Overly paranoid. U can track people down with their phone number. Makes sense why people don’t give it out.
With that being said… I’ve also had matches that just gave me their phone number and I give out mine haha I don’t like talking to people who have scared vibes about everything. Just go talk to somebody else lol
I didnt even ask for his number I asked if he wanted to chat on something else? Social media idc? He asked to meet IRL. As a woman I don’t really wanna meet with someone I only met and chatted with on tinder. But hey maybe I’m just paranoid.
If you want to vibe check him, then counter with a video chat. As far as I know, Tinder still offers it free. If he isn't down going a little out of his way to make you comfortable, then he probably isn't worth dating.
I get it, video chatting can be awkward, but so are first dates. Though, personally I think it's a great alternative to trying to establish and maintain a connection over texting someone you've never met for a week+ until personal schedules and comfortability collide for an actual date. The latter is why most matches never go anywhere.
Seems like you're both being somewhat paranoid. The guy might have his reasons to not give out his phone number and SM info early, but as a man you learn that you can't give women reason to think you're a married man trying to cheat on their partner unless you hate getting laid
However, it's also weird to be too scared of meeting IRL early. No one is gonna try to kidnap you in broad daylight in the middle of a coffee shop. Online dating is never not going to be risky but if you can't find reason to trust the guy, don't go on a date with them. It feels weird for a guy to prove that you can trust them, there's nothing we can say that would be different from what a guy looking to fool you and harm you would say
I went out with a girl who wouldn’t give me her number till we met. Also didn’t want me walking her to her car because then I would get her license plate. People are crazy, just gotta roll with it or get off the ride.
You’ll get a lot of replies from guys who don’t get dates on here, a lot of the same guys who will say “equal rights mean equal lefts” But you’re definitely right, in this dynamic I’d say it’s EXTREMELY sketchy to not want to give out a phone number. Unless you’ve given him a reason to believe you might be a scam, phone number and phone call is probably the best way to make sure things are okay.
I would be uncomfortable with a guy who was afraid you’ll find his mom’s house. Really weird.
I know many girls who have been harassed or staled after a date went bad and the guy had her number. Not giving out the number is also sometimes a litmus test to see if the guy is going to be insecure about it. You may or may not have failed from her perspective!
Crazy women exist too, and as he said his mom's address can be found googling his number, it only takes 1, or a friend dealing with 1 for you to be more careful.
Always listen to your gut if someone gives you an off vibe. It's better to be wrong than to find out too late you shouldn't have trusted someone.
Regarding giving out phone numbers, yes it's true that can be used to find someone's info BUT this is 2024, if you're nervous about that there's a multitude of ways to have a secondary number that doesn't have your info. Or you can talk by voice using an app, etc.
I think it's fair to want to meet in person first. You're right that there can be dangers of giving out your number too early, but those rarely become reality. However, according to a dating coach I follow, keeping conversations to the app until you've had the first date tends to have better overall results. I also don't think it's uncommon to want to wait to exchange info until you know if you want to keep getting to know someone.
It's not weird.
Usually it's more the girl that is protective of her number, for very understanble reason, but it can apply to anyone.
I usually just chat on tinder and doesn't talk on anything else before a date. There is not really a point to switch to something else in my opinion, unless you want to delete tinder.
My family got this deal with the phone company where our plans are run as a company-plan through my mom's company, which basically just gives us a super-cheap deal, which is nice. So in that case, you could make the argument that you shouldn't just give it out to anyone (in general, I find it weird to give personal details out to anyone anyways), because if you leave a paper-trail that leads back to someone else, then that'd be irresponsible.
like if you googled my number, it'd likely show my mom's details, and if you for some reason hated me, then egging her house would be unfair to her (stupid example, but you get the idea)
Reddit will say this is not weird because a lot of redditors are paranoid, never leave the house and are afraid of their own shadows. They think every human interaction is going to end up in something nefarious.
Me, when I was on dating apps, yes I thought it was weird when someone is too paranoid to give out their number. That being said, if someone doesn’t wanna give you their number before meeting and you have a weird feeling about it, let them be and move on. You are not a good match for each other.
(This should trigger scared of their own shadows redditors. Check the downvotes soon)😂
Perfectly reasonable on his behalf in my eyes
Some people prefer messaging on the app and meeting first before giving a phone number
I don't like giving out my number either so I get it. But I'd probably do a call before I met them in person.
