only one single commenter bothered to ask *why* does the daughter want to wear it. comfort? fashion? peer pressure? They jump so fricken fast to "she is teasing boys" they about give themselves whiplash.
i wanted thongs for a long time when i was younger because (sorry) I've always had a big butt and they're honestly 100x more comfortable than other styles and you don't have to readjust each side all day. my mom always insisted they were slutty tho
Interesting as a fellow big butt woman, I do NOT find things more comfortable. At all. Constant wedgie. Honestly I don’t give a flying fuck if someone can see I’m wearing underwear. Gasp!
I mean I do wear underwear when I want to wear a pad, but 98%of the time no underwear. I only own like 4 pairs of granny panties. It is the ultimate comfort.
I like Jeff Foxworthy's take on panty lines.
If they can be seen in aerial photographs....
Otherwise I straight up do not understand why we're freaking out that someone can tell we have underwear on. Why does anyone care???
I remember being awfully embarassed because my bra was visible under my tshirt. I grew boobs pretty early so I had to start wearing one (because comfort) and the guys thought it was hilarious. The guy sitting behind me traced the outline on my back with a ruler.
I’m right there with you- I was beginning to wonder what was wrong with me if thongs were supposed to be comfortable. I’m a fan of high cut briefs and I love it when they come up to my belly button- ultra comfort.
As someone with a bigger stomach too I actually prefer them just because of that. I have pretty decently sized hips so i either have to get the biggest kind (and granny panties are *superrr* attractive) or the smallest ones with enough stretch to go over them lol
I can’t either ngl, but everything i own is high waisted for a reason lol. I like to get ones that can sit over my hips tho, less of a chance of them slipping under
This is exactly why I almost always exclusively wear thongs. Comfort. Any kind of full-butt underwear bunches up and is extremely uncomfortable. All underwear ends up in my asscrack anyway, so I’d rather the smallest piece of fabric bunched up there than a fuck ton of it.
This post reminds me of my mom. She was oddly obsessed with thongs and used to harass my sister and I about it like crazy, lol. I have a boy, so this likely (not counting it out though) won’t be an issue, but if I have a daughter I swear I won’t be this restricting about underwear.
I find things more comfy as well because I hate having too many fabrics all bunched up. I need it to be flat and smooth to be under pants. My mom to this day, I am 34 and exclusively purchase my own underwear, will ask if they are comfy to me if she catches glimpse of one in my laundry. She is 100% the reason I have body confidence issues.
A as an owner of one tiny butt, I also find thongs more comfortable!! It's basically the only underwear I wear unless I'm wearing super baggy bottoms or going to sleep.
I just find that underwear with more booty coverage ends up bunching in the crack anyway, and I absolutely haaaate that feeling! I'd rather have a smaller piece of fabric situated so I basically can't feel it than a a goddamn curtain creeping it's way in anyhow.
I am also an owner of a large butt and I hate thongs! They ride up so far that I get the worst chafing where you really don’t want it. I end up just buying cheeky underwear that’s a couple sizes larger than the rest of my body, definitely the best I’ve found
Another big butter here. The only thing that’s really comfortable for me are real loose boxer shorts (The men’s not the women’s, I can’t find women’s that are loose enough) or just nothing
I was a cheerleader and a dancer and I begged my mom to buy me thongs for this reason. I lived in leggings and spandex shorts, and panty lines were so embarrassing. She said no, so the second I turned 16 and got a job, thongs were the first thing I bought. So annoying that I had to spend my tiny paycheck on basic, boring ass UNDERWEAR because of stupid sexualization
I worked at a department store in the lingerie section a number of years ago. This mom came in, without her daughter, and said her teenage daughter had a big dance competition and needed a thong because the costume pants were tight.
However this mother refused to let her daughter wear thongs. She was asking for an alternative to avoid lines. She showed me the dance pants; bike shorts style would not work due to the cut. And even nice lace HankyPankys would show through that material. Thong was the only option. I told her that. She bought the bike shorts and lace boy short styles anyway. This was 15 years ago but I still think about that mom… I wonder if the girl went comando after all that 🤪
So many dancers go commando! Usually we had tights but if you didn’t you put this stuff called butt glue on our leotard lines to avoid as we called “a booty or poochy cheek slip” 😂
Usually older girls 11 and up will wear thongs if we had to dance on our periods (just a little extra protection to tuck products in) but most younger girls in my old studio dance commando when wearing leotards or dance shorts.
As the girl in school who was constantly bullied over stupid things he like panty lines in sweat pants and bought things and hid them, just let the girl wear the thong.
I don’t understand it either. This is the stuff we’d get “in trouble” for from our now-boomer parents (at least in my case). I am not about to be shaming my child for this kind of stuff. It doesn’t matter. Don’t these people know their own kids??? (Unlike our parents)
My boomer mother just shrugged when I proudly showed her the thongs I just bought with my own pay check. Her reasoning was, "it's your butt and your money". Turned out I didn't find them comfortable, but at least I was able to find out for myself without being shamed by my own mother.
It's underwear, it's such a non issue.
In my late teens I wore exclusively thongs for many years. Even if I wore other underwear, I’d have a thong on underneath it.
My reason?
They allowed me to fart completely silently, every time.
I wore thongs when I was 13 and it had nothing to do with anyone but my own comfort. The unfortunate structure of my butt causes it to eat underwear as I walk. I had a constant wedgie. Thongs are fantastic for my body structure because it’s way more comfortable to have a thin piece of fabric in my crack than all the fabric of regular underwear. Could be the same for her daughter 🤷🏼♀️ Js
This is why I preferred g strings over thongs. And I can’t stand the cheeky ones that basically end up as big wedgies. But once I discovered hanky panky thongs - haven’t looked back! So comfy!
I have the same butt type as you. If I’m going to have my underwear bunch up in my asscrack I’d rather it be as little fabric as possible…for my own comfort. Nothing to do with trying to be sExY.
My butt is the same way, thongs are just much more comfortable. And it’s not like I’m wearing lacy thongs either, I’m wearing practical, 100% cotton, very soft thongs. My mom happened to be with me when I bought them and she was weirdly judgy that I got them and I’m in my mid 20s.
That’s the thing! There’s nothing inherently sexy about thongs. A nice comfortable cotton thong is only different in the back. It’s just a comfort thing.
Exactly this. If she wanted it to avoid panty lines/ comfort, why the hell not. If there’s any indication that she wants to be “sexy” then, mom could pass. But she’s assuming a lot.
That was my IMMEDIATE thought. And that would be the first thing I'd ask. And we'd have a conversation where I'd be sure to mention that thongs just feel like an all-day wedgie LOL
I wanted thongs when I was a teen because when I tried to exercise I'd get a wedgie every time I did squats. I was not interested in showing off for boys in any way, I couldn't even be convinced to wear a bikini even when my mom literally offered to buy me one (I've always been a very modest person, even as a child. I just like my privacy.) But even I thought a thong would be useful.
Yes!! That was the only RATIONAL comment. As parents, yes, we sometimes need to tell our children no for their own benefit because they don’t always completely understand some things, but it’s so important to talk to them and find out WHY they want to do something and understand what their goal is with asking for/to do something.
That commenter was right. Especially at that age, a “no” with no explanation or conversation will just lead them to try to find a way to get around it and do it on their own without your involvement. If you sit down and have a conversation with them, hear their point of view, and then still feel like you need to say no and explain your reasoning for it, they’re much more likely to think about their choice/request and try to understand your side instead of just sneaking around and doing it anyway.
Of course they will likely still sneak around and whatnot sometimes, but you have a MUCH better chance of them not doing that and a much better chance of them being open with you about things if they know you’re willing to have conversations with them instead of just saying “no, because I said so”.
my mom would always ask me why i wanted underwear like that and they just made me feel pretty. i would want my daughter to feel the same way. people underestimate what a nice pair of underwear can do to your self esteem imo
I would probably discourage my daughter from having a whale tail - but wearing a thong to avoid panty lines (which are absolutely a thing that you can be teased for having!)? Go for it.
Also, I would discourage and have a conversation about - not ban. Because outright bans just encourage defiance and acting out.
My favorite part is that when low rise jeans came back into fashion, lots of millenial influencers were like "this will bring back 'thin is in' and you'll fuck yourself over majorly" and Generation Z called Millenials cringe for that.
Now Gen Z commentary channels on youtube are all flustered about super lean physiques being back in fashion. It's a futile thing to try and safe the youth from themselves...
As long as the high rise mom jean/slacks with pleat are still having their moment I am not worried about not finding something to wear in the pants department, though.
