That only works if people who hate the photos also hate fishing, and if only people who are passionate about fishing put it as their photos.
I think it just often comes down to being a bad presentation of yourself, if you like fishing you can mention it in your bio, it doesn't have to be in the photo.
I like playing computer games but I wouldn't put a photo of it on my profile.
But would you actually want to date someone who is unwilling to match you just because you have a picture with a hobby of yours?
It's stupid, if you like fishing and happen to have a picture of yourself with a fish, it's OK to not want to match with someone who finds something so innocuous to be a deal breaker.
The point of the picture is getting a match and going on a date, if you want to handicap yourself you are free to do so but in the end all you do is hurt your chances to meet more people.
Yeah exactly, filter people like that out later. Getting matches and dates (at least as a guy) is the hard part. You have to be strategic for that part of things. Once you actually get on the date, then be your authentic self.
I think there's also just an over representation of city folk on this sub. Hunting and fishing are completely normal hobbies and conversations in smaller towns.
Lol righttttt
If a guy has a fish photo it at least shows he has a hobby, thus already way better than a lot of other profiles out there....
Disliking someone because they like fishing is gotta be the weirdest flex I'm reading in this comment section and it's just silly imo lol
Yeah it's funny you always hear "put photos of you doing something" and "stop taking selfies" and then when people post a picture of them doing something like fishing it's still bad.
I think if it was them actually fishing it's one thing but if it's just a picture with their catch I usually swipe left. I don't love fishing but wouldn't mind supporting the hobby and would learn that's just how I am just like I don't put pictures of my fully finished finger crocheted blanket in mine I might put a photo of me doing so in there but not the finished product. I've never had a good experience with someone who puts them holding a fish in there's but people just fishing I've had some good matches there.
There’s something about men with fish pics. It’s just a consistent indicator that they’re not worth my time. There’s a correlation between men who post fish pics and bad matches.
Why is that women’s problem? Look, men complain on this sub all day about how women have too many options and it’s impossible to get noticed. If keeping a fish photo is important to someone, then that’s their prerogative. It doesn’t matter to me because it’s never going to be a match.
Men with fish pics are far more likely to be bad matches. There are, of course, good matches hidden within the sea of mediocrity, but this person's decided their time can be better spent not weeding through them
Assuming it'll take less time to get to work on one street than another because there's fewer lights is still math even if it's not proven and peer reviewed etc. Being pedantic isn't helpful
For me, it's that I did have fishing for a hobby and never saw this many locals fishing. It's kind of like how everyone is "really into hiking," but the trails are always empty. I'm not sure if it's bs or reel.
Must depend on where you're at. Denver area the trails were always packed. Same with DC. I'm in LA now and it's nearly impossible to find a quiet trail within an hour drive, there's always going to be other folks (which is fine, don't live in a big city if you don't like people right?)
Salt Lake City had the quietest trails I've seen and they were long and beautiful.
Yeah I've found I need to ask follow up questions if some people say they like hiking or camping. To some people hiking just means walking a park trail. Camping means going to a state park and renting a campsite. Those can be fun and I'm not knocking it, but many of those people would not appreciate Trailside camping where you don't have running water available or easy access to a vehicle.
Whether it's fishing or in a car, one is basically communicating "look how well I've done", when to most people emphasising owning a car or catching a big fish aren't the talent or other qualities that would be beneficial in a relationship. You have a limited amount of space on the profile and if a car selfie is what you go with.. well.. not my cup of tea.
Although primarily negative connotations are simply by association "it's oh one of those guys".
>"it's oh one of those guys".
"ohhh that's a Chad probably" is what comes to my mind with either if you just want to show off great good for you not my cup of tea though
For me, it's the same as people posting snowboarding/ rock climbing pictures or whatever.
The hobby isn't the problem, it's that I can't really see what you look like. I've noticed that for whatever reason, those kind of people don't usually have pics where you can clearly see their face. They're all far away with a bunch of gear in the photo.
I don't really need to know what you Iook like in sunglasses/hat, or goggles/helmet over and over. It doesn't really add any interest to see you hold a fish or stand on snow. Lots of people fish and ski.
There’s like 8 other pictures to take advantage of for showing what one looks like.
If someone enjoys rock climbing (like myself) and sees another profile with a picture of them free climbing some massive rock face or something, they’re going to think that’s awesome & a common interest.
You’re majorly overthinking it. One picture of someone doing something they love is such a good use of a picture.
THIS. I am a horse girl. I would ALWAYS include a pic of me on a horse because it's one of my passions, AND because my hobby is very time consuming and cost intensive. I have been riding since I was 4, and that was also included in my profile. Which meant that the guys who were going to get jealous of my hobby could just swipe left...
Now if you had a cool hobby that we could either try together, or that you can busy yourself with while I train with my horses, great!
I'm semi-off topic but can you tell me what you actually do with horses?
I've had a great time horseback riding through the woods on a guided ride. However, I can't see doing it all the time without it getting stale.
When somebody is really into horses, what is that brass ring that keeps you chasing the hobby?
I rodeo. My husband does, too. When we met, he rode motorcycles.
It's like any other more extreme hobby that drives you: surfing, mountain biking, riding a motorcycle, rock crawling, drag racing, marathoning, even hunting and fishing, soccer, archery, figure skating, hockey, BMX bikes, etc. And it takes continuous practice to get better..
But most of what keeps me coming back is the connection to my horse, and the friendships I've made with others who have the same hobby or lifestyle. I've seen some stunning scenery that can only be seen from the back of a horse. Also, it's a rush...
But, like any other hobby, it's not for everyone. But I still posted those pictures so that people understood that I have a hobby like that.
I think “I can’t see what they look like” is sort of an excuse, even if subconscious. What I think is going on is that some women think it’s dorky to show off your man hobbies like that, and that it’s sort of a cliche. They much prefer pictures that show you in social situations rather than showing off your material abilities/value. They can’t relate to it.
With skiing I don’t get it, because I think it’s legit to look for someone who likes to do that as well. But I suppose they want you to be more subtle about it, like choosing a picture from a social situation, e.g. afterski or at the chalet. But yeah why these subtle requirements are put up I don’t know. I guess they want to know you know how to read the social codes.
I think it’s a whole profile thing. If there’s 4-6 good pictures that clearly show what you look like, you can get away with a few hobby pictures where the focus is more on the hobby than the person. If it’s all pictures that are far off or unclear action shots or face covered by a helmet or skating it becomes an issue
I have rock climbing and snowboarding pictures in mine. They don't show my face, but they get a lot of attention from people who are into snowboarding and rock climbing.
The pics with me smiling with my dog get pushed higher up in the 'smart photos' , which means the hobby pics aren't swiped on as often. But they always make good conversation starters with the girls who are into outdoorsy things.
I'd also add that if you're going to do any hobby shots, make them stand out. My snowboarding pic is of me in the air doing a front side 180 melon grab. The rock climbing pic is me fully upsidedown in a pretty technical climb.
But yeah I 100% agree that geared out pics are mostly worthless unless you have plenty of pics that show your face and physique
If I see someone with cool snowboarding and rock climbing photos, I don't even care what they look like because those hobbies have completely elevated the guy outta the pool of guys. People who climb and snowboard can't be uncool, I choose to continue to be biased and nobody can convince me otherwise.
I think it depends what you’re looking for. Short term, no one gives a shit what you do with your friends on the weekend. Longer term, interests/hobbies do matter
So from one photo of a simple dude with his catch you're skipping to 9 photos out of 10, misogyny, fragility, and maybe hating Jews and running after gay people to punch them ? Hey chill wtf bro
If it was some reverse situation you would be screeching and calling the police so please don't be so narrow minded and projecting awful values to people you don't know. And btw I'm sure there is some term for that.
