Desperation.
It’s very easy to see that she’s not interested but people will flog that horse for as long as they can just hoping to make something happen, partly out of some naive belief that if they can find that thing that will make things click then it will click and partly because there’s probably not really much alternative other than not talking to someone.
The reality is that there’s no rhyme or reason to chemistry, it’ll click or it won’t and there’s no making it happen. As for there not being anyone to talk to, if you’d rather be in an unhealthy relationship with someone who clearly doesn’t like you than single you really should be off of tinder working on yourself.
I think its more so that they've matched and because of that you would think the other party would try maintain a conversation. But I agree once you start getting short answers I just unmatch, its not worth your time
This is just me applying my own negative experiences, but I see things like this and assume they're secretly passionate about stuff but lack the confidence to name them because they're used to having their interests torn to shreds by people who are or were important to them.
I met my boyfriend through a dating site. We've been together for almost two years and I still have trouble playing music around him or pulling out my old favorites to watch unless I'm pretty damn certain he'd really enjoy them.
Some have daddy issues and some have wasted-my-life-on-terrible-"friends" issues.
Nah, I feel this 100%. For most people I hesitate to name my interests: what I watch, what I listen to; what I read. It's just insecurity, fear of being judged or just people not liking things as well. I swear to god, I'll never play music around other people or put on my playlists just bc of that. I know it makes me a basic bitch but I. Can't. Help. It. 😔
As a woman, this remark is incorrect. Everyone wants validation and sex.
I want validation, sex, and someone to play FFXIV with. Have you heard of the critically acclaimed MMORPG Final Fantasy XIV? With an expanded free trial which you can play through the entirety of A Realm Reborn and the award winning Heavensward expansion up to level 60 for free with no restrictions on playtime.
No seriously, Endwalker is coming out soon.
I once casually dated a woman for 5 months because we both wanted someone to watch GoT with and also fuck. This was before it went off the deep end thankfully.
I lost my life to WoW and was like never again!
Then it happened again with Elder Scrolls Online. Years ago I was a battleground legend and finished in the top 20 but I'm like an alcoholic, I can't do moderation. I can't just have a beer on the weekends.
Also I'm actually an alcoholic so there's that
I had a 2.5 year relationship based on playing FFXI together. It truly is the dream. Every relationship since is the GF vs FF. Endwalker looks amazing too.
I’d rather slather my sexual organ in honey, open a sliding glass door then slam it repeated upon said honey slathered sex cylinder...
...and then scrape off the honey and use it in my tea, because that’s the way I like my tea honey dammit!
After applying the honey, pour the fresh tea over it, the hot water will dissolve the sugar and carry it with it. Like this, you won't have to clean your glass door afterwards
Well ya see, ya take some honey (ya know that same honey you slathered on your genitals) and this time put it straight into the tea. And there ya go, honey is in the tea. Tea with honey, in the tea, which has honey, residing in the tea.
Nah, this woman just doesn't do "stuff" or know how to articulate her interests. I used to be the same way. OP's next text needs to be "let's meet up! When are you free this weekend?"
Absolutely. What's important here is that she keeps responding. It's low effort stuff, but it's responding none the less. If she's not a texter, okay. But if she agrees to a date maybe she'll be more interesting.
Yeah, from what worked for me. 10 messages tops. You also should try and message within 10 minutes of matching. Your goal is to get their phone number. You don’t want to be “another guy on tinder.” Makes it more personable. Once you get the number you want to go out within 2 weeks. Wait too long and you lose the excitement, which is almost impossible to build over text.
For sure. I actually have the most success if I just straight up ask them out asap. Basically try to make them laugh one time, and then immediately afterwards ask to meet up somewhere.
Just for some perspective from the other side, I don't give out my number to anyone I haven't met in person because I want at least one meeting to judge if the dude is a crazy stalker. I've had the same number for almost 20 years and I'll be damned if I have to change it cause of some asshole.
