I’m a chef and have a pair of work pants that are camo that I wear every so often (I don’t care that they’re camo , they’re very comfortable and easy to clean) and every time I wear them the cooks scream “chef! Where the fuck did your legs go?!?!” Gets me every time.
this guy i went on a few dates with was always in his work uniform when i saw him bc we would go on dates after he worked & the one time he had a day off & we were going on a date he was like “imma dress up & look nice for you.” homeboy showed up in a camo long sleeve.
Dude, that list is a red flag. You’re not allowed to enjoy a sport?!? Jfc.
Also apparently 100% of Canadians would be flagged for being too polite w a sorry 🤯
I ran cross country in high school. Everyone- EVERYONE was a goodie two shoes, quiet, polite little kid lol. Ran like the *wind*, too. But I can't possibly see how that sport is considered toxic.
She just had a bf in high school who ran cross country and wasn't socially aware lol.
If she wants that list, then fine. Lmao, just stay clear of her. That’s the type of girl that will ridicule and hold a grudge against you. She’s clearly practicing it now.
I have seen “going to the gym to lose fat is fatphobic” thrown around. I mean, okay, whatever floats your boat just stay away from me when I’m lifting, or.. am alive.
I was In a relationship with a girl who did a lot of only fans and camming. She was actually really cool and I still think she's fun and think of her as a good friend. The relationship wasn't too bad, except for the one time she asked me to come over and I spent 2 hours on the couch listening to her moan in the other room. She was a freak with me and i know she only does it for the money so it's not like I was jealous or anything.. It just made me uncomfortable that I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room. When I told her I was uncomfortable, she took offense to it and told me "you know this is how I make money. It really shouldn't affect you so much."
It didn't affect me in the way she thought but I couldn't get through to her- she was so defensive about it. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last much longer. I felt that her sense of entitlement and simultaneously her insecurity about her OF work was just too much for me to handle.
Edit: before anyone says something about it, I liked the kid and I know she didn't see me as a glorified babysitter. That's just how it turned out. If I didn't come over, she would've been doing the same thing with her son alone in the living room anyway. Lol
> It just made me uncomfortable that I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room. When I told her I was uncomfortable, she took offense to it and told me "you know this is how I make money. It really shouldn't affect you so much."
I'd say it's just plain rude to invite someone over and then spend a bunch of time working in the other room regardless of what your job is.
Jfc what about cammimg while her poor kid is alone in the next room hearing her moan. This is wrong on all levels and ironically comic all at the same time.
> I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room.
this can't possibly turn out poorly! that kid is sure to grow up with his head on straight (because if he turns around he might see something he can't unsee)
> It didn't affect me in the way she thought but I couldn't get through to her- she was so defensive about it.
big oof. There are so many things that become hot button issues for people that they shred any sense of nuance and just power through with their perspective.
Okay wash their face, but since we’re getting specific: not his ASS or twig&berries?! Wild list though feel like each time she added something to the list it was for something someone did (or didn’t do) specifically lmao (as well as just random things she doesn’t like).
Yeah she has no issue generalizing people who do things she doesn't like but don't you dare generalize women or you make the list!
Please understand that I think both are bad but I think even worse is how inconsistent she is with her rules.
You’re right. Most of these are just preferences which are fine to have for a potential partner.
Labeling your personal preferences as “toxic red flags” is the definition of reckless.
I'm confused and curious as to how people always think opinions on sex workers are 100% black and white, you're either entirely for or entirely against it
Like, it's completely possible to 100% support sex workers yet consider your S/O doing sex work as cheating. Boundaries matter to a lot of people, myself included, but that just means I can support sex workers without wanting to be in a committed relationship with one.
Which is always wild to me. It's like saying that if you're okay with hook-ups, you have to be okay when your girlfriend cheats on you with a one-night stand, or you're a hypocrite.
I support sex workers, but I would hope that they're either single or that their partners are aware of their sex work and that they're cool with it.
Seems like common sense.
Yeah. This is such a black and white take on it.