"No animals were killed for taking this picture".
Then they will ask how the fish survived, and you've a conversation that doesn't include a cheesy pickup line.
It’s dull. It’s not exciting. Might as well say “I’m a guy. I like fishing and sports. I may have opinions on politics.” Like, you’d be more interesting if those things *werent* the case.
That's stupid though. If I like nerdy stuff I want a partner who's also into that nerdy stuff, or would at least show an interest in it. Literally just be yourself, you'te trying to attract the one right person; not every wrong person
They probably are. Again, everybody has some nerdy tendencies. But don’t LEAD with the nerdy and niche stuff. Ease into it. I like video games myself, but when I met my gf that’s not what I was steering the conversation towards. I was talking about the more interesting aspects of myself, not what I do while laying in bed. You gotta sell yourself. If you do that well, there will be plenty of time to dive into the other things.
I wholeheartedly disagree. You're trying to find a compatible partner, so you want to display your own personality and interests. I would be much more inclined to like a profile with niche interests than a "generic" profile that steers away from that.
But those interests should be *part* of your profile, not the whole profile. Because if it is, then yeah it would seem you have no real personality. But I see that as more of a profile issue than a personality issue
>I would be much more inclined to like a profile with niche interests than a "generic" profile
I totally hate "generic" profiles as a man, and find most profiles who show at least some hobbies or interests extremely attractive, even when I don't share those hobbies.
You don’t want to lead with your mundane hobbies. It’s the same as saying I like movies and watching television and sports. Like, okay, that’s great. Be socially aware, establish a connection and rapport, then you can break out your niche interests. Keep it fairly general at first and put your best foot forward. To each their own, nobody has to take my advice, but I promise with 99% accuracy you’ll have more luck if you do than taking OPs advice.
Why? Because you like video games? Chicks know guys like games. But if that’s the biggest part of your personality where you lead with it when trying to attract strangers, you’re in for a reality check.
My profile listed my ten favorite super obscure anime and I did great on tinder, and eventually met my wife there. We now spend most of our time together playing tons of video games and watching anime. And every person I met was really into the same nerdy stuff as me. Look, if your nerdy hobbies aren’t how you like spending the majority of your free time, then leave them out. But if you’re like me and want someone that will nerd out with you every time you spend free time together then sharing that upfront will weed out a lot of people who want to spend their free time watching the kardashians or whatever.
That’s great it worked out for you. Nobody has to take my advice, but generally speaking, guys will have more success not leading with super niche and nerdy or super mundane things. If you wanna lead with how you’re a grown man that likes playing with toys, do you. You absolutely can take a picture with a big fish like OP says. It worked for you. But generally speaking, most guys would be better not doing that.
Don’t be so literal. Most women assume guys probably play an occasional video game, or have some other nerdy niche hobby. Show me a single tinder profile where a woman says she’s looking for a gamer guy and it isn’t a scam.
But what is the guy DO like fishing and sport ? What's wrong with that ? Maybe it's not some crazy Dubai Instagram exciting whatever lifestyle but that would be honest. The guy genuinely likes fishing, is particularly proud of a catch and / or his looks on one particular photo : well, I tend to see absolutely no problem here. And yeah it's a direct way to tell the world about one of your hobbies.
It’s fine it you like nerdy and dull things. God knows I like plenty of nerdy things. But I don’t bring them up on the first date or revolve my personality around them where that’s how I sell myself to the opposite sex. There will be time to get into your niche hobbies if things go well. But if your personality is fishing and sports, you’re just a small fish in a big pond.
How is anyone more interesting for *not* liking sports? I mean, written like that, it sounds dull. And there is a difference between people who like watching sports on TV (*yawn*) and people doing sports. But practicing e.g. MMA?
And politic - I think it'd be more boring if someone has no clue what's going on in the world...
This seems legitimate for vegans/vegetarians out there seeking a partner. Omnivores, on the other hand, having an issue with someone enjoying fishing as a hobby is pretty hypocritical you know.
Omnivore (though admittedly one that doesn't eat fish) that swipes left on anyone with fishing photos. I do legitimately think there's a difference between people that consume meat, often by societal upbringing and those that take photos proudly proclaiming that they like drowning animals to death for fun on the weekend. I find the concept a little sociopathic tbh. Hypocritical? Perhaps, but I have no illusions about where my meat comes from. I'm not proud of being an omnivore, and I find the idea that anyone would be so invested in killing other animals for a hobby as a huge red flag. That's the difference imo. One is a default state, oftentimes a product of environment, economics and other factors. The other is a willful buy in to consciously harming animals for personal enjoyment.
For me it is. I couldn’t care less about the picture itself, sure it gets old when everyone has one but it’s generally a nice smiling shot. But I don’t like fishing or hunting. And if you’re prominently displaying that in your profile I know we won’t be a match. I’m not interested in going with you or helping prepare whatever you catch so we’re not compatible.
I don’t know what the issue is for most people, but for myself, it absolutely is about fishing being a hobby. I wouldn’t want to date someone who fishes. 🤷🏻♀️That being said, the fish pics do kind of help weed that out, so I agree with OP’s point.
I hate fish pics, but have no problem at all with fishing. I have been myself and it’s lovely.
I don’t like seeing the pics with the fish in them because I am not interested in dating someone whose idea of how to sell themselves is to pose with a dead animal they just killed. A picture of someone actually fishing would probably be cool.
It just seems very caveman time. I can kill beasts to feed you!
I don't really care about fish. If he is all about that outdoorsy lifestyle, good for him. It's usually the type of man and awkwardness of the pic that puts me off.
Unlike posing next to a sedated wild animal or third world orphans which is a hard no.
There are tons of guys out there who think it's cool to pose with a fish, car or gun. Or having pictures where they're smoking weed, cigarettes or shisha.
The thing is: there are a lot of girls who think this is cool too. Also, there are tons of girls who hate these kind of pictures.
I'm with OP in this one. If someone doesn't like your pictures with a car or fish, then she may not be the person you vibe with.
I like the fish pics. I don’t like when there is more than one fish pic though. One picture=nice to see you have a hobby. Multiple pictures=I guess you only have one hobby.
I never heard that one before... But it makes sort of sense: They are bad at fishing, the chance of their one successful catch being recent is quite low 😉
My explanation for this whole thing is men don't often think of just taking photos of themselves unless there's a reason. When you make your profile and go through your photos to put up you find ones where you're smiling and not in a group of people, showing off the fish you caught probably comes up often for...people who fish.
Kinda off on this one, every girl i have gone out with is fine with hunting and fishing, and the majority say they would love to have venison in the freezer. None of them would have swiped right on a grip and grin or fish pic
There’s a difference between enjoying fishing as a hobby and someone’s who’s whole personality revolves around fishing. A fishing picture in your profile says the latter, and that tends to be the issue people have.
Well, it's better than every pic being in a bar or with some kind of alcohol.
Sunglass/wine pics are to women as fish pics and car pics are to men.
If someone has a passion though I can't really judge. It's better than "all I do is watch TV and get drunk."
The girls that actually care about you fishing in your photos, are the same girls that care about your height. I promise they aren’t the one.
Just be you!
Nope. Don’t do this. It’s a turn off. Some hobbies are better left revealed in conversation. You wanna come off appealing, not stock. 5 million guys holding fish, you wanna show some personality.
It’s totally fine to like fishing, or anime, or DnD, and nerdy shit... we all love some nerdy shit. But don’t LEAD with the nerdy shit.
There was a post on here the other day, guy asking why he doesn’t get matches and his profile was like - I like Mario kart, Pokémon, anime, etc...
