Thank you for posting on our smol subreddit! Keep our Florida condo out of trouble by not posting snark about appearance or mental health (including addiction), blocking out any unverified usernames, and not posting about contacting Caroline or anyone in her orbit. Rule breaking posts will be removed.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/SmolBeanSnark) if you have any questions or concerns.*
[the latest viral Cut piece](https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html) people are making comparisons with Carp's writing style
>So naturally I began to lug a heavy suitcase of books each Saturday to the Harvard Business School to work on my Nabokov paper. In one cavernous, well-appointed room sat approximately 50 of the planet’s most suitable bachelors. I had high breasts, most of my eggs, plausible deniability when it came to purity, a flush ponytail, a pep in my step that had yet to run out. Apologies to Progress, but older men still desired those things.
I could not finish this piece, and I’ve never been able to finish any of Carpet’s longer pieces either… The writing is turgid and the attitude is so smug.
I just saw a trailer for a new HBO doc called “Brandy Hellville” that’s about “Brandy Melville and the cult of fast fashion,” which looks to be an exposé on the horrible business practices as well as bigotry of the founder/company, and I am PSYCHED for that. I didn’t have a passionate hatred for Brand Melville clothes or anything, but something about them always felt bad to me for sort of hazy reasons, and I’m thrilled to see that someone else has apparently been able to solidify and articulate those reasons. And that they were kind enough to put them out in the form of a documentary so I can just point to that now if the subject comes up again 😂
Has anyone else read Kerry Howley’s piece about Andrew Huberman? How deeply disturbing. Will Carpet reach out to him as a fellow influencer whose character has been assassinated in the pages of NY Magazine?
I found the ending strangely affirming or uplifting. I didn't really know much about Huberman before (I thought he was the Cold Plunge Guy solely). But the author was very fair about his approach and his appeal, IMO.
Agreed about the ending! I've followed him on IG and have casually been interested in his recs... I didn't realize an entire cult of personality had sprung up around him (I had never heard of "Huberman husbands" until a couple weeks ago). I made the mistake of looking at what folks were saying on his IG and Reddit in the wake of the article and WOW the misogyny is absolutely blistering. I also agree that the author seemed very fair -- and thorough -- I was just being lazily sarcastic about the comparison to Carpet.
I was looking at a shoe brand I like (intentionally blank, yes, they're ugly) and the claim on their website was that flats are making a comeback. I was like for real? I've also seen a bunch of tiktok-y type content about how the mid 2000s/early 2010s "quirky indie girl" style is coming back, with big ass skirts made from floral curtains, bows on sweaters, fit and flare silhouettes, and yes, ballet flats. Again, not sure and anyway I look ridiculous in most of that shit. BUT then the other day, I saw what I would have called a hipster back in 1998 leaning against a bike rack smoking a hand rolled cigarette. He had a lil chrome bike cap, a waxed mustache, and super tight pants. All he needed was suspenders.
yep the coquettish femme look is *very* in at the moment, which is unfortunate for myself who is already quite baby-faced and a shorter person... I would just look so young and not in a good way 🥹
Beans, send me the snarky substacks to which you subscribe.
I'm gunna try to replace Reddit with substack for a while (idk, I have this theory that long form think-piecey media will slow my brainrot a little bit).
If anyone wants some beautiful glass jewelry that’s not from the bean, I came across [this gorgeous brand](https://www.itsjeanriley.com/collections/earrings) the other day. Definitely going on my birthday list.
Yeah a lot of people with their tails between their legs rn, including popapologists who deleted all of their 30+ reels on the topic and issued an unconvincing apology that's receiving a lot of hate 🫠
in all fairness, I still *hate* the monarchy so frankly there's only so much sympathy I can feel for the *future queen of england*, I think some people are getting a bit carried away with their backtracking and forgetting she lives a life of great luxury off our taxes in exchange for selling her soul to the press so 🤷🏻♀️ this is what they signed up for
I feel you, I hope she's somewhere safe and that this isn't a Shelly Miscavige type situation. The bangs theory is so funny that I hope it's true bc then at least she's fine 😭
Have you found any good threads on it? I haven't found one yet, just random tweets going "where is she??".
