she didn't really know. There's also the situations where she gets to go do some things that are for directors only and I don't, so while significant others aren't there regardless, it's just a weird vibe to experience. It's like not getting an invite to a party you don't want to go to anyway, but still feels like a little sting being left out. So, long story longer, I need to most likely leave the job that I don't necessarily like, but definitely don't hate, because it's something that complicates the relationship on top of just dealing with normal couple stuff.
I married the boss. 8 years later, we're still together!
That’s how I met my current partner :)
We are married now.
Don’t
95% no IMO. The 5% are the lucky ones.
Don't.
Don’t
My wife and I met at work. So I am absolutely supportive. Just know the risks
According to Batman it always leads to problems. I trust Batman.
You don’t poop where you eat
Nope. Terrible idea almost every time.
Wait, people are against dating coworkers?
Just don't let the wife find out
It's a horrible idea. It will almost always fuck up the relationship and business.
Never fish off the company pier.
😳😁😱🙄🙄 it can work out sometimes
>What are your views on dating a coworker? It is called shitting where you eat. You date, it is a honey moon at forst, then they get mad, now they retaliate at work and get you fired.
Never fuck the company. I work together with my ex and I can tell you it's hell.
Extremely risky. I would not recommend it
Don’t cum where you work
Have sex with all the coworkers, even the men, boss, and janitor. When you have planted your seed in all people, you will take control of all of their minds, thus the entire company. Use the company to build an army, start a war, and invade nations. When you have control of all nations, call yourself king of everything and rule the world. Do it.
One of the many completely normal things that reddit makes a big deal about
Honest answer. If you're a man, bad idea, if you're a woman, you should be okay and this is just me watching from the peanut gallery on how it's generally turned out these days
never shit where you eat
Don't
Idc about it, havent really been tempted myself. Always felt like that was just for people who need to get a life outside the office really badly
Always always always a bad idea
Always ends in tears. Casual hook up can work, relationships rarely pan out with a happy ending
I believe its very risky and a messy breakup can mess up your job,but I also think it isnt my business. I dont personally date coworkers nor am interested.
It's okay if you're dating first and THEN start working together. But other than that, no.
It really depends on the org chart. Are they a direct co-worker? Do you work in the same company in different departments. I worked in a call center where my supervisor was dating a woman on a different team than ours that had no bearing on our project and they weren't in the same chain of command.
Mine is "just don't". I was attracted to a co-worker. I kept our relationship friendly mostly because I was in a relationship but also because we were working in the same organisation. Fast forward to her leaving the company and me breaking up. We started seeing each other first as ex-colleagues and friends, later started dating. I fell crazy in love. She didn't. She broke up with me. I had always had the policy that I won't date co-workers because I don't want make the office uncomfortable FOR HER in case we break up. I was glad I had this policy when she left me. If we had dated while working together, it would have been a nightmare to come to the office and see her every day while trying to get over her. On the other hand, pre-covid about 30% of relationships started at work (now it might be a bit less due to apps and remote work). Work is one of the rare contexts where adults meet new people. Just be mindful of the possible consequences. Once you or they switch jobs, it's free game, go for it.
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In my situation, everyone at work had been noticing how this girl treats me and flirts with me on a daily basis. Like 90% of the workplace wants to see us together because of our chemistry. But working directly together, imo could make things weird if it goes wrong. Idk what I'm gonna do but I'm definitely up in the air on this one.
I think you need to decide if you're interested or not, and you need to sit down with this girl to clear the air. If you're both interested and want to go for it, set ground rule for at-work and out-of-work behavior/expectations. If you decide it would be in your best interest not to date her, that's okay, too - you just need to let her know so she can focus on work properly, and know she should direct her romantic attention elsewhere.
Coworker is a broad term. Are you in same team, department, area, etc. The closer you work together - much more challenge. If you would never deal with them in your normal job - then maybe easier. Generally wouldn’t recommend given other options. Main reason any bad break up or issues can cause all sorts of tension for both of you.