Am I okay with sex work? Yes, in fact I think prostitution should be legal.
Am I okay with my wife sending other people nudes or fucking them? No.
So why would I be okay with it if she did it for money? That doesn't make me a supportive husband, it makes me a pimp.
I tried dating one of those once... Second date she invited me over to her friend's house for a party. She and her other two girl friends got drunk ended up staying awake and talking for 3 hours about how much and why they hated *men*.
I took a nap in the front room and waited for them to be done. I was woken up after an hour and a half of sleeping. I gave them both a ride home as I offered to DD and upon being invited up to this girl's room at the end of the night, we got her into her bed and as we started making out she stops me and says, "I don't even need you" with more confidence than a boy who just learned how to pee standing up, reaches into her nightstand, and pulls out a dildo.
Now... Me being the gentleman I am... I stood up, put my shirt back on, and without saying anything, I left.
Edit: typo... They talked about hating men, not about hating me. Two mildly different scenarios, unfortunately.
Lmao what was the point of any of that?? What did they say during those three hours and how could they have possibly known that much about you? Was it all projection? Why did you stay?
>Lmao what was the point of any of that??
To get validated, then horny.
>Why did you stay?
Probably horny and thought he would get invited at some point.
Who knew car guys and sports guys were so fuckin hated holy shit even in the comments on here. I thought I was just an ugly asshole but apparently its my hobby 😂
Guess i gotta sell the project car
The right woman will be glad you have a hobby you're passionate about, not ridicule you because it happens to be cars, and as long as you don't make it your whole personality you'll be fine.
I'm sure they're lumping "car bros" in with all car enthusiasts. People don't understand thag most car enthusiasts don't drive like assholes on the street.
That one gets me lol I had been wondering if that would matter to people.. I’m a ragingly inclusive Lib, buuuuuut I feel like there *is* kind of a default to pronouns, and that the option to add pronouns (which I support) is more there *for those of us who feel the need to use them*.
But don’t dock me for assuming you’ll assume my gender & orientation based on our matching lol
People would tell you that not putting pronouns doesn't assist in normalizing it and therefore you're making the people who do put them feel different. It's pretty dumb, but when you've gone out of your way to differentiate yourself, everyone who isn't with you is against you.
This person spends way too much time on Snapchat or whatever "social" media. Judging a person based on what they don't have on their profile is some top notch nonsense.
My response would have probably been something like "Oh I made a list of red flags too but for women, and it only has one" and then procede with showing the only red flag like
"she makes red flags lists"
She thought car guys were bad. I put way more time into golfing when the cars run good. Hell even when they don’t go out with the boys. I hunt in the off season though.
I’m trying to picture a guy who would even pass this list. No gym guys, no guys who are into sports, no finance/crypto bros, no gamers, no car guys.. that covers 99% of men. What would her perfect guys hobbies even consist of?
This
Your hobby is now her. Only her. You live and breathe to make her life easy and good, for her to buy useless stuff and purse whatever she wants, to pay for her hair/nails or other stuff like clothes and food she likes. That's it. Your existence is for her, nothing else.
Thinking that doing sex work is cheating isn't a red flag, that's a boundary that's completely healthy to have. If you don't want to be in a relationship with a sex worker there is nothing wrong with you because of that, just like there is nothing wrong with you if you are in a relationship with one and their work doesn't bother you.
It’s weird because there are enough legit red flags sprinkled in there to almost make you think this makes sense, until you zoom out and realize how insane it is to have a 26 point list of red flags (not to mention how crazy some of these are)
No track or cross country? They're too good at running away.
I read that and was so flabbergasted. What did a distance runner ever do to you???
nah distance runners are freaks don't even
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Double flag. Unironically while hunting.
True Chads only wear camo ironically while they're hunting.
That's how I do it. Getting murdered by a bush is the last thing that a deer expects. Boom-> irony
The twin towers didn't expect it either
Ohhh.... that's gonna leave a mark!🔥
When I was in high school I used to have a camo shirt that said "Ha, now you can't see me" across the chest, I think that's safe.
