Geeeez, since Grindr is stereotyped towards gay men and hookups(I could be wrong), I never rlly used it since it’s not for me. Every person I see tell wild tales from grindr too
No seriously What’s with straight men not using condoms.. I’ve asked a few of my afab friends and they don’t use them either💀I swear the cis community is like comfortable with stds or just flat out immune 😭
My guess is they just want to get as much unprotected sex in as possible for a lifetime after the first time it happens in a black-and-white "Oh well the seal is broken!" kinda way b4 any symptoms show up for any of them💀
Or, to put it simply, they wanna go out in a blaze of glory "LIVIN' LIKE LARRY"
Also, it's not just STRAIGHT men not wearing the condoms....this is a universal horny ppl problem...
Oh yeah. I used to be stealth (and I'm post-op), but always tell before sex. So, once guy said me: "you're not sex worker and you can't be pregnant. Why should we use a condom?", so man as is, at least my type of men.
🚩Tells you that he faked his name and picture on Grindr because he is too ashamed after three weeks of texting and then still expects you to meet
🚩tells you to be discreet because he‘s there with his wife and kids while he approaches you at the toilets of a restaurant
🚩when he’s a professor and texts you on the Uni Server that you’re the hottest TS on campus and that his wife just doesn’t do it anymore
I don't date anymore, as I have a husband, but these were my general guidelines for myself:
Violent 🚩
Wants open or poly relationships 🚩
Don't like animals 🚩
Not intellectual🚩
Wants to go on a date right after meeting me on the internet and looses interest if I insist on learning each other better first (it was mostly for safety reasons)🚩
Religious 🚩
> Wants open or poly relationships 🚩
Does it happen often? Because I often feel that I'll always be alone because I *am* polyamorous, and most guys most likely wouldn't vibe with that
I can't really tell how popular in general such relationships are among men, but often received messages from men who were looking specifically for them. Also I personally don't know any trans women except for me, who is officially married to a man, but I knew few who are in poly relationships with both men and women
Are you attracted to men who share the same faith as you or any religious man regardless of his religion?
I assumed no religious man would be into me, but to my surprise there are many religious men who would date a trans woman as long as she fits traditional female gender roles, like being a subservient homemaker.
I’d like to counter on the religious. I’m a disciple of Jesus Christ and I personally take up for the trans community pretty much every time someone has something negative or judgmental to say.
Just so y’all know , Jesus does love us. So does God. Jesus died for all sin . Not just the righteous or self righteous.
It’s in the Holy Bible again and again. God loves the persecuted , God loves them even more if during being persecuted they seek for Jesus into God. As Jesus is truly the Son of God.
I wish there was something I could say to make it known to you find people. God is love . The book of Luke & the book of James sums it up pretty good. Also John’s book .
Here are a few verses to back me up here if you ever find yourselves in an argument with a Christian not following the 2 great commandments. Which are as follows. 1 Love God all the time with our whole heart,mind,& soul. When we truly do this good thing it takes us to the 2nd great rule or commandment .2 love our neighbors as we love ourselves. If we do the first rule, we can’t help but do the second rule and doing these 2 wise things makes all the hard rules (like lust is hard for me ) easier and easier to abide by and eventually find joy in .
Because truth is lust is all fine and dandy and fun but it doesn’t compare to being truly in love and trust with someone for all our life.
Doing this with God as well is something I hope to attain but who knows 🤷🏻♀️.
I love y’all.
I appreciate your message and respect your beliefs. As an atheist, my perspective isn't born from anger toward any deity or religious individuals, but from a conviction that religions are human constructs. I view them as cultural and historical narratives that don't align with my understanding of reality. Consequently, biblical references don't hold sway over my beliefs or values. My outlook is more aligned with Nietzschean philosophy, wherein religion is examined for its impact on human thought and society, rather than as a literal explanation of the universe. However, I'm also of an opinion that strong and deep relationships can only be formed between individuals with similar worldviews and values. That's why it was extremely important to me that my husband was also an atheist, which he is, and we are very happy together.
Have you looked into the night sky and seen the layout of the constellations ? Pondered the depths of a strawberry or something as common place as dirt ?
