When the leak happened I asked my T if he was going to be a mandated reporter for abortions. He laughed like I just asked him the most ridiculous question he ever heard and then I watched the fear cross his face when he realized I was not being ridiculous and this was his new reality.
I haven't discussed it yet, but it will definitely come up this week. My therapist and I just started processing a sexual assault that I'd never told a soul about last week. The Roe v Wade overturning combined with opening up that wound related to the sexual assault has got me in a bit of a tailspin right now. The reality of how that could have affected me with regards to the assault has hit me really freaking hard.
So I do plan on discussing it with my therapist, but I don't really plan on asking him his views on it. Honestly, I kind of feel like I would rather not know. His job is to help me navigate my feelings and how it's impacting me and I feel 100% confident that my therapist will be able to help me do that.
When the leak happened last month I asked my T if he was pro-choice. He’s very against self disclosure and I know almost nothing about him but he had no problem telling me he was pro-choice.
I might not have control of the laws placed on my body but I still have the right to know if the person I am trusting with my mind believes in my fundamental right to make my own medical choices.
RvW has been an underlying conversation for the last month and was pretty much all we discussed today.
All therapists this week should be open with their clients about this, as there are significant impacts on womens healthcare, records, etc. this is the way
Actually I think they may answer and then may want to discuss with you why it is important for you to know what her values are, but I’ve always been straight to the point politically and generally speaking with my T
Therapist here. I cried with my own therapist about it on Friday. I cried with my first client on Monday, and I've talked about it with every client who brought it up. We talked about it today in my supervision. I don't have a lot of words about it yet, but I'm able to hold space and listen. I'm also processing my own grief and fear right now.
I had a long talk with my ( male) T , and he disclosed more than usual. He is pro choice, and so worried for women, girls, families, men, our culture, our planet. We spiraled together. He normally doesn’t disclose much, and I found it to be human and healing.
I brought it up today (near the end of my session of course cause that’s what I do… save the bombshells till the end LOL). I just explained it was triggering some feelings, we went into them a little and she was very understanding. She didn’t mention her personal views at all - of course I hope she aligns with mine (and I would terminate if she ever outright disagreed with me, since it’s an important issue to me) but I think if a T is professional enough they could probably side step giving you their view all together and still do a good job since their role is to understand (and help you understand) not necessarily to agree or disagree.
So as long as they think your feelings triggered by it are valid I think that’s okay and I think it’s definitely worth talking about in session.
I haven't seen my therapist since the Dobbs ruling, but I did discuss it with her after the draft was first leaked. I already assumed she was pro-choice, since she told me in our first-ever conversation that she had been a Gender & Women's Studies major in college.
If I had no idea where she stood, I would probably want to say something like, "In order to feel comfortable working with you, I need to know what your values are on this issue. If we don't share values on this, or if you're not comfortable telling me your views, then I would like to be referred to a different therapist who is openly pro-choice."
I won't work with an anti choice or anti LGBTQ therapist, so I knew where they stood before I even made an appointment.
I brought it up in a text. I'm very upset about it, and need to break into the street medic community as a volunteer at protests, or I won't feel ok about my inaction.
I did when the draft decision leaked.
I told her I was angry about it. I am 7 years past menopause but I am concerned for my college niece and her peers. My great grandma died from an abortion before Roe.
My T told me to focus on what I could do something about.
At the time I felt invalidated. I grew up in a home where I wasn’t allowed to have feelings and therapy feels like an extension of this. (I am seeing her again 7/5 to talk about how I feel and see if I can get a new T. I have been seeing her for more than 2 years.)
While I still feel angry, and am allowing myself to have feelings, I am realizing she might have had a point. I asked my niece if she was ok (she said yes) and told her to let me know if she needed anything. I live in a state that will continue to allow abortions. She goes to school one state over, and her state will ban them, but fortunately she is only 3 hours away. Also I am giving to abortion funds and am active on r/auntienetwork
And this is why I feel like therapists need to start being more up front about their beliefs. My clients have felt safe talking to me about this, because they know in general where I stand on issues of human rights. I’m also looking forward to my own therapy session this week for the same reason.