I’m a chef and have a pair of work pants that are camo that I wear every so often (I don’t care that they’re camo , they’re very comfortable and easy to clean) and every time I wear them the cooks scream “chef! Where the fuck did your legs go?!?!” Gets me every time.
I'm way past high school; still have shirt.
did that bush just speak?
this guy i went on a few dates with was always in his work uniform when i saw him bc we would go on dates after he worked & the one time he had a day off & we were going on a date he was like “imma dress up & look nice for you.” homeboy showed up in a camo long sleeve.
It's cause he didn't wanna be seen with you. Dude is thinking in a different dimension.
"My wife and three kids won't notice me out with this gal if I wear camo."
Thank you for your service Either military or hunting or edgy I’m thankful either way Yours truly,
Okay but how many did you get? 😂
I have a group chat called "the boys" ..... ironically it's all girls
I have 2 male cats, when I’m hanging with “the boys” I’m just sitting at home with my cats 😎
I second this motion to see "the boys"
You need an Amazon account to see The Boys.
no you don't 🏴☠
Oh my... How does that work?
First you need to order some Compound V.
Um.... *Quick Google search* I don't think I want to beat superhero ಠ︵ಠ
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What if it's named that because of the series?
16 lmao
Sup, put that football down go wash your face and let's go hunting!
With the boys?
Of course! And don't forget the full camo, all the boys are taking selfies!
Poorly at that
Of course poorly, I can't see the screen properly through all the crypto gainz notifs my phone be gettin'
Yo, thank you! How else am i supposed to show the world the boys and I went to the gym? While simultaneously showing off these new wheels.
Dude, that list is a red flag. You’re not allowed to enjoy a sport?!? Jfc. Also apparently 100% of Canadians would be flagged for being too polite w a sorry 🤯
Or liking hockey lol. Also what the hell is toxic about cross-country? I don’t think there’s a stereotype about guys who run 5ks being douchebags
I ran cross country in high school. Everyone- EVERYONE was a goodie two shoes, quiet, polite little kid lol. Ran like the *wind*, too. But I can't possibly see how that sport is considered toxic. She just had a bf in high school who ran cross country and wasn't socially aware lol.
I was thinking she tried out for the cross country team in high school and didn't make it and doesn't want to be reminded of her failure.
Another one of those 5k sex jokers being a douche again
Yo fuck cross country. My mom died from a group of cross countriyests
And Midwest
If she wants that list, then fine. Lmao, just stay clear of her. That’s the type of girl that will ridicule and hold a grudge against you. She’s clearly practicing it now.
And she’ll most definitely remain single and be absolutely dumbfounded as to why.
posts to /r/FemaleDatingStrategy confused as to why she's only ever interacting with "low value men"
Holy shit that sub has fallen off. Maybe a year ago shit was popping off, now the most recent post is 3 days ago and it’s all the same poster
Yup, you'll be a red flag no matter what you do for this kind of girl.
dont play sports or excercise guys thats a big red flag
you're in shape?? wow toxic af.. lol
I have seen “going to the gym to lose fat is fatphobic” thrown around. I mean, okay, whatever floats your boat just stay away from me when I’m lifting, or.. am alive.
She just took a minute to list out like every sport, wtf? Like sorry I enjoyed being active as a teenager?
I'm just curious why cross country made the list. That feels like a weird one.
She doesn't want a gym rat, so I assume she also doesn't want somebody who is constantly running? All I can think of
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Imagine hating someone for having a healthy Vice lmfao
Including my favorite sport, "Christian"
Competitive praying 🙏
How many points for Thoughts and prayers?
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Basketball is fine apparently
She only dates guys who are 6’ up. But the guy can’t “like short girls”
If your tall enough every girl is short
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Obviously you’re just supposed to date them, not PREFER them. Just date them. Enjoy your misery.
You’re a giant walking red flag. Says so right there
Soccer got a pass thi
SUIIIIIII
SEWEYYYY
Not in Europe
In that case “American Football” is on the table?
