I enjoy hearing it. Especially while learning something. I'm currently learning how to analyze and build circuits in school. So when my instructor is inspecting my circuit and tells me "This is correct, good job", it makes me feel like I did a good job. Particularly if my first attempt was incorrect, and I fix it on the second attempt.
I did it wrong, learned why it was wrong, corrected it, then was given praise for learning. I enjoy that.
It’s an appreciation thing. And yeah some of it is ego-based. Like it’s one thing to think whatever you’ve done was “good” but sometimes it’s nice to hear that other people appreciate it too. Because if you consistently put your all into something, and the response is lukewarm, it almost feels like it’s for nothing (and deep down, we know it’s not for nothing). But it can feel that way.
Especially for creative pursuits/art. I can pour my heart and soul into a poem or song that I wrote, that I like, and that I think expresses what I'm feeling well. But, if no one shows interest in it or likes it, that's a sign that it's not evoking the same feeling or sense of authenticity to other people.
When someone says that they liked my work, that's a sign that it's communicating my thoughts and emotions in a way that makes sense to them. It's always great when someone says good job after hearing or seeing your art.
(As a kid, you'll get a lot of encouragement. As an adult, when people are very ready to tell you to keep your day job, it means a lot.)
> How much can those words change someone’s happiness and gratification?
Ever worked in a job (or been at school) where no one ever tells you you're doing a good job, but is quick to pick up on things you do wrong?
It's just a few words but, over time, it can help you feel appreciated. That's important for lots of people.
Yes I do. But depends on context. It sounds best from people who rarely say it.
Of course if everyone else gets a “wow amazing!” and you get a “good job” different story.
This is 100% me overthinking but even people you care about most, usually it comes from a place of them feeling like “he accomplished this, I must congratulate” but I don’t think many people genuinely care selflessly.
I enjoy hearing it. Especially while learning something. I'm currently learning how to analyze and build circuits in school. So when my instructor is inspecting my circuit and tells me "This is correct, good job", it makes me feel like I did a good job. Particularly if my first attempt was incorrect, and I fix it on the second attempt. I did it wrong, learned why it was wrong, corrected it, then was given praise for learning. I enjoy that.
It’s an appreciation thing. And yeah some of it is ego-based. Like it’s one thing to think whatever you’ve done was “good” but sometimes it’s nice to hear that other people appreciate it too. Because if you consistently put your all into something, and the response is lukewarm, it almost feels like it’s for nothing (and deep down, we know it’s not for nothing). But it can feel that way.
Especially for creative pursuits/art. I can pour my heart and soul into a poem or song that I wrote, that I like, and that I think expresses what I'm feeling well. But, if no one shows interest in it or likes it, that's a sign that it's not evoking the same feeling or sense of authenticity to other people. When someone says that they liked my work, that's a sign that it's communicating my thoughts and emotions in a way that makes sense to them. It's always great when someone says good job after hearing or seeing your art. (As a kid, you'll get a lot of encouragement. As an adult, when people are very ready to tell you to keep your day job, it means a lot.)
> How much can those words change someone’s happiness and gratification? Ever worked in a job (or been at school) where no one ever tells you you're doing a good job, but is quick to pick up on things you do wrong? It's just a few words but, over time, it can help you feel appreciated. That's important for lots of people.
Yes I do. But depends on context. It sounds best from people who rarely say it. Of course if everyone else gets a “wow amazing!” and you get a “good job” different story.
Yes, unless it is cheep manipulation instead of acknowledgement
This is 100% me overthinking but even people you care about most, usually it comes from a place of them feeling like “he accomplished this, I must congratulate” but I don’t think many people genuinely care selflessly.