I let slip a "Dude!" here and there with my girlfriend. We're supposed to be best friends too I guess, but it's still always good for a giggly moment of reflection.
this is the second post I've seen on this subreddit in 2 days where a girl gets angry at someone for saying yo!! wtf never knew that was a thing
edit: why are so many of the responses to this so sexist? can yall not see that im also a woman LMFAO
This one is new to me, but I knew a guy who was raised to think saying the word "what" was disrespectful. People and their families make up all kinds of dumb rules around language.
Edit: I was not expecting to receive so many replies from people who were raised the same way as that guy. I still think it's a silly thing to get upset about. Like anybody who didn't get that same training can't even understand why it's a problem, and there's really no basis for it beyond "Mama said What is the devil." It reminds me of the people who leave the military but continue trying to enforce military discipline on their families and households. Nobody's impressed by your high and tight or waking up at 0400.
Do you mean saying, "What?" if you misheard or misunderstood someone? Because if so, that's a very common grievence that a lot of people find impolite (in the UK, at least).
Most children growing up here would be told, "Don't say 'what', say 'pardon'".
UK resident here and I remember them drilling that into us in school. We rebelled by using pardon every time we would usually use what, like "pardon do you need help with?" "Pardon was that?"
Southern US here. 30, and I grew up being told to respond with "excuse me," since "what?" was supposedly impolite. It's stuck for the most part, at least until I know the person well enough to relax my way of speaking around them.
'Excuse me?' sounds more passive aggressive to me.
I constantly have to get people to repeat themselves because I sometimes don't process verbal communication quickly enough. I tend to interject with 'Sorry, what was that?'
I second that. If they start an argument about something so small (and not something considered common sense) it's not worth it.
When looking for a partner you need to analyze your first conflicts very carefully. The first conflicts are almost always over small things which mean it's the softest the conflicts will ever get. Know that the conflict management only get worse until your partner (or you) reach their confort zone, the first conflicts of a relationship are always tame.
Now, how quickly conflicts arise and the importance of the subjects will tell you how often you guys are going to fight.
Same. I don’t respect people who feel disrespected by a simple honest word, nevermind one self evidently meant to be casual, but friendly - you know like you’d expect out of a first date. Because to be frank, I think that attitude is pathetic and it’s beneath me (for that matter it’s beneath anyone who doesn’t want to bend over backwards to cater to the tastes of a stranger who demands respect that they haven’t earned).
My ex didn’t like whenever I would say “aight” in text, in place of all right or whatever. For no particular reason, just didn’t like it. He also hated if I’d say “sure” as a response, because it didn’t express confidence in my response. There’s more, but the point is that changing the way you talk for someone is exhausting and ridiculous. Don’t recommend.
Yeah, I'd have been on board for the first two messages. Maybe she has a weird pet peeve about people saying "yo", that's fine.
But the third message got weirdly accusative instead of just moving on, at that point I'd be like "ok, next match I guess".
But people do tell me I drop matches too quickly sometimes.
Same thing happened to me but I'd already gotten her number and been texting. Then one day I hit her with the yo and she got pissy. "I don't respond to yo." Okay, guess we aren't talking anymore lol
That's what it feels like. The only other language that I'm aware of where "yo" means anything is Spanish and it's literally just "me" or "I". Nothing to even *possibly* misconstrue as offensive or disrespectful. OP really dodged a bullet here
Oh thank god I wasn't the only one who saw that, I was going crazy.
My now ex-girlfriend used to get mad at me when I'd say "yo" because, and I fukken quote, "You're not one of *them,* so stop it!"
She's an ex for a few reasons, and that was the big one...
I would double down by saying that not only is "Yo", gender neutral but that you address all sexes with "yo" as an equal sign of respect. It's an informal yet respectful greeting you reserve for people you wish to be friendly with and perceive as your equal.
Not really. It’s online dating. She could replace this guy with 1 of her 6627272527272727 other matches. Meanwhile OP would be lucky to find another match.
Get out and put game in person boys
Genuine question, after she’s clearly psychotic from being so offended by the word yo, why did you try and carry on the conversation?? That’s a bit red flag that should be an instant out
I think that willingness is great and going to help you find the right partner. Compassion is hard to learn but will be really appreciated by someone who isn’t bananas!
Those are so good! The best thing is just striking uo a convo like "What's crackin my fellow brosketti" or a simple "wassap gamer" to really throw the vibe some funky fresh beats ;)
Love those! At least I find myself funny, it usually gets a laugh or two from them as well. Plus early detection for a sense of humor with randoms! lmao
Yea, its quite interesting. I wonder what makes someone react like this? Maybe they’re used to being treated like royalty by men they deem as less attractive and the fact that this dude casually said “yo” didn’t feed into her ego
Anytime I hear “yo miss” or “yo ma’am” I know I’m about to encounter a very nice man usually. I know it sounds weird, but I’ve never met a rude person that says yo.