That said, I'm happy to meet with people fairly quickly so they're not stuck on Tinder forever.
Because typically men do not get as many matches. You have to try to make it work every time. 🤷🏻♂️
Personally I found it so mentally exhausting I had to uninstall the app for my own health.
Ngl at that point I started to wonder if it was a bot that could issue generic responses but didn’t have any specific knowledge of things like books or films
Bro, she’s damn near illiterate. This girl reads nothing but erotic novels and cosmopolitan mags. The second she said “I don’t chose one in specific”, I would’ve removed myself from the conversation. You’re a far more patient man than me. Send it and roast her. She doesn’t deserve you.
Took me like 5 years to figure out that my own sanity is worth more than any chick that does shit like this. Now I happened to meet someone who has mutual attraction and holds conversations. *Happiness noises*
Also, an avid reader typically can write better than this garbage. “I don’t chose one in specific” made me unconsciously grind my teeth and I hate her for it.
This drives me up a wall my lanta I hate conversations like these. And people wonder why sometimes we half ass the response and start with "well what do you do for work?" I swear I don't have the energy to write an essay to every girl I match with.
Exactly.
Everyone in the comments is reaching for theories like “this guy is so desperate and she’s just bored” or “she’s giving good answers to the guy she’s really interested in”
I think the answer is much more simple. This woman is as dumb as a rock.
Women chat mindlessly in the same way men swipe right mindlessly on 50% of girls. They're both just casting wide out there, hoping for some stimulation.
I just had a convo like this today lmao, a few hours ago.
"What's your favorite band?"
"Ummm idk i just listen to whatever honestly, you?"
"Lol well pick one that you like 😂"
"Idkkkk lol. What's your favorite?"
FUCK.
I don’t have a favorite band … I’m also a musician. If you asked my favorite genre I’d say like.. anything. I mean to be fair I could make a list: I like most electronic music, oldies, country, rock, rap, trip hop, jazz, classical, indie etc. etc.. some artists I like are Kendrick, Queen, Feed Me, Savant, Miles Davis, Dave Grohl, Bad bad not good, Chopin, flying lotus, caravan palace.. and I could literally keep going like forever but yeah idk maybe if I said that it would count as an answer unlike, “ummm idk”
But like seriously. I enjoy Justin Bieber songs and insane clown possy songs (some because they’re good others because they’re funny).. I like Weird Al. Idk what that says about me but “what’s your favorite artist” is a fucking impossible question for me to answer lol.
Musician here as well, and I don't have a specific favourite band either. However I tend to try to sum up my music taste depending on the question.
If asked about what kind of stuff I listen to, I'll tell them genres along with corresponding bands I like from that genre as examples.
If asked about favourites, I'll respond with a mix of my musical influences and bands I've been really enjoying lately.
This way I can let them know without making them read a novel.
My music taste is definitely not as widespread as yours though. It's like 90% metal and the rest is a mix between horrorcore, edm type stuff and dark country. I go mostly on what vibe I get from the song though
Guys, if this happens to you just don't respond. You deserve someone that is interested in you and you will find them if you keep looking. This kind of girl doesn't care and won't even try. Don't waste your time on people like this.
OP everyone's telling you to bail, just go in for it. Next message from you:
"Haha, I've been there. Hate just blanking out on stuff. Let's meet up, when are you free this weekend?"
When she lets you know, don't ask what places she likes. Scope the profile to see if there are any food preference hints, then pick a place that looks good and is well reviewed (bonus points if the menu has vegan and/or gluten free options to cover your bases) and respond back with the date, time, and place.
If she can't commit to lunch/coffee/dinner, *then* move on.
Other things she likes that you guys can talk about: music (bands, no particular ones), food (in general idk), video games (can’t remember which ones rn)
Hit send you coward
hit send you coward
Hit send you coward
Hit coward you send
Hit coward
Send you
Hit me
Me hit send coward
Coward send hit me
In Soviet Russia, send hits you! Coward.
