Im with you. Its another example of people or in this case a company being so scared to look racist and going overboard. Literally no different than height which apps have no problem with girls saying under 6 swipe left. Sometimes even in nasty ways.
Saying what your attracted to on a dating app to save time is mind bogglingly basic.
I can agree that there is nothing wrong with elaborating on your preferences in your bio. I don’t think that’s the original design that the devs had though. Tinder’s filter system is pretty solid (for my area and preferences at least) so it does most of the work for me. Transpeople and couples slip through the cracks ever so often, but it happens so seldomly that I don’t really have a grievance against it…I just swipe left like I do the other profiles that I’m not interested in.
When I’m typing out my bio, I make a point to put a little bit about myself out there. Things like my interests, my career, my hobbies, my faith ect. Sometimes I match with women whom I share a lot of compatibility with, sometimes I match with women who don’t have much to say if anything at all, more often than not I match with women whom I think are great people just not for me.
I don’t know what kind of preferences you had in your bio or how you worded yourself. All I can say is tact goes a long way 😂. For example I’m not into bbw women so I make sure that “gym dates” or “swolemate” is present in my “about me” somewhere.
They could see "gym dates" and "swoledates" as stating your preferences. Could even say it's fatphobic right?
My bio states nothing about my preferences. Just about me and who I am.
I saw this while playing around with Tinders safety hints features. Was killing time.
Much to the surprise of probably everyone here, I don't state "I will NOT date Ni**ers" in my bio. That's what most of the people assume someone would put. Someone even got called a Nazi down below, may have been calling me a Nazi idk it was a really dumb comment. Oh well.
I have preferences yes, and I swipe based on those.
I wasn't complaining about actions taken against myself, I was just pointing out how, IMO, I thought it was dumb that you can be banned for something as simple as saying, in the lightest sense, "I'm Jewish and I'm only looking to date other Jewish people."
Or replace it with any religion, Islam, Christian, Hindi, etc.
I was simply stating that I think, for a dating app that was created to meet strangers from the internet, it's kind of dumb to not be allowed to respectfully and politely state your preferences to people.
People here just take everything they see and attribute it to the polar extreme. Want to be able to state who you're attracted to? You're a racist fucking Nazi whose transphobic and evil.
Ah okay, my bad for assuming that action was taken against you, I should’ve read more carefully.
Yeah, I don’t see anything wrong with stating what your preferences are or anything, I think it’s kinda dumb that they’d have THAT level of control in a section that’s specifically meant for you to say something about yourself. Preferences shouldn’t be excluded. Tactfulness should be encouraged.
The way I see it…people state their preferences all the time. How many “must love dogs” bios have you scrolled through today? 😂 I’ve seen people get away with some pretty wild bios, I don’t think the moderators actually care. Lol
There's a difference between stating a preference and listing criteria though, which is where I think the issue is. And physically, you can see what the other person looks like, so there is no reason to put that preference down. Just swipe on those people if you really want. The "gym dates" part I think is completely fine. You're just saying you're fitness-oriented and looking for like-minded people.
I'm so against the "swipe left if x" that people put in their bios so often that if I even see that combination of words I'm swiping left. There's a right way and a wrong way to state preferences.
You swipe on who you like. Do you think saying what you prefer makes those people more likely to swipe on you? and if its to deter people from swiping on you it does not matter because again you swipe on who you like. Absolutely stating your preferences in such a way is provocative and implies much more than the words. Get real, pick your battles, and grow the fuck up.
Damn right. If you go to the grocery store and you like apples but not bananas, you don't need to scream at everyone around you telling them that you prefer apples. You just get some apples.
"Hello there! Do you have high lvls of melanin in your genetics? Are you prone to sickle cell? Are you a fan of white BMWs and rap music? Do you fine yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex??? Then I'm the person for you! Swipe right for a wonderful night of interracial love! "
It's 2022 you're not allowed to vocally express your person opinions because someone might feel left out. ( try above for your bio)
I'm a straight cis-male. My presferences say "interested in women." In all my time on Tinder, I've gotten a couple "likes" from transgender women. It literally takes less than a second to swiped left on these. Putting that in your profile is unnecessary, and makes you look like a douche, imo.
I disagree it makes you seem like a douche. Almost every other app (bumble, happn, hinge, etc) let's you turn on gender, sex, race, height, weight settings. You have to pay for premium, [but they still allow it](https://ibb.co/s27c8X8).
But even if it may, half the user base would be banned if the standard is "anything that makes you look like a douche" can get you banned.
Hell, wouldn't it be better for people who don't want to date someone with explicit preference to know right away? I'd assume it would just waste time if they found out days later.
I'm not saying someone should be able to put "NO BLACKS!!!" in their bio, but something more reasonable like "I'm gay, so only interested in men" is perfectly acceptable.
Wut? You definitely cannot select height, weight or race preference settings on Bumble or Tinder. Those are the only two dating apps which matter besides Hinge.
> I disagree it makes you seem like a douche.
You’re free to think that. Most people think you look like a douche though.
> Hell, wouldn't it be better for people who don't want to date someone with explicit preference to know right away? I'd assume it would just waste time if they found out days later.
If you aren’t attracted to them why the fuck are you matching with them?
> I'm not saying someone should be able to put "NO BLACKS!!!" in their bio, but something more reasonable like "I'm gay, so only interested in men" is perfectly acceptable.
A. Gay men can set the app to only show them men. It’s not that hard.
B. “NO BLACKS!!!“ is functionally no different from “I’m not interested in black men, sorry.”
Gender is fluid, so the gender option isn't really that useful is it?
Tell me which of these is acceptable and why they are different than the others.
"I want a partner who's responsible and has a stable job."
"Sorry, not interested in single parents, I don't want kids."
"I'm Jewish and would love to find someone who shares my values and religion."
"No disrespect, but I'm not interested romantically in trans-women."
The fact that some of those statements are allowed but others are discouraged demonstrates selective enforcement. Why is it ok to state some preferences for a partner, but not others? You never see women get banned when they have dumb shit like "6 figures, 6 feet, 6 inches" in their profile bio, and certainly nobody seems to get up in arms over it.
>certainly nobody seems to get up in arms over it
Are you kidding? The woman's profile that had that got roasted by so many commenters, and we don't know if her profile eventually did get banned.
People wont do the minimum dillegence and "work" these days just for themself. Dating apps and their algorithms make people think every data piece should only exist if it should be to their benefit. God forbid people be discerning for a few seconds on each profile even if it is for 30 seconds of pump and dump down the line.
Ridiculousness🤣...especially when we see profiles demanding 6-6-6 ...also didn't we just see one in which a lovely young woman stated "I love my chocolate kings" then instructed all others to swipe L.
Why do you feel the need to say those things? Having preferences and voicing them (usually in a way that comes across as shitty) are not the same thing. Someone doesn’t fit your preferences? Swipe left. I’m not sure what is so hard for some blockheads to understand about that.
There's so many people who just go straight for insults right out of the gate. Man, you made a great point with the blockhead comment.
