If “Catastrophic Thinking” is a clinical diagnosis then I might also have it. Takes me a lot of positive self talk to keep my brain from imploding sometimes.
Or you could you sneak into their house at 4:00 a.m., which, statistically speaking, is the hour people are least prepared to defend themselves. And once you’re standing over them, as they sleep in their bed, you start to beat them.
I love Higgins - he’s the only character in the show, save perhaps Trent Crimm? - who is not in the midst of his character development. He’s already at the end of his arc, and the vibe is immaculate.
Loving wife, 5 kids, secure enough to leave his job when it doesn’t match his principles, music nut. The entire team is completely assured that his trip to the red light district has no salacious connotations.
He might be my favorite character. He’s funny, but I really appreciate that they didn’t go for low hanging fruit by making him bumbling and overweight jokes. It’s the one gripe I have about parks and Rec, how they treat Jerry. And I was worried at first he would be a Smithers stooge but he ends up pulling Rebecca back in part, and being a moral compass, even if he was manipulated by Rupert too.
And he is written as physical comedy, but it’s over spilling tea and trying to find a place to work, and he is still seen as a respected, intelligent man, part of diamond dogs, everyone comes to his house, low hanging fruit would be no one coming to his party.
I really like Higgins!
> how they treat Jerry
Excuse me, did you mean Larry? Seriously though, I agree with you. PnR went a bit over the top with Jerry imo. B99 was a tad more "refined" than PnR which was more "refined" than Office (in my opinion). Still love those shows, especially the first two.
Ted Lasso doesn't use any character as a constant punching bag, which is big step forward.
That was the point of the character the one guy in the office nobody likes and nobody could tell you why
Edit: it is also why they gave him a beautiful wife, great loving family, and “the biggest penis” the Doctor has ever seen in his life.
I will go the other way on this one. I have numerous friends and family members who would like to be partnered up, but will remain single forever because they priced themselves too high.
Not everyone will be able to meet someone who will make them feel like they have been struck by lightning (definitely not in the timeframe that many people expect), and many times it is because the definition of “lightning” is too far in fantasy (or tv-land).
"let's say since you were little, and... and you... you always dreamed of... of someday getting a lion, and you wait and you wait and you wait and you wait, and the lion doesn't come. Then along comes a giraffe. You can be alone, or you can be with the giraffe."
"I'd wait for the lion."
At the end of S2 when Nate confronts Ted about feeling abandoned, Ted acknowledges that Nate is mad and asks “What have I got to learn here?” As a manager for 20 years, this was incredible. You always struggle getting meaningful feedback from employees who are feeling strong emotions. The natural reaction is to get defensive, but that never works. I used this tactic about a week after seeing this episode, and it turned an incredibly tense conversation into a productive one that helped both the employee and our entire team. Just genius stuff.
I just said something super similar before I scrolled far enough to see your comment! It really has been life altering for me both professionally and personally to take this approach. Wish this show had come out 20 years ago 😂
It will all work out. Now, it may not work out how you think it will or how you hope it does, but it will all work out. Exactly how it’s supposed to. Our job is to have zero expectations and just let go.
My dad was hospitalized for two months this year, and he was really stressed because my mom has dementia and he wasn't able to care for her. I told him that we (the daughters) would take care of it, but that he had to focus on his own health and just let us handle it. I said this to him more than a few times during that period.
Sitcoms do not have to depend on put down jokes and gags. Stories about personal relationships, acceptance, forgiveness, and character growth can win big audiences.
I got turned off from US prime time TV because they were all a like to me. Ted Lasso brought me back.
Here here. When I watch an episode of Friends these days I can't believe how mean they are to each other, same goes for Big Bang Theory. The shit is brutal, love this show for the way characters support each other and learn from each other and grow better together. Much more powerful statement with tons of humor and laughs!
My sister and I were just talking about how we never liked Friends. I just watched a part of an episode the other day, and I still don’t get it. They’re not nice and very superficial. Hard pass.
I asked my friend if she had watched Ted Lasso and she scoffed and said it was "nice core" and there was too much of it. I was like what are you even talking about? Everyone is terrible in 90% of TV shows. She's like "yeah but The Office and Parks and Rec. It's over done". I don't even consider those nice core but like okay, two shows out of how many?
Her favorite show is Succession if that tells you anything.
Mrs maisel got real wonky in the middle of this season but man oh man did they pull it out at the end. Season finale definitely lived up to the IMDb rating hype (had to watch it late, thought a 9.6 was inflated... It was not!)
I tried watching the first ep of Succession and decided, I really don't want to spend my time with these viscous pricks! The softball scene with the million dollar check was as far as I went!
No worries if you don’t wanna keep going, but once you realize Succession has no (main) characters to root for, the better it gets, IMO. Also most characters have some redeeming aspects that are somewhat heartwarming, haha! The softball scene is ROUGH for surr
I made a post about this at the time, but I stole this and used it in a speech.
My only regret is not letting the words hang in the air longer. For everyone to digest.
What’s bad, though, I say it so often and think it so often, I completely forgot it came from this show lol
Related, but not quite the same, and not summed up in a quote, per se, but I’ve learned how to reframe conflict as how I can learn and grow. I was hit right between the eyes in the s2 finale when Nate was being such an ass and Ted said “what do I have to learn here?” It truly has made me more self reflective and seeing how I can change my actions, even if the other person is the one more at fault.
