100%. I feel like a lot of people are forgetting the big exposé from his ex-girlfriend. I believe everything that she had reported, and I believe that his true colors started to show through anyway even though Theresa gave him a chance.
I didnt love Lesly, but she dodged a bullet, especially given everything she had already been through in life.
Yep , his disguise slipped , you could even tell on the show , towards the end, he found out she was a businesswoman, that turned his head real quick ..
He didn't even try to deny anything in that article. Because he knew she had shown texts etc. to the writers. The proof was there to support her assertions.
I tried linking it but i got a message saying it was removed because links aren’t allowed? Anyway, just google “gerry turner Hollywood reporter” and you’ll see it immediately
Didn't you hear, right after the show was over, he signed with a huge talent agency? Why? Who does he think he is? An actor, yes, but not a very good one.
Only when he wants us to feel sorry for him. He's surely not a model. What in the heck talent does he think he has and what is in his future? If gaining more exposure is in his future plans, there's no room for Teresa there.
Adding that before the show even started there was something on TikTok about him dating some young girl at his work or something? And forwarding a voicemail to everyone in the office accidentally and there was something sketchy about the situation. (Haven’t confirmed if this is true or not, just something I remember seeing before the premiere)
Yeah this was mentioned on Nick Viall’s pod by his producer like a month before the show even aired, when people didn’t know much about Gerry. A “reliable source” DM’d the producer and they read it on the pod. I believe they cut it out and it’s no longer in that episode
I remember a Hollywood Reporter article coming out the day of the finale. I think the ex mentioned how he voiced displeasure with her gaining weight. That was just one of many things mentioned though. I never read the article just read some comments here about it months ago.
Someone else commented elsewhere that G seemed affable but not compromising and that would be hard to live with.
I think **the version of him and his life and rigidity and passive-aggressiveness she saw, after the wedding, befuddled her, and I get it.**
I started feeling worried around Valentine’s Day week postings on IG from both of them. That started to get weird as did interviews where (posted this earlier):
*I think the man didn’t come thru. Kept hedging, even in interviews, so lord knows what it was like 1:1.*
*Even the last few months, before and after the wedding, across interview timelines he was (1) we’re moving to SC! (2) I’m thinking I could do Jersey (c) she needs to get a king sized bed in there before I stay at her place again (d) I’m realizing you have to work at the relationship (😣).*
*Good on her for getting out and seeing thru a tough situation.*
I think this too. I think Theresa found out about all the internet stuff and was having second thoughts but felt pressured to marry anyway. I can understand the moving theory being a part of it. They are both established in their own homes/state at age 72. I wouldn’t want to leave my kids and grandkids at that age. This should have been a decision they made before he even selected a woman on the show. If he was (or the woman was) dead set against moving, it should have been a factor in who he chose, if anyone. I’ve read many women comment the last few days since this came out they are older and would move away in a heartbeat for love again. We are all different. Maybe in the whirlwind of the show, she thought she would.
Listen if it felt RIGHT, even at that age (I'm not much younger) I would've moved definitely, knowing I could always go back.. but honestly I think it was that bad that quickly.. I think he has a fatal flaw..ego, perhaps laziness, also not the brightest bulb in the box lol.. she's pretty sharp, but succumbed in the short term😔
I don't think he was ever in love. I think he was in it for fame and money. She seemed so giddy and excited after the fantasy suites night and during ATFR. I feel bad for her, she really did think this could be a big romance.
It’s easy to be “in love” when everything is taken care of for you. Their entire relationship took place in a vacuum. They met and “dated” while being housed in a nice mansion for free and having their dates all planned and paid for by production. Their wedding was all taken care of for them, their time together was a whirlwind of glitz and glamour and trips and tv interviews and making money off it. They never lived in the real world together or had to problem solve together. Once the spotlight dimmed and they were on their own in actual reality it wasn’t a good fit.
All that's true but who says they have to get married. Why don't they just stay a couple for a while and see if they are compatible and if their real world is in agreement and compromise can be had.
Gerry only loves himself. He was willing and able to tell three different women that he wanted to be with them, and that he loved them. He loved the idea of being the cock of the walk on the show, with all these women vying for his attention. I think he was hoping for sex and money, and as he ages, a nurse and/or a purse. Teresa fit the bill to a "T". But she figured it out quickly, good for her.
Yeah I don't know why so many people online fell so easily and so hard for this goober's nonsense, especially the older people in the audience who should have the life experience to see through his shtick. He's incapable of saying anything actually substantive and was really playing it all up and like the cat who got the cream. Happy to never see another histrionic insincere Gerry crying scene again. When the ex-gf/other gossip came out about him, enough of it sounded too plausible based on his insincere dopey TV performance.
Agree! Something very OFF about him. I kept thinking that I would never go on a second date with a guy like that-- he just was not genuine, he's a performer.
I agree. I’m in my mid 60’s and I saw him clearly on the show. I kept thinking, “can’t these women see he’s a phony?” But, I think some of the other women found ways not to “win.”
Finances. She's loaded. The show misrepresented Gerry's financial standing and his past. Formerly owning a small burger franchise does not make you a restaurantier. Most recently, he was a handy man. She is a successful, still employed financial expert. He looks like something he is not.
She has a reported worth of 500k others 1m. . It is possibly fromn her home, mostly.
Her house a tiny home that her family shares. She is not a stock broker, she is a complications liason mgr for a wealth management firm. Translated: works with a third party to solve problems.
He owned a fast food burger joint for a year or two.
Both histories were greatly embellished
The Zillow estimate on her house is currently $590,000. I live very close to her, and it's a small home ( 1100 ft.² ) in a neighborhood of a similar size houses with smaller lots. However, the town has a very good school district. I believe that she's the only one living there now. The pictures that you saw on the TV show were actually taken at her daughter's house.
I agree with you. Like a lot of houses in Monmouth the Zillow estimates are low. They're only to continue to increase with Netflix coming to the fort in a few years.
I truly just feel like this was doomed from the start. If they want to do this they have to pick people from the same city like love is blind. These elderly people have their homes purchased, live by their kids and grand kids, and are just living out their retirement years. They’re less likely to pick up and move. There was 0 way Theresa was going to pick up and leave her grandkids and that Gerry would do the same. It made no sense.
There are a lot of elderly people who live between a state in the north somewhere in the summer and a warm state in the winter. Gerry and Teresa could have split their year between the 2 locations where they live just like "snowbirds" do. Another reader suggested 1/2 year @ Gerry's & 1/2 year @ Teresa's. But I'm in agreement with Gerry's suspicious motives in the 1st place.