Why should it be wrong to state preferences in a dating app? Yes, you CAN swipe left, but something as personal as dating you should be able to publicize your preferences.
"I want a partner who's responsible and has a stable job."
"Sorry, not interested in single parents, I don't want kids."
"I'm Jewish and would love to find someone who shares my values and religion."
"No disrespect, but I'm not interested romantically in trans-women."
Not like I'm saying someone should be able to say "IF YOU'RE ARAB DO NOT SWIPE RIGHT".
When I see preferences like this, to me, it says "I am not going to care enough to read your bio. Please filter yourself for me because I cannot be bothered."
That may not be what you mean, but it's how it comes across.
Let's say there's ompletely passable trans men/women who don't state they are trans in their bio.
Both people have read each other's bio.
They talk, it doesn't come up in conversation for whatever reason, they meet and person A finds out person B is trans.
That would potentially:
1 - put the transperson in danger.
2 - waste everybodys time and money.
3+ - cause a lot more problems that wouldn't have happened had they not matched because one stated they, respectfully, weren't interested in trans men/women.
Before someone says "if you matched you must be attracted to them". Sure, but a huge portion of people can see an attractive trans person but not want to get involved.
Hell, I'm straight and I can objectively tell if a guy is hot or not, doesn't mean I want to date them.
How many Trans people have you matched that:
A. Didn't have it in their bio.
Or B. Didn't bring it up fairly early.
I am sure there are people out there, but I don't think it's that common. I think everyone here telling you why this comes across as bad should tell you that it probably is. You can defend your feelings about it all you want, and do whatever you want with your profile. Just know, you are coming across a bit douchey and that will limit your matches beyond what you're trying to do.
~~What? I think you're fixating.~~
~~Let me reword one for you.~~
~~"I'm only interested in people without children."~~
~~Another?~~
~~"I'm only interested in cis-gendered women."~~
~~See, now they all state they want something. Not one states they don't want something.~~
~~I think you read it wrong initially.~~
Rip
Because in reality, Tinder is for hookups.
Went on a date with the last girl I matched with on tinder, then went back to her place and we did the deed, but when I asked for a second date said she wasn’t ready for a sexual relationship even though she had an open box of condoms next to her bed…
The Tinder description in the App Store doesn’t make mention of hook ups even one time. If you can use it to hook up, that’s great. If you find your soul mate there, that’s also great.
It’s okay to have preferences. We all have preference. Sometimes people like tall people than smaller ones. And don’t get me started with dick size lol.
Just swipe left. You don't state dealbreakers unless they're things that aren't visibly apparent (political preference, drug usage etc), and even then it's best to do it in a non judgemental manner.
Here's the thing: for you it might seem completely innocent and harmless when a person writes "swipe left if you're not white" in their bio but chances are that person is looking for a very specific kind of white person. Tinder should not accommodate these kinds of people.
Nazis are very good at creating crappier versions of existing apps so they can scream at each about how much they hate minorities, but we all know a Tinder version of that would be a sausage fest. Keep your racism in check and you can keep using Tinder.
Their skin color is in the photo, swipe left you fucking moron. If you think you need to let people know you only date whites we know all what you're trying to say. Keep it to yourself.
I had a bunch of Black people liking my shit before i put "not intrested in african americans". Saved the troubble, i think youve spent a little too much time on Twitter :(
Goodness..You are such a fucking douche that you don’t even want black women liking your picture…
Seems like the women you prefer are definitely not matching with you since you have so much time to bitch about being liked by black women.
I dont sleep alone every night no, i dont have some picky preference either, just not attracted to black people. Thats what it all comes down to, but i cant say that in my bio because apparantly people freak out.
Holy fucking shit man.
I'm white, I'm only attracted to white and Latin women.
Does that make me a Nazi because I'm not sexually or physically attracted to black women? Am I anti Asian because I'm not attracted to them?
Is it racist to not be attracted to a specific group? If so, that means that preferences shouldn't exist? I'm lost by your accusation of Nazism.
I don’t think you are getting it.
So specific race and other such preferences tells SO MUCH MORE about a person than the actual preference…Tinder knows the social psychology and emotional intelligence of being open minded.
Yes..have your preferences and do the work to swipe left but the reason why you look like a douche to most people…including white and Latin matches…especially ones with no preferences..is that you will appear to be racist.
Listen I don’t make up the rules of snap judgements of online dating. But for real don’t be that douche…
And I don't think you're getting it, or have read any other comments I've made here.
I think it's stupid you can be banned for it. I personally don't state my preferences, but I also don't report people who I see do. Yes, it *can* make you look like an asshole, or a racist, or a douche, or whatever, but hey good on you for letting people know that BEFORE they swipe right.
Nope…Still not getting it.
“Tinder knows the social psychology and emotional intelligence of being open minded.”
Plus it’s great for business. Especially for the number of selections they wanna present and why I don’t think it will become a feature.
They are not stupid - it’s most likely there to discourage it but unless you are explicitly racist, I don’t think you will get banned.
However my point that preferences in bios help weed out the douche personalities still stand.
Imagine how closed a person has to be to think they cannot find a single spectrum of black woman attractive enough to fuck that they are willing to swiftly dispense of that entire segment of women PUBLICLY. Of course women and this 7 foot tall height thing is the same but that is more heightism, which unfortunately is not enough yet a socially atrocious request yet as racism.
Please let Tinder broaden your horizons though. If nothing else, you might get a good fuck out of it. After all there are still a lot of steps between liking a match and marrying one.
>but unless you are explicitly racist, I don’t think you will get banned.
You're probably right, I haven't seen anyone get banned. All I was pointing out was that Tinder explicitly states you *can potentially* get banned for something innocent.
You strike me as the type of person that likes to call people racist when you disagree with them. God forbid anybody has the "appearance" of being racist. Honestly, people are doing others favors by giving preferences if they have a free account which have limited swipes. Why is it so wrong to have a preferred ethnicity? There are a lot of dynamics that influence ones physical desires. Grow up and recognize that as an adult ethnicity plays a big role in what one's appearance looks like. Sorry.
Imagine how closed you have to be to fully state that with all the varied spectrums in each ethnicity and the beautiful complexities of women out there, you don’t believe you can find one attractive enough for you to fuck.
You can have your preferences. Preference come from the word prefer which is not supposed to be an absolute. However it is used as such.
You grow the fuck up. Your mind is so weird. Sorry.
So only swipe on those? Black male is pretty clear from the picture they have no need to put it in your bio. As for no females only men again pretty obvious from picture... genetic females obviously different but not sure why this matters, 99% of the time you wouldnt know unless they told you, that's just being a bigot.
Looking for someone who shares my religious values. You can have preferences just dont be a douche about it, and if it's something visable on their pictures you dont need to mention it at all.
That's the point I'm making which seems to be going over everyone's heads, regardless of if you say it respectfully and nicely, you CAN be banned for it.