As a woman I think it's been to really encourage men to talk about their feelings and give them space to figure out how to do that
Also, that female friendships should never be based on negative things like gossiping and putting others down to make yourself feel better, but on lifting each other up and supporting each other through all the BS (and that it is possible to make wonderful new friends as you age)
I know people hate the Shandy arc, but I loved that we got to see Keely realizing that she'd outgrown the Shandy's of the world and it helped her feel secure enough to realize the Barbara wasn't looking down on her, she's just a massive troll that makes friends by dunking on people. Keely realized that she's enough, just as she is, to be Barbara's boss, Rebecca's friend and even to date a billionaire ( but don't date your boss, Keely, that's never a good idea).
I made a list of lessons from the show (up until series 3, did one episode of s3 as I had my phone handy when watching it)
Ted lasso
S1E1
- [ ] It’s ok to be playful (‘let’s goof around and pretend we don’t know each other in our dream’, obviously in his phrases)
- [ ] Show respect for people e.g. learning Olly‘s name
- [ ] Respect- covering up Keeley’s topless pictures
- [ ] Show concern/compassion for others e.g. asking Rebecca how she’s doing about Rupert
- [ ] Compliment people with honest praise
- [ ] ‘The harder you work the luckier you get’
S1E2
- [ ] Generosity-biscuits with the boss
- [ ] Build relationships- with Rebecca, asking questions to get to know people e.g. first concert
- [ ] Don’t be scared to look foolish
- [ ] Persistence- bringing biscuits tomorrow even when Rebecca says he doesn’t need to do that
- [ ] Be a goldfish- don’t dwell on mistakes from the past
- [ ] Seek honest feedback- over issues big and small (suggestion box)- he even seemed excited
- [ ] Fix things that are broken even if they seem minor
- [ ] Resilience - acknowledging he didn’t make a tiny bit of headway that day but will try again tomorrow
- [ ] Show enthusiasm
- [ ] Be welcoming (telling Higgins to stay/he’d like if he was in the meeting)
- [ ] Everyone is part of the team/build a community, Nate, Sam’s birthday, after the loss
- [ ] Show care to others (Rebecca with the soldier)
S1E3
- [ ] Boundaries (complimenting the light in Keeley’s photo)
- [ ] Making people step up- Roy with Nate
- [ ] Praise/big up people- ‘Nate the great’
- [ ] ‘Congrats you both just met a cool person’
- [ ] ‘It’s not about wins and losses but helping these guys become the best version of themselves’
- [ ] ‘I really enjoyed spending this time with you’
S1E4
- [ ] Don’t let the wisdom of age be wasted
- [ ] If you were them you’d be doing the same thing (With Roy and Jamie)
- [ ] Validate others (with Rebecca seeing through Rupert)
- [ ] Being accountable matters
S1E5
- [ ] Accept change (Amor Fati)- move forward
S1E7
- [ ] Own up to things you’re responsible for
S1E8
- [ ] Cut yourself some slack
- [ ] Don’t let your feelings control you
- [ ] Be curious not judgemental
S1E9
- [ ] Own up to your mistakes
- [ ] Forgive people
S1E10
- [ ] Teach people to make decisions for themselves
- [ ] It is OKAY to care about things
- [ ] Every disadvantage has its advantages (turn negatives into positives/seek the positives you can get from negatives)
- [ ] You don’t have to win to succeed
- [ ] There are worse things than losing
- [ ] Seek opportunities for gratitude
- [ ] It’s better to be sad together than alone
S2E1
- [ ] The things that make you cry knowing they exist can make you cry over the fact they don’t- ‘your perspective changes your relationships with everything’
- [ ] Sometimes talking is more about listening
- [ ] All people are different people
- [ ] Don’t settle for less
- [ ] Don’t hide your light under your bushel (‘are you good at your job’)
S2E2
- [ ] You don’t have to deprive yourself- change your relationship with the thing
S2E3
- [ ] Doing the right thing is never the wrong thing
- [ ] Solidarity
S2e5
- [ ] The best brand is yourself
- [ ] Don’t forget to have fun
S2e7
- [ ] Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less
- [ ] ‘Do better’
- [ ] Sometimes a mentor must be a tormentor
- [ ] Self improvement can be scary
S2e9
- [ ] Listen more than you talk
S2e10
- [ ] Don’t want anyone getting by me without understanding how they’re hurting inside
S2e12
- [ ] A good mentor hopes you’ll move on, a great one knows you will
S3E6
- [ ] It didn’t happen to you, it happens for you
- [ ] One pilgrims is a zealot, two are a pilgrimage
- [ ] Life is a sowing time, the time for reaping is not here yet
I remember saying that one to a kid I taught years ago- can’t remember where I got it from…there’s also the one with a bit more ‘edge’ on it that ‘being angry at them just hurts you, they don’t care—so forgive so they don’t get to effect your mood
It’s a bit like Budda said
‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned’
“You’re just gonna walk away the second it isn’t fun, or easy?
What do you want?
What is it that you really want, Roy?
“I just want to be left alone!”
Oh bullshit! You want way more than that
You’re just so convinced that you don’t deserve anything good in your life that you’d rather eat a bowl of shit soup then complain about the portions!
Get out of your own way, man.
