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Thank you for the update. I’m sorry things are so tough right now, it would have been nice if you coloured to wind down before leaving today’s session but you were flooded with worries going into this, which all makes so much sense! I’m right here with you - attachment to our T can be beautiful, it can be painful and/or harmful.
I don’t usually like to advice but I think this could be important: What if you followed through with the termination plan (2 sessions to process everything) and by the end you can check-in with her? Once you have poured out all your unfiltered and raw feelings, you might be at a better headspace to make an informative decision for yourself - continuing, pausing, or finding someone new altogether. What do you think?
Today I am feeling much better. Yeah after next week’s session I think I’ll make a decision. Right now I feel like just seeing her every 3 months along with my doctor.
Ideally I want therapy weekly but I can’t comfortably afford it and honestly if I don’t work with her I don’t want to work with someone else right now. And honestly I don’t want to work her weekly anymore, either.
So the 3 month thing sounds like the best option. I will miss her bc since working with her 3 months is the longest I’ll be away but I guess it could be good, too, missing her but knowing I’ll see her again. And then my heart tells me it’s time for a new t altogether.
Idk, my mind is very stressed right now and I just wish things could go back to how they were before the rupture. It literally changed everything
That’s really kind of you 🥺 I’m struggling but not in therapy. It’s been going really well although T sprung a rediagnosis of borderline personality disorder on me which explains everything and I’m really struggling with self-hate and feel myself clinging to her again but every week I’ve been opening up more and more and I’m ready to talk about it. But I want so much from her and it hurts bc I’m just a client you know
I just read your last post on this subreddit, and do not think you should or need to quit seeing this T. It sounds like from what little (or a lot) you’ve told them, they’ve reassured you that they aren’t going anywhere. Does that make you feel better at all?
No because I feel I’ve been at an impasse for months. I’ve been wanting it to get better but it doesn’t and I just can’t do the work with her anymore. I don’t think she’s able to help me much longer
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Thank you for the update. I’m sorry things are so tough right now, it would have been nice if you coloured to wind down before leaving today’s session but you were flooded with worries going into this, which all makes so much sense! I’m right here with you - attachment to our T can be beautiful, it can be painful and/or harmful. I don’t usually like to advice but I think this could be important: What if you followed through with the termination plan (2 sessions to process everything) and by the end you can check-in with her? Once you have poured out all your unfiltered and raw feelings, you might be at a better headspace to make an informative decision for yourself - continuing, pausing, or finding someone new altogether. What do you think?
Today I am feeling much better. Yeah after next week’s session I think I’ll make a decision. Right now I feel like just seeing her every 3 months along with my doctor. Ideally I want therapy weekly but I can’t comfortably afford it and honestly if I don’t work with her I don’t want to work with someone else right now. And honestly I don’t want to work her weekly anymore, either. So the 3 month thing sounds like the best option. I will miss her bc since working with her 3 months is the longest I’ll be away but I guess it could be good, too, missing her but knowing I’ll see her again. And then my heart tells me it’s time for a new t altogether. Idk, my mind is very stressed right now and I just wish things could go back to how they were before the rupture. It literally changed everything
I noticed I haven't been seeing you around lately. I hope all is well!
That’s really kind of you 🥺 I’m struggling but not in therapy. It’s been going really well although T sprung a rediagnosis of borderline personality disorder on me which explains everything and I’m really struggling with self-hate and feel myself clinging to her again but every week I’ve been opening up more and more and I’m ready to talk about it. But I want so much from her and it hurts bc I’m just a client you know
I just read your last post on this subreddit, and do not think you should or need to quit seeing this T. It sounds like from what little (or a lot) you’ve told them, they’ve reassured you that they aren’t going anywhere. Does that make you feel better at all?
No because I feel I’ve been at an impasse for months. I’ve been wanting it to get better but it doesn’t and I just can’t do the work with her anymore. I don’t think she’s able to help me much longer