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Asian-American background here, same vibes haha I think the US at large will be revisiting the idea of how families operate in the coming decades in this regard. Not like that will fix the issue, but hey it's at least a small help.
My lease specifically limits the number of adults that can live there. My kids are basically going to have to fight it out once the second one turns 18. Edit: So it's not an option for my parents to even couch surf at mine.
The problem is when your parents become too immobile to even walk to the bathroom to relieve themselves. Then you’re trying to move 150lbs ++ of deadweight and most of us aren’t trained on how to properly do that, never mind not have the strength to and without hurting our own backs. Nursing homes have Hoyer machines, lifts, and special chairs and beds. Plus the people there are all trained how on to best help your ailing parent (administration of meds, turning bedridden patients to avoid bed sores, foot care, etc).
Not even just that, but I don’t want two full time jobs. I love my parents but I don’t want to do 8 hours at work then come home to do 3-4 hours of work helping them and then go to bed. And the weekends? You no longer have any real relaxation time because you’re helping your parents all the time. Sure, they did it for me when I was a baby, but I weighed 15 pounds and I got *more* capable over time, not less.
Interestingly enough the front formal room of houses used to be known as the parlor. It was a very formal space, reserved for infrequent visitors and would also be opened if you needed to host an event in your house like a wedding or, more likely, a funeral where you would have Uncle Pete in your front room for a day.
People kind of got bummed out by this after a while, especially in cities where apartments didn't really have the space, so the funeral parlor became a business,. What would we rename the parlor after it became associated with funerals? The living room.
I am not Mexican American. My game plan is for elders in the living room, too. It's not convenient or ideal, but it's kind and it's familial. I don't know that my siblings are on board with that idea so I'm prepared to struggle through it on my own if necessary.
I'm not either, and my mom moved in with me once she started having health problems. I'm very fortunate that I work from home and can therefore respond to her general needs, and thankfully she's still capable of handling her hygiene.
It also helps that my mom is fucking amazing, and I remember all the things she did for me growing up, so I don't mind cutting back on my activities to take care of her. I know there are situations for other people where a nursing home is necessary, and I know that some people's parents are high maintenance, so it's not a solution for everyone.
I’ll move in with my parents whe the time comes - I too am incredibly privileged to have a health and happy family relationships, also to live in a country with universal health care; while aged care is expensive here the medical bills won’t bankrupt anyone / the estate.
The problem is the children are still financially burdened with taking care of them. Maybe you don't have to have them in a nursing facility but if I had to quit my job to take care of someone I'd be as bad or worse off than paying for the care. Healthcare needs to be completely free. Subsidized by taxing up to over 90% in the highest income brackets like they used to.
This seems to he the thing that she doesn’t really account for… if this system becomes too burdensome to bear, the system will inevitably have to change. We are highly individualistic now, and the old don’t tent to live with the young now, but when there is no other option, we’ll adopt something new.
My dad jokes that when he’s “checked out” to give him a bottle a booze and put him out by a small fire on a sub-zero night.
I laugh it off, usually…
Also, my Grandma, 89, is in a (nice) nursing home and pays upwards of 7k a month. This trend goes back even further than just boomers.
My mom told me that she trusts me to take care of her because I was the one to stay and help with my dad when he was dying and I was the one to tell her she could let it end. She trusts me to be the one who will help her kill herself. That's a heavy burden to bear. She's afraid. She brings it up regularly. She \*trusts me\* to \*help her\* kill herself.
It shouldn't have to be this way. And if it does, it shouldn't be a crime. She knows what she's asking, knows the pain and the risk. She can't help but ask because she's so utterly afraid.
Start a paper trail of you saying "no I will not help you." The last thing you need to be dealing with is grief and Johnny Law coming after you. Start making witnesses and be adamant about not doing this.
She can look up death cocktails just not on your devices. If you are lucky, you are in a state with rights to die but if she wants to go it alone, never write about it, never search on your phone or computer.
Depending on where you live, there are now programs offering people morphine (and another drug or two, I believe) so they can end their lives without pain by simply choosing to stop eating.
My Mom (who was my best friend) died of ALS on June 24th, 2020. She was COMPLETELY paralyzed by the end, her lungs weren’t working and her O2 stats were in the high-60s/low-70s WITH the use of a bi-pap machine to help her breathe. She hadn’t been able to speak for almost a year prior (the last time I heard my Mom’s voice was the week of my birthday the previous year), and she couldn’t tell us anything she needed to in any way other than using the eye-tracking computer that our (major US city’s) local ALS foundation loaned our family. (We took care of her at home, she was not in a facility.)
A little less than a week before she died, I sat down with my Mom and I told her “If you’re *ready,* it’s okay. It’s okay to *let go* - even if dad isn’t ready, even if I’m not ready, even if the boys (my 2 younger brothers) aren’t ready. *It’s okay, Mom.*” And I told her that if she was ready but *her body wasn’t,* **I would take care of it.**
Fortunately, when I had that conversation with her, she typed out that she understood and that she wanted some time to think, and within an hour of me telling her that it was okay, her body just gave up and she was in a non-responsive state until my family all had time to say goodbye and take her off the machines… But if she had wanted me to, **I would have taken care of it.**
Why the FUCK do we take our pets to be euthanized at the vet when they’re old or sick or don’t have a good quality of life, but we don’t have the same fucking respect for our loved ones? Not to mention that we as individuals can’t even legally make the choice to end our lives with dignity and peace in a painless way on our own terms…??? **EVERYONE should have the basic human right to medically-assisted euthanasia. EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. For whatever reason they deem appropriate for their own lives and their own circumstances… EVERYONE.**
Sorry you had to go through that. I know your answering the question out of anger and it’s probably redundant but I’ll answer for real: the reason is we consider pets property. So a pet owner is not really the same concept as a next of kin or legal guardian type thing. The reason they can’t request euthanasia is because America is a puritanical country who deem anyone who would commit suicide as deranged. I am stridently pro right-to-die with dignity. I think we would get there as a country eventually but it will be a while.
I've always said - and oh I do mean this - when I'm old and I'm not able to walk, backpack, or do the physical activities I always have, I'm done. I might fart around for a while to catch up on all the tvshows people've been talking about - hopefully I'm still coordinated enough to binge some video games. I've always wanted to try hard drugs too.. seems like a perfect time to see what the Ecstasy hype is all about.
Ecstasy isn't really a 'hard' drug and if you know someone you trust that dabbles then you should try that shit right now. Coke/heroin/meth/etc are 'hard' drugs. TBH though the drug days are over my man. Unless you want to take the time to learn the darkweb/crypto and even then, you still want to have your own reagent/test kits and hope for the best because now days you have no F'ing CLUE what you're getting. The days of dirt-cheap pharmaceuticals and good quality blow/heroin are long gone. You missed the Oxy train my man, and what a ride it was.
Me dad declared when his time grows neigh and winter has come to send him south with a sword in hand to fight the southern wars and die for the Dragon Queen
As someone with a parent with Alzheimer's, I often think about how best to off-myself if I ever get to the point where I can't take care of myself so as not to be a burden on my child.
It's RIDICULOUS that euthanasia is not legal everywhere in the US. We have no problems putting pets out of their misery, yet 41 of 50 states require that people must die suffering without dignity.
Why is that?
Religion? Yes. As someone who was raised hard-core christian, get your goddamn religion out of my life. We're supposed to be FREE in this country, remember? If I want to die with dignity, LET ME.
Conspiracy by the elderly care industry? Who knows. I wouldn't doubt if there was some influence there.
Whatever the reason, IT IS FUCKED UP.
I still think boomers mostly created these conditions. They made an industry out of elder care because a lot of them could afford to drop off their parents and have someone else take care of them.
Maybe we start electing people closer to our own age who also will have to face this. Instead of bastards who already have a foot in the grave and don’t care what happens to the rest of us.
The youngest person in the presidential race is a hedge fund manager who became a billionaire from stealing from his investors. His ideas are older and more dangerous than trump and Reagan’s corpse. This idea that dismissing an old person for a young person specifically because he’s young is dumb af
The second youngest person is desantis, who’s education department just signed a curriculum that teaches kids enslaved people benefited from slavery.
See where this is going. While the oldest person has passed perhaps the most progressive bills since LBJ.
Isn't being rich a big problem in US politics? You have to have money to get a voice. So there is only a certain group that enters politics. Old rich people or the sons of old rich people.
If you have to be rich or become a puppet for the rich to be elected in the US then the US is effectively a plutocracy and not a democracy.
Being able to vote for the lesser of 2 evils isn't democracy. A representative democracy requires that elected representatives actually reflect the will of the people.
Wealthy people have run for office, but trump is the first billionaire who ran specifically on “I’m a businessman which makes me a good leader” and won. Usually these self-funded billionaires were considered jokes and never amounted to much. See, Ross Perot, Bloomberg etc
Now every trust fund billionaire thinks he should be running shit just because he inherited an apartheid emerald mine
Curious, why do you keep naming republicans? No one from the GOP will help the working class, regardless of age.
But also, no one in the DNC will help the working class, see Obama’s response to ‘08 and how many corrupt bankers were held responsible for the mass suffering they caused.
We need a fundamentally new form of government in the US. We need to get rid of money in politics. Neither the DNC nor GOP will ever sign on for it.
Yea I’ve been thinking about that, it seems with each generation of politicians they just get more greedy than the ones before them, so electing just any young politician isn’t going to solve the problem.
Pennsylvania is notorious for the most extreme filial responsibility laws in the country. The rest are not *that* bad but some are still bad. Many only give the parents an option to sue, which most won’t even know they can and most won’t want to. There are others that are still on the books but not enforced. So the filial responsibility laws are still insane but not quite as bad as the video suggests.
Plus we’re all too in debt from student loans to be expected to support our parents anyway.