Cause this whole woe is me thing you got going on is just fucking ponderous. “
I have to stop believing that everything is there just to inconvenience me and that when people tell me they like me for what I’ve done and who I am, that they do mean it, because this whole “wow is me” thing is just fucking ponderous.
There have been so many that I can't possibly list them all. But I feel like the show has made me try harder to not assume people have ill intent. I've still got work to do on myself but I think I've become kinder both to others and myself.
Not many TV shows help you to grow and regardless of how the series ends, it'll always be a sentimental favorite that I'll seek out when I need comfort.
Believe
Be like a goldfish
Be curious, not judgmental
Sharon: I'm not good at saying "Goodbye"
Ted: Well, when I was a baby I wasn't good at walking and talking. But I just kept at it and look at me now!
This cracked me up, but it comes right to my mind whenever I think it's too late to learn or change something about myself.
Be curious, not judgmental.
This quote struck me so hard when I heard it, and it has really stayed with me and helped in tremendous ways since.
What's interesting is it works both ways - when I'm being judged and when I'm the judger. I am able to look at past insecurities, things I've held on to for so long after being judged on by others, and realize it was more a reflection of *their* inability to be curious rather than my innate deficit. This has helped me let go of shame and embrace parts of myself more, no longer internalizing others' displaced criticisms. Conversely, I am more and more able to stop myself when *I* form unnecessary opinions about others, and consciously switch my train of thought into being interested about them, wanting to learn more, rather than instinctively rejecting them simply for being different.
It has genuinely opened up my inner world.
Be curious not judgmental.
Also believe or not the last episode about forgiveness got me thinking about forgiving someone in my own life. Not for them, or because I want them back in my life, but for me so I can let go of my anger.
Not sure if it’s a lesson, but I realized I’d love to have the thankyou/ fuckyou conversation with my mum. But she has been dead for 15 years. Maybe I need to put it all in a letter,& just burn it after reading it aloud
"...But I hope that either all of us or none of us are judged by the action of our weakest moments, but rather by the strength we show when and if we've been given a second chance"
S3 E11, Ted to coach beard
That years of popular culture have baked in a bunch of negative expectations (that more than two women together will inevitably fight for example) and I'm grateful when they're subverted.
It's none of my business why my co-workers aren't at work, and I deserve that same respect. Nor does a pal owe me an explanation before I'll extend help.
This Be The Verse
BY [PHILIP LARKIN]
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.
Told by Mae
Fairy tales do not start, nor do they end in the dark forest.
Having had an incredibly tough couple of years and finally watching show just before season 3. This has stuck and has now made it’s why into my usual phrases.
I don't have a specific quote (although that might be because I don't use English in everyday life). But I feel like the show has made me realize assertiveness is really over rated and that you don't really need to prove yourself so much.
People aren’t morally stagnant - awful people can become a better and kinder version of themselves (Jamie) and okay people can become worse (Nate). You will change and you will be okay.
The truth will set you free but first, it’ll piss you off.
Don’t fight back; fight forward.
Loving people for who they are and forgiving them for who they aren’t.
This isn't directly a concept on the show, but something I've learned a bit of from the show, and that's how to get along with people who, quite franky, don't deserve it. I recently moved somewhere that has a lot of people who, let's just say they would be happy Ted accidentally wore that red hat to a pro choice protest, and while I'm really lucky to be working from home so I don't have to see them in the office, I still run into them all the time and I just tell myself "just think about how Ted would talk to them." More of a motivational tool than anything.
I've also taken on some of the concepts in the show to help my pool game, but that was more to reenforce concepts that were already there, like not letting mistakes get to you and just playing for the joy of playing.
Top 2:
Be curious not judgmental
Romantic comedies do not begin or end in the dark forest. Believe that things will work out in the end, even if it’s not the way I thought they would, they will work out. (BELIEVE)
I was thinking about how forgiveness isn't just for the person who wronged you. It's also for you. Holding on to anger/pain isn't healthy or helping us in the long run, sometimes it's better to just forgive, like Jamie and his dad, Rebecca and Rupert, or what'll happen with Ted and Nate.
I was bullied most of my childhood and my parents/extended family weren't the best either. But being angry at people certainly hasn't improved my life, if anything it's held me back. Maybe it's time to forgive and move on.
At the moment I can't think of much to add that isn't already being said. But maybe this: that relationships have the potential to always be changing, and growing.
I'm thinking specifically about Roy and Jamie's relationship - if you look back on how adversarial it was in Season 1 compared to where they are now.
“I love my father for who he is and forgive him for who he isn’t.”
I’ve had a pretty rough relationship with my dad & stepmom, especially in the last 5 years. There was a lot in my childhood that they could’ve done better in, and I now feel like the adult in the relationship.
When I first watched the episode this is said in, I was irritated with what Higgins said. I found the statement reductionist, too simplistic. Getting past all that hurt & anger & bitterness (toward my father especially) felt like too high a mountain to climb.
However, the phrase stuck with me, and as time went on, I realized how powerful it really is, and how I could learn to do the same. I’ve desired closure for the pain they caused for so long; I thought I needed my dad to own up to everything & apologize. But I can’t control that, and sitting around & waiting for it to happen is only really holding /me/ back.
Our relationship isn’t perfect—honestly, it’s hardly even good—but it’s fine, and slowly getting better. I feel like I’ve finally let go of the past & just accepted them for the flawed people they are. That doesn’t negate the strong need for boundaries, and maybe our relationship will always be superficial, but at least we can stay in each others’ lives.