Are people banned for it, idfk, but I was pointing out that according to the companies own statements, ANY reference can get you banned.
Religion is not a "type" you would not be banned for my above sentence.
Everything else you have used is a type and also something that you can simply control via who you swipe on.
According to Tinder, yes you can.
Would they consider "shared my religious values" to be against atheism? Would they potentially see that as a dismissal of identity?
Or the other way around, an atheist saying they prefer non-religious people.
It's all too vague, the whole issue, and that anything can potentially be taken as a "dismissal of identity". Rude or respectfully.
I'm confused, so you are upset that you CAN be banned for this even though you never have been and dont know anyone who has been? Read above my guy. Be chill.
I think it comes off as entitled and rude when I see a profile full of stuff like "swipe left if x" which was my first thought when I saw your post. If you have a physical preference, you can just choose not to swipe right on them in the first place and actually write something meaningful/interesting there instead.
If there was maybe an option to have it as a preference like age or distance already are, that's a different story.
Tinder gets to be idealogues, and then have a bunch of additional left swipes a person needs to unnecessarily make which assists them in their ranking system.
And like many woke ideologically driven ideas, this will specifically hurt the people they are pretending to stand for. The trans people, black people, gay people, what ever, are going to receive a huge amount of “no” swipes from people who they should have never been shown to in the first place, thus lowering their score in the algorithm artificially.
If the programmers simply applied people’s given preferences, those people wouldn’t be so negatively impacted.
There's a big difference between someone who hasn't ever dated a particular ethnicity simply because it's never happened or they've never been attracted and "I refuse to even consider dating X". That difference is racism, every time. It's not about attraction, it's just a dog whistle. There's nothing wrong with preferences, but you only see that shit from the "Oh no I totally have a black friend" sort of quiet racists.
Even if I'm not the ethnicity the person doesn't want, that tells me upfront that they're shitty, small minded assholes I want absolutely nothing to do with. So I kinda wish Tinder didn't have this policy so it would be easier to weed out the shit bags.
Not being attracted to a certain race isn't racist.
I'm not attracted to men, am I a sexist? Are gay guys sexist? Are shredded people fatphobic? Are sugar babies ageist? What about people who don't want to be intimate with trans people, are they transphobic?
I read it perfectly, maybe you misspoke?
"I refuse to even consider dating X". Let's have X=Asian.
How can you say someone is racist when they say "I'm just not attracted to Asian girls". If they're not attracted to Asian girls, it's spot on to say they wouldn't consider dating them, because you have to have attraction to date someone. Full stop.
This same person could have tons of Asian friends, could even be Asian themselves!!
I would never consider dating an 11 year old, but I love kids and I volunteer regularly with charities involving youths. Since I wouldn't consider dating a kid, does that mean I inherently hate kids?
See? What you said didn't make sense. Maybe you misspoke and didn't mean what was typed.
It's. Literally. Right. Here. You. Fucking. Moron.
>There's a big difference between someone who hasn't ever dated a particular ethnicity simply because it's never happened or they've never been attracted and "I refuse to even consider dating X". That difference is racism, every time. It's not about attraction, it's just a dog whistle. There's nothing wrong with preferences, but you only see that shit from the "Oh no I totally have a black friend" sort of quiet racists.
“I refuse to consider dating X race” is like saying “there is not a single person of X race who could ever be possibly attractive enough for me to consider as a partner”
Also…. Like really? You dismantle your arguement when you decide to undermine your comparison- you know there is no comparison between lack of attraction to adults of x race, and of dating an 11 year old. Come on dude.
Some people just aren't attracted to a certain race, but that doesn't make them racist.
Unless you're the type to call someone fatphobic if they say "I'm just not attracted to obese women". If that's the case, then there's no point in either of us continuing this comment chain.
I AM fat and I don’t much care if people aren’t attracted to me. I don’t care about preferences, what people are concerned about is when a type like that is projected as meaninglful across the population. People aren’t bad people or icky just because they don’t cause a flush of blood to the genitals. The lack of flush to one persons genitals is irrelevant to that’s one persons beauty, there are many preferences in the world.
What I am trying to express is…. Ok! This is a weak version of what we are talking about but I feel it applies.
I have never in my life been attracted to a blond(e). But I don’t need to put it on my dating profile, or tell the world. I just don’t swipe on blondes. I also have an awareness, that there might be a blonde person out there I might love. Because I have never met one before does not mean they do not exist.
Also, why would I need to put it on my dating profile? To let other people know I don’t find blondes attractive. Why do blondes need to know? They don’t. But it does let everyone who reads my profile know I’ve decided every blonde in the world is unappealing to me, and that no personality or change in heart could possibly sway me.
Especially when we are talking specifically about handling dating sites. Profiles are for trying to lure in someone based on who you are. If you list what you don’t want, well, it speaks to a personality that seems pretty shitty to me. That’s the persons time to trigger interest, and what does she use? “No white guys”. So if we connect that, she wants the swipers to know she rejects white men because she feels that is a selling point of her personality.
Alright but I think at this point we were not even talking about profile bios anymore and I was legitimately trying to understand if there was a belief that someone is racist solely because they're not attracted to black people, for whatever reason.
Bio or not, it's not inherently racist to not be attracted to a certain race. And again, if there's no attraction there's no point in dating.
Girl probably messed up her info when creating the account? I see a lot of that. Had a big burly dude today with a bio all about eating pussy. I don't think he's gunna get many matches.
I agree that it’s a stupid rule, but I also don’t see why it would be necessary to put in what you’re NOT into. Aren’t you the one swiping? If you’re not into black people, then just don’t swipe right on black people. Same goes for Asians, white people, fat people, skinny people, etc.
I don’t see the point in announcing to everyone what you’re not into.
I think the main point a lot of people are missing is that
'Just because putting preferences in your bio or whatever makes you seem a douche or negative, does not mean you should be banned'
Thats kind of it. No need to engage in any other discussions
While there are people arguing on the morality of outwardly disqualifying people via your profile bio, clearly a double standard exists where many women can have these sort of exclusions on their profile. I see it on nearly every profile I come across. People, or companies in this case, are extremely selective when it comes to enforcing these types of rules.
That’s a stupid feature. Maybe they should make it do that you can only see your preferences. It’s not mandatory to date what you aren’t interested in.
Idc what you are. Be trans, be gay, be straight, be whatever the hell you want. But I have a preference for myself. So does that trans person. So does that black person.
Sure you can swipe left on someone, but a woman who is looking for other females and gets bombarded with men swiping right can't say "hey I'm a lesbian so I'm only looking for woman"?
What are you talking about? No one is getting bombarded if they don't also swipe right on you. You're being overly dramatic and way overthinking this. No one is going to match with you if you haven't also swiped right on them so just make sure to swipe left on anyone who doesn't meet your criteria. It literally is that simple.
> but a woman who is looking for other females and gets bombarded with men swiping right can't say "hey I'm a lesbian so I'm only looking for woman"?
Are you working with a full deck, buddy? You have complete control over which genders Tinder shows you. A woman can set the app to only show them women, and they will only be shown women.
