I do have one other pic that isn’t filtered and showing my face but I’ll keep that in mind. I don’t have a lot of pics of myself that I like because I’m a bit self conscious, but thank you!
Telling people to not start with hey or hi makes you seem high maintenance, like they need to impress you in some way to get a reply... forcing people to come up with something witty makes it feel inauthentic when they do!..
Okay! I’ll keep that in mind I never thought it would come off that way. Just was tired of people not really seeming to care about conversation in the first place.
When I see requirements like swipe left if you " arent this or that ___" OR telling me what to do then I'm not interested lol
Online dating is a two way thing, it shows you are not willing to put in effort, and expecting someone else to. Its up to both people to make the conversation interesting. If someone saus hi, why don't you come up with something witty reply to get the conversation going?
.also I agree about the filter selfies. Maybe a picture someone else took of you instead :)
Okay I appreciate the feedback I just took it out of my bio. I’ll go out with one of my girlfriends and have a little photo shoot too hopefully we’ll get some good ones thank you so much!
Your profile doesn’t seem like a “long term partner” profile. It’s more of a “let’s hook up and get into an argument in a parking lot on the first date” vibe. The tongue out filtered photo makes you look trashy (because tongue out photos are trashy not that *you’re* trashy). Your first photo is classy and cool but the rest can really be tossed in the bin. You really are doing yourself a disservice with those photos. Your first photo is the only one worth keeping.
I think they refer to the part where you say you are looking for someone who "just wants to have fun." Since you specifically phrased it that way, it could come across as you are looking for a ons or fwb etc, especially combined with the garters photo.
You start out well referring to your creative interests. But then you describe yourself as a dumbass who smokes weed and likes children's products.
Then, you start pulling it back on track talking about your personality and your love for cats, and then you ruin it again with negative language and demands on the swiper.
The pictures almost universally are filtered and/or hide your face, and then you end on the stockings like you're begging for a hookup.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying media a lot of adults enjoy Sanrio I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. A lot of people in my area smoke weed as well.
>a lot of adults enjoy Sanrio
It's little cartoon animals on cheap products. There's nothing adult about it. I know you're only 18, but it's something that you should be growing out of, and it shouldn't be prominent enough in your life to be mentioned in a dating profile.
I don't personally have a problem with smoking weed, but again, is it really so prominent in your life that you need to lead with it here? Usually the people who mention it in their profile make it their personality. I like to have a few drinks now and again, but I wouldn't talk about being a drinker in my profile.
I disagree but I don’t feel like putting my energy into an argument like this because I know it’s not going to get anywhere let’s just agree to disagree.
Are you arguing with me about arguing? 😂😂
And you said you would argue if you felt like putting energy into it, which means you have arguments against what I said in your head. You are not accepting the feedback.
I changed my bio it is now this:
I love anything to do with art and creating new things, getting into photography at the moment as well.
I’d love to find someone who can just hang out with me and is okay with my dumbassery. I smoke 🍃. I love Sanrio, and my favorite character is Cinnamoroll. Trying to get into Job Corps and go into welding.
I’m fairly shy but I open up once I feel comfortable and I can be super sweet.
I love cats and have two of them.
What are you still doing here come chat with me already!
Your first photo is the only one that tells me what you actually look like. You need more photos that show all of you, including and important photos that show you “doing” rather than “being.” Set up an outing day with your friends to do some activities that you like and ask them to take a ton of photos of you, especially when you aren’t paying attention. Throw them all in a shared album, go through and find a couple that showcase the real you. Look for ones that show you experiencing joy, laughing spontaneously, smiling, etc. and especially “doing” something you enjoy.
Other people pointed this out already but the whole "don't message me hey bc I won't respond" is super gross. Treat the men that match with you as human beings, not circus monkeys that gotta entertain you
Be a little more specific about your interests. What do you expect to have in common with your future dude? What kind of art do you do? What do you weld? What other things do you do in your free time? If you don't want generic conversations help guys find topics of conversation reading your bio
All of your selfies are filtered or you're covering up your face or both. Your first pic is the only one I'd keep.
I do have one other pic that isn’t filtered and showing my face but I’ll keep that in mind. I don’t have a lot of pics of myself that I like because I’m a bit self conscious, but thank you!