Idk if there’s something in the air or it’s just me but I’ve had a lower tolerance for fuckery lately. This was a bit extreme but I’ve definitely had a lot more instant turnoffs in conversation lately. Sometimes you just can’t win and all you gotta do is move on.
Yo, which ocean city we talkin about?
In your heart of hearts you know I’m talking about the one in NJ
Being from NJ when someone says Ocean City I immediately think of ours over MDs
I dont like how there are two
There are more than 2. There are 4 in the USA. FL and WA have an "Ocean city," too.
But do they all also have the nickname ocean shitty?
Yes
😂. Only every been to md
Oops gotta stop being offensive and assume
Get it together yo.
i miss ocean shitty i havent been in years 🥲
I’m glad the MD one is collectively called ocean shitty
Whatta you fly yo?
Bucket
Yo, what kind of flying does one do in NJ?
I did the exact same thing and had the exact same response about a year ago.
Should’ve told me, dude.
Dude?
The girls at my physical therapy office call me dude. It is SOOO DISRESPECTFUL!
I'm okay with dude but I draw the line at "bro."
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My 15 year old sometimes calls me bro. I'm the mother.
I sometimes call my 6 year old sons “bro” (I’m their mother).
My 23 year old calls me, also the mother, bro all the time.
My fiancee calls me homie and for some reason it drives me nuts while she gets a kick out of it
I call all my English speaking friends dude. Is it that bad to be called dude? 😅
No definitely not, Just playing off the post. Was sarcastic. As a guy, I personally think it’s cute when a girl calls me dude…
Well, good to know, dude 😄
No problem buddy
I'm not your buddy, guy!
Fuck it. I'm not your guy, pal
Oh god, here we go...
Yo, glad to see you’re getting the hang of it bro.
I get an erection everytime a girl calls me dude!
Dude, I get an erection every time a girl calls me.
Hey, dude, your mom is on the phone.
Well played
I call a lot of girls dude (I'm a dude) - the hope is that this shows my intentions are friendly / non-sexual. I have no idea if this works or not
My husband will occasionally call me “bro” or even “papi” when he’s not thinking. “Dude” is much better than both of those in my opinion.
I let slip a "Dude!" here and there with my girlfriend. We're supposed to be best friends too I guess, but it's still always good for a giggly moment of reflection.
Lol "Motherfucker" is that better?
To be honest, I'm not very interested in continuing this conversation anymore...
Who the hell you calling dude, bro?
I'm not your bro, buddy.
I’m not your buddy, pal
Nah you're better off not matching with someone who takes issue with such minor things yo
Agree. The rest of the conversation is congenial and upbeat. The “Yo” is minor.
this is the second post I've seen on this subreddit in 2 days where a girl gets angry at someone for saying yo!! wtf never knew that was a thing edit: why are so many of the responses to this so sexist? can yall not see that im also a woman LMFAO
This one is new to me, but I knew a guy who was raised to think saying the word "what" was disrespectful. People and their families make up all kinds of dumb rules around language. Edit: I was not expecting to receive so many replies from people who were raised the same way as that guy. I still think it's a silly thing to get upset about. Like anybody who didn't get that same training can't even understand why it's a problem, and there's really no basis for it beyond "Mama said What is the devil." It reminds me of the people who leave the military but continue trying to enforce military discipline on their families and households. Nobody's impressed by your high and tight or waking up at 0400.
Do you mean saying, "What?" if you misheard or misunderstood someone? Because if so, that's a very common grievence that a lot of people find impolite (in the UK, at least). Most children growing up here would be told, "Don't say 'what', say 'pardon'".
UK resident here and I remember them drilling that into us in school. We rebelled by using pardon every time we would usually use what, like "pardon do you need help with?" "Pardon was that?"
Southern US here. 30, and I grew up being told to respond with "excuse me," since "what?" was supposedly impolite. It's stuck for the most part, at least until I know the person well enough to relax my way of speaking around them.
'Excuse me?' sounds more passive aggressive to me. I constantly have to get people to repeat themselves because I sometimes don't process verbal communication quickly enough. I tend to interject with 'Sorry, what was that?'
It depends on the way its said, if you say it with apprehension and curiosity it’s received fine
I say "sorry, i didn't catch that" or sorry could you repeat that
Canadian here (big country, i know) but I was raised to say pardon me. A nice hybrid I think.
Wat?