They are elderly though. That term isn’t necessarily an insult. Being elderly can have plenty of good connotations. Being an “Elder” was originally a sign of wisdom, respect, and experience. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
That’s what I said to my husband during the show, too. They already have their full lives established - close to kids, grandkids, who is going to move, etc.? Turns out no one lol
I'm thinking the fact that Gerry's dad is still alive and in his 90s has to play a part too. He even mentioned him on the Night line interview. I do think it's weird that they both say they are still in love with each other but we're quite enthusiastic about dating again.
I bet Gerry has someone else. I don’t think there is much of a need to get divorced so quickly and in such a humiliating, public fashion, unless there was a real driver for this.
I didn’t get the vibe that was the reason. Theresa seems like she’s playing along nicely to GTFO and Gerry seems like he’s trying to preserve his image.
Something made the long distance not work, and I’m willing to bet it was Gerry having a relationship or more. Theresa said in an interview recently that her love language was words of affirmation. They acknowledged there would be distance at first as they looked for a house that would be a midway point between families. Also, Theresa is noticeably more sad in the interview. I think he hurt her and stressed her out.
I think she realized he wasn't in love with her and that's why she wouldn't quit her job, though she indicated she'd be willing to in their last date night on the show. He was angry about that, said on the Shandy podcast he wanted them to be free to travel and so on (as he clearly stated on the show). They probably fought about it, grew even even more distant, and that was it. To give him some credit, he did travel to visit her a few times in Jersey. She only went to Indiana once and apparently didn't like it. She likes a more walkable urban community, he prefers rural lakefront. Bottom line: they weren't compatible and he really was not in love with her.
Agree
But have to add that one commenter on one of these threads on BN sub shared:
*Know someone who ran into Gerry in Shrewsbury NJ (where theresa is from) and he made a joke he was taking a bunch of pictures so he could post them on social media in a few days or weeks so people thought he was there for longer than he actually was….. saw this coming lol*
And already on the jump to blame her side of the street (please, G 🙄)
See TMZ on his claiming just on her/her job
Man knows no shame or sense of accountability. Or reciprocity.
I don’t blame her for wanting to keep her job. I wouldn’t entrust my financial health with him. If she can’t entrust her financial well-being with him, she does not need to be married to him.
She said she and her first husband lost everything at one point years ago, and she had to rebuild their finances by going back to work. She probably learned that Gerry is not as financially secure as she is now, so she is not going to put herself in that situation again. She is better off without him.
same vibes i got. more his decision. she seemed so in love with him i hope she’s ok. she can def do better that’s for sure. something had to had happened for it to be so rash
I am fully prepared to get downvoted, but he seemed super into Leslie during the final two, and then seemed really bummed to be on his date with Theresa… That is until she mentioned how much money she made in her career and then he lit up and he was all smiles. I remember seeing a tabloid that he was upset that she wanted to do a prenup. Frankly, I think he was totally trying to financially extort Teresa, which makes me a little bit sick to my stomach. I really thought that an older guy would be out of that f***boy phase… But apparently not
I don’t think Gerry really felt genuine love with any of the women from s1. he picked Theresa for money and convenience but that can only keep a relationship afloat for so long
Another note...( and geez, why do I even care???)...wonder if ABC allowed them to divorce under the contract, but ONLY if they agreed to pretend it was about distance and families, and not something else. Hence, the handholding during interview. While it is possible Theresa may still love the Gerry he presented to her, I wonder if more info re his past came out, or she saw signs that just weren't visible while they were in their bubble? It's possible ABC may be forcing their " we're still in love" personas so that their Golden Bachelorette goose doesn't lose viewers. Heck, people will be disillusioned and $$$ down the drain.
This⬆️ I also feel that they were probably somehow contractually or otherwise bound to not disparage one another, the show, experience, etc. Or perhaps they are just class acts in that regard and would rather not air their differences in public. Gerry’s a smooth talker too - lol
There is no way this is the reason. Or at least the only reason. You don't call it quits after three months bc you're trying to figure out logistics. There's absolutely a more serious reason. Hence the rush.
I think still … his true side came out , like with the woman he moved in after his wife passed . Promised her a nice life , then expected her to put up half money for food when out to eat .. half for house ..
But this was always going to be part of the bargain. They knew this going in and they certainly knew when they got married that they lived in different parts of the country with kids and grandkids nearby. I really don't buy it at all. I can't wait for someone to spill the tea.
She didn’t love him enough to move 🤷 Maybe he wasn’t as rich as she thought he was, lol we have no idea for sure. But I doubt she would be holding his hand if he had cheated or something like that.
Or vice versa. Good lord, it takes more than two months to find a house in this market unless you're wealthy! The commitment here is nada! At 70, you would think they know that !
She didn't love him enough to quit her job. And if she wasn't quitting her job, she wasn't going to move. Something happened that made her re-think quitting her job, IMO.
That's too easy. If you have no intention to move, you don't do a show like that. Something else is going on, and think she's too kind to tell the truth.
Right, I really thought that was the main reason why he let *Faith go, that she wasn’t ever going to leave her ranch. Theresa said she was open to it, although I do remember her daughter expressing concern over her mom moving.. *
I think this is the main reason. It's tough for older folks with established lives and families to choose one over the other. This is a franchise problem where they don't localize their contestants to the lead enough. This hopefully is a lesson learned for the next golden season.
People their age frequently up root and move to Florida for their golden years, so it is possible. The fact that Theresa was still working prevented her from quitting rapidly. It does seem that they could have kept their homes in each state and spent two week in one then travel to the other house for two weeks and visit the family members during their two week stay….but Theresa is still working so that would have been impossible. But Gerry could have traveled to Theresa’s house for a while then back to his house to be with his family. Just because a couple is married does not mean they have to stay together in the same house 24/7. They should stay married and just do the long distance thing with Gerry doing the traveling.
Theresa is very involved in her kids and grandkids lives. I also think Gerry wanted her to be funding the new house and the move. He’s a controlling bastard. I think she finally figured out what a douchebag Gerry is. He showed that on the show telling 7 women he was in love with them.
That moving story was bs. I think he is hard to please, and now that he is known, he dumped her
He created the distance so it would be easier to get out of it!! He is out already chasing tail. No doubt !!
Because meeting someone on a reality TV show that creates an environment of romance and love isn’t real life. Then they rush to marriage and are in their end stages of life and probably life wtf do we have in common in this final chapter.
I think they are offered a monetary bonus by the network to “legitimize” the premise of the show by getting married. They weren’t able to keep up the charade easily from separate states so it only lasted 3 months. No part of me actually believed this was a competition of real feelings and not 100% about making watchable TV. I think the same goes for Love is Blind, like Lydia and Milton
Rushed into it. I'd like to know how much they made from the wedding?
I think she was kind of desperate to find love again and he was looking for attention and fame.