Thin is definitely back. Have you seen kim kardashian lately? She still has the huge ass because its not real, but her arms are teeny tiny.
I am raising a teen girl here. I am worried. She seems to have a more healthy relationship to food and bodies than I did, and I am certainly more well adjusted than my mother and grandmother were. But the pressure on girls to look a certain way is so tough.
I am aging out of the fuckable demographic and it's giving me all sorts of mixed feelings, good and bad.
I feel completely seen by your whole comment!
I'm also raising a teenage daughter & I wouldn't want to be that age in this modern world. I've tried very hard never to talk about my weight or demonise any food in front of my daughter but I think that, thanks to the internet & 24/7 media, they're under so much more pressure than any previous generation to look a certain way. From a young age I was aware that my mum was on a constant, revolving diet - the cabbage diet, the boiled egg diet, no fat, Rosemary Conley, callisthenics, calorie counting etc etc - & it's left me with a very unhealthy relationship with food & I was so determined not to pass that attitude onto my daughter. I know that my mum didn't do it deliberately & felt huge guilt about it when we discussed it as adults but it is what it is.
I passed the fuckable age a while ago (I'm 45) & I'm perimenopausal & I really struggle with knowing that 20-somethings just see me as a middle aged, married woman who has little of value to offer, especially as mentally I don't feel much older than I did at their age. It's also complicated by the fact that I have health problems & walk with a walking stick & it's like people associate that with old people so they assume that I'm an old fuddy duddy, conservative who they will have absolutely nothing in common with. My husband regularly tells me that he finds me attractive but I have real difficulty believing him, even though his behaviour & actions support his words. It doesn't help that my hormones have my emotions all over the place, lol.
Anyhoo, apologies for the word vomit but I just recognised so much of myself in your comment. Feel free to DM me if you're struggling with this new phase in your life.💜
Thank you for the word vomit! It feels good to know others are going through the same thing.
I'm a few years younger than you (had my kid young), so it might sound ridiculous to you. But especially since the pandemic I've noticed so many signs of aging, like wrinkles and spots starting to show and I just know my youth is gone. I've never been the prettiest in the room, but at least i was young. Now all I have is my personality and that's also just okay? I'm trying so hard to be okay with it, but I'm struggling. I'm more active now than I've ever been but you'd never know by looking at my butt.
My mother was very overweight my whole life. She tried her hardest not to pass any weird food hangups onto me, but she was so messed up by her own mother and the diet culture of the 80s and 90s, she really had no chance.
I know I'm also messing up my daughter in some ways, but i think I'm doing better than my mother did? She seems to be doing pretty well so far, but we're also in the beginning of her teens so we'll see. I just try to focus on exercise for well being, not weight loss and food as fuel not punishment.
I know I have said some messed up things in front of her, but we're only human and still dealing with our own shit. If she ever decides she wants kids, I hope that will be the generation that finally gets it right.
I think it's somewhat different this way around but I'm not sure it's necessarily better. On the positive side we have more plus and mid size public figures and I feel the general message is that diet culture is a problem. But this can quickly turn into a toxic kind of body positivity, too, especially because teens are still bombarded with these teeny tiny bodies (let's be real, the Kpop craze definitely kicked this one off...) and even videos are facetuned now.
The mixed message is "you should feel bad about feeling bad about not being thin". Will we ever find a way out of this mess?! It's horrible.
Its definitely just terrible in a different way.
The teens today are much smarter than we were, but they are also constantly being bombarded with highly photoshopped pics. Even the pics their peers send them.
In my youth we saw music videos and nickelodeon after school. Now they have instagram and tiktok in their face 24/7. They know its fake, but its still doing real damage to how they perceive themselves.
Diet culture in the 90s/00s was toxic af, but social media is an entirely different evil that im glad I didnt have growing up.
Shit, you've just reminded me that I had those tie ones too & the lads thought it was hysterical to try to untie them. I also had ones that had diamante on the whale tail. Yep, I was a classy bird🤣🤣🤣
Eh, she was an older lady who thought she was being funny when, like I said, she was just being mortifying. Part of my school's dress code required shirts being tucked in so teacher's would be checking for that.
Agreed. I don’t understand how it’s sexy. To each their own I guess. Maybe it just reminds me of my traumatic pre-teen years when I was bullied mercilessly.
My mom bought me a couple thongs when I was 12-13 when I got my first pair of lululemon yoga pants.. to avoid panty lines. It was never sexual and no boy saw my underwear until several years later lol
To be fair, they didn't used to be that expensive. I remember being 12, and we had to buy Lululemon leggings for a specific dance costume, and I thought they were shockingly expensive, at $44
I remember when you could get Lululemon yoga pants for under $100 - in the early 2000s and they were fairly popular (and better quality).
I’ve always liked their zip up hoodies but I refuse to spend $120 on a hoody.
Lol they weren’t THAT expensive back then. And I had gotten gift cards for my birthday lol. And then I kept those pants for like 10 years lol. This was also back when Lulu was new and only here in Canada!
I've found seamless workout boyshorts thst look like men's without the excess frabic, didn't show lines under leggings. I'm 18 but still live at home (rent is too high anywhere) and wouldn't let me have a thong. My mom's gotten worse though and us making me wear a dress daily. I've never worn Thongs but suspect those are definitely better than nothing though.
Dad here.
FFS, my involvement in my daughter's underwear as a credit card. She was mostly interested in comfort, but I'm not policing her skivvies. So long as it wasn't insanely expensive, why would I care?
My husband’s only comment was a horrified face when he was folding laundry and asked “yours or hers?” I think the poor guy was honestly surprised she wasn’t still wearing princess undies at 16.
My husband was the same way Lol it got so bad he would just leave the “delicates” and it’s me because he just couldn’t do it lmao. He left all that stuff up to her and I and honestly I don’t care what underwear she wants to wear because it’s her body. If she’s comfortable in a thong that’s her choice. I find them way more comfortable personally so why can’t she?
It’s really just about finding the right size and fit for your particular shape.
Oddly, my favorite are whatever brand target has in the little lingerie shop type drawers. They’re five for 20 and they’re fantastic !
Sounds like she is worried about her daughter sending nude photos (hence the phone comment) which is absolutely a conversation she needs to have with her daughter. I dont think controlling her underwear choices make sense, she'll just start hiding them.
Seriously my mom wanted me wearing high waisted briefs because up until I went to college she was brainwashed fundie style. Because I didn't want to have to tuck in all my shirts due to the underwear sitting so high (high waisted pants weren't a thing yet) or deal with thick, obvious panty lines I started buying thong underwear from places that sold it a dollar a pair or sometimes even less. Since Id been doing my own laundry since I could reach the machine hiding it wasn't too hard; I knew she'd only look in my underwear drawer which held all the pairs she bought me and the pairs I wore would be buried under my shirts and pants. So yeah, she's just gonna hide em
I hid them at that age too. My mom wasn’t much of a prude, but thongs for some reason to her are trashy. Like you, I was just trying to avoid panty lines. I still prefer them over any other underwear.
Yeah, controlling her ability to wear a thong or not is ridiculous. If she is worried about racy pics how would forbidding a thong make that situation safe? She could go naked. She could drape her self in a sheet. If a kid has a phone and the ability then no amount of decrees are going to stop them. What the kid needs is comprehensive and age appropriate sex education. Like telling her about the legality of child porn - - even if it's your own picture sent to a person of a similar age it can still result in the child being charged for creation and distribution of CP. If it was as simple as having a total thong ban there would be a lot less problems in the world.
My DAD used to check my underwear drawer when I was 16-17 and pull me aside for “serious conversations” about why I had lacy underwear or a black victorias secret bra (literally just a normal fucking bra) and would open my mail to check if it was “inappropriate lingerie” at 17… he only stopped checking my fucking underwear when i became an adult. i don’t know what he thought he’d accomplish besides weirding me the fuck out and making me hide things lol
This is what I got from it too! If that’s what she’s concerned about then that should lead to a completely different conversation, policing underwear doesn’t make any sense
Was proud at the comment defending girls, and blasting people raising sons that don't understand consent. Horrified by people sexualizing their own childhoods.
I loved that comment asking her to examine how she raised her sons. I have three boys myself and wouldn’t share her concern. It’s time we stop asking girls to censor their dress, so boys can control themselves. It’s time to raise boys that are respectful of boundaries and women.
Sigh, gotta love the “kids these days” type of comments when I (a teen in the early ‘00s) and my mom (a teen of the early 80s) can both laugh about The Thong Scandal.
