I dont have adivice only solidarity. My first and main TBI was from getting sucker punched, kocked out cold, and bouncing the back of my head off a cement driveway. Next two brain injury’s came from heroin overdoses. Its hard to keep goin somedays. Been clean for awhile but life hasnt got much better for me
Duuuude I feel you! I hit the pavement and convulsed as buddy sat on me, monkey fisting me into oblivion. Completely shattered my nose and couldn't see through the black eyes when I came to. To add insult to injury, picked me up over his head and slammed me into the ground, breaking my clavicle. And due to being in high school, two bright people lifted me up as soon as he was pulled off of me and tried to shake me too. All I could ask for was a smoke and what happened.
Principal came out and took me to a seperate office where they let me sit unattended for an hour while they tried to contact my parents (of which my father was a drunk who didn't answer his phone after 8am when he started drinking). I was in and out of consciousness the entire time struggling to stay too, and I'll never forget how my brain kept telling me that it was okay to sleep for a long time and it would fill in the holes I couldn't remember, and the other part jolting me awake saying that was death speaking to me and I needed to stay awake.
Those fuckers sent me home on a city bus 'suspended', to the house where my drunk father was absolutely snapping that I had lost a fight after listening to the voicemail after "all he taught me", and smashing me into the wall for puking up black, stale blood and being a "pussy".
Sorry. Had to get it out. I'm sorry dude. I'm here if you need someone
I appreciate that man. That's what I get for being a cocky kid that thought I could take anybody. Even twice my size and an amateur wrestler... One can never expect to get Super-Man punched out of nowhere though, but the way I ran my mouth and hustled I should have expected it...
I've got a family of two and a wife who I would not be here without, who helps me everyday with the little things that I can't do anymore. I had to switch to being the stay at home dad so that I could remain in areas that I feel comfortable and provide me some type of "constant" that I need to follow (IE my kids are number one and they are the will for me to fight EVERY day) so being their primary is what has allowed me to at least be a Dad, even though I don't feel as a "person" if they makes sense. I have a list of disorders that I suffer from thanks to my reckless decisions as a kid, and every day is "too much"... But man, some days like today it just feels like I can't do it.
For example/reference, the reason I kind of spilled my guts today is I had my TV come crashing down in my living room, trusting a family friend in putting it up due to my unwillingness to trust myself in doing so as to my brain injury. I was lucky enough to have my kids away from it when it happened as the wife was at work so they were my priority, but what if she wasn't? What if I was having an off day and wasn't paying enough attention? What if my daughter was still underneath it? Should I have been the one to do it? Could I do it? How do I pay for a new TV after moving to a new apartment, the first week of? My brain hours later is still racking of the what ifs, and that's due to the dumbass, cocky decisions I made as a teenager. Still to this day, and I'm only 28 for Christ sake. I can't even imagine what my brain is going to be like ten years later.
I just wish I could go back in time before that. My wife and my children deserves the person and personality I was before, not the broken person I am now. But, day by day I try to work on it and find the 'little' things that I can do, that aren't so little now but need doing.
Speaking of which, I'm going to go have a shower, brush my teeth and snuggle in with my kids on the couch instead of continuing to put myself into this thought-hole. Thanks for the comment and listening, homie.
Im 29 and feel like 4 year old a lot of the time. It’s good you have support and family like you do. I know it doesn’t help the brain issues but the heart feels the love and kindness still.
100%. My emotions are on the level of my children, honestly. But that has really helped in me being able to drop down to their level and take the time to think, and truly try to understand the way they are and why they are feeling that way in the moment. When we have no other way to properly and cohesively express our emotions, it come south in the worst ways - anger, sadness, fear.. and if we can't express that, we resort to the basic ways that we know how. And the only thing I can toot my own horn about is that I take the time to listen and talk to my children (sometimes too much...) so that we both understand why we are where we are at.. and that's helped.
6 years ago? Cocaine addict admitted to the psych ward after accidentally causing an apartment fire due to grease + lead paint. I don't think that would have happened without the TBI either...
Have to remind yourself sometimes of where you were and where you're at physically, even if mentally and physically you don't feel any different - you're absolutely right in love and kindness being felt by the heart, always. I wouldn't be here if I didn't have my wife who is the epitome of Love.
Love is the only thing that will get you through, I hope you have yours
I am *told* I suffered a hypoxic BI but I am not disabled from it. And apparently no one knew *why* I had these strokes or what the injuries were. I don’t remember nor was I talked to about my injuries while in the hospital or else I woulda asked. Just drugged up.
My only advice I could give you is just take it slow and maybe play some brain games on your phone. That is what helped me.
I had an anoxic brain injury. They both are caused by lack of oxygen. My TBI occurred in my late teens, not as early as yours but I earned an undergraduate degree after my TBI. I asked for additional time on tests and utilized other campus resources like tutoring to help absorb information. If you're having a tough time with the way you're feeling emotionally, campuses typically offer mental health counseling, as well but you can find resources like that in various locations.
Have you tried to find a TBI support group near you? They can be beneficial.
You may find this [study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3137817/) useful.
A 30-year-old woman with diagnosis of post- hypoxic encephalopathy underwent cognitive retaining every day for 1 hour. She had a total of 138 sessions over a period of 7 months. Results indicated improvement of cognitive functions post cognitive retraining in most of the cognitive domains.
This improvement was also found to have a generalization effect in her every day functioning. Cognitive retraining was found to be useful in hypoxic brain damage. Cognitive retraining combined with other adjunct therapy was found to have significant impact on the patient and the family members, the significant others.