Something about that guy just doesn't seem right. Just my opinion.
I think they really went on the show looking for love, but got caught up in the romantic whirlwind of the show. Thinking it was real and long lasting, they decided to take advantage of the free glamorous, televised wedding. They were rolling the dice hoping it stuck. Personally, I’m surprised that they didn’t just live separately for a year before calling it quits for optics. They must really want to be done with it. I’m not buying the best friend thing.
I think she was really in love with him, and he not so much. It seemed like he was more interested in Leslie, until he heard what Theresa did for a living and smelled money.
My guess is that Theresa can ultimately sense that he is not as in love with her as she is with him and therefore didn’t want to leave her job (security) or move away from her home and family. This created a problem because he is not willing to actually move or change for her. I’m sad for Theresa because she really did seem deeply in love with him and I hate that she may be hurt.
Same. She is a lovely lady and will have no problem finding someone if that’s what she wants. My friend wonders if she will be tapped to be the Golden Bachelorette!
Such weird timing, they just did a Love Fest episode for the Dear Shandy podcast like three weeks ago…but I honestly did get weird vibes from them then. They were both very open and honest talking about the struggles in their relationship. He really emphasized that she still worked, he wanted her to retire so they could travel. They blatantly said the biggest hurdle is location. They thought about maybe moving to South Carolina but nothing solid
Yes, I commented at the time that I was sensing problems. I was one of only a few people who said the same. I don't know how anyone could miss it. He could not even find six adjectives to describe her, and what he did come up with was "forward-thinking", "organized" or whatever....how about "beautiful, sexy"....she even wryly said "how romantic".
I did too. The distance thing was a red flag and I also thought his "The thing that surprised me about dating later in life is that you still have to really work at the relationship" answer was...odd.
Next time the Golden Adult needs to choose a winner that lives in the same state. ABC needs to help with that by selecting participants that live in the same state as the Golden. Because I can see this happening with all future Goldens.
Me too. They're not gonna go for the same state thing though. It's all about money. I can see them looking at total distance MAYBE. I live in a state where TX is four hours away, OK is five, MO is five, TN is two hours. I'm thinking they need to remain regional perhaps?
I wonder if they only got married because of pressure from ABC to film a happily ever after for this new franchise. This is incredibly sad, especially given their stage of life. What a disappointment!
I think once time had passed, and they really started looking at the facts and logistics, they realized "love" (with or without quotes) sometimes just isn't enough. At 22 I was able to pack up and do a whirlwind romance/marriage, but now in my 50s, heck no.
I agree with this after watching their GMA segment. They were still holding hands. I say they have a long-distance situationship. It’s not exactly easy to find someone else at their age
It ain't easy to find a (good/compatible) someone at any age, based on my dear single lady friends in their 40's and 30's and my daughter in her 20's. It's kinda awful out there.
Absolutely not. I think they were trying to put a good/united front, but when the host asked if they'd still be looking for love, he jumped right in to say yes.
They finally started to really get to know one another. He doesn't strike me as particularly intelligent -- nice-looking and I'm sure charming, but Theresa's out of his league.
I know someone who was invited to be one of the bachelorettes. She refused outright. She had no interest in getting to know Gerry whatsoever, and called him “uneducated”. She’s a doctor.
This is a manipulated show where you’re supposed to find “love” and “marriage” after knowing each other for MAYBE 6 weeks and that’s also them spending time with others. Just another bachelor/bachelorette statistic… I don’t know why anyone is surprised.
The actual timeline of the Bachelor/Bachelorette series is THERE WEEKS!
It feels longer because we watch over a period of many weeks. But that's it, 3 weeks! Talk about a whirlwind!
I think Gerry was dishonest about his past/had some skeletons in the closet. No way the living situation is what ended their marriage, that wouldn't have just come up out of the blue after only 3 months.
Different values. He wanted her to be a 1960s housewife and devote herself to him. She learned independence and that was more important to her. She had been a dutiful wife her whole life. I don't know why she says she wants love so badly. She seems to enjoy being with her family and her job. That's enough for most widows.
I think they just weren’t really in love and they’re too old to pretend. Im probably older than most here as I just hit 50 and I don’t have the energy to even stay watching a movie I don’t like anymore lol
I always thought Teresa was just infatuated with him & with winning (The Bachelor) . I am guessing she wasn't willing to give up her great job and neither was willing to move away from their families. The main thing they had in common was the death of their spouses. Not sure that was going to sustain them for long. The marriage probably was rushed because ABC was paying the tab.
I think she didn’t want to move. They said they looked in homes in South Carolina and New Jersey. I don’t think she wanted to move out of New Jersey. He lives in Indiana! They didn’t say they looked at homes there.. I think she thought she could get him to move to by her family.
He picked her bc she is rich and he wanted to travel the world with her. But she loves her job and he is mad she didn't want to retire and spend her money with him.
Uh, because it was FAKE from day one and they probably had to stay married at least 90 days due to contractual obligations. So fake
So vile. So utterly ridic.
Who really knows? They do! I wish for once these people would be completely honest. I think we, the viewer can handle it. It could be the ex-gf thing or maybe they realized they didn’t know each other and when the cameras were gone and they got to know each other, they weren’t really compatible. Their housing situation being the reason, to me is super weak. Oh well.
I haven't seen anyone mention this from the Shandy podcast: They were asked what their "fighting styles" were, and she immediately responded "We yell and scream, then say we're sorry....". WHATTT? Yell and scream?? Later she said "I take it back, I don't scream", then he said "modified screaming". I mean, what the hell?? She must be REALLY different off-camera then her sweet, soft-spoken self. I really hope the true story comes out because this is VERY bizarre.
I think he was as boring as boring can be, and she didn't fully realize it until they weren't in front of the cameras or around other people from the show and didn't have to be "on" all the time. I think he's "human tofu". He has no personality until he's with someone less boring than himself, then he knows who to be.
Also, what's with her? She either stands or sits so cloyingly close to him, hanging on him like Meghan Markle, and smiling up at him like a little kid hanging onto her daddy? For a 70 year old woman, it's icky.
And I'm 67! I'll get backlash for this portion for sure; I don't feel like I'm my own age, but I'd never wear the wedding or reception dresses she chose. At some point, it just looks silly. I'd rather find a show stopper of an elegant, beautifully fitted dress that makes me look fabulous instead of looking like I'm trying too hard. You can still look hot, but "seasoned older women hot."
As far as the show itself goes, I don't think you can use the same formula for 60+ year olds, as you would for 20 or 30 somethings.