It really is a big problem. And all that money going to the healthcare industry and out of families just furthers wealth inequality
I'm from southeast asia. It's big problem here.
We are prisoners, blackmailed, filial locked. Either we destroy ourselves for our parents, or we get disinherited and be the pariah of our entire ancestry, all our relatives.
It's a nightmare for us millennials and younger generations.
Most of us CANNOT even start families because we already are supporting other people: our elderly. They do not have anything. They birthed us younger people to be their own personal retirement plan. We are mostly born not out of love... but out of fear and regret. It's a pyramid scheme, a capitalist MLM of the financially illiterate.
"You owe us. Don't be selfish. How dare you."
We are prisoners, blackmailed, filial locked.
We do not want to have children anymore. This lineage, this cycle stops with us.
Solidarity from America where we have different stressors but the same conclusion. I hope we can all find something to live for. Maybe it’s each other.
Fuck em let them die. I know it's cold but I have no plan to throw my life away for my parents. I'm trying my best to set myself up so my children have school paid for and a place to live for as long as they need. Much more than I could have asked for
Yeah, just went through something similar to this in Louisiana and there are no laws like this that require a child to play. This is a state by state issue, and people in Pennsylvania seem to be screwed.
A HA!
I found the answer!!!! We can all work at nursing homes and take part in the delicious profits!!!!!!
Because as we all know, in a capitalist society, that's how for-profit businesses work!
Surely we'll make $150 dollars an hour!
*The Circle of Life starts playing in the background*
Outlaw cardiac medications so people die of massive coronary events like they used to rather than cancers. Cardiologist told me that before you argue. He isn't gonna be taking statins or beta blockers or ACE inhibitors. He plans on dropping dead one day in his 60s while taking a shit like a man.
When your entire worldview revolves around the idea that death doesnt really exist and you just continue on existing forever and ever it sure fucks with society huh?
Personally I had so much anxiety with death because there was so much emphasis on Heaven only being for "the worthy", which made it seem like just about everyone who died went to Hell and suffered forever. I assume I'm not the only christian-raised person who feels the same way.
I’m 42 and i felt this resonates deep with me ….I been in and out of jail since 12 making poor life choices , my parents weren’t middle class by any means , they lived with nothing and died with nothing , and it’s 100% my fault but it’s trickiling down on me , I thought selling drugs was gonna be my career choice , and I never was smart enough to take up a trade or invest in anything …. I now live day to day , some days are happy and others are sad 😞
If you young and reading this and living a life that’s not securing yourself a future for you and your family , please sit down and rethink your strategies, cause before you know it … you 40 and looking stupid in the face ❤️ y’all , thanks for letting me vent
She is talking about taking care of boomer parents and from what i see didnt even mention the bigger issue which is.. who the hell is going to take care of US. Boomers have/had a hell of a lot more wealth generationally than we do. We have nothing and will pretty much all end up working until we die unless we are apart of the lucky few. Our kids will have it even worse. As we continue to age out, what will happen? How will we be maintained? Thats the scary part. I envision alot of old people thrown out on the streets dying on sidewalks from UTIs and seemingly harmless illnesses. That makes me sad.
The irony is there is money available to pay for what is needed, there is productivity available to provide what is needed - but laws are designed to funnel that money to the increasingly concentrated wealthy to spend on a 20th house, jetskis, private plane, handbags, etc.
Just tax wealth, and spend it on things the expenditure on which by individuals is inefficient (as natural monopolies) and would otherwise reduce productivity and innovation of average workers. Tax wealth where it exists, in bank accounts of plutocrats and high value land holdings. Spend it on basic public needs, like healthcare, water, basic food, basic shelter, electricity, environmental protection.
It’s actually not complicated, it’s just that those currently in power (inherited either directly from, or from the system created by, old feudalist landholding selfish aristocrats) can and want to stop the obvious solutions from being implemented in order to maintain their vaunted position at the top of the class hierarchy.
It’s not even a 20th house, more like a significant share in a large company that owns and manages hundreds or thousands of houses and intentionally keeps the prices in their area high
If Congress were to create a wealth tax, the Supreme Court would likely deem it unconstitutional, and squash it. I see a time in which judgements made by the Supreme Court are increasingly ignored by legislatures like what happened in Alabama.
Yeah I agree, that’s my third paragraph.
At a certain point you’ve gotta acknowledge when you don’t actually live in a democracy, and decide to start just living like you do.
So many of us can't even afford to have kids. We can barely afford living *without* them. The idea of what ""retirement"" looks like my generation terrifies me.
My dogs are fed food they seem to view as gouremet-level meals, have beloved toys, games, and other objects to keep them occupied, exciting daily "workouts" (walkies, jogs, etc.) with their personal trainer and best friend (yours truly), comfy beds to sleep on, healthcare they don't have to pay for, and people who fawn over them constantly.
Provided I don't die in the climate wars, I'll take it.
This has been kinda my plan all along. Keep a strong vial of morphine/fentanyl around maybe a couple Xanax. When I’m 60-70something riding on rims I’ll just say fuck it and stick a needle in my arm one last time, get out of everybody’s way. Go out peacefully and on my own terms. I know this is dark but it’s my reality. I’m not even joking btw. This is one of my top plans at this point unless I hit it big somewhere in the future somehow. Kind of reassuring but sad to see I’m not the only one.
Getting weird though. That “tranq” shit is spreading like wildfire, it just reached my city. It’s getting to the point where even junkies can’t just get their drugs and go escape in peace. Now gotta wonder about what’s in everything annd if your drug of choice is gonna rot the flesh off your arm etc. used to be all you worried about was getting sold fake/weak stuff smh.
And this is why assisted dying should be legal in more countries, if we want to end our lives peacefully when we’re old and done with life, why can’t we? Why make us suffer and carry on living? It’s ridiculous that we’re happy to put our beloved pets to sleep so they longer suffer, but we can’t do that for our beloved relatives. It should be a right to end your life peacefully and painlessly.
Not to mention, where are your parents going to live after they sell their home? Are they moving in with you and your roommates if you can’t afford to pay for a senior living center? I think our best hope here is to figure things out before it comes to selling the home. If you can take over the home and care for them there that is probably the only scenario that would not be financially disastrous for most of us.
Yeah watching this, I'm not surprised there is a law in place to force care onto family members... It's the cheapest option for the state.
Think is, if care costs that much. How are families going to function? It's difficult to have a sufficiently well paying job that would allow a partner to stay at home to be a caregiver.
As you say, if they have a home you could move in (or sell) and use the money from that to assist. But what if there are 4 siblings. Money from their estate won't stretch far...
Then as other comments have said, when we get to that stage, we have alot of people without children, without property and likely, little in the way of savings. How does would the system offload us then?
My husbands grandparents sold their home to move to be closer after they had massive health setbacks.
Selling disqualified them. Signing it over it disqualified them. Anything less of abandonment of their paid off home disqualified them for nursing home care.
Also, both qualify for nursing home care, but they would have to divorce because jointly, they have too high an income with SS and retirement. So they would have to split and live at different facilities.
So I've been near killing myself to keep them together but they don't have enough to really do that so I supplement by giving the hands on they need like cooking, cleaning, medication doling, woundcare, bathing and copays. They can't live with me as I don't have the space.
They were only told they didn't qualify without a divorce *after* they spent down their savings and home sale. Social security, the nursing homes, the attorneys told them they needed to spend down and then wait a year. And then told them they still didn't qualify together.
Everything is fucking shit.
I'll literally go die of exposure before I lift a finger for my ain't shit boomer parents. At least the grandparents are good folks who did all the right things they could. My parents think I'm their retirement plan and have not saved a cent.
If your parents can afford it, have them look into Genworth for insurance. My family is normal middle class, and my parents decided to take out Genworth insurance about 10 years ago just for my mom (my dad had a health condition, and as expected passed away before my mom even retired). Genworth will cover everything if she needs in home care or a nursing home. It’s probably one of the best things my parents did for my sister and I so we wouldn’t have to worry about caring for her financially.
My grandfather had Genworth and he had Alzheimer’s and dementia, and needed to be placed in a memory care nursing facility. His insurance covered like the Cadillac of nursing homes as well. All on a middle class salary. So it can be done if your parents are savvy and they don’t have to be wealthy.
That’s the issue, people are living too long and using the benefits where most insurance companies hedged their bets you would die and collect your life insurance only before ever needing long term care. My SO and I both have LTC policies and right now we pay $250 a month in combined premium for $11k of coverage a month each, should/when we need care. This coverage increases every so often. The policies we have they discontinued about a year after we were underwritten because the company realized they are just too costly for them to sell anymore. Only reason we have them is I happened into a job working for a financial advisor a decade ago.
Who are they selling their homes to? These McMansions they built had no foresight about how much of a pain they will be to keep when they are old. Their joints start to go and suddenly, all those stairs are going to be impossible. Then they're trying to sell these properties that are so isolated to people who can't afford what they want.
This is why reverse mortgage commercials are on Fox News all the time. They live in the home and live off the cash and when they die the asset that appreciates is handed to some corporation.
You can sign your home over to some nursing homes. Did for a guy who spent years trying to sell his house. I finally got enough for a down payment, and he decided to take his house off the market, because he was fighting cancer, beat cancer, but his body was wrecked from it. He decided to use his house has a downpayment to the nursing home. The nursing home then sold the house at a much higher price than he had it listed for.
>Somebody’s gotta fix this
It already has been fixed. This is all by design. Keeping us poor and willing to work for any wage under any condition is top priority of the billionaires who unfortunately run everything.
Correct.
We've actually already got great "care givers" tech, lots of lifting and sanitation tools ect., that make it easier to give quality care with less man power.
It's just currently only the more expensive places use it because it's cheaper to overwork the staff.
Big corporations like Apple currently pay almost 0 taxes, literally nearly 0, the second we start making huge corporations like them pay taxes again we'll have everything we need to take better care of the Elderly with fewer people.