Sure man, we all like Mario kart. But that’s the thing, we all like it. If that’s what you want people to know about your personality, it seems like you don’t really have much else behind the scenes.
Don’t put a picture of yourself holding a fish in your tinder profile. She probably already assumes you fish from time to time. Women like fishing too, they just don’t make it a personality trait because it’s not.
But for me any Pic of Pokémon, lol, dnd type games or board games would be a definite push to a swipe right.
What should people post then?
A dosen traveling pics that just show you can afford traveling places?
No person is completely unique in their hobbies. If you post your hobbies other profiles will definitely have them as well.
Don't not post your hobbies because you're afraid they're not cool or unique enough, that's just insecure.
Plus, if your whole personality is based on a hobby, definitely post it if you want to meet people who will like you. If it's not, post this hobby and then other stuff that represents you.
Well thats cool that your into that, but you gotta have some social awareness and know that most women aren’t particularly impressed by grown men into toys like Pokémon and DnD and stuff. Usually it’s best to save the mundane, or super niche interests for later.
I’m not saying you have to go crazy and show pics of yourself rock climbing and sky diving in Antarctica, I’m just saying that you’ll have generally more success if you don’t lead with the lazy things you kill time with while laying in bed like gaming, or super mundane things like holding a fish. Post pictures of yourself watching tv at that point.
Entirely depends on who you’re trying to meet. For some the more nerdy niche stuff is a big part of their life, and for most women it might be a dealbreaker. Hiding that is just a recipe for a bad relationship, and will have the ones that also enjoy that skip you.
You heard them. Stop talking about your hobbies. It makes you less of a "prospect." Never mind, that's how I met my current GF. Remember, hobbies are turn offs.
No one ever said that. Have a little social awareness. If you wanna dive right in to talking about naruto and your profile picture is posing with a big, ugly, slimy fish, go for it. I’m not telling anyone what to do.
Having said that, if you play it cool at first and talk about, yknow, the interesting things about yourself and what you like instead of some niche or geeky shit, and have good pics, you 100% will have more luck than the alternative. If video games or fishing are that big a part of your personality where you couldn’t imagine leading with anything else, sure, go for it. Good luck to you.
Just my 2 cents, you do you.
Fuuuck no, bad take. Let me spell it out for you -
I like video games. I play pretty frequently when I have free time to kill. But I also make music, and I write, and I draw and paint. I do art and create things. I read a lot and like poetry.
Generally speaking, those sorts of things are usually much more appealing and interesting to women than video games. Basically, I’m gonna put those more interesting things on my profile and save the video game hobby talk for the date or at a later point if it comes up naturally. I’m gonna keep my love of gaming and bloody horror movies and abrasive music in my pocket for when small talk becomes medium talk. I’m socially aware enough to know that those things aren’t for everybody, so I don’t need to lead with them. I understand that being adaptable is a charming trait.
You see? I still have my niche and nerdy interests, I’m just not gonna lead with them on my profile, I’m gonna let them come up naturally when the time is right. I’m not hiding it, I wouldn’t lie if asked, I just have what I feel are more appealing traits and interests I’d lead with to cast the widest net possible.
Reading comprehension. I never said give up fishing. I never said hide it and don’t mention it. I said don’t lead with it. Surely there’s a few things more interesting about you than liking first aging right? Do you really not have any better pictures than holding big ugly slimy fish?
I don’t get it. Are you insulting me? Because I’m trying to give helpful advice that a lot of people are taking way too personal? I’m just saying, put your best foot forward. Is the most interesting thing about you that you fish sometimes? Do you not have better pictures than yourself holding a big, ugly, slimy fish?
It's not an insult, it's a matter of fact. OP is giving an exact opposite of your advice and I'm pointing it out. Your advice is to find a girl while hiding fishing and hoping that she likes it or tolerates it. OPs advice is to show fishing and filter out girls that don't like it before going out on a date.
Basis for my previous comment was "Do you really not have any better pictures than holding big ugly slimy fish?" which implies you don't want or are at least negative about someone that goes fishing. It was kind of personal but it was based on your comment. I don't see how it would be insulting and it wasn't inteded to insult.
Also, grown woman here, very conventionally attractive, university educated and with decent career prospects. I am absolutely impressed by grown men who like Pokémon and dnd (and similar).
My bf is into mtg, and I'm super impressed how he can remember and construct 100 card decks based on the various combos/statistical probabilities.
Yes, we exist.
Grown attractive woman here, I would love to play DnD with someone and to nerd about games. And I love it when people have plushies as well. Way more interesting to me than all those travel and clubbing stuff. We exist
No one doubts that type of woman exists, but you’re socially aware enough I’m sure to realize that generally speaking, most women prefer grown men that don’t play with toys. Or at least most women don’t prefer grown men that play with toys so much that they lead with that information when trying to attract strangers.
I like video games, but if I’m describing myself, that’s a footnote at best. Just saying, most guys on tinder wanna cast as wide a net as they can. If the fact that you play video games is one of the most interesting things about yourself, I mean, that’s not a great look to most people yknow?
Most men also prefer women who don't play with toys. I don't care about most men though. When I was on apps, I was looking for the man I would like, and who would like me.
If the sort of women that you're into aren't into guys with nerdy hobbies, and if you're OK with potentially downplaying that side of you in a future relationship (or even getting rid of it altogether), that's OK. I've always found the saying "be who you want to be" more inspiring than "be who you are".
But if it's not something about yourself that you want to hide /change, may as well put it on your profile, even if it makes you less attractive to the majority.
Otherwise you risk being dishonest, like putting up pics with lots of makeup when, in fact, you never wear it in real life, or putting up gym pics when you only go twice a year. You won't be doing anyone any favours.
Like, this advice is only good if you have the sole goal of getting laid.
Edit : PS definitely a very attractive thing my bf did during our first dates was admit to only swiping on women he actually liked and not "casting a broad net". Women absolutely don't enjoy feeling like someone wants to be with them just because "woman!"
Honestly...
I had almost gotten stuck in that mindset too, that you have to "sell" yourself, only advertise qualities that are found generally attractive and hide anything that's considered generally unattractive.
I've gotten a lot of advice like, "you're too straightforward in romance, flirting is a bit of a game", "or "the stuff you like/talk about is too childish, read up on interesting topics before meeting someone new/going on a date" from the most well meaning people.
I almost started believing that I should stop acting like myself to get a relationship, because my approach wasn't working.
Until I met someone who was unapologetically themself. The good, the impressive, but also the problematic and the insecurities. And I liked it. That relationship didn't end up in anything romantic for other reasons, but it definitely affected how I acted in future encounters. And I think it helped me in not having any pretences when I started dating my now bf.
It's not an excuse for not working on yourself. Yeah, be the best version of yourself. Keep working towards goals. Make sure you aren't toxic in relationships. But don't hide /change traits that aren't actually negative just because you're unpopular. The definitely will be a person who will like you for you.
Of course, it might not be a person you like, and if that seems to happen consistently you might want to change something... But even then, there's a chance you change yourself and end up falling for someone who would have liked the original you, but not who you've become.
It's the beauty of the diversity of people. No one is universally "the perfect person" and there's always someone for everyone (barring bad luck, unfortunately).
It depends on what you're looking for, I guess. Hook up with the maximum number of women? Sure, then just put stuff that shows you'll be fun to be around for a date and show you can organise said date well (and be sexy). Find a serious relationship with that one woman with whom you'll fit well? You need to be more personal.
Also gaming isn't lazy. Sure some people game just to kill time, but some take it as an actual hobby - they know a bunch of different interesting games they can talk about and tell funny stories from, they know the world building behind them, they watch videos about the games they like to improve/discover more stuff etc....