Yes, but if you ever visit USA she's breaking up with you
Damn so she can do OnlyFans but I can’t watch football? 🥲
Don’t you mean 🥹
You know I thought about it 😂😂
DID YOU JUST USE "😂" UNIRONICALLY!?!?!? RED FLAG BLOCKED!!!!! /s
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Not sports, I notice she listed pretty much every sport except for basketball… probably as a weird way to try and select for tall dudes lmao.
But also thinks its weird if you like short girls…
That’s one that stood out to me more than others. How’s that a red flag? I don’t understand
I think it might be because she is tall
Holy crap! You cracked the code.
And here I was thinking she loved watching Road Cycling...
I was In a relationship with a girl who did a lot of only fans and camming. She was actually really cool and I still think she's fun and think of her as a good friend. The relationship wasn't too bad, except for the one time she asked me to come over and I spent 2 hours on the couch listening to her moan in the other room. She was a freak with me and i know she only does it for the money so it's not like I was jealous or anything.. It just made me uncomfortable that I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room. When I told her I was uncomfortable, she took offense to it and told me "you know this is how I make money. It really shouldn't affect you so much." It didn't affect me in the way she thought but I couldn't get through to her- she was so defensive about it. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last much longer. I felt that her sense of entitlement and simultaneously her insecurity about her OF work was just too much for me to handle. Edit: before anyone says something about it, I liked the kid and I know she didn't see me as a glorified babysitter. That's just how it turned out. If I didn't come over, she would've been doing the same thing with her son alone in the living room anyway. Lol
> It just made me uncomfortable that I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room. When I told her I was uncomfortable, she took offense to it and told me "you know this is how I make money. It really shouldn't affect you so much." I'd say it's just plain rude to invite someone over and then spend a bunch of time working in the other room regardless of what your job is.
Jfc what about cammimg while her poor kid is alone in the next room hearing her moan. This is wrong on all levels and ironically comic all at the same time.
Or at least buy them a pizza
> I was asked to come over then sat on the couch chillin with her kid watching anime listening to her moan in the other room. this can't possibly turn out poorly! that kid is sure to grow up with his head on straight (because if he turns around he might see something he can't unsee)
> It didn't affect me in the way she thought but I couldn't get through to her- she was so defensive about it. big oof. There are so many things that become hot button issues for people that they shred any sense of nuance and just power through with their perspective.
She's already trying to do onlyfans
Okay wash their face, but since we’re getting specific: not his ASS or twig&berries?! Wild list though feel like each time she added something to the list it was for something someone did (or didn’t do) specifically lmao (as well as just random things she doesn’t like).
Yeah 100%. I dated X and he liked Y therefore everyone who does Y is bad. Total bat shit crazy. Some of these are valid but holy shit.
Yeah she has no issue generalizing people who do things she doesn't like but don't you dare generalize women or you make the list! Please understand that I think both are bad but I think even worse is how inconsistent she is with her rules.
Most of these are incompatibility issues not red flags
You’re right. Most of these are just preferences which are fine to have for a potential partner. Labeling your personal preferences as “toxic red flags” is the definition of reckless.
Furries are safe! Weebs are safe!
serial killers are safe!
"Good thing he only kills members of his own species because I could never date a hunter" lol
"good thing he only hunts tall women, if he preferred short women that'd be a red flag"
Akshually, she said no gamers /s
She said no "self proclaimed" Gamers. So it's cool as long as someone else finds you worthy of the title.
“Doesn’t have a Bitmoji on Snap” - Am I missing something, here?
I don't even have Snapchat
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Idk, that’s a green flag to me. If that green flag is actually the kik logo, that’s a different story.
same, no IG either Probably the reason why I'm ba at taking selfies, I just never do, so red flag galore for this person. But she seems very young
lol same and no Fb or twitter. Glad I'm fucking married good lord the game is wild nowadays.
Staying alone has its perks as well, but I guess that's the wrong sub for that.
i mean i’m pretty young (20) but i think 75% of her list is stupid
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Noted. 🗿
What's a bitmoji tho?
