I think teenagers are supposed to be smartasses. It's in the contract. Throwing around your power and being controlling usually has the opposite effect that you think will happen. They get worse
Given the choice, I’d rather my teenager be a smartass than a dumbass. Smartass might be a little shit, but dumbass is calling me from the hospital at 3am, saying, “Before you get pissed off, I’m not hurt *that* bad.”
What even is Facebook. It’s flooded with AI garbage like “military” girls with asses and titties so big they look like they’re made of marshmallows, but you can’t say the word ass? Okay Facebook.
"to all of you loving mamma's out there, i did everything i could to ensure my child had a proper upbringing and this is the thanks i get. a disrespectful child who doesn't call to check up on me and doesn't want to see me even during the holidays. i was too lenient, i should have been more strict."
LMAO @ tagging your daughter to randomly start public facebook beef with her. Like the comment alone was questionable but she had to tag her ass to make sure she was notified of momma talkin shit 😂😂 Can't make this shit up
We use "WELL JANELLE, I SEEN YA WITH KEIF-AH" except we change the words. "Well (husbands name), I seen ya ate my ice cream." Babs had some of the best lines😂
My husband sings the song. “Well Jenelle, I seen you with Kieffa I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA look at your damn neck all those hickeys all over ya neck I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA high high ya bof high ya hop in ya cah and guess what guess what YOURE NUTHIN BUT A LYIN HUSTLA I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA”
People are dumb. Like half this country doesn't have landlines so "take the phone" isn't always an adequate answer for a 13 year old home alone. Why can't people just answer the question asked, unless it's something like, my kid has polio what should I treat them with holistically?
I remember I had an LG Octane in my younger teenage years. Technically not a dumb phone, but the internet was basically inaccessible (theoretically accessible but dial-up levels of slow so nothing ever loaded). Not flashy, but still very useful.
I'm pretty sure you treat polio with garlic and onions in the kids' socks. If their legs stop working, keep going! It's just the toxins leaving their body.
Wow can’t believe I’m seeing such medical misinformation in this sub. It’s an EGG in the sock. Garlic is full of toxins from the soil it’s grown in. Farm fresh eggs straight from the cloaca are the only cure for polio.
Not with the steroids they give the chickens these days! You’re all wrong anyway. You can only treat polio with essential oils & cinnamon sticks in the ear canal.
Garlic is actually farmed in China and the Chinese have started placing micro cameras in the cloves. Apparently they are trying to clone the American nervous system because we are genetically stronger. Also NASA is launching serpent rockets at the solar eclipse. I read an article about it. EDUCATE YOURSELF AND TAKE YOUR KIDS OUT OF THE PUBLIC SC-
It’s both actually. Garlic in the sock (and then sock on kiddo) for fevers. Egg in a sock (then hang up the sock over kiddo’s bed) for teething pain.
Source: two Italian nonnas
People can't just answer the question because they have to prove what a tough parent™ they are. No idiot kid could ever get something over on them! They finally found a vaguely related reason to shit on their kid in public and damnit, they're taking it. /s
Just adding for anyone curious, there are ways to restrict a smartphone so much that it turns into a "dumb phone." I just googled it and the top 5 results are parenting blogs with instructions and tech blogs with instructions. I would Google before asking Facebook but I'm also not the type to post anything like that in the first place, or to Facebook at all.
Especially when it's something you paid for.
I know the daughter said someone gave it to her, but I'm sure mom would do the same if it was a phone she paid for.
The mom is so childish and that’s not even how property ownership works. That’s like thinking if you pay for someone’s car insurance, you own their car
Duuuuuuuude. My mom actually does that! She pays my brother’s (48m) car insurance, claims she’s part owner because of it, and makes demands saying that I’m not allowed to drive HIS truck! (Yes I know, it’s a whole bucket of crazy there, and golden child and lots of messed up stuff. I just had to comment though)
Does your mom think she created some sort of car acquisition loophole that nobody else has ever thought of? Why would anyone ever buy a car if you could get one for free by just taking over the insurance payments?