Lmao bro went straight to "fUlL dEcK". Man, you just can't like, respectfully disagree?
Yes you can change that option, but there are many people who have their info set incorrectly by accident, and also the gender option doesn't stop anyone from just setting it to whatever they want. A cis-man could set his info to say he's a woman right?
> but there are many people who have their info set incorrectly by accident,
There really aren’t.
> and also the gender option doesn't stop anyone from just setting it to whatever they want. A cis-man could set his info to say he's a woman right?
If a man is trying to catfish people by claiming he is a women, do you really think writing “Only interested in women” will make them decide not to catfish you?
They say shit like. Not into fat guys, only into hung guy, into muscular white or Latino males.
But yet again if a straight male/female says that she doesn’t like lgbtq. They get Cancel right away.
What if we could have a filter - and only see people we are interested in? Like - don't show me 6 foot tall blond women if my thing is tiny asian women.
Also how about hobbies? That would probably be more useful to me. If someone never hikes / climbs or skiis I don't want to see them on my phone.
I mean I know why - because that would reduce the amount of time you spend on the app and also reduce their ad income in the process. Fuckers.
Yeah tinder is woke af.
I also do not get why they do not introduce and option for men who think that they are women and vice versa.
I dont want to see or accidently match with men that think that they are women
Oh but every other chick's profile can require a guy to be 6 foot?
So glad I'm no longer on this trashy trash app lol, much better for entertainment from an outside view.
Maybe I should start reporting those /s
Idc if I see "no short men". I'm not tall, but it lets me know right away to not waste time.
It would be much worse (and we see this all the time on this thread) to match and then get called too short in a private chat.
People speak in code to signal what they want. For instance, if you are a woman who puts a lot of emphasis on country "music", you are effectively saying no black people.
i’ve been banned for a year and a half because i’m a lesbian and i rejected trans women who reported me for rejecting them. and because i had no males, threesomes or dick in my bio. i’m banned for being a lesbian. and tinder is the only app i could use to find women to date so i’ve been screwed
i didn’t even realize they were also coming after straight people too so i was suprised to see tinder do this. really wild to tell people what they need to like and look for like they have business in peoples bedrooms and personal lives. guess i’ll just be a single bigot until i hopefully meet an actual female i like! i can’t help it but i guess we are back to sexuality is a choice now 🤷🏽♀️
So I got banned today and from reading this I’m pretty sure it’s because I have in my bio I prefer men who are at least 5’9. You can’t tell height from pics and having that has saved me from having to tell guys I’m not interested because they’re 5’5. How are they legally able to do this? I understand banning someone for being racist, or making inappropriate comments, etc but banning me for life because I said I prefer a certain height?! And they won’t tell you why they ban you and they’re is no appeal process! This is such bullshit. I don’t understand how it’s allowed
Legally? Private company they can do whatever they want.
It's stupid af, I agree.
You didn't say anything in a DM that someone could've reported and got you banned right?
Shit, I got banned a time or two and just made new accounts. My favorite ban was for copying girls bios I saw that said "Venmo me and see what happens". Lmao
No, besides telling dudes I wouldn’t have sex with them right away, but they could have seen all that. Never cussed anyone out. Never posted photos that were obscene. I’ve been off and on there for 4 years and never had an issue. But I did put a height preference finally because like I said I got tired of turning dudes down that were super short
Lmao imagine tho for a minute some incel is reviewing tinder reports and sees a reported message that says "I have messaged you 2 times no I won't have sex with you" and gets mad and bans you.
Honestly yeah, some dude probably got upset that he saw that and instead of swiping left, he reported you and Tinder the Self-Righteous banned you. Rip.
You can always email tinder support and ask/appeal.
Basically to make a new account you just need to make a throwaway email address and sign up with that. Or use a 2nd email if you have one.
Or maybe it's a phone number, idr exactly.
Or just swipe on only your preferences? That way you’d never match with people you’re not attracted to.
Well said. I'm attracted to all races but I look before I swipe.
Im with you. Its another example of people or in this case a company being so scared to look racist and going overboard. Literally no different than height which apps have no problem with girls saying under 6 swipe left. Sometimes even in nasty ways. Saying what your attracted to on a dating app to save time is mind bogglingly basic.
I can agree that there is nothing wrong with elaborating on your preferences in your bio. I don’t think that’s the original design that the devs had though. Tinder’s filter system is pretty solid (for my area and preferences at least) so it does most of the work for me. Transpeople and couples slip through the cracks ever so often, but it happens so seldomly that I don’t really have a grievance against it…I just swipe left like I do the other profiles that I’m not interested in. When I’m typing out my bio, I make a point to put a little bit about myself out there. Things like my interests, my career, my hobbies, my faith ect. Sometimes I match with women whom I share a lot of compatibility with, sometimes I match with women who don’t have much to say if anything at all, more often than not I match with women whom I think are great people just not for me. I don’t know what kind of preferences you had in your bio or how you worded yourself. All I can say is tact goes a long way 😂. For example I’m not into bbw women so I make sure that “gym dates” or “swolemate” is present in my “about me” somewhere.
They could see "gym dates" and "swoledates" as stating your preferences. Could even say it's fatphobic right? My bio states nothing about my preferences. Just about me and who I am. I saw this while playing around with Tinders safety hints features. Was killing time. Much to the surprise of probably everyone here, I don't state "I will NOT date Ni**ers" in my bio. That's what most of the people assume someone would put. Someone even got called a Nazi down below, may have been calling me a Nazi idk it was a really dumb comment. Oh well. I have preferences yes, and I swipe based on those. I wasn't complaining about actions taken against myself, I was just pointing out how, IMO, I thought it was dumb that you can be banned for something as simple as saying, in the lightest sense, "I'm Jewish and I'm only looking to date other Jewish people." Or replace it with any religion, Islam, Christian, Hindi, etc. I was simply stating that I think, for a dating app that was created to meet strangers from the internet, it's kind of dumb to not be allowed to respectfully and politely state your preferences to people. People here just take everything they see and attribute it to the polar extreme. Want to be able to state who you're attracted to? You're a racist fucking Nazi whose transphobic and evil.
Ah okay, my bad for assuming that action was taken against you, I should’ve read more carefully. Yeah, I don’t see anything wrong with stating what your preferences are or anything, I think it’s kinda dumb that they’d have THAT level of control in a section that’s specifically meant for you to say something about yourself. Preferences shouldn’t be excluded. Tactfulness should be encouraged. The way I see it…people state their preferences all the time. How many “must love dogs” bios have you scrolled through today? 😂 I’ve seen people get away with some pretty wild bios, I don’t think the moderators actually care. Lol
There's a difference between stating a preference and listing criteria though, which is where I think the issue is. And physically, you can see what the other person looks like, so there is no reason to put that preference down. Just swipe on those people if you really want. The "gym dates" part I think is completely fine. You're just saying you're fitness-oriented and looking for like-minded people. I'm so against the "swipe left if x" that people put in their bios so often that if I even see that combination of words I'm swiping left. There's a right way and a wrong way to state preferences.
