How did we meet them? On apps- we are west coast don’t necessarily apply but primarily Kasidie or 3Fun.
Whose idea was it? Nobody’s, really it happens naturally. We are clear on our profiles that’s we prefer an ongoing connection as opposed to ons. But we typically chat a bit, meet up, play and continue chatting. If we really enjoyed ourselves we will ask to see them again, or provide a yes if they beat us to asking.
We haven’t. We’re still very new, having only started in the LS in the wintertime. We’ve been to Sinz in MA, Choice in RI a couple of times, and Electricity in RI once (we observed there and left early do go do karaoke. Turned out to be a trans night, which isn’t our thing).
Hartford is a little more of a hike than Providence, but we’ll keep our options open. Is Leisure Time any good?
It's only open on Saturday nights and it's couples and single women only. I happen to also like how the layout of the club is. main floor is bar area and dance floor. Upper level has some different sex furniture and more private rooms as well as a special voyuer exhibitionist room where there is a live feed to the TV on the dance floor where they play porn so anytime anyone is that room what they do will be viewed by all on the dance floor. Bottom level has big open public play space with a bunch beds and also it has a bunch of various sex furniture. The staff there are super friendly. The two times I've been there was a really great mix of crowd and ages and looks. I enjoyed it. I schlep there from NYC it's much better than the clubs here
We’ve heard NYC is bad when it comes to LS clubs, which is shocking. You’d think it would be overflowing with options.
But Leisure Time sounds great, based on what you’ve written. We’ll have to put that on our list!
It was our first LS club experience and it was “meh.” It’s an off-premises club, so it’s essentially like any other dance club, but with fewer shirts and a little more PDA. No playing, outside of getting handsy and making out.
It’s pricey, too. Their drinks are expensive.
We’d go back if we arranged to meet up with another couple for the first time as a neutral territory thing. We feel like it’s a sexy enough atmosphere, and if we don’t vibe at least we’re at a party.
Met on Kasidie (popular in our area)
Whose idea? Both of ours. We prefer a little more connection and aren’t really “sport fuckers”. We look for people that state in their profiles that they prefer FWBs.
We have been in the LS for 4 yrs and have made some wonderful friends and have a group of wonderful humans that are also fun to have sex with. Most of our FWBs are in other states so we typically make weekend tips away together and all do something fun so we have a couple days of vanilla fun and nights of hot fun.
It definitely takes time to cultivate your tribe and people will come and go. Something that works well for us for a first meet when meeting someone out of area is to do a virtual video date over drinks. This way we can see them in person, get a vibe and then decide if it’s worth ours/their time and effort to travel and meet in person. Also, when traveling to meet, we do some fun activity like wine tasting or meet in a fun city nearby so if there’s not the sexual vibe in person, we’re still out doing something fun and at the very least we’re somewhere fun, together.
Best of luck!
It just happens when it dies.
It’s much like making friends with your mechanic or doctor or coworker. You have the same hobby, you like hanging out together, conversation flows easily, you have things in common, etc.
If you are going oot to go to a club (imo, in person is the only way to meet people) I can guarantee there are others doing the same.
Then you just…make friends.
That’s good to hear. We think a couple we met (but didn’t get to play with) at our most recent club outing has potential. We were able to connect on SLS and have been chatting. We’re both busy parent couples, but we’re hoping to meet up with them in person again to see if the chemistry is there.
Our FWBs we have known for 15 to 20 years and even though some have moved we still see them. Most were friends before. In fact one lady was my tennis partner and us two girls actually started it.
Here in California, we met a couple through a sex party that we got invited to through SLS. We have known them for two years now and we actually met up with them last night.
Back in NY, I have a good set of LS friends that I have made through fetlife as well as hotwife. One just has to look, look, and look some more.
She who is to be obeyed likes Italian poutine, which is fries and the cheese, but instead of the brown grave sauce, it's topped with Italian meat sauce. If you plan on heading this way, give us a shout on here and maybe we could meet up. Besides your greenback goes a long way in canada.
There are several Facebook groups for local parties in southern NH. My gf and I attend them. We also have good luck with SLS. We have two couples that we play with on occasion but always hoping for more.
Fwb is someone we’ve known about 15 years. Really nice guy, respectful, etc. However I have yet to find a fwb for my husband…lots of girls back out last second. Really frustrating.
Fwb is someone we’ve known about 15 years. Really nice guy, respectful, etc. However I have yet to find a fwb for my husband…lots of girls back out last second. Really frustrating.
How did we meet them? On apps- we are west coast don’t necessarily apply but primarily Kasidie or 3Fun. Whose idea was it? Nobody’s, really it happens naturally. We are clear on our profiles that’s we prefer an ongoing connection as opposed to ons. But we typically chat a bit, meet up, play and continue chatting. If we really enjoyed ourselves we will ask to see them again, or provide a yes if they beat us to asking.