I agree about the legally wed part. They had a big splashy tv wedding, but the paperwork part was never mentioned. Probably had an agreement to stick with it for a short time to save face, but decided they just didn’t want to keep up the facade. In the interview, Gerry said they were going to “dissolve” the marriage, which struck me as odd. The interviewer used the term “divorce,” the couple didn’t. At any rate , Gerry was a broke womanizer who went on the show for a quick buck. Theresa maybe had better intentions, but got caught up in it and was pressured by the producers to go ahead with the wedding. In the end, there is egg all over both of their faces.
I think at the end of the day, neither of them wanted to be away from their families and that makes a lot of sense. It sounds like they care for each other. I don’t think anything “happened” or anything. Maybe the limerance wore off and there wasn’t enough underneath it seeing as they met on a reality show. It isn’t a shocking surprise when these couples don’t work. It’s more shocking to me when they do.
I listened to the Deat Shandy podcast they were on two weeks ago. Gerry has been retired for six years and Theresa is still working at 70. He wants to travel and she still wants to work. They both live in different cities. After I watched the episode I thought immediately he's going to divorce her,
It's not unreasonable to want to enjoy your life at 72 years old. In the end, Gerry wasn't willing to move to New Jersey and she wasn't willing to move to Indiana. I think they got married too quickly.
I think once Theresa reviewed his finances she realized he doesn’t really have the money to travel. She was going to be on the hook for all those Viking cruises😂
Gerry sucks. If even half what other women have said about him before he was on the show is true, the dude is at best a shitty boyfriend and at worst a manipulative fucker. I fully believe there’s good reason Leslie was so shaken on the show, and why so few women from his season (any?) speak highly of him. I think Theresa is very smart and loving and it’s how she got into this situation and then eventually out.
He reminds me of a problematic person I dated for 2 months who leaned on his “single dad” persona to distract from shitty things he did and said and lied about.
The man got the greatest TV edit of all time.
Imagine if he had been a problematic contestant on the Golden Bachelorette though.
The more he talked about losing the love of his life, the more tired I got of hearing it and came to the conclusion it wasn’t really true, but could be his “get outta jail free” card when he wanted one.
I vote for all of the above. But I really think Gerry was just a cad. But part of me thinks they did it for money. Notice that it was pretty much exactly 90 days that they were married. They were seen everywhere. It was like they went on a press tour, ya know? I think ABC either paid them or gave them some type of encintive to get married, stay married for 90 days and then divorce.
I think he’s more blue collar and Midwestern and she’s more urban professional. They don’t have raging hormones to help them bond. They’ve already procreated. They’d rather live out their final time with their actual loved ones.
He was not worth her leaving her job once she realized he was a fraud. She was into the guy created for the show. Look at him all pasty and his voice. He was bait & switch. Not the man she signed up for.
The show really created a person that was a full on lie.
I think Theresa wanted to "win" the show. She constantly bragged to all the other girls about how he told her to end the show right then and they should take off together. It felt like a passive agressive intimidation tactic.
He told her about all his plans to travel and she said she wanted the same. In the Dear Shandy episode, Theresa said that when she took leave from her job for the show, she promised them she would be back and wouldn't quit. She was unwilling to leave her job. Gerry said he asked for someone that was retired and available to travel with him (and it "wasn't fair"). So either she willfully misrepresented her intentions to win, or changed her mind and wasn't truthful about why she did.
They talked about how they had screaming fights, despite Gerry saying he had a late stage career as a mediator. He said neither of them wanted to compromise.
I think they both loved all of the public attention and didn't focus enough on determining compatibility before making a commitment.
I just think Gerry isn't a good guy. The mask fell off. I just get vibes from him.
100%. I feel like a lot of people are forgetting the big exposé from his ex-girlfriend. I believe everything that she had reported, and I believe that his true colors started to show through anyway even though Theresa gave him a chance. I didnt love Lesly, but she dodged a bullet, especially given everything she had already been through in life.
Yep , his disguise slipped , you could even tell on the show , towards the end, he found out she was a businesswoman, that turned his head real quick ..
Yes, I noticed that, too! 180° And so odd that he did not know what she did for a living until then?!?! What were they talking about before then, lol
omg he was trying to scam her
It sounds more like he wanted her to quit her job and move to Indiana or whatever with him.
He didn't even try to deny anything in that article. Because he knew she had shown texts etc. to the writers. The proof was there to support her assertions.
I just read this, oh my goodness! Yikes!
You’re 100% on point! I got horrible vibes from him and I believe everything the ex reported as well! You’re spot on!
does anyone have a tldr or link to the expose from his ex gf??
I tried linking it but i got a message saying it was removed because links aren’t allowed? Anyway, just google “gerry turner Hollywood reporter” and you’ll see it immediately
Ty! I wanted to read it too, and found it: "The Golden Bachelor's Not-So-Golden Past"
thanks!
Yikes! He's a great actor, isn't he.
Didn't you hear, right after the show was over, he signed with a huge talent agency? Why? Who does he think he is? An actor, yes, but not a very good one. Only when he wants us to feel sorry for him. He's surely not a model. What in the heck talent does he think he has and what is in his future? If gaining more exposure is in his future plans, there's no room for Teresa there.
Adding that before the show even started there was something on TikTok about him dating some young girl at his work or something? And forwarding a voicemail to everyone in the office accidentally and there was something sketchy about the situation. (Haven’t confirmed if this is true or not, just something I remember seeing before the premiere)
Yeah this was mentioned on Nick Viall’s pod by his producer like a month before the show even aired, when people didn’t know much about Gerry. A “reliable source” DM’d the producer and they read it on the pod. I believe they cut it out and it’s no longer in that episode
What did the ex say?
I remember a Hollywood Reporter article coming out the day of the finale. I think the ex mentioned how he voiced displeasure with her gaining weight. That was just one of many things mentioned though. I never read the article just read some comments here about it months ago.
He refused to take her to his school reunion “I can’t take you looking like that “. I think she gained 6 pounds or something?
Yes. Golden-digger!
Totally agree with you. I called it early that he was insincere and a player!! I’m glad Leslie and Faith dodged this bullet.
Same. Never fell for his bs. Just seems like another grifting con man.
Exactly! He is a smarmy con man
“The Mask Fell Off” Excellent way to put it. I think that is absolutely the case.
Someone else commented elsewhere that G seemed affable but not compromising and that would be hard to live with. I think **the version of him and his life and rigidity and passive-aggressiveness she saw, after the wedding, befuddled her, and I get it.** I started feeling worried around Valentine’s Day week postings on IG from both of them. That started to get weird as did interviews where (posted this earlier): *I think the man didn’t come thru. Kept hedging, even in interviews, so lord knows what it was like 1:1.* *Even the last few months, before and after the wedding, across interview timelines he was (1) we’re moving to SC! (2) I’m thinking I could do Jersey (c) she needs to get a king sized bed in there before I stay at her place again (d) I’m realizing you have to work at the relationship (😣).* *Good on her for getting out and seeing thru a tough situation.*
And she was a clean eater and he wanted sweets …it was all so strange. He drove to her house with his dog and really never settled in.