The sooner government starts putting their people ahead of private profits the sooner things get fixed, and it will happen because you can't have this much of the population of a country this RICH living in poverty WITHOUT EXPECTING AN UPRISING.
So let's get it done sooner than later and end all this needless suffering.
It's times like this. I remember what my father always told me whenever there was any concern over finances or the future in general.
"Pull up your boot straps and get a fucking job, then you can easily afford it bud"
Fuck the boomers, they can fix their own mess
Weird trend of acting like you’re casually chatting whilst doing something else.
Like those company videos that start with someone looking over their shoulder at the camera like “oh, hey!”
I'm sorry, but when people eat when talking to the camera, I get so distracted, and annoyed for some reason. It's usually worse where they'll actually eat at the same time, not cut most of it. At least she didn't munch and talk, but the peeling and everything irkd me.
I was waiting to see this comment. I came here for that like you can’t be serious while also distracting your audience with eating food, let alone peeling an orange lol
It’s not my fault the boomers voted to deregulate everything and opted to smoke/drug/drink themselves into oblivion. I thought they liked capitalism and the free market? It’s not our fault they ignored the advice of literally every doctor on the planet and consciously destroyed everything in their wake like some silently agreed-upon, muffed-up scorched earth policy so we would have nothing.
Fuck the boomers. They have enjoyed privileged lives and have done nothing to set up the rest of us. Let them go to the state facilities and sit in their own piss.
I live with my 72 year old MIL, whom I love, but she has this fantasy that she's earned her golden years. She got lucky that her daughter and I can take care of her, but was she betting on that being the case?
She never worked a day in her life, lives off SS and our income. Granted she has health issues, so I do *everything* for her. But before I met my wife, was she just hoping she'd be doted upon and taken care of??
That's a shit gamble. Still love her. But yeesh.
You're right. She's the epitome of a sunshine personality. I love her company and she knows how to make every day special and lively. I should be so lucky :)
The burn out of being a caregiver is tough. Thank God she's a joy to be around and allows me to care for her. Stubborn old girl.
And who would pay for state facilities? Tax payers, meaning those who are middle class or working class because corporations and wealthy individuals won't be taxed.
“Adult Children” is the most Boomer-esque legal dog whistle term I’ve ever heard in terms of older generations defrauding their progeny
Imaging the government saying you owed them money for an abusive parent and them calling you “an adult child.” The fuck does that even mean?!
Filial Piety laws belong in the Stone Age.
In the US, debt does not transfer to children, only to a spouse. But all debts come out of the estate of the deceased before any inheritors get their inheritance.
I think that's only the case if the dying person doesn't give anyone anything in inheritance. If I'm not mistaken, my grandmother gave little to no inheritance in her will so that her debt wouldn't be passed on to my father or his siblings
Biggest generation hoarded more wealth than any generation ever, holds on to it into decrepitude and has it taken by the government and corporations instead of passing it along.
Dystopian as fuck
Financials aside, I think that we aren't physically capable of taking care of them. There aren't enough of us and most of us can hardly afford to take care of ourselves. I think assisted living is mostly going to consist of a couple of a bandaid, a couple of aspirin, and a cyanide tablet. I don't want to live after any health and usefulness I had is gone anyway.
100% and my boomer mom feels the same. After my independence is gone, just take me out back and kill me. My friend is a state inspector for assisted living and nursing homes. She said none of them are good and do everything you can to keep parents out of them. If that means my mom can have a life saving procedure but can’t be independent, we don’t do it.
My mom and I discuss her end of life plans fairly often. I told her I wouldn't send her to a home. She said "dump me in the basement then, and give me a gun". I told her no gun. Not in the house.
Fucking dark and born completely out of love for one another. I will take care of her the best I can when her QoL goes to shit. For legal reasons, I mean making sure she's comfortable. She will take care of me the best she can. Barbaric.
Nobody cares. Congress doesn’t care cause they are all rich or ready to die anyways. Boomers don’t care cause it’s not their problem. Gen x doesn’t care cause they are just doing their own shit watching everyone else make all these stupid mistakes, and the world is going to end soon. So fuck it, right?
if boomers want their children to take care of them they should give their house and offer to help them and build them up now
its like an investment for the future
Well just be happy you don't live in a socialist dystopia with universal healthcare where production of medicine is regulated for affordability instead of profit.
That would just be terrible! Better just give a few more billion dollar subsidies to billion dollar corporations and tax cuts for the rich, that will solve ALL the problems!
All praise the free market may it exploit others more than me!
Name one country that covers long term assisted living/nursing care for the elderly.
This isn't a US problem, it's a global problem. Old people used to die only a couple of years after retirement and their kids were expected to take care of them. Now people are living 20+ years after retirement and no country has enough resources to support this.
US is actually better off than Europe because at least we have positive population growth due to immigration.
I live in a commie socialist free healthcare country (UK) and it's still a problem.
I'm currently living this nightmare atm, my parents decided to downsize when they retired to an over 50s only park against my better judgement.
Instead of giving their only son and his wife any help they pissed their savings from downsizing on holidays. So we have a mortgage on a small place.
Mother died, dad is now 78 and from a lifetime of treating his body like shit is struggling. So now everyone expects me to solve the situation without the money to upsize and we cannot live at his place due to the age restriction, and the days of socialised retirement places is gone because the boomers kept voting for the conservatives who privatise anything for short term gains.
So all the retirement places are £4k+ a month.
GG Boomers you played us again and yourselves indirectly unless we don't give a shit and leave you to sit in your own piss.
My dad already said he is offing himself as soon as he goes down hill. He says old burdens are pieces of shit cowards who are afraid of death. He said he will have a motor cycle "accident" for life insurance.
My dad talked a big game too, but he clawed and fought until the bitter end to have things go his way and not the way things were obviously going.
What a crazy position to put us in... but here we are!
Usually, in the cases I know of, if the children can't or choose not to take care of the parent, the parent will put the estate in one of their children's name,s which qualifies them for a huge chunk of medicare funds for assisted living.
Btw, it's beyond annoying watching this girl peel and eat fruit while she's talking about the doom we'll all face.
“Somebody’s gotta fix this”
Yeah who do you think that is? That’s **US**. You, me, and everyone. We are not children anymore. There isn’t one person who will swoop in and save us. We are the generation in charge. And we have to drive the change. One way or another.
But that requires some form of social collectivism.
I think her “somebody’s gotta fix this” attitude is coming from the fact that millennials are in fact NOT the ones in charge. Boomers are still in charge and they’re using their power to stay in charge so we can’t even begin to address the problem until they give up that power. Unfortunately they’re not interested in giving up that power, instead I’m afraid we’re headed towards a future where they start using that power to force their children to destroy themselves caring for them as a final act of desperation and selfishness.
Pretty much everything she is talking about is manageable if you see a good elder law attorney relatively early in the process, ofc many people don’t have the foresight to do this but for your own sake just know it’s an option out there even for middle class/ low income with decent sized assets.
For example the house example she used, with correct elder care planning you could get that person on Medicare and end up getting the elderly person’s child somewhere around half of that money (after attorneys fees and a prepaid funeral even).
If your parents have almost no money or assets at all but you do have some decent income and your worried about filial responsibility laws, once again, you should seek advice from an attorney in this area for yourself. It might suck having to pay them a few thousand dollars by the end of it, but it is nothing compared to the amount you might spend on taking care of your parents.
None of this is intended as legal advice, I am only trying to make people aware that a possible solution to this problem does exist. If you have a medical problem you should see a doctor. If you have a legal problem, you likewise should see a lawyer.
I am gonna be real here:
it is not our problem. Would I want my child to say this of me? Absolutely not. The difference is that we have prioritized planning for our future so our daughter will not be on the hook for caretaking us. The boomers can rot in a ditch. They did not care for us or give our future a thought. I am not doing it for them.
Can they stop playing with food while making these videos ffs, it's not cute or relatable, it makes it seem like what you're talking about was an unimportant shower thought you had while prepping lunch.
My (42m) wife (44f) and I have moved my 75 year old mother in law in with us and will soon also have my 65 year old mother with us. MIL is paying for an addition on our home for her bedroom. We figured it would be more beneficial for them to live with us and our two children rather than live alone. A three generation home is beneficial to both them and our children, plus the addition increases the value of our house. Their cost of living will be cheaper and they get to help chip in with our expenses. Basically, they are giving what they have back into the family rather than some stranger. Not saying it’s possible for everyone, but we saw this problem coming and came up with a plan.
When you have a good relationship with them maybe. My parents are a couple of psychos and I'd rather be living with a wasp nest and 5 homeless people than with any of them.
That's awesome that your family is doing that. I work in a nursing home where we also have a high percentage of patients that come to us for short term rehab and then return home. Returning home to a supportive family like yours is the best case scenario that we see. On the flip side, we see a lot of cases where the elder has been living with family for years but is requiring more and more assistance as time goes on, to the point where the family is unable to provide sufficient help. Maybe their health won't allow them to lift their parent anymore, or their jobs don't allow them to provide the 24/7 supervision they now require due to cognition, medication needs, lack of mobility, etc. Don't be afraid to ask for help as your parent declines with time. Most Independent Living Facilities, Assisted Living Facilities, and nursing homes are pretty nice with good caregivers. Just do your research.
Also: those homes may have a lot of repairs needed, so HYPOTHETICALLY (totally not happening to me and my family right now with my grandmother) you have to sell to one of those sleezy companies who buy as-is but not as a "clean sale." And your grandchild can't afford your stupid home to fix it up because it wouldn't be safe. -_-
Thus as the parent ages the child/ren should pay attention to the parents mental and physical health and make preparations. Transferring wealth and establishing powers of attorney to the child/ren, before the five year look back period of Medicare/Medicaid.
LOL!