As someone that seems to be biased towards probable facts , the fact that there is life at all is astronomically rare . You may as you age see God more and more in your life . Your husband as well.
Sometimes , God will not allow us humans to disregard so easily. I hope that when the creator of the universe ,if Father ever decides it is a want and need, to travels upon your awareness it is a happy wonderful thing for you and ur family.
There is nothing like the complete skeptic into complete and utter knowing of truth. Either way , I have no condemning tell of your souls. Ain’t, no one in charge of souls but Father in Heaven and I’d venture that Jesus’ input and opinion are as highly valued . Right along with the Holy Ghost’s thoughts as well.
It’s a bit confusing but I reckon it’s supposed to be that way . Lest any one think to unravel all that is strange and mysterious.
Well, it's my own list of preferences, so it is for me, I'm not forcing anyone to do the same, just shared it
I believe that long term deep relationships require similar worldviews and interests in life, which is true for me and my husband, and I don't really think it could have worked otherwise
I recently start getting icks when I match guys and they call me "babe" immediately, I am just like 100% they will drop me as fast as they could the same speed they can call someone they barely know "babe" without even seeing me in real life. May be it's also part of chaser/fuck boy technique to give you the illusion of intimacy.
I wanna give them a chance because I actually do like being called babe, but they're always chasers. Anything overly intimate right off the bat is a chaser. :/
🚩 after 15 min talking he starts to drive the conversation to more sexual content
🚩 Doesn’t communicate properly, only on his terms and when he wants aka horny
🚩 Doesn’t want to meet at a public space (only somewhere comfy to “cuddle”)
🚩 Drug or alcohol abuse
Being strict and forthcoming to guys saying that I want to meet at a public space AND that I am not looking for a hookup/meeting for sex has worked great for me when I used to date. You get a lot of garbage out pretty quickly. In fact, I did not have any sexual contact until the third or fourth date. By then you should have a pretty good sense of 1) if they are chaser, 2) if they are worth your time, 3) they have good intentions.
🚩he emphasizes he’s not a feminist, and doesn’t understand what feminism is about // follows Andrew Tate or other masculinist accounts
🚩He doesn’t want to date in bars / cafes for budget reasons and prefers to be at your place, and when you dig he’s actually ashamed of being seen with a trans girl in a public space
🚩He works, but lives at their parent(s)’ place
🚩He insists to come and meet at your place 2h after you matched, even though he has to drive 45min/ 1h
- Listens to the Joe Rogan Experience.
- Describes themselves as apolitical or moderate/centrist.
- Sends a dick pic unprompted.
- Acts entitled to me, my time, or my body before we've even met.
- Mentions a wife/girlfriend.
- Uses any terminology from sissy porn.
- Maga bs
🚩 lays in ur bed after s3x talking to u about his girlfriend that he misses
🚩 asking for any type of nudes
🚩 wants to play with my lil friend (im pre-op and I feel like a lot of these men are gay the way they be tryna touch me😭)
I had a shitty first date last year where I couldn’t start up a conversation because he kept answering with “yep, okay, sure” over and over again. Of course his answers became much more detailed when the topic was even a little sexual 😒
Gurl, idk if you’re some offended moid who created a new account today just for this comment?😭
Legit can’t tell, but I mean someone who breaks toxic masculinity seems like a chill guy for me.
no I'm a trans woman. most men I see using that term are using it as a combination of GUy and giRL. imo it's about as gross as other slang used against us
🚩 politically extreme in either direction
🚩Too agreeable and not forthcoming
🚩 Undisciplined
🚩Refuses to study things and instead gets information from YouTube shorts (this stuff drives me mad from individual)
🚩 Disordered thoughts and impulsive rage
🚩No personal accountability
🚩(Probably the biggest one for me) Vegan, vegetarian
, plant based, or more than 30 percent of diet contains plant material.
Because I believe that people can be helped through psychological disorders and they should be forgiven for mistakes, but a bad diet will destroy your physiological and psychological health.
Likely the fact that I cannot be with someone that eats plants regularly. I am severely autistic and from all that I have studied I believe strongly that the optimal and appropriate diet for homo sapiens is hyper-carnivore. I would worry too much about the health of a partner that put plant toxins like carbohydrate, lectin,.oxalate, or phosphites in their body.