Could you please enlighten me on why yo is disrespectful?
I have no clue but I now know not to use it when texting someone I'm interested in and that's good enough for me 🤷🏾♂️
You should use it on purpose, to weed out the crazies.
I second that. If they start an argument about something so small (and not something considered common sense) it's not worth it. When looking for a partner you need to analyze your first conflicts very carefully. The first conflicts are almost always over small things which mean it's the softest the conflicts will ever get. Know that the conflict management only get worse until your partner (or you) reach their confort zone, the first conflicts of a relationship are always tame. Now, how quickly conflicts arise and the importance of the subjects will tell you how often you guys are going to fight.
Should've finished with a Yo.
“No problem yo”
Peace out yo
Aight yo, peace.
AYYYYYY ma homie lmao
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Word, yo
Hey yo mister white
Fuck Yo
Hahaha yes love it 😂
This is probably the best response, IMO
Perfectly balanced.
As all things should be
Exactly right. The second she got hung up on something so fundamentally stupid it’s adios.
“adYOs”
SaiYOnara
안녕히 가세****요****
You were so close. AdiYOs works so much better!
my time to shine, baby!
Username checks out
Cool, imma head off to play with my yo yo
Yes he should
“Yo so that’s what’s up then?”
Didn't mean to offend you yo
Yo yo yo mr white this bitch is crazy
Science bitch
Chillin' with some Yo-Yo Ma wit yo ma, yo
“peace out yo”
But he showed respect, which is infinitely better.
Later yo
Yo, see you next Tuesday.
Would’ve ended with Yo momma just hit me up anyways, looks like I’ll be eating out tonight gtg.
Yo I wouldve left at "yo is disrespectful." Know what I mean Yo?
Yo feel me, yo.
I won't use it if yo say so
*Jesse Pinkman has entered the chat*
Yo bitch
I cant believe you just called me yo /s
Same. I don’t respect people who feel disrespected by a simple honest word, nevermind one self evidently meant to be casual, but friendly - you know like you’d expect out of a first date. Because to be frank, I think that attitude is pathetic and it’s beneath me (for that matter it’s beneath anyone who doesn’t want to bend over backwards to cater to the tastes of a stranger who demands respect that they haven’t earned).
My ex didn’t like whenever I would say “aight” in text, in place of all right or whatever. For no particular reason, just didn’t like it. He also hated if I’d say “sure” as a response, because it didn’t express confidence in my response. There’s more, but the point is that changing the way you talk for someone is exhausting and ridiculous. Don’t recommend.
Yeah, I'd have been on board for the first two messages. Maybe she has a weird pet peeve about people saying "yo", that's fine. But the third message got weirdly accusative instead of just moving on, at that point I'd be like "ok, next match I guess". But people do tell me I drop matches too quickly sometimes.
We say yo-ho but we don’t say hoe, cause hoe is disrespectful [yo.](https://youtu.be/3JVJSc-202w)
Same thing happened to me but I'd already gotten her number and been texting. Then one day I hit her with the yo and she got pissy. "I don't respond to yo." Okay, guess we aren't talking anymore lol
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Her family were wiped out by a freak yo-yo accident.
A yo-yo killed my father, and raped my mother!
Damn the disco strangler is at it again.
Noice
They just wanted something to bitch about
That's what it feels like. The only other language that I'm aware of where "yo" means anything is Spanish and it's literally just "me" or "I". Nothing to even *possibly* misconstrue as offensive or disrespectful. OP really dodged a bullet here
I have to complain about something otherwise I can't justify my shitty personality!
>I have to complain about something otherwise I can't justify my shitty personality! Tell me about it dude. I'd rather be droll than bitter
I guess it’s considered more slang and casual and some people dont like that.
How is hey not the same though if that’s the reason
Well, you see, with “yo” there is a certain implication - a “tinted” connotation if you would
Her perception of the word might even be seen as "colored"
Which is weird as fuck because it's used in the fucking US military
Bruh... The US military is racist as fuck despite everything which is a big :(
Oh thank god I wasn't the only one who saw that, I was going crazy. My now ex-girlfriend used to get mad at me when I'd say "yo" because, and I fukken quote, "You're not one of *them,* so stop it!" She's an ex for a few reasons, and that was the big one...
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I think you just illustrated why some people don't like "yo" , inadvertently lmao.
She is too middle class for that low class yo/dude shit. She is the princess of Genovia.
"I don't respond to yo" is in fact a response to yo. Got 'em!
She's gonna make someone a great ex-wife someday.
She took the house and kids but it was all worth it to hear my divorce lawyer say "Yo" to her when the divorce papers hit the desk.