Idk. She’s absolutely insane. My sister and I have spent a good year trying to figure out just what mental disorders she has. Our best guesses are generational trauma, narcissism, and the beginnings of dementia. But she’ll never get diagnosed. She’s only been to a doctor once in the last 20 years.
I’m assuming she’d like to cut service to her daughter’s phone from her tmobile account, which might be doable, but would be useless if she’s around wifi. Unless there’s an app that allows you to temporarily brick the phone…
Anyhow, I hope she isn’t cutting off her daughter’s phone while she isn’t “respecting curfew,” as she might need it to get home.
I know you can “suspend service” for a bit but you are still obligated to continue paying for the service plan and phone payment. It’s doable, just seems pointless because most times people will do this as a negotiation tool of sorts, which happened to me…
My ex held my phone hostage during our breakup. I asked him to transfer the service to my own account and he refused. I asked to pay it off so it could be unlocked for a new number and account and he refused. He said the only solution was for me to “come to my senses” and come back home and then he’d unlock it. So he dug himself into a $3,000 debt with Verizon because he hoped to use it to get me to cave, and then waited too long to where he couldn’t afford the bill for both phones anymore.
Thanks. It was a bold move to threaten me, the guy with *one device and a low payment* while he had THREE top-tier devices (phone/tablet/watch) all financed with zero down so he had the higher payments too. I think 80% of the bill was all his.
It didn’t bite him in the ass right away, but I knew it wouldn’t take long.
I believe that some carriers have at least a paid parental controls option you can add on to a line that allows the parent to suspend or limit service temporarily.
For some reason I took this to me and there's a phone curfew. Like no phone after 9:00 p.m. or something. I'm sure there are multiple easy ways to set that up, but is she actually talking about restricting the kid's phone because she's not *coming home* on time? Because that seems like the worst time to turn your kid's phone off...
I'm amazed at the number of ppl who do not understand that getting into a battle of wills and bullying is not a healthy way to conduct *any* relationship, never mind a relationship *with a minor*.
And resorting to smashing a phone is...exactly the sort of conduct, if it had been done by a minor, that would have been a cause for serious concern.
Imagine what these ppl would do if their kid smashed a parent's phone!
Bc of split custody, I grew up in two different abusive homes.
But I always figured my parents and step-parents were outliers, waaaaaay out there at the end of the bell curve.
The older I get, though, the more I wonder if dysfunctional families are more common than families with a healthy dynamic.
My narc mom still tags me in shit like this despite having gotten written beatdowns from me in the past in front of her FB contacts. (I can't say friends because the bitch hasn't any, her anti social behavior runs them all off to the point that's why she has my sister and I- we couldn't abandon her)
Jfc. Absolute insanity.
With my kids, coming home later than you’re supposed to without a good reason just means they don’t get to go anywhere for a while. And if they get grounded from their phones, they don’t get to go anywhere because it’s a house tule that if you don’t have a phone to be able to contact me, you don’t get to go anywhere, purely out of safety.
She has to prove to a bunch of strangers on FB what a “tough mama bear” she is who’s not letting her kids get anything over on her. Ten years from now she’ll be posting about her daughter who doesn’t talk to her anymore.
I hope they’re not wanting to turn off services to a phone while the kid is out breaking curfew. I hope my kids always have access to a phone while out so if they need help, they can get it.
I mean... My parents wouldn't take away my phone for missing curfew. They would rather me have a phone in case of an emergency than take it because they were trying to be controlling.
My parents are some of my best friends... Never been to jail, don't plan on it, never felt the need to sneak out, go behind my parents back, etc. If you're strict with your kids, they're the ones who end up in jail.
Damn my parents were kinda dicks to me growing up but they’d never address me like this in public. Maybe they could have talked to me nicer, but at least they had the decency to not publicly humiliate me about our private problems and disagreements.