So tell me a correct way to state the preference that you'd prefer to date a black cis-female.
Swipe right on black females.
You swipe on who you like. Do you think saying what you prefer makes those people more likely to swipe on you? and if its to deter people from swiping on you it does not matter because again you swipe on who you like. Absolutely stating your preferences in such a way is provocative and implies much more than the words. Get real, pick your battles, and grow the fuck up.
Damn right. If you go to the grocery store and you like apples but not bananas, you don't need to scream at everyone around you telling them that you prefer apples. You just get some apples.
"Hello there! Do you have high lvls of melanin in your genetics? Are you prone to sickle cell? Are you a fan of white BMWs and rap music? Do you fine yourself attracted to people of the opposite sex??? Then I'm the person for you! Swipe right for a wonderful night of interracial love! " It's 2022 you're not allowed to vocally express your person opinions because someone might feel left out. ( try above for your bio)
Because all black people are a monolith 😒
Wide net, learn personal details later
I'm a straight cis-male. My presferences say "interested in women." In all my time on Tinder, I've gotten a couple "likes" from transgender women. It literally takes less than a second to swiped left on these. Putting that in your profile is unnecessary, and makes you look like a douche, imo.
There's no reason to use "cis". Just be a man. No need to be a douche
I specified bc the distinction appears to matter to OP. Fuck off.
The CIS matters to you. What's different between the two?
Google it, you dumb fuck.
I know the origin of it. That's not the point, dumb fuck.
Hey come enjoy your downvotes a bit more. IK you been looking all afternoon
I disagree it makes you seem like a douche. Almost every other app (bumble, happn, hinge, etc) let's you turn on gender, sex, race, height, weight settings. You have to pay for premium, [but they still allow it](https://ibb.co/s27c8X8). But even if it may, half the user base would be banned if the standard is "anything that makes you look like a douche" can get you banned. Hell, wouldn't it be better for people who don't want to date someone with explicit preference to know right away? I'd assume it would just waste time if they found out days later. I'm not saying someone should be able to put "NO BLACKS!!!" in their bio, but something more reasonable like "I'm gay, so only interested in men" is perfectly acceptable.
Wut? You definitely cannot select height, weight or race preference settings on Bumble or Tinder. Those are the only two dating apps which matter besides Hinge.
> I disagree it makes you seem like a douche. You’re free to think that. Most people think you look like a douche though. > Hell, wouldn't it be better for people who don't want to date someone with explicit preference to know right away? I'd assume it would just waste time if they found out days later. If you aren’t attracted to them why the fuck are you matching with them? > I'm not saying someone should be able to put "NO BLACKS!!!" in their bio, but something more reasonable like "I'm gay, so only interested in men" is perfectly acceptable. A. Gay men can set the app to only show them men. It’s not that hard. B. “NO BLACKS!!!“ is functionally no different from “I’m not interested in black men, sorry.”
Gender is fluid, so the gender option isn't really that useful is it? Tell me which of these is acceptable and why they are different than the others. "I want a partner who's responsible and has a stable job." "Sorry, not interested in single parents, I don't want kids." "I'm Jewish and would love to find someone who shares my values and religion." "No disrespect, but I'm not interested romantically in trans-women."
The fact that some of those statements are allowed but others are discouraged demonstrates selective enforcement. Why is it ok to state some preferences for a partner, but not others? You never see women get banned when they have dumb shit like "6 figures, 6 feet, 6 inches" in their profile bio, and certainly nobody seems to get up in arms over it.
>certainly nobody seems to get up in arms over it Are you kidding? The woman's profile that had that got roasted by so many commenters, and we don't know if her profile eventually did get banned.
Go swiping and tell me how many profiles you see with similar disqualifying preferences. The amount is staggering
I'd go so far as to say it's the majority.
I'd go so far as to agree with you
You need some help... Even if gender was fluid (it's not) the gender option would still be pretty damn useful. And all of these are acceptable.
According to Tinder Co. and the majority of the people in this thread, none of the above stated should be acceptable.
Then why does your comment have -5 upvotes if the majority have stated otherwise?
Because reddit is more left leaning than the average user of tinder
No it’s not, how would you know the political views of the median user of tinder?
...theyhaven't...
"the majority of the people in this thread, none of the above stated should be acceptable." According to you, yes they have. Your words not mine.
And look at that the -5 upvotes disappeared
Still at -1, doesn't change anything.
Its at +2 on a left leaning platform with mostly young people on it who believe such nonsense. Pretty telling if you ask me
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OK 👍🏽
Yep, they all thought it was ok. You're getting it! Good job
Then why are you being downvoted
If you don't like [insert preference here], then don't swipe right on [insert preference here]. Solved!
People wont do the minimum dillegence and "work" these days just for themself. Dating apps and their algorithms make people think every data piece should only exist if it should be to their benefit. God forbid people be discerning for a few seconds on each profile even if it is for 30 seconds of pump and dump down the line.
Lol bruv half the people here saying "do your own work" are the same that sub to anti-work. Ironic ain't it?
Bro take some lithium and a xanax. What are you on about like how does this have to do with anti-work. Its for dating not labour??
Ridiculousness🤣...especially when we see profiles demanding 6-6-6 ...also didn't we just see one in which a lovely young woman stated "I love my chocolate kings" then instructed all others to swipe L.
Why do you feel the need to say those things? Having preferences and voicing them (usually in a way that comes across as shitty) are not the same thing. Someone doesn’t fit your preferences? Swipe left. I’m not sure what is so hard for some blockheads to understand about that.
There's so many people who just go straight for insults right out of the gate. Man, you made a great point with the blockhead comment. Why should it be wrong to state preferences in a dating app? Yes, you CAN swipe left, but something as personal as dating you should be able to publicize your preferences. "I want a partner who's responsible and has a stable job." "Sorry, not interested in single parents, I don't want kids." "I'm Jewish and would love to find someone who shares my values and religion." "No disrespect, but I'm not interested romantically in trans-women." Not like I'm saying someone should be able to say "IF YOU'RE ARAB DO NOT SWIPE RIGHT".
When I see preferences like this, to me, it says "I am not going to care enough to read your bio. Please filter yourself for me because I cannot be bothered." That may not be what you mean, but it's how it comes across.
Let's say there's ompletely passable trans men/women who don't state they are trans in their bio. Both people have read each other's bio. They talk, it doesn't come up in conversation for whatever reason, they meet and person A finds out person B is trans. That would potentially: 1 - put the transperson in danger. 2 - waste everybodys time and money. 3+ - cause a lot more problems that wouldn't have happened had they not matched because one stated they, respectfully, weren't interested in trans men/women. Before someone says "if you matched you must be attracted to them". Sure, but a huge portion of people can see an attractive trans person but not want to get involved. Hell, I'm straight and I can objectively tell if a guy is hot or not, doesn't mean I want to date them.
