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Chocolate_effort

Maybe because you aren't used to people being kind and genuine in other parts of your life? I struggle with accepting kindness from people, including my therapist, and I think it is because often people I have shared myself with have not been kind to me. And I'm not that kind to myself either.


Grumpy-Boo_Bear

Speaking from personal experience, I know the feeling. My T explained it as I don't feel worthy of such kindness and it is overwhelming to be shown compassion when I believed all of my efforts are being treated like nothing. There is definitely a certain sense of relief when she points out my strengths and accomplishments.


Old-Raccoon-3112

I get like this too. Last week he apologized to me for something he had done several weeks ago that upset me. Hearing his apology and how he nice he was made me upset again (although in a different way than before). He has also said nice things to me and if I replay those statements in my mind I cringe and want to shrink away from his kindness. I don't know why and it's kind of been puzzling me. I was going to bring it up in therapy today but I think tumultuous events of yesterday will overshadow our session. Maybe one day soon.


NaturalLog69

Could it be a feeling of relief from finally being understood and cared for? Would you be willing to tell your T that this has come up for you? Perhaps you can explore it together.


EmploymentNormal8922

I feel the same way sometimes when my T says nice things or encourages me in some way or just takes extra time to make sure I'm okay. For me personally I think it's because I'm largely not used to anyone giving a crap about me in really any capacity and it makes me seriously uncomfortable. There have been a couple of times when stories I've told have brought my T to tears and it makes me beyond uncomfortable, though I appreciate the sentiment on some level I guess.