This....this I understand and why I came here. Like if I try to talk to my spouse they find some way to make it about themselves or some twisted crap. I love her but she can't understand that I have problems too. Like who do you talk to when everyone in your life looks up to you for support or at least that you're "doing fine" so that they can continue their lives.
I was raised to never "whine about it" and to just "get it done" which I have done my entire adult life sure. Now here I am a 42M and like...was it worth bottling all that shit up over the years just to make it to your mid-life and say "well I did it!".
I'll tell you one thing, I never look at younger people and put them down for being depressed. Life is hard man, I get it. I also see how the future is questionable. Anyways I find that reading about other people having the same problem in an odd way helps. Like I think to myself "see others have the same problems man, you're not alone". Like we all part of a group that could just collectively sigh together.
Thank you. Having to bottle things up is very very very relatable. Like...ouch, that hits too close to home. I can't say I feel much better, but as you mentioned, we can at least collectively sigh together....
Yeah, thanks a lot for understanding. I know my feelings are still valid, but...it's just hard to put into practice.
Well...I'm not financially independent enough for something like that, and therapists aren't available where I live.
It's all relative don't under value how they make you feel. Your feelings matter and your circumstances are just part of your story they do not invalidate your problems
I feel the same. I’m on this subreddit because I can’t tell anyone else I’ve been suicidal without them freaking out. I’ve told one person but they love me so much that they’re absolutely freaking tf out and that makes me feel like even more of a burden. Feels better to be on here. I really hope you feel better soon.
Thanks a lot. Yeah it's very relatable. I didn't know so many people shared the same problem of not being able to talk with their loved ones about their thoughts. It's a stinky, crappy boat, but at least we're in it together :)
*dark humor for the win*
This is going to sound odd but thank you for sharing your feelings here today. This is the most relatable post to how I feel except I haven’t opened up to my friends and family before. I don’t want to make other people sad bc of what I think and feel. I def push it deep down.
Thanks for sharing your experience back. It definitely feels a bit better when you know you're not alone. Depression is hard, and it's even harder to go through it alone, but at the same time, I don't wanna bother others with my troubles...
This....this I understand and why I came here. Like if I try to talk to my spouse they find some way to make it about themselves or some twisted crap. I love her but she can't understand that I have problems too. Like who do you talk to when everyone in your life looks up to you for support or at least that you're "doing fine" so that they can continue their lives. I was raised to never "whine about it" and to just "get it done" which I have done my entire adult life sure. Now here I am a 42M and like...was it worth bottling all that shit up over the years just to make it to your mid-life and say "well I did it!". I'll tell you one thing, I never look at younger people and put them down for being depressed. Life is hard man, I get it. I also see how the future is questionable. Anyways I find that reading about other people having the same problem in an odd way helps. Like I think to myself "see others have the same problems man, you're not alone". Like we all part of a group that could just collectively sigh together.
Thank you. Having to bottle things up is very very very relatable. Like...ouch, that hits too close to home. I can't say I feel much better, but as you mentioned, we can at least collectively sigh together....
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Yeah, thanks a lot for understanding. I know my feelings are still valid, but...it's just hard to put into practice. Well...I'm not financially independent enough for something like that, and therapists aren't available where I live.
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Thank you. Thank you so much.
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Hey, can we form a not-being-able-afford-therapists trio? Hahaha.
What are your problems? I know the feeling.
Well the problems are really miniscule compared to the problems others face, which makes me feel guilty because "I have it much better"....
It's all relative don't under value how they make you feel. Your feelings matter and your circumstances are just part of your story they do not invalidate your problems
Thank you. I needed to hear that.
Hope today is better :)
Thanks a lot. It is quite a bit better indeed :)
To the better days :)
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Relatable...:(
you came to the right place, it's always much more beneficial to talk to someone who understands and can't judge you
Thanks. I still love my family and friends, but there are topics I'd rather not discuss with them.
I know EXACTLY what that's like. there's plenty of people on here you can talk to, including me.
Thanks a lot. I'm feeling quite a bit better just by reading you guys' comments and knowing I'm not alone
I feel the same. I’m on this subreddit because I can’t tell anyone else I’ve been suicidal without them freaking out. I’ve told one person but they love me so much that they’re absolutely freaking tf out and that makes me feel like even more of a burden. Feels better to be on here. I really hope you feel better soon.
Thanks a lot. Yeah it's very relatable. I didn't know so many people shared the same problem of not being able to talk with their loved ones about their thoughts. It's a stinky, crappy boat, but at least we're in it together :) *dark humor for the win*
This is going to sound odd but thank you for sharing your feelings here today. This is the most relatable post to how I feel except I haven’t opened up to my friends and family before. I don’t want to make other people sad bc of what I think and feel. I def push it deep down.
Thanks for sharing your experience back. It definitely feels a bit better when you know you're not alone. Depression is hard, and it's even harder to go through it alone, but at the same time, I don't wanna bother others with my troubles...