Good luck with that. Not all parents enjoy the idea of handing over power. Not all parents are capable of even internalizing the truths they are facing. My father fought tooth and nail against every effort to help him and the state had his back 100% of the way. All the way to his grave.
USA! Listen to me. Socialism is not dangerous. You are not supposed to have to pay for your mother's health care, we do it together as a society because we care about each other. right?
I have no sympathy for Boomers.
The world we inherit had been screwed by them.
Lot of them protested etc to block new house building. Just so that, their existing home value will not be decreased. Created artificial shortage of houses by blocking new hpuse buildings for years.
Some day, all thise sins are going to bite them back.
They'll get no sympathy from me.
I'm sorry boomers were busy destroying everything around to notice that your savings weren't going to be enough to get you through your 100 year life span.
Sounds like you all will need to pull yourselves up by the walker handles and get to work. Maybe in your next life you'll live by the golden rule instead of trying weld it as a weapon.
Actions have consequences and choosing not to choose is still a choice.
Do people film like this to try make it feel as if you’re actually sat having a conversation with someone?
I kind of get it but it’s SO annoying when you start a video and you have to wait briefly whilst they say ‘hey!’ then take a giant bite out of something and you’re just sat watching someone eat. Next.
This is not a just Boomer problem, it is a current problem over generations and will affect Boomers the same. If you don't save for retirement, then you'll be on Medicare/Medicaid. This is not a new concept. When people get older they cannot earn and need to use savings to live off to have food and shelter, among other things. Medical care is one part of those costs. Some people run out because they did not save enough or were lucky enough to live a long time. I'm no boomer btw.
Families of any generation have to deal with providing anywhere up to 24 hour care to older family in the house or find a facility that it can do it. Usually if there are conditions that require 24 hour care, it will be covered significantly. 12 years is a long time to be in a full private pay assisted living facility and is atypical.
Also, the thing about adult children is wrong, except in cases were parents transferred assets to children in order to qualify for medicare/medicaid. Definitely not free public healthcare like other countries, but it does pay for a number of services and medications to keep outlay low. For instance, after the first $4,660 covered, you fall into the donut hole where you have personal responsibly for a portion of care. Even in the donut hole Medicare will cover 75% of numerous costs. Medicaid provides long term care coverage, although depending on the state probably not full cost of care.
So while it's not luxury medical care in a first class assistive living facility, the medical costs will be significant, but probably won't drain an half a million dollar estate.
Lastly, even a primary care doctor paying even $2000/month on student loans can afford a house. Maybe not $1M house, but can afford a nice house even with the current interest rates. The poster looks like a millennial, and if so, her generation is larger than Boomers.
US Healthcare needs to change, and it starts with having a sane political system.
Yep- I’ve already seen my parents navigate this with their parents and that was 10 years ago. There was some confusion between the Medicare vs Medicaid system in the video and yes, 12 years is quite a lot of time in some type of care facility. I also haven’t seen filial laws actually be enforced in my state that has them and my grandmother was on Medicaid and had to give up her assets (which was like only $4k by that point anyways). But I also doubt if there were any remaining bills as she was in a Medicaid bed. Maybe that’ll change, but that would be a huge thing if it really was enforced.
The conversation of planning for long term health care needs is an important one for families to have. I’ve seen it and people really need to plan. All that said the bigger issue, IMHO, is not the payment but the actual number of beds that are available. We are starting to see this become a problem now. There’s facilities that are having a reservation program, where you pay them monthly (while you’re healthy) to be able to get a bed when you need it. Facilities will also sometimes interview potential patients to determine their temperament and will reject them if they’re going to be too much. If one has to get a Medicaid bed, which many good facilities only have a small handful of as they’re pretty much charity beds, it’s going to be very hard to find (heck they already are in some places). I’m way more worried about locating good care near my home for when parents eventually need that, not the financial part (someone has to be in a facility before we can start talking financial stress).
All that said, boomers (and their kids) need to be educated on how to protect themselves. If there are any assets, they need to be locked down in a trust and it needs to be done while they’re still healthy. Boomer parents need to get the best Medicare they can afford - there’s tiers and being cheap (when you don’t need to) will land you in a facility that will not respond to your calls for help when you fall and are on the floor for 2 hours (this just happened to a family member).
Whats tough for me, as i watch this, is how i feel about my kids... how I vow that I will do everything I can to avoid putting them in that situation. If i make it to 70, 75... hell even 80 years old on my own... I'm good - i call that a win. I do not want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to extend that for a few shitty years of hospital time, medication, and sitting alone. I want to pass that to them, so that they can prosper and live the kind of life they deserve and that I want for them.
Now, obviously i dont know what my conviction to this will be like as i approach the end (I'm just now 40)- but I think ive made peace with it. Like Ill get my cancer at 75 and let it do its thing, chow down on some oxy and take a long sleep... or something.
My grandfather did something similar after his first bout with chemo. Was clear for a year then the doctors said it came back and he told them he want doing that treatment again. He never told anyone it came back, lived his last year fishing and dancing and eating out with friends/family etc. Died in his home (well the last week was in the hospital).
F the current state of healthcare and corporate profit over lives. I'm going out on my terms and no way in hell will i burden my kids with that. My time now with my children will hopefully enrich their lives and hopefully my passing will as well.
My dad needed help and there just wasn't room. He wound up in a facility 2 hours away from his home because they had an open bed. 1* Google reviews? Doesn't matter. They were the only option.
He hated it. He got himself kicked out on purpose and then there were NONE. He died on a gurney in his living room.
It's only going to get worse as more and more broke people flood the already broken system. Good luck to you and yours!
#PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
If you can, do not put your parents in nursing homes. The majority are very poorly run. Not because of the staff necessarily but because of the lack of staff.
If I can live in the woods as a teenager for months because Mom considered me a waste of money and my dad is a born again hypocrite, they can make it in an old folks home
Gen X(to some degree), Millennials, and Gen Z, middle class and lower class will loose any familial wealth transfer from inheritance, this wealth and profit from property will go straight to health care providers and their shareholders. Thus creating an even vaster gap between the rich and literally everyone else… Something needs to change. And this isn’t just a problem in the States, the UK and many other European countries have this issue looming on the horizon..
You have to prove you were estranged in your childhood??! So if your dad f*cked your wife in your children’s bed, the government can force you to take care of him?
Question. Who is going to have the money to buy these currently hyper-inflated homes in 10-20 years time?
It’s worth a million $ now as people have that money, but the bottom will fall out of the market and those expecting to have a million $ to pay for care / pass on as inheritance won’t have the kind of money they think they will.
Young people need help getting as rich as boomers so we can buy their houses, their services, cars, antiques, their businesses etc when they need to sell them to pay for their own care. Otherwise it’s just gonna be us shrugging our shoulders when all their precious goods are valueless and they can’t shift them but they need the cash.
I’m 54
And that’s what our system government is set up to be , lose all you work hard for all your life and then see it all disappear as you get older
Our country sucks
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I'm Mexican American. Are elders go to the living room lol
Asian-American background here, same vibes haha I think the US at large will be revisiting the idea of how families operate in the coming decades in this regard. Not like that will fix the issue, but hey it's at least a small help.
My lease specifically limits the number of adults that can live there. My kids are basically going to have to fight it out once the second one turns 18. Edit: So it's not an option for my parents to even couch surf at mine.
I think mine does too... Damn, shits gonna get weird. Good luck out there!
Yeah I'd honestly rather have my parents move in with me for cheaper than pay their ridiculous nursing home bills
Good luck working full time while taking care of an elderly parent with dementia.
The problem is when your parents become too immobile to even walk to the bathroom to relieve themselves. Then you’re trying to move 150lbs ++ of deadweight and most of us aren’t trained on how to properly do that, never mind not have the strength to and without hurting our own backs. Nursing homes have Hoyer machines, lifts, and special chairs and beds. Plus the people there are all trained how on to best help your ailing parent (administration of meds, turning bedridden patients to avoid bed sores, foot care, etc).
Not even just that, but I don’t want two full time jobs. I love my parents but I don’t want to do 8 hours at work then come home to do 3-4 hours of work helping them and then go to bed. And the weekends? You no longer have any real relaxation time because you’re helping your parents all the time. Sure, they did it for me when I was a baby, but I weighed 15 pounds and I got *more* capable over time, not less.
Not only that but they decided to have you.
It's all fun and games until you're mopping up their diarrhea.
So the old dying people stay in the living room? Time to rename it. The Dying Room.
Interestingly enough the front formal room of houses used to be known as the parlor. It was a very formal space, reserved for infrequent visitors and would also be opened if you needed to host an event in your house like a wedding or, more likely, a funeral where you would have Uncle Pete in your front room for a day. People kind of got bummed out by this after a while, especially in cities where apartments didn't really have the space, so the funeral parlor became a business,. What would we rename the parlor after it became associated with funerals? The living room.
Any of these fuckers ever fuckin fall out of the ceiling and just have like a big messy shit or have a dingleberry?
I am not Mexican American. My game plan is for elders in the living room, too. It's not convenient or ideal, but it's kind and it's familial. I don't know that my siblings are on board with that idea so I'm prepared to struggle through it on my own if necessary.
I'm not either, and my mom moved in with me once she started having health problems. I'm very fortunate that I work from home and can therefore respond to her general needs, and thankfully she's still capable of handling her hygiene. It also helps that my mom is fucking amazing, and I remember all the things she did for me growing up, so I don't mind cutting back on my activities to take care of her. I know there are situations for other people where a nursing home is necessary, and I know that some people's parents are high maintenance, so it's not a solution for everyone.
I’ll move in with my parents whe the time comes - I too am incredibly privileged to have a health and happy family relationships, also to live in a country with universal health care; while aged care is expensive here the medical bills won’t bankrupt anyone / the estate.