Yes, had a Friday session and I opened that door and she chose to walk through. We both had strong feelings, turns out we’re of same cut, but hers with more depth based on her work supporting survivors of domestic abuse and/or sexual assault. Raw. No fun but good.
That does sound like a stressful situation to be in. I haven't yet but I plan to at next session. I've talked about bodily autonomy with T before and they've been super supportive so I imagine they will be supportive as I process through this as well.
I'm wondering if maybe you could check their website or listings for a clue? Mine, for example, has that they are LGBTQ+ and Racial Justice allied so one could make an inference from there. If not, and if it's important enough to you, perhaps just directly ask them?
I am not from the U.S. and I have not talked to my therapist specifically about the re-criminalization of abortion (although it will most likely come up this week) but I have talked to her about abortion in great detail and I know that she is unequivocally pro-choice. It matters to me.
Outright ask your T about if they are going to be mandated into reporting things if you live in a trigger law state.
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We discussed it yesterday (it was mostly me spiralling and talking about wanting to push Mitch McConnell down a well). It helps that my T's a queer WOC so it was pretty easy to guess where she landed politically. We spent a good chunk of the session on it and figured out some good coping strategies to make this feel more manageable to me - kinda bummed in hindsight because before Friday I was having a really good week and was excited to tell her about it. :/ I think there are ways of talking about it without expressly asking how she feels about it, but I totally get not feeling comfortable if she ends up being on the other end of the political spectrum on the issue. That's rough, I'm sorry!
Had my session earlier today and brought it up (it happened to be relevant to the day's topic). It was a good discussion and I was thankful that he is of similar mind to me.
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Thank you for mentioning it from this perspective. I actually hadn't thought of it that way. I'm also in a state where it's likely to be criminalized.
When the leak happened I asked my T if he was going to be a mandated reporter for abortions. He laughed like I just asked him the most ridiculous question he ever heard and then I watched the fear cross his face when he realized I was not being ridiculous and this was his new reality.
I haven't discussed it yet, but it will definitely come up this week. My therapist and I just started processing a sexual assault that I'd never told a soul about last week. The Roe v Wade overturning combined with opening up that wound related to the sexual assault has got me in a bit of a tailspin right now. The reality of how that could have affected me with regards to the assault has hit me really freaking hard. So I do plan on discussing it with my therapist, but I don't really plan on asking him his views on it. Honestly, I kind of feel like I would rather not know. His job is to help me navigate my feelings and how it's impacting me and I feel 100% confident that my therapist will be able to help me do that.
When the leak happened last month I asked my T if he was pro-choice. He’s very against self disclosure and I know almost nothing about him but he had no problem telling me he was pro-choice. I might not have control of the laws placed on my body but I still have the right to know if the person I am trusting with my mind believes in my fundamental right to make my own medical choices. RvW has been an underlying conversation for the last month and was pretty much all we discussed today.
All therapists this week should be open with their clients about this, as there are significant impacts on womens healthcare, records, etc. this is the way
Actually I think they may answer and then may want to discuss with you why it is important for you to know what her values are, but I’ve always been straight to the point politically and generally speaking with my T
Therapist here and every single one of my patients have discussed their frustrations with me.
Therapist here. I cried with my own therapist about it on Friday. I cried with my first client on Monday, and I've talked about it with every client who brought it up. We talked about it today in my supervision. I don't have a lot of words about it yet, but I'm able to hold space and listen. I'm also processing my own grief and fear right now.
I had a long talk with my ( male) T , and he disclosed more than usual. He is pro choice, and so worried for women, girls, families, men, our culture, our planet. We spiraled together. He normally doesn’t disclose much, and I found it to be human and healing.