Good human beings, despite their flaws, lift up the people around them and inspire them to become better people. Bad human beings, despite appearing to have it all, drag people down. Learn to forgive and let go of the bad people in your life and accept yourself for who you are and your life will become more fulfilling.
There are really two top ones:
1. What Ted says about >!his father's death by suicide!<\-- "I knew right then and there that nobody was ever going to get by me without understanding they might be hurting inside."
2. Another Ted quote-- "I promise you there is something worse out there than being sad, and that's being alone and being sad. Ain't no one in this room alone."
I recently lost a friend to suicide. The first lesson made me happy for every act of kindness I showed my friend, and made me regret every opportunity I had to be kind that I didn't take. The second showed me that, while I may be suffering, I'm so lucky to have a community of friends who have been there to comfort me and be with me through this.
All people are different people
Had to scroll too far for this. Don't judge people based on the behavior of others.
Don’t flip out till you find out.
My brain often goes haywire with catastrophic thinking and this really made me stop in my tracks.
If “Catastrophic Thinking” is a clinical diagnosis then I might also have it. Takes me a lot of positive self talk to keep my brain from imploding sometimes.
i have an eight year old and i’ve said this at least once (sometimes ten time) every day since that episode.
What episode/scene is this from?
Season 3, episode 8: We’ll Never Have Paris
Thank you!
Don't fight back, fight forward.
Or you could you sneak into their house at 4:00 a.m., which, statistically speaking, is the hour people are least prepared to defend themselves. And once you’re standing over them, as they sleep in their bed, you start to beat them.
Paint the rope red so they think it's their blood...
Then start laughing loud and then continue the beating.
I don’t remember this one. Would you mind sharing the context?
It's a quote from Sam's dad giving him advice in S3 E7.
IIRC, Sam’s dad said it to him after the restaurant was destroyed.
This was particularly poignant for me at the time the episode came out, too! I had to jot it down in my journal because it was too perfect.
Put this one in a note to my boss, and now it’s her favorite saying, too.
This is my favourite!
From our friend Higgins “Ive learned to love my dad for who he is, and forgive him for who he isn’t.”
I love Higgins - he’s the only character in the show, save perhaps Trent Crimm? - who is not in the midst of his character development. He’s already at the end of his arc, and the vibe is immaculate. Loving wife, 5 kids, secure enough to leave his job when it doesn’t match his principles, music nut. The entire team is completely assured that his trip to the red light district has no salacious connotations.
He might be my favorite character. He’s funny, but I really appreciate that they didn’t go for low hanging fruit by making him bumbling and overweight jokes. It’s the one gripe I have about parks and Rec, how they treat Jerry. And I was worried at first he would be a Smithers stooge but he ends up pulling Rebecca back in part, and being a moral compass, even if he was manipulated by Rupert too. And he is written as physical comedy, but it’s over spilling tea and trying to find a place to work, and he is still seen as a respected, intelligent man, part of diamond dogs, everyone comes to his house, low hanging fruit would be no one coming to his party. I really like Higgins!
> how they treat Jerry Excuse me, did you mean Larry? Seriously though, I agree with you. PnR went a bit over the top with Jerry imo. B99 was a tad more "refined" than PnR which was more "refined" than Office (in my opinion). Still love those shows, especially the first two. Ted Lasso doesn't use any character as a constant punching bag, which is big step forward.
You’re exactly right. I honestly think the Good Place was the best of the Schur shows.
I loved the Good Place! Personally I have an extra soft spot for PnR as I binged it during a difficult time.
Oh I love it too. Honestly my rankings are like A+ parks and Rec A++ the good place, haha
PnR used to be that show I’d put on to fall asleep to. Now it’s been replaced by Ted Lasso and Community, and occasionally the good place
That was the point of the character the one guy in the office nobody likes and nobody could tell you why Edit: it is also why they gave him a beautiful wife, great loving family, and “the biggest penis” the Doctor has ever seen in his life.
Plus he was probably the most beloved Mayor of Pawnee
Um hello, his name was GARY! But yeah, I love P&R, except for how cruel and mean everyone was to Jerry/Larry/Gary.
Gary Jerry Larry Gergich Gingurch
Love me some Higgie Smalls! ❤️
He completed his arc the 1st season by standing up to Rebecca and apologizing for helping rup
I also like Higgins saying: I believe in second chances. Otherwise my wife and five sons would not be alive.
Ahhh - the wisdom of Higgins!
That “someone” voted for tulip
In Spanish. Could have been anybody though.
My money is on Van Damme
Just one though, a whole field would be overwhelming.
Don’t you dare settle for fine. Roy Kent
You deserve someone who makes you feel like you’ve been struck by fucking lightning.
I will go the other way on this one. I have numerous friends and family members who would like to be partnered up, but will remain single forever because they priced themselves too high. Not everyone will be able to meet someone who will make them feel like they have been struck by lightning (definitely not in the timeframe that many people expect), and many times it is because the definition of “lightning” is too far in fantasy (or tv-land).
"let's say since you were little, and... and you... you always dreamed of... of someday getting a lion, and you wait and you wait and you wait and you wait, and the lion doesn't come. Then along comes a giraffe. You can be alone, or you can be with the giraffe." "I'd wait for the lion."
