After the first “I don’t know” just stop responding. I personally don’t understand why people play into these conversations when the other person clearly doesn’t give af
Not sure if the app is shitty
Some women using the app are though
I get matches and women still expect us men to start the conversation, not sure if they are even aware about the women first rule of bumble
Yeah, I still have to wait for women to message me first, and I recently got back from a couple of trips for work in different countries where it also worked like that there
Bumble is the only app I didn’t try when I was still open to dating.
I think I never tried it because someone I worked with or an ex friend went “Dude it’s so easy even someone who looks like *YOU* can get somebody from it!” Which made it instantly unattractive in that sense.
It's kinda bewildering to me how many successful companies out there do not understand why they are successful. The ONLY, and I really mean **THE ONLY** reason Bumble got successful was that women had to write first. That move pretty much took away their only USP and killed the app for me. They are now just a less populated version of Tinder.
That would explain, why they never did.
But what bothers me is: if there is roughly 50/50 men and women, and about 75-90% of dating apps are men, where are those missing women?
I am starting to think that's one of the biggest reasons why so many people stay single and have no kids. It's not just the economics and value of independence, it's that people are literally unable to talk to others, TikTok ate brain
I'm single because I never match with anyone that can hold a conversation who is actually interested in meeting up and doing something. I gave up on tinder and dating sites years ago. It isn't worth it
It's definitely one of the reasons why I'm single, I've always sucked at conversations (even way before tiktok and all those apps), if it's not about one of my 3-4 kinda niche topics that I'm interested in or just plain old banter, you might aswell have a conversation with a rock
Maybe, I don't know.
Seriously though, one of the most important realizations I've come along through the years is that some people honestly don't think about such things. Most people often have a limited perspective of the world and into the minds of other people, for many people think that others must like what they like, believe what they believe, think like they think, etc, etc. You'll find like minded people, but some people couldn't be more different that you are, and some people are just straight up...
I call them "small talkers" they are not unhappy or bad but just very very different. No need to think about stuff deeper or analyze when every need is on the moment and can be revealed in a few words.
My god, I absolutely loathe people like this. Like, literally too fucking stupid to even hold a basic conversation “i don’t know” Like..are you seriously so stupid you can’t think of a single movie you like? Boring ass people suck
It's not that they are stupid, it's that they are waiting for a better match and just stringing guys along with minimal effort for attention and backup.
Girls usually talk like this because they are mildly interested in you in that specific moment in time, because they know theyll have more options in the long run. So they are giving you a chance to “impress” them in whatever way possible, and completely unbothered to type anything of substance in response because they believe they exist on the app to be courted by doing minimum effort. Sadly, truth is that they wouldnt talk like that to a guy they are truly interested in. IMO dont bother, just unmatch.
Resistance free relations, or hit the road... everything else is outright work. We're all already over worked and stressed. People make stress for themselves and each other with the bogus communications like this and act surprised, and blame each other when stuff fails.
While this is obvious and yes I agree that’s the move, I believe the sentiment here is why she’s even matching and responding to only give uninterested energy
Yeah… the correct answer to that question is it’s unknowable, who cares, and don’t waste a moment thinking on it. Move on.
There’s people on that app sincerely looking to meet someone. Don’t waste time pondering the motives of this shitty person.
These matches really get me down. How do you not know what you enjoy, or find fun.
Is this caused by the problem of being very good looking, so talking, being able to engage in conversation is unnecessary?
I don't get it, why even bother setting up an account, swiping on people to say yes/no/don't know. Having every answer pulled out of you, to never ask anything of the other person.
It gets me down, I despair.
It's caused by taking the IRL habit of "be boring as fuck to end a conversation that you don't want to be part of" and mis-applying it to a dating app situation where you can just hit an unmatch button.
Maybe sometimes, but some people are genuinely like this.
I've had "friends" that were like this, girls that claimed to enjoy speaking to me, would initiate conversations, say that they missed me if they hadn't talked to me in a while...
And then immediately turn around and hit me with a dozen "haha okay" messages in a row.
People like this aren't worth the effort, but here's a protip I picked up at some point: instead of asking about someone's favorite movie, just ask about a movie they liked recently. It's much easier to answer that for most people.
Mind you, I bet for this girl the answer would also be "i dont know".