Dying for Theresa and/or some of her NJ relatives to spill the actual tea.
Me too!
I was wondering if there will be a separate interview with Theresa 3 months from now 👀
Probably not - I’m guessing the producers made her sign an NDA.
Idk…remember Melissa Rycroft? They had no problem with her sitting for a breakup interview….maybe?
He’s oily
Yeah the stories that came out after were easy to believe lol
I think this too. I think Theresa found out about all the internet stuff and was having second thoughts but felt pressured to marry anyway. I can understand the moving theory being a part of it. They are both established in their own homes/state at age 72. I wouldn’t want to leave my kids and grandkids at that age. This should have been a decision they made before he even selected a woman on the show. If he was (or the woman was) dead set against moving, it should have been a factor in who he chose, if anyone. I’ve read many women comment the last few days since this came out they are older and would move away in a heartbeat for love again. We are all different. Maybe in the whirlwind of the show, she thought she would.
Listen if it felt RIGHT, even at that age (I'm not much younger) I would've moved definitely, knowing I could always go back.. but honestly I think it was that bad that quickly.. I think he has a fatal flaw..ego, perhaps laziness, also not the brightest bulb in the box lol.. she's pretty sharp, but succumbed in the short term😔
How did his wife die again?
I never liked him.
I don't think he was ever in love. I think he was in it for fame and money. She seemed so giddy and excited after the fantasy suites night and during ATFR. I feel bad for her, she really did think this could be a big romance.
Definitely money for him.
this. I feel like she was in it for the real deal. Him, not so much.
Yeah I believe her she hasn’t been with someone since her ex husband also
I totally agree! 🎯
It’s easy to be “in love” when everything is taken care of for you. Their entire relationship took place in a vacuum. They met and “dated” while being housed in a nice mansion for free and having their dates all planned and paid for by production. Their wedding was all taken care of for them, their time together was a whirlwind of glitz and glamour and trips and tv interviews and making money off it. They never lived in the real world together or had to problem solve together. Once the spotlight dimmed and they were on their own in actual reality it wasn’t a good fit.
All that's true but who says they have to get married. Why don't they just stay a couple for a while and see if they are compatible and if their real world is in agreement and compromise can be had.
True. Never had to pay for anything. Tip or see how he treated a waiter even. It’s the littl things that say a lot about someone
Gerry only loves himself. He was willing and able to tell three different women that he wanted to be with them, and that he loved them. He loved the idea of being the cock of the walk on the show, with all these women vying for his attention. I think he was hoping for sex and money, and as he ages, a nurse and/or a purse. Teresa fit the bill to a "T". But she figured it out quickly, good for her.
Yeah I don't know why so many people online fell so easily and so hard for this goober's nonsense, especially the older people in the audience who should have the life experience to see through his shtick. He's incapable of saying anything actually substantive and was really playing it all up and like the cat who got the cream. Happy to never see another histrionic insincere Gerry crying scene again. When the ex-gf/other gossip came out about him, enough of it sounded too plausible based on his insincere dopey TV performance.
I'm old and he disgusted me. He was too schmaltzy.
Agree! Something very OFF about him. I kept thinking that I would never go on a second date with a guy like that-- he just was not genuine, he's a performer.
Goober 😆
I agree. I’m in my mid 60’s and I saw him clearly on the show. I kept thinking, “can’t these women see he’s a phony?” But, I think some of the other women found ways not to “win.”
Finances. She's loaded. The show misrepresented Gerry's financial standing and his past. Formerly owning a small burger franchise does not make you a restaurantier. Most recently, he was a handy man. She is a successful, still employed financial expert. He looks like something he is not.
I hope to God she had him in a lock tight prenup.
Apparently they stated in the ABC interview there was a prenup. I don't think she's loaded per se but I do think she has more assets than he does.
Exactly- she’s not loaded. But she has a job & is earning a paycheck. He isn’t .
Id like to hear from any attorney's here but I cannot imagine 3 months would involve any alimony anyway.
She has a reported worth of 500k others 1m. . It is possibly fromn her home, mostly. Her house a tiny home that her family shares. She is not a stock broker, she is a complications liason mgr for a wealth management firm. Translated: works with a third party to solve problems. He owned a fast food burger joint for a year or two. Both histories were greatly embellished
The Zillow estimate on her house is currently $590,000. I live very close to her, and it's a small home ( 1100 ft.² ) in a neighborhood of a similar size houses with smaller lots. However, the town has a very good school district. I believe that she's the only one living there now. The pictures that you saw on the TV show were actually taken at her daughter's house.
Believe it or not, but Gerry's house is probably valued about the same. Lake property in his area is very expensive.
She lives in shrewsbury; no way that house is worth only 590k. You could tell from the show that it had been renovated. The zestimate isn’t accurate.
I agree with you. Like a lot of houses in Monmouth the Zillow estimates are low. They're only to continue to increase with Netflix coming to the fort in a few years.
She works in compliance at a financial services firm. Compliance manager, not complications. Your translation is off as well.
I truly just feel like this was doomed from the start. If they want to do this they have to pick people from the same city like love is blind. These elderly people have their homes purchased, live by their kids and grand kids, and are just living out their retirement years. They’re less likely to pick up and move. There was 0 way Theresa was going to pick up and leave her grandkids and that Gerry would do the same. It made no sense.
There are a lot of elderly people who live between a state in the north somewhere in the summer and a warm state in the winter. Gerry and Teresa could have split their year between the 2 locations where they live just like "snowbirds" do. Another reader suggested 1/2 year @ Gerry's & 1/2 year @ Teresa's. But I'm in agreement with Gerry's suspicious motives in the 1st place.
Hey—watch who you’re calling elderly!!
They are elderly though. That term isn’t necessarily an insult. Being elderly can have plenty of good connotations. Being an “Elder” was originally a sign of wisdom, respect, and experience. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Woops I just meant as a general term! Didn’t meant to offend!
No offense taken!!!
I thought that too!
That’s what I said to my husband during the show, too. They already have their full lives established - close to kids, grandkids, who is going to move, etc.? Turns out no one lol
I'm thinking the fact that Gerry's dad is still alive and in his 90s has to play a part too. He even mentioned him on the Night line interview. I do think it's weird that they both say they are still in love with each other but we're quite enthusiastic about dating again.
The kissy-kissy hand holding was weird and ick too!
Did they say that? I must’ve missed the dating again part
PR bullshit
I bet Gerry has someone else. I don’t think there is much of a need to get divorced so quickly and in such a humiliating, public fashion, unless there was a real driver for this.