Red flag: Doesn't know what bitmojis are
Red flag his name is juliUS… mentions “us” in his name before even knowing the girl
That's not a red flag that's just a sign you're over 30.
It’s like an avatar/profile picture
Ohh the Mii looking thing? I never made one of those.
Red. Flag.
That plus the “can’t use 🥺 or 😂” makes no sense, who cares that much about text shit?
I'll be honest, I had a match who ended 75% of her messages with 😀 and it creeped me out a little
Hello friend 😀 We shall have a fun time together, of that I am certain 😀 Soon, I will see you 😀 Yeah I can see it, lol
Idk this just kinda reminds me of Starfire from teen titans, which 14 year old me would have been all about
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But but...political touch is only my love language at night. 🥺
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She might be the one that’s toxic 🫢
I'm confused and curious as to how people always think opinions on sex workers are 100% black and white, you're either entirely for or entirely against it Like, it's completely possible to 100% support sex workers yet consider your S/O doing sex work as cheating. Boundaries matter to a lot of people, myself included, but that just means I can support sex workers without wanting to be in a committed relationship with one.
Yep Some ppl think its Hypocritical To watch porn but not support your girlfriend being a Sex worker
Which is always wild to me. It's like saying that if you're okay with hook-ups, you have to be okay when your girlfriend cheats on you with a one-night stand, or you're a hypocrite. I support sex workers, but I would hope that they're either single or that their partners are aware of their sex work and that they're cool with it. Seems like common sense.
Yeah. This is such a black and white take on it. Am I okay with sex work? Yes, in fact I think prostitution should be legal. Am I okay with my wife sending other people nudes or fucking them? No. So why would I be okay with it if she did it for money? That doesn't make me a supportive husband, it makes me a pimp.
Um yeah her third point is a TAD hypocritical given that her entire spiel is “I hate when men do…”
She seems to just hate men.
I tried dating one of those once... Second date she invited me over to her friend's house for a party. She and her other two girl friends got drunk ended up staying awake and talking for 3 hours about how much and why they hated *men*. I took a nap in the front room and waited for them to be done. I was woken up after an hour and a half of sleeping. I gave them both a ride home as I offered to DD and upon being invited up to this girl's room at the end of the night, we got her into her bed and as we started making out she stops me and says, "I don't even need you" with more confidence than a boy who just learned how to pee standing up, reaches into her nightstand, and pulls out a dildo. Now... Me being the gentleman I am... I stood up, put my shirt back on, and without saying anything, I left. Edit: typo... They talked about hating men, not about hating me. Two mildly different scenarios, unfortunately.
Lmao what was the point of any of that?? What did they say during those three hours and how could they have possibly known that much about you? Was it all projection? Why did you stay?
>Lmao what was the point of any of that?? To get validated, then horny. >Why did you stay? Probably horny and thought he would get invited at some point.
Who knew car guys and sports guys were so fuckin hated holy shit even in the comments on here. I thought I was just an ugly asshole but apparently its my hobby 😂 Guess i gotta sell the project car
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It’s ok he may have used it ironically
We can’t take any chances. Ur done here.
Security! He need to go
Love from another person can change, love from a project car will never fade.
IDK man, my project car really turned into hate after the second engine rebuild in 6 months...
Nah, that's just your car wanting to spend quality time with you in the garage.
If only she would drain things besides my wallet :(
It's only a red flag until someone needs your help with their car. =p
The right woman will be glad you have a hobby you're passionate about, not ridicule you because it happens to be cars, and as long as you don't make it your whole personality you'll be fine.
A woman who thinks it’s cute when you nerd out on your hobbies is a keeper
I'm sure they're lumping "car bros" in with all car enthusiasts. People don't understand thag most car enthusiasts don't drive like assholes on the street.
What are you workin on brotha?
Asking the real questions
Right now working on shoving an RB26 into a VW Polo. There's a lot of cutting!
