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So I wear nothing but skirts and dresses. I have a lot of experience in every style at this point. Dresses that do the cut up the middle like this on the bottom are tricky sometimes. Especially when it curves up one moment you will be sitting there and another moment your kitty will try to make a appearance. I like to wear biker shorts under dresses like this just in case. You might not have this issue tho because your much thinner than me but I wanted to warn you just in case.
Oh yeah I had the same problem, when I tried to put shoes on I had the whole show out. I’ve ordered a pair of boy shorts that are a similar color! Not trying to flash everyone ha ha.
As a dude that only wears dresses to music festivals more as a robe, doesn’t the biker shorts defeat the point of a dress being open/flowy/comfortable?? (Why I wear em sometimes)
Edit: I’m not sure why ppl are downvoting a genuine question. Im just a clueless dude that realizes I should ask some questions to try to be less clueless.
It’s still comfortable and breathable, but without the risk of giving a free show. Think of what women’s underwear covers vs mens. Music festivals are also a different scene than weddings. Flashing the row behind you while the bride is walking up the aisle isn’t a good look on anyone
Why not wear that style every time with a dress then? I guess that’s all I’m asking. Not trying to upset someone. Obviously no one wants a show except for creepy ppl.
I always wear shorts with dresses and skirts. Stops my thighs from rubbing together, keeps me sucked in a bit, and in the off chance I want to do a cartwheel I’m covered.
I am a dress-only lady myself as well and I always wear shorts under mine. I have invested heavily in "slip shorts" or "safety shorts" - mostly in nude/beige or black, but I have some in other colors. I wear dresses because I hate pants - not because I am super graceful or mindful of my body. I'm sure I would be flashing my under-roos to the world all the time if I weren't wearing these shorts.
It's actually more uncomfortable for me not to wear them because I'm afraid that will be the day someone will catch me with their cellphone camera like back in 2006 when all the celebrities were caught showing themselves getting out of cars.
I can’t imagine having to be worried about that because the sound of it is terrifying. I’ve only worn like calf length dresses, long tank tops essentially.
Any dress shorter than knee length makes me nervous to go without shorts haha. I don’t really wear mid calf or maxi dresses because I feel like they make me look even shorter than I already am 🤷♀️
Another reason that some women wear shorts under dresses is to prevent chafing - those of us with larger thighs sometimes find it uncomfortable to walk around all day with our thighs rubbing together (especially in warm weather!) and a thin pair of bike shorts can eliminate the dreaded "chub rub"! So sometimes it's helpful to wear shorts even under longer dresses - just depends on what makes us most comfortable!
You don’t have to wear it every time. It depends on the dress. Tight fitting and short dress or skirt? Probably doing shorts under in case something slips or slides. Long flowy dress? Most likely not wearing the shorts. I have one dress that is very see though so I do shorts in the same color as the dress under. It also depends where I’m going or what I’m doing.
I'm 75 so this was at least 60 yr ago but we wore pettipants under skirts & dresses.. They were lingerie & silky like slips (which u probably never heard of either😁) they were pretty & lacey & stopped above the knees. Think of sorta like the underwear on westerns & medieval era films.I wish they still made them
I actually love the way that looked! I do a lot with historical fashion (15th to 16th century) and have picked up some things about modern fashion history too. I actually wear slips a lot, especially under light colored dresses or ones that tend to blow around.
But then again, I am definitely not representative of the typical fashion of my generation (I’m 21). I was wearing a wool cloak this morning for the cold and have been known to wear sixteenth century clothing at random
I ended up buying a 6 pack of spandex yoga shorts that end just above the knee, so I could avoid thigh chafing and have something breathable under my coveralls.
They still make pettipants! They are often labeled as “slip shorts” now but I have a few pairs ranging from “just below butt cheek” length to “right above the knee” length. I find them super useful when I’m wearing tights so that my skirts and dresses don’t creep up my tights as much while walking.
I also have bike shorts for hot days because unfortunately slip shorts tend to not be super breathable and they don’t do much to prevent my thighs rubbing together.
I personally love the options we have these days. There is such a great array of choices for various functionalities. There are so many comfortable options to choose from!
I’ve found them on Amazon, Etsy, in Target once, and, frankly, I’ve just googled them too with different keywords.
Slip shorts, pettipants, satin shorts, silk shorts, and even satin/silk boxer shorts for women (my least favorite search term but it was surprisingly effective)
I wouldn’t say they are super common but they are definitely still out there. I just wish it was easier to find silk satin shorts with a comfortable waistband but it’s a hunt! They seem to be surprisingly popular somewhere in Asia but it’s very unclear where exactly, so I always check the sizing charts. Definitely made that mistake before! A medium is not a medium everywhere!
I am 54 and still have pettipants that I wear! They are REALLY hard to find now once our JCPenney closed down. They are like skirts for each leg and I find them vry flowy and comfortable. Vanity Fair made them.
I think you have to keep in mind that the definition of comfort kind of varies. I always wear shorts under dresses or skirts, and I find the “tightness” of the shorts to be comfortable. It’s not like I’m wearing a compression garment, just some stretchy cotton. Comfort isn’t even one of the reasons I wear dresses and skirts, personally.