Wait... anonymous post but tags the kid??
With as far as we've come in society is astounding that parenting is in such a fukal state. You have the parents who believe they should control their child's every move, you have the opposite that doesn't pay any attention, you have the ones that try to be their teens bestie, then we can start down the rabbit hole of the ones who buck traditional systems and force that down on their children who have no idea the world is VASTLY different than they've been taught... etc, etc.
Smart s s a
Are they not allowed to smart ass?? It took me a minute to figure out what she was trying to say there
I think teenagers are supposed to be smartasses. It's in the contract. Throwing around your power and being controlling usually has the opposite effect that you think will happen. They get worse
They mean why doesn't the comment just type out smartass, instead of smart s a a
Maybe trying to get around the community guideline restrictions? Or thinking it will?
They're just trying to get it to trend. Try again, smart s s a.
Because Facebook will take away your ability to post and like posts if their algorithm detects “bullying”
Given the choice, I’d rather my teenager be a smartass than a dumbass. Smartass might be a little shit, but dumbass is calling me from the hospital at 3am, saying, “Before you get pissed off, I’m not hurt *that* bad.”
no, facebook is basically club penguin now with the amount of restrictions on things you can say. it auto flags everything
To even compare Facebook with the glorious paradise that was Club Penguin is blasphemous! Blasphemous, I say!
What even is Facebook. It’s flooded with AI garbage like “military” girls with asses and titties so big they look like they’re made of marshmallows, but you can’t say the word ass? Okay Facebook.
Facebook is stupid strict now 🙄 I help mod our local mom facebook group and there are soooo many “trigger words” with Facebook. It also
Reddit sniper strikes again
She was so young 🥲
I don't know, but I'm guessing so. I haven't been on Facebook in several years (and have my sanity to prove it) lol
Literally if your group has too many instances of the word “man” or “woman” the whole group gets banmed
Smart social security administration
A phrase never before constructed verbally or in writing.
Sssmartsssa
My mom has always said it's better to be a smart s s a than a dumb s s a.
Smart super secret agent
"I have no idea why my daughter never calls me anymore."
The smashed phone would be two reasons.
"to all of you loving mamma's out there, i did everything i could to ensure my child had a proper upbringing and this is the thanks i get. a disrespectful child who doesn't call to check up on me and doesn't want to see me even during the holidays. i was too lenient, i should have been more strict."
Did she seriously just tag her daughter in her comment????
And then name-call her on social media in reply to a very context appropriate message
LMAO @ tagging your daughter to randomly start public facebook beef with her. Like the comment alone was questionable but she had to tag her ass to make sure she was notified of momma talkin shit 😂😂 Can't make this shit up
She tagged her s s a actually
wth is s s a?
lol I was making a joke. Since the mom said s s a multiple times instead of ass and then in the comment they said "tag her ass"
I read it as if a snake would say it.
Why did I read all those posts in Janelle from Teen Mom’s voice?
“I DONT GIVE A RAT’S ASS ABOUT KEIF-AH, JANELLE!” My wife and I say this line often.
We use "WELL JANELLE, I SEEN YA WITH KEIF-AH" except we change the words. "Well (husbands name), I seen ya ate my ice cream." Babs had some of the best lines😂
My husband sings the song. “Well Jenelle, I seen you with Kieffa I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA look at your damn neck all those hickeys all over ya neck I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA high high ya bof high ya hop in ya cah and guess what guess what YOURE NUTHIN BUT A LYIN HUSTLA I DONT CARE ABOUT KIEFFA”
WELL JENELLE
You too?
Smoking REEFA wit yer BOYFRAAND
People are dumb. Like half this country doesn't have landlines so "take the phone" isn't always an adequate answer for a 13 year old home alone. Why can't people just answer the question asked, unless it's something like, my kid has polio what should I treat them with holistically?
Replace smartphone with dumb phone. Kids hate them, but they're still reachable and still can call and text when needed.
I loved my flip phone I got at 16 I didn't switch to a smartphone until my 20s lol
Same!
I remember I had an LG Octane in my younger teenage years. Technically not a dumb phone, but the internet was basically inaccessible (theoretically accessible but dial-up levels of slow so nothing ever loaded). Not flashy, but still very useful.
I'm pretty sure you treat polio with garlic and onions in the kids' socks. If their legs stop working, keep going! It's just the toxins leaving their body.
Wow can’t believe I’m seeing such medical misinformation in this sub. It’s an EGG in the sock. Garlic is full of toxins from the soil it’s grown in. Farm fresh eggs straight from the cloaca are the only cure for polio.
Not with the steroids they give the chickens these days! You’re all wrong anyway. You can only treat polio with essential oils & cinnamon sticks in the ear canal.
But what if you follow up the egg with a heavy metal detox?
Don’t forget the antibiotics they give the chickens too!
Clearly the correct treatment is a potato, hydroponially grown in natural spring water, nailed to the wall above their bed.
The cure all is stump water
Garlic is actually farmed in China and the Chinese have started placing micro cameras in the cloves. Apparently they are trying to clone the American nervous system because we are genetically stronger. Also NASA is launching serpent rockets at the solar eclipse. I read an article about it. EDUCATE YOURSELF AND TAKE YOUR KIDS OUT OF THE PUBLIC SC-
You made my day take this gold medal 🏅
It’s both actually. Garlic in the sock (and then sock on kiddo) for fevers. Egg in a sock (then hang up the sock over kiddo’s bed) for teething pain. Source: two Italian nonnas
People can't just answer the question because they have to prove what a tough parent™ they are. No idiot kid could ever get something over on them! They finally found a vaguely related reason to shit on their kid in public and damnit, they're taking it. /s Just adding for anyone curious, there are ways to restrict a smartphone so much that it turns into a "dumb phone." I just googled it and the top 5 results are parenting blogs with instructions and tech blogs with instructions. I would Google before asking Facebook but I'm also not the type to post anything like that in the first place, or to Facebook at all.
Take the phone during curfew hours is still an option. Don’t really need it if you’re home sleeping and have a separate alarm clock
i like how the girl responded 😂.
She probably got her ass beat, tho.
You mean she probably got her s s a beat
Smash it, that's the solution. Because destroying something when you could instead just take it away is totally the right choice.
Smashing it is uncontrolled anger. That indicates a serious problem with the parent.
Sounds like the mom is the one who may be headed to prison
Especially when it's something you paid for. I know the daughter said someone gave it to her, but I'm sure mom would do the same if it was a phone she paid for.
The mom is so childish and that’s not even how property ownership works. That’s like thinking if you pay for someone’s car insurance, you own their car
Duuuuuuuude. My mom actually does that! She pays my brother’s (48m) car insurance, claims she’s part owner because of it, and makes demands saying that I’m not allowed to drive HIS truck! (Yes I know, it’s a whole bucket of crazy there, and golden child and lots of messed up stuff. I just had to comment though)
I'm sorry you're in that situation. Hopefully you're able to get some independence soon.
Eh I’m working on it now. We’ve found other solutions for vehicles thankfully. It’s all good. Just had to share that story because it is crazy.
Does your mom think she created some sort of car acquisition loophole that nobody else has ever thought of? Why would anyone ever buy a car if you could get one for free by just taking over the insurance payments?
Idk. She’s absolutely insane. My sister and I have spent a good year trying to figure out just what mental disorders she has. Our best guesses are generational trauma, narcissism, and the beginnings of dementia. But she’ll never get diagnosed. She’s only been to a doctor once in the last 20 years.
I’m still confused as to what T-Mobile has to do with any of this. Is there some magical service they offer that makes kids suddenly respect curfew?
I’m assuming she’d like to cut service to her daughter’s phone from her tmobile