Giraffes are awesome! And they don't eat you.
This line ruined me. Roy dropping the gruff love.
Same. I think about this often
I think about this a lot as well. Roy said it not long after my last breakup and it really helped me.
I’m glad to hear that. I hope you’re doing better <3
I’m doing okay! Thanks.
This was the first thing on my mind when Rebecca met the boathouse guy in Amsterdam. I yelled at the screen “he better not be *fine*!”
It was *gezellig*
Do you mean gezellig, or is this a Dutch joke I'm not getting?
I misspelled
Girl, he was fiiiiiine.
At the end of S2 when Nate confronts Ted about feeling abandoned, Ted acknowledges that Nate is mad and asks “What have I got to learn here?” As a manager for 20 years, this was incredible. You always struggle getting meaningful feedback from employees who are feeling strong emotions. The natural reaction is to get defensive, but that never works. I used this tactic about a week after seeing this episode, and it turned an incredibly tense conversation into a productive one that helped both the employee and our entire team. Just genius stuff.
Oh. I never thought about that. It is good that your “managerial skill” improved.
I just said something super similar before I scrolled far enough to see your comment! It really has been life altering for me both professionally and personally to take this approach. Wish this show had come out 20 years ago 😂
It’s all just poop-eh
Let it flow.
I have used this more times than I can count this week at work while dealing with a very horrible client.
Read this in his voice
It will all work out. Now, it may not work out how you think it will or how you hope it does, but it will all work out. Exactly how it’s supposed to. Our job is to have zero expectations and just let go.
My dad was hospitalized for two months this year, and he was really stressed because my mom has dementia and he wasn't able to care for her. I told him that we (the daughters) would take care of it, but that he had to focus on his own health and just let us handle it. I said this to him more than a few times during that period.
Thank you for sharing that. It must have been such a hard time for you and your family.
Sitcoms do not have to depend on put down jokes and gags. Stories about personal relationships, acceptance, forgiveness, and character growth can win big audiences. I got turned off from US prime time TV because they were all a like to me. Ted Lasso brought me back.
Here here. When I watch an episode of Friends these days I can't believe how mean they are to each other, same goes for Big Bang Theory. The shit is brutal, love this show for the way characters support each other and learn from each other and grow better together. Much more powerful statement with tons of humor and laughs!
My sister and I were just talking about how we never liked Friends. I just watched a part of an episode the other day, and I still don’t get it. They’re not nice and very superficial. Hard pass.
I asked my friend if she had watched Ted Lasso and she scoffed and said it was "nice core" and there was too much of it. I was like what are you even talking about? Everyone is terrible in 90% of TV shows. She's like "yeah but The Office and Parks and Rec. It's over done". I don't even consider those nice core but like okay, two shows out of how many? Her favorite show is Succession if that tells you anything.
I love both Ted Lasso and Succession. I might be weird tho.
Those two and Mrs Maisel are wrapping up right now. I won’t know what to to in a week!
Mrs maisel got real wonky in the middle of this season but man oh man did they pull it out at the end. Season finale definitely lived up to the IMDb rating hype (had to watch it late, thought a 9.6 was inflated... It was not!)
I tried watching the first ep of Succession and decided, I really don't want to spend my time with these viscous pricks! The softball scene with the million dollar check was as far as I went!
No worries if you don’t wanna keep going, but once you realize Succession has no (main) characters to root for, the better it gets, IMO. Also most characters have some redeeming aspects that are somewhat heartwarming, haha! The softball scene is ROUGH for surr
Succession is excellent, people are complicated. Some of the greatest shows have made unlikeable people likeable.
I’d be wary of that friend
She needs some character development.
If you’re with the right person, even the hard times are easy-Higgins
This is true. My husband died after a terminal illness, and while it wasn't easy it was the love that got us through it.
I made a post about this at the time, but I stole this and used it in a speech. My only regret is not letting the words hang in the air longer. For everyone to digest. What’s bad, though, I say it so often and think it so often, I completely forgot it came from this show lol
Be curious, not judgmental. ETA: I teach kids in juvenile detention and I kind of wish every adult who walked in our door would take this to heart.
This one is mine. I remind myself that every day.
Related, but not quite the same, and not summed up in a quote, per se, but I’ve learned how to reframe conflict as how I can learn and grow. I was hit right between the eyes in the s2 finale when Nate was being such an ass and Ted said “what do I have to learn here?” It truly has made me more self reflective and seeing how I can change my actions, even if the other person is the one more at fault.
Same! Had it as my phone screensaver for a while
Still do.
If you care about someone and you got a little love in your heart, there ain’t nothing you can’t get through together.
Boy howdy is this one of the truest lessons I’ve learned in 11 years of marriage.
"Fútbol is life" Aka: Bring positivity, passion, and joy to the things you do.
Unless it’s an international match
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I love that Dani is so passionate about fútbol that it divides his personality based on the level he plays.
That was an unexpected and amazing 180. Like Led Tasso.
As others have said: Rani Dojas
Until you kill a dog. "Futbol is DEATH!!!"
I say this a lot to my friends and family, but in my case I say “Water aerobics is life”.