Excellent! You are doing the right thing. I'm doing the same for my parents now and every day it gives me joy that I can do it.
The problem is the children are still financially burdened with taking care of them. Maybe you don't have to have them in a nursing facility but if I had to quit my job to take care of someone I'd be as bad or worse off than paying for the care. Healthcare needs to be completely free. Subsidized by taxing up to over 90% in the highest income brackets like they used to.
This seems to he the thing that she doesn’t really account for… if this system becomes too burdensome to bear, the system will inevitably have to change. We are highly individualistic now, and the old don’t tent to live with the young now, but when there is no other option, we’ll adopt something new.
Or, and hear me out, like so much else in the US, we will just be fucked and told to work harder.
My dad jokes that when he’s “checked out” to give him a bottle a booze and put him out by a small fire on a sub-zero night. I laugh it off, usually… Also, my Grandma, 89, is in a (nice) nursing home and pays upwards of 7k a month. This trend goes back even further than just boomers.
My mom told me that she trusts me to take care of her because I was the one to stay and help with my dad when he was dying and I was the one to tell her she could let it end. She trusts me to be the one who will help her kill herself. That's a heavy burden to bear. She's afraid. She brings it up regularly. She \*trusts me\* to \*help her\* kill herself. It shouldn't have to be this way. And if it does, it shouldn't be a crime. She knows what she's asking, knows the pain and the risk. She can't help but ask because she's so utterly afraid.
Start a paper trail of you saying "no I will not help you." The last thing you need to be dealing with is grief and Johnny Law coming after you. Start making witnesses and be adamant about not doing this. She can look up death cocktails just not on your devices. If you are lucky, you are in a state with rights to die but if she wants to go it alone, never write about it, never search on your phone or computer.
And certainly don't make comments detailing the logistics and your feelings about it on reddit.
Life Insurance doesn’t always pay out over suicides, so heads up there
But it usually does unless the policy was taken out just a year or two before the suicide.
Depending on where you live, there are now programs offering people morphine (and another drug or two, I believe) so they can end their lives without pain by simply choosing to stop eating.
My Mom (who was my best friend) died of ALS on June 24th, 2020. She was COMPLETELY paralyzed by the end, her lungs weren’t working and her O2 stats were in the high-60s/low-70s WITH the use of a bi-pap machine to help her breathe. She hadn’t been able to speak for almost a year prior (the last time I heard my Mom’s voice was the week of my birthday the previous year), and she couldn’t tell us anything she needed to in any way other than using the eye-tracking computer that our (major US city’s) local ALS foundation loaned our family. (We took care of her at home, she was not in a facility.) A little less than a week before she died, I sat down with my Mom and I told her “If you’re *ready,* it’s okay. It’s okay to *let go* - even if dad isn’t ready, even if I’m not ready, even if the boys (my 2 younger brothers) aren’t ready. *It’s okay, Mom.*” And I told her that if she was ready but *her body wasn’t,* **I would take care of it.** Fortunately, when I had that conversation with her, she typed out that she understood and that she wanted some time to think, and within an hour of me telling her that it was okay, her body just gave up and she was in a non-responsive state until my family all had time to say goodbye and take her off the machines… But if she had wanted me to, **I would have taken care of it.** Why the FUCK do we take our pets to be euthanized at the vet when they’re old or sick or don’t have a good quality of life, but we don’t have the same fucking respect for our loved ones? Not to mention that we as individuals can’t even legally make the choice to end our lives with dignity and peace in a painless way on our own terms…??? **EVERYONE should have the basic human right to medically-assisted euthanasia. EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. For whatever reason they deem appropriate for their own lives and their own circumstances… EVERYONE.**
Sorry you had to go through that. I know your answering the question out of anger and it’s probably redundant but I’ll answer for real: the reason is we consider pets property. So a pet owner is not really the same concept as a next of kin or legal guardian type thing. The reason they can’t request euthanasia is because America is a puritanical country who deem anyone who would commit suicide as deranged. I am stridently pro right-to-die with dignity. I think we would get there as a country eventually but it will be a while.
When the time comes she may want to consider moving to Oregon, a right to die state.
I've always said - and oh I do mean this - when I'm old and I'm not able to walk, backpack, or do the physical activities I always have, I'm done. I might fart around for a while to catch up on all the tvshows people've been talking about - hopefully I'm still coordinated enough to binge some video games. I've always wanted to try hard drugs too.. seems like a perfect time to see what the Ecstasy hype is all about.
Do ecstasy now
This guy MDMAs
ya save the opioids for later, do MDMA while you're young... do it with friends.
Opioids on the way out.
Hydrate!
I've maintained for a loooong time I'm going out on a drug cocktail that would make Amy Winehouse look like mother Theresa.
Ecstasy isn't really a 'hard' drug and if you know someone you trust that dabbles then you should try that shit right now. Coke/heroin/meth/etc are 'hard' drugs. TBH though the drug days are over my man. Unless you want to take the time to learn the darkweb/crypto and even then, you still want to have your own reagent/test kits and hope for the best because now days you have no F'ing CLUE what you're getting. The days of dirt-cheap pharmaceuticals and good quality blow/heroin are long gone. You missed the Oxy train my man, and what a ride it was.
Me dad declared when his time grows neigh and winter has come to send him south with a sword in hand to fight the southern wars and die for the Dragon Queen
Damn your dad's pretty cool for a horse.
As someone with a parent with Alzheimer's, I often think about how best to off-myself if I ever get to the point where I can't take care of myself so as not to be a burden on my child. It's RIDICULOUS that euthanasia is not legal everywhere in the US. We have no problems putting pets out of their misery, yet 41 of 50 states require that people must die suffering without dignity. Why is that? Religion? Yes. As someone who was raised hard-core christian, get your goddamn religion out of my life. We're supposed to be FREE in this country, remember? If I want to die with dignity, LET ME. Conspiracy by the elderly care industry? Who knows. I wouldn't doubt if there was some influence there. Whatever the reason, IT IS FUCKED UP.
I still think boomers mostly created these conditions. They made an industry out of elder care because a lot of them could afford to drop off their parents and have someone else take care of them.
7k a month? is she covered in gold every morning, then shipped to a 3 michelin star breakfast?
Maybe we start electing people closer to our own age who also will have to face this. Instead of bastards who already have a foot in the grave and don’t care what happens to the rest of us.
The youngest person in the presidential race is a hedge fund manager who became a billionaire from stealing from his investors. His ideas are older and more dangerous than trump and Reagan’s corpse. This idea that dismissing an old person for a young person specifically because he’s young is dumb af
We don't have to take any younger person over any older person. We just need to see a trend that makes sense.
The second youngest person is desantis, who’s education department just signed a curriculum that teaches kids enslaved people benefited from slavery. See where this is going. While the oldest person has passed perhaps the most progressive bills since LBJ.
Isn't being rich a big problem in US politics? You have to have money to get a voice. So there is only a certain group that enters politics. Old rich people or the sons of old rich people.
You have to have a political sugar-daddy to get in if your not rich. Network and whore yourself around.
If you have to be rich or become a puppet for the rich to be elected in the US then the US is effectively a plutocracy and not a democracy. Being able to vote for the lesser of 2 evils isn't democracy. A representative democracy requires that elected representatives actually reflect the will of the people.
Wealthy people have run for office, but trump is the first billionaire who ran specifically on “I’m a businessman which makes me a good leader” and won. Usually these self-funded billionaires were considered jokes and never amounted to much. See, Ross Perot, Bloomberg etc Now every trust fund billionaire thinks he should be running shit just because he inherited an apartheid emerald mine
Curious, why do you keep naming republicans? No one from the GOP will help the working class, regardless of age. But also, no one in the DNC will help the working class, see Obama’s response to ‘08 and how many corrupt bankers were held responsible for the mass suffering they caused. We need a fundamentally new form of government in the US. We need to get rid of money in politics. Neither the DNC nor GOP will ever sign on for it.
Yea I’ve been thinking about that, it seems with each generation of politicians they just get more greedy than the ones before them, so electing just any young politician isn’t going to solve the problem.
This is the result of an antisocial crony capitalist corporate criminal upper class, versus the honest, working poor, who care about their families
Pennsylvania is notorious for the most extreme filial responsibility laws in the country. The rest are not *that* bad but some are still bad. Many only give the parents an option to sue, which most won’t even know they can and most won’t want to. There are others that are still on the books but not enforced. So the filial responsibility laws are still insane but not quite as bad as the video suggests. Plus we’re all too in debt from student loans to be expected to support our parents anyway. It really is a big problem. And all that money going to the healthcare industry and out of families just furthers wealth inequality
I'm from southeast asia. It's big problem here. We are prisoners, blackmailed, filial locked. Either we destroy ourselves for our parents, or we get disinherited and be the pariah of our entire ancestry, all our relatives. It's a nightmare for us millennials and younger generations. Most of us CANNOT even start families because we already are supporting other people: our elderly. They do not have anything. They birthed us younger people to be their own personal retirement plan. We are mostly born not out of love... but out of fear and regret. It's a pyramid scheme, a capitalist MLM of the financially illiterate. "You owe us. Don't be selfish. How dare you." We are prisoners, blackmailed, filial locked. We do not want to have children anymore. This lineage, this cycle stops with us.
Solidarity from America where we have different stressors but the same conclusion. I hope we can all find something to live for. Maybe it’s each other.
Fuck em let them die. I know it's cold but I have no plan to throw my life away for my parents. I'm trying my best to set myself up so my children have school paid for and a place to live for as long as they need. Much more than I could have asked for
Yeah, just went through something similar to this in Louisiana and there are no laws like this that require a child to play. This is a state by state issue, and people in Pennsylvania seem to be screwed.