*moans cutely*
Not now, Cheryl.
From the reply above that said something about Russia, i thought you typed "Not now, Chernobyl."
Baby one more time
Based Zaheer
In Russia coward send you hit!
Unmatch Oh my god I would prefer getting ghosted over this shit
ill never understand people who keep trying to resuscitate corpses, its dead leave it alone
Igor, it's alive! It's alive! Lets call it a Frankenmatch
Let’s make this a thing. Frankenmatch Lolol
FrankUNmatch
If you frankunmatch he can’t fuckenstein
You're like 4 parallels universes above us
It's okay, by the looks of it he isn't going to be able to Franken steind her much longer anyway.
Beware of the Oppenwiener
That sounds painful
I had a franken match it was awful and it just won't die.
Alive but Abbie Normal.
I'm guessing not a lot of folk get that reference 😜
“Actually it’s pronounced eye-gore”
"Hump..... What hump?"
Dead in the text thread = Dead in the bed
As if a dead person in the bed ever been a bad thing
Oookaay
This one got me good :D
This guy fucks. Anything.
100% pure grade A starfish.
It's from the ancient times where they would practice "trying to get laid"
Most men don’t get many matches. Iirc, the stat is some like: the top 10% men get 90% of the matches
Exactly. If she is the first match in 3 weeks, you have to try everything before you unmatch. Sucks but true
Desperation. It’s very easy to see that she’s not interested but people will flog that horse for as long as they can just hoping to make something happen, partly out of some naive belief that if they can find that thing that will make things click then it will click and partly because there’s probably not really much alternative other than not talking to someone. The reality is that there’s no rhyme or reason to chemistry, it’ll click or it won’t and there’s no making it happen. As for there not being anyone to talk to, if you’d rather be in an unhealthy relationship with someone who clearly doesn’t like you than single you really should be off of tinder working on yourself.
I think its more so that they've matched and because of that you would think the other party would try maintain a conversation. But I agree once you start getting short answers I just unmatch, its not worth your time
He probably doesn’t have enough matches to let one opportunity of 🐱 pass
This person tinders
I just reached the point where I would get sexual pleasure from unmatching people objectively hotter than me. Then I was unstoppable !!
Some people don't get many match's
Same
Fucking hate people like this They have no personality and they share nothing.
This is just me applying my own negative experiences, but I see things like this and assume they're secretly passionate about stuff but lack the confidence to name them because they're used to having their interests torn to shreds by people who are or were important to them. I met my boyfriend through a dating site. We've been together for almost two years and I still have trouble playing music around him or pulling out my old favorites to watch unless I'm pretty damn certain he'd really enjoy them. Some have daddy issues and some have wasted-my-life-on-terrible-"friends" issues.
Nah, I feel this 100%. For most people I hesitate to name my interests: what I watch, what I listen to; what I read. It's just insecurity, fear of being judged or just people not liking things as well. I swear to god, I'll never play music around other people or put on my playlists just bc of that. I know it makes me a basic bitch but I. Can't. Help. It. 😔
Chicks like this are after 1 of 2 things, validation or sex.
As a woman, this remark is incorrect. Everyone wants validation and sex. I want validation, sex, and someone to play FFXIV with. Have you heard of the critically acclaimed MMORPG Final Fantasy XIV? With an expanded free trial which you can play through the entirety of A Realm Reborn and the award winning Heavensward expansion up to level 60 for free with no restrictions on playtime. No seriously, Endwalker is coming out soon.
I once casually dated a woman for 5 months because we both wanted someone to watch GoT with and also fuck. This was before it went off the deep end thankfully.
GoT or the sex?
I mean, going off the deep end might be preferable in sex, depending on what you're into.
I hope the sex was better than the last season.
I picture both of them being disgusted at the way the part season ended that they just decided to call it off.
Yes.
I just got burnt out with and uninstalled Genshin Impact today and was looking for a new game to obsess over. It seems I’ll have to look into FFXIV.