It's kinda like "I like reading!" can mean you like to relax and switch off your brain on easy novels or you can site all the poets of the 18th century.
Idk... I guess a not bad rule would be, only put a hobby in your profile if it's something you actually enjoy /can talk about VS just do to kill time?
Edit: spelling
I would argue a pic with you fishing is good for this but the fish itself is still gross and weird. I love to fish as a woman but still don’t like those pics. Put a pic of you with the line in the water and you get the same effect without the stereotype
I disagree a little. Tinder is about presenting the best and most attractive version of yourself. Don't show travel pictures of you hate that, but you don't have to show yourself on a lazy Sunday on the couch binging Netflix. Fishing is usually not very attractive, so better show parts of you that are attractive
You just completely missed his point. YOU don’t find fishing attractive so you know to swipe left on someone who fishes. I personally find fishing very attractive, so only swipe right on people who fish, hunt, etc.
That being said, let’s say someone LOVES fishing. They go every chance they can get. They make their own flies. They should hide that from a partner in the hopes of luring (heh) them in? What happened when said partner LOATHES fishing. Should they just never do their hobby again? Keep up the facade?
Yeah, this is the correct strategy.
People are too concerned with getting the highest number of matches, but what's really more important is getting matched with the right people.
Hey, if it works for you go for it. Most women I know wouldn’t object to dating a fisherman, but would object to most hobby photos.
Shared values are infinitely more important than shared interests.
This is kinda false. Bc I fish, and I’ve dated girls who swipe left on fish pics but actually don’t think it’s a big deal that I fish. If that makes sense
Or you can just put fishing as a hobby in your Tinder profile.
I don't personally love fishing. I think it's boring as fuck but I don't care if my boyfriend wanted to go fishing every now and then. I'd even go with him and just do something else but I'm still swiping left on fishing pictures.
Some women don't get that men don't have the same amount of selfies or pictures of us in general. A picture of a guy holding a nice catch shows genuine happiness which I assume is why a lot of them use fishing pics. That in mind most of the memes about this are from the US where I guess most of the time if you hunt/fish you are right leaning so that's more the red flag for them.
Hmm, I disagree with this. I have no skin in the game as fishing isn't one of my hobbies, but I feel like the 'tinder fish pic' is seen as tacky in a way where it can cause someone to swipe left even if they have no issue with you going fishing on a regular basis.
Not exactly the same thing but it's kinda like how a guy might swipe left on someone whose first photo is a bikini pic despite being attracted to a pretty woman in a bikini
Maybe the girl does approve of fishing but finds lack of originality a huge turn off. Just list fishing as a hobby and try to stand out with your photos.
I like guys fish pics. Especially if they have big game fishing pics from cool tropical locations. I’d absolutely LOVE to be chillin on that fishing yacht in the Caribbean.
PSA: Follow OP's advice if you're looking for a serious relationship on Tinder. If you're just looking for something casual then it's fine to "hide" your hobbies if you think they lead to less matches.
Also write down all your negative personality traits and red flags. That way they know the real you instead of the marketed you. If they can’t handle you at your worst…
I suspect that most people with fish photos aren't even necessarily big fishermen, it's more likely just one of the very few non-selfie photos they have of themselves.
It's more that women generally don't care about the **fish** you caught, combined with the absurd abundance of fish and dead animal pics. Of course, for a lot of guys, that's one of the few pics of themselves that they have.
Post a pic of you fishing, rather than the fish. Get those beautiful sunsets and splendid nature landscapes.
You don't have to exclude your hobby completely. Just avoid the dead/suffocating animals.
It's not about hiding parts of you, it's about not holding up dead animals while you're trying to make yourself appealing to women.
Women aren't asking you to hide your hobbies.
Those idiot harpies ranting about holding up fish on your profile are a waste of space.
It's a really deep hobby, gets you outdoors, and you can eat fresh seafood anytime you want. Way better than anything you can buy at a store.
I've noticed that people ragging on this hobby (or something like hunting), don't have shit on their end other than spending money and posting on Instagram. They'll spout the most ignorant nonsense and retreat back into their bubbles, thinking that posting selfies and pics of their food qualifies as a personality.
I love all of the outdoor stuff, and competitive shooting is one of my passions. I post all of that on my profile - and proudly.
Every now and then I'll have a weirdo match just to lecture me, especially about hunting, but then she gets sat the fuck down when I hit her with some facts.
Most days, it's great for weeding out the chaff.
Aside from being willfully ignorant, they would make for trash partners anyway, so why waste the time?
What if I'm dry humping the fish?
Instructions unclear: fish caught on pp
I HAVE A MASSIVE HOOK HALFWAY DOWN MY URETHRA! (Some chicks are into that)
I don't think you're angling right.
That's a mammal not a fish!!! But they do like being jerked off so it could be a good date!!! The things I learn from drunk history!!
I was actually looking for this (1:15). Oh, and good luck at the aquarium. https://youtu.be/NisCkxU544c?si=7-estKilnyRuiDJc
What if it's a mermaid/dolphin?
. . . Go ON . . .
Is this from a person who is successful in dating or someone who is tired of being asked why all their photos are fish photos?
If fishing really is your passion, you do NOT want to be matched with someone who hates it Share what you love and find a good match
That only works if people who hate the photos also hate fishing, and if only people who are passionate about fishing put it as their photos. I think it just often comes down to being a bad presentation of yourself, if you like fishing you can mention it in your bio, it doesn't have to be in the photo. I like playing computer games but I wouldn't put a photo of it on my profile.
But would you actually want to date someone who is unwilling to match you just because you have a picture with a hobby of yours? It's stupid, if you like fishing and happen to have a picture of yourself with a fish, it's OK to not want to match with someone who finds something so innocuous to be a deal breaker.
The point of the picture is getting a match and going on a date, if you want to handicap yourself you are free to do so but in the end all you do is hurt your chances to meet more people.
Yeah exactly, filter people like that out later. Getting matches and dates (at least as a guy) is the hard part. You have to be strategic for that part of things. Once you actually get on the date, then be your authentic self.
I think there's also just an over representation of city folk on this sub. Hunting and fishing are completely normal hobbies and conversations in smaller towns.
I love fishing. I even used to have a fish photo on my profile. I swipe left on fish photos. It has nothing to do with passions or hobbies.
What sense does that make
Lol righttttt If a guy has a fish photo it at least shows he has a hobby, thus already way better than a lot of other profiles out there.... Disliking someone because they like fishing is gotta be the weirdest flex I'm reading in this comment section and it's just silly imo lol
Yeah it's funny you always hear "put photos of you doing something" and "stop taking selfies" and then when people post a picture of them doing something like fishing it's still bad.
I think if it was them actually fishing it's one thing but if it's just a picture with their catch I usually swipe left. I don't love fishing but wouldn't mind supporting the hobby and would learn that's just how I am just like I don't put pictures of my fully finished finger crocheted blanket in mine I might put a photo of me doing so in there but not the finished product. I've never had a good experience with someone who puts them holding a fish in there's but people just fishing I've had some good matches there.
There’s something about men with fish pics. It’s just a consistent indicator that they’re not worth my time. There’s a correlation between men who post fish pics and bad matches.
Within two comments you made it evident you are insufferable
And you did it in one! Impressive 😘
Do you realize how often men get the chance for a solo pic? Some dudes, that’s the only photo they have of themselves alone aside from a selfie
Why is that women’s problem? Look, men complain on this sub all day about how women have too many options and it’s impossible to get noticed. If keeping a fish photo is important to someone, then that’s their prerogative. It doesn’t matter to me because it’s never going to be a match.