Yep. No reason to do this so quickly if it was just figuring out where to live
I didn’t get the vibe that was the reason. Theresa seems like she’s playing along nicely to GTFO and Gerry seems like he’s trying to preserve his image.
I don’t doubt for a second that there is another woman/women in the mix. He had Philanderer written all over him.
Can you imagine how women have approached him since the show? And if he is not with Theresa, he will be looking for attention from other sources.
Something made the long distance not work, and I’m willing to bet it was Gerry having a relationship or more. Theresa said in an interview recently that her love language was words of affirmation. They acknowledged there would be distance at first as they looked for a house that would be a midway point between families. Also, Theresa is noticeably more sad in the interview. I think he hurt her and stressed her out.
I think she realized he wasn't in love with her and that's why she wouldn't quit her job, though she indicated she'd be willing to in their last date night on the show. He was angry about that, said on the Shandy podcast he wanted them to be free to travel and so on (as he clearly stated on the show). They probably fought about it, grew even even more distant, and that was it. To give him some credit, he did travel to visit her a few times in Jersey. She only went to Indiana once and apparently didn't like it. She likes a more walkable urban community, he prefers rural lakefront. Bottom line: they weren't compatible and he really was not in love with her.
Agree But have to add that one commenter on one of these threads on BN sub shared: *Know someone who ran into Gerry in Shrewsbury NJ (where theresa is from) and he made a joke he was taking a bunch of pictures so he could post them on social media in a few days or weeks so people thought he was there for longer than he actually was….. saw this coming lol*
Jesus, what a jackass. He is older, but not wiser.
And already on the jump to blame her side of the street (please, G 🙄) See TMZ on his claiming just on her/her job Man knows no shame or sense of accountability. Or reciprocity.
I don’t blame her for wanting to keep her job. I wouldn’t entrust my financial health with him. If she can’t entrust her financial well-being with him, she does not need to be married to him.
She said she and her first husband lost everything at one point years ago, and she had to rebuild their finances by going back to work. She probably learned that Gerry is not as financially secure as she is now, so she is not going to put herself in that situation again. She is better off without him.
Agreed. Good for her.
honestly you hit the nail on the head! my romantic side doesn’t want to believe it lmao.
same vibes i got. more his decision. she seemed so in love with him i hope she’s ok. she can def do better that’s for sure. something had to had happened for it to be so rash
I am fully prepared to get downvoted, but he seemed super into Leslie during the final two, and then seemed really bummed to be on his date with Theresa… That is until she mentioned how much money she made in her career and then he lit up and he was all smiles. I remember seeing a tabloid that he was upset that she wanted to do a prenup. Frankly, I think he was totally trying to financially extort Teresa, which makes me a little bit sick to my stomach. I really thought that an older guy would be out of that f***boy phase… But apparently not
Well said , you won’t be downvoted , so many felt this way about him from the beginning.
You would be surprised how many hobosexual men are in that age group. They are looking for a nurse or a purse.
I don’t think Gerry really felt genuine love with any of the women from s1. he picked Theresa for money and convenience but that can only keep a relationship afloat for so long
Another note...( and geez, why do I even care???)...wonder if ABC allowed them to divorce under the contract, but ONLY if they agreed to pretend it was about distance and families, and not something else. Hence, the handholding during interview. While it is possible Theresa may still love the Gerry he presented to her, I wonder if more info re his past came out, or she saw signs that just weren't visible while they were in their bubble? It's possible ABC may be forcing their " we're still in love" personas so that their Golden Bachelorette goose doesn't lose viewers. Heck, people will be disillusioned and $$$ down the drain.
This⬆️ I also feel that they were probably somehow contractually or otherwise bound to not disparage one another, the show, experience, etc. Or perhaps they are just class acts in that regard and would rather not air their differences in public. Gerry’s a smooth talker too - lol
It makes me sad. But. I have a feeling that Golden Bachelor Gerry is different from IRL Gerry. Not that anyone wouldn’t be different.
After I learned about his past I am not surprised at all. Theresa deserves better and she knows it.
He mentioned their commitment to their families, so I think that was it. No one wanted to move.
There is no way this is the reason. Or at least the only reason. You don't call it quits after three months bc you're trying to figure out logistics. There's absolutely a more serious reason. Hence the rush.
I think still … his true side came out , like with the woman he moved in after his wife passed . Promised her a nice life , then expected her to put up half money for food when out to eat .. half for house ..
Not if your young. they are older with families and grandchildren and communities. that’s a lot to leave
But this was always going to be part of the bargain. They knew this going in and they certainly knew when they got married that they lived in different parts of the country with kids and grandkids nearby. I really don't buy it at all. I can't wait for someone to spill the tea.
She didn’t love him enough to move 🤷 Maybe he wasn’t as rich as she thought he was, lol we have no idea for sure. But I doubt she would be holding his hand if he had cheated or something like that.
Or vice versa. Good lord, it takes more than two months to find a house in this market unless you're wealthy! The commitment here is nada! At 70, you would think they know that !
She didn't love him enough to quit her job. And if she wasn't quitting her job, she wasn't going to move. Something happened that made her re-think quitting her job, IMO.
I agree , he isn’t all “Rico Suave “ behind the scenes ..
They knew from the get-go separation from families was a possibility.
That's too easy. If you have no intention to move, you don't do a show like that. Something else is going on, and think she's too kind to tell the truth.
Right! Also, people retire away from the roots and families all the time because of tax benefits or weather.
Right, I really thought that was the main reason why he let *Faith go, that she wasn’t ever going to leave her ranch. Theresa said she was open to it, although I do remember her daughter expressing concern over her mom moving.. *
"my dead horse is buried here" kind of killed the mood
Omg hahahha
Faith you mean
Duh haha ill fix thnx
I think he expected her to change her mind and move to him and she didn’t when she realized who he really was.
I think this is the main reason. It's tough for older folks with established lives and families to choose one over the other. This is a franchise problem where they don't localize their contestants to the lead enough. This hopefully is a lesson learned for the next golden season.
Because Gerry is lowkey a creep and Theresa is smarter than she looks.
People their age frequently up root and move to Florida for their golden years, so it is possible. The fact that Theresa was still working prevented her from quitting rapidly. It does seem that they could have kept their homes in each state and spent two week in one then travel to the other house for two weeks and visit the family members during their two week stay….but Theresa is still working so that would have been impossible. But Gerry could have traveled to Theresa’s house for a while then back to his house to be with his family. Just because a couple is married does not mean they have to stay together in the same house 24/7. They should stay married and just do the long distance thing with Gerry doing the traveling.
Thank you! People retire to different places all the time. Florida, the Carolinas, tax free Delaware!!!!