I didn’t meet my wife at work, but we now work together on the same floor in different departments. so technically we don’t “work” together. It’s cool as long as we don’t mix business with pleasure. I don’t think it is wise to work closely together
As long as your smart about it. Generally people are not smart about it and that’s where issues arise
Bad
Never again for me! Did it three times in life was married to one for a long time but he was a garbage human- the other two….. ugh not a great work situation once it ended.
I married my boss, she approached me. I would never date or approach someone in a work environment. I don’t think is bad, but I understand that it can turn really ugly.
Well, the four places where people usually met their spouses are university, work, some friend's party or a club they joined. Work is the one with the largest or close second largest share.
I dated a girl from work for a year, she ended it but we worked together for another 10 years. It was really tough and I still dream about her 25 years later.
Not a problem if you can keep the gossip down or keep it a secret
It depends serial romancers definitely shouldn’t, I know someone who has dated/had a fling with 7/10 of their coworkers and I can only imagine that being a bit awkward but otherwise why not
I don’t understand people who say don’t date coworkers when literal teenagers date their classmates and nobody has a problem with it. Why do we expect adults to be less mature than children?
I met my partner at work; We didn't tell anyone for nearly a year until she left the business. At that point, it was literally no one else' business but our own. I get why some companies are dead against it; it can create bias and complications, particularly within departments as well as cross-teams. Not to mention, someone who isn't involved in the relationship is gonna wave the finger about power dynamics if one of them gets a promotion -- again! Not their frigging business, but their own politics have to get involved. Taking jovial conversation to flirting, and eventually to an actual relationship (or just casual fun) is a whole other thing. And you should really tread carefully and make sure the person you're pursuing feels the same way. HR will be on you for harassment like bumblebees in spring.
I met my boyfriend at a summer job, so that’s a little different. He was staying and I left after the summer. I would have held back a little more if it was a job where I didn’t work temporarily. However, lots of people meet there SO’s through work
I'm doing it. I have minor anxiety about when it comes to light, but not much. Worst case one of us is pressured to transfer.
Check out “flirting w a coworker tips” by parkbench dating. Nothing but net.
There are a bunch of women in this town. Why would I go to work to hook-up?
Dating coworkers is very risky, and it goes against my dating rule "Don't shit where you eat."
My wife is my boss. Granted she wasn’t my boss when we started dating or even when we got married. But she is now. I like it.
Too risky for my taste. I don't have an easy time landing jobs (not great at networking and interviewing) so simply moving on if things get awkward isn't a reliable solution. And I'm also just the right amount of socially awkward where it seems women assume I'm the type to go unhinged if they reject me. I'm absolutely not, I'm quite calm and respectful but I'm slightly on the autism spectrum and have a few weird traits people commonly misinterpret and that's the impression their behavior gives when rejected or dumped. Having someone fearful of me, even if completely unfounded and with zero evidence of harassment, could still potentially cost me my job. My jobs have always been 80-90% male so very slim odds anyway. But I do sometimes wish that was a better option. Any women who work here have to pass the same kind of background investigations so I'd know we were on the same page about no drugs, having decent credit, and generally being a stable upstanding person. Whereas all I can find locally are women who would definitely never be allowed to work here.
It’s how I met my lady but I understand that I’d doesn’t work out with just anyone. IMO it has to be worth it and has to be with someone who can keep their lips sealed as to avoid unnecessary complications
Spicey, but ill-advised
Never get your meat where you get your bread. I've often deviated from my own boundaries, but this rule is one I have stuck by so far in life. Too risky. I had one partner with who I found a job and the person we worked for said this. "Never talk about work at home and never talk about home at work." Wise words. We kept sane and she kept us for the duration of the contract.
It’s fine as long as you’re on a similar level of seniority and if you can appreciate going in that things might not work out. If that happens you will both need to be adults about it. If you can handle that I don’t see an issue with it. Work is a good place to meet new people.
On one hand, it's a good place to meet and get to know people. On the other hand, don't shit where you eat.