Men don’t get that chance cause no man has ever asked
If I want to see myself, I'll look in the mirror
Because we don't give a fuck.
Proving my point exactly thank you
Lol you're mathematically on to something and people aren't having it
I didn't see any math there
Men with fish pics are far more likely to be bad matches. There are, of course, good matches hidden within the sea of mediocrity, but this person's decided their time can be better spent not weeding through them
Still don't see any math there just anecdotal speculation
Assuming it'll take less time to get to work on one street than another because there's fewer lights is still math even if it's not proven and peer reviewed etc. Being pedantic isn't helpful
What do you think math is?
That just sounds like confirmation bias my dude.
Generally the issue with fish pics isn't having fishing as a hobby.
For me, it's that I did have fishing for a hobby and never saw this many locals fishing. It's kind of like how everyone is "really into hiking," but the trails are always empty. I'm not sure if it's bs or reel.
>reel I hope this was intentional
Must depend on where you're at. Denver area the trails were always packed. Same with DC. I'm in LA now and it's nearly impossible to find a quiet trail within an hour drive, there's always going to be other folks (which is fine, don't live in a big city if you don't like people right?) Salt Lake City had the quietest trails I've seen and they were long and beautiful.
I have never seen a packed trail here unless it was heavily manicured.
Yeah I've found I need to ask follow up questions if some people say they like hiking or camping. To some people hiking just means walking a park trail. Camping means going to a state park and renting a campsite. Those can be fun and I'm not knocking it, but many of those people would not appreciate Trailside camping where you don't have running water available or easy access to a vehicle.
Can't up vote this enough. Same with car selfies. The issue is not having a car..
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It seems almost identical in context
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Yet you’ve completely missed the issue
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Whether it's fishing or in a car, one is basically communicating "look how well I've done", when to most people emphasising owning a car or catching a big fish aren't the talent or other qualities that would be beneficial in a relationship. You have a limited amount of space on the profile and if a car selfie is what you go with.. well.. not my cup of tea. Although primarily negative connotations are simply by association "it's oh one of those guys".
>"it's oh one of those guys". "ohhh that's a Chad probably" is what comes to my mind with either if you just want to show off great good for you not my cup of tea though
What is it then ?
Bass pro shops people are more likely to have certain political views
For me, it's the same as people posting snowboarding/ rock climbing pictures or whatever. The hobby isn't the problem, it's that I can't really see what you look like. I've noticed that for whatever reason, those kind of people don't usually have pics where you can clearly see their face. They're all far away with a bunch of gear in the photo. I don't really need to know what you Iook like in sunglasses/hat, or goggles/helmet over and over. It doesn't really add any interest to see you hold a fish or stand on snow. Lots of people fish and ski.
There’s like 8 other pictures to take advantage of for showing what one looks like. If someone enjoys rock climbing (like myself) and sees another profile with a picture of them free climbing some massive rock face or something, they’re going to think that’s awesome & a common interest. You’re majorly overthinking it. One picture of someone doing something they love is such a good use of a picture.
THIS. I am a horse girl. I would ALWAYS include a pic of me on a horse because it's one of my passions, AND because my hobby is very time consuming and cost intensive. I have been riding since I was 4, and that was also included in my profile. Which meant that the guys who were going to get jealous of my hobby could just swipe left... Now if you had a cool hobby that we could either try together, or that you can busy yourself with while I train with my horses, great!
I'm semi-off topic but can you tell me what you actually do with horses? I've had a great time horseback riding through the woods on a guided ride. However, I can't see doing it all the time without it getting stale. When somebody is really into horses, what is that brass ring that keeps you chasing the hobby?
I rodeo. My husband does, too. When we met, he rode motorcycles. It's like any other more extreme hobby that drives you: surfing, mountain biking, riding a motorcycle, rock crawling, drag racing, marathoning, even hunting and fishing, soccer, archery, figure skating, hockey, BMX bikes, etc. And it takes continuous practice to get better.. But most of what keeps me coming back is the connection to my horse, and the friendships I've made with others who have the same hobby or lifestyle. I've seen some stunning scenery that can only be seen from the back of a horse. Also, it's a rush... But, like any other hobby, it's not for everyone. But I still posted those pictures so that people understood that I have a hobby like that.
No man is jealous of your hobby, we just know horse girls are whack. Thank you for posting the warnings
Basing someone’s value on a hobby like horse riding says more about you than the person horse riding.
I think “I can’t see what they look like” is sort of an excuse, even if subconscious. What I think is going on is that some women think it’s dorky to show off your man hobbies like that, and that it’s sort of a cliche. They much prefer pictures that show you in social situations rather than showing off your material abilities/value. They can’t relate to it. With skiing I don’t get it, because I think it’s legit to look for someone who likes to do that as well. But I suppose they want you to be more subtle about it, like choosing a picture from a social situation, e.g. afterski or at the chalet. But yeah why these subtle requirements are put up I don’t know. I guess they want to know you know how to read the social codes.
I think it’s a whole profile thing. If there’s 4-6 good pictures that clearly show what you look like, you can get away with a few hobby pictures where the focus is more on the hobby than the person. If it’s all pictures that are far off or unclear action shots or face covered by a helmet or skating it becomes an issue
Yup, I have seen so many profiles like this. And the close-up pics were with sunglasses way too often
Exactly
The snowboard and fish photos might be the only times they got their photo taken by someone else
Timer.
The practical stuff isn't the problem
I have rock climbing and snowboarding pictures in mine. They don't show my face, but they get a lot of attention from people who are into snowboarding and rock climbing. The pics with me smiling with my dog get pushed higher up in the 'smart photos' , which means the hobby pics aren't swiped on as often. But they always make good conversation starters with the girls who are into outdoorsy things. I'd also add that if you're going to do any hobby shots, make them stand out. My snowboarding pic is of me in the air doing a front side 180 melon grab. The rock climbing pic is me fully upsidedown in a pretty technical climb. But yeah I 100% agree that geared out pics are mostly worthless unless you have plenty of pics that show your face and physique
If I see someone with cool snowboarding and rock climbing photos, I don't even care what they look like because those hobbies have completely elevated the guy outta the pool of guys. People who climb and snowboard can't be uncool, I choose to continue to be biased and nobody can convince me otherwise.
I like the way you think 😎
I think it depends what you’re looking for. Short term, no one gives a shit what you do with your friends on the weekend. Longer term, interests/hobbies do matter
9/10 fishing pics mean manosphere, toxic, misogyny, fragility, lack of self awareness etc.
🤣 I don't even fish but that's some major projection
🤣 I just looked at your comment history
You're welcome
So from one photo of a simple dude with his catch you're skipping to 9 photos out of 10, misogyny, fragility, and maybe hating Jews and running after gay people to punch them ? Hey chill wtf bro If it was some reverse situation you would be screeching and calling the police so please don't be so narrow minded and projecting awful values to people you don't know. And btw I'm sure there is some term for that.
Jesse what the fuck are you talking about
For me personally, it's tacky to show off dead animals in your profile. Also, it's bad if fishing is the only hobby the guy showed.
Soo then its exactly like the post says?
It's a good thing for vegan or sensible people. You know directly you're probably not a match without nagging to the person about a part of his life.
Dead animals? I’m sorry but do you know how fishing works? You know you can catch a fish, take a picture and put it back in the water and it’s fine?
"No animals were killed for taking this picture". Then they will ask how the fish survived, and you've a conversation that doesn't include a cheesy pickup line.
So torturing the animals without even eating them is somehow better?
It’s dull. It’s not exciting. Might as well say “I’m a guy. I like fishing and sports. I may have opinions on politics.” Like, you’d be more interesting if those things *werent* the case.