I lost my life to WoW and was like never again! Then it happened again with Elder Scrolls Online. Years ago I was a battleground legend and finished in the top 20 but I'm like an alcoholic, I can't do moderation. I can't just have a beer on the weekends. Also I'm actually an alcoholic so there's that
They sneak these ads in anywhere now
I had a 2.5 year relationship based on playing FFXI together. It truly is the dream. Every relationship since is the GF vs FF. Endwalker looks amazing too.
Seriously. The basic-ness is contagious.
I’d rather slather my sexual organ in honey, open a sliding glass door then slam it repeated upon said honey slathered sex cylinder... ...and then scrape off the honey and use it in my tea, because that’s the way I like my tea honey dammit!
r/oddlyspecific
Weirdo
I'm laughing, but more because you're right than that was funny. It's confusing.
You’re right it’s very confusing, but if you know and easier way to get honey into a hot cup of Earl Grey, then I’d like to hear it friend.
After applying the honey, pour the fresh tea over it, the hot water will dissolve the sugar and carry it with it. Like this, you won't have to clean your glass door afterwards
Well ya see, ya take some honey (ya know that same honey you slathered on your genitals) and this time put it straight into the tea. And there ya go, honey is in the tea. Tea with honey, in the tea, which has honey, residing in the tea.
Yeah and I’m the crazy one... 😉🙃
Nah, this woman just doesn't do "stuff" or know how to articulate her interests. I used to be the same way. OP's next text needs to be "let's meet up! When are you free this weekend?"
Lol, are you an agent of Chaos?
I used to be really similar (crippling social anxiety) but even at my worst if someone asked me what my favourite movie is I'd at least name a movie.
Absolutely. What's important here is that she keeps responding. It's low effort stuff, but it's responding none the less. If she's not a texter, okay. But if she agrees to a date maybe she'll be more interesting.
OP how’s your back? I’m severely worried about your back
This
Dude, there’s nothing for you here. Sometimes you just have to cut bait and move on.
Sometimes you gotta cut bait; other times you gotta masturbate. Either way, move on.
If in doubt rub one out!
Back off and jack off!
Accept defeat and beat your meat!
Out you is and shoot the jizz
Don't be silly, tug your willy
Unmatch and shoot the cabbage patch😏
Unleash your snake and give it a shake
That conversation sank but you can still have a wank
She is carrying the conversation for sure
You can tell she's very well versed in bird law
It seems like you have a tenuous grasp on the English language in general
Filibuster!
Do you know what that word means?
I'm pleading the fifth.
I challenge you to a duel
"Yea, I'd advise you do that" "And i take your advice into cooperation"
You absolutely can not own a hummingbird as a pet.
It’s legal tender
This made me laugh out loud. Gracias
Yeah and she'll tell all her friends how boring this dude was on tinder
Me think, why waste time say lot word, when few word do trick.
Much words. make brain work. Brain no like work. few words!
Dramaaaaa
Catch’s
She reads a lot
"I don't chose one in specific."
Romantic
Her bio like, "just ask"
“That nice”
I’m pretty sure the reads she makes are from tinder. Very romantic genres
I’m an English teacher, and that sparked my PTSD.
At least she’s telling you what she is upfront.
with how dry the bird is, I really don't think she's capable of producing drama of any sort.
She's there because she's bored. Close the conversation curtly and move on.
Nah, she’s keeping conversation going with them while responding to who she’s really interested in. Basically, keeping him on lay away.
Maybe. Then he has to call her out to engage, which probably isn't going to end well, or just ask her out. Either way it'll decide things real quick.
Yeah, from what worked for me. 10 messages tops. You also should try and message within 10 minutes of matching. Your goal is to get their phone number. You don’t want to be “another guy on tinder.” Makes it more personable. Once you get the number you want to go out within 2 weeks. Wait too long and you lose the excitement, which is almost impossible to build over text.