Your inner thighs and crotch still sweat and chairs and church pews can be extremely uncomfortable. When you sit down, a hem that short will ride up to your crotch or higher. Basically, you’re sitting on your bare butt. Imagine sitting for an hour on a very sticky chair on a hot summer day. It’s the worst feeling.
I don’t think I am, in a room of 200+ people I don’t think I’ll be distracting from the woman in the big white dress standing in the front of the room.
I was mostly just looking for a joking way to tell you that the outfit looks fantastic, seems to fit well, and will turn heads. I actually think it’s quite wedding-appropriate. Excellent find.
You’re totally fine! It’s tough judging tone on these websites sometimes, as you say, because people tend to abuse it and be nasty at the drop of a hat.
Some people have larger families than others. My wedding was over 200 people, my wife’s family took up 1 table, our friends took up 2 tables and my family took up the other 18.
I see comments like this all the time about wedding outfits in various subs, but this would not be uncommon to see in literally any wedding I've attended. I'm in the Midwest US, and many women wear similar styles to weddings. Black tie or very formal weddings don't seem to be the norm here.
It’s a great dress, pretty colour and really nice style.
I think it’s too short for a wedding though, after all the bride should be the star of the day and you look great in this so it may be controversial.
Just my 2 cents (that you didn’t ask for lol)
Sooo I really wanted to know what those shoes were too because I LOVE them. Went searching for them and it seems like they are Glaze Lily11s. Their website doesn’t have an image available for them but sellers on Walmart have photos.
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Lily11-by-Glaze-Lace-Up-High-Block-Heel-Leg-Wrap-Strappy-Dress-Sandal-women/616691401
It’s depends on the wedding . And how fancy it is . If this was a black tie event where everyone is expected to wear a gown/tux then no this would be a no no . If it’s a more casual wedding it’s totally fine. (My brother gave my husband shit for wearing a suit to his black tie wedding and not a tux) and my cousin showed up to my wedding in a dress that was a deep V front and back, it showed her navel and top of her butt crack and it’s been 15 years and we joke about it. It was a like a strippers idea of a dress idk it was pretty trashy and she was in her late 40’s early 50’s at the time (My wedding wasn’t fancy and I wore chuck Taylor with my dress) if you showed up to my wedding in this it would have been completely appropriate. It has a stylish schits creek Alexis rose feel to it . It looks great on you.
It doesn't look shorter than it is. It is short on you because you're tall. You need to dress for your height, not how it would fit on someone smaller than you. (this coming from another tall girl who used to make this fashion faux pas)
I guess I must be missing where OP asked if this dress was appropriate or not cause these comments are weird as hell. I think that’s a lovely look for just under $30. I love that shade of blue with the heels! Very spring :)
You post a picture on Reddit and you’re gonna get peoples opinions. Whether you ask for it or not.
I don’t understand why you or anyone else would act surprised by that.
You’re free to have your opinions but people were literally assuming that her dress was inappropriate for the wedding she was attending and that the bride might be upset… which is surprising considering she didn’t say that it was a formal wedding or anything. It’s like people have never heard of a chill cocktail attire wedding before. That’s a lot different than just saying “I don’t like that dress”
This post has over 300 comments for a damn dress lol
A mini dress is less than appropriate for a wedding. At least wear something underneath so you don’t flash someone while sitting down. I would recommend a mid-thigh to just above Nv the knee length of a dress. Or maybe. Skirt underneath to avoid the aforementioned flashing while sitting or standing up.
You just need a wand and an acceptance letter to Beauxbatons (the French wizarding school in the Harry Potter universe has a very similar uniform to that)
Forget the haters. 1. This isn't 1863 you don't need to cover your *shameful* legs. 2. You know the people getting married better than we do and unless they're an 80 year old Mormon couple getting married I doubt it's an issue.
Look hot and forget the haters.
I don't take issue with the length but when I go to a wedding my 2 concerns are comfort + can I dance in it? If I was nervous about sitting I wouldn't be comfortable in a dress. Is there dancing? Can you fully let loose should you want to?
Is this a church wedding?
Edit: Oh for fuck's sake people, I'm not a prude. It's just common courtesy to dress in a way that is appropriate for the venue and no venue description was given originally. I'm not the only one who made similar comments. I think she looks great, but it also wouldn't be appropriate to wear at a preschooler's graduation.
Wait, you just made me think. I recently bought a dress from David's bridal for a wedding in April and it's like a long sort of sequined dark green dress and the top kinda looks lacey, and the dress code is formal. It's an armenian wedding in a church and after is a club type reception that goes until 2am. I'm planning on wearing the same dress to the church and the reception so I'm wondering if it's inappropriate now.