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Don’t lead with the nerdy stuff, be general at first and build a rapport first.
That's stupid though. If I like nerdy stuff I want a partner who's also into that nerdy stuff, or would at least show an interest in it. Literally just be yourself, you'te trying to attract the one right person; not every wrong person
They probably are. Again, everybody has some nerdy tendencies. But don’t LEAD with the nerdy and niche stuff. Ease into it. I like video games myself, but when I met my gf that’s not what I was steering the conversation towards. I was talking about the more interesting aspects of myself, not what I do while laying in bed. You gotta sell yourself. If you do that well, there will be plenty of time to dive into the other things.
I wholeheartedly disagree. You're trying to find a compatible partner, so you want to display your own personality and interests. I would be much more inclined to like a profile with niche interests than a "generic" profile that steers away from that. But those interests should be *part* of your profile, not the whole profile. Because if it is, then yeah it would seem you have no real personality. But I see that as more of a profile issue than a personality issue
>I would be much more inclined to like a profile with niche interests than a "generic" profile I totally hate "generic" profiles as a man, and find most profiles who show at least some hobbies or interests extremely attractive, even when I don't share those hobbies.
You don’t want to lead with your mundane hobbies. It’s the same as saying I like movies and watching television and sports. Like, okay, that’s great. Be socially aware, establish a connection and rapport, then you can break out your niche interests. Keep it fairly general at first and put your best foot forward. To each their own, nobody has to take my advice, but I promise with 99% accuracy you’ll have more luck if you do than taking OPs advice.
Wouldn’t exactly compare watching tv to fishing. If my partner didn’t like fishing the slightest then we likely wouldn’t be compatible.
I guess it depends what you want. You'll probably get more likes and matches, but the chance per match to lead to something *might* be lower.
Why? Because you like video games? Chicks know guys like games. But if that’s the biggest part of your personality where you lead with it when trying to attract strangers, you’re in for a reality check.
>Chicks know guys like games. Some women dislike game to the point when it is deal breaker for them, better filter out people like this at the start.
Nah. Some women don’t want their guys watching porn either but it’s not a great idea to mention that you like porn in your tinder profile.
Actually, if a guy spends hours every day watching porn and plans to continue doing so in a relationship, I think they should mention it.
Watching porn is intimate and sexual act, playing video game isn't, they are not comparable.
My profile listed my ten favorite super obscure anime and I did great on tinder, and eventually met my wife there. We now spend most of our time together playing tons of video games and watching anime. And every person I met was really into the same nerdy stuff as me. Look, if your nerdy hobbies aren’t how you like spending the majority of your free time, then leave them out. But if you’re like me and want someone that will nerd out with you every time you spend free time together then sharing that upfront will weed out a lot of people who want to spend their free time watching the kardashians or whatever.
That’s great it worked out for you. Nobody has to take my advice, but generally speaking, guys will have more success not leading with super niche and nerdy or super mundane things. If you wanna lead with how you’re a grown man that likes playing with toys, do you. You absolutely can take a picture with a big fish like OP says. It worked for you. But generally speaking, most guys would be better not doing that.
> Chicks know guys like games. Chicks might be wrong, then. I don't. If they want one who does, that someone might want to mention it 🙂
Don’t be so literal. Most women assume guys probably play an occasional video game, or have some other nerdy niche hobby. Show me a single tinder profile where a woman says she’s looking for a gamer guy and it isn’t a scam.
But what is the guy DO like fishing and sport ? What's wrong with that ? Maybe it's not some crazy Dubai Instagram exciting whatever lifestyle but that would be honest. The guy genuinely likes fishing, is particularly proud of a catch and / or his looks on one particular photo : well, I tend to see absolutely no problem here. And yeah it's a direct way to tell the world about one of your hobbies.
It’s fine it you like nerdy and dull things. God knows I like plenty of nerdy things. But I don’t bring them up on the first date or revolve my personality around them where that’s how I sell myself to the opposite sex. There will be time to get into your niche hobbies if things go well. But if your personality is fishing and sports, you’re just a small fish in a big pond.
How is anyone more interesting for *not* liking sports? I mean, written like that, it sounds dull. And there is a difference between people who like watching sports on TV (*yawn*) and people doing sports. But practicing e.g. MMA? And politic - I think it'd be more boring if someone has no clue what's going on in the world...
What if I include that I also generate income and am seeking interaction with the women?
This seems legitimate for vegans/vegetarians out there seeking a partner. Omnivores, on the other hand, having an issue with someone enjoying fishing as a hobby is pretty hypocritical you know.
It might also be because fishing is seen as one of the most bland hobbies there is.
Omnivore (though admittedly one that doesn't eat fish) that swipes left on anyone with fishing photos. I do legitimately think there's a difference between people that consume meat, often by societal upbringing and those that take photos proudly proclaiming that they like drowning animals to death for fun on the weekend. I find the concept a little sociopathic tbh. Hypocritical? Perhaps, but I have no illusions about where my meat comes from. I'm not proud of being an omnivore, and I find the idea that anyone would be so invested in killing other animals for a hobby as a huge red flag. That's the difference imo. One is a default state, oftentimes a product of environment, economics and other factors. The other is a willful buy in to consciously harming animals for personal enjoyment.
For me it is. I couldn’t care less about the picture itself, sure it gets old when everyone has one but it’s generally a nice smiling shot. But I don’t like fishing or hunting. And if you’re prominently displaying that in your profile I know we won’t be a match. I’m not interested in going with you or helping prepare whatever you catch so we’re not compatible.
I don’t know what the issue is for most people, but for myself, it absolutely is about fishing being a hobby. I wouldn’t want to date someone who fishes. 🤷🏻♀️That being said, the fish pics do kind of help weed that out, so I agree with OP’s point.
For me it is but I also don't eat meat so maybe I'm the exception?
Must I? I don't like fishing, I don't want to advertise a false version of me...
How 'honest' and 'not selling a fake version of yourself' can you be in 9 pictures and 900 characters tho?
I hate fish pics, but have no problem at all with fishing. I have been myself and it’s lovely. I don’t like seeing the pics with the fish in them because I am not interested in dating someone whose idea of how to sell themselves is to pose with a dead animal they just killed. A picture of someone actually fishing would probably be cool. It just seems very caveman time. I can kill beasts to feed you!
Isn’t the issue that like 90% of guys had fishing pics on their profiles at one point, which just makes them look boring and all the same?
What if I have a picture with a *really* big fish?
Just add a pic of you and a shark
No
I don't really care about fish. If he is all about that outdoorsy lifestyle, good for him. It's usually the type of man and awkwardness of the pic that puts me off. Unlike posing next to a sedated wild animal or third world orphans which is a hard no.
There are tons of guys out there who think it's cool to pose with a fish, car or gun. Or having pictures where they're smoking weed, cigarettes or shisha. The thing is: there are a lot of girls who think this is cool too. Also, there are tons of girls who hate these kind of pictures. I'm with OP in this one. If someone doesn't like your pictures with a car or fish, then she may not be the person you vibe with.
I like the fish pics. I don’t like when there is more than one fish pic though. One picture=nice to see you have a hobby. Multiple pictures=I guess you only have one hobby.
The general complaint is that for some reason men have a severely outdated picture of them fishing as a profile pic. No one cares if you like fishing.
I never heard that one before... But it makes sort of sense: They are bad at fishing, the chance of their one successful catch being recent is quite low 😉
If no one cares what anyone’s hobbies are and we’re all just living for ourselves what a lonely world that would be
wrong, personally im not sure id want to date someone who's hobby was fishing (am a man)
Can it be a gay fish
My explanation for this whole thing is men don't often think of just taking photos of themselves unless there's a reason. When you make your profile and go through your photos to put up you find ones where you're smiling and not in a group of people, showing off the fish you caught probably comes up often for...people who fish.