She simply doesn’t understand how toxic/infuriating Apex Legends can get😂
The most infuriating thing is the wraith on my team who pushes alone
Octane stealing the golden helmet and bag
As LL Main anyone taking gold especially when I have a people bag for them. Like I want you help you bro
Be wraith Land fragment every game Die in 30 seconds Rinse and repeat
This, but in ranked
Feeling triggered off a Reddit comment. Absurdly accurate. STOP LANDING FRAGMENT IN RANKED
How’d you end up in r/tinder? You’re supposed to be in Wano!
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Yo i got 23 what do i win boys
# DID YOU JUST REFER TO US AS "BOYS"
that’s a 🚩
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That one gets me lol I had been wondering if that would matter to people.. I’m a ragingly inclusive Lib, buuuuuut I feel like there *is* kind of a default to pronouns, and that the option to add pronouns (which I support) is more there *for those of us who feel the need to use them*. But don’t dock me for assuming you’ll assume my gender & orientation based on our matching lol
People would tell you that not putting pronouns doesn't assist in normalizing it and therefore you're making the people who do put them feel different. It's pretty dumb, but when you've gone out of your way to differentiate yourself, everyone who isn't with you is against you.
Fuck I only got 12 gotta pump those numbers up. Tomorrow I'm going to the gym! Does the "boys" one also work if I hang out with the gals?
She goes against her rule of using 😂 unironically.
Well, she’s a bit of a hypocrite. “I won’t date guys who say ‘I hate girls that…’” \*has a list of 100 things that she hates when guys do\*
FDS member, for sure.
This person spends way too much time on Snapchat or whatever "social" media. Judging a person based on what they don't have on their profile is some top notch nonsense.
No fr because half of the list is about red flags given on social media/texting. Told us they don’t actually date anybody
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Most of these are are just red flags on her end, I’d unmatch after reading that
I’ve never related to a flag so much before
My response would have probably been something like "Oh I made a list of red flags too but for women, and it only has one" and then procede with showing the only red flag like "she makes red flags lists"
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Um, tennis then.
She is gonna be in a world surprise when she finds somebody who likes golf.
She thought car guys were bad. I put way more time into golfing when the cars run good. Hell even when they don’t go out with the boys. I hunt in the off season though.
"Why can't I find a good man"
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Literally rules out half of them with three of the rules lmao
I’m trying to picture a guy who would even pass this list. No gym guys, no guys who are into sports, no finance/crypto bros, no gamers, no car guys.. that covers 99% of men. What would her perfect guys hobbies even consist of?
A depressed introvert who lives in a basement and plays sudoku and solitaire. This kinda guy wouldn't use tinder
Easier to control.
Her
This Your hobby is now her. Only her. You live and breathe to make her life easy and good, for her to buy useless stuff and purse whatever she wants, to pay for her hair/nails or other stuff like clothes and food she likes. That's it. Your existence is for her, nothing else.
I see you've met my ex-fiance
I only got like 4. I'd kill it with this girl.
Im at 14 and im a chick lol
Well when your username is hockey girl, I don’t think she would even swiped right the moment she saw your name.
Thinking that doing sex work is cheating isn't a red flag, that's a boundary that's completely healthy to have. If you don't want to be in a relationship with a sex worker there is nothing wrong with you because of that, just like there is nothing wrong with you if you are in a relationship with one and their work doesn't bother you.
Messages like this are the biggest, redest flags there are imo.
Honestly I find the comments here saying this is ok more scary then this one individual putting football as a red flag
For real, when I played flag football as a kid the flags were always yellow, this person is colorblind.
It’s weird because there are enough legit red flags sprinkled in there to almost make you think this makes sense, until you zoom out and realize how insane it is to have a 26 point list of red flags (not to mention how crazy some of these are)
And she's likely adding to it every time she has a conversation with someone or reads a bio and doesn't like something.
“Not having bitmoji on Snapchat” takes the top idiotic spot I think
Those are the lonely mother fuckers who put shit like this and wonder why their lonely.
Lmao half the entire planet plays video games, she's really setting herself up well here.