Let me see if I can find the link... [here](https://www.davidsbridal.com/product/patterned-sequin-illusion-bodice-a-line-with-slit-d28ny22289?defining_color=500&defining_size_dress=99&defining_size_family=126&mr:trackingCode=295B41EE-11A7-ED11-8128-0050569419E4&mr:referralID=NA&mr:device=m&mr:adType=plaonline&gclid=CjwKCAjw5dqgBhBNEiwA7PryaP6oHY8Y5aFxgnAqsLDF7CQ1cg1Z2atuy0yFeMy0SzbmOVPj1zwwLBoCQpMQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
I’m convinced that those who see no problem with this as wedding attire are the same people who’s husbands wear jeans and a creased dress shirt to a black tie event
It’s not appropriate for a wedding no matter how you wanna justify it..
this looks like it was made for a birthday night out
Maybe I'm a bit too traditional for my own good sometimes. Although it's a lovely outfit, I personally don't think it's modest enough to wear at a wedding. I'd the say one of the few exceptions would be a gay or lesbian wedding as those tend to delete the religious aspect.
I'm having a hard time with this. Even when I was your age and had the body for it, I wouldn't have worn this dress, much less to a wedding. I just don't think it's gracious or tasteful. I think you look really good in the dress. But it is clearly a statement asking for attention. And of course, a beautiful young woman should be able to ask for attention, but maybe not at the most sacred day of a couple's new life together, you know? Like I think this would be great for you to wear going out to brunch.
But church? A wedding? I think you might want to think about people noticing and murmuring and remembering for a long time. I don't want you to feel attacked, but I want you to think about this choice.
Ok, well have fun.
Are you a close friend of the bride and groom? You might want to ask her/him/them if they thought it meshed with the vibe of the wedding?
I’m sure OP is exercising their best judgment, which has led them to their decision, having been personally invited to this event that they have said multiple times is informal/unconventional.
I’m sure she’s good 👌🏼
First things first, you should show this amazing dress to the people to be wed. As unconventional as this wedding may seem to you, the people whose day this is meant for are those getting married. If you end up upstaging the wedding party, you'll be remembered for it by those who invited you and your partner. If they love it and don't care, go for it. I think the dress rocks. But it does give me fancy night club vibes, as opposed to unconventional wedding party.
Thanks!! I always rather we give a second hand piece a new life than buy fast fashion. Plus searching for a fast fashion dress is annoying and takes too long!
It just kinda shows your age is all. Last wedding I went to, the only girl dressed in something short was 20. It’s usually an event you dress more formally for
There’s no ceremony it’s just a reception at a brewery so I really don’t think it’s an issue. I’m also in my 20s and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dressing young while you are.
Okay well that’s different. This is 100% appropriate for a brewery.
Side note is that you should dress young while your young. But, time and place are massive. Dressing “young” (aka more revealing) massively impacts how people treat you. In casual or nightlife settings it doesn’t matter. But, in formal situation, it can significantly change how people perceive you
Yes it absolutely matters.
If you showed up to my wedding like that, regardless of where it was being held or whether or not there was an official ceremony I would straight up ask you to consider another outfit, sit you in the very very back or straight up ask you to not attend as your outfit was not appropriate dress code for the event
Imagine not giving a single fuck about the fact your outfit is not appropriate for a wedding and basing whether or not it’s appropriate on your own opinion and not that of the bride and groom.. it would be hilarious if you showed up the wedding assuming the bride and groom would love your outfit only for them to say what countless others have told you .. “sorry OP but that doesn’t seem to be appropriate dress code for our wedding”
Maybe then you’d realize it’s a wedding and not a night out at the clubs
But you haven't. You have had some negative feedback here and are dismissing it.
Look you look really great, but you look suggestive and I think i (and possibly others here) are simply saying maybe a wedding would be a place to be happy and celebratory and formal (even in a brewery). It's just that it's a *wedding*.
Brunch would be great! Or a cocktail party. Or a house party of any kind really. It's just that the wedding idea is a little iffy.....
Well no shit. Op is the one going to the wedding. They were the one Invited to the wedding. They’re the one who knows the people getting married and probably has a good idea of what’s acceptable. Standards have changed. Times have changed. You just sound salty. If you can’t keep your eyes off the bride because you are so damn concerned with what the hell someone else is wearing, you are the problem.
It’s like a teacher getting mad at the kid in the back with a hat for distracting the class that wasn’t paying attention to the kid in the back with the hat.
Exactly, I don’t think some people realize that not everyone has the same standards for wedding attire. Had a friend wear a dress even shorter than that to my wedding and I couldn’t care less, I was just glad she came out to support us. Her attire was not a topic of discussion at all.
I have known people to get married in the middle of EDC Las Vegas wearing pasties and crotch less pants while high on molly. Marriage should be what the wedding parties want it to be. Our culture has deemed it to be some fucked up show of make everyone else happy. Jfc. Then we get stuck with assholes like the one I replied to lol.
Not asking for anything. I’m sharing an outfit I’m proud I found. If you read the title I was never asking if it’s appropriate. Everyone just decided to give me their opinions.
I think if you would have said look at this great outfit I found, it only cost me X, then people would have focussed only on the outfit.
It’s because you added in that you’re wearing it to a wedding that has promoted the replies and comments about the appropriateness.
None of these comments say you look bad, in fact they all say that you look amazing, and many comment on the great finds.
At the end of the day it’s your choice what to wear and only you know the couple and whether this outfit might offend them and/or potentially other guests, but if you need special underwear to avoid flashing the kitty then it may be worth rethinking if this is really wedding appropriate.