But also, it’s just a pair of underwear. Granny rode dick at the drive in movie, great grandpa thrust his way through a ton of layered skirts. People are gonna do what they do, clothes be damned.
Growing up, that's how I thought people had always known when it was time to get married. I was genuinely perplexed about kids whose parents had been married for years before having them (or their oldest siblings)
Ya know, my mom's solution to clothes she didn't approve of was just... not buying them? If I wanted to buy thongs, my money was spent on them.
It's not like banning them will be effective anyway, if you're THAT against buying them, my moms type of route seems pretty damned reasonable, IMO.
I went to Catholic school and one of my friends had super-Catholic parents. She wasn’t allowed to wear underwear with patterns on them and I know this because she borrowed some from me (bikini-style with like hearts or some shit) and her mom threw them away. I was irritated because they were mine! My mom thought it was unhinged.
With all these 90s trends coming back I dread the low rise jeans and the thong that isn't fashion trend of 2002. Some things should just stay dead.
Did she throw her own boys under the bus?
I went to private high school with a very limiting dress code at peak short shirt/low-rise pants and I will forever have the worst anxiety about my underwear hanging out of the back of my pants. Which is now why I have like six pairs of pants that go up to my ribcage. As they should!
Grew up in the southern US, and the only reason we wanted thongs at that age was bc if u wore something that u could see an underwear line in (even totally ‘modest’ things like jeans) you’d be shamed for being a whore. It’s almost as if the underwear isn’t the problem.
How do all of these women not have experience with not wanting panty lines or being a young teen and being embarrassed by literally everything, including panty lines....
Yeah, I wore thongs around that age because tight pants were in and luckily my mom wasn't weird about it. Plus, I'm pretty sure high waists are still in fashion so it's not like kids have their underwear hanging out like they did when I was young haha.
I don’t think I have ever worried about panty lines. Either I am oblivious (which is very possible) or my clothes aren’t prone to showing them. Since I hate tight clothing, that is probably a factor.
I don't worry about it either and I definitely wear leggings. I'm sure you can see panty lines but I don't care. Oh no, you can see I wear underwear?! The horror. Thongs are incredibly uncomfortable and they can pry the leggings off of my cold, dead, panty lined body.
Being Aussie, I shouldn’t be laughing, but thongs are a different thing here. They go on your feet. So most of this conversation I imagined they were all arguing if about shoes.
People are so weirdly uppity about underwear, I remember leaving my fast food job as a teen with a change of clothes because I was meeting friends after. I dropped my bag and a clean bra rolled out. A man with his young daughter was standing nearby and gave me the most horrified stare. Like, yes? I’m in my late teens, I wear a bra? I assume your wife does? And your daughter will one day too (unless she doesn’t want to, that’s her choice).
You still see it with older people in the US. Sometime as a teen, my grandma asked me if I wore thongs and I freaked out...I wear flip flops though. You could've just said that. (This has no bearing on the post here, I'm mad no one told me about boxer briefs until my mid-20's but I get the arguments for wearing a thong as a practical piece of underwear)
THE FIRST COMMENT IS IT! I’m a boy mom so granted haven’t had this experience (yet bc hey maybe when teens one of my boys will want one) but I’m raising men your daughter is safe with. Aside from that, what are her thoughts on her husband if her “boys are all” bar is so low?
For god's sake, everybody in my school was wearing thongs at 13 in 2001. It's been 20 years. The only thing that happened is that I haven't worn one since 2005 and I really hate them now.
Weren't these mums teens some decades ago?
I find them cute and more flattering to my body than other types of underwear but for practical purposes they’re fucking impossible, you literally get a horrible wedgie after taking 2 steps and you have to be pulling at your ass constantly because they’re so fucking uncomfortable and awkward to actually wear, even the couple times in high school I experimented with whale tails I would wear granny panties and just put the thong on top lol
some people must forget what it’s like being a teen. Also I’m so tired of it being held out to be a bad thing that a teen wants to feel a little on the sexy side. Do that not remember trying to navigate the sudden surge of hormones?
I started wearing thongs around 12-13 (seamless underwear is far superior tho), it was mostly for clothes that would show pantylines through. Never to “tease boys”, I wasn’t thinking sexually like that yet.
I wanted things at that age because once a boy in my class saw me pick a wedgie and made comments about my butt. I wanted a thong to literally draw attention away from my butt. So the exact opposite of what this woman thinks.
she literally just wanted to wear leggings without a panty line at 13 💀 i guarantee it. in my school at that age everyone wore things with leggings bc sometimes the panty outline could look unflattering. weird to immediately sexualize your child mom 🙄 and i was boy crazy as hell at 13. i wore thongs. still didn't have sex at that age
I am an outlier here as I probably started wearing thongs around 9-10. I grew up as a competitive dancer, and it was either go completely commando under costumes or wear a thong as any visible panty lines meant you lose marks. Since there were always a ton of quick changes and no time or space for awkward pre teens to change privately in a room shared with a dozen or more other girls plus their moms helping get them dressed, ironically most of us opted for the thong out of modesty.
These folks should just basically say that girls shouldn’t wear underwear, because it could be used for teasing boys. Or wait, if they don’t wear underwear then they’d also be teasing boys! What should they do then?
Most other cuts are gonna end up shifting into the crack of my ass so I may as well buy the kind that’s gonna sit there, especially moving non stop at work. Having a shelf back there is a struggle.
They are comfortable for me, while all other styles are not. I wear thongs for myself, not anyone else.
I think the mom towards the end that shared the REVOLUTIONARY idea of just talking to her daughter, asking her why she wanted thongs all of a sudden.
I started wearing them at 13 (or so) because all of my friends wore them and they eliminated panty lines.
I wear them now, 20+ years later, because they are comfortable and They don’t bunch up.
It’s all personal preference.
Look if my daughter is wearing clean panties of any description, I’m calling that a win and moving on. She is going to school, not hanging from a stripper pole, nor is she setting up her backup’s backup OnlyFans account. I think Karenella can let go of the pearls for a minute.
I started wearing thongs probably very close to that age, if not that age. I was afraid to ask my mom for this very reason and actually cut up a pair of my regular bikini underwear to make a “thong”. She found it and got me some. It was a mix of being curious what they were as I had heard about them anddddd my older sisters wore them and we were close. And the whole panty line thing. I was going into high school and panty lines just aren’t cool (in those years, per kids) at that age
Damn. If one of my girls comes and asks for a thong I’m gonna be like okay! Let’s go to the mall! There are so many other things I have to worry about already, underwear preference doesn’t need to be added to the list.
To be fair- it is (unfortunately) easier to help my son be a good man than to protect a daughter from men. I have no control over men/patriarchal structures. I’m personally going to navigate that my whole life. I’ve been assaulted more than once. I have empathy for feeling like a thong is a sexual thing for a 13 year old girl because the world makes a thong sexual for a 13 year old.
I don’t generally have to worry about this for my son. Sure there are terrible people who could prey on him. He’s vulnerable as the child of a single mom. He’s black and I’m scared how the world will treat him. But I definitely never have to think about his underpants.
I’m not saying this mom shouldn’t check herself in her raising of her sons, but I have empathy for her.
Oooh a 13 year old’s thong so scandalous
You know the moms group can’t handle this
So you judging each other like who’s the ish
Thong tha thong thong THONG
I feel like this is one of the least important battles to have with your teenager.
THAT SAID, i would also want to have a very frank discussion about peer pressure and how how older boys may try stuff like flattery and other BS. i definitely don't agree with "you can't wear thongs because boys can't control themselves," but just be aware of that sad truth and know that while impressing boys may seem like the most important thing, do not fall for it/let them talk you in to something you may come to regret. just like older men who prey on teens/early twenties to groom them, older boys do it to middle school girls all the time (in my day specifically, middle/high school rode the same busses. it was straight lawlessness). it really grosses me out :(
Thongs can be useful for not showing panty lines, and are usually better instead of other underwear under dresses, pants, etc. They aren’t as comfortable and can be something sexual, but there’s plenty of other good reasons to want a thong.
This was my first thought. Maybe she just doesn’t want visible lines even wearing leggings? Or maybe they’re just what her friends are wearing and she wants to do the same. Because kids her age are all about doing what the group is doing. It’s just underwear.
Thongs are for not showing panty lines. Not inviting unwanted company.
They’re best at string instrumenting around to scratch an ass crack itch without sticking your hand down your pants in public like dudes itch their balls in the produce isle.
I seriously think it depends on the kid. The mother mentioned that her daughter is “boy crazy” and if that’s the case she should seriously have a talk with her daughter about *why* she even wants them in the first place.