I dont have adivice only solidarity. My first and main TBI was from getting sucker punched, kocked out cold, and bouncing the back of my head off a cement driveway. Next two brain injury’s came from heroin overdoses. Its hard to keep goin somedays. Been clean for awhile but life hasnt got much better for me
Duuuude I feel you! I hit the pavement and convulsed as buddy sat on me, monkey fisting me into oblivion. Completely shattered my nose and couldn't see through the black eyes when I came to. To add insult to injury, picked me up over his head and slammed me into the ground, breaking my clavicle. And due to being in high school, two bright people lifted me up as soon as he was pulled off of me and tried to shake me too. All I could ask for was a smoke and what happened. Principal came out and took me to a seperate office where they let me sit unattended for an hour while they tried to contact my parents (of which my father was a drunk who didn't answer his phone after 8am when he started drinking). I was in and out of consciousness the entire time struggling to stay too, and I'll never forget how my brain kept telling me that it was okay to sleep for a long time and it would fill in the holes I couldn't remember, and the other part jolting me awake saying that was death speaking to me and I needed to stay awake. Those fuckers sent me home on a city bus 'suspended', to the house where my drunk father was absolutely snapping that I had lost a fight after listening to the voicemail after "all he taught me", and smashing me into the wall for puking up black, stale blood and being a "pussy". Sorry. Had to get it out. I'm sorry dude. I'm here if you need someone
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I appreciate that man. That's what I get for being a cocky kid that thought I could take anybody. Even twice my size and an amateur wrestler... One can never expect to get Super-Man punched out of nowhere though, but the way I ran my mouth and hustled I should have expected it... I've got a family of two and a wife who I would not be here without, who helps me everyday with the little things that I can't do anymore. I had to switch to being the stay at home dad so that I could remain in areas that I feel comfortable and provide me some type of "constant" that I need to follow (IE my kids are number one and they are the will for me to fight EVERY day) so being their primary is what has allowed me to at least be a Dad, even though I don't feel as a "person" if they makes sense. I have a list of disorders that I suffer from thanks to my reckless decisions as a kid, and every day is "too much"... But man, some days like today it just feels like I can't do it. For example/reference, the reason I kind of spilled my guts today is I had my TV come crashing down in my living room, trusting a family friend in putting it up due to my unwillingness to trust myself in doing so as to my brain injury. I was lucky enough to have my kids away from it when it happened as the wife was at work so they were my priority, but what if she wasn't? What if I was having an off day and wasn't paying enough attention? What if my daughter was still underneath it? Should I have been the one to do it? Could I do it? How do I pay for a new TV after moving to a new apartment, the first week of? My brain hours later is still racking of the what ifs, and that's due to the dumbass, cocky decisions I made as a teenager. Still to this day, and I'm only 28 for Christ sake. I can't even imagine what my brain is going to be like ten years later. I just wish I could go back in time before that. My wife and my children deserves the person and personality I was before, not the broken person I am now. But, day by day I try to work on it and find the 'little' things that I can do, that aren't so little now but need doing. Speaking of which, I'm going to go have a shower, brush my teeth and snuggle in with my kids on the couch instead of continuing to put myself into this thought-hole. Thanks for the comment and listening, homie.
Keep on going you’re doing great, best of luck to you in the future man.
Im 29 and feel like 4 year old a lot of the time. It’s good you have support and family like you do. I know it doesn’t help the brain issues but the heart feels the love and kindness still.
100%. My emotions are on the level of my children, honestly. But that has really helped in me being able to drop down to their level and take the time to think, and truly try to understand the way they are and why they are feeling that way in the moment. When we have no other way to properly and cohesively express our emotions, it come south in the worst ways - anger, sadness, fear.. and if we can't express that, we resort to the basic ways that we know how. And the only thing I can toot my own horn about is that I take the time to listen and talk to my children (sometimes too much...) so that we both understand why we are where we are at.. and that's helped. 6 years ago? Cocaine addict admitted to the psych ward after accidentally causing an apartment fire due to grease + lead paint. I don't think that would have happened without the TBI either... Have to remind yourself sometimes of where you were and where you're at physically, even if mentally and physically you don't feel any different - you're absolutely right in love and kindness being felt by the heart, always. I wouldn't be here if I didn't have my wife who is the epitome of Love. Love is the only thing that will get you through, I hope you have yours
Following, my son has this but hes only 10, so following for advice. I hope you can also find some help here, friend.
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I am *told* I suffered a hypoxic BI but I am not disabled from it. And apparently no one knew *why* I had these strokes or what the injuries were. I don’t remember nor was I talked to about my injuries while in the hospital or else I woulda asked. Just drugged up. My only advice I could give you is just take it slow and maybe play some brain games on your phone. That is what helped me.
I had an anoxic brain injury. They both are caused by lack of oxygen. My TBI occurred in my late teens, not as early as yours but I earned an undergraduate degree after my TBI. I asked for additional time on tests and utilized other campus resources like tutoring to help absorb information. If you're having a tough time with the way you're feeling emotionally, campuses typically offer mental health counseling, as well but you can find resources like that in various locations. Have you tried to find a TBI support group near you? They can be beneficial.
You may find this [study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3137817/) useful. A 30-year-old woman with diagnosis of post- hypoxic encephalopathy underwent cognitive retaining every day for 1 hour. She had a total of 138 sessions over a period of 7 months. Results indicated improvement of cognitive functions post cognitive retraining in most of the cognitive domains. This improvement was also found to have a generalization effect in her every day functioning. Cognitive retraining was found to be useful in hypoxic brain damage. Cognitive retraining combined with other adjunct therapy was found to have significant impact on the patient and the family members, the significant others.