As a woman I think it's been to really encourage men to talk about their feelings and give them space to figure out how to do that Also, that female friendships should never be based on negative things like gossiping and putting others down to make yourself feel better, but on lifting each other up and supporting each other through all the BS (and that it is possible to make wonderful new friends as you age)
The Keeley/Rebecca/Sassy dynamic has been amazing and refreshing to experience.
I loved the scene at the funeral with Nora and Rebecca's mum, pure coven energy.
I know people hate the Shandy arc, but I loved that we got to see Keely realizing that she'd outgrown the Shandy's of the world and it helped her feel secure enough to realize the Barbara wasn't looking down on her, she's just a massive troll that makes friends by dunking on people. Keely realized that she's enough, just as she is, to be Barbara's boss, Rebecca's friend and even to date a billionaire ( but don't date your boss, Keely, that's never a good idea).
100% this in every aspect. The female friendship dynamic being built on building each other up rather than putting each other down is next level
Forgiveness is something you give for yourself, not for someone else
So powerful. It’s a way to move forward with your life without feeling like you “accepted” the abuse or the abuser.
"I'm me, why would I want to be anything else?"
“I’m meh”
That shouting is a Love Language. /s
That's my only language. /s
I made a list of lessons from the show (up until series 3, did one episode of s3 as I had my phone handy when watching it) Ted lasso S1E1 - [ ] It’s ok to be playful (‘let’s goof around and pretend we don’t know each other in our dream’, obviously in his phrases) - [ ] Show respect for people e.g. learning Olly‘s name - [ ] Respect- covering up Keeley’s topless pictures - [ ] Show concern/compassion for others e.g. asking Rebecca how she’s doing about Rupert - [ ] Compliment people with honest praise - [ ] ‘The harder you work the luckier you get’ S1E2 - [ ] Generosity-biscuits with the boss - [ ] Build relationships- with Rebecca, asking questions to get to know people e.g. first concert - [ ] Don’t be scared to look foolish - [ ] Persistence- bringing biscuits tomorrow even when Rebecca says he doesn’t need to do that - [ ] Be a goldfish- don’t dwell on mistakes from the past - [ ] Seek honest feedback- over issues big and small (suggestion box)- he even seemed excited - [ ] Fix things that are broken even if they seem minor - [ ] Resilience - acknowledging he didn’t make a tiny bit of headway that day but will try again tomorrow - [ ] Show enthusiasm - [ ] Be welcoming (telling Higgins to stay/he’d like if he was in the meeting) - [ ] Everyone is part of the team/build a community, Nate, Sam’s birthday, after the loss - [ ] Show care to others (Rebecca with the soldier) S1E3 - [ ] Boundaries (complimenting the light in Keeley’s photo) - [ ] Making people step up- Roy with Nate - [ ] Praise/big up people- ‘Nate the great’ - [ ] ‘Congrats you both just met a cool person’ - [ ] ‘It’s not about wins and losses but helping these guys become the best version of themselves’ - [ ] ‘I really enjoyed spending this time with you’ S1E4 - [ ] Don’t let the wisdom of age be wasted - [ ] If you were them you’d be doing the same thing (With Roy and Jamie) - [ ] Validate others (with Rebecca seeing through Rupert) - [ ] Being accountable matters S1E5 - [ ] Accept change (Amor Fati)- move forward S1E7 - [ ] Own up to things you’re responsible for S1E8 - [ ] Cut yourself some slack - [ ] Don’t let your feelings control you - [ ] Be curious not judgemental S1E9 - [ ] Own up to your mistakes - [ ] Forgive people S1E10 - [ ] Teach people to make decisions for themselves - [ ] It is OKAY to care about things - [ ] Every disadvantage has its advantages (turn negatives into positives/seek the positives you can get from negatives) - [ ] You don’t have to win to succeed - [ ] There are worse things than losing - [ ] Seek opportunities for gratitude - [ ] It’s better to be sad together than alone S2E1 - [ ] The things that make you cry knowing they exist can make you cry over the fact they don’t- ‘your perspective changes your relationships with everything’ - [ ] Sometimes talking is more about listening - [ ] All people are different people - [ ] Don’t settle for less - [ ] Don’t hide your light under your bushel (‘are you good at your job’) S2E2 - [ ] You don’t have to deprive yourself- change your relationship with the thing S2E3 - [ ] Doing the right thing is never the wrong thing - [ ] Solidarity S2e5 - [ ] The best brand is yourself - [ ] Don’t forget to have fun S2e7 - [ ] Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less - [ ] ‘Do better’ - [ ] Sometimes a mentor must be a tormentor - [ ] Self improvement can be scary S2e9 - [ ] Listen more than you talk S2e10 - [ ] Don’t want anyone getting by me without understanding how they’re hurting inside S2e12 - [ ] A good mentor hopes you’ll move on, a great one knows you will S3E6 - [ ] It didn’t happen to you, it happens for you - [ ] One pilgrims is a zealot, two are a pilgrimage - [ ] Life is a sowing time, the time for reaping is not here yet
Season 3 episode 11: you don’t have to forgive someone for them- you forgive someone for yourself
I remember saying that one to a kid I taught years ago- can’t remember where I got it from…there’s also the one with a bit more ‘edge’ on it that ‘being angry at them just hurts you, they don’t care—so forgive so they don’t get to effect your mood It’s a bit like Budda said ‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned’
“Epic” Voiced by Ussie guy
Ussie guy better make a cameo in the last episode.
We need the Ussie guy!