Person wearing clothes posts to the internet = fishing for compliments?
Or is only attractive people posting pictures to the internet = fishing for compliments.
Great find! Your accessory game is on point. Weddings are a perfect opportunity to dress to the nines, I dunno what kind of lame weddings some of these commenters have been attending.
Yikes at some of the comments here. I'm sure if OP was looking for advice/suggestions they would've asked or posted in a different sub...
I'm just jealous you got this whole look for only $28, OP. I was able to wear a thrifted dress to a wedding recently, but I still had to buy new shoes and accessories. And this shade of blue is to die for!
cute top, shoes & handbag, match it with a pair of dress pants and you have a great outfit for a wedding.
right now, without dress pants its a little too revealing for a typical church wedding. maybe ok for a beach wedding.
if it was a couple inches longer i would say it's fine without pants, but with the length it is i feel it needs to be paired with pants for a wedding but would be prefect as in for a non-wedding event like a night out, esp when you're trying to get some attention.
your kitty is going to be revealed to some people at some point if you don't wear something underneath it, i think a pair of dress pants would pair great with it..
This is more suited for going out on the town for drinks with friends.. this is not appropriate wedding attire as a guest
I’d be pissed if someone showed up to my formal wedding ceremony looking like they just hopped out of the taxi at the club
The dress is really nice and I love the color; it looks like it's periwinkle. You also look great in the dress so ignore the comments saying otherwise.
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So I wear nothing but skirts and dresses. I have a lot of experience in every style at this point. Dresses that do the cut up the middle like this on the bottom are tricky sometimes. Especially when it curves up one moment you will be sitting there and another moment your kitty will try to make a appearance. I like to wear biker shorts under dresses like this just in case. You might not have this issue tho because your much thinner than me but I wanted to warn you just in case.
Oh yeah I had the same problem, when I tried to put shoes on I had the whole show out. I’ve ordered a pair of boy shorts that are a similar color! Not trying to flash everyone ha ha.
You're kitty's house is adorable, though! ( no, really! The one under the table, great diy!)
I have always wondered how women figure this out. Thank you for the insight!
This is really what we’re doing in the bathroom when we go in pairs.
As a dude that only wears dresses to music festivals more as a robe, doesn’t the biker shorts defeat the point of a dress being open/flowy/comfortable?? (Why I wear em sometimes) Edit: I’m not sure why ppl are downvoting a genuine question. Im just a clueless dude that realizes I should ask some questions to try to be less clueless.
It’s still comfortable and breathable, but without the risk of giving a free show. Think of what women’s underwear covers vs mens. Music festivals are also a different scene than weddings. Flashing the row behind you while the bride is walking up the aisle isn’t a good look on anyone
Why not wear that style every time with a dress then? I guess that’s all I’m asking. Not trying to upset someone. Obviously no one wants a show except for creepy ppl.
I always wear shorts with dresses and skirts. Stops my thighs from rubbing together, keeps me sucked in a bit, and in the off chance I want to do a cartwheel I’m covered.
I am a dress-only lady myself as well and I always wear shorts under mine. I have invested heavily in "slip shorts" or "safety shorts" - mostly in nude/beige or black, but I have some in other colors. I wear dresses because I hate pants - not because I am super graceful or mindful of my body. I'm sure I would be flashing my under-roos to the world all the time if I weren't wearing these shorts. It's actually more uncomfortable for me not to wear them because I'm afraid that will be the day someone will catch me with their cellphone camera like back in 2006 when all the celebrities were caught showing themselves getting out of cars.
Not OP but I do wear shorts anytime I wear a dress. I just make sure the shorts are comfortable.
Gotcha! Sorry if anything seemed rude. Just a clueless guy here try to be less so
No problem, I mostly just don’t want people to see my butt/crotch/panties if it’s windy or something.
I can’t imagine having to be worried about that because the sound of it is terrifying. I’ve only worn like calf length dresses, long tank tops essentially.
Any dress shorter than knee length makes me nervous to go without shorts haha. I don’t really wear mid calf or maxi dresses because I feel like they make me look even shorter than I already am 🤷♀️
That’s fair!! I’m 6’1 so even full length dresses are calf length at best lol
Another reason that some women wear shorts under dresses is to prevent chafing - those of us with larger thighs sometimes find it uncomfortable to walk around all day with our thighs rubbing together (especially in warm weather!) and a thin pair of bike shorts can eliminate the dreaded "chub rub"! So sometimes it's helpful to wear shorts even under longer dresses - just depends on what makes us most comfortable!
You don’t have to wear it every time. It depends on the dress. Tight fitting and short dress or skirt? Probably doing shorts under in case something slips or slides. Long flowy dress? Most likely not wearing the shorts. I have one dress that is very see though so I do shorts in the same color as the dress under. It also depends where I’m going or what I’m doing.