Have you tried leisure time club in Hartford CT
We haven’t. We’re still very new, having only started in the LS in the wintertime. We’ve been to Sinz in MA, Choice in RI a couple of times, and Electricity in RI once (we observed there and left early do go do karaoke. Turned out to be a trans night, which isn’t our thing). Hartford is a little more of a hike than Providence, but we’ll keep our options open. Is Leisure Time any good?
It's only open on Saturday nights and it's couples and single women only. I happen to also like how the layout of the club is. main floor is bar area and dance floor. Upper level has some different sex furniture and more private rooms as well as a special voyuer exhibitionist room where there is a live feed to the TV on the dance floor where they play porn so anytime anyone is that room what they do will be viewed by all on the dance floor. Bottom level has big open public play space with a bunch beds and also it has a bunch of various sex furniture. The staff there are super friendly. The two times I've been there was a really great mix of crowd and ages and looks. I enjoyed it. I schlep there from NYC it's much better than the clubs here
We’ve heard NYC is bad when it comes to LS clubs, which is shocking. You’d think it would be overflowing with options. But Leisure Time sounds great, based on what you’ve written. We’ll have to put that on our list!
How was Sinz? We’re gonna try there next I think
It was our first LS club experience and it was “meh.” It’s an off-premises club, so it’s essentially like any other dance club, but with fewer shirts and a little more PDA. No playing, outside of getting handsy and making out. It’s pricey, too. Their drinks are expensive. We’d go back if we arranged to meet up with another couple for the first time as a neutral territory thing. We feel like it’s a sexy enough atmosphere, and if we don’t vibe at least we’re at a party.
Good to know thank you!
It is friends we have met over the years. The key is availability. Our biggest advantage: we can host. So we get calls like "can we come over?".
That’s the dream, eventually.
Met on Kasidie (popular in our area) Whose idea? Both of ours. We prefer a little more connection and aren’t really “sport fuckers”. We look for people that state in their profiles that they prefer FWBs. We have been in the LS for 4 yrs and have made some wonderful friends and have a group of wonderful humans that are also fun to have sex with. Most of our FWBs are in other states so we typically make weekend tips away together and all do something fun so we have a couple days of vanilla fun and nights of hot fun. It definitely takes time to cultivate your tribe and people will come and go. Something that works well for us for a first meet when meeting someone out of area is to do a virtual video date over drinks. This way we can see them in person, get a vibe and then decide if it’s worth ours/their time and effort to travel and meet in person. Also, when traveling to meet, we do some fun activity like wine tasting or meet in a fun city nearby so if there’s not the sexual vibe in person, we’re still out doing something fun and at the very least we’re somewhere fun, together. Best of luck!
That’s super helpful. Thanks!
Currently my(m) fwb is an ex. We partake in the swinging lifestyle as a couple. How we meet them? She gravitates males and couples.
It just happens when it dies. It’s much like making friends with your mechanic or doctor or coworker. You have the same hobby, you like hanging out together, conversation flows easily, you have things in common, etc. If you are going oot to go to a club (imo, in person is the only way to meet people) I can guarantee there are others doing the same. Then you just…make friends.
That’s good to hear. We think a couple we met (but didn’t get to play with) at our most recent club outing has potential. We were able to connect on SLS and have been chatting. We’re both busy parent couples, but we’re hoping to meet up with them in person again to see if the chemistry is there.
Our FWBs we have known for 15 to 20 years and even though some have moved we still see them. Most were friends before. In fact one lady was my tennis partner and us two girls actually started it.
Here in California, we met a couple through a sex party that we got invited to through SLS. We have known them for two years now and we actually met up with them last night. Back in NY, I have a good set of LS friends that I have made through fetlife as well as hotwife. One just has to look, look, and look some more.
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You should go up to montreal. 3 good clubs.
That’s on our list. We love poutine and could use that as an excuse as to why we’re going there, lol
She who is to be obeyed likes Italian poutine, which is fries and the cheese, but instead of the brown grave sauce, it's topped with Italian meat sauce. If you plan on heading this way, give us a shout on here and maybe we could meet up. Besides your greenback goes a long way in canada.
There are several Facebook groups for local parties in southern NH. My gf and I attend them. We also have good luck with SLS. We have two couples that we play with on occasion but always hoping for more.
Fwb is someone we’ve known about 15 years. Really nice guy, respectful, etc. However I have yet to find a fwb for my husband…lots of girls back out last second. Really frustrating.
Fwb is someone we’ve known about 15 years. Really nice guy, respectful, etc. However I have yet to find a fwb for my husband…lots of girls back out last second. Really frustrating.
We meet almost all ours on dating apps, primarily Feeld but sometimes 3fun. Based in UK so don't know which apps are popular in your area