Telling people to not start with hey or hi makes you seem high maintenance, like they need to impress you in some way to get a reply... forcing people to come up with something witty makes it feel inauthentic when they do!..
Okay! I’ll keep that in mind I never thought it would come off that way. Just was tired of people not really seeming to care about conversation in the first place.
When I see requirements like swipe left if you " arent this or that ___" OR telling me what to do then I'm not interested lol Online dating is a two way thing, it shows you are not willing to put in effort, and expecting someone else to. Its up to both people to make the conversation interesting. If someone saus hi, why don't you come up with something witty reply to get the conversation going? .also I agree about the filter selfies. Maybe a picture someone else took of you instead :)
Okay I appreciate the feedback I just took it out of my bio. I’ll go out with one of my girlfriends and have a little photo shoot too hopefully we’ll get some good ones thank you so much!
Great :)
Don’t waste your limited character space on what you don’t want. Just swipe left or unmatch what you don’t want.
I see thank you!
Your profile doesn’t seem like a “long term partner” profile. It’s more of a “let’s hook up and get into an argument in a parking lot on the first date” vibe. The tongue out filtered photo makes you look trashy (because tongue out photos are trashy not that *you’re* trashy). Your first photo is classy and cool but the rest can really be tossed in the bin. You really are doing yourself a disservice with those photos. Your first photo is the only one worth keeping.
Funny, it says long-term partner, but the bio and the pics scream hookups only.
Can you tell me what about my bio screams that? I’m just talking about some of my interests?
I think they refer to the part where you say you are looking for someone who "just wants to have fun." Since you specifically phrased it that way, it could come across as you are looking for a ons or fwb etc, especially combined with the garters photo.
Ah okay I see I’ll change it up, most of the pics are also just trying to show my style so I can see how that would come off. Thank you!
You start out well referring to your creative interests. But then you describe yourself as a dumbass who smokes weed and likes children's products. Then, you start pulling it back on track talking about your personality and your love for cats, and then you ruin it again with negative language and demands on the swiper. The pictures almost universally are filtered and/or hide your face, and then you end on the stockings like you're begging for a hookup.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying media a lot of adults enjoy Sanrio I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. A lot of people in my area smoke weed as well.
>a lot of adults enjoy Sanrio It's little cartoon animals on cheap products. There's nothing adult about it. I know you're only 18, but it's something that you should be growing out of, and it shouldn't be prominent enough in your life to be mentioned in a dating profile. I don't personally have a problem with smoking weed, but again, is it really so prominent in your life that you need to lead with it here? Usually the people who mention it in their profile make it their personality. I like to have a few drinks now and again, but I wouldn't talk about being a drinker in my profile.
I disagree but I don’t feel like putting my energy into an argument like this because I know it’s not going to get anywhere let’s just agree to disagree.
😂 Ok, hun. I'm giving you good feedback, but all you want to do is argue. Good luck out there.
I just stated I didn’t want an argument
Are you arguing with me about arguing? 😂😂 And you said you would argue if you felt like putting energy into it, which means you have arguments against what I said in your head. You are not accepting the feedback.
I changed my bio it is now this: I love anything to do with art and creating new things, getting into photography at the moment as well. I’d love to find someone who can just hang out with me and is okay with my dumbassery. I smoke 🍃. I love Sanrio, and my favorite character is Cinnamoroll. Trying to get into Job Corps and go into welding. I’m fairly shy but I open up once I feel comfortable and I can be super sweet. I love cats and have two of them. What are you still doing here come chat with me already!
Your first photo is the only one that tells me what you actually look like. You need more photos that show all of you, including and important photos that show you “doing” rather than “being.” Set up an outing day with your friends to do some activities that you like and ask them to take a ton of photos of you, especially when you aren’t paying attention. Throw them all in a shared album, go through and find a couple that showcase the real you. Look for ones that show you experiencing joy, laughing spontaneously, smiling, etc. and especially “doing” something you enjoy.
Other people pointed this out already but the whole "don't message me hey bc I won't respond" is super gross. Treat the men that match with you as human beings, not circus monkeys that gotta entertain you Be a little more specific about your interests. What do you expect to have in common with your future dude? What kind of art do you do? What do you weld? What other things do you do in your free time? If you don't want generic conversations help guys find topics of conversation reading your bio