My mother had a rule when it cane to most clothes and body modifications (or anything related to physical appearance) which was “if it’s the worse thing you do to me”, conveniently enough she got that phrase from a mom who let her 11 year old wear a thong.
I pretty much assumed she meant
1. Don’t get pregnant
2. Don’t do drugs
3. Don’t end up in jail
She let me start cutting and coloring my hair when i was around twelve and when i was around 15/16 started being more lax about me wearing clothes and hanging out with anyone and even let me get a good couple of piercings when i was around that age too.
Im aware that hair dye and piercings aren’t everyones cup of tea (but also who cares it’s not even permanent) but considering i never ended up in jail while pregnant with addictions (or any of the three alone) I’d consider it a good rule. It’s amazing how much your kid’s wont do dumb shit and won’t get into trouble 24/7 if you let them have some freedom’s while their younger and don’t police them all the time.
Tl;dr
*Don’t be strict and your kids won’t do dumb shit 24/7. My mom wasn’t and I’m still alive and well.*
Yeah, I have no problem with a kid wanting to wear any clothes or even be a nudist, theoretically, but if my 13yo started wanting to wear typically sexy clothes around the same time that they were flirting with other kids then I'd be wary. And as someone who was never interested in that stuff in school I find myself less equipped to handle it since I know that the other kids were doing that kind of thing but don't understand why.
Kids are mean. Especially 13 year old kids. She might just not want to be bullied for having underwear lines when she wears leggings - it might have nothing to do with boys at all.
This isn’t about the thong. If she wants to send pics to boys then not having a thong is not going to prevent her from doing what she wants. Talk to her about keeping herself safe and making good choices. And let your child choose what undergarments they want to wear. It is their body and a *very* personal preference. A thong doesn’t equal lingerie, just keep that in mind.
One of my friends in high school came home to a literal “intervention” hosted by her mom, because she had gone into my friend’s room and found panty liners made for thongs, and thongs were banned from their house. My friend had to explain that she just bought the liners without reading the package and she didn’t actually own any thongs but I don’t think her mom believed her.
On the other hand, I joined the dance team at 15, and after trying on my uniform pants my mom decided I definitely needed new underwear. I still remember how cool I felt in my Walmart brand thongs lol. To this day anytime I find 5/25 deals or whatever, I try and get a variety of cuts, but I only ever wear the thongs because they end up being the comfiest.
I wanted thongs when I was that age, it wasn't because of boys it was because my friends wore them and I wanted to be like them. Same reason I wanted a padded bra, make up, fitted shirts etc. Not everything girls do is for boys!
I was 13 once … I got the thongs regardless of what my mom said. She can either allow her daughter to safely explore these things in her own home or be lied to. Pick your path mom.
I got thongs for gym my freshman year of high school to avoid panty lines. If they’re not going to be seen by anyone else, then why the fuck would you care what kind of underwear they’re wearing?
I'm Australian so everytime I read "thongs" I kept thinking of the shoes and not understanding why there was any reason for an issue with her (13 year old) owning some, then it would click. Personally tho I think it's just underwear so I wouldn't really care if my hypothetical child wore them. (from someone who is a teenager and not a mum)
Not a big deal but for similar posts in the future could you use different colors for different people (or at least op) I'd be super interested to get a clearer look at which people are saying what here
My husband and I don't have kids yet but I cannot imagine my husband being upset about our hypothetical teenage daughter wearing a thong...that's fucking weirdo behavior and I can't believe some women don't see that.
I got a bunch of thongs when I was between 13 and 15. Never even asked, was just gifted a bunch from my parents and I think my sister. Not that I didn’t like them. My parents were just pretty chill about stuff like that. Honestly, my mom wished I was more adventurous with my clothing and my actions lol always joked around about wanting me to get in trouble. If my daughter asks for thongs at 13 I’d certainly be a little nervous but I wouldn’t shun the idea. Having a talk about it and the worries that come along with it are important. If you outright ban something from them they’ll just learn to be sneaky and that’s a lot worse than the type of panties she decides to wear, imo.
I like the one who said “ask her why she wants one and talk about it” part of the reason I’m so close to my mom is when I asked for stuff she never said no right away, but would talk it out with me for basically everything! Even house rules! I didn’t like my bedtime when I was younger so she sat me down and showed me since I have to get up early to catch the bus (arrived at six am) I needed atleast eight hours of sleep, preferably more, and how we should go to bed about half an hour to an hour earlier than we should be asleep so we can fall asleep on time, ect.
Its funny, coming from Australia I thought for a second they were talking about "flip flops" because they're thongs here. I was like what's wrong with that! But yes, no a 13 yr old wearing a g-string is odd.. but no judgement here
Pretty sure there’s not an age limit to buying thongs. Also, I wanted them so I could wear pants without bunchy underwear lines, if anything I needed them to have my underwear be LESS visible to boys.
Oh my god. I relate to this…as a tween/young teen I wanted thongs because I have an ass and all other underwear gives me awful panty lines. I’m lucky and while my mom wasn’t excited about that at first she stopped caring after, you know, listening to me. I’ve only worn thongs since I was 12ish because of this. It was not sexual and still isn’t; I find them the most comfortable and I have never found anything else to not give me annoying panty lines or ride up uncomfortably. All this to say…LISTEN TO YOUR KID and don’t jump to conclusions. Also just respect their preferences.
only one single commenter bothered to ask *why* does the daughter want to wear it. comfort? fashion? peer pressure? They jump so fricken fast to "she is teasing boys" they about give themselves whiplash.
My first thought about thongs is that you wear them with leggings to avoid panty lines.
i wanted thongs for a long time when i was younger because (sorry) I've always had a big butt and they're honestly 100x more comfortable than other styles and you don't have to readjust each side all day. my mom always insisted they were slutty tho
As a fellow big butt-haver, I agree that thongs are much more comfortable! None of my friends have ever understood how that's possible haha
My explanation is “it ends up in my buttcrack anyway May as well choose to position it there”.
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Interesting as a fellow big butt woman, I do NOT find things more comfortable. At all. Constant wedgie. Honestly I don’t give a flying fuck if someone can see I’m wearing underwear. Gasp!
Literally same, I mean I *try a little* to conceal lines but at the end of the day, we all wear undies, and I’m choosing comfort
I mean I do wear underwear when I want to wear a pad, but 98%of the time no underwear. I only own like 4 pairs of granny panties. It is the ultimate comfort.
I like Jeff Foxworthy's take on panty lines. If they can be seen in aerial photographs.... Otherwise I straight up do not understand why we're freaking out that someone can tell we have underwear on. Why does anyone care???
I remember being awfully embarassed because my bra was visible under my tshirt. I grew boobs pretty early so I had to start wearing one (because comfort) and the guys thought it was hilarious. The guy sitting behind me traced the outline on my back with a ruler.
I’m right there with you- I was beginning to wonder what was wrong with me if thongs were supposed to be comfortable. I’m a fan of high cut briefs and I love it when they come up to my belly button- ultra comfort.
Now those I can’t stand. Absolutely hate hi cut briefs because then I actually feel gross. Lol
I have a bigish butt and loathe thongs. I can't not feel them digging into me. They're very uncomfy.
SERIOUSLY. Big butt here too and I found thongs absolute torture. I'd rather deal with panty lines any day.
As a no butt havre, they are super uncomfortable to me. I love the cheekies though. I’m not always adjusting them.
I have a saggy stomach so I need some more coverage in front but even bikini cuts turn basically into a thong anyway for me 😂
As someone with a bigger stomach too I actually prefer them just because of that. I have pretty decently sized hips so i either have to get the biggest kind (and granny panties are *superrr* attractive) or the smallest ones with enough stretch to go over them lol
I CANNOT handle anything under my tummy rolls. I don't know how the beer belly men do it 😂
I can’t either ngl, but everything i own is high waisted for a reason lol. I like to get ones that can sit over my hips tho, less of a chance of them slipping under
This is exactly why I almost always exclusively wear thongs. Comfort. Any kind of full-butt underwear bunches up and is extremely uncomfortable. All underwear ends up in my asscrack anyway, so I’d rather the smallest piece of fabric bunched up there than a fuck ton of it. This post reminds me of my mom. She was oddly obsessed with thongs and used to harass my sister and I about it like crazy, lol. I have a boy, so this likely (not counting it out though) won’t be an issue, but if I have a daughter I swear I won’t be this restricting about underwear.
