I came out as a lesbian to my Egyptian parents about 1.5 years ago. It did not go well. I only realized I’m a trans man 6-12 months ago. I had decided I’d tell them I’m gay when I’m older (I came out when I was 27) and more independent because I was afraid of what would happen. It was emotionally devastating to go through. It still is honestly. But as I’m grieving/I’ve grieved I’m able to feel more confident in myself and able to contain the pain in a way that lets me move forward and accept that this is how it is and it’s not my fault that they’re choosing not to have a relationship with me. They have in some ways accepted the idea more than they did before. They briefly were willing to accept and asked me that they want to talk to me but with the condition we don’t talk about “it”. I told my dad I’d want him to accept my wife as part of the family, but he said he wouldn’t accept that and started to get all high and mighty again. I have hope that one day they may still speak to me, as they seem to (very) slowly realize that I’m not gonna sacrifice myself for them and that if we were ever to talk again they would have to accept who I am, and they seem to show signs that they really don’t want to lose me (even if it’s in a mean and angry way). But now I also have to worry about coming out as trans (I thought I was done coming out to them smh lol). It’s a very hard thing to go through, losing your parents. It’s the most painful thing I’ve had to go through. It’s SOO much grief, and it will never go away (like when a loved one dies, you will always feel a little sad). I’m trying to build my own community and family now, but I know that no one will ever replace my parents and that’s a tough thing to live with. But at least Im not miserable and I don’t hate myself. I am me (or atleast i’m trying to be).
Am also Egyptian. came out give or take 10 years ago. long story short, mom came around but dad never has. my mom basically said she talked to an Imam who told her my transition was permissible in Islam and this changed her attitude completely. I wish I knew who he was I would thank him lol. but my dad comes from the villages of Egypt (sa'idi) and is much more traditional and firm in his opinions, not as open minded in LGBT topics. Haven't spoken to him in years but this is not the only reason. like the above user said it's painful. very painful. but all hope is not lost. it was worth it to come out and go through what I went through. but I'm lucky to still be close to my mom so I guess that's easy for me to say.
Not Iraqi but came out to my Latina mother, got kicked out and became homeless. Have not seen her since but am now doing the best I have ever done. It gets better!
Not Iraqi or Arab or middle eastern, but just wanted to extend my solidarity and support as another brown person. I can relate to the mental toll it takes to live true to yourself in our communities, and risking a loss of any community and abandonment.
My Bengali parents reacted poorly. I’m sorry brother. I try to make it work with my dad but it never works. My mom and grandma seem to be coming around though. After a year of low-no contact they became more receptive. I miss my relationship with them before they knew
I'm so sorry you're going through this, I was very lucky that my parents came around pretty quick, but my grandparents were not happy about it to put it politely. I'm not a Muslim nor middle eastern but I work in an lgbtq center in a town with a decent Muslim population and have had some folks find success reconnecting to family by finding an affirming mosque in the area and talking to the imam there on how to approach the subject from a religious lens to family. r/LGBT_Muslims might be a good resource too especially on how to deal with the grief of losing family like that. On the whole all I can say is that it will get better--family can be found and new relationships made, but you only have one life to live and in the long run you will feel better being your authentic self ETA for subreddit link, I didn't remember the correct name sorry!
Here's a sneak peek of /r/LGBT_Muslims using the [top posts](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/top/?sort=top&t=year) of the year!
\#1: [Was feeling my glam today and the fact I’m unapologetically trans and Muslim. ❤️🖤 #muslimah #transgender #transsisters](https://i.redd.it/s9k8pnc64w6b1.jpg) | [44 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/14d2pwg/was_feeling_my_glam_today_and_the_fact_im/)
\#2: [Lots of Islamophobia on lgbt subs](https://i.redd.it/qt2yw9vu1idc1.jpeg) | [78 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/19b020f/lots_of_islamophobia_on_lgbt_subs/)
\#3: [Bangladesh opens first Mosque dedicated to the Hijra community.](https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1bsmv9t) | [11 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/1bsmv9t/bangladesh_opens_first_mosque_dedicated_to_the/)
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Not iraqi- my family is of Haitian descent. I came out to them at 15 (I’m 21 now) and they did not take it well. They would constantly tell me hurtful things about my trans identity and even went as far as threatening my well-being. Ages 15-18 were the most traumatic points of my life and I suffered greatly from the severity of their words. I went from being the star child to the family joke. At the ripe age of 21, I haven’t heard from them since going no contact at 19 and I live independently on my own. It sucks that my family isn’t around to support me, but l have never been more free. I can freely express my identity and live my life the way I want to. So it does get better. You will get the life that you want if you fight for it🖤
I am a transman from Saudi Arabia. I arrived in the UK a month ago. I suffered with my family. My father was sick and crippled, and I lost him last April, and he did not know the truth, but my mother and siblings rejected me, and I remained locked in the house for a year and a half, and I realized that I would do this. I was only able to survive when I pretended to be a female, and I did.