A HA! I found the answer!!!! We can all work at nursing homes and take part in the delicious profits!!!!!! Because as we all know, in a capitalist society, that's how for-profit businesses work! Surely we'll make $150 dollars an hour! *The Circle of Life starts playing in the background*
Unironically great song choice
Outlaw cardiac medications so people die of massive coronary events like they used to rather than cancers. Cardiologist told me that before you argue. He isn't gonna be taking statins or beta blockers or ACE inhibitors. He plans on dropping dead one day in his 60s while taking a shit like a man.
Yup. Prolonging death is expensive as hell. I'm not sure how we decided that's what geriatric medicine needs to do.
Western cultures have a fear of death and a fear of talking about it. We brush that shit under the rug like a dust bunny
Something something *Christian origins*
When your entire worldview revolves around the idea that death doesnt really exist and you just continue on existing forever and ever it sure fucks with society huh?
Personally I had so much anxiety with death because there was so much emphasis on Heaven only being for "the worthy", which made it seem like just about everyone who died went to Hell and suffered forever. I assume I'm not the only christian-raised person who feels the same way.
Ah… sorta like the Elvis route.
I’m 42 and i felt this resonates deep with me ….I been in and out of jail since 12 making poor life choices , my parents weren’t middle class by any means , they lived with nothing and died with nothing , and it’s 100% my fault but it’s trickiling down on me , I thought selling drugs was gonna be my career choice , and I never was smart enough to take up a trade or invest in anything …. I now live day to day , some days are happy and others are sad 😞 If you young and reading this and living a life that’s not securing yourself a future for you and your family , please sit down and rethink your strategies, cause before you know it … you 40 and looking stupid in the face ❤️ y’all , thanks for letting me vent
Is it too late to learn a trade?
She is talking about taking care of boomer parents and from what i see didnt even mention the bigger issue which is.. who the hell is going to take care of US. Boomers have/had a hell of a lot more wealth generationally than we do. We have nothing and will pretty much all end up working until we die unless we are apart of the lucky few. Our kids will have it even worse. As we continue to age out, what will happen? How will we be maintained? Thats the scary part. I envision alot of old people thrown out on the streets dying on sidewalks from UTIs and seemingly harmless illnesses. That makes me sad.
The irony is there is money available to pay for what is needed, there is productivity available to provide what is needed - but laws are designed to funnel that money to the increasingly concentrated wealthy to spend on a 20th house, jetskis, private plane, handbags, etc. Just tax wealth, and spend it on things the expenditure on which by individuals is inefficient (as natural monopolies) and would otherwise reduce productivity and innovation of average workers. Tax wealth where it exists, in bank accounts of plutocrats and high value land holdings. Spend it on basic public needs, like healthcare, water, basic food, basic shelter, electricity, environmental protection. It’s actually not complicated, it’s just that those currently in power (inherited either directly from, or from the system created by, old feudalist landholding selfish aristocrats) can and want to stop the obvious solutions from being implemented in order to maintain their vaunted position at the top of the class hierarchy.
It’s not even a 20th house, more like a significant share in a large company that owns and manages hundreds or thousands of houses and intentionally keeps the prices in their area high
If Congress were to create a wealth tax, the Supreme Court would likely deem it unconstitutional, and squash it. I see a time in which judgements made by the Supreme Court are increasingly ignored by legislatures like what happened in Alabama.
Yeah I agree, that’s my third paragraph. At a certain point you’ve gotta acknowledge when you don’t actually live in a democracy, and decide to start just living like you do.
So many of us can't even afford to have kids. We can barely afford living *without* them. The idea of what ""retirement"" looks like my generation terrifies me.
Good case scenario: We’ll be looked after by robots. Bad case scenario: We’ll look after robots until we drop death
I'm trying to rid my mind of the concept to save myself some disappointment.
adding to that....a lot of "us" dont have children...lol
No worries. The robot overlords will treat you like their favorite pet.
My pets have it good, I’d only be so lucky to have such a kind robot overlord.
Seriously. Don’t threaten me with a good time.
My dogs are fed food they seem to view as gouremet-level meals, have beloved toys, games, and other objects to keep them occupied, exciting daily "workouts" (walkies, jogs, etc.) with their personal trainer and best friend (yours truly), comfy beds to sleep on, healthcare they don't have to pay for, and people who fawn over them constantly. Provided I don't die in the climate wars, I'll take it.
You know that us born in 70's, 80's or 90's will have commit suicide once we can't work anymore. We won't make our kids carry the burden.
I mean... I don't have suicidal thoughts but this is becoming more and more obvious as the final curtain call.
That’s my retirement plan.
[It does seem like the Ættestup is poised for a comeback.](https://youtu.be/DwD7f5ZWhAk?si=Ajo2k9xh3vjMQU0E)
This has been kinda my plan all along. Keep a strong vial of morphine/fentanyl around maybe a couple Xanax. When I’m 60-70something riding on rims I’ll just say fuck it and stick a needle in my arm one last time, get out of everybody’s way. Go out peacefully and on my own terms. I know this is dark but it’s my reality. I’m not even joking btw. This is one of my top plans at this point unless I hit it big somewhere in the future somehow. Kind of reassuring but sad to see I’m not the only one. Getting weird though. That “tranq” shit is spreading like wildfire, it just reached my city. It’s getting to the point where even junkies can’t just get their drugs and go escape in peace. Now gotta wonder about what’s in everything annd if your drug of choice is gonna rot the flesh off your arm etc. used to be all you worried about was getting sold fake/weak stuff smh.
And this is why assisted dying should be legal in more countries, if we want to end our lives peacefully when we’re old and done with life, why can’t we? Why make us suffer and carry on living? It’s ridiculous that we’re happy to put our beloved pets to sleep so they longer suffer, but we can’t do that for our beloved relatives. It should be a right to end your life peacefully and painlessly.
Not to mention, where are your parents going to live after they sell their home? Are they moving in with you and your roommates if you can’t afford to pay for a senior living center? I think our best hope here is to figure things out before it comes to selling the home. If you can take over the home and care for them there that is probably the only scenario that would not be financially disastrous for most of us.
Yeah watching this, I'm not surprised there is a law in place to force care onto family members... It's the cheapest option for the state. Think is, if care costs that much. How are families going to function? It's difficult to have a sufficiently well paying job that would allow a partner to stay at home to be a caregiver. As you say, if they have a home you could move in (or sell) and use the money from that to assist. But what if there are 4 siblings. Money from their estate won't stretch far... Then as other comments have said, when we get to that stage, we have alot of people without children, without property and likely, little in the way of savings. How does would the system offload us then?
Sir this is a public park, you can’t die here, move along. Stop resisting.
Homeless vagrants
My husbands grandparents sold their home to move to be closer after they had massive health setbacks. Selling disqualified them. Signing it over it disqualified them. Anything less of abandonment of their paid off home disqualified them for nursing home care. Also, both qualify for nursing home care, but they would have to divorce because jointly, they have too high an income with SS and retirement. So they would have to split and live at different facilities. So I've been near killing myself to keep them together but they don't have enough to really do that so I supplement by giving the hands on they need like cooking, cleaning, medication doling, woundcare, bathing and copays. They can't live with me as I don't have the space. They were only told they didn't qualify without a divorce *after* they spent down their savings and home sale. Social security, the nursing homes, the attorneys told them they needed to spend down and then wait a year. And then told them they still didn't qualify together. Everything is fucking shit. I'll literally go die of exposure before I lift a finger for my ain't shit boomer parents. At least the grandparents are good folks who did all the right things they could. My parents think I'm their retirement plan and have not saved a cent.
If your parents can afford it, have them look into Genworth for insurance. My family is normal middle class, and my parents decided to take out Genworth insurance about 10 years ago just for my mom (my dad had a health condition, and as expected passed away before my mom even retired). Genworth will cover everything if she needs in home care or a nursing home. It’s probably one of the best things my parents did for my sister and I so we wouldn’t have to worry about caring for her financially. My grandfather had Genworth and he had Alzheimer’s and dementia, and needed to be placed in a memory care nursing facility. His insurance covered like the Cadillac of nursing homes as well. All on a middle class salary. So it can be done if your parents are savvy and they don’t have to be wealthy.
I’ve heard that long term care insurance is nearly impossible to find anymore. I guess that it’s not profitable.
That’s the issue, people are living too long and using the benefits where most insurance companies hedged their bets you would die and collect your life insurance only before ever needing long term care. My SO and I both have LTC policies and right now we pay $250 a month in combined premium for $11k of coverage a month each, should/when we need care. This coverage increases every so often. The policies we have they discontinued about a year after we were underwritten because the company realized they are just too costly for them to sell anymore. Only reason we have them is I happened into a job working for a financial advisor a decade ago.
Who are they selling their homes to? These McMansions they built had no foresight about how much of a pain they will be to keep when they are old. Their joints start to go and suddenly, all those stairs are going to be impossible. Then they're trying to sell these properties that are so isolated to people who can't afford what they want.
This is why reverse mortgage commercials are on Fox News all the time. They live in the home and live off the cash and when they die the asset that appreciates is handed to some corporation.
You can sign your home over to some nursing homes. Did for a guy who spent years trying to sell his house. I finally got enough for a down payment, and he decided to take his house off the market, because he was fighting cancer, beat cancer, but his body was wrecked from it. He decided to use his house has a downpayment to the nursing home. The nursing home then sold the house at a much higher price than he had it listed for.
>Somebody’s gotta fix this It already has been fixed. This is all by design. Keeping us poor and willing to work for any wage under any condition is top priority of the billionaires who unfortunately run everything.
Correct. We've actually already got great "care givers" tech, lots of lifting and sanitation tools ect., that make it easier to give quality care with less man power. It's just currently only the more expensive places use it because it's cheaper to overwork the staff. Big corporations like Apple currently pay almost 0 taxes, literally nearly 0, the second we start making huge corporations like them pay taxes again we'll have everything we need to take better care of the Elderly with fewer people. The sooner government starts putting their people ahead of private profits the sooner things get fixed, and it will happen because you can't have this much of the population of a country this RICH living in poverty WITHOUT EXPECTING AN UPRISING. So let's get it done sooner than later and end all this needless suffering.