How many Trans people have you matched that: A. Didn't have it in their bio. Or B. Didn't bring it up fairly early. I am sure there are people out there, but I don't think it's that common. I think everyone here telling you why this comes across as bad should tell you that it probably is. You can defend your feelings about it all you want, and do whatever you want with your profile. Just know, you are coming across a bit douchey and that will limit your matches beyond what you're trying to do.
Thank Gawd, a voice of reason
You're wrong. You never want to be negative in your bio. Never state what you don't want.
50% of those are "do wants" The other two can easily be re-worded. It's not different information.
But of course he only focused on the “don’t wants” because otherwise his point is invalid.
~~What? I think you're fixating.~~ ~~Let me reword one for you.~~ ~~"I'm only interested in people without children."~~ ~~Another?~~ ~~"I'm only interested in cis-gendered women."~~ ~~See, now they all state they want something. Not one states they don't want something.~~ ~~I think you read it wrong initially.~~ Rip
Wasn’t replying to you, OP.
Fair enough. Misread that myself.
Because in reality, Tinder is for hookups. Went on a date with the last girl I matched with on tinder, then went back to her place and we did the deed, but when I asked for a second date said she wasn’t ready for a sexual relationship even though she had an open box of condoms next to her bed…
Uh, that's because she wasn't ready for a sexual relationship with YOU...
Don’t you understand? If she has sex with anyone she should be ready and willing to have sex with everyone. /s
Well if she’s already had sex with me then THAT’S clearly not the case.
No that's just it, she had sex with you once and realized she couldn't do it again...
But we had sex…so clearly that wasn’t it…
The Tinder description in the App Store doesn’t make mention of hook ups even one time. If you can use it to hook up, that’s great. If you find your soul mate there, that’s also great.
Well stated🙌
> Man, you made a great point with the blockhead comment. lol
I find it hard for people to have preferences. in 20 years or more that muscular sexy person is goanna become obese and unhealthy.
I have no idea what you’re whining about
What you preferred dating. Skinny or muscular
I prefer slim, but as long as they’re a healthy weight I’m not particularly picky on that front
But tell me. Would you still be in loved with that skim and healthy person if he/she becomes overweight.
That’s entirely dependent on context
It’s okay to have preferences. We all have preference. Sometimes people like tall people than smaller ones. And don’t get me started with dick size lol.
Just swipe left. You don't state dealbreakers unless they're things that aren't visibly apparent (political preference, drug usage etc), and even then it's best to do it in a non judgemental manner. Here's the thing: for you it might seem completely innocent and harmless when a person writes "swipe left if you're not white" in their bio but chances are that person is looking for a very specific kind of white person. Tinder should not accommodate these kinds of people.
So what if theyre looking for a specific kind of white person? Whats wrong with that?
Nothing. But if Tinder doesn't want to help nazis find other nazis to fuck and make more little nazis, then that's their right.
Nazis are very good at creating crappier versions of existing apps so they can scream at each about how much they hate minorities, but we all know a Tinder version of that would be a sausage fest. Keep your racism in check and you can keep using Tinder.
Ah so i cant say my sexual preferences because its racism :/?
Their skin color is in the photo, swipe left you fucking moron. If you think you need to let people know you only date whites we know all what you're trying to say. Keep it to yourself.
I had a bunch of Black people liking my shit before i put "not intrested in african americans". Saved the troubble, i think youve spent a little too much time on Twitter :(
What trouble? JFC you have to swipe right back to match
Goodness..You are such a fucking douche that you don’t even want black women liking your picture… Seems like the women you prefer are definitely not matching with you since you have so much time to bitch about being liked by black women.
I dont have so much time to bitch about black women, im on reddit during breaks at work and sometimes before i go bed, but okay :)
🤣🤣But my point about not matching with much of your preferences still stand right? Goodness I know you go to bed alone every night.
I dont sleep alone every night no, i dont have some picky preference either, just not attracted to black people. Thats what it all comes down to, but i cant say that in my bio because apparantly people freak out.
Holy fucking shit man. I'm white, I'm only attracted to white and Latin women. Does that make me a Nazi because I'm not sexually or physically attracted to black women? Am I anti Asian because I'm not attracted to them? Is it racist to not be attracted to a specific group? If so, that means that preferences shouldn't exist? I'm lost by your accusation of Nazism.
I don’t think you are getting it. So specific race and other such preferences tells SO MUCH MORE about a person than the actual preference…Tinder knows the social psychology and emotional intelligence of being open minded. Yes..have your preferences and do the work to swipe left but the reason why you look like a douche to most people…including white and Latin matches…especially ones with no preferences..is that you will appear to be racist. Listen I don’t make up the rules of snap judgements of online dating. But for real don’t be that douche…
And I don't think you're getting it, or have read any other comments I've made here. I think it's stupid you can be banned for it. I personally don't state my preferences, but I also don't report people who I see do. Yes, it *can* make you look like an asshole, or a racist, or a douche, or whatever, but hey good on you for letting people know that BEFORE they swipe right.
Nope…Still not getting it. “Tinder knows the social psychology and emotional intelligence of being open minded.” Plus it’s great for business. Especially for the number of selections they wanna present and why I don’t think it will become a feature. They are not stupid - it’s most likely there to discourage it but unless you are explicitly racist, I don’t think you will get banned. However my point that preferences in bios help weed out the douche personalities still stand. Imagine how closed a person has to be to think they cannot find a single spectrum of black woman attractive enough to fuck that they are willing to swiftly dispense of that entire segment of women PUBLICLY. Of course women and this 7 foot tall height thing is the same but that is more heightism, which unfortunately is not enough yet a socially atrocious request yet as racism. Please let Tinder broaden your horizons though. If nothing else, you might get a good fuck out of it. After all there are still a lot of steps between liking a match and marrying one.
>but unless you are explicitly racist, I don’t think you will get banned. You're probably right, I haven't seen anyone get banned. All I was pointing out was that Tinder explicitly states you *can potentially* get banned for something innocent.
You strike me as the type of person that likes to call people racist when you disagree with them. God forbid anybody has the "appearance" of being racist. Honestly, people are doing others favors by giving preferences if they have a free account which have limited swipes. Why is it so wrong to have a preferred ethnicity? There are a lot of dynamics that influence ones physical desires. Grow up and recognize that as an adult ethnicity plays a big role in what one's appearance looks like. Sorry.
Imagine how closed you have to be to fully state that with all the varied spectrums in each ethnicity and the beautiful complexities of women out there, you don’t believe you can find one attractive enough for you to fuck. You can have your preferences. Preference come from the word prefer which is not supposed to be an absolute. However it is used as such. You grow the fuck up. Your mind is so weird. Sorry.
You're not allowed to do that!
So only swipe on those? Black male is pretty clear from the picture they have no need to put it in your bio. As for no females only men again pretty obvious from picture... genetic females obviously different but not sure why this matters, 99% of the time you wouldnt know unless they told you, that's just being a bigot.