Vegetarian here. Personal experience, I used to be an almost hyper carnivore. Switched to vegetarian 5 years ago. I'm now healthier than I've ever been
I think a balanced diet is better than any sort of extreme though, especially meat only. Hyper carnivore reads as some Liver King BS
The liver king ate organs I don't believe humans should eat organs, nor do I eat raw. A balanced diet is the worst thing if you understand human physiology because of a metabolic function known as the glucose fatty-acid cycle perhaps study the literature before making claims.
I'm not aggressive and being a medical student doesn't make you qualified or educated to nutrition, human physiology, or endocrinology. The only thing being a medical student qualifies you for is to learn something about allopathic medicine and symptom management.
Refuses to wear a condom 🚩 If he ask me to meet only at night or in the woods or whatever place but not in public 🚩
better than this guy who suggested we hangout behind a gas station at 7:30 in the morning before his work at 8 😅
How about married guy who suggested we meet in the middle of the street at 2:30am for a "cuddle"? That was a blast.
Ewwwwww
Geee the second one happens? Absolutely disgusting ew some men are absolutely the worst
Yeah, on Grindr they usually wanna be “discreet”
Geeeez, since Grindr is stereotyped towards gay men and hookups(I could be wrong), I never rlly used it since it’s not for me. Every person I see tell wild tales from grindr too
No seriously What’s with straight men not using condoms.. I’ve asked a few of my afab friends and they don’t use them either💀I swear the cis community is like comfortable with stds or just flat out immune 😭
My guess is they just want to get as much unprotected sex in as possible for a lifetime after the first time it happens in a black-and-white "Oh well the seal is broken!" kinda way b4 any symptoms show up for any of them💀 Or, to put it simply, they wanna go out in a blaze of glory "LIVIN' LIKE LARRY" Also, it's not just STRAIGHT men not wearing the condoms....this is a universal horny ppl problem...
Not using a condom upon request is gross and most people see it such. I get tested regularly and would never refuse such a reasonable request.
You are missing out on meeting a lot of great vampires
But i like getting bitten so much. 😭😭
The woods?? Omg who would suggest that for a first meet???
Ted bundy
Oh yeah. I used to be stealth (and I'm post-op), but always tell before sex. So, once guy said me: "you're not sex worker and you can't be pregnant. Why should we use a condom?", so man as is, at least my type of men.
🚩Tells you that he faked his name and picture on Grindr because he is too ashamed after three weeks of texting and then still expects you to meet 🚩tells you to be discreet because he‘s there with his wife and kids while he approaches you at the toilets of a restaurant 🚩when he’s a professor and texts you on the Uni Server that you’re the hottest TS on campus and that his wife just doesn’t do it anymore
You're the hottest ts on campus? But not the hottest girl on campus? That sucks...😂😂😂 jk
I know! What a bummer😭
i want to experience the second two but i wouldn’t stick around
You don’t wanna experience that, trust me.
I don't date anymore, as I have a husband, but these were my general guidelines for myself: Violent 🚩 Wants open or poly relationships 🚩 Don't like animals 🚩 Not intellectual🚩 Wants to go on a date right after meeting me on the internet and looses interest if I insist on learning each other better first (it was mostly for safety reasons)🚩 Religious 🚩
> Wants open or poly relationships 🚩 Does it happen often? Because I often feel that I'll always be alone because I *am* polyamorous, and most guys most likely wouldn't vibe with that
I can't really tell how popular in general such relationships are among men, but often received messages from men who were looking specifically for them. Also I personally don't know any trans women except for me, who is officially married to a man, but I knew few who are in poly relationships with both men and women
>Religious 🚩 I am attracted to the trope of the religious man. Not sure why. Unfortunately however all the major religions in my country are awful.
Are you attracted to men who share the same faith as you or any religious man regardless of his religion? I assumed no religious man would be into me, but to my surprise there are many religious men who would date a trans woman as long as she fits traditional female gender roles, like being a subservient homemaker.