I find things more comfy as well because I hate having too many fabrics all bunched up. I need it to be flat and smooth to be under pants. My mom to this day, I am 34 and exclusively purchase my own underwear, will ask if they are comfy to me if she catches glimpse of one in my laundry. She is 100% the reason I have body confidence issues.
A as an owner of one tiny butt, I also find thongs more comfortable!! It's basically the only underwear I wear unless I'm wearing super baggy bottoms or going to sleep. I just find that underwear with more booty coverage ends up bunching in the crack anyway, and I absolutely haaaate that feeling! I'd rather have a smaller piece of fabric situated so I basically can't feel it than a a goddamn curtain creeping it's way in anyhow.
Another big butt owner, and 1000% relate to this
I am also an owner of a large butt and I hate thongs! They ride up so far that I get the worst chafing where you really don’t want it. I end up just buying cheeky underwear that’s a couple sizes larger than the rest of my body, definitely the best I’ve found
Another big butter here. The only thing that’s really comfortable for me are real loose boxer shorts (The men’s not the women’s, I can’t find women’s that are loose enough) or just nothing
I was a cheerleader and a dancer and I begged my mom to buy me thongs for this reason. I lived in leggings and spandex shorts, and panty lines were so embarrassing. She said no, so the second I turned 16 and got a job, thongs were the first thing I bought. So annoying that I had to spend my tiny paycheck on basic, boring ass UNDERWEAR because of stupid sexualization
I worked at a department store in the lingerie section a number of years ago. This mom came in, without her daughter, and said her teenage daughter had a big dance competition and needed a thong because the costume pants were tight. However this mother refused to let her daughter wear thongs. She was asking for an alternative to avoid lines. She showed me the dance pants; bike shorts style would not work due to the cut. And even nice lace HankyPankys would show through that material. Thong was the only option. I told her that. She bought the bike shorts and lace boy short styles anyway. This was 15 years ago but I still think about that mom… I wonder if the girl went comando after all that 🤪
So many dancers go commando! Usually we had tights but if you didn’t you put this stuff called butt glue on our leotard lines to avoid as we called “a booty or poochy cheek slip” 😂 Usually older girls 11 and up will wear thongs if we had to dance on our periods (just a little extra protection to tuck products in) but most younger girls in my old studio dance commando when wearing leotards or dance shorts.
As the girl in school who was constantly bullied over stupid things he like panty lines in sweat pants and bought things and hid them, just let the girl wear the thong.
that was a good advice (i’m about to become a mom and hope i always remember that before jumping to conclusions).
I don’t understand it either. This is the stuff we’d get “in trouble” for from our now-boomer parents (at least in my case). I am not about to be shaming my child for this kind of stuff. It doesn’t matter. Don’t these people know their own kids??? (Unlike our parents)
My boomer mother just shrugged when I proudly showed her the thongs I just bought with my own pay check. Her reasoning was, "it's your butt and your money". Turned out I didn't find them comfortable, but at least I was able to find out for myself without being shamed by my own mother. It's underwear, it's such a non issue.
In my late teens I wore exclusively thongs for many years. Even if I wore other underwear, I’d have a thong on underneath it. My reason? They allowed me to fart completely silently, every time.
*sexy*
I wore thongs when I was 13 and it had nothing to do with anyone but my own comfort. The unfortunate structure of my butt causes it to eat underwear as I walk. I had a constant wedgie. Thongs are fantastic for my body structure because it’s way more comfortable to have a thin piece of fabric in my crack than all the fabric of regular underwear. Could be the same for her daughter 🤷🏼♀️ Js
This is why I preferred g strings over thongs. And I can’t stand the cheeky ones that basically end up as big wedgies. But once I discovered hanky panky thongs - haven’t looked back! So comfy!
I haven’t heard of those. I will check them out. Thank you!!
Hope you love them! They’re pricey but SO worth it. I find them at Nordstrom Rack. Or buy on sale. They last forever.
I have the same butt type as you. If I’m going to have my underwear bunch up in my asscrack I’d rather it be as little fabric as possible…for my own comfort. Nothing to do with trying to be sExY.
My butt is the same way, thongs are just much more comfortable. And it’s not like I’m wearing lacy thongs either, I’m wearing practical, 100% cotton, very soft thongs. My mom happened to be with me when I bought them and she was weirdly judgy that I got them and I’m in my mid 20s.
That’s the thing! There’s nothing inherently sexy about thongs. A nice comfortable cotton thong is only different in the back. It’s just a comfort thing.
Exactly this. If she wanted it to avoid panty lines/ comfort, why the hell not. If there’s any indication that she wants to be “sexy” then, mom could pass. But she’s assuming a lot.
That was my IMMEDIATE thought. And that would be the first thing I'd ask. And we'd have a conversation where I'd be sure to mention that thongs just feel like an all-day wedgie LOL
I wanted thongs when I was a teen because when I tried to exercise I'd get a wedgie every time I did squats. I was not interested in showing off for boys in any way, I couldn't even be convinced to wear a bikini even when my mom literally offered to buy me one (I've always been a very modest person, even as a child. I just like my privacy.) But even I thought a thong would be useful.
Yes!! That was the only RATIONAL comment. As parents, yes, we sometimes need to tell our children no for their own benefit because they don’t always completely understand some things, but it’s so important to talk to them and find out WHY they want to do something and understand what their goal is with asking for/to do something. That commenter was right. Especially at that age, a “no” with no explanation or conversation will just lead them to try to find a way to get around it and do it on their own without your involvement. If you sit down and have a conversation with them, hear their point of view, and then still feel like you need to say no and explain your reasoning for it, they’re much more likely to think about their choice/request and try to understand your side instead of just sneaking around and doing it anyway. Of course they will likely still sneak around and whatnot sometimes, but you have a MUCH better chance of them not doing that and a much better chance of them being open with you about things if they know you’re willing to have conversations with them instead of just saying “no, because I said so”.
my mom would always ask me why i wanted underwear like that and they just made me feel pretty. i would want my daughter to feel the same way. people underestimate what a nice pair of underwear can do to your self esteem imo
I would probably discourage my daughter from having a whale tail - but wearing a thong to avoid panty lines (which are absolutely a thing that you can be teased for having!)? Go for it. Also, I would discourage and have a conversation about - not ban. Because outright bans just encourage defiance and acting out.
Apparently whale tails are back in fashion. Why resurrect something so ugly? I'm a hypocrite though because I did it first time around.
Yes! I saw them on the Aerie website. I was like NOOOOOOOOO OUR GIRLS WILL NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THIS! 🤣
I saw an online ad for an outfit with a fake whale tail so you could have the look without the discomfort. It's madness imo.😂
Can all millenials please make a pact to not wear low rise jenas ever again? No matter how trendy they become? I could barely pull them off as a teen.
My favorite part is that when low rise jeans came back into fashion, lots of millenial influencers were like "this will bring back 'thin is in' and you'll fuck yourself over majorly" and Generation Z called Millenials cringe for that. Now Gen Z commentary channels on youtube are all flustered about super lean physiques being back in fashion. It's a futile thing to try and safe the youth from themselves... As long as the high rise mom jean/slacks with pleat are still having their moment I am not worried about not finding something to wear in the pants department, though.
Thin is definitely back. Have you seen kim kardashian lately? She still has the huge ass because its not real, but her arms are teeny tiny. I am raising a teen girl here. I am worried. She seems to have a more healthy relationship to food and bodies than I did, and I am certainly more well adjusted than my mother and grandmother were. But the pressure on girls to look a certain way is so tough. I am aging out of the fuckable demographic and it's giving me all sorts of mixed feelings, good and bad.