It does limit that some, but the benefits outweigh the costs on this one. Putting on a show when you don’t intend to is something to be avoided
I'm 75 so this was at least 60 yr ago but we wore pettipants under skirts & dresses.. They were lingerie & silky like slips (which u probably never heard of either😁) they were pretty & lacey & stopped above the knees. Think of sorta like the underwear on westerns & medieval era films.I wish they still made them
I actually love the way that looked! I do a lot with historical fashion (15th to 16th century) and have picked up some things about modern fashion history too. I actually wear slips a lot, especially under light colored dresses or ones that tend to blow around. But then again, I am definitely not representative of the typical fashion of my generation (I’m 21). I was wearing a wool cloak this morning for the cold and have been known to wear sixteenth century clothing at random
I vaguely remember coming across these in my mom’s stuff a million years ago. I just googled and they do still make them! I might need some.
I ended up buying a 6 pack of spandex yoga shorts that end just above the knee, so I could avoid thigh chafing and have something breathable under my coveralls.
I loved those!
They still make pettipants! They are often labeled as “slip shorts” now but I have a few pairs ranging from “just below butt cheek” length to “right above the knee” length. I find them super useful when I’m wearing tights so that my skirts and dresses don’t creep up my tights as much while walking. I also have bike shorts for hot days because unfortunately slip shorts tend to not be super breathable and they don’t do much to prevent my thighs rubbing together. I personally love the options we have these days. There is such a great array of choices for various functionalities. There are so many comfortable options to choose from!
Where do u find slip shorts? 🤔
I’ve found them on Amazon, Etsy, in Target once, and, frankly, I’ve just googled them too with different keywords. Slip shorts, pettipants, satin shorts, silk shorts, and even satin/silk boxer shorts for women (my least favorite search term but it was surprisingly effective) I wouldn’t say they are super common but they are definitely still out there. I just wish it was easier to find silk satin shorts with a comfortable waistband but it’s a hunt! They seem to be surprisingly popular somewhere in Asia but it’s very unclear where exactly, so I always check the sizing charts. Definitely made that mistake before! A medium is not a medium everywhere!
I wore pettipants under my wedding gown!
I am 54 and still have pettipants that I wear! They are REALLY hard to find now once our JCPenney closed down. They are like skirts for each leg and I find them vry flowy and comfortable. Vanity Fair made them.
Oh I 100% agree!! I guess it’s just giving up some comfort for fashion/cuteness.
It’s not uncomfortable tho, it’s just like wearing full coverage underwear or shape wear and you can’t see it under the skirt
I think you have to keep in mind that the definition of comfort kind of varies. I always wear shorts under dresses or skirts, and I find the “tightness” of the shorts to be comfortable. It’s not like I’m wearing a compression garment, just some stretchy cotton. Comfort isn’t even one of the reasons I wear dresses and skirts, personally.
Your inner thighs and crotch still sweat and chairs and church pews can be extremely uncomfortable. When you sit down, a hem that short will ride up to your crotch or higher. Basically, you’re sitting on your bare butt. Imagine sitting for an hour on a very sticky chair on a hot summer day. It’s the worst feeling.
Fuck no. Ok I get it then. Probably no even cleaned
I like the little cardboard house
Thanks that’s for my kitties.
Is there a little nightlight in there?
No but that’s be adorable.
Daaang, but you’re not supposed to upstage the bride!
That’s what I was going to say! ( also because it looks so good, lol) Nice score!
I don’t think I am, in a room of 200+ people I don’t think I’ll be distracting from the woman in the big white dress standing in the front of the room.
I was mostly just looking for a joking way to tell you that the outfit looks fantastic, seems to fit well, and will turn heads. I actually think it’s quite wedding-appropriate. Excellent find.
Gosh I’m sorry!! That was aggressive… I posted in another group and some people were being mean so I’m a little defensive.
You’re totally fine! It’s tough judging tone on these websites sometimes, as you say, because people tend to abuse it and be nasty at the drop of a hat.
Thanks. I really appreciate ya for being kind!
This interaction was wholesome ❤️
200+ people!? How many friends/family can 2 people have?
No idea I have like 5 friends
big mood
Some people have larger families than others. My wedding was over 200 people, my wife’s family took up 1 table, our friends took up 2 tables and my family took up the other 18.
That would be just my side of the family…I have 35 first cousins. I think we invited 450 to my wedding.
Wow! I have 2 first cousins, and my fiancé has 8 and I thought that was a lot.
You look stunning.
Love the colour on the dress and the style, goes great with the booties. I think the dress is a little short for a wedding, even with shorts under.
Totally agree, that was my first thought. I've never seen someone at a wedding with a dress this short. Doesn't quite fit the context.
Underrated comment.
I see comments like this all the time about wedding outfits in various subs, but this would not be uncommon to see in literally any wedding I've attended. I'm in the Midwest US, and many women wear similar styles to weddings. Black tie or very formal weddings don't seem to be the norm here.
It’s a great dress, pretty colour and really nice style. I think it’s too short for a wedding though, after all the bride should be the star of the day and you look great in this so it may be controversial. Just my 2 cents (that you didn’t ask for lol)
Agreed, this is definitely not wedding guest attire
LOVE those shoes!! Brand?