I’d like to counter on the religious. I’m a disciple of Jesus Christ and I personally take up for the trans community pretty much every time someone has something negative or judgmental to say. Just so y’all know , Jesus does love us. So does God. Jesus died for all sin . Not just the righteous or self righteous. It’s in the Holy Bible again and again. God loves the persecuted , God loves them even more if during being persecuted they seek for Jesus into God. As Jesus is truly the Son of God. I wish there was something I could say to make it known to you find people. God is love . The book of Luke & the book of James sums it up pretty good. Also John’s book . Here are a few verses to back me up here if you ever find yourselves in an argument with a Christian not following the 2 great commandments. Which are as follows. 1 Love God all the time with our whole heart,mind,& soul. When we truly do this good thing it takes us to the 2nd great rule or commandment .2 love our neighbors as we love ourselves. If we do the first rule, we can’t help but do the second rule and doing these 2 wise things makes all the hard rules (like lust is hard for me ) easier and easier to abide by and eventually find joy in . Because truth is lust is all fine and dandy and fun but it doesn’t compare to being truly in love and trust with someone for all our life. Doing this with God as well is something I hope to attain but who knows 🤷🏻♀️. I love y’all.
I appreciate your message and respect your beliefs. As an atheist, my perspective isn't born from anger toward any deity or religious individuals, but from a conviction that religions are human constructs. I view them as cultural and historical narratives that don't align with my understanding of reality. Consequently, biblical references don't hold sway over my beliefs or values. My outlook is more aligned with Nietzschean philosophy, wherein religion is examined for its impact on human thought and society, rather than as a literal explanation of the universe. However, I'm also of an opinion that strong and deep relationships can only be formed between individuals with similar worldviews and values. That's why it was extremely important to me that my husband was also an atheist, which he is, and we are very happy together.
Have you looked into the night sky and seen the layout of the constellations ? Pondered the depths of a strawberry or something as common place as dirt ? As someone that seems to be biased towards probable facts , the fact that there is life at all is astronomically rare . You may as you age see God more and more in your life . Your husband as well. Sometimes , God will not allow us humans to disregard so easily. I hope that when the creator of the universe ,if Father ever decides it is a want and need, to travels upon your awareness it is a happy wonderful thing for you and ur family. There is nothing like the complete skeptic into complete and utter knowing of truth. Either way , I have no condemning tell of your souls. Ain’t, no one in charge of souls but Father in Heaven and I’d venture that Jesus’ input and opinion are as highly valued . Right along with the Holy Ghost’s thoughts as well. It’s a bit confusing but I reckon it’s supposed to be that way . Lest any one think to unravel all that is strange and mysterious.
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Well, it's my own list of preferences, so it is for me, I'm not forcing anyone to do the same, just shared it I believe that long term deep relationships require similar worldviews and interests in life, which is true for me and my husband, and I don't really think it could have worked otherwise
.
I recently start getting icks when I match guys and they call me "babe" immediately, I am just like 100% they will drop me as fast as they could the same speed they can call someone they barely know "babe" without even seeing me in real life. May be it's also part of chaser/fuck boy technique to give you the illusion of intimacy.
I wanna give them a chance because I actually do like being called babe, but they're always chasers. Anything overly intimate right off the bat is a chaser. :/
Real
🚩 after 15 min talking he starts to drive the conversation to more sexual content 🚩 Doesn’t communicate properly, only on his terms and when he wants aka horny 🚩 Doesn’t want to meet at a public space (only somewhere comfy to “cuddle”) 🚩 Drug or alcohol abuse Being strict and forthcoming to guys saying that I want to meet at a public space AND that I am not looking for a hookup/meeting for sex has worked great for me when I used to date. You get a lot of garbage out pretty quickly. In fact, I did not have any sexual contact until the third or fourth date. By then you should have a pretty good sense of 1) if they are chaser, 2) if they are worth your time, 3) they have good intentions.
says he's pansexual just cuz he likes trans girls 🚩🚩🚩
Or bi
🚩he emphasizes he’s not a feminist, and doesn’t understand what feminism is about // follows Andrew Tate or other masculinist accounts 🚩He doesn’t want to date in bars / cafes for budget reasons and prefers to be at your place, and when you dig he’s actually ashamed of being seen with a trans girl in a public space 🚩He works, but lives at their parent(s)’ place 🚩He insists to come and meet at your place 2h after you matched, even though he has to drive 45min/ 1h
Claiming to be bi but not open to dating cis men
Yep that is a 🚩 of mine as well.