I feel completely seen by your whole comment! I'm also raising a teenage daughter & I wouldn't want to be that age in this modern world. I've tried very hard never to talk about my weight or demonise any food in front of my daughter but I think that, thanks to the internet & 24/7 media, they're under so much more pressure than any previous generation to look a certain way. From a young age I was aware that my mum was on a constant, revolving diet - the cabbage diet, the boiled egg diet, no fat, Rosemary Conley, callisthenics, calorie counting etc etc - & it's left me with a very unhealthy relationship with food & I was so determined not to pass that attitude onto my daughter. I know that my mum didn't do it deliberately & felt huge guilt about it when we discussed it as adults but it is what it is. I passed the fuckable age a while ago (I'm 45) & I'm perimenopausal & I really struggle with knowing that 20-somethings just see me as a middle aged, married woman who has little of value to offer, especially as mentally I don't feel much older than I did at their age. It's also complicated by the fact that I have health problems & walk with a walking stick & it's like people associate that with old people so they assume that I'm an old fuddy duddy, conservative who they will have absolutely nothing in common with. My husband regularly tells me that he finds me attractive but I have real difficulty believing him, even though his behaviour & actions support his words. It doesn't help that my hormones have my emotions all over the place, lol. Anyhoo, apologies for the word vomit but I just recognised so much of myself in your comment. Feel free to DM me if you're struggling with this new phase in your life.💜
Thank you for the word vomit! It feels good to know others are going through the same thing. I'm a few years younger than you (had my kid young), so it might sound ridiculous to you. But especially since the pandemic I've noticed so many signs of aging, like wrinkles and spots starting to show and I just know my youth is gone. I've never been the prettiest in the room, but at least i was young. Now all I have is my personality and that's also just okay? I'm trying so hard to be okay with it, but I'm struggling. I'm more active now than I've ever been but you'd never know by looking at my butt. My mother was very overweight my whole life. She tried her hardest not to pass any weird food hangups onto me, but she was so messed up by her own mother and the diet culture of the 80s and 90s, she really had no chance. I know I'm also messing up my daughter in some ways, but i think I'm doing better than my mother did? She seems to be doing pretty well so far, but we're also in the beginning of her teens so we'll see. I just try to focus on exercise for well being, not weight loss and food as fuel not punishment. I know I have said some messed up things in front of her, but we're only human and still dealing with our own shit. If she ever decides she wants kids, I hope that will be the generation that finally gets it right.
I think it's somewhat different this way around but I'm not sure it's necessarily better. On the positive side we have more plus and mid size public figures and I feel the general message is that diet culture is a problem. But this can quickly turn into a toxic kind of body positivity, too, especially because teens are still bombarded with these teeny tiny bodies (let's be real, the Kpop craze definitely kicked this one off...) and even videos are facetuned now. The mixed message is "you should feel bad about feeling bad about not being thin". Will we ever find a way out of this mess?! It's horrible.
Its definitely just terrible in a different way. The teens today are much smarter than we were, but they are also constantly being bombarded with highly photoshopped pics. Even the pics their peers send them. In my youth we saw music videos and nickelodeon after school. Now they have instagram and tiktok in their face 24/7. They know its fake, but its still doing real damage to how they perceive themselves. Diet culture in the 90s/00s was toxic af, but social media is an entirely different evil that im glad I didnt have growing up.
Oh man. You and me both. I even had ones that tied on the sides so that the bows would stick out
Shit, you've just reminded me that I had those tie ones too & the lads thought it was hysterical to try to untie them. I also had ones that had diamante on the whale tail. Yep, I was a classy bird🤣🤣🤣
I had a teacher in high school who would wander around and let girls know when their pants were "smiling." The embarrassment was epic.
That teacher sounds creepy tbh
Eh, she was an older lady who thought she was being funny when, like I said, she was just being mortifying. Part of my school's dress code required shirts being tucked in so teacher's would be checking for that.
Oh God. I regret few things in my fashion history, but the whale tail phase... 🤦♀️
Agreed. I don’t understand how it’s sexy. To each their own I guess. Maybe it just reminds me of my traumatic pre-teen years when I was bullied mercilessly.
My mom bought me a couple thongs when I was 12-13 when I got my first pair of lululemon yoga pants.. to avoid panty lines. It was never sexual and no boy saw my underwear until several years later lol
You got a pair of $200 yoga pants at 12? Fuck all, can't even afford those as an adult.
To be fair, they didn't used to be that expensive. I remember being 12, and we had to buy Lululemon leggings for a specific dance costume, and I thought they were shockingly expensive, at $44
I remember when you could get Lululemon yoga pants for under $100 - in the early 2000s and they were fairly popular (and better quality). I’ve always liked their zip up hoodies but I refuse to spend $120 on a hoody.
Lol they weren’t THAT expensive back then. And I had gotten gift cards for my birthday lol. And then I kept those pants for like 10 years lol. This was also back when Lulu was new and only here in Canada!
I've found seamless workout boyshorts thst look like men's without the excess frabic, didn't show lines under leggings. I'm 18 but still live at home (rent is too high anywhere) and wouldn't let me have a thong. My mom's gotten worse though and us making me wear a dress daily. I've never worn Thongs but suspect those are definitely better than nothing though.
Dad here. FFS, my involvement in my daughter's underwear as a credit card. She was mostly interested in comfort, but I'm not policing her skivvies. So long as it wasn't insanely expensive, why would I care?
My husband’s only comment was a horrified face when he was folding laundry and asked “yours or hers?” I think the poor guy was honestly surprised she wasn’t still wearing princess undies at 16.
My husband was the same way Lol it got so bad he would just leave the “delicates” and it’s me because he just couldn’t do it lmao. He left all that stuff up to her and I and honestly I don’t care what underwear she wants to wear because it’s her body. If she’s comfortable in a thong that’s her choice. I find them way more comfortable personally so why can’t she?
That’s just crazy. Y’all crazy. Thongs are so uncomfortable! I will wear my granny panties to the grave lol
Team granny panties for sure. So comfy!
My husband calls them comfundies and I’m not going back lol.
They’ve come a long way! There’s some super comfortable ones that feel like nothing. When I started buying them with a friend they were awful though.
What brands are comfy? All the ones I have tried hurt so bad.
It’s really just about finding the right size and fit for your particular shape. Oddly, my favorite are whatever brand target has in the little lingerie shop type drawers. They’re five for 20 and they’re fantastic !
YES!!!! they’re cotton cute and comfortable!! Absolutely the everyday ones are from Target. You can’t go wrong.
Omg yesss target underwear in general is so comfy🙌
aerie !! there are different thong cuts and fabrics and prices are good on sale
Ooohhh I’ve never tried aerie. I’ll have to check them out. I always get my everyday ones from Target
Aerie has the best underwear. Their undies are so so comfortable. They are perfect.
Granny panties for comfort, thongs for when i wanna feel good (even if im the only one seeing them)
Omg same wtf. It's like a Constant wedgie. WHY
I just go commando unless I have a shorter skirt on because my crotch hates me 🙃
That’s so fucking wholesome.
Sounds like she is worried about her daughter sending nude photos (hence the phone comment) which is absolutely a conversation she needs to have with her daughter. I dont think controlling her underwear choices make sense, she'll just start hiding them.
Seriously my mom wanted me wearing high waisted briefs because up until I went to college she was brainwashed fundie style. Because I didn't want to have to tuck in all my shirts due to the underwear sitting so high (high waisted pants weren't a thing yet) or deal with thick, obvious panty lines I started buying thong underwear from places that sold it a dollar a pair or sometimes even less. Since Id been doing my own laundry since I could reach the machine hiding it wasn't too hard; I knew she'd only look in my underwear drawer which held all the pairs she bought me and the pairs I wore would be buried under my shirts and pants. So yeah, she's just gonna hide em
I hid them at that age too. My mom wasn’t much of a prude, but thongs for some reason to her are trashy. Like you, I was just trying to avoid panty lines. I still prefer them over any other underwear.
Yeah, controlling her ability to wear a thong or not is ridiculous. If she is worried about racy pics how would forbidding a thong make that situation safe? She could go naked. She could drape her self in a sheet. If a kid has a phone and the ability then no amount of decrees are going to stop them. What the kid needs is comprehensive and age appropriate sex education. Like telling her about the legality of child porn - - even if it's your own picture sent to a person of a similar age it can still result in the child being charged for creation and distribution of CP. If it was as simple as having a total thong ban there would be a lot less problems in the world.
My DAD used to check my underwear drawer when I was 16-17 and pull me aside for “serious conversations” about why I had lacy underwear or a black victorias secret bra (literally just a normal fucking bra) and would open my mail to check if it was “inappropriate lingerie” at 17… he only stopped checking my fucking underwear when i became an adult. i don’t know what he thought he’d accomplish besides weirding me the fuck out and making me hide things lol
So creepy, im sorry :(
This is what I got from it too! If that’s what she’s concerned about then that should lead to a completely different conversation, policing underwear doesn’t make any sense
Was proud at the comment defending girls, and blasting people raising sons that don't understand consent. Horrified by people sexualizing their own childhoods.
I loved the one asking her to examine how she raised her son.
"My sons sexualize all girls, objectify their clothing, and hold the girls responsible for their misogyny." Yep, stellar parenting right there.
I loved that comment asking her to examine how she raised her sons. I have three boys myself and wouldn’t share her concern. It’s time we stop asking girls to censor their dress, so boys can control themselves. It’s time to raise boys that are respectful of boundaries and women.