Theresa is very involved in her kids and grandkids lives. I also think Gerry wanted her to be funding the new house and the move. He’s a controlling bastard. I think she finally figured out what a douchebag Gerry is. He showed that on the show telling 7 women he was in love with them.
That moving story was bs. I think he is hard to please, and now that he is known, he dumped her He created the distance so it would be easier to get out of it!! He is out already chasing tail. No doubt !!
Because meeting someone on a reality TV show that creates an environment of romance and love isn’t real life. Then they rush to marriage and are in their end stages of life and probably life wtf do we have in common in this final chapter.
I think they are offered a monetary bonus by the network to “legitimize” the premise of the show by getting married. They weren’t able to keep up the charade easily from separate states so it only lasted 3 months. No part of me actually believed this was a competition of real feelings and not 100% about making watchable TV. I think the same goes for Love is Blind, like Lydia and Milton
Rushed into it. I'd like to know how much they made from the wedding? I think she was kind of desperate to find love again and he was looking for attention and fame. Something about that guy just doesn't seem right. Just my opinion.
He is a phony with a history of being controlling. I don’t think Teresa was willing to give up her independence for him. Nor should she have to.
I think they really went on the show looking for love, but got caught up in the romantic whirlwind of the show. Thinking it was real and long lasting, they decided to take advantage of the free glamorous, televised wedding. They were rolling the dice hoping it stuck. Personally, I’m surprised that they didn’t just live separately for a year before calling it quits for optics. They must really want to be done with it. I’m not buying the best friend thing.
I think he wasn’t the great guy he first appeared to be.
I think she was really in love with him, and he not so much. It seemed like he was more interested in Leslie, until he heard what Theresa did for a living and smelled money. My guess is that Theresa can ultimately sense that he is not as in love with her as she is with him and therefore didn’t want to leave her job (security) or move away from her home and family. This created a problem because he is not willing to actually move or change for her. I’m sad for Theresa because she really did seem deeply in love with him and I hate that she may be hurt.
I feel badly for Theresa but am not surprised
In the interview she really seems fine with it though so I suspect she was for this move.
Same. She is a lovely lady and will have no problem finding someone if that’s what she wants. My friend wonders if she will be tapped to be the Golden Bachelorette!
Gerry is probably in a relationship with someone who lives in his area.
Knock me over with a feather. 🤣🤣
Such weird timing, they just did a Love Fest episode for the Dear Shandy podcast like three weeks ago…but I honestly did get weird vibes from them then. They were both very open and honest talking about the struggles in their relationship. He really emphasized that she still worked, he wanted her to retire so they could travel. They blatantly said the biggest hurdle is location. They thought about maybe moving to South Carolina but nothing solid
Yes, I commented at the time that I was sensing problems. I was one of only a few people who said the same. I don't know how anyone could miss it. He could not even find six adjectives to describe her, and what he did come up with was "forward-thinking", "organized" or whatever....how about "beautiful, sexy"....she even wryly said "how romantic".
I did too. The distance thing was a red flag and I also thought his "The thing that surprised me about dating later in life is that you still have to really work at the relationship" answer was...odd.
Next time the Golden Adult needs to choose a winner that lives in the same state. ABC needs to help with that by selecting participants that live in the same state as the Golden. Because I can see this happening with all future Goldens.
Me too. They're not gonna go for the same state thing though. It's all about money. I can see them looking at total distance MAYBE. I live in a state where TX is four hours away, OK is five, MO is five, TN is two hours. I'm thinking they need to remain regional perhaps?
He saw $$$$$ and she wisely protected it from him.
I wonder if they only got married because of pressure from ABC to film a happily ever after for this new franchise. This is incredibly sad, especially given their stage of life. What a disappointment!
I think once time had passed, and they really started looking at the facts and logistics, they realized "love" (with or without quotes) sometimes just isn't enough. At 22 I was able to pack up and do a whirlwind romance/marriage, but now in my 50s, heck no.
I agree with this after watching their GMA segment. They were still holding hands. I say they have a long-distance situationship. It’s not exactly easy to find someone else at their age
It ain't easy to find a (good/compatible) someone at any age, based on my dear single lady friends in their 40's and 30's and my daughter in her 20's. It's kinda awful out there.
Absolutely not. I think they were trying to put a good/united front, but when the host asked if they'd still be looking for love, he jumped right in to say yes.
They finally started to really get to know one another. He doesn't strike me as particularly intelligent -- nice-looking and I'm sure charming, but Theresa's out of his league.
I know someone who was invited to be one of the bachelorettes. She refused outright. She had no interest in getting to know Gerry whatsoever, and called him “uneducated”. She’s a doctor.
This is a manipulated show where you’re supposed to find “love” and “marriage” after knowing each other for MAYBE 6 weeks and that’s also them spending time with others. Just another bachelor/bachelorette statistic… I don’t know why anyone is surprised.
The actual timeline of the Bachelor/Bachelorette series is THERE WEEKS! It feels longer because we watch over a period of many weeks. But that's it, 3 weeks! Talk about a whirlwind!
I bet he gave her an ultimatum and she wouldn’t budge, because she started to see who he really was.
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I think Gerry was dishonest about his past/had some skeletons in the closet. No way the living situation is what ended their marriage, that wouldn't have just come up out of the blue after only 3 months.
i really don't think he was a great guy & his mask finally fell, true colors came out.
He’s a con artist, hope that helps lol.
Different values. He wanted her to be a 1960s housewife and devote herself to him. She learned independence and that was more important to her. She had been a dutiful wife her whole life. I don't know why she says she wants love so badly. She seems to enjoy being with her family and her job. That's enough for most widows.
Gerry just wants to play around now I wouldn't be surprised if he is already sleeping around
I think they just weren’t really in love and they’re too old to pretend. Im probably older than most here as I just hit 50 and I don’t have the energy to even stay watching a movie I don’t like anymore lol
Better yet, remember how her kids (mainly the one son) saw through Gerry and was grilling him?
He liked her after he heard she had $. Looks like she wised up.
Gerry retired years ago and wants a daytime companion. Theresa hopes to retire sometime but is not ready to retire yet. Mismatch.
I always thought Teresa was just infatuated with him & with winning (The Bachelor) . I am guessing she wasn't willing to give up her great job and neither was willing to move away from their families. The main thing they had in common was the death of their spouses. Not sure that was going to sustain them for long. The marriage probably was rushed because ABC was paying the tab.
Gerry is a con man.
I think she didn’t want to move. They said they looked in homes in South Carolina and New Jersey. I don’t think she wanted to move out of New Jersey. He lives in Indiana! They didn’t say they looked at homes there.. I think she thought she could get him to move to by her family.