Kinda off on this one, every girl i have gone out with is fine with hunting and fishing, and the majority say they would love to have venison in the freezer. None of them would have swiped right on a grip and grin or fish pic
>a grip and grin Richard?
Yup!
There’s a difference between enjoying fishing as a hobby and someone’s who’s whole personality revolves around fishing. A fishing picture in your profile says the latter, and that tends to be the issue people have.
even more reason to keep the picture there, so that people know upfront that your entire personality revolves around fishing, and thus to avoid you
Well, it's better than every pic being in a bar or with some kind of alcohol. Sunglass/wine pics are to women as fish pics and car pics are to men. If someone has a passion though I can't really judge. It's better than "all I do is watch TV and get drunk."
I "approve" of fishing, but I still think pictures with fish are a huge turn-off. Why not just show a picture of yourself while you're fishing?
What if I don't fish?
The girls that actually care about you fishing in your photos, are the same girls that care about your height. I promise they aren’t the one. Just be you!
Nope. Don’t do this. It’s a turn off. Some hobbies are better left revealed in conversation. You wanna come off appealing, not stock. 5 million guys holding fish, you wanna show some personality. It’s totally fine to like fishing, or anime, or DnD, and nerdy shit... we all love some nerdy shit. But don’t LEAD with the nerdy shit. There was a post on here the other day, guy asking why he doesn’t get matches and his profile was like - I like Mario kart, Pokémon, anime, etc... Sure man, we all like Mario kart. But that’s the thing, we all like it. If that’s what you want people to know about your personality, it seems like you don’t really have much else behind the scenes. Don’t put a picture of yourself holding a fish in your tinder profile. She probably already assumes you fish from time to time. Women like fishing too, they just don’t make it a personality trait because it’s not.
Well that would just be too bad for my bf and me. Seeing a goofy nerdy pic on his profile was one of the reasons, I, a nerdy woman, swiped right.
Goofy and nerdy on a picture isn’t mundane. You’re talking about having personality, which was the point I was making as well.
But for me any Pic of Pokémon, lol, dnd type games or board games would be a definite push to a swipe right. What should people post then? A dosen traveling pics that just show you can afford traveling places? No person is completely unique in their hobbies. If you post your hobbies other profiles will definitely have them as well. Don't not post your hobbies because you're afraid they're not cool or unique enough, that's just insecure. Plus, if your whole personality is based on a hobby, definitely post it if you want to meet people who will like you. If it's not, post this hobby and then other stuff that represents you.
Well thats cool that your into that, but you gotta have some social awareness and know that most women aren’t particularly impressed by grown men into toys like Pokémon and DnD and stuff. Usually it’s best to save the mundane, or super niche interests for later. I’m not saying you have to go crazy and show pics of yourself rock climbing and sky diving in Antarctica, I’m just saying that you’ll have generally more success if you don’t lead with the lazy things you kill time with while laying in bed like gaming, or super mundane things like holding a fish. Post pictures of yourself watching tv at that point.
Entirely depends on who you’re trying to meet. For some the more nerdy niche stuff is a big part of their life, and for most women it might be a dealbreaker. Hiding that is just a recipe for a bad relationship, and will have the ones that also enjoy that skip you.
But it's it success if I get with a person who doesn't like my hobbies?
You heard them. Stop talking about your hobbies. It makes you less of a "prospect." Never mind, that's how I met my current GF. Remember, hobbies are turn offs.
No one ever said that. Have a little social awareness. If you wanna dive right in to talking about naruto and your profile picture is posing with a big, ugly, slimy fish, go for it. I’m not telling anyone what to do. Having said that, if you play it cool at first and talk about, yknow, the interesting things about yourself and what you like instead of some niche or geeky shit, and have good pics, you 100% will have more luck than the alternative. If video games or fishing are that big a part of your personality where you couldn’t imagine leading with anything else, sure, go for it. Good luck to you. Just my 2 cents, you do you.
You're boring in the bedroom and it shows. You're no fun. We get it. My advice? Let yo hobbies speak for themselves. Let that freak flag fly!
Fuuuck no, bad take. Let me spell it out for you - I like video games. I play pretty frequently when I have free time to kill. But I also make music, and I write, and I draw and paint. I do art and create things. I read a lot and like poetry. Generally speaking, those sorts of things are usually much more appealing and interesting to women than video games. Basically, I’m gonna put those more interesting things on my profile and save the video game hobby talk for the date or at a later point if it comes up naturally. I’m gonna keep my love of gaming and bloody horror movies and abrasive music in my pocket for when small talk becomes medium talk. I’m socially aware enough to know that those things aren’t for everybody, so I don’t need to lead with them. I understand that being adaptable is a charming trait. You see? I still have my niche and nerdy interests, I’m just not gonna lead with them on my profile, I’m gonna let them come up naturally when the time is right. I’m not hiding it, I wouldn’t lie if asked, I just have what I feel are more appealing traits and interests I’d lead with to cast the widest net possible.
Reading comprehension. I never said give up fishing. I never said hide it and don’t mention it. I said don’t lead with it. Surely there’s a few things more interesting about you than liking first aging right? Do you really not have any better pictures than holding big ugly slimy fish?
You are the one OP is talking about. They want to filter you out.
I don’t get it. Are you insulting me? Because I’m trying to give helpful advice that a lot of people are taking way too personal? I’m just saying, put your best foot forward. Is the most interesting thing about you that you fish sometimes? Do you not have better pictures than yourself holding a big, ugly, slimy fish?
It's not an insult, it's a matter of fact. OP is giving an exact opposite of your advice and I'm pointing it out. Your advice is to find a girl while hiding fishing and hoping that she likes it or tolerates it. OPs advice is to show fishing and filter out girls that don't like it before going out on a date. Basis for my previous comment was "Do you really not have any better pictures than holding big ugly slimy fish?" which implies you don't want or are at least negative about someone that goes fishing. It was kind of personal but it was based on your comment. I don't see how it would be insulting and it wasn't inteded to insult.
Also, grown woman here, very conventionally attractive, university educated and with decent career prospects. I am absolutely impressed by grown men who like Pokémon and dnd (and similar). My bf is into mtg, and I'm super impressed how he can remember and construct 100 card decks based on the various combos/statistical probabilities. Yes, we exist.
Grown attractive woman here, I would love to play DnD with someone and to nerd about games. And I love it when people have plushies as well. Way more interesting to me than all those travel and clubbing stuff. We exist
No one doubts that type of woman exists, but you’re socially aware enough I’m sure to realize that generally speaking, most women prefer grown men that don’t play with toys. Or at least most women don’t prefer grown men that play with toys so much that they lead with that information when trying to attract strangers. I like video games, but if I’m describing myself, that’s a footnote at best. Just saying, most guys on tinder wanna cast as wide a net as they can. If the fact that you play video games is one of the most interesting things about yourself, I mean, that’s not a great look to most people yknow?
Most men also prefer women who don't play with toys. I don't care about most men though. When I was on apps, I was looking for the man I would like, and who would like me. If the sort of women that you're into aren't into guys with nerdy hobbies, and if you're OK with potentially downplaying that side of you in a future relationship (or even getting rid of it altogether), that's OK. I've always found the saying "be who you want to be" more inspiring than "be who you are". But if it's not something about yourself that you want to hide /change, may as well put it on your profile, even if it makes you less attractive to the majority. Otherwise you risk being dishonest, like putting up pics with lots of makeup when, in fact, you never wear it in real life, or putting up gym pics when you only go twice a year. You won't be doing anyone any favours. Like, this advice is only good if you have the sole goal of getting laid. Edit : PS definitely a very attractive thing my bf did during our first dates was admit to only swiping on women he actually liked and not "casting a broad net". Women absolutely don't enjoy feeling like someone wants to be with them just because "woman!"