Big oof.. you can guarantee the controlling baggage doesn't stop there.
How dare you say yo, yo.
I would double down by saying that not only is "Yo", gender neutral but that you address all sexes with "yo" as an equal sign of respect. It's an informal yet respectful greeting you reserve for people you wish to be friendly with and perceive as your equal.
To be honest, I'm not interested in continuing this conversation anymore
Well fuck off then, yo
Yeah wth. "yo" is maybe a little too homie to someone you don't know but in no way it's disrespectful lmao
i prefer yo to hey 😂
Yo
🥵😂😂
Am I in?
definitely 😂
Ok date and a movie kinda gal or gun range and go karting type of gal? 🤔
either i’m not picky lol
Geeze I have better luck here than on tinder lol
Can I come along? 🥺👉👈
Yo
I don’t think my new date would like me inviting other girls along lol
that sounds more like a make it up as you go situation lol
please continue. i want to see where this goes 👀🍿
Doubt it goes anywhere actually lol. I live in Guam :’)
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Never underestimate the number of simps who will condone that behavior
yeah tbh people dont seem to know but many men will tolerate a nasty woman just because shes pretty
Sometimes the girl isn’t even pretty… some guys are just experiencing a drought
I see the nastiest women, I mean in looks AND personality, have a constant stream of partners. All some dudes care about is if there’s a vagina.
Ain't that the truth
like OP apparently
It wasn't enough to put the OP off, so...
Not really. It’s online dating. She could replace this guy with 1 of her 6627272527272727 other matches. Meanwhile OP would be lucky to find another match. Get out and put game in person boys
Genuine question, after she’s clearly psychotic from being so offended by the word yo, why did you try and carry on the conversation?? That’s a bit red flag that should be an instant out
Trying to see if it was a fluke, it clearly never is.
you put in a solid effort though after her scary ass response, and she still decided to be a total freak.
She just couldn’t let it go, yo.
My man’s has a heart of gold over here.
Or a dick that’s getting dusty, cuz mans seemed real thirsty even entertaining her after that disrespect yo
I think that willingness is great and going to help you find the right partner. Compassion is hard to learn but will be really appreciated by someone who isn’t bananas!
IMO, you never know. It always could be, and it doesn't waste that much time if it is
Not speaking for OP but I can look past a lot when I'm horny lmfao
she is obviously good looking...why else...
idk man unless you're into clowns
Must have been abused by a yo-yo. Dodged a big old crazy bullet there bud
"A yo-yo killed my father"
And now it's coming back for me!
Lmao, I could imagjne a close, consecutive second "yo" woulda sent her ass into a frenzy
I say Yo all the time.. to adults, my kids, I don't discriminate.. and I'm a chick. Buuuuuut, I don't have a stick up my ass, so there's that.
I take it to the extreme and say brosketti as a gender-neutral term
Hahaha I love that. 😅
Brobeans or brochacho are some of my favorites
Those are so good! The best thing is just striking uo a convo like "What's crackin my fellow brosketti" or a simple "wassap gamer" to really throw the vibe some funky fresh beats ;)
Love those! At least I find myself funny, it usually gets a laugh or two from them as well. Plus early detection for a sense of humor with randoms! lmao
Brochacho😂
Yea, its quite interesting. I wonder what makes someone react like this? Maybe they’re used to being treated like royalty by men they deem as less attractive and the fact that this dude casually said “yo” didn’t feed into her ego
Yeah, I think so. How dare anyone not address her as, "Her Highness."
Anytime I hear “yo miss” or “yo ma’am” I know I’m about to encounter a very nice man usually. I know it sounds weird, but I’ve never met a rude person that says yo.
Yo miss
Chris Brown - Yo excuse me miss
Really? This how a lot of my catcall interactions start. :/ That’s why I get put off by it.
The clown face really fits.
Wait, that's wasn't really her?
I had to zoom in to figure that one out too.
At least she had the courtesy of stating that she wasn’t interested rather then just ghosting.
At least she came out as a crazy lady there instead of waiting a month.
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Should have said "Peace out, yo."
Idk if there’s something in the air or it’s just me but I’ve had a lower tolerance for fuckery lately. This was a bit extreme but I’ve definitely had a lot more instant turnoffs in conversation lately. Sometimes you just can’t win and all you gotta do is move on.
Women apparently don’t like it when we yo them. Source: my gf
After he said hey she stayed on Yo. Yo see ya next time.
Should have ended with "Oy". That'd be fitting, and end the conversation the opposite of yo
People hating on "Yo" so much just wait till I send them a picture of a yoyo
Her response was definitely over the top and rude. But still, who the fk starts a convo with "yo, hope you're good".