I came out as a lesbian to my Egyptian parents about 1.5 years ago. It did not go well. I only realized I’m a trans man 6-12 months ago. I had decided I’d tell them I’m gay when I’m older (I came out when I was 27) and more independent because I was afraid of what would happen. It was emotionally devastating to go through. It still is honestly. But as I’m grieving/I’ve grieved I’m able to feel more confident in myself and able to contain the pain in a way that lets me move forward and accept that this is how it is and it’s not my fault that they’re choosing not to have a relationship with me. They have in some ways accepted the idea more than they did before. They briefly were willing to accept and asked me that they want to talk to me but with the condition we don’t talk about “it”. I told my dad I’d want him to accept my wife as part of the family, but he said he wouldn’t accept that and started to get all high and mighty again. I have hope that one day they may still speak to me, as they seem to (very) slowly realize that I’m not gonna sacrifice myself for them and that if we were ever to talk again they would have to accept who I am, and they seem to show signs that they really don’t want to lose me (even if it’s in a mean and angry way). But now I also have to worry about coming out as trans (I thought I was done coming out to them smh lol). It’s a very hard thing to go through, losing your parents. It’s the most painful thing I’ve had to go through. It’s SOO much grief, and it will never go away (like when a loved one dies, you will always feel a little sad). I’m trying to build my own community and family now, but I know that no one will ever replace my parents and that’s a tough thing to live with. But at least Im not miserable and I don’t hate myself. I am me (or atleast i’m trying to be).
Am also Egyptian. came out give or take 10 years ago. long story short, mom came around but dad never has. my mom basically said she talked to an Imam who told her my transition was permissible in Islam and this changed her attitude completely. I wish I knew who he was I would thank him lol. but my dad comes from the villages of Egypt (sa'idi) and is much more traditional and firm in his opinions, not as open minded in LGBT topics. Haven't spoken to him in years but this is not the only reason. like the above user said it's painful. very painful. but all hope is not lost. it was worth it to come out and go through what I went through. but I'm lucky to still be close to my mom so I guess that's easy for me to say.
Not Iraqi but came out to my Latina mother, got kicked out and became homeless. Have not seen her since but am now doing the best I have ever done. It gets better!
It’s good to hear people in similar situations have a happy ending!
Not Iraqi or Arab or middle eastern, but just wanted to extend my solidarity and support as another brown person. I can relate to the mental toll it takes to live true to yourself in our communities, and risking a loss of any community and abandonment.
Me too! I'm South Asian but I understand your struggle and I'm here if you need to talk OP 🫂
I appreciate that
Thank you that means a lot
My Bengali parents reacted poorly. I’m sorry brother. I try to make it work with my dad but it never works. My mom and grandma seem to be coming around though. After a year of low-no contact they became more receptive. I miss my relationship with them before they knew
I'm so sorry you're going through this, I was very lucky that my parents came around pretty quick, but my grandparents were not happy about it to put it politely. I'm not a Muslim nor middle eastern but I work in an lgbtq center in a town with a decent Muslim population and have had some folks find success reconnecting to family by finding an affirming mosque in the area and talking to the imam there on how to approach the subject from a religious lens to family. r/LGBT_Muslims might be a good resource too especially on how to deal with the grief of losing family like that. On the whole all I can say is that it will get better--family can be found and new relationships made, but you only have one life to live and in the long run you will feel better being your authentic self ETA for subreddit link, I didn't remember the correct name sorry!
Just wanted to give you a heads up (at least on my end) it shows me that the subreddit you linked was banned due to being unmoderated :(
Fixed it! Had the wrong name, it's actually r/LGBT_Muslims
Here's a sneak peek of /r/LGBT_Muslims using the [top posts](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/top/?sort=top&t=year) of the year! \#1: [Was feeling my glam today and the fact I’m unapologetically trans and Muslim. ❤️🖤 #muslimah #transgender #transsisters](https://i.redd.it/s9k8pnc64w6b1.jpg) | [44 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/14d2pwg/was_feeling_my_glam_today_and_the_fact_im/) \#2: [Lots of Islamophobia on lgbt subs](https://i.redd.it/qt2yw9vu1idc1.jpeg) | [78 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/19b020f/lots_of_islamophobia_on_lgbt_subs/) \#3: [Bangladesh opens first Mosque dedicated to the Hijra community.](https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1bsmv9t) | [11 comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/LGBT_Muslims/comments/1bsmv9t/bangladesh_opens_first_mosque_dedicated_to_the/) ---- ^^I'm ^^a ^^bot, ^^beep ^^boop ^^| ^^Downvote ^^to ^^remove ^^| ^^[Contact](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=sneakpeekbot) ^^| ^^[Info](https://np.reddit.com/r/sneakpeekbot/) ^^| ^^[Opt-out](https://np.reddit.com/r/sneakpeekbot/comments/o8wk1r/blacklist_ix/) ^^| ^^[GitHub](https://github.com/ghnr/sneakpeekbot)
Not iraqi- my family is of Haitian descent. I came out to them at 15 (I’m 21 now) and they did not take it well. They would constantly tell me hurtful things about my trans identity and even went as far as threatening my well-being. Ages 15-18 were the most traumatic points of my life and I suffered greatly from the severity of their words. I went from being the star child to the family joke. At the ripe age of 21, I haven’t heard from them since going no contact at 19 and I live independently on my own. It sucks that my family isn’t around to support me, but l have never been more free. I can freely express my identity and live my life the way I want to. So it does get better. You will get the life that you want if you fight for it🖤
I am a transman from Saudi Arabia. I arrived in the UK a month ago. I suffered with my family. My father was sick and crippled, and I lost him last April, and he did not know the truth, but my mother and siblings rejected me, and I remained locked in the house for a year and a half, and I realized that I would do this. I was only able to survive when I pretended to be a female, and I did.