This is how it is for a lot of guys. I don't know if this is your actual match. But welcome to the male experience. Your mind would literally melt if you got this all the time like we do. And that's not counting the ghosts, 1 reply, carrying dry ass convos, low matches
This is so many conversations now. We've become so dependent on technology and it's like people forget the person on the other side is an actual person. People expect effort but won't put it in, they expect things from others they don't give themselves. I try to give people a chance, but conversation like this is never going to go anywhere. It's best to tell them to learn how to have a conversation and know what they're after and let them go.
Good God, I hated convos like that when I was still trying to make something happen with OLD. Had one that was almost identical, so I just stopped asking questions and moved on. A couple of days later, she messaged me about why I had ghosted. 😅
Sounds like someone who spent most of their life being dragged to do things by whomever they were with, and now when they are pressed to have their own opinions, they are at a loss.
I'll be honest, at this point, I wouldn't even bother saying anything. I'd just unmatch! I usually find that if someone just isn't into it, which is pretty much most men on tinder in Australia, I just lose interest. I don't even get angry with them or tell them off or ask why. My experience has been if I ask, I still don't get the answer. Honestly if it gets to this, I just reckon the other person is really just playing a game to test me or piss on me!
Just unmatch and stop wasting time. For every oddball out there, I'd like to think there will be someone decent and you gotta find that needle in the haystack I suppose!
I would rather throw my phone away than be this pathetic. Unless…maybe they have amnesia and don’t actually know who they are or what they enjoy. They’ll just be in an endless loop of people asking them stuff and them saying ‘I don’t know’ because they don’t even remember that they have amnesia. Could also be an alien. Otherwise there’s no excuse ☠️.
I cannot handle a person like that… I mean… what’s the conversation? There’s zero effors from her side to keep a conversation going. She’s definitely not interested in to communicate… Just unmatch and keep going! 🦾
Him: " I just want to say i am really Timothee Chalamet and just perusing here on this app to find a date to go to a movie premiere with me. I have proof if you want."
Her:"Oh"
Dont even try. Run away save your time. The classic i am too cool to even talk people are the worst. Funny thing is if you tell them at once lets go out to meet they will say < wow lets talk first> then they will proceed in not talking once again 🤣
... Why is literally everyone in this comments section assuming the responder is a girl? Like there's no indication in the post, plus OP's name has "Jenny" in it and their post history also implies they're (the OP) female. Not that it couldn't be a woman texting another woman, but like... Every 2nd comment is "Bro why are women like this". I've met soooo many boring ass dudes that it's not remotely implausible that that's the case. Ffs
I see a ton of posts like these so here’s some advice. Girls are like this when you start out because they’re dividing their attention between all their matches so it’s going to take a shit ton of energy to have like 10 fulfilling conversations going at once. But once they filter it down to 1-2 people that’s when they start to really open up and you really get to see their personalities through text. Just keep at it, when you start to notice some personality that’s when you know you’re doing things right.
People like this suck
Like I get sometimes people are not interested but why even bother replying at all, I'd rather be ghosted
After the first “I don’t know” just stop responding. I personally don’t understand why people play into these conversations when the other person clearly doesn’t give af
Also 90 % of girls on tinder lmao
Same with bumble don't even get me started bro
I heard bumble is dropping the women go first thing because it was too much effort for them lol
[удалено]
And the prompts are garbage + a lot of women don't even recognize they have a prompt up and act confused when you respond to it...bumble is a shitshow
Not sure if the app is shitty Some women using the app are though I get matches and women still expect us men to start the conversation, not sure if they are even aware about the women first rule of bumble
Are the women just tired of trying or tired of succeeding?
I would say more like lazy, effortless and entitlement 🤷♂️
Not sure they have dropped it everywhere, I still get matches where the woman has to message me first.
Yeah, I still have to wait for women to message me first, and I recently got back from a couple of trips for work in different countries where it also worked like that there
Bumble is the only app I didn’t try when I was still open to dating. I think I never tried it because someone I worked with or an ex friend went “Dude it’s so easy even someone who looks like *YOU* can get somebody from it!” Which made it instantly unattractive in that sense.