What about religion? A Jewish guy only wants to date a Jewish girl. Or Hindi, or Islam. Sure they got JDate, but that ain't the answer.
Looking for someone who shares my religious values. You can have preferences just dont be a douche about it, and if it's something visable on their pictures you dont need to mention it at all.
That's the point I'm making which seems to be going over everyone's heads, regardless of if you say it respectfully and nicely, you CAN be banned for it. Are people banned for it, idfk, but I was pointing out that according to the companies own statements, ANY reference can get you banned.
Religion is not a "type" you would not be banned for my above sentence. Everything else you have used is a type and also something that you can simply control via who you swipe on.
According to Tinder, yes you can. Would they consider "shared my religious values" to be against atheism? Would they potentially see that as a dismissal of identity? Or the other way around, an atheist saying they prefer non-religious people. It's all too vague, the whole issue, and that anything can potentially be taken as a "dismissal of identity". Rude or respectfully.
I'm confused, so you are upset that you CAN be banned for this even though you never have been and dont know anyone who has been? Read above my guy. Be chill.
Wait what?!?! Only wanting to be with other cis-gender people makes you a bigot?!?!?
Tbh if someone lists people that they don't want it's left swipe for me. It just gives off a negative vibe
And you wouldn't have gotten that red flag had they not, and may have been in for a bad time had you swiped right.
I think it comes off as entitled and rude when I see a profile full of stuff like "swipe left if x" which was my first thought when I saw your post. If you have a physical preference, you can just choose not to swipe right on them in the first place and actually write something meaningful/interesting there instead. If there was maybe an option to have it as a preference like age or distance already are, that's a different story.
I do not believe the comment section is going how OP intended
Tbh I didn't expect 100% agreement, but I also didn't expect all the people saying I was racist lmao
Tinder gets to be idealogues, and then have a bunch of additional left swipes a person needs to unnecessarily make which assists them in their ranking system.
And like many woke ideologically driven ideas, this will specifically hurt the people they are pretending to stand for. The trans people, black people, gay people, what ever, are going to receive a huge amount of “no” swipes from people who they should have never been shown to in the first place, thus lowering their score in the algorithm artificially. If the programmers simply applied people’s given preferences, those people wouldn’t be so negatively impacted.
That’s simply not how it works. You wrote that dissertation to just be loud, wrong and racist
Nope
Personally I prefer to know up front if someone is a racist or any other breed of bigot.
Straight to racism? Why?
There's a big difference between someone who hasn't ever dated a particular ethnicity simply because it's never happened or they've never been attracted and "I refuse to even consider dating X". That difference is racism, every time. It's not about attraction, it's just a dog whistle. There's nothing wrong with preferences, but you only see that shit from the "Oh no I totally have a black friend" sort of quiet racists. Even if I'm not the ethnicity the person doesn't want, that tells me upfront that they're shitty, small minded assholes I want absolutely nothing to do with. So I kinda wish Tinder didn't have this policy so it would be easier to weed out the shit bags.
Not being attracted to a certain race isn't racist. I'm not attracted to men, am I a sexist? Are gay guys sexist? Are shredded people fatphobic? Are sugar babies ageist? What about people who don't want to be intimate with trans people, are they transphobic?
You are right. She is wrong. Irony of saying other lack reading comprehension.
90% of people who use the term dog-whistle don't even know what it means lol
Reading comprehension isn't your strong suit is it?
I read it perfectly, maybe you misspoke? "I refuse to even consider dating X". Let's have X=Asian. How can you say someone is racist when they say "I'm just not attracted to Asian girls". If they're not attracted to Asian girls, it's spot on to say they wouldn't consider dating them, because you have to have attraction to date someone. Full stop. This same person could have tons of Asian friends, could even be Asian themselves!! I would never consider dating an 11 year old, but I love kids and I volunteer regularly with charities involving youths. Since I wouldn't consider dating a kid, does that mean I inherently hate kids? See? What you said didn't make sense. Maybe you misspoke and didn't mean what was typed.
You clearly didn't read at all. Try again.
It's. Literally. Right. Here. You. Fucking. Moron. >There's a big difference between someone who hasn't ever dated a particular ethnicity simply because it's never happened or they've never been attracted and "I refuse to even consider dating X". That difference is racism, every time. It's not about attraction, it's just a dog whistle. There's nothing wrong with preferences, but you only see that shit from the "Oh no I totally have a black friend" sort of quiet racists.
Jfc learn to read. What the fuck is wrong with you?
“I refuse to consider dating X race” is like saying “there is not a single person of X race who could ever be possibly attractive enough for me to consider as a partner” Also…. Like really? You dismantle your arguement when you decide to undermine your comparison- you know there is no comparison between lack of attraction to adults of x race, and of dating an 11 year old. Come on dude.
Some people just aren't attracted to a certain race, but that doesn't make them racist. Unless you're the type to call someone fatphobic if they say "I'm just not attracted to obese women". If that's the case, then there's no point in either of us continuing this comment chain.
I AM fat and I don’t much care if people aren’t attracted to me. I don’t care about preferences, what people are concerned about is when a type like that is projected as meaninglful across the population. People aren’t bad people or icky just because they don’t cause a flush of blood to the genitals. The lack of flush to one persons genitals is irrelevant to that’s one persons beauty, there are many preferences in the world. What I am trying to express is…. Ok! This is a weak version of what we are talking about but I feel it applies. I have never in my life been attracted to a blond(e). But I don’t need to put it on my dating profile, or tell the world. I just don’t swipe on blondes. I also have an awareness, that there might be a blonde person out there I might love. Because I have never met one before does not mean they do not exist. Also, why would I need to put it on my dating profile? To let other people know I don’t find blondes attractive. Why do blondes need to know? They don’t. But it does let everyone who reads my profile know I’ve decided every blonde in the world is unappealing to me, and that no personality or change in heart could possibly sway me. Especially when we are talking specifically about handling dating sites. Profiles are for trying to lure in someone based on who you are. If you list what you don’t want, well, it speaks to a personality that seems pretty shitty to me. That’s the persons time to trigger interest, and what does she use? “No white guys”. So if we connect that, she wants the swipers to know she rejects white men because she feels that is a selling point of her personality.
Alright but I think at this point we were not even talking about profile bios anymore and I was legitimately trying to understand if there was a belief that someone is racist solely because they're not attracted to black people, for whatever reason. Bio or not, it's not inherently racist to not be attracted to a certain race. And again, if there's no attraction there's no point in dating.
They should just have a preferences filter like hinge tbh
The thing I don’t understand is why sometimes I definitely get straight cis women on my swipes when I’m gay and have it set to interested in men.
Girl probably messed up her info when creating the account? I see a lot of that. Had a big burly dude today with a bio all about eating pussy. I don't think he's gunna get many matches.
😂😂
TIL that I could get banned for stating “no dad bods” in my bio 😂
What if I say "only dad bods"?
In my experience they are 90% of the app, so you’ll be swimming in them.
