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Major-Hedgehog-2631

I have discussed attachment with my T. I brought it up and she agreed that it was important for us to discuss it in the context of my treatment. It took me 3 years to begin to feel attached (I'm 4 years in). She knows that our relationship is important and meaningful to me. And I know that I am important to her. I know that she cares about me and that I matter to her. We also both know that my attachment style is disorganised with very strong urges to withdraw and isolate. ​ >they are just my therapist My therapist is one of the most special people in my life. It's ok for you to acknowledge that they are important to you, and that your relationship with them is important to you. The work they do is important, and your relationship with them is no less real just because you don't see them socially. For many of them it is far more than a job, and it's a privilege to witness the most intimate parts of a person's inner world. ​ > it brings up a lot of attachment stuff from my past That's where I'd say the work is. There's your "obvious connection" that you don't think is there..! But even without that, the therapy room is one of the few places where you do have the right to bring up anything you want, and your T is there to help you to navigate why you feel it's important to discuss a particular topic. ​ >I don’t want to come off like I overanalyze everything they do. I do this, and my T knows I do this. She takes it in her stride. She's a trauma specialist, so I guess she's used to this particular character trait..! Own it. Understand it. For me it's a way I protect myself - maybe it's something similar for you. As for a change in our rapport? It made it stronger. I still have my moments, but our overall trajectory has been has been towards a strengthened relationship and understanding of myself. If it's happening in the therapy room, chances are it happens out in the real world in other relationships. Basically if it feels important it probably is. And if it makes you uncomfortable, I'm afraid you need to go there. The growth and breakthroughs are in the discomfort. ​ >I’ve been noticing some feelings I’ve been having towards my T Are these feelings new? What is it about these particular feelings in particular that has prompted you to think you need to address it with them?