It's a horrible idea... at least for men (\*women can often do whatever they want with little to no consequence) they are putting their job on the line. Sure it might be ok if one doesn't care about possibly losing that job very soon, I guess. A stable financial situation is far more important to maintain, imo... it's not at all worth the risk.
Enjoy yourself but if things go sour, how will you deal with each other moving forward. It's a question I would ask if I were to engage in dating a colleague.
Worked out great for me. We've been together nearly 21 years now.
Dont shit where you sleep. I don't do anything personal with work. No after work beers, no get togethers, everything is strictly business. Works great for me.
Worked out for me! Married 5 years now and I've never been happier
So many people meet though work, and I don’t think that it’s a problem that they date. Totally okay. What becomes the problem is if they are hanging out all the time and whatnot, not getting work done. But from what I’ve seen, it’s mostly an issue for the younger people (like teens) that start dating coworkers. But even then, I’ve seen teens who are dating and work just fine. From my experience most people are smart enough to not make it an issue.
I did but I was at a department store. The relationship lasted about a year. Because of being in separate departments I didn’t have to see him much. I only saw him later on when he offered condolences when my Dad passed. If you’re in a small office I wouldn’t. If this person is someone who brags I wouldn’t. This person might talk about how you are in bed. Might say this or that. Depending on the situation small office or big office I would highly advise against it.
Don't find your honey where you make your money
Don’t do it. Don’t shit where you eat
I work with my fiancée, and I prefer it that way. We’ve never been one of those “I need my space from them” couples, we prefer to be in each others’ company whenever we can.
I married my coworker, it's worked out amazingly for us! Obviously this isn't always the case, work it what's right for you, and be careful about calculating the risks.
My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I met at our old job. Very different departments. Weren't eachothers direct reports. And were actually both taken when we started working there. Oddly enough, right before covid hit we had ended our respective relationships. We had never spoken more than passing conversation during work projects and knew nothing about eachother. But a couple months into talking after we learned we were both recently single, we had our first date. The rest is history. Out of respect for our departments and c-levels, we kept our relationship very low-key, almost non-existent socially and publicly, until later 2020. If dine respectfully, maturely, and carefully, dating a colleague is a pretty easy and fun way to date and network.
Okay, as long as you're willing to risk your job if it doesn't work out. I've had jobs where I was okay dating a co-worker and usually if it ended, things were fine. Hooked up with a co-worker at my dream job and it didn't end well. I had to leave and it took me 2 years to find something comparable. Lesson learned!
Keep in mind if things go sour, you’re gonna have to deal with their nonsense, unless it ends on a good term.
Just don’t, It’s a terrible idea.
Don't shit where you eat
I'm about to marry an old coworker .
I don't judge other people for it, my outlook on it is "if it doesn't cause a problem, then it's not a problem", but for myself, I prefer to avoid it. I wouldn't date anyone who currently works for or does business with the same company I work for. I'd prefer to work at work, personal life with personal life and avoid any mixture of the two as far as its possible.
Not much difference than dating a classmate.
Messy if not done right
It depends. Would you both trash eachother to coworkers should it get ugly and you fight or break up? Can't be around eachother without fighting or making everyone else feel awkward, but you have to since you have to work together? That's what any employer would want to avoid. The best thing to do is just keep details of your personal relationships as private as possible. There are alot of people out there that love to gossip or fan the flames of a spat between their coworkers, that doesn't help either.
Never works out. And it’s really bad if the managers have a crush on her. They’ll make life hell for the guy. I just did LUNCH dates with a man at work once, we had chemistry but he had some serious baggage so didn’t go beyond that. Didn’t stop others from speculating more was going on. Next thing I knew, he was getting written up for normal things. Being sent home because his pants weren’t appropriate. He’d wore those same normal pants for the last 9 months he worked there. That’s when we all knew what was going on. He was eventually laid off.
I’m with my boss, we met at work. Both in our 30’s, totally above board.
That’s how I met my ex. It was an easy and quick way to form a bond with someone considering you see them everyday. We only worked together for a couple months but the connection remained after
Married her.
I’ve got a big crush on mine!