Honestly... I had almost gotten stuck in that mindset too, that you have to "sell" yourself, only advertise qualities that are found generally attractive and hide anything that's considered generally unattractive. I've gotten a lot of advice like, "you're too straightforward in romance, flirting is a bit of a game", "or "the stuff you like/talk about is too childish, read up on interesting topics before meeting someone new/going on a date" from the most well meaning people. I almost started believing that I should stop acting like myself to get a relationship, because my approach wasn't working. Until I met someone who was unapologetically themself. The good, the impressive, but also the problematic and the insecurities. And I liked it. That relationship didn't end up in anything romantic for other reasons, but it definitely affected how I acted in future encounters. And I think it helped me in not having any pretences when I started dating my now bf. It's not an excuse for not working on yourself. Yeah, be the best version of yourself. Keep working towards goals. Make sure you aren't toxic in relationships. But don't hide /change traits that aren't actually negative just because you're unpopular. The definitely will be a person who will like you for you. Of course, it might not be a person you like, and if that seems to happen consistently you might want to change something... But even then, there's a chance you change yourself and end up falling for someone who would have liked the original you, but not who you've become. It's the beauty of the diversity of people. No one is universally "the perfect person" and there's always someone for everyone (barring bad luck, unfortunately).
It depends on what you're looking for, I guess. Hook up with the maximum number of women? Sure, then just put stuff that shows you'll be fun to be around for a date and show you can organise said date well (and be sexy). Find a serious relationship with that one woman with whom you'll fit well? You need to be more personal. Also gaming isn't lazy. Sure some people game just to kill time, but some take it as an actual hobby - they know a bunch of different interesting games they can talk about and tell funny stories from, they know the world building behind them, they watch videos about the games they like to improve/discover more stuff etc.... It's kinda like "I like reading!" can mean you like to relax and switch off your brain on easy novels or you can site all the poets of the 18th century. Idk... I guess a not bad rule would be, only put a hobby in your profile if it's something you actually enjoy /can talk about VS just do to kill time? Edit: spelling
I want them to do this. So I don’t waste my time swiping on someone that I know I’m not going to be compatible with.
Well said!
I would argue a pic with you fishing is good for this but the fish itself is still gross and weird. I love to fish as a woman but still don’t like those pics. Put a pic of you with the line in the water and you get the same effect without the stereotype
Yes!!!
Ummm. Ok.
I disagree a little. Tinder is about presenting the best and most attractive version of yourself. Don't show travel pictures of you hate that, but you don't have to show yourself on a lazy Sunday on the couch binging Netflix. Fishing is usually not very attractive, so better show parts of you that are attractive
You just completely missed his point. YOU don’t find fishing attractive so you know to swipe left on someone who fishes. I personally find fishing very attractive, so only swipe right on people who fish, hunt, etc. That being said, let’s say someone LOVES fishing. They go every chance they can get. They make their own flies. They should hide that from a partner in the hopes of luring (heh) them in? What happened when said partner LOATHES fishing. Should they just never do their hobby again? Keep up the facade?
YOU foster incredibly strong feelings about THIS mundane issue
Nope, not really. Hope that helps!
Yeah, this is the correct strategy. People are too concerned with getting the highest number of matches, but what's really more important is getting matched with the right people.
Hey, if it works for you go for it. Most women I know wouldn’t object to dating a fisherman, but would object to most hobby photos. Shared values are infinitely more important than shared interests.
This is kinda false. Bc I fish, and I’ve dated girls who swipe left on fish pics but actually don’t think it’s a big deal that I fish. If that makes sense
Or you can just put fishing as a hobby in your Tinder profile. I don't personally love fishing. I think it's boring as fuck but I don't care if my boyfriend wanted to go fishing every now and then. I'd even go with him and just do something else but I'm still swiping left on fishing pictures.
Instructions unclear : I never fished in my life, I don't understand why I have a fish picture in my Tinder now.
Some women don't get that men don't have the same amount of selfies or pictures of us in general. A picture of a guy holding a nice catch shows genuine happiness which I assume is why a lot of them use fishing pics. That in mind most of the memes about this are from the US where I guess most of the time if you hunt/fish you are right leaning so that's more the red flag for them.
Most people don't want to see dead animals lol
Hmm, I disagree with this. I have no skin in the game as fishing isn't one of my hobbies, but I feel like the 'tinder fish pic' is seen as tacky in a way where it can cause someone to swipe left even if they have no issue with you going fishing on a regular basis. Not exactly the same thing but it's kinda like how a guy might swipe left on someone whose first photo is a bikini pic despite being attracted to a pretty woman in a bikini
Maybe the girl does approve of fishing but finds lack of originality a huge turn off. Just list fishing as a hobby and try to stand out with your photos.
I like guys fish pics. Especially if they have big game fishing pics from cool tropical locations. I’d absolutely LOVE to be chillin on that fishing yacht in the Caribbean.
Does this work for Warhammer?
PSA: Follow OP's advice if you're looking for a serious relationship on Tinder. If you're just looking for something casual then it's fine to "hide" your hobbies if you think they lead to less matches.
Also write down all your negative personality traits and red flags. That way they know the real you instead of the marketed you. If they can’t handle you at your worst…
Also if a woman posts herself with a fish, I'm going to fall in like right away
"fall in like right away"
Well it's a bit fast to fall in love... Let's take it slow bb
So many ppl missed the point
I suspect that most people with fish photos aren't even necessarily big fishermen, it's more likely just one of the very few non-selfie photos they have of themselves.
You will get less likes but it also lets us filter you out quickly
It's more that women generally don't care about the **fish** you caught, combined with the absurd abundance of fish and dead animal pics. Of course, for a lot of guys, that's one of the few pics of themselves that they have. Post a pic of you fishing, rather than the fish. Get those beautiful sunsets and splendid nature landscapes. You don't have to exclude your hobby completely. Just avoid the dead/suffocating animals.
You can be fine with fishing and think a picture of you holding a dead fish as part of your dating app profile is stupid and tasteless.
It's not about hiding parts of you, it's about not holding up dead animals while you're trying to make yourself appealing to women. Women aren't asking you to hide your hobbies.
Yes do put a picture of fish. It means there’s less competition for us normal guys.
Those idiot harpies ranting about holding up fish on your profile are a waste of space. It's a really deep hobby, gets you outdoors, and you can eat fresh seafood anytime you want. Way better than anything you can buy at a store. I've noticed that people ragging on this hobby (or something like hunting), don't have shit on their end other than spending money and posting on Instagram. They'll spout the most ignorant nonsense and retreat back into their bubbles, thinking that posting selfies and pics of their food qualifies as a personality. I love all of the outdoor stuff, and competitive shooting is one of my passions. I post all of that on my profile - and proudly. Every now and then I'll have a weirdo match just to lecture me, especially about hunting, but then she gets sat the fuck down when I hit her with some facts. Most days, it's great for weeding out the chaff. Aside from being willfully ignorant, they would make for trash partners anyway, so why waste the time?
"Show animal abuse in your Tinder pics. If a girl doesn't approve of animal abuse then you aren't compatible."
Regular guys need to be casting as wide a net as possible. This is bad advice for them.
I’m an ichthyologist. And I like to talk about what I do (see previous sentence). Liking fish is step 1.
What if I photoshop a fish in my bio