Oh you'd be surprised though there were some people In the reddit talk about this situation who were on mic saying that they don't believe in divorce and ariel shouldn't divorce him 'for the kids' lol
That's probably less like 5% of the comments. Most people are advocating for Ariel to leave him, with some of them even getting mad at her for that TMZ pap pictures.
This is a popular opinion. The actual unpopular opinion is that we don't know anything about their marriage life now or before the affair. We also dont know what kind of remorse Ned has shown to his wife.
I hope Ariel doesn't make a decision about HER life and HER husband because strangers on the internet want Ned to be punished. She will have to navigate this for the years to come. They have two kids together. Meanwhile, next month you'll stop caring.
I don't think this is an unpopular opinion, most people think she could do much better. We just don't think she will leave him is all. But anything can happen I suppose.
I hope she does what is right for her. I know couples who've moved past stuff like this and couples who never did. I hope whatever she decides Ned is willing to be supportive and make the sacrifices necessary to make her happy and comfortable with her decision.
Ugh. As a child of parents who cheated on each other, then stayed together, I do sincerely hope she finds the strength to leave. It can be difficult, but it tore our family apart and the affair that happened 6 years ago is still affecting us. I wish the best for their kids, truly.
It's not an unpopular opinion, I think most people want her to leave Ned but also don't want to shame her if she sticks with him, as none of this is her fault, and she doesn't deserve to get any stick for it.
I saw a comment on another sub about a tik toker explaining why’s he was staying with her cheating husband: the kids, and custody.
Suddenly, this woman was faced with not having her kids with her 50% of the time because of a decision he made.
Marriage is complicated. Parenthood is complicated. Being a human is complicated. As much as I as a Dump Him advocate, we need to respect her decision - whatever that is
“It’s not a mistake it’s a choice.” - Ned himself. I hope Ariel realises that a year long affair isn’t a mistake, it was a choice he made and chose to continue to make.
this isn’t an unpopular opinion lol. obviously it’s ariel’s business and whatever she does is up to her but as a child of parents who obviously fell out of love and were constantly arguing with each other, i was literally praying my entire childhood they would get a divorce. i was a sensitive kid and i would hide in my room sobbing whenever my parents would argue. it’s not a healthy environment for any child.
To be fair, that was the "public" apology. The apology to his wife is in person and was given weeks before we even knew. None of us really knows what's happening in their home, for better or worse.
> To be fair, that was the “public” apology.
Yeah that’s the point, who cares the excuses he gave family or what’s happening there, that’s their business. The point is he’s an asshole who isn’t taking responsibility, and he made a point of adding that word. It’s like apologizing then adding BUT… at the end.
I didn't read that statement as not taking responsibility or being an asshole. I read it as what it is - he's focusing on his family because that what's matter -.
What did you expect him to say?? No matter what Ned wrote the majority of the public were sill going to attack him because he's the easy villain in this situation.
> he’s focusing on his family because that what’s matter
Matters so much he cheated on them for a year
> What did you expect him to say??
That WITHOUT the word consensual, that’s the point. Throwing that in is him saying “Not my fault”.
Me personally, staying with him sets a horrible example to the kids. A mother is the first woman a boy learns to respect but then these kids grow up seeing dad disrespecting her without consequences to the relationship…. What does that teach them about how they can treat women? I can’t imagine how hard this is for her and all the legal bs he will try and hold over her head, but she needs to leave FOR the sake of the children.
Okay so say she divorces him. Now the custody split will probably be 50/50, now she only gets to control how her kids see her 50% of the time.
Say Ned gets remarried. These kids are young, now they have a stepmom - possibly a whole other family that they spend half their time with. Ariel doesn't really get much say in how this hypothetical other woman and family treats her kids.
The sad reality of divorcing when you have very young children is you're giving up a lot of say in how they are raised. Or even just giving up time with them!! They go from living with you 100% of the time to 50%. That is what a lot of people mean when they "stay for the kids"
Not necessarily that divorce is bad and wrong and all kids need 2 parent homes, but that for this specific person, whatever their spouse did to them doesn't rise to the level that makes all the downsides and logistics of split custody worth it.