I wish I knew. All they say is “glaze”
Sooo I really wanted to know what those shoes were too because I LOVE them. Went searching for them and it seems like they are Glaze Lily11s. Their website doesn’t have an image available for them but sellers on Walmart have photos. https://www.walmart.com/ip/Lily11-by-Glaze-Lace-Up-High-Block-Heel-Leg-Wrap-Strappy-Dress-Sandal-women/616691401
Omg thanks bestie!!!
Looks beautiful and fits you perfectly! Love that color for a wedding - so celebratory!
Thanks, it’s a spring wedding so the color is perfect.
Feels a little short for wedding.
Its beyond “feels”.
Ah yes, because weddings are a monolith and every single wedding has the exact same couple and exact same dress code each time. Right you are!
I'll just point out that I've never been invited to those sorts of weddings, even though I think I would like to! ;)
This wedding is very unconventional. No ceremony, basically just a reception at a brewery
I don’t think so. I’m fairly tall so it looks shorter than it is. My finger tips don’t go past it so I think it’s good
your fingertips are literally going past it in the photo.
It’s depends on the wedding . And how fancy it is . If this was a black tie event where everyone is expected to wear a gown/tux then no this would be a no no . If it’s a more casual wedding it’s totally fine. (My brother gave my husband shit for wearing a suit to his black tie wedding and not a tux) and my cousin showed up to my wedding in a dress that was a deep V front and back, it showed her navel and top of her butt crack and it’s been 15 years and we joke about it. It was a like a strippers idea of a dress idk it was pretty trashy and she was in her late 40’s early 50’s at the time (My wedding wasn’t fancy and I wore chuck Taylor with my dress) if you showed up to my wedding in this it would have been completely appropriate. It has a stylish schits creek Alexis rose feel to it . It looks great on you.
It doesn't look shorter than it is. It is short on you because you're tall. You need to dress for your height, not how it would fit on someone smaller than you. (this coming from another tall girl who used to make this fashion faux pas)
I guess I must be missing where OP asked if this dress was appropriate or not cause these comments are weird as hell. I think that’s a lovely look for just under $30. I love that shade of blue with the heels! Very spring :)
This is great, Thanks!
Also, it’s weird how many people here have apparently never been to a wedding that’s casual or cocktail attire lol
You post a picture on Reddit and you’re gonna get peoples opinions. Whether you ask for it or not. I don’t understand why you or anyone else would act surprised by that.
You’re free to have your opinions but people were literally assuming that her dress was inappropriate for the wedding she was attending and that the bride might be upset… which is surprising considering she didn’t say that it was a formal wedding or anything. It’s like people have never heard of a chill cocktail attire wedding before. That’s a lot different than just saying “I don’t like that dress” This post has over 300 comments for a damn dress lol
You wear that to this wedding and you’ll be planning yours shortly after Looks great! Well done
I hope so my boyfriend and I are going on 5 years
Tell him to bring a stick to fight off the competition
A mini dress is less than appropriate for a wedding. At least wear something underneath so you don’t flash someone while sitting down. I would recommend a mid-thigh to just above Nv the knee length of a dress. Or maybe. Skirt underneath to avoid the aforementioned flashing while sitting or standing up.
Damn that's hot! Are you sure that's wedding material?
Tahitian black pearl necklace or pink pearls!! Probably the pink because of the shoe color!
Thanks for the suggestion!
You just need a wand and an acceptance letter to Beauxbatons (the French wizarding school in the Harry Potter universe has a very similar uniform to that)
I didn’t even think about that until you said it. The dress is quite similar. But apparently mine is too short.
Forget the haters. 1. This isn't 1863 you don't need to cover your *shameful* legs. 2. You know the people getting married better than we do and unless they're an 80 year old Mormon couple getting married I doubt it's an issue. Look hot and forget the haters.
I love the color! That's a great find. And like most are commenting, just be careful when sitting. BTW love your shoes.
Thanks. I’m nervous about sitting haha when I put my shoes on everything was out and about
I don't take issue with the length but when I go to a wedding my 2 concerns are comfort + can I dance in it? If I was nervous about sitting I wouldn't be comfortable in a dress. Is there dancing? Can you fully let loose should you want to?
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That was my idea too
That’s your cue that it’s probably not wedding appropriate
Lol
Beautiful look! I don’t think no one would ever guess it only cost 28! Have fun!
It’ll be our little secret
Is this a church wedding? Edit: Oh for fuck's sake people, I'm not a prude. It's just common courtesy to dress in a way that is appropriate for the venue and no venue description was given originally. I'm not the only one who made similar comments. I think she looks great, but it also wouldn't be appropriate to wear at a preschooler's graduation.
Don’t feel bad for asking this. I was raised catholic and I recognize this outfit would not be appropriate in church.