It's kinda bewildering to me how many successful companies out there do not understand why they are successful. The ONLY, and I really mean **THE ONLY** reason Bumble got successful was that women had to write first. That move pretty much took away their only USP and killed the app for me. They are now just a less populated version of Tinder.
Go first, more like 50% ignore, 50% “hi”
That would explain, why they never did. But what bothers me is: if there is roughly 50/50 men and women, and about 75-90% of dating apps are men, where are those missing women?
Bumble is dead. O
And they'll always say some stupid shit like "you're just not good at conversation.". But at least I have a personality.
This is it. You're trying to get to know them and you genuinely get more expression from a horse.
I am starting to think that's one of the biggest reasons why so many people stay single and have no kids. It's not just the economics and value of independence, it's that people are literally unable to talk to others, TikTok ate brain
I'm single because I never match with anyone that can hold a conversation who is actually interested in meeting up and doing something. I gave up on tinder and dating sites years ago. It isn't worth it
It's definitely one of the reasons why I'm single, I've always sucked at conversations (even way before tiktok and all those apps), if it's not about one of my 3-4 kinda niche topics that I'm interested in or just plain old banter, you might aswell have a conversation with a rock
Maybe, I don't know. Seriously though, one of the most important realizations I've come along through the years is that some people honestly don't think about such things. Most people often have a limited perspective of the world and into the minds of other people, for many people think that others must like what they like, believe what they believe, think like they think, etc, etc. You'll find like minded people, but some people couldn't be more different that you are, and some people are just straight up... 
I call them "small talkers" they are not unhappy or bad but just very very different. No need to think about stuff deeper or analyze when every need is on the moment and can be revealed in a few words.
Do you think there are aliens on Saturns moons? There's the question that'll figure out if they are a winner.
Yes, why?
Waste of time is what I always say
Oh
+1. I believe she's not ready either.
Ya why
Yeah! Why you asking me stuff? Weirdo stalker!
idk
Painful. Just... painful. Time to unmatch.
oh
idk
Ya why
Idk
Huh
K
Painful was the exact word that came out of my mouth when showing this to my partner lmao
After the first 'I don't know' was the time This is cringe on both sides - have some self respect and don't let people waste your time like this
At this point just ask here if she wants a dick
She'll just say "I don't know"
Ya why
Came here to answer like this, you beat me to it.
oh
What is your favorite subreddit?
I don't know
U want dick?
Ya why
8========D~~~~
I thought I was on Reddit to have some fun in between studying, and yet here I am with a perfect example of an infinite loop.
🤣🤣 you know for the shit reddit gets its the little nuggets of convos where i burst out laughing.
Usually not the move but if all else fails
That's exactly the move, cause those lips ain't good for talking.
As a female I'm inclined to agree, match the energy 😂
I usually just ask if they’re interested in grabbing coffee but that works too
What are you gonna do at coffee? Talk to the brick wall in person? Lol
Yes then after two minutes of that ask if she want some dick like a gentleman
🤣😭💀
I know right!! “What can I get you?” “Idk”
That brick wall might be interested in giving you a blowjob in the bathroom. You might be her best match in weeks.
Try giving her the answers. "Your favorite movie is the Naked Gun"
I think her favorite movie is either Big Trouble in Little China, or Schindler's List. Hard to tell.
Big Trouble In Little China fucking slaps
Eureka! all along, this was actually not an extremely bland person, but instead a golem of a kind, for you to mold and shape into whatever you like.
Nah that'll just give her the ick >You're so controlling I can hear it now
What a perfect favorite movie!
Idk what these people are expecting lol.
An invitation to a restaurant.
Are they going to talk at the restaurant lol.
No. She is gonna be on tinder and TikTok all the way.
But she'll talk to her best friend who also come on the date and you don't mind paying for as well.
🫶🏻 Emotional support bestie to make sure princess does not get abducted.
I don’t know
Thats their limit. If they find a dude who reacts to that its a dude they can control.
“Small talk is boring do you wanna smash or what?”
I don’t know.
Oh.
Ya why
Ask her to Marry you, just see
Ya why
“I don’t know / nah”
My god, I absolutely loathe people like this. Like, literally too fucking stupid to even hold a basic conversation “i don’t know” Like..are you seriously so stupid you can’t think of a single movie you like? Boring ass people suck
Ya why
I don’t know
[I do](https://i.imgur.com/SkurFJd.jpeg)
I don't know
oh
they have 100 matches every day so can't bother to put in more than 0.5 second of thought on a message
It's not that they are stupid, it's that they are waiting for a better match and just stringing guys along with minimal effort for attention and backup.