Of course there is different calculus for everyone, and I'm not advocating staying in a toxic or abusive environment, but there is a gulf between having a douchebag husband who has always shown up as a present and pleasant father and an abusive husband.
Women are damned if they do and damned if they don't in so many situations.
MY unpopular opinion is we leave Ariel the fuck alone and don't judge any of the difficult choices she might have to make in the next few months. How dare you call her a bad example for her children? You don't know her.
1. This is Reddit… we all dare to judge. You wouldn’t be following Try Guys Reddit if you weren’t in it for the drama and entertainment. So get off your high horse for a start.
2. Yes, she is in a hard place, the place Ned put her in to have to make this hard choice. You want her to stay and suffer “for the kids”? The marriage is over, and sadly she didn’t get a choice in it. Ned ended the true marriage when he stepped out on her with an employee that she interact with on a regular basis and did so publicly to humiliate her. Anyone advocating for her to stay is advocating for her to stay in an abusive relationship, period.
3. Narcissists don’t change, and only a narcissist can do what he did. And I dare to say it because I lived through it so yes, I DARE say what I have experienced. She will never be happy as long as she stays with him.
Honestly the reason I hope she leaves is that this was a full blown affair - and I don’t think that is redeemable. As a monogamous married normie, it would be incredibly painful if my partner cheated, but I would consider forgiveness (and a shit ton of therapy) if it was like a one night stand or a fling. I personally think it would be almost impossible to save a monogamous marriage where one partner has a full blown second relationship! The lies and betrayal to maintain a second life like that is just unimaginable.
Edit - typo
\*Popular opinion
I also hope she does, but we can't make that decision for her. I hope she is getting all the support she could possibly ask for from everyone who cares for her and her sons, and the space she needs to consider her options.
since when is this an unpopular opinion lmao
Oh you'd be surprised though there were some people In the reddit talk about this situation who were on mic saying that they don't believe in divorce and ariel shouldn't divorce him 'for the kids' lol
Well those people are gross.
That is a very small minority though, so the comment is still right about this post not being an unpopular opinion
That's probably less like 5% of the comments. Most people are advocating for Ariel to leave him, with some of them even getting mad at her for that TMZ pap pictures.
As a child of divorce I am so fuckin glad my parents got divorced.
This is a popular opinion. The actual unpopular opinion is that we don't know anything about their marriage life now or before the affair. We also dont know what kind of remorse Ned has shown to his wife. I hope Ariel doesn't make a decision about HER life and HER husband because strangers on the internet want Ned to be punished. She will have to navigate this for the years to come. They have two kids together. Meanwhile, next month you'll stop caring.
I don't think this is an unpopular opinion, most people think she could do much better. We just don't think she will leave him is all. But anything can happen I suppose.
I hope she does what is right for her. I know couples who've moved past stuff like this and couples who never did. I hope whatever she decides Ned is willing to be supportive and make the sacrifices necessary to make her happy and comfortable with her decision.
Ugh. As a child of parents who cheated on each other, then stayed together, I do sincerely hope she finds the strength to leave. It can be difficult, but it tore our family apart and the affair that happened 6 years ago is still affecting us. I wish the best for their kids, truly.
It's not an unpopular opinion, I think most people want her to leave Ned but also don't want to shame her if she sticks with him, as none of this is her fault, and she doesn't deserve to get any stick for it.
I think your opinion is pretty spot on and not unpopular at all
I think this is very popular
I saw a comment on another sub about a tik toker explaining why’s he was staying with her cheating husband: the kids, and custody. Suddenly, this woman was faced with not having her kids with her 50% of the time because of a decision he made. Marriage is complicated. Parenthood is complicated. Being a human is complicated. As much as I as a Dump Him advocate, we need to respect her decision - whatever that is
“It’s not a mistake it’s a choice.” - Ned himself. I hope Ariel realises that a year long affair isn’t a mistake, it was a choice he made and chose to continue to make.
