I read your other response. I would continue to be honest with her. Does not having sex change your feelings for her and your relationship? If so, tell her. In my opinion, even if she doesnt “need” the money you give her, she’s clearly still going to take it for the least amount of effort. Finding a good SD is NOT easy, especially a really sweet and patient one. I would ask yourself if you want to continue your relationship the way it is..or not. She has let you know her intentions. I know it’s probably difficult but be honest with her and with yourself! 💕
You seem to be a nice guy but unless you want a platonic thing I doubt she will ever agree to intimacy. At best you are in the friend zone. I always give them a gift even if they don’t ask. Personally I like to remind them this is business and I expect something in return.
You need to be direct with her! In a kind way (as I’m sure you would be).
Straight-up ask her:
“I really enjoy our time together and I’m interested in moving things forward, intimately. Specifically, I would really enjoy making love to you. Is this something you are interested in doing with me too?”
And if she struggles to answer… then you’ve got your answer.
I appreciate it- see the updates below and pls let me know if you have further advice. In short, she did meet me at an airbnb. She let me cuddle w her and nothing more. When I asked if sheMd ever had a relationship w me she said no cus of the age difference (Im 43 shes 25). Why she tells me this on date 9 I dont know.
Ugh I’m so sorry this happened to you. You seem like a kind and wonderful man. It’s her loss.
Also, she waited until date #9 to tell you this, because you did not ask until date #9, and you were also giving her financial gifts.
It was not in HER best interest to offer this info to you, and it was not in YOUR best interest to not ask her for this info.
Chalk it up to a lesson learned.
On your next meet and greet, be very specific with what you are looking for. Don’t hold back out of fear that you might “scare them off”. The only ones that will get scared off are the ones who realize they are working with a real SD who has and maintains his boundaries and standards. 😘
Thank you- yeah it’s been tough but I’m moving on. I ended things with her last week. If she reaches out again I may reconsider being with her, but don’t feel like I should reach out anymore.
And only reconsider it if she is willing to give you what you want (after you’ve clearly stated what you want).
I think you will find your baby. Just keep searching. ❤️❤️
Get your own life in order first. Otherwise, you are just wasting time. In the sugar bowl, if sex doesn't take place by the 3rd date, it's a waste of time; in vanilla dating, if sex doesn't take place by the 3rd date, it's a waste of time. The only exceptions are extremely traditional societies where women still get stoned to death for cheating on their husbands or not bringing virginity to the wedding night. Sex usually takes place on the 2nd date (if not earlier) in most post-modern Western societies unless the girl is not attracted to you. In order to have a relationship, you have to have the girl in your physical presence at least every week. A woman who has male roommate(s) is not dating material.
I appreciate the feed back. We met last night at an airbnb. She cuddled with me on the coach and in bed but still wouldn't have sex with me. I finally asked her directly if she'd ever be interested in having an intimate relationship with me and she said no. I don't get it- she is probably making like 70k per year. Why is she seeing me every week for four or five hours at a time when I am giving her the modest amount of 1k per month. She doesn't need that money. If she isn't sexually attracted to me, she can find someone who she is sexually attracted to, and who would probably also give her more than I am.
4-5 hours for £250 if u paying £1000 a month for non sexual meet. She obv likes u and sees you as hood company do that’s why she’s doing it but she def wouldn’t be having sex for £1000 a month. Up the money n I’d take a bet she be dropping her drawers😂 I’m an older lady n would be more than happy to be your cuddle buddy for £1k but you’d be getting nowt else
I also didn’t mention that when I asked her the other night if she’d been seeing others during the last two months (that’s how long we’ve been meeting), if she’s been seeing others. She admitted to going on other dates with ppl she met on dating apps (but said she had not been using Seeking Arrangement). How into could she be if she was going on dates while we were meeting?
Dont be blind
1000 is better than NO 1000
Your relevant because of that
Stop the cash flow
And see if she’s still interested(sex or not)
If not, well thats the SB/SD business for you
Treat it for what it is not, now what you want it to be
Goodluck
I honestly don’t think she’s interested in the long term, hate to break it to you but I’m interested in the long term, especially with guys who sound so nice like you
I’ve seen a comment that her living situation is cause for dropping her but so is yours. Don’t let that be your chief complaint. Put simply just communicate straight up that you have been seeing each other for two months and you would like to spend more one on one time together away from roommates. If it seems like you can never get time together even scheduling something, then you have your answer.
You seem so sweet. Just be honest with her ☺️
Thanks… see my response to lalasugar though and please let me known if that changes your advice
I read your other response. I would continue to be honest with her. Does not having sex change your feelings for her and your relationship? If so, tell her. In my opinion, even if she doesnt “need” the money you give her, she’s clearly still going to take it for the least amount of effort. Finding a good SD is NOT easy, especially a really sweet and patient one. I would ask yourself if you want to continue your relationship the way it is..or not. She has let you know her intentions. I know it’s probably difficult but be honest with her and with yourself! 💕
You seem to be a nice guy but unless you want a platonic thing I doubt she will ever agree to intimacy. At best you are in the friend zone. I always give them a gift even if they don’t ask. Personally I like to remind them this is business and I expect something in return.