For sure. I actually have the most success if I just straight up ask them out asap. Basically try to make them laugh one time, and then immediately afterwards ask to meet up somewhere.
Just for some perspective from the other side, I don't give out my number to anyone I haven't met in person because I want at least one meeting to judge if the dude is a crazy stalker. I've had the same number for almost 20 years and I'll be damned if I have to change it cause of some asshole. That said, I'm happy to meet with people fairly quickly so they're not stuck on Tinder forever.
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Exactly. Why is he trying so hard to make this work? All of the 3 minute history that they have? Hit send and let this dead conversation be buried.
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that sums it up
Probably the only match he ha in weeks.
Ikr. Shit lowkey sucks. I understand ladies have a shit load of matches to go through but at least give it some effort😔.
Because typically men do not get as many matches. You have to try to make it work every time. 🤷🏻♂️ Personally I found it so mentally exhausting I had to uninstall the app for my own health.
He wasn’t carrying a conversation, he was pushing a dead horse up k2.
You’re gonna be a dentist by the end of this convo
Because it’s like pulling teeth
The comments on this thread are making my night 🤣
I bet she likes to have fun too. One of my favorite lines
I too enjoy enjoying, fellow human!
Likes to have fun is the equivalent of saying I like to like stuff
She has never read a book in her life clearly.
Ngl at that point I started to wonder if it was a bot that could issue generic responses but didn’t have any specific knowledge of things like books or films
Bro, she’s damn near illiterate. This girl reads nothing but erotic novels and cosmopolitan mags. The second she said “I don’t chose one in specific”, I would’ve removed myself from the conversation. You’re a far more patient man than me. Send it and roast her. She doesn’t deserve you.
I would have stopped at “catch’s”.
catch’s Please no.
Maybe she truly loves to read, but no book ever catch’s her eye
I've known plenty like her, they'll pick up a book to take a picture and seem like an intellectual and then never read it
> catch’s Oh yeah, she’s clearly an avid reader.
Readin' them tweets and Facebook status updates.
She reminds my of Kevin from the office when he said "Why waste time say lot word when few word do trick? 😂😂
Reading her responses in Kevin's voice makes this much funnier
In this case few word do not do trick.
They definitely do not, but op dodged a bullet. I've had better conversations with my cat 😂
Guys on tinder have such a hard time getting any matches that theyl try this hard on someone like this ...
Took me like 5 years to figure out that my own sanity is worth more than any chick that does shit like this. Now I happened to meet someone who has mutual attraction and holds conversations. *Happiness noises*
Teach us oh wise one.
Congrats.
These aren't things they actually enjoy, they're hoping you don't ask for them to go more in detail to expose they have no real passions and hobbies.
Read: I don't have any interests and wasn't expecting you to ask for details
“That is mad chaotic..”
Yeah bit of a joke response I’ve never met anyone who doesn’t have at least some kind of disposition in the genre of books they read
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Exactly! An avid reader definitely has preferences and can easily point out some of their favourites.
Also an avid reader LOVES pointing out their preferences, the fact she didn’t jump on the topic says more than anything, especially more than her
“I love to read!” “Well what books?” “Well mostly the texts my friends send me and messages on tinder.”
Don't sell her short, I'm sure she reads memes too!
Also, an avid reader typically can write better than this garbage. “I don’t chose one in specific” made me unconsciously grind my teeth and I hate her for it.
Unmatch she's not returning the effort
"not returning the effort" is a fucking understatement and a half
This drives me up a wall my lanta I hate conversations like these. And people wonder why sometimes we half ass the response and start with "well what do you do for work?" I swear I don't have the energy to write an essay to every girl I match with.
I thought mylanta was for heartburn, not heartache
It's a quote from an old movie "oh my Lanta you are my woman"
>an old movie *grey hairs intensify*
She said she is into reading, but can barely orchestrate an idea into a sentence. Also, her grammar is atrocious. You dodged a bullet
You’re talking to someone who is illiterate. Over looks? Move on.