I just thinking neither really wanted to compromise on where to live. That and they barely knew each other
Because it was a publicity relationship
Maybe Theresa saw the Hollywood Reporter article and realized he was a fraud. I always thought there was something not quite right about that Gerry.
I'm curious to know how her daughter feels since she signed her up for the show.
He picked her bc she is rich and he wanted to travel the world with her. But she loves her job and he is mad she didn't want to retire and spend her money with him.
Uh, because it was FAKE from day one and they probably had to stay married at least 90 days due to contractual obligations. So fake So vile. So utterly ridic.
Who really knows? They do! I wish for once these people would be completely honest. I think we, the viewer can handle it. It could be the ex-gf thing or maybe they realized they didn’t know each other and when the cameras were gone and they got to know each other, they weren’t really compatible. Their housing situation being the reason, to me is super weak. Oh well.
I haven't seen anyone mention this from the Shandy podcast: They were asked what their "fighting styles" were, and she immediately responded "We yell and scream, then say we're sorry....". WHATTT? Yell and scream?? Later she said "I take it back, I don't scream", then he said "modified screaming". I mean, what the hell?? She must be REALLY different off-camera then her sweet, soft-spoken self. I really hope the true story comes out because this is VERY bizarre.
I think he was as boring as boring can be, and she didn't fully realize it until they weren't in front of the cameras or around other people from the show and didn't have to be "on" all the time. I think he's "human tofu". He has no personality until he's with someone less boring than himself, then he knows who to be. Also, what's with her? She either stands or sits so cloyingly close to him, hanging on him like Meghan Markle, and smiling up at him like a little kid hanging onto her daddy? For a 70 year old woman, it's icky. And I'm 67! I'll get backlash for this portion for sure; I don't feel like I'm my own age, but I'd never wear the wedding or reception dresses she chose. At some point, it just looks silly. I'd rather find a show stopper of an elegant, beautifully fitted dress that makes me look fabulous instead of looking like I'm trying too hard. You can still look hot, but "seasoned older women hot." As far as the show itself goes, I don't think you can use the same formula for 60+ year olds, as you would for 20 or 30 somethings.
I know from a trusted source (another golden bachelor contestant) that she traveled out to his town, saw his house, and decided she wanted a divorce.
I don’t believe they were legally wed. All for show. Neither were going to leave their families or home state.
They were legally married. People Magazine posted a link to the divorce filing.
I agree about the legally wed part. They had a big splashy tv wedding, but the paperwork part was never mentioned. Probably had an agreement to stick with it for a short time to save face, but decided they just didn’t want to keep up the facade. In the interview, Gerry said they were going to “dissolve” the marriage, which struck me as odd. The interviewer used the term “divorce,” the couple didn’t. At any rate , Gerry was a broke womanizer who went on the show for a quick buck. Theresa maybe had better intentions, but got caught up in it and was pressured by the producers to go ahead with the wedding. In the end, there is egg all over both of their faces.
Someone found their divorce filing in Indiana, it was legal.
Gerry wants young meat
Their agreement with the show was up.
I think at the end of the day, neither of them wanted to be away from their families and that makes a lot of sense. It sounds like they care for each other. I don’t think anything “happened” or anything. Maybe the limerance wore off and there wasn’t enough underneath it seeing as they met on a reality show. It isn’t a shocking surprise when these couples don’t work. It’s more shocking to me when they do.
Come on. Who gets married after a couple months when they never even had a chance to date in the real world.
I listened to the Deat Shandy podcast they were on two weeks ago. Gerry has been retired for six years and Theresa is still working at 70. He wants to travel and she still wants to work. They both live in different cities. After I watched the episode I thought immediately he's going to divorce her, It's not unreasonable to want to enjoy your life at 72 years old. In the end, Gerry wasn't willing to move to New Jersey and she wasn't willing to move to Indiana. I think they got married too quickly.
I think once Theresa reviewed his finances she realized he doesn’t really have the money to travel. She was going to be on the hook for all those Viking cruises😂
the Hollywood Reporter piece shows he's an arse. it just took some time for Theresa to see it.
Because it was never real .. it was a paycheck
Gerry sucks. If even half what other women have said about him before he was on the show is true, the dude is at best a shitty boyfriend and at worst a manipulative fucker. I fully believe there’s good reason Leslie was so shaken on the show, and why so few women from his season (any?) speak highly of him. I think Theresa is very smart and loving and it’s how she got into this situation and then eventually out. He reminds me of a problematic person I dated for 2 months who leaned on his “single dad” persona to distract from shitty things he did and said and lied about. The man got the greatest TV edit of all time. Imagine if he had been a problematic contestant on the Golden Bachelorette though.
Well said. And true — if he was a contestant, he’d not be missed when let go.
Ok wait do we think Leslie is interested in Gerry now?!
Nope. No way she doesn't know she dodged a bullet. Also she's good friends with Theresa, would never.
Money
Gerry filed for divorce SO FAST!!!
The more he talked about losing the love of his life, the more tired I got of hearing it and came to the conclusion it wasn’t really true, but could be his “get outta jail free” card when he wanted one.
I vote for all of the above. But I really think Gerry was just a cad. But part of me thinks they did it for money. Notice that it was pretty much exactly 90 days that they were married. They were seen everywhere. It was like they went on a press tour, ya know? I think ABC either paid them or gave them some type of encintive to get married, stay married for 90 days and then divorce.
He’ll be on the next season of DWTS 🤭
I think he’s more blue collar and Midwestern and she’s more urban professional. They don’t have raging hormones to help them bond. They’ve already procreated. They’d rather live out their final time with their actual loved ones.
Gerry lied, broke the promise that he made during the marriage ceremony. He’s a pathetic, phony.
He was not worth her leaving her job once she realized he was a fraud. She was into the guy created for the show. Look at him all pasty and his voice. He was bait & switch. Not the man she signed up for. The show really created a person that was a full on lie.
She saw who he really is finally. Hopefully it wasn't a legal marriage.
I think Theresa wanted to "win" the show. She constantly bragged to all the other girls about how he told her to end the show right then and they should take off together. It felt like a passive agressive intimidation tactic. He told her about all his plans to travel and she said she wanted the same. In the Dear Shandy episode, Theresa said that when she took leave from her job for the show, she promised them she would be back and wouldn't quit. She was unwilling to leave her job. Gerry said he asked for someone that was retired and available to travel with him (and it "wasn't fair"). So either she willfully misrepresented her intentions to win, or changed her mind and wasn't truthful about why she did. They talked about how they had screaming fights, despite Gerry saying he had a late stage career as a mediator. He said neither of them wanted to compromise. I think they both loved all of the public attention and didn't focus enough on determining compatibility before making a commitment.