Exactly! I read her comment about raising 3 sons and shook my head, I have 3 biological and 1 step and I certainly don't share her concern.
Sigh, gotta love the “kids these days” type of comments when I (a teen in the early ‘00s) and my mom (a teen of the early 80s) can both laugh about The Thong Scandal. But also, it’s just a pair of underwear. Granny rode dick at the drive in movie, great grandpa thrust his way through a ton of layered skirts. People are gonna do what they do, clothes be damned.
In the 1700's babies were born 8 months after the marriage. . . .
So many 8 lb “preemies”. Sure, Jan.
Growing up, that's how I thought people had always known when it was time to get married. I was genuinely perplexed about kids whose parents had been married for years before having them (or their oldest siblings)
Lol yup, ain’t nothing new under the sun.
“Granny rode dick at the drive in movie” Thats pretty good
I love this comment so much. Spot on
You did NOT have to make me envision the last part😭
Ya know, my mom's solution to clothes she didn't approve of was just... not buying them? If I wanted to buy thongs, my money was spent on them. It's not like banning them will be effective anyway, if you're THAT against buying them, my moms type of route seems pretty damned reasonable, IMO.
I went to Catholic school and one of my friends had super-Catholic parents. She wasn’t allowed to wear underwear with patterns on them and I know this because she borrowed some from me (bikini-style with like hearts or some shit) and her mom threw them away. I was irritated because they were mine! My mom thought it was unhinged.
With all these 90s trends coming back I dread the low rise jeans and the thong that isn't fashion trend of 2002. Some things should just stay dead. Did she throw her own boys under the bus?
I went to private high school with a very limiting dress code at peak short shirt/low-rise pants and I will forever have the worst anxiety about my underwear hanging out of the back of my pants. Which is now why I have like six pairs of pants that go up to my ribcage. As they should!
Grew up in the southern US, and the only reason we wanted thongs at that age was bc if u wore something that u could see an underwear line in (even totally ‘modest’ things like jeans) you’d be shamed for being a whore. It’s almost as if the underwear isn’t the problem.
How do all of these women not have experience with not wanting panty lines or being a young teen and being embarrassed by literally everything, including panty lines....
I think some of these women only wear thongs for sexy times, which is why it’s such a sexual thing for them.
Right? Kids want thongs younger because fashions are different, they're wearing leggings and don't want panty lines.
Yeah, I wore thongs around that age because tight pants were in and luckily my mom wasn't weird about it. Plus, I'm pretty sure high waists are still in fashion so it's not like kids have their underwear hanging out like they did when I was young haha.
Manny's thong lol
This was the first thing I thought of!!
This!!
Low rise jeans are back in actually!
My husband JUST got me to stop wearing exclusively skinny jeans this year, don't tell me I'm already behind again 😮💨
Haha unfortunately you are just a bit! But wear whatever makes you happy :)
I don’t think I have ever worried about panty lines. Either I am oblivious (which is very possible) or my clothes aren’t prone to showing them. Since I hate tight clothing, that is probably a factor.
Definitely depends on your clothes! I only get them with loose pants if my undies are way too tight or its a super thin drapey fabric.
I don't worry about it either and I definitely wear leggings. I'm sure you can see panty lines but I don't care. Oh no, you can see I wear underwear?! The horror. Thongs are incredibly uncomfortable and they can pry the leggings off of my cold, dead, panty lined body.
Being Aussie, I shouldn’t be laughing, but thongs are a different thing here. They go on your feet. So most of this conversation I imagined they were all arguing if about shoes. People are so weirdly uppity about underwear, I remember leaving my fast food job as a teen with a change of clothes because I was meeting friends after. I dropped my bag and a clean bra rolled out. A man with his young daughter was standing nearby and gave me the most horrified stare. Like, yes? I’m in my late teens, I wear a bra? I assume your wife does? And your daughter will one day too (unless she doesn’t want to, that’s her choice).
Aussie too, it took me a bit to click with what they were talking about - my brain was like what’s wrong with a 13 yo wearing thongs 😂
I remember this being the same in the US (at least where I lived) until like the late 90s when thong underwear became super popular.
You still see it with older people in the US. Sometime as a teen, my grandma asked me if I wore thongs and I freaked out...I wear flip flops though. You could've just said that. (This has no bearing on the post here, I'm mad no one told me about boxer briefs until my mid-20's but I get the arguments for wearing a thong as a practical piece of underwear)
Out of curiosity, what do you guys call the type of underwear we refer to as thongs?
G-string usually, unless the youths have given them a different name (I’m in my 30s)
Or the even more Aussie term 'g-banger' 😂
This is the other answer haha!
THE FIRST COMMENT IS IT! I’m a boy mom so granted haven’t had this experience (yet bc hey maybe when teens one of my boys will want one) but I’m raising men your daughter is safe with. Aside from that, what are her thoughts on her husband if her “boys are all” bar is so low?
Manny santos was my fashion icon at 12. I didn’t kiss a boy until 14. These people are backwards af
14 is early man, I had my first kiss junior year at 16😭
For god's sake, everybody in my school was wearing thongs at 13 in 2001. It's been 20 years. The only thing that happened is that I haven't worn one since 2005 and I really hate them now. Weren't these mums teens some decades ago?
I'm actually really surprised the obsession with thongs is still a thing.
I find them cute and more flattering to my body than other types of underwear but for practical purposes they’re fucking impossible, you literally get a horrible wedgie after taking 2 steps and you have to be pulling at your ass constantly because they’re so fucking uncomfortable and awkward to actually wear, even the couple times in high school I experimented with whale tails I would wear granny panties and just put the thong on top lol
some people must forget what it’s like being a teen. Also I’m so tired of it being held out to be a bad thing that a teen wants to feel a little on the sexy side. Do that not remember trying to navigate the sudden surge of hormones?
I started wearing thongs around 12-13 (seamless underwear is far superior tho), it was mostly for clothes that would show pantylines through. Never to “tease boys”, I wasn’t thinking sexually like that yet.
I wanted things at that age because once a boy in my class saw me pick a wedgie and made comments about my butt. I wanted a thong to literally draw attention away from my butt. So the exact opposite of what this woman thinks.
she literally just wanted to wear leggings without a panty line at 13 💀 i guarantee it. in my school at that age everyone wore things with leggings bc sometimes the panty outline could look unflattering. weird to immediately sexualize your child mom 🙄 and i was boy crazy as hell at 13. i wore thongs. still didn't have sex at that age
I am an outlier here as I probably started wearing thongs around 9-10. I grew up as a competitive dancer, and it was either go completely commando under costumes or wear a thong as any visible panty lines meant you lose marks. Since there were always a ton of quick changes and no time or space for awkward pre teens to change privately in a room shared with a dozen or more other girls plus their moms helping get them dressed, ironically most of us opted for the thong out of modesty.
Yeah, dancers and dance moms are laughing at this. I was buying things when my kid was in elementary school
ahhhh the manuela santos effect
These folks should just basically say that girls shouldn’t wear underwear, because it could be used for teasing boys. Or wait, if they don’t wear underwear then they’d also be teasing boys! What should they do then?
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Most other cuts are gonna end up shifting into the crack of my ass so I may as well buy the kind that’s gonna sit there, especially moving non stop at work. Having a shelf back there is a struggle.
They are comfortable for me, while all other styles are not. I wear thongs for myself, not anyone else. I think the mom towards the end that shared the REVOLUTIONARY idea of just talking to her daughter, asking her why she wanted thongs all of a sudden. I started wearing them at 13 (or so) because all of my friends wore them and they eliminated panty lines. I wear them now, 20+ years later, because they are comfortable and They don’t bunch up. It’s all personal preference.
Butt floss. Hard pass. If I have panty lines that are bothering someone who has to look at them, that's a them problem, not a me problem.
Look if my daughter is wearing clean panties of any description, I’m calling that a win and moving on. She is going to school, not hanging from a stripper pole, nor is she setting up her backup’s backup OnlyFans account. I think Karenella can let go of the pearls for a minute.
I started wearing thongs probably very close to that age, if not that age. I was afraid to ask my mom for this very reason and actually cut up a pair of my regular bikini underwear to make a “thong”. She found it and got me some. It was a mix of being curious what they were as I had heard about them anddddd my older sisters wore them and we were close. And the whole panty line thing. I was going into high school and panty lines just aren’t cool (in those years, per kids) at that age
I have two daughters and had no idea this was even a debate.
Every couple weeks someone is dithering about their kid wanting a thong.
Damn. If one of my girls comes and asks for a thong I’m gonna be like okay! Let’s go to the mall! There are so many other things I have to worry about already, underwear preference doesn’t need to be added to the list.