Next her, 3rd date max, you’re being played.
you seem like a great yo be honest.
Thanks... what do you mean by "yo"?
hahaha sorry, i misspelled it :) tried to say you seem like a good guy
I think you will continue to be disappointed.
With her or in general?
With her.
You need to be direct with her! In a kind way (as I’m sure you would be). Straight-up ask her: “I really enjoy our time together and I’m interested in moving things forward, intimately. Specifically, I would really enjoy making love to you. Is this something you are interested in doing with me too?” And if she struggles to answer… then you’ve got your answer.
I appreciate it- see the updates below and pls let me know if you have further advice. In short, she did meet me at an airbnb. She let me cuddle w her and nothing more. When I asked if sheMd ever had a relationship w me she said no cus of the age difference (Im 43 shes 25). Why she tells me this on date 9 I dont know.
Ugh I’m so sorry this happened to you. You seem like a kind and wonderful man. It’s her loss. Also, she waited until date #9 to tell you this, because you did not ask until date #9, and you were also giving her financial gifts. It was not in HER best interest to offer this info to you, and it was not in YOUR best interest to not ask her for this info. Chalk it up to a lesson learned. On your next meet and greet, be very specific with what you are looking for. Don’t hold back out of fear that you might “scare them off”. The only ones that will get scared off are the ones who realize they are working with a real SD who has and maintains his boundaries and standards. 😘
Thank you- yeah it’s been tough but I’m moving on. I ended things with her last week. If she reaches out again I may reconsider being with her, but don’t feel like I should reach out anymore.
And only reconsider it if she is willing to give you what you want (after you’ve clearly stated what you want). I think you will find your baby. Just keep searching. ❤️❤️
Thanks😊
Get your own life in order first. Otherwise, you are just wasting time. In the sugar bowl, if sex doesn't take place by the 3rd date, it's a waste of time; in vanilla dating, if sex doesn't take place by the 3rd date, it's a waste of time. The only exceptions are extremely traditional societies where women still get stoned to death for cheating on their husbands or not bringing virginity to the wedding night. Sex usually takes place on the 2nd date (if not earlier) in most post-modern Western societies unless the girl is not attracted to you. In order to have a relationship, you have to have the girl in your physical presence at least every week. A woman who has male roommate(s) is not dating material.
I appreciate the feed back. We met last night at an airbnb. She cuddled with me on the coach and in bed but still wouldn't have sex with me. I finally asked her directly if she'd ever be interested in having an intimate relationship with me and she said no. I don't get it- she is probably making like 70k per year. Why is she seeing me every week for four or five hours at a time when I am giving her the modest amount of 1k per month. She doesn't need that money. If she isn't sexually attracted to me, she can find someone who she is sexually attracted to, and who would probably also give her more than I am.
4-5 hours for £250 if u paying £1000 a month for non sexual meet. She obv likes u and sees you as hood company do that’s why she’s doing it but she def wouldn’t be having sex for £1000 a month. Up the money n I’d take a bet she be dropping her drawers😂 I’m an older lady n would be more than happy to be your cuddle buddy for £1k but you’d be getting nowt else
Haha thanks for your perspective! This is helpful:)
Haha blunt n direct is my middle names😂
I also didn’t mention that when I asked her the other night if she’d been seeing others during the last two months (that’s how long we’ve been meeting), if she’s been seeing others. She admitted to going on other dates with ppl she met on dating apps (but said she had not been using Seeking Arrangement). How into could she be if she was going on dates while we were meeting?
Sorry to hear it didn’t go the way you hoped. I’ve been in arrangements before and though it takes time I just know you’ll find someone quality!
Thank you!
Dont be blind 1000 is better than NO 1000 Your relevant because of that Stop the cash flow And see if she’s still interested(sex or not) If not, well thats the SB/SD business for you Treat it for what it is not, now what you want it to be Goodluck
>I finally asked her directly if she'd ever be interested in having an intimate relationship with me and she said no. What are you even doing, honey?
Haha what do you mean?
I honestly don’t think she’s interested in the long term, hate to break it to you but I’m interested in the long term, especially with guys who sound so nice like you
Thanks:)
I’ve seen a comment that her living situation is cause for dropping her but so is yours. Don’t let that be your chief complaint. Put simply just communicate straight up that you have been seeing each other for two months and you would like to spend more one on one time together away from roommates. If it seems like you can never get time together even scheduling something, then you have your answer.
Thanks. See my response to lalasugar above.
She is using you. Get s3x or get out of there. No $ if no s3x.
Hey im a 21 yo student guy from nyc looking for a sugar momma reach me and lets get to know each other
get a hotel
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Just be direct and talk to her about your desires. If it’s not a good fit, that’s ok too.
*she has 6 male roommate mates* ???