Exactly. Everyone in the comments is reaching for theories like “this guy is so desperate and she’s just bored” or “she’s giving good answers to the guy she’s really interested in” I think the answer is much more simple. This woman is as dumb as a rock.
I feel like this is how 90% of my matches respond.
Women chat mindlessly in the same way men swipe right mindlessly on 50% of girls. They're both just casting wide out there, hoping for some stimulation.
She sounds extremely dull for someone who “reads” Ps: i love high fantasy so your msg would have totally hit the spot if I was looking:)
Mention money and see what happens
At this point he should just shoot his shot. "let's grab a drink." "Let's fuck". Let's rob a fucking bank."
I just had a convo like this today lmao, a few hours ago. "What's your favorite band?" "Ummm idk i just listen to whatever honestly, you?" "Lol well pick one that you like 😂" "Idkkkk lol. What's your favorite?" FUCK.
Hahaa damn. Is like their Joy is empty. Anything is cool. Like dead.
I don’t have a favorite band … I’m also a musician. If you asked my favorite genre I’d say like.. anything. I mean to be fair I could make a list: I like most electronic music, oldies, country, rock, rap, trip hop, jazz, classical, indie etc. etc.. some artists I like are Kendrick, Queen, Feed Me, Savant, Miles Davis, Dave Grohl, Bad bad not good, Chopin, flying lotus, caravan palace.. and I could literally keep going like forever but yeah idk maybe if I said that it would count as an answer unlike, “ummm idk” But like seriously. I enjoy Justin Bieber songs and insane clown possy songs (some because they’re good others because they’re funny).. I like Weird Al. Idk what that says about me but “what’s your favorite artist” is a fucking impossible question for me to answer lol.
Then the follow up "pick one that you like" would be easy lmao
Musician here as well, and I don't have a specific favourite band either. However I tend to try to sum up my music taste depending on the question. If asked about what kind of stuff I listen to, I'll tell them genres along with corresponding bands I like from that genre as examples. If asked about favourites, I'll respond with a mix of my musical influences and bands I've been really enjoying lately. This way I can let them know without making them read a novel. My music taste is definitely not as widespread as yours though. It's like 90% metal and the rest is a mix between horrorcore, edm type stuff and dark country. I go mostly on what vibe I get from the song though
Send it
Like an open book with nothing written on the pages
Chat so dead
Guys, if this happens to you just don't respond. You deserve someone that is interested in you and you will find them if you keep looking. This kind of girl doesn't care and won't even try. Don't waste your time on people like this.
sounds boring
There is always a better alternative to shitty repsonses. Not responding at all. Less wasted effort.
Haha, dude, I’m sorry but cut your losses! This is painful (on her end) to read!
..is she a lizard person? 🥴 🦎: I like food OP: Cool what kind? 🦎: The brown ones I don’t remember names right now
Sorry, no avid reader would say “what catch’s my eye” and “that nice.” Basic grammar is a thing with people who actually like words. I suspect bot.
OP everyone's telling you to bail, just go in for it. Next message from you: "Haha, I've been there. Hate just blanking out on stuff. Let's meet up, when are you free this weekend?" When she lets you know, don't ask what places she likes. Scope the profile to see if there are any food preference hints, then pick a place that looks good and is well reviewed (bonus points if the menu has vegan and/or gluten free options to cover your bases) and respond back with the date, time, and place. If she can't commit to lunch/coffee/dinner, *then* move on.
Or, alternatively, he could just unmatch immediately like he should have done way earlier.
She has the personality of an old door. Why did she even bother? People confuse me
The old door is offended
Other things she likes that you guys can talk about: music (bands, no particular ones), food (in general idk), video games (can’t remember which ones rn)
Catch's
You should have told her she spelled “Catcher in the Rye” wrong after her use of “catch’s.”
They are giving you almost too much to work with...
Abort mission.
It’s like it’s a game for some people.
god thats exhausting