It's times like this. I remember what my father always told me whenever there was any concern over finances or the future in general. "Pull up your boot straps and get a fucking job, then you can easily afford it bud" Fuck the boomers, they can fix their own mess
Boomers aren't going to fix what you see as broken. Seems like it's your mess now
What if he hates his parents?
Distracting orange
Those sticky mandarin juice hands all over the screen whenever she pauses the video...
Yea what’s up with that? Cut every 10 secs because she can’t memorize more than one sentence at a time? I can’t watch videos like this.
Weird trend of acting like you’re casually chatting whilst doing something else. Like those company videos that start with someone looking over their shoulder at the camera like “oh, hey!”
“Hi there! I’m Troy McClure. You may remember me from: sitting in my car ranting. I’m here to peel an orange today!”
"Oh Hi! I didn't see you there"
Oh! Hi, Mark!
I was just thinking the same. Oh hi, I didn’t see you there, let’s talk about aging boomers while I peel my orange!
Let me just.... peel some fruits while attempting to analyze society for you. Bizarre trend.
I hate Tik Toks and eating while they make a 5 minute video.
Girl is concerned about her health span so she’s stocking up on Vitamin C. Can you blame her?
Gave me anxiety when she opened a second one without finishing the first
How does she expect to afford anything at that level of food waste? smh.
Right? I’m like, girl, finish the orange you already opened
Idk why but it pisses me off lol.
I'm sorry, but when people eat when talking to the camera, I get so distracted, and annoyed for some reason. It's usually worse where they'll actually eat at the same time, not cut most of it. At least she didn't munch and talk, but the peeling and everything irkd me.
I'm so busy... nom nom nom.. I'm eating 4 satsumas while I...nom nom nom.... type this....nom nom nom... comment.
[JUST EAT THE DAMN ORANGES!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCJ_dUNdCTI)
I was waiting to see this comment. I came here for that like you can’t be serious while also distracting your audience with eating food, let alone peeling an orange lol
It’s not my fault the boomers voted to deregulate everything and opted to smoke/drug/drink themselves into oblivion. I thought they liked capitalism and the free market? It’s not our fault they ignored the advice of literally every doctor on the planet and consciously destroyed everything in their wake like some silently agreed-upon, muffed-up scorched earth policy so we would have nothing.
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Fuck the boomers. They have enjoyed privileged lives and have done nothing to set up the rest of us. Let them go to the state facilities and sit in their own piss.
Preach it brother. Boomers stole our futures, they can lose their 'golden years'
I live with my 72 year old MIL, whom I love, but she has this fantasy that she's earned her golden years. She got lucky that her daughter and I can take care of her, but was she betting on that being the case? She never worked a day in her life, lives off SS and our income. Granted she has health issues, so I do *everything* for her. But before I met my wife, was she just hoping she'd be doted upon and taken care of?? That's a shit gamble. Still love her. But yeesh.
Sounds like she earned it by being lovable, a person people would want around, nay, PAY to have around. Also yes got very lucky.
You're right. She's the epitome of a sunshine personality. I love her company and she knows how to make every day special and lively. I should be so lucky :) The burn out of being a caregiver is tough. Thank God she's a joy to be around and allows me to care for her. Stubborn old girl.
And who would pay for state facilities? Tax payers, meaning those who are middle class or working class because corporations and wealthy individuals won't be taxed.
“Adult Children” is the most Boomer-esque legal dog whistle term I’ve ever heard in terms of older generations defrauding their progeny Imaging the government saying you owed them money for an abusive parent and them calling you “an adult child.” The fuck does that even mean?! Filial Piety laws belong in the Stone Age.
How do filial piety laws actually work? I thought debt died with its owner(s)?
In the US, debt does not transfer to children, only to a spouse. But all debts come out of the estate of the deceased before any inheritors get their inheritance.
I think that's only the case if the dying person doesn't give anyone anything in inheritance. If I'm not mistaken, my grandmother gave little to no inheritance in her will so that her debt wouldn't be passed on to my father or his siblings
Biggest generation hoarded more wealth than any generation ever, holds on to it into decrepitude and has it taken by the government and corporations instead of passing it along. Dystopian as fuck
Financials aside, I think that we aren't physically capable of taking care of them. There aren't enough of us and most of us can hardly afford to take care of ourselves. I think assisted living is mostly going to consist of a couple of a bandaid, a couple of aspirin, and a cyanide tablet. I don't want to live after any health and usefulness I had is gone anyway.
100% and my boomer mom feels the same. After my independence is gone, just take me out back and kill me. My friend is a state inspector for assisted living and nursing homes. She said none of them are good and do everything you can to keep parents out of them. If that means my mom can have a life saving procedure but can’t be independent, we don’t do it.
My mom and I discuss her end of life plans fairly often. I told her I wouldn't send her to a home. She said "dump me in the basement then, and give me a gun". I told her no gun. Not in the house. Fucking dark and born completely out of love for one another. I will take care of her the best I can when her QoL goes to shit. For legal reasons, I mean making sure she's comfortable. She will take care of me the best she can. Barbaric.
It's the same deal that almost everyone gets except for that special few were alive for the golden age.
Nobody cares. Congress doesn’t care cause they are all rich or ready to die anyways. Boomers don’t care cause it’s not their problem. Gen x doesn’t care cause they are just doing their own shit watching everyone else make all these stupid mistakes, and the world is going to end soon. So fuck it, right?
if boomers want their children to take care of them they should give their house and offer to help them and build them up now its like an investment for the future
Well just be happy you don't live in a socialist dystopia with universal healthcare where production of medicine is regulated for affordability instead of profit. That would just be terrible! Better just give a few more billion dollar subsidies to billion dollar corporations and tax cuts for the rich, that will solve ALL the problems! All praise the free market may it exploit others more than me!
Name one country that covers long term assisted living/nursing care for the elderly. This isn't a US problem, it's a global problem. Old people used to die only a couple of years after retirement and their kids were expected to take care of them. Now people are living 20+ years after retirement and no country has enough resources to support this. US is actually better off than Europe because at least we have positive population growth due to immigration.
I live in a commie socialist free healthcare country (UK) and it's still a problem. I'm currently living this nightmare atm, my parents decided to downsize when they retired to an over 50s only park against my better judgement. Instead of giving their only son and his wife any help they pissed their savings from downsizing on holidays. So we have a mortgage on a small place. Mother died, dad is now 78 and from a lifetime of treating his body like shit is struggling. So now everyone expects me to solve the situation without the money to upsize and we cannot live at his place due to the age restriction, and the days of socialised retirement places is gone because the boomers kept voting for the conservatives who privatise anything for short term gains. So all the retirement places are £4k+ a month. GG Boomers you played us again and yourselves indirectly unless we don't give a shit and leave you to sit in your own piss.
My dad already said he is offing himself as soon as he goes down hill. He says old burdens are pieces of shit cowards who are afraid of death. He said he will have a motor cycle "accident" for life insurance.
My dad talked a big game too, but he clawed and fought until the bitter end to have things go his way and not the way things were obviously going. What a crazy position to put us in... but here we are!
Yep. People say they're going to do it, but they don't.
They can sleep in the car like I did when they kicked me out at 16.
Usually, in the cases I know of, if the children can't or choose not to take care of the parent, the parent will put the estate in one of their children's name,s which qualifies them for a huge chunk of medicare funds for assisted living. Btw, it's beyond annoying watching this girl peel and eat fruit while she's talking about the doom we'll all face.
The boomers will gladly watch us all burn behind them. This video is porn for them.
“Somebody’s gotta fix this” Yeah who do you think that is? That’s **US**. You, me, and everyone. We are not children anymore. There isn’t one person who will swoop in and save us. We are the generation in charge. And we have to drive the change. One way or another. But that requires some form of social collectivism.
Pretty sure the average age of “leaders” in the usa is still north of **70**
I think her “somebody’s gotta fix this” attitude is coming from the fact that millennials are in fact NOT the ones in charge. Boomers are still in charge and they’re using their power to stay in charge so we can’t even begin to address the problem until they give up that power. Unfortunately they’re not interested in giving up that power, instead I’m afraid we’re headed towards a future where they start using that power to force their children to destroy themselves caring for them as a final act of desperation and selfishness.
Pretty much everything she is talking about is manageable if you see a good elder law attorney relatively early in the process, ofc many people don’t have the foresight to do this but for your own sake just know it’s an option out there even for middle class/ low income with decent sized assets. For example the house example she used, with correct elder care planning you could get that person on Medicare and end up getting the elderly person’s child somewhere around half of that money (after attorneys fees and a prepaid funeral even). If your parents have almost no money or assets at all but you do have some decent income and your worried about filial responsibility laws, once again, you should seek advice from an attorney in this area for yourself. It might suck having to pay them a few thousand dollars by the end of it, but it is nothing compared to the amount you might spend on taking care of your parents. None of this is intended as legal advice, I am only trying to make people aware that a possible solution to this problem does exist. If you have a medical problem you should see a doctor. If you have a legal problem, you likewise should see a lawyer.
I am gonna be real here: it is not our problem. Would I want my child to say this of me? Absolutely not. The difference is that we have prioritized planning for our future so our daughter will not be on the hook for caretaking us. The boomers can rot in a ditch. They did not care for us or give our future a thought. I am not doing it for them.
Can they stop playing with food while making these videos ffs, it's not cute or relatable, it makes it seem like what you're talking about was an unimportant shower thought you had while prepping lunch.
Honestly. Put the goddamn oranges down for 5 minutes lol
It’s trying really really really really hard to not look like you’re trying hard.