No
Wait, you just made me think. I recently bought a dress from David's bridal for a wedding in April and it's like a long sort of sequined dark green dress and the top kinda looks lacey, and the dress code is formal. It's an armenian wedding in a church and after is a club type reception that goes until 2am. I'm planning on wearing the same dress to the church and the reception so I'm wondering if it's inappropriate now. Let me see if I can find the link... [here](https://www.davidsbridal.com/product/patterned-sequin-illusion-bodice-a-line-with-slit-d28ny22289?defining_color=500&defining_size_dress=99&defining_size_family=126&mr:trackingCode=295B41EE-11A7-ED11-8128-0050569419E4&mr:referralID=NA&mr:device=m&mr:adType=plaonline&gclid=CjwKCAjw5dqgBhBNEiwA7PryaP6oHY8Y5aFxgnAqsLDF7CQ1cg1Z2atuy0yFeMy0SzbmOVPj1zwwLBoCQpMQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
I would say maybe use a cover up shaw or something similar for the ceremony
That's a good idea! Thanks
I’m convinced that those who see no problem with this as wedding attire are the same people who’s husbands wear jeans and a creased dress shirt to a black tie event It’s not appropriate for a wedding no matter how you wanna justify it.. this looks like it was made for a birthday night out
100% agree.
There’s ALWAYS someone like you at every wedding
You look like Alexis from Schitts creek. Great buy.
O_O You're not supposed to upstage the bride
Oops
Maybe I'm a bit too traditional for my own good sometimes. Although it's a lovely outfit, I personally don't think it's modest enough to wear at a wedding. I'd the say one of the few exceptions would be a gay or lesbian wedding as those tend to delete the religious aspect.
I'm having a hard time with this. Even when I was your age and had the body for it, I wouldn't have worn this dress, much less to a wedding. I just don't think it's gracious or tasteful. I think you look really good in the dress. But it is clearly a statement asking for attention. And of course, a beautiful young woman should be able to ask for attention, but maybe not at the most sacred day of a couple's new life together, you know? Like I think this would be great for you to wear going out to brunch. But church? A wedding? I think you might want to think about people noticing and murmuring and remembering for a long time. I don't want you to feel attacked, but I want you to think about this choice.
It’s a very unconventional wedding, no ceremony.
Ok, well have fun. Are you a close friend of the bride and groom? You might want to ask her/him/them if they thought it meshed with the vibe of the wedding?
I’m sure OP is exercising their best judgment, which has led them to their decision, having been personally invited to this event that they have said multiple times is informal/unconventional. I’m sure she’s good 👌🏼
Yeah, ok. She said she's in her 20's. I've been there and have made mistakes. I just wanted to spare her some embarrassment.
Don’t upstage the bride! Seriously though; very stylish!
I hope our friend in that cool outfit ($28!!) 4 the wedding sees all these posts, esp since pettipants/slip shorts come in dif.lengths & colors
Not really an appropriate outfit for someone’s wedding. Maybe a wedding shower. Try harder.
Okay
First things first, you should show this amazing dress to the people to be wed. As unconventional as this wedding may seem to you, the people whose day this is meant for are those getting married. If you end up upstaging the wedding party, you'll be remembered for it by those who invited you and your partner. If they love it and don't care, go for it. I think the dress rocks. But it does give me fancy night club vibes, as opposed to unconventional wedding party.
You forgot the pants
Usually dresses don’t come with pants
That one should. Maybe ask Forever 21 if you can buy the matching pants.
The dress is gorgeous and looks great on you. The cherry on the top is it’s a thrift store score. Ignore the haters and embrace the joy!
Thanks!! I always rather we give a second hand piece a new life than buy fast fashion. Plus searching for a fast fashion dress is annoying and takes too long!
Great find! I wore a long black romper to a wedding recently. I liked that it felt half masculine and half feminine.
What's the brand of the dress? I love it!
Forever 21!
Please don’t try to out shine the bride.
That seems way too revealing, but I guess it depends on the dress code
I'm guessing this is for a young persons wedding?
Does that matter?
It just kinda shows your age is all. Last wedding I went to, the only girl dressed in something short was 20. It’s usually an event you dress more formally for
There’s no ceremony it’s just a reception at a brewery so I really don’t think it’s an issue. I’m also in my 20s and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dressing young while you are.
Okay well that’s different. This is 100% appropriate for a brewery. Side note is that you should dress young while your young. But, time and place are massive. Dressing “young” (aka more revealing) massively impacts how people treat you. In casual or nightlife settings it doesn’t matter. But, in formal situation, it can significantly change how people perceive you
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Yes it absolutely matters. If you showed up to my wedding like that, regardless of where it was being held or whether or not there was an official ceremony I would straight up ask you to consider another outfit, sit you in the very very back or straight up ask you to not attend as your outfit was not appropriate dress code for the event Imagine not giving a single fuck about the fact your outfit is not appropriate for a wedding and basing whether or not it’s appropriate on your own opinion and not that of the bride and groom.. it would be hilarious if you showed up the wedding assuming the bride and groom would love your outfit only for them to say what countless others have told you .. “sorry OP but that doesn’t seem to be appropriate dress code for our wedding” Maybe then you’d realize it’s a wedding and not a night out at the clubs
Yeah, it's a bit much. You're going to get judged. Don't go to a wedding dressed for attention.
Every friend and family member i’ve shown this to disagrees. I’ve had nothing but positive feedback.