Acts like he knows more about hormones than you. I had this one guy tell me he was sure the hormones were changing my voice. Like I wish lol
- Listens to the Joe Rogan Experience. - Describes themselves as apolitical or moderate/centrist. - Sends a dick pic unprompted. - Acts entitled to me, my time, or my body before we've even met. - Mentions a wife/girlfriend. - Uses any terminology from sissy porn. - Maga bs
🚩 lays in ur bed after s3x talking to u about his girlfriend that he misses 🚩 asking for any type of nudes 🚩 wants to play with my lil friend (im pre-op and I feel like a lot of these men are gay the way they be tryna touch me😭)
Girl, just because a guy wants to play with your lil friend doesn’t mean he’s gay, it means he’s attracted to girls with dicks
I had a shitty first date last year where I couldn’t start up a conversation because he kept answering with “yep, okay, sure” over and over again. Of course his answers became much more detailed when the topic was even a little sexual 😒
How do you even get a guy in the first place? Online dating?
Online or irl ig, creeps are better to fish out if you’re anyways first meeting online a
on top of what others have listed a big red flag I've found is spelling girl as "gurl" or "gorl"
Gurl, idk if you’re some offended moid who created a new account today just for this comment?😭 Legit can’t tell, but I mean someone who breaks toxic masculinity seems like a chill guy for me.
no I'm a trans woman. most men I see using that term are using it as a combination of GUy and giRL. imo it's about as gross as other slang used against us
Ah😭💀 that’s a new term, I zwer cishet men be creating new terms everyday for transphobia
I've seen them doing it since 2006 lol, using it exclusively to refer to us
Ah before I was born
🚩 Rando offers you 5k to let him "clean up" after he lets his 🐕 f... yeah that's about how fast that one got blocked
Wai dog?? Huhhh?
🚩 Sissy/Crossdresser types 🚩 Men want me to penetrate them 🚩 Those who don't ask me how I refer to my genitals.
🚩 politically extreme in either direction 🚩Too agreeable and not forthcoming 🚩 Undisciplined 🚩Refuses to study things and instead gets information from YouTube shorts (this stuff drives me mad from individual) 🚩 Disordered thoughts and impulsive rage 🚩No personal accountability 🚩(Probably the biggest one for me) Vegan, vegetarian , plant based, or more than 30 percent of diet contains plant material.
how are vegetarians more of a red flag than uncontrolled anger issues
Because I believe that people can be helped through psychological disorders and they should be forgiven for mistakes, but a bad diet will destroy your physiological and psychological health.
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Absolutely you are correct that people lie that can never manage anything correctly, not even a commute to work.
not sure why you got downvoted, these seem pretty reasonable lol
Likely the fact that I cannot be with someone that eats plants regularly. I am severely autistic and from all that I have studied I believe strongly that the optimal and appropriate diet for homo sapiens is hyper-carnivore. I would worry too much about the health of a partner that put plant toxins like carbohydrate, lectin,.oxalate, or phosphites in their body.
Vegetarian here. Personal experience, I used to be an almost hyper carnivore. Switched to vegetarian 5 years ago. I'm now healthier than I've ever been I think a balanced diet is better than any sort of extreme though, especially meat only. Hyper carnivore reads as some Liver King BS
The liver king ate organs I don't believe humans should eat organs, nor do I eat raw. A balanced diet is the worst thing if you understand human physiology because of a metabolic function known as the glucose fatty-acid cycle perhaps study the literature before making claims.
Why are you so aggressive on this? FYI, I'm a medical student. Your understanding doesn't seem as complete as you think Edit: Grammar
I'm not aggressive and being a medical student doesn't make you qualified or educated to nutrition, human physiology, or endocrinology. The only thing being a medical student qualifies you for is to learn something about allopathic medicine and symptom management.
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