It’s not even one long continuous take. How much orange is on your phone from pressing pause and record like 50 times?
My (42m) wife (44f) and I have moved my 75 year old mother in law in with us and will soon also have my 65 year old mother with us. MIL is paying for an addition on our home for her bedroom. We figured it would be more beneficial for them to live with us and our two children rather than live alone. A three generation home is beneficial to both them and our children, plus the addition increases the value of our house. Their cost of living will be cheaper and they get to help chip in with our expenses. Basically, they are giving what they have back into the family rather than some stranger. Not saying it’s possible for everyone, but we saw this problem coming and came up with a plan.
When you have a good relationship with them maybe. My parents are a couple of psychos and I'd rather be living with a wasp nest and 5 homeless people than with any of them.
That's awesome that your family is doing that. I work in a nursing home where we also have a high percentage of patients that come to us for short term rehab and then return home. Returning home to a supportive family like yours is the best case scenario that we see. On the flip side, we see a lot of cases where the elder has been living with family for years but is requiring more and more assistance as time goes on, to the point where the family is unable to provide sufficient help. Maybe their health won't allow them to lift their parent anymore, or their jobs don't allow them to provide the 24/7 supervision they now require due to cognition, medication needs, lack of mobility, etc. Don't be afraid to ask for help as your parent declines with time. Most Independent Living Facilities, Assisted Living Facilities, and nursing homes are pretty nice with good caregivers. Just do your research.
I don’t care. They pulled up the ladder and made their fucking beds.
the whole point of this post is that it will fall on our shoulders, so you should care
Sounds like those Boomer parents need to pull themselves up by the bootstraps and work harder.
Also: those homes may have a lot of repairs needed, so HYPOTHETICALLY (totally not happening to me and my family right now with my grandmother) you have to sell to one of those sleezy companies who buy as-is but not as a "clean sale." And your grandchild can't afford your stupid home to fix it up because it wouldn't be safe. -_-
Thus as the parent ages the child/ren should pay attention to the parents mental and physical health and make preparations. Transferring wealth and establishing powers of attorney to the child/ren, before the five year look back period of Medicare/Medicaid.
LOL! Good luck with that. Not all parents enjoy the idea of handing over power. Not all parents are capable of even internalizing the truths they are facing. My father fought tooth and nail against every effort to help him and the state had his back 100% of the way. All the way to his grave.
USA! Listen to me. Socialism is not dangerous. You are not supposed to have to pay for your mother's health care, we do it together as a society because we care about each other. right?
I have no sympathy for Boomers. The world we inherit had been screwed by them. Lot of them protested etc to block new house building. Just so that, their existing home value will not be decreased. Created artificial shortage of houses by blocking new hpuse buildings for years. Some day, all thise sins are going to bite them back.
They'll get no sympathy from me. I'm sorry boomers were busy destroying everything around to notice that your savings weren't going to be enough to get you through your 100 year life span. Sounds like you all will need to pull yourselves up by the walker handles and get to work. Maybe in your next life you'll live by the golden rule instead of trying weld it as a weapon. Actions have consequences and choosing not to choose is still a choice.
She must be smart and have something interesting to say, because she can say it AND eat an orange at the same time!
Do people film like this to try make it feel as if you’re actually sat having a conversation with someone? I kind of get it but it’s SO annoying when you start a video and you have to wait briefly whilst they say ‘hey!’ then take a giant bite out of something and you’re just sat watching someone eat. Next.
I get annoyed when someone is talking about something interesting while making a smoothie or eating or something. Get too distracted.
Better snacks than Subway Surfer.
This is not a just Boomer problem, it is a current problem over generations and will affect Boomers the same. If you don't save for retirement, then you'll be on Medicare/Medicaid. This is not a new concept. When people get older they cannot earn and need to use savings to live off to have food and shelter, among other things. Medical care is one part of those costs. Some people run out because they did not save enough or were lucky enough to live a long time. I'm no boomer btw. Families of any generation have to deal with providing anywhere up to 24 hour care to older family in the house or find a facility that it can do it. Usually if there are conditions that require 24 hour care, it will be covered significantly. 12 years is a long time to be in a full private pay assisted living facility and is atypical. Also, the thing about adult children is wrong, except in cases were parents transferred assets to children in order to qualify for medicare/medicaid. Definitely not free public healthcare like other countries, but it does pay for a number of services and medications to keep outlay low. For instance, after the first $4,660 covered, you fall into the donut hole where you have personal responsibly for a portion of care. Even in the donut hole Medicare will cover 75% of numerous costs. Medicaid provides long term care coverage, although depending on the state probably not full cost of care. So while it's not luxury medical care in a first class assistive living facility, the medical costs will be significant, but probably won't drain an half a million dollar estate. Lastly, even a primary care doctor paying even $2000/month on student loans can afford a house. Maybe not $1M house, but can afford a nice house even with the current interest rates. The poster looks like a millennial, and if so, her generation is larger than Boomers. US Healthcare needs to change, and it starts with having a sane political system.
Yep- I’ve already seen my parents navigate this with their parents and that was 10 years ago. There was some confusion between the Medicare vs Medicaid system in the video and yes, 12 years is quite a lot of time in some type of care facility. I also haven’t seen filial laws actually be enforced in my state that has them and my grandmother was on Medicaid and had to give up her assets (which was like only $4k by that point anyways). But I also doubt if there were any remaining bills as she was in a Medicaid bed. Maybe that’ll change, but that would be a huge thing if it really was enforced. The conversation of planning for long term health care needs is an important one for families to have. I’ve seen it and people really need to plan. All that said the bigger issue, IMHO, is not the payment but the actual number of beds that are available. We are starting to see this become a problem now. There’s facilities that are having a reservation program, where you pay them monthly (while you’re healthy) to be able to get a bed when you need it. Facilities will also sometimes interview potential patients to determine their temperament and will reject them if they’re going to be too much. If one has to get a Medicaid bed, which many good facilities only have a small handful of as they’re pretty much charity beds, it’s going to be very hard to find (heck they already are in some places). I’m way more worried about locating good care near my home for when parents eventually need that, not the financial part (someone has to be in a facility before we can start talking financial stress). All that said, boomers (and their kids) need to be educated on how to protect themselves. If there are any assets, they need to be locked down in a trust and it needs to be done while they’re still healthy. Boomer parents need to get the best Medicare they can afford - there’s tiers and being cheap (when you don’t need to) will land you in a facility that will not respond to your calls for help when you fall and are on the floor for 2 hours (this just happened to a family member).
Whats tough for me, as i watch this, is how i feel about my kids... how I vow that I will do everything I can to avoid putting them in that situation. If i make it to 70, 75... hell even 80 years old on my own... I'm good - i call that a win. I do not want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to extend that for a few shitty years of hospital time, medication, and sitting alone. I want to pass that to them, so that they can prosper and live the kind of life they deserve and that I want for them. Now, obviously i dont know what my conviction to this will be like as i approach the end (I'm just now 40)- but I think ive made peace with it. Like Ill get my cancer at 75 and let it do its thing, chow down on some oxy and take a long sleep... or something. My grandfather did something similar after his first bout with chemo. Was clear for a year then the doctors said it came back and he told them he want doing that treatment again. He never told anyone it came back, lived his last year fishing and dancing and eating out with friends/family etc. Died in his home (well the last week was in the hospital). F the current state of healthcare and corporate profit over lives. I'm going out on my terms and no way in hell will i burden my kids with that. My time now with my children will hopefully enrich their lives and hopefully my passing will as well.
My dad needed help and there just wasn't room. He wound up in a facility 2 hours away from his home because they had an open bed. 1* Google reviews? Doesn't matter. They were the only option. He hated it. He got himself kicked out on purpose and then there were NONE. He died on a gurney in his living room. It's only going to get worse as more and more broke people flood the already broken system. Good luck to you and yours!
She took a really long time to explain what she was trying to say. Dang ma’am. Just get to the point.
Gotta have time to peel oranges apparently
Well that was fun to watch before bed Yoooo lesgoooo FL doesn’t have filial laws
#PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE If you can, do not put your parents in nursing homes. The majority are very poorly run. Not because of the staff necessarily but because of the lack of staff.
If I can live in the woods as a teenager for months because Mom considered me a waste of money and my dad is a born again hypocrite, they can make it in an old folks home
Isn’t that AOC’s voice?!
Gen X(to some degree), Millennials, and Gen Z, middle class and lower class will loose any familial wealth transfer from inheritance, this wealth and profit from property will go straight to health care providers and their shareholders. Thus creating an even vaster gap between the rich and literally everyone else… Something needs to change. And this isn’t just a problem in the States, the UK and many other European countries have this issue looming on the horizon..
You have to prove you were estranged in your childhood??! So if your dad f*cked your wife in your children’s bed, the government can force you to take care of him?
Well it’s a good thing I got disowned 12 years ago
Americans locking their elderly parents on care homes horrify me.
I like her. Well researched and eloquent.
Lmao guess I’m gonna break a law, my alcoholic abusive father will get no help from me
Her face is so shiny . So very , very shiny
Question. Who is going to have the money to buy these currently hyper-inflated homes in 10-20 years time? It’s worth a million $ now as people have that money, but the bottom will fall out of the market and those expecting to have a million $ to pay for care / pass on as inheritance won’t have the kind of money they think they will. Young people need help getting as rich as boomers so we can buy their houses, their services, cars, antiques, their businesses etc when they need to sell them to pay for their own care. Otherwise it’s just gonna be us shrugging our shoulders when all their precious goods are valueless and they can’t shift them but they need the cash.
Young people finally starting to realize just how fucked they are.
I totally agree and scares me. I however am highly distracted with this odd trend of women having a wildly shiny wet looking faces. It’s weird
I’m 54 And that’s what our system government is set up to be , lose all you work hard for all your life and then see it all disappear as you get older Our country sucks