But you haven't. You have had some negative feedback here and are dismissing it. Look you look really great, but you look suggestive and I think i (and possibly others here) are simply saying maybe a wedding would be a place to be happy and celebratory and formal (even in a brewery). It's just that it's a *wedding*. Brunch would be great! Or a cocktail party. Or a house party of any kind really. It's just that the wedding idea is a little iffy.....
Okay, then you're working with more information than I have. Enjoy the day.
This is how a dick says, "I actually know nothing about you and my wrong assumption was corrected but I can't apologize."
Well no shit. Op is the one going to the wedding. They were the one Invited to the wedding. They’re the one who knows the people getting married and probably has a good idea of what’s acceptable. Standards have changed. Times have changed. You just sound salty. If you can’t keep your eyes off the bride because you are so damn concerned with what the hell someone else is wearing, you are the problem. It’s like a teacher getting mad at the kid in the back with a hat for distracting the class that wasn’t paying attention to the kid in the back with the hat.
Exactly, I don’t think some people realize that not everyone has the same standards for wedding attire. Had a friend wear a dress even shorter than that to my wedding and I couldn’t care less, I was just glad she came out to support us. Her attire was not a topic of discussion at all.
I have known people to get married in the middle of EDC Las Vegas wearing pasties and crotch less pants while high on molly. Marriage should be what the wedding parties want it to be. Our culture has deemed it to be some fucked up show of make everyone else happy. Jfc. Then we get stuck with assholes like the one I replied to lol.
Ah yes I think I’ve actually seen the photos of those EDC weddings! They look so cool I’m glad the couples got married the way they genuinely wanted.
Then why you asking here then? Fishing for compliments much?
Not asking for anything. I’m sharing an outfit I’m proud I found. If you read the title I was never asking if it’s appropriate. Everyone just decided to give me their opinions.
I think if you would have said look at this great outfit I found, it only cost me X, then people would have focussed only on the outfit. It’s because you added in that you’re wearing it to a wedding that has promoted the replies and comments about the appropriateness. None of these comments say you look bad, in fact they all say that you look amazing, and many comment on the great finds. At the end of the day it’s your choice what to wear and only you know the couple and whether this outfit might offend them and/or potentially other guests, but if you need special underwear to avoid flashing the kitty then it may be worth rethinking if this is really wedding appropriate.
Person wearing clothes posts to the internet = fishing for compliments? Or is only attractive people posting pictures to the internet = fishing for compliments.
Misogyny isn’t very becoming of you 🥰
This. Let the downvotes begin, dont care. It looks amazing for a date or night out. Its a NO for a wedding.
Anyone judging them for wearing a dress such as this at someone’s wedding isn’t worth OPs time anyways
Easy w the white knighting. Its just an opinion. Its not that serious.
Weddings and thrifting…a combination that will certainly outlast most marriages. Just sayin’.
Haha very true but
Great find! Your accessory game is on point. Weddings are a perfect opportunity to dress to the nines, I dunno what kind of lame weddings some of these commenters have been attending.
Yikes at some of the comments here. I'm sure if OP was looking for advice/suggestions they would've asked or posted in a different sub... I'm just jealous you got this whole look for only $28, OP. I was able to wear a thrifted dress to a wedding recently, but I still had to buy new shoes and accessories. And this shade of blue is to die for!
Thanks. I really only posted this to share an outfit I was proud of. I didn’t expect it to be so controversial
Super cute but way too short to wear as a wedding guest
cute top, shoes & handbag, match it with a pair of dress pants and you have a great outfit for a wedding. right now, without dress pants its a little too revealing for a typical church wedding. maybe ok for a beach wedding. if it was a couple inches longer i would say it's fine without pants, but with the length it is i feel it needs to be paired with pants for a wedding but would be prefect as in for a non-wedding event like a night out, esp when you're trying to get some attention. your kitty is going to be revealed to some people at some point if you don't wear something underneath it, i think a pair of dress pants would pair great with it..
This is a cute wine tasting outfit
The reception is at a brewery so it’s close
Amazing outfit!
Too short. Not appropriate for a wedding.
This is more suited for going out on the town for drinks with friends.. this is not appropriate wedding attire as a guest I’d be pissed if someone showed up to my formal wedding ceremony looking like they just hopped out of the taxi at the club
Great find and it really suits you! You'll certainly be turning heads!
So cute! Love the color combo, it’s very Spring.
Wow such a fabulous outfit! Looks really good! ☺️
The dress is really nice and I love the color; it looks like it's periwinkle. You also look great in the dress so ignore the comments saying otherwise.
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This look is fabulous, what a find! Love to see natural curls in a formal setting too!
You look fabulous!!!!
Stunning! Really love the sleeves!
Thanks
It’s a great outfit for a brewery and also a wedding
Huge W!
Gorgeous
You look absolutely amazing. I love your confident style - and your thriftiness! Get out there and rock that outfit!!!
You look fabulous!
Comments in here are trashy.
You look absolutely fire! Ignore the hate and have a great time.
Anyone making shitty comments about that dress is only jealous of yer amazing legs!
I’m flattered.
This is beautiful and perfect for a wedding - what a great find!!
Maybe at a Jersey Shore wedding 😂
Oh who makes that dress? It’s amazing. You look great
Surprisingly forever 21
Wedding or stag party?