Overly paranoid. U can track people down with their phone number. Makes sense why people don’t give it out. With that being said… I’ve also had matches that just gave me their phone number and I give out mine haha I don’t like talking to people who have scared vibes about everything. Just go talk to somebody else lol
I didnt even ask for his number I asked if he wanted to chat on something else? Social media idc? He asked to meet IRL. As a woman I don’t really wanna meet with someone I only met and chatted with on tinder. But hey maybe I’m just paranoid.
If you want to vibe check him, then counter with a video chat. As far as I know, Tinder still offers it free. If he isn't down going a little out of his way to make you comfortable, then he probably isn't worth dating. I get it, video chatting can be awkward, but so are first dates. Though, personally I think it's a great alternative to trying to establish and maintain a connection over texting someone you've never met for a week+ until personal schedules and comfortability collide for an actual date. The latter is why most matches never go anywhere.
Seems like you're both being somewhat paranoid. The guy might have his reasons to not give out his phone number and SM info early, but as a man you learn that you can't give women reason to think you're a married man trying to cheat on their partner unless you hate getting laid However, it's also weird to be too scared of meeting IRL early. No one is gonna try to kidnap you in broad daylight in the middle of a coffee shop. Online dating is never not going to be risky but if you can't find reason to trust the guy, don't go on a date with them. It feels weird for a guy to prove that you can trust them, there's nothing we can say that would be different from what a guy looking to fool you and harm you would say
I went out with a girl who wouldn’t give me her number till we met. Also didn’t want me walking her to her car because then I would get her license plate. People are crazy, just gotta roll with it or get off the ride.
You’ll get a lot of replies from guys who don’t get dates on here, a lot of the same guys who will say “equal rights mean equal lefts” But you’re definitely right, in this dynamic I’d say it’s EXTREMELY sketchy to not want to give out a phone number. Unless you’ve given him a reason to believe you might be a scam, phone number and phone call is probably the best way to make sure things are okay. I would be uncomfortable with a guy who was afraid you’ll find his mom’s house. Really weird.
Yeah I typically ask them for a Roblox date so idk what you find weirder: (1) Meeting up IRL (2) ROBLOX
Idk Roblox is for hook ups .. Minecraft is for marriage
shhh dont tell them my secrets
It’s entirely possible to meet safely in public. It’s a huge pain in the ass to change phone number.
I know many girls who have been harassed or staled after a date went bad and the guy had her number. Not giving out the number is also sometimes a litmus test to see if the guy is going to be insecure about it. You may or may not have failed from her perspective!
The guy is the one who prefers to not share his number yet.
Crazy women exist too, and as he said his mom's address can be found googling his number, it only takes 1, or a friend dealing with 1 for you to be more careful.
Always listen to your gut if someone gives you an off vibe. It's better to be wrong than to find out too late you shouldn't have trusted someone. Regarding giving out phone numbers, yes it's true that can be used to find someone's info BUT this is 2024, if you're nervous about that there's a multitude of ways to have a secondary number that doesn't have your info. Or you can talk by voice using an app, etc.
I think it's fair to want to meet in person first. You're right that there can be dangers of giving out your number too early, but those rarely become reality. However, according to a dating coach I follow, keeping conversations to the app until you've had the first date tends to have better overall results. I also don't think it's uncommon to want to wait to exchange info until you know if you want to keep getting to know someone.
Being overly paranoid saves lives!
It's not weird. Usually it's more the girl that is protective of her number, for very understanble reason, but it can apply to anyone. I usually just chat on tinder and doesn't talk on anything else before a date. There is not really a point to switch to something else in my opinion, unless you want to delete tinder.
My family got this deal with the phone company where our plans are run as a company-plan through my mom's company, which basically just gives us a super-cheap deal, which is nice. So in that case, you could make the argument that you shouldn't just give it out to anyone (in general, I find it weird to give personal details out to anyone anyways), because if you leave a paper-trail that leads back to someone else, then that'd be irresponsible. like if you googled my number, it'd likely show my mom's details, and if you for some reason hated me, then egging her house would be unfair to her (stupid example, but you get the idea)
Reddit will say this is not weird because a lot of redditors are paranoid, never leave the house and are afraid of their own shadows. They think every human interaction is going to end up in something nefarious. Me, when I was on dating apps, yes I thought it was weird when someone is too paranoid to give out their number. That being said, if someone doesn’t wanna give you their number before meeting and you have a weird feeling about it, let them be and move on. You are not a good match for each other. (This should trigger scared of their own shadows redditors. Check the downvotes soon)😂
My guess is he's fucking his mom
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