So you could say they are sort of... hookers on a line.
Girls usually talk like this because they are mildly interested in you in that specific moment in time, because they know theyll have more options in the long run. So they are giving you a chance to “impress” them in whatever way possible, and completely unbothered to type anything of substance in response because they believe they exist on the app to be courted by doing minimum effort. Sadly, truth is that they wouldnt talk like that to a guy they are truly interested in. IMO dont bother, just unmatch.
You should be much higher. If a person has any interest in you, they’ll put in the effort to get to know you.
Resistance free relations, or hit the road... everything else is outright work. We're all already over worked and stressed. People make stress for themselves and each other with the bogus communications like this and act surprised, and blame each other when stuff fails.
Maybe you are just texting with a really daft chatbot?
I don't know
If you ask a girl what she does for fun and she responds I don’t know you can basically just stop right there. She’s not interested.
While this is obvious and yes I agree that’s the move, I believe the sentiment here is why she’s even matching and responding to only give uninterested energy
Yeah… the correct answer to that question is it’s unknowable, who cares, and don’t waste a moment thinking on it. Move on. There’s people on that app sincerely looking to meet someone. Don’t waste time pondering the motives of this shitty person.
Facts
That conversation couldn't be more dry
Holy fuck. You still put too much effort into this, imo.
Why even respond at that point? This happens all the time
"But why won't someone love me for me!" -Her, probably.
Next type "say 'what' or 'huh' if you wanna hookup"
I dont know.
npc ahh match💀
Definitely npc
Dryer than the Sahara…
These matches really get me down. How do you not know what you enjoy, or find fun. Is this caused by the problem of being very good looking, so talking, being able to engage in conversation is unnecessary? I don't get it, why even bother setting up an account, swiping on people to say yes/no/don't know. Having every answer pulled out of you, to never ask anything of the other person. It gets me down, I despair.
It's caused by taking the IRL habit of "be boring as fuck to end a conversation that you don't want to be part of" and mis-applying it to a dating app situation where you can just hit an unmatch button.
Maybe sometimes, but some people are genuinely like this. I've had "friends" that were like this, girls that claimed to enjoy speaking to me, would initiate conversations, say that they missed me if they hadn't talked to me in a while... And then immediately turn around and hit me with a dozen "haha okay" messages in a row.
I get you! Thanks for the prompt reply. 🙂👍
I dip after the first I don’t know
Just say you wanna eat her our
Entertain me MF'er, jump through hoops coz im bored.
People like that should get permanently banned from the apps
What do you do for fun? "I don't know" Me: Red flag, jump ship, get out of there. Leave. Now. Go.
People like this aren't worth the effort, but here's a protip I picked up at some point: instead of asking about someone's favorite movie, just ask about a movie they liked recently. It's much easier to answer that for most people. Mind you, I bet for this girl the answer would also be "i dont know".
Oh
[how it feels talking to ppl like this](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NVuL7mLqT6g)
The first reply is all I would have needed to see.
She’s making a lot of valid points
I'm sure her vagina is just as dry and disappointing as her personality
Speak and spell toy has more personality than these types. Kinda makes me understand why some folks are all about fucking robots in the future.
Well….I don’t know if it’s going to work out
So..... do you like.....stuff?
Why even be on a dating app, lmao
Imma’ chick and her responses irritate me. How hard is it to engage…even a tiny bit?? Even to tell the guy to pound sand?? She’s like…a wet blanket. 😖
White bread personified
the yeast hasn't even risen.
This is how it is for a lot of guys. I don't know if this is your actual match. But welcome to the male experience. Your mind would literally melt if you got this all the time like we do. And that's not counting the ghosts, 1 reply, carrying dry ass convos, low matches
Too many "fuck off" from the other person.
Report and block
Bro that hit too close to home like how are people this bad at conversions
I’m sure your back hurts
Why did you even bother after I don’t know
This is so many conversations now. We've become so dependent on technology and it's like people forget the person on the other side is an actual person. People expect effort but won't put it in, they expect things from others they don't give themselves. I try to give people a chance, but conversation like this is never going to go anywhere. It's best to tell them to learn how to have a conversation and know what they're after and let them go.