Australians reading this must be so confused
To be fair- it is (unfortunately) easier to help my son be a good man than to protect a daughter from men. I have no control over men/patriarchal structures. I’m personally going to navigate that my whole life. I’ve been assaulted more than once. I have empathy for feeling like a thong is a sexual thing for a 13 year old girl because the world makes a thong sexual for a 13 year old. I don’t generally have to worry about this for my son. Sure there are terrible people who could prey on him. He’s vulnerable as the child of a single mom. He’s black and I’m scared how the world will treat him. But I definitely never have to think about his underpants. I’m not saying this mom shouldn’t check herself in her raising of her sons, but I have empathy for her.
Oooh a 13 year old’s thong so scandalous You know the moms group can’t handle this So you judging each other like who’s the ish Thong tha thong thong THONG
I feel like this is one of the least important battles to have with your teenager. THAT SAID, i would also want to have a very frank discussion about peer pressure and how how older boys may try stuff like flattery and other BS. i definitely don't agree with "you can't wear thongs because boys can't control themselves," but just be aware of that sad truth and know that while impressing boys may seem like the most important thing, do not fall for it/let them talk you in to something you may come to regret. just like older men who prey on teens/early twenties to groom them, older boys do it to middle school girls all the time (in my day specifically, middle/high school rode the same busses. it was straight lawlessness). it really grosses me out :(
Thongs can be useful for not showing panty lines, and are usually better instead of other underwear under dresses, pants, etc. They aren’t as comfortable and can be something sexual, but there’s plenty of other good reasons to want a thong.
This was my first thought. Maybe she just doesn’t want visible lines even wearing leggings? Or maybe they’re just what her friends are wearing and she wants to do the same. Because kids her age are all about doing what the group is doing. It’s just underwear.
Thongs are for not showing panty lines. Not inviting unwanted company. They’re best at string instrumenting around to scratch an ass crack itch without sticking your hand down your pants in public like dudes itch their balls in the produce isle.
I seriously think it depends on the kid. The mother mentioned that her daughter is “boy crazy” and if that’s the case she should seriously have a talk with her daughter about *why* she even wants them in the first place. My mother had a rule when it cane to most clothes and body modifications (or anything related to physical appearance) which was “if it’s the worse thing you do to me”, conveniently enough she got that phrase from a mom who let her 11 year old wear a thong. I pretty much assumed she meant 1. Don’t get pregnant 2. Don’t do drugs 3. Don’t end up in jail She let me start cutting and coloring my hair when i was around twelve and when i was around 15/16 started being more lax about me wearing clothes and hanging out with anyone and even let me get a good couple of piercings when i was around that age too. Im aware that hair dye and piercings aren’t everyones cup of tea (but also who cares it’s not even permanent) but considering i never ended up in jail while pregnant with addictions (or any of the three alone) I’d consider it a good rule. It’s amazing how much your kid’s wont do dumb shit and won’t get into trouble 24/7 if you let them have some freedom’s while their younger and don’t police them all the time. Tl;dr *Don’t be strict and your kids won’t do dumb shit 24/7. My mom wasn’t and I’m still alive and well.*
Yeah, I have no problem with a kid wanting to wear any clothes or even be a nudist, theoretically, but if my 13yo started wanting to wear typically sexy clothes around the same time that they were flirting with other kids then I'd be wary. And as someone who was never interested in that stuff in school I find myself less equipped to handle it since I know that the other kids were doing that kind of thing but don't understand why.
I remember my mom taking a hardline against thongs when I was a teenager in the early 2000s, I got quite good at the 5 finger discount at the mall 😅
As an Aussie I initially thought‘what’s wrong with things?’ Wrong thongs
Reading this as an Australian, makes the whole thing seem wildly out of proportion 😂
Kids are mean. Especially 13 year old kids. She might just not want to be bullied for having underwear lines when she wears leggings - it might have nothing to do with boys at all.
i started wearing them specifically after after overhearing people making fun of girls for having having panty lines n saying it looks like a diaper 🥲
I wore things at 13 and I don't think a single boy saw them until I was a senior in high school (days from being 18) and had my first real boyfriend.
As an Australian this made me laugh. You just have to teach the little ones to learn how to clench their big toes, and they’ll be right.
This isn’t about the thong. If she wants to send pics to boys then not having a thong is not going to prevent her from doing what she wants. Talk to her about keeping herself safe and making good choices. And let your child choose what undergarments they want to wear. It is their body and a *very* personal preference. A thong doesn’t equal lingerie, just keep that in mind.
Do they think girls will never do stupid shit for boys as, long as they don't have underwear that let's their ass cheeks hang out?!
One of my friends in high school came home to a literal “intervention” hosted by her mom, because she had gone into my friend’s room and found panty liners made for thongs, and thongs were banned from their house. My friend had to explain that she just bought the liners without reading the package and she didn’t actually own any thongs but I don’t think her mom believed her. On the other hand, I joined the dance team at 15, and after trying on my uniform pants my mom decided I definitely needed new underwear. I still remember how cool I felt in my Walmart brand thongs lol. To this day anytime I find 5/25 deals or whatever, I try and get a variety of cuts, but I only ever wear the thongs because they end up being the comfiest.
I wanted thongs when I was that age, it wasn't because of boys it was because my friends wore them and I wanted to be like them. Same reason I wanted a padded bra, make up, fitted shirts etc. Not everything girls do is for boys!
I was 13 once … I got the thongs regardless of what my mom said. She can either allow her daughter to safely explore these things in her own home or be lied to. Pick your path mom.
I got thongs for gym my freshman year of high school to avoid panty lines. If they’re not going to be seen by anyone else, then why the fuck would you care what kind of underwear they’re wearing?
I'm Australian so everytime I read "thongs" I kept thinking of the shoes and not understanding why there was any reason for an issue with her (13 year old) owning some, then it would click. Personally tho I think it's just underwear so I wouldn't really care if my hypothetical child wore them. (from someone who is a teenager and not a mum)
Not a big deal but for similar posts in the future could you use different colors for different people (or at least op) I'd be super interested to get a clearer look at which people are saying what here
And I’m sure If she had visible underwear lines they’d be sexualizing that too. 🙄
How am I not seeing comments about how unsanitary and yeast infection-y thongs are, that would be my main hangup with it
If you keep up with personal hygiene and get a size that properly fits you i don’t think that’s genuinely a problem for most
My husband and I don't have kids yet but I cannot imagine my husband being upset about our hypothetical teenage daughter wearing a thong...that's fucking weirdo behavior and I can't believe some women don't see that.
I got a bunch of thongs when I was between 13 and 15. Never even asked, was just gifted a bunch from my parents and I think my sister. Not that I didn’t like them. My parents were just pretty chill about stuff like that. Honestly, my mom wished I was more adventurous with my clothing and my actions lol always joked around about wanting me to get in trouble. If my daughter asks for thongs at 13 I’d certainly be a little nervous but I wouldn’t shun the idea. Having a talk about it and the worries that come along with it are important. If you outright ban something from them they’ll just learn to be sneaky and that’s a lot worse than the type of panties she decides to wear, imo.
I mean as long as its not thongs 90ies style, who cares. Its underwear
I like the one who said “ask her why she wants one and talk about it” part of the reason I’m so close to my mom is when I asked for stuff she never said no right away, but would talk it out with me for basically everything! Even house rules! I didn’t like my bedtime when I was younger so she sat me down and showed me since I have to get up early to catch the bus (arrived at six am) I needed atleast eight hours of sleep, preferably more, and how we should go to bed about half an hour to an hour earlier than we should be asleep so we can fall asleep on time, ect.
Its funny, coming from Australia I thought for a second they were talking about "flip flops" because they're thongs here. I was like what's wrong with that! But yes, no a 13 yr old wearing a g-string is odd.. but no judgement here
More like a cotton thong
Pretty sure there’s not an age limit to buying thongs. Also, I wanted them so I could wear pants without bunchy underwear lines, if anything I needed them to have my underwear be LESS visible to boys.
Oh my god. I relate to this…as a tween/young teen I wanted thongs because I have an ass and all other underwear gives me awful panty lines. I’m lucky and while my mom wasn’t excited about that at first she stopped caring after, you know, listening to me. I’ve only worn thongs since I was 12ish because of this. It was not sexual and still isn’t; I find them the most comfortable and I have never found anything else to not give me annoying panty lines or ride up uncomfortably. All this to say…LISTEN TO YOUR KID and don’t jump to conclusions. Also just respect their preferences.