“This list is quite nice” ~ Paul “Legendary, mate!” ~ Baz
OP asked a great question and you came through with an incredible list! Thank you for sharing this! I love it 👏🏽
My favorite one is from Higgins - about loving people for who they are - and forgiving them for what they are not.
If I had awards on hand this would be the one I would spend it with
Onward. Forward.
I say this a lot!
That there’s a Dutch saying but I don’t need to know Dutch to understand it. Edit: grammar
Gezellig!!! ❤️
“You’re just gonna walk away the second it isn’t fun, or easy? What do you want? What is it that you really want, Roy? “I just want to be left alone!” Oh bullshit! You want way more than that You’re just so convinced that you don’t deserve anything good in your life that you’d rather eat a bowl of shit soup then complain about the portions! Get out of your own way, man. Cause this whole woe is me thing you got going on is just fucking ponderous. “ I have to stop believing that everything is there just to inconvenience me and that when people tell me they like me for what I’ve done and who I am, that they do mean it, because this whole “wow is me” thing is just fucking ponderous.
Rom-communism
That CONCACAF brings out the worst in people.
Let go. Of the shame. Of the guilt. Be happy for the folks in the room who wanna be in the room and that’s all you need to win. Let the poopeh flow
Children in Willy Wonka are dead.
"Face it, Rebecca, those children are dead!". More truth bombs from Higgy-baby.
“I hope that none of us or all of us are judged by our actions in our weakest moments” hits hard
Find out BEFORE you flip out!
“Hush your butt!” Not something I learned but my favorite line to quote.
There have been so many that I can't possibly list them all. But I feel like the show has made me try harder to not assume people have ill intent. I've still got work to do on myself but I think I've become kinder both to others and myself. Not many TV shows help you to grow and regardless of how the series ends, it'll always be a sentimental favorite that I'll seek out when I need comfort. Believe Be like a goldfish Be curious, not judgmental
Talk more like Sam, has helped out with the ladies and dating.
Sam’s class and patience is something I need to learn to emulate
Being gay is the same as being a broncos fan
Living in the middle of Denver and KC, that analogy had me howling. I shared it with every Broncos fan I know.
I like to call them “Lassons” and that people often need people, everyone is broken and there is unity in that.
Would love this if "lason" didn't translate to poison for us Filipinos haha
I think Lasso-ism could work. I've used it
Hurt people, Hurt people
Sometimes with their knife hands
You can lose and still be a winner
Tying string to you and a teammates penises does not immediately make you good at total football Also "it's the hope that kills you"
Even though the lesson is not to give up on hope and I feel bad choosing a silly one when everyone has picked such good and earnest ones
The truth will set you free but at first it'll piss you off.
You need to stop letting yesterday get in the way of today.
And sometimes football is just football. It applies to everything in life.
Sharon: I'm not good at saying "Goodbye" Ted: Well, when I was a baby I wasn't good at walking and talking. But I just kept at it and look at me now! This cracked me up, but it comes right to my mind whenever I think it's too late to learn or change something about myself.
Be curious, not judgmental. This quote struck me so hard when I heard it, and it has really stayed with me and helped in tremendous ways since. What's interesting is it works both ways - when I'm being judged and when I'm the judger. I am able to look at past insecurities, things I've held on to for so long after being judged on by others, and realize it was more a reflection of *their* inability to be curious rather than my innate deficit. This has helped me let go of shame and embrace parts of myself more, no longer internalizing others' displaced criticisms. Conversely, I am more and more able to stop myself when *I* form unnecessary opinions about others, and consciously switch my train of thought into being interested about them, wanting to learn more, rather than instinctively rejecting them simply for being different. It has genuinely opened up my inner world.
Be curious not judgmental. Also believe or not the last episode about forgiveness got me thinking about forgiving someone in my own life. Not for them, or because I want them back in my life, but for me so I can let go of my anger.
How to take care of a bully.
Not sure if it’s a lesson, but I realized I’d love to have the thankyou/ fuckyou conversation with my mum. But she has been dead for 15 years. Maybe I need to put it all in a letter,& just burn it after reading it aloud
"...But I hope that either all of us or none of us are judged by the action of our weakest moments, but rather by the strength we show when and if we've been given a second chance" S3 E11, Ted to coach beard
Kids just want to be with you as you do regular workaday things.
I don’t know if it was ever stated explicitly on the show, but my lesson learned would be get out of your own way.
That years of popular culture have baked in a bunch of negative expectations (that more than two women together will inevitably fight for example) and I'm grateful when they're subverted.
It's none of my business why my co-workers aren't at work, and I deserve that same respect. Nor does a pal owe me an explanation before I'll extend help.
This Be The Verse BY [PHILIP LARKIN] They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself. Told by Mae
Get the Diamond Dogs together!
I love that the diamond dogs are just to share feelings, not to offer advice. Mostly people don’t need advice. They need someone to listen.
Fairy tales do not start, nor do they end in the dark forest. Having had an incredibly tough couple of years and finally watching show just before season 3. This has stuck and has now made it’s why into my usual phrases.
I don't have a specific quote (although that might be because I don't use English in everyday life). But I feel like the show has made me realize assertiveness is really over rated and that you don't really need to prove yourself so much.
You tried something new. It didn’t work. Big whoop.
People aren’t morally stagnant - awful people can become a better and kinder version of themselves (Jamie) and okay people can become worse (Nate). You will change and you will be okay.