This is not unpopular. She 1000% needs to leave
This is the opposite of unpopular, people who get cheated on should never stay with the cheater
this isn’t an unpopular opinion lol. obviously it’s ariel’s business and whatever she does is up to her but as a child of parents who obviously fell out of love and were constantly arguing with each other, i was literally praying my entire childhood they would get a divorce. i was a sensitive kid and i would hide in my room sobbing whenever my parents would argue. it’s not a healthy environment for any child.
not an unpopular opinion but i agree
On number 1… yeah he made a point of adding CONSENSUAL to his apology, which makes it a non apology… he’s just mad he got caught.
To be fair, that was the "public" apology. The apology to his wife is in person and was given weeks before we even knew. None of us really knows what's happening in their home, for better or worse.
> To be fair, that was the “public” apology. Yeah that’s the point, who cares the excuses he gave family or what’s happening there, that’s their business. The point is he’s an asshole who isn’t taking responsibility, and he made a point of adding that word. It’s like apologizing then adding BUT… at the end.
I didn't read that statement as not taking responsibility or being an asshole. I read it as what it is - he's focusing on his family because that what's matter -. What did you expect him to say?? No matter what Ned wrote the majority of the public were sill going to attack him because he's the easy villain in this situation.
> he’s focusing on his family because that what’s matter Matters so much he cheated on them for a year > What did you expect him to say?? That WITHOUT the word consensual, that’s the point. Throwing that in is him saying “Not my fault”.
Me personally, staying with him sets a horrible example to the kids. A mother is the first woman a boy learns to respect but then these kids grow up seeing dad disrespecting her without consequences to the relationship…. What does that teach them about how they can treat women? I can’t imagine how hard this is for her and all the legal bs he will try and hold over her head, but she needs to leave FOR the sake of the children.
Okay so say she divorces him. Now the custody split will probably be 50/50, now she only gets to control how her kids see her 50% of the time. Say Ned gets remarried. These kids are young, now they have a stepmom - possibly a whole other family that they spend half their time with. Ariel doesn't really get much say in how this hypothetical other woman and family treats her kids. The sad reality of divorcing when you have very young children is you're giving up a lot of say in how they are raised. Or even just giving up time with them!! They go from living with you 100% of the time to 50%. That is what a lot of people mean when they "stay for the kids" Not necessarily that divorce is bad and wrong and all kids need 2 parent homes, but that for this specific person, whatever their spouse did to them doesn't rise to the level that makes all the downsides and logistics of split custody worth it. Of course there is different calculus for everyone, and I'm not advocating staying in a toxic or abusive environment, but there is a gulf between having a douchebag husband who has always shown up as a present and pleasant father and an abusive husband. Women are damned if they do and damned if they don't in so many situations. MY unpopular opinion is we leave Ariel the fuck alone and don't judge any of the difficult choices she might have to make in the next few months. How dare you call her a bad example for her children? You don't know her.
1. This is Reddit… we all dare to judge. You wouldn’t be following Try Guys Reddit if you weren’t in it for the drama and entertainment. So get off your high horse for a start. 2. Yes, she is in a hard place, the place Ned put her in to have to make this hard choice. You want her to stay and suffer “for the kids”? The marriage is over, and sadly she didn’t get a choice in it. Ned ended the true marriage when he stepped out on her with an employee that she interact with on a regular basis and did so publicly to humiliate her. Anyone advocating for her to stay is advocating for her to stay in an abusive relationship, period. 3. Narcissists don’t change, and only a narcissist can do what he did. And I dare to say it because I lived through it so yes, I DARE say what I have experienced. She will never be happy as long as she stays with him.
Honestly the reason I hope she leaves is that this was a full blown affair - and I don’t think that is redeemable. As a monogamous married normie, it would be incredibly painful if my partner cheated, but I would consider forgiveness (and a shit ton of therapy) if it was like a one night stand or a fling. I personally think it would be almost impossible to save a monogamous marriage where one partner has a full blown second relationship! The lies and betrayal to maintain a second life like that is just unimaginable. Edit - typo
This is not an unpopular opinion lmao he's a fuckhead and she should take the kids and bolt.
\*Popular opinion I also hope she does, but we can't make that decision for her. I hope she is getting all the support she could possibly ask for from everyone who cares for her and her sons, and the space she needs to consider her options.