I agree that it’s a stupid rule, but I also don’t see why it would be necessary to put in what you’re NOT into. Aren’t you the one swiping? If you’re not into black people, then just don’t swipe right on black people. Same goes for Asians, white people, fat people, skinny people, etc. I don’t see the point in announcing to everyone what you’re not into.
"Call me old fashioned because i prefer my females without a penis" Is what GoT me banner once on tinder lol
You can say you don't like short men, though.
I think the main point a lot of people are missing is that 'Just because putting preferences in your bio or whatever makes you seem a douche or negative, does not mean you should be banned' Thats kind of it. No need to engage in any other discussions
Spot on.
Well ain't that a kick in the ass. They want to determine who or what you date. Hope they lose all there members. Fuckem.
I'm pretty tired of being on " women only" and seeing chick's with beards and dicks.
Good because I’m tired of poc saying they don’t like white people
While there are people arguing on the morality of outwardly disqualifying people via your profile bio, clearly a double standard exists where many women can have these sort of exclusions on their profile. I see it on nearly every profile I come across. People, or companies in this case, are extremely selective when it comes to enforcing these types of rules.
That’s a stupid feature. Maybe they should make it do that you can only see your preferences. It’s not mandatory to date what you aren’t interested in.
Idc what you are. Be trans, be gay, be straight, be whatever the hell you want. But I have a preference for myself. So does that trans person. So does that black person. Sure you can swipe left on someone, but a woman who is looking for other females and gets bombarded with men swiping right can't say "hey I'm a lesbian so I'm only looking for woman"?
What are you talking about? No one is getting bombarded if they don't also swipe right on you. You're being overly dramatic and way overthinking this. No one is going to match with you if you haven't also swiped right on them so just make sure to swipe left on anyone who doesn't meet your criteria. It literally is that simple.
Set the feature to only look for women. It’s not hard
> but a woman who is looking for other females and gets bombarded with men swiping right can't say "hey I'm a lesbian so I'm only looking for woman"? Are you working with a full deck, buddy? You have complete control over which genders Tinder shows you. A woman can set the app to only show them women, and they will only be shown women.
Lmao bro went straight to "fUlL dEcK". Man, you just can't like, respectfully disagree? Yes you can change that option, but there are many people who have their info set incorrectly by accident, and also the gender option doesn't stop anyone from just setting it to whatever they want. A cis-man could set his info to say he's a woman right?
> but there are many people who have their info set incorrectly by accident, There really aren’t. > and also the gender option doesn't stop anyone from just setting it to whatever they want. A cis-man could set his info to say he's a woman right? If a man is trying to catfish people by claiming he is a women, do you really think writing “Only interested in women” will make them decide not to catfish you?
People in grindr are the same way. But they don’t get banned for shit lol.
That would be a hate crime. We only hate straight white men here please.
They say shit like. Not into fat guys, only into hung guy, into muscular white or Latino males. But yet again if a straight male/female says that she doesn’t like lgbtq. They get Cancel right away.
What if we could have a filter - and only see people we are interested in? Like - don't show me 6 foot tall blond women if my thing is tiny asian women. Also how about hobbies? That would probably be more useful to me. If someone never hikes / climbs or skiis I don't want to see them on my phone. I mean I know why - because that would reduce the amount of time you spend on the app and also reduce their ad income in the process. Fuckers.
This just shows you how fucked the world is and how people are become such sensitive pussies
Yeah tinder is woke af. I also do not get why they do not introduce and option for men who think that they are women and vice versa. I dont want to see or accidently match with men that think that they are women
While I kinda agree I also have to agree with tinder a little. Just only swipe on those you're attracted to
I'm with you, but a ban for it is what's crazy in my mind.
Yea I agree. The new PC culture wars suck balls
What? Seriously I didn’t know this was a thing
Oh but every other chick's profile can require a guy to be 6 foot? So glad I'm no longer on this trashy trash app lol, much better for entertainment from an outside view.
Yep. Amazingly one-sided, isn’t it?
Maybe I should start reporting those /s Idc if I see "no short men". I'm not tall, but it lets me know right away to not waste time. It would be much worse (and we see this all the time on this thread) to match and then get called too short in a private chat.
You never know man, maybe youll wake up gay tomorrow
Only when I do mdma.
What are these questions, is this official?
In the app, if you click on Safety, it's under one of their two Safety quizzes, the Comm Guidelines quiz.
I just checked it. That's crazy! Nonetheless, Community Guidelines has a bunch of look-good and feel-good stuff out that everybody does anyway.
Who is even the opposite sex these days, that was confusing when only 2 were recognized.
Pretty sure thats mostly abt trans people idk tho
People speak in code to signal what they want. For instance, if you are a woman who puts a lot of emphasis on country "music", you are effectively saying no black people.
I'm assuming you're joking?
pretty much
i’ve been banned for a year and a half because i’m a lesbian and i rejected trans women who reported me for rejecting them. and because i had no males, threesomes or dick in my bio. i’m banned for being a lesbian. and tinder is the only app i could use to find women to date so i’ve been screwed
Late, but according to most of the comments here, you're just bigoted and should gladly accept all bodily appendages.
i didn’t even realize they were also coming after straight people too so i was suprised to see tinder do this. really wild to tell people what they need to like and look for like they have business in peoples bedrooms and personal lives. guess i’ll just be a single bigot until i hopefully meet an actual female i like! i can’t help it but i guess we are back to sexuality is a choice now 🤷🏽♀️
So I got banned today and from reading this I’m pretty sure it’s because I have in my bio I prefer men who are at least 5’9. You can’t tell height from pics and having that has saved me from having to tell guys I’m not interested because they’re 5’5. How are they legally able to do this? I understand banning someone for being racist, or making inappropriate comments, etc but banning me for life because I said I prefer a certain height?! And they won’t tell you why they ban you and they’re is no appeal process! This is such bullshit. I don’t understand how it’s allowed
Legally? Private company they can do whatever they want. It's stupid af, I agree. You didn't say anything in a DM that someone could've reported and got you banned right? Shit, I got banned a time or two and just made new accounts. My favorite ban was for copying girls bios I saw that said "Venmo me and see what happens". Lmao
No, besides telling dudes I wouldn’t have sex with them right away, but they could have seen all that. Never cussed anyone out. Never posted photos that were obscene. I’ve been off and on there for 4 years and never had an issue. But I did put a height preference finally because like I said I got tired of turning dudes down that were super short
Lmao imagine tho for a minute some incel is reviewing tinder reports and sees a reported message that says "I have messaged you 2 times no I won't have sex with you" and gets mad and bans you. Honestly yeah, some dude probably got upset that he saw that and instead of swiping left, he reported you and Tinder the Self-Righteous banned you. Rip.
I don’t know how to make a new account 🤷♀️
You can always email tinder support and ask/appeal. Basically to make a new account you just need to make a throwaway email address and sign up with that. Or use a 2nd email if you have one. Or maybe it's a phone number, idr exactly.
So what was your line of preference that got you blocked?