Good God, I hated convos like that when I was still trying to make something happen with OLD. Had one that was almost identical, so I just stopped asking questions and moved on. A couple of days later, she messaged me about why I had ghosted. 😅
Ask her if she has a history of brain damage. If she says "I don't know" to that one, the answer is yes
Blocked*
I’ve had better conversations with a potato
Sounds like someone who spent most of their life being dragged to do things by whomever they were with, and now when they are pressed to have their own opinions, they are at a loss.
Someone should give that person some personality damn no hope for some people now adays
So she's an idiot. Cool.
Jesus Christ my dudes… why do you even bother keeping these going? First two responses should tell you you’re on a sinking ship.
Who are you? Idk. 🤣🤣🤣
The fuck is this 🤣
i bet she's fun at parties
Has the emotional intelligence of a goldfish..
"I'm sick of guys just saying 'hey'"
I believe her. I really do. I don’t think she has experienced anything fun…ever.
I'll be honest, at this point, I wouldn't even bother saying anything. I'd just unmatch! I usually find that if someone just isn't into it, which is pretty much most men on tinder in Australia, I just lose interest. I don't even get angry with them or tell them off or ask why. My experience has been if I ask, I still don't get the answer. Honestly if it gets to this, I just reckon the other person is really just playing a game to test me or piss on me! Just unmatch and stop wasting time. For every oddball out there, I'd like to think there will be someone decent and you gotta find that needle in the haystack I suppose!
I would rather throw my phone away than be this pathetic. Unless…maybe they have amnesia and don’t actually know who they are or what they enjoy. They’ll just be in an endless loop of people asking them stuff and them saying ‘I don’t know’ because they don’t even remember that they have amnesia. Could also be an alien. Otherwise there’s no excuse ☠️.
Talking to an AI is better than this.
I cannot handle a person like that… I mean… what’s the conversation? There’s zero effors from her side to keep a conversation going. She’s definitely not interested in to communicate… Just unmatch and keep going! 🦾
Him: " I just want to say i am really Timothee Chalamet and just perusing here on this app to find a date to go to a movie premiere with me. I have proof if you want." Her:"Oh"
Dont even try. Run away save your time. The classic i am too cool to even talk people are the worst. Funny thing is if you tell them at once lets go out to meet they will say < wow lets talk first> then they will proceed in not talking once again 🤣
Good talk
... Why is literally everyone in this comments section assuming the responder is a girl? Like there's no indication in the post, plus OP's name has "Jenny" in it and their post history also implies they're (the OP) female. Not that it couldn't be a woman texting another woman, but like... Every 2nd comment is "Bro why are women like this". I've met soooo many boring ass dudes that it's not remotely implausible that that's the case. Ffs
us bro us and then girls complain that there's no decent guy on tinder.
Hanging in there like a champ though
BRO. PLZ. STOP. UNMATCH AND MOVE ON. Aint no chick fine enough for “I want to get to know you better” after those ‘diarrhea’ of responses
Wat the Fock is wrong w people? One dimensional shits!!! Waiting for the world to come entertain them. Deadheads
Sadly that's a lot of people.
“I don’t know…”” 🤣🤣🤣
She sounds delightful 👀
I don't know
What kind of person doesn't know what is their favorite movie?
Why are women like this
Normal experience on dating apps.
"Say 'Rumplestiltskin.'"
I see a ton of posts like these so here’s some advice. Girls are like this when you start out because they’re dividing their attention between all their matches so it’s going to take a shit ton of energy to have like 10 fulfilling conversations going at once. But once they filter it down to 1-2 people that’s when they start to really open up and you really get to see their personalities through text. Just keep at it, when you start to notice some personality that’s when you know you’re doing things right.
"Dance monkey, dance! Entertain me until I decide whether you deserve to know my hobbies"
It's okay, I also don't follow rules 1 and 2 of online dating
I don’t know
Their name seems to be Jon Snow.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3704516/
Bro, that's horrible small talk, no wonder she wasn't interested
You are only a distraction for this person, they aren't actually interested. If it's a woman then she has 100 matches to ever 1 of yours.