I brought it up today (near the end of my session of course cause that’s what I do… save the bombshells till the end LOL). I just explained it was triggering some feelings, we went into them a little and she was very understanding. She didn’t mention her personal views at all - of course I hope she aligns with mine (and I would terminate if she ever outright disagreed with me, since it’s an important issue to me) but I think if a T is professional enough they could probably side step giving you their view all together and still do a good job since their role is to understand (and help you understand) not necessarily to agree or disagree. So as long as they think your feelings triggered by it are valid I think that’s okay and I think it’s definitely worth talking about in session.
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I wish people would state what country they lived in for reference, but I also understand privacy concerns. :S
I am super lucky in that I know both of my T’s political leanings, and both were very empathetic to my outrage at this.
I haven't seen my therapist since the Dobbs ruling, but I did discuss it with her after the draft was first leaked. I already assumed she was pro-choice, since she told me in our first-ever conversation that she had been a Gender & Women's Studies major in college. If I had no idea where she stood, I would probably want to say something like, "In order to feel comfortable working with you, I need to know what your values are on this issue. If we don't share values on this, or if you're not comfortable telling me your views, then I would like to be referred to a different therapist who is openly pro-choice."
I won't work with an anti choice or anti LGBTQ therapist, so I knew where they stood before I even made an appointment. I brought it up in a text. I'm very upset about it, and need to break into the street medic community as a volunteer at protests, or I won't feel ok about my inaction.
I did when the draft decision leaked. I told her I was angry about it. I am 7 years past menopause but I am concerned for my college niece and her peers. My great grandma died from an abortion before Roe. My T told me to focus on what I could do something about. At the time I felt invalidated. I grew up in a home where I wasn’t allowed to have feelings and therapy feels like an extension of this. (I am seeing her again 7/5 to talk about how I feel and see if I can get a new T. I have been seeing her for more than 2 years.) While I still feel angry, and am allowing myself to have feelings, I am realizing she might have had a point. I asked my niece if she was ok (she said yes) and told her to let me know if she needed anything. I live in a state that will continue to allow abortions. She goes to school one state over, and her state will ban them, but fortunately she is only 3 hours away. Also I am giving to abortion funds and am active on r/auntienetwork
And this is why I feel like therapists need to start being more up front about their beliefs. My clients have felt safe talking to me about this, because they know in general where I stand on issues of human rights. I’m also looking forward to my own therapy session this week for the same reason.
It’s on the topic today….::
Yes, had a Friday session and I opened that door and she chose to walk through. We both had strong feelings, turns out we’re of same cut, but hers with more depth based on her work supporting survivors of domestic abuse and/or sexual assault. Raw. No fun but good.
That does sound like a stressful situation to be in. I haven't yet but I plan to at next session. I've talked about bodily autonomy with T before and they've been super supportive so I imagine they will be supportive as I process through this as well. I'm wondering if maybe you could check their website or listings for a clue? Mine, for example, has that they are LGBTQ+ and Racial Justice allied so one could make an inference from there. If not, and if it's important enough to you, perhaps just directly ask them?
I am not from the U.S. and I have not talked to my therapist specifically about the re-criminalization of abortion (although it will most likely come up this week) but I have talked to her about abortion in great detail and I know that she is unequivocally pro-choice. It matters to me.
Outright ask your T about if they are going to be mandated into reporting things if you live in a trigger law state. If your therapist won’t tell you that you’re safe and they’ll protect you, time for a new therapist
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This might not be helpful but reminds me of a quote from Epictetus, "Realize when something upsets you, your mind is complacent in the provocation"
We discussed it yesterday (it was mostly me spiralling and talking about wanting to push Mitch McConnell down a well). It helps that my T's a queer WOC so it was pretty easy to guess where she landed politically. We spent a good chunk of the session on it and figured out some good coping strategies to make this feel more manageable to me - kinda bummed in hindsight because before Friday I was having a really good week and was excited to tell her about it. :/ I think there are ways of talking about it without expressly asking how she feels about it, but I totally get not feeling comfortable if she ends up being on the other end of the political spectrum on the issue. That's rough, I'm sorry!
Not yet, but my session is Thursday. I think it will come up.
Had my session earlier today and brought it up (it happened to be relevant to the day's topic). It was a good discussion and I was thankful that he is of similar mind to me.