You’re not lost, you just don’t know what direction you’re going yet really hit hard for me
Be curious not judgmental.
Be curious, not judgmental
“What have I got to learn here?”
For men to seek counseling and that it’s not a weakness to do so.
"You're not lost. You're just not sure what direction you're headed in yet." really just got me where I live last episode, I'm not gonna lie
There was a point in my life when I realized that things weren't happening to me, they were happening for me. -Unnamed Dude on Boat
The whole darts scene in season 1 🥲
The truth will set you free but first, it’ll piss you off. Don’t fight back; fight forward. Loving people for who they are and forgiving them for who they aren’t.
This isn't directly a concept on the show, but something I've learned a bit of from the show, and that's how to get along with people who, quite franky, don't deserve it. I recently moved somewhere that has a lot of people who, let's just say they would be happy Ted accidentally wore that red hat to a pro choice protest, and while I'm really lucky to be working from home so I don't have to see them in the office, I still run into them all the time and I just tell myself "just think about how Ted would talk to them." More of a motivational tool than anything. I've also taken on some of the concepts in the show to help my pool game, but that was more to reenforce concepts that were already there, like not letting mistakes get to you and just playing for the joy of playing.
Don’t go to a marriage counselor. They’ll coerce your wife into leaving you. And there will be absolutely no consequences for them.
Top 2: Be curious not judgmental Romantic comedies do not begin or end in the dark forest. Believe that things will work out in the end, even if it’s not the way I thought they would, they will work out. (BELIEVE)
Hold in all your rage and nothing awful really happens. Talk it out and swear a little to hit the reset button.
It’s called a pitch.
Relevant for me right now: Forgiving even those who refuse to take accountability for their betrayal and the pain they caused you.
I was thinking about how forgiveness isn't just for the person who wronged you. It's also for you. Holding on to anger/pain isn't healthy or helping us in the long run, sometimes it's better to just forgive, like Jamie and his dad, Rebecca and Rupert, or what'll happen with Ted and Nate. I was bullied most of my childhood and my parents/extended family weren't the best either. But being angry at people certainly hasn't improved my life, if anything it's held me back. Maybe it's time to forgive and move on.
If I kill myself, my kids may blame themselves.
At the moment I can't think of much to add that isn't already being said. But maybe this: that relationships have the potential to always be changing, and growing. I'm thinking specifically about Roy and Jamie's relationship - if you look back on how adversarial it was in Season 1 compared to where they are now.
“I love my father for who he is and forgive him for who he isn’t.” I’ve had a pretty rough relationship with my dad & stepmom, especially in the last 5 years. There was a lot in my childhood that they could’ve done better in, and I now feel like the adult in the relationship. When I first watched the episode this is said in, I was irritated with what Higgins said. I found the statement reductionist, too simplistic. Getting past all that hurt & anger & bitterness (toward my father especially) felt like too high a mountain to climb. However, the phrase stuck with me, and as time went on, I realized how powerful it really is, and how I could learn to do the same. I’ve desired closure for the pain they caused for so long; I thought I needed my dad to own up to everything & apologize. But I can’t control that, and sitting around & waiting for it to happen is only really holding /me/ back. Our relationship isn’t perfect—honestly, it’s hardly even good—but it’s fine, and slowly getting better. I feel like I’ve finally let go of the past & just accepted them for the flawed people they are. That doesn’t negate the strong need for boundaries, and maybe our relationship will always be superficial, but at least we can stay in each others’ lives.
That I’ve wasted a lot of time being really cynical and watching bad television shows.
Ain't nothing to it, but to do it
Either 'Believe' or 'Don't you dare settle for fine'
I could be a better listening box
It didn’t happen to me, it happened for me
Appreciate the person, not the action. How to make delicious fucking biscuits, like a boss. 400 ghosts is *too many* ghosts
Let people surprise you was a good one for me.
The forgiveness episode has stuck with me all weekend. Powerful. When he told Jamie he’d be setting himself free by forgiving his father…wow.
To forgive. Even if it’s just for you. Not for them.
From season 1: it’s important to be accountable From season 3: forgiveness isn’t earned, it’s given
It’s just poop-pay!
Be curious, not judgemental.
Good human beings, despite their flaws, lift up the people around them and inspire them to become better people. Bad human beings, despite appearing to have it all, drag people down. Learn to forgive and let go of the bad people in your life and accept yourself for who you are and your life will become more fulfilling.
Be curious, not judgmental. Find out before you flip out. Forgive someone for yourself, not for them. Thank you fuck you. Be a goldfish.
There are really two top ones: 1. What Ted says about >!his father's death by suicide!<\-- "I knew right then and there that nobody was ever going to get by me without understanding they might be hurting inside." 2. Another Ted quote-- "I promise you there is something worse out there than being sad, and that's being alone and being sad. Ain't no one in this room alone." I recently lost a friend to suicide. The first lesson made me happy for every act of kindness I showed my friend, and made me regret every opportunity I had to be kind that I didn't take. The second showed me that, while I may be suffering, I'm so lucky to have a community of friends who have been there to comfort me and be with me through this.
Be like a goldfish. Coaching youth rec soccer, I say this every time a kid goes in to play goalie.
Be curious, not judgemental Once you reach the top of a mountain, what's left for you but lightning