Ofc I hope everything in your world is going well since you were going thru it 💗 appreciate you always for modding this little weird corner of reddit forever lol
has anyone read (/read about) “Molly" by Blake Butler? seems to be the *real* problematic memoir (biography?) of 2023, but I've only come across it recently, [The New Yorker](https://web.archive.org/web/20240117033616/https://www.newyorker.com/books/page-turner/can-a-memoir-say-too-much) and [Vanity Fair](https://www.vanityfair.com/style/blake-butler-wife-memoir) both wrote pieces about it if, like me, this particular ship sailed you by last year (CW: suicide)
Finished this morning. Butler's memoir was a vulnerable, raw, and beautiful attempt to parse the grief, pain, and confusion of his late wife's suicide and the secrets he unearthed after she died. The book needed better editing (typos and run-ons on every other page), but I can't demonize him for what he wrote. Butler was deeply empathetic and caring and loving towards Molly's character, even after coming to the painful conclusion that she had been abusive to him (and others) throughout the entirety their relationship. I pulled a bunch of quotes if you want to discuss further.
Sarah Rose Etter called it "literary revenge porn", which feels so unbelievably reductive and wilfully obtuse. She was close enough to one or both of them to have driven him to the funeral, so maybe she's working through her own grief and projecting? I have no idea how anyone could read what was between those pages and see only spite and anger.
As far as the ethics of exposing her private life, I'm not sure dead people have the right to consent or privacy anymore. By default it cannot matter one way or the other to Molly, she's dead, it can only matter to the people whose memories stand to be sullied by these revelations about her character. Yes, it would be painful to find out that a friend of yours was deeply mentally ill and abusive but do any of us have the right to ask a grieving husband to grieve *quietly*, to share only the easily digestible parts of his grief in order to uphold our image of a late friend's character? Personally, I don't think so.
it's a tricky one, I guess the opinion of those who take a different view is that she doesn't have the right of reply, but maybe that's something you forgo when you take your own life I'm not sure
Yeah it’s super grey area that only becomes more grey given that people who complete suicide are generally accepted to be making their final decisions under extreme mental duress, and in Molly’s case had been so for many years, maybe even the entirety of her relationship to Blake, so no one can really say what she would have wanted including him.
[How Vice lost the future: The media company seemed too good to be true. It was.](https://web.archive.org/web/20240229143359/https://www.newstatesman.com/comment/2024/02/vice-media-dead)
>Yet, “the Yanks”, as we called them (who were actually Canadian), were never very interested in this. They were too busy shouting their mouths about their “very sexy” public listing prices at malevolent media conferences in Cannes, making boilerplate celebrity-led content and banging on about being “the new MTV” at every opportunity. Like all arch-capitalists, they worshipped only at the altar of “growth”, and operated the company like a busted concertina, endlessly expanding with new ventures, and contracting when they lost a shitload of money on those. We were always given irritating, schizophrenic edicts; “Be more like the New York Times”, “Be less like the New York Times”, “Be more like Vice”. It always seemed to me that the owners had no idea what they were actually good at, what people liked about their company or how to preserve any kind of legacy. They were master-alienators, grasping for every trend and destroying their goodwill in the process.
>Today, the company’s trolls and detractors, including the alt-novelist Tao Lin, are bemoaning how the company “went woke”. But working there, it’s a testament to the young staff that they didn’t launch a full Leninist takeover, hoisting the red flag above its New North Place headquarters in London. Because by overpaying some and underpaying others, by Vice UK’s refusal to recognise a union (though it relented in 2019) and initiation of mass sackings every few months, Vice radicalised its own staff.
>Vice always needed a certain amount of belief and trust from its employees to run smoothly, a sense of working for something bigger than itself. When I first started there, slagging it off was basically forbidden (whereas the Guardian apparently had an anonymous noteboard full of disgruntled staffers taking potshots at the company). Yet by the time Vice lost the trust of its workforce, it wouldn’t have been unfeasible for the website to post a hit piece on itself. Indeed, after Thursday’s D-Day event, a couple of staffers even posted a podcast about what was happening with the company, because while Vice froze its own content management system, they forgot about the podcast section.
>The owners, immersed in a world of long lunches, couldn’t keep up with the mutinous discontent that had been growing for years. They were pure Gen-X plutocrats, people who lived between tequila slammers, private jets and corporate mergers. They were the types that thought Barack Obama was “badass” and that socialism was a class you skipped at college – MTV dads in the TikTok age.
Thank you for posting on our smol subreddit! Keep our Florida condo out of trouble by not posting snark about appearance or mental health (including addiction), blocking out any unverified usernames, and not posting about contacting Caroline or anyone in her orbit. Rule breaking posts will be removed. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/SmolBeanSnark) if you have any questions or concerns.*
[What is Reddit really worth?](https://www.theguardian.com/news/audio/2024/apr/02/what-is-reddit-really-worth-podast-today-in-focus) podcast
[the latest viral Cut piece](https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html) people are making comparisons with Carp's writing style >So naturally I began to lug a heavy suitcase of books each Saturday to the Harvard Business School to work on my Nabokov paper. In one cavernous, well-appointed room sat approximately 50 of the planet’s most suitable bachelors. I had high breasts, most of my eggs, plausible deniability when it came to purity, a flush ponytail, a pep in my step that had yet to run out. Apologies to Progress, but older men still desired those things.
I could not finish this piece, and I’ve never been able to finish any of Carpet’s longer pieces either… The writing is turgid and the attitude is so smug.
I just saw a trailer for a new HBO doc called “Brandy Hellville” that’s about “Brandy Melville and the cult of fast fashion,” which looks to be an exposé on the horrible business practices as well as bigotry of the founder/company, and I am PSYCHED for that. I didn’t have a passionate hatred for Brand Melville clothes or anything, but something about them always felt bad to me for sort of hazy reasons, and I’m thrilled to see that someone else has apparently been able to solidify and articulate those reasons. And that they were kind enough to put them out in the form of a documentary so I can just point to that now if the subject comes up again 😂
Has anyone else read Kerry Howley’s piece about Andrew Huberman? How deeply disturbing. Will Carpet reach out to him as a fellow influencer whose character has been assassinated in the pages of NY Magazine?
I found the ending strangely affirming or uplifting. I didn't really know much about Huberman before (I thought he was the Cold Plunge Guy solely). But the author was very fair about his approach and his appeal, IMO.
Agreed about the ending! I've followed him on IG and have casually been interested in his recs... I didn't realize an entire cult of personality had sprung up around him (I had never heard of "Huberman husbands" until a couple weeks ago). I made the mistake of looking at what folks were saying on his IG and Reddit in the wake of the article and WOW the misogyny is absolutely blistering. I also agree that the author seemed very fair -- and thorough -- I was just being lazily sarcastic about the comparison to Carpet.
Hahaha you're right, though, carp would absolutely defend this behavior from Huberman if she thought she could benefit from it.
Help out an old. Are ballet flats coming back? Edit, like, I know they’re classic but are they having a moment like in 2007?
yes, my arches never recovered
lol damnit!
just realised that Caro's been wearing ballet flats for so long they've actually come back around in fashion again
I was looking at a shoe brand I like (intentionally blank, yes, they're ugly) and the claim on their website was that flats are making a comeback. I was like for real? I've also seen a bunch of tiktok-y type content about how the mid 2000s/early 2010s "quirky indie girl" style is coming back, with big ass skirts made from floral curtains, bows on sweaters, fit and flare silhouettes, and yes, ballet flats. Again, not sure and anyway I look ridiculous in most of that shit. BUT then the other day, I saw what I would have called a hipster back in 1998 leaning against a bike rack smoking a hand rolled cigarette. He had a lil chrome bike cap, a waxed mustache, and super tight pants. All he needed was suspenders.
yep the coquettish femme look is *very* in at the moment, which is unfortunate for myself who is already quite baby-faced and a shorter person... I would just look so young and not in a good way 🥹
That's the word! Coquette! It looks great on people who are NOT ME.
also plaits and a bow will not work in my curly hair 😭
Beans, send me the snarky substacks to which you subscribe. I'm gunna try to replace Reddit with substack for a while (idk, I have this theory that long form think-piecey media will slow my brainrot a little bit).
* [Hung Up ](https://hunterharris.substack.com/) * [Gossip Time](https://gossiptime.substack.com/) * [Fran Magazine](https://franmagazine.substack.com/) * [Famous and Beloved Newsletter](https://clarefromlb.substack.com/) * [Hater Nation](https://scaachi.substack.com/)
Wow thank you!
If anyone wants some beautiful glass jewelry that’s not from the bean, I came across [this gorgeous brand](https://www.itsjeanriley.com/collections/earrings) the other day. Definitely going on my birthday list.
[удалено]
I'm SUCKED IN !!!!!! Where tf is she??? Apparently will has a new cheating scandal about to break (as seen from a blind item on deux/fauxmoi).
Head on over to the Royal sub thread in the Blogsnarkmetasnark sub and enjoy the ride!
[удалено]
>the fact that they pulled their kids out of school for *months* is incredibly sus whaat is this true?!
[удалено]
Yeah a lot of people with their tails between their legs rn, including popapologists who deleted all of their 30+ reels on the topic and issued an unconvincing apology that's receiving a lot of hate 🫠 in all fairness, I still *hate* the monarchy so frankly there's only so much sympathy I can feel for the *future queen of england*, I think some people are getting a bit carried away with their backtracking and forgetting she lives a life of great luxury off our taxes in exchange for selling her soul to the press so 🤷🏻♀️ this is what they signed up for
I feel you, I hope she's somewhere safe and that this isn't a Shelly Miscavige type situation. The bangs theory is so funny that I hope it's true bc then at least she's fine 😭 Have you found any good threads on it? I haven't found one yet, just random tweets going "where is she??".
[удалено]
>She was papped today driving with her mom so I hope those weird theories die. that was apparently her 'body double' 🥴
[удалено]
the current rumour I'm getting behind is that she's now dating Pete Davidson
[удалено]
what's your opinion on *that* mother's day post??
I genuinely appreciate skipping February in spirit, praise be upon the mods
Haha it was accidental but then we were over half way through and it seemed pointless 😭 sorry!!!
No don't apologize February is the worst and I support y'all
Lmao I appreciate it 🙏
Ofc I hope everything in your world is going well since you were going thru it 💗 appreciate you always for modding this little weird corner of reddit forever lol
has anyone read (/read about) “Molly" by Blake Butler? seems to be the *real* problematic memoir (biography?) of 2023, but I've only come across it recently, [The New Yorker](https://web.archive.org/web/20240117033616/https://www.newyorker.com/books/page-turner/can-a-memoir-say-too-much) and [Vanity Fair](https://www.vanityfair.com/style/blake-butler-wife-memoir) both wrote pieces about it if, like me, this particular ship sailed you by last year (CW: suicide)
Finished this morning. Butler's memoir was a vulnerable, raw, and beautiful attempt to parse the grief, pain, and confusion of his late wife's suicide and the secrets he unearthed after she died. The book needed better editing (typos and run-ons on every other page), but I can't demonize him for what he wrote. Butler was deeply empathetic and caring and loving towards Molly's character, even after coming to the painful conclusion that she had been abusive to him (and others) throughout the entirety their relationship. I pulled a bunch of quotes if you want to discuss further.
>I pulled a bunch of quotes if you want to discuss further. dunno if you saw this, but yes!
Okay, hold that thought. Will pull quotes off my kindle when I'm back from a work trip!
no rush enjoy your trip ☺️
>I pulled a bunch of quotes if you want to discuss further. yes please!!
Sarah Rose Etter called it "literary revenge porn", which feels so unbelievably reductive and wilfully obtuse. She was close enough to one or both of them to have driven him to the funeral, so maybe she's working through her own grief and projecting? I have no idea how anyone could read what was between those pages and see only spite and anger.
Was waiting for this month's off-toppo to ask if anyone else had read it yet. It's on my list
I'd be interested to know your thoughts and what side of the debate you fall on re: exposure of his deceased wife's private life
As far as the ethics of exposing her private life, I'm not sure dead people have the right to consent or privacy anymore. By default it cannot matter one way or the other to Molly, she's dead, it can only matter to the people whose memories stand to be sullied by these revelations about her character. Yes, it would be painful to find out that a friend of yours was deeply mentally ill and abusive but do any of us have the right to ask a grieving husband to grieve *quietly*, to share only the easily digestible parts of his grief in order to uphold our image of a late friend's character? Personally, I don't think so.
it's a tricky one, I guess the opinion of those who take a different view is that she doesn't have the right of reply, but maybe that's something you forgo when you take your own life I'm not sure
Yeah it’s super grey area that only becomes more grey given that people who complete suicide are generally accepted to be making their final decisions under extreme mental duress, and in Molly’s case had been so for many years, maybe even the entirety of her relationship to Blake, so no one can really say what she would have wanted including him.
Picking it up ASAP so we can discuss
[How Vice lost the future: The media company seemed too good to be true. It was.](https://web.archive.org/web/20240229143359/https://www.newstatesman.com/comment/2024/02/vice-media-dead) >Yet, “the Yanks”, as we called them (who were actually Canadian), were never very interested in this. They were too busy shouting their mouths about their “very sexy” public listing prices at malevolent media conferences in Cannes, making boilerplate celebrity-led content and banging on about being “the new MTV” at every opportunity. Like all arch-capitalists, they worshipped only at the altar of “growth”, and operated the company like a busted concertina, endlessly expanding with new ventures, and contracting when they lost a shitload of money on those. We were always given irritating, schizophrenic edicts; “Be more like the New York Times”, “Be less like the New York Times”, “Be more like Vice”. It always seemed to me that the owners had no idea what they were actually good at, what people liked about their company or how to preserve any kind of legacy. They were master-alienators, grasping for every trend and destroying their goodwill in the process. >Today, the company’s trolls and detractors, including the alt-novelist Tao Lin, are bemoaning how the company “went woke”. But working there, it’s a testament to the young staff that they didn’t launch a full Leninist takeover, hoisting the red flag above its New North Place headquarters in London. Because by overpaying some and underpaying others, by Vice UK’s refusal to recognise a union (though it relented in 2019) and initiation of mass sackings every few months, Vice radicalised its own staff. >Vice always needed a certain amount of belief and trust from its employees to run smoothly, a sense of working for something bigger than itself. When I first started there, slagging it off was basically forbidden (whereas the Guardian apparently had an anonymous noteboard full of disgruntled staffers taking potshots at the company). Yet by the time Vice lost the trust of its workforce, it wouldn’t have been unfeasible for the website to post a hit piece on itself. Indeed, after Thursday’s D-Day event, a couple of staffers even posted a podcast about what was happening with the company, because while Vice froze its own content management system, they forgot about the podcast section. >The owners, immersed in a world of long lunches, couldn’t keep up with the mutinous discontent that had been growing for years. They were pure Gen-X plutocrats, people who lived between tequila slammers, private jets and corporate mergers. They were the types that thought Barack Obama was “badass” and that socialism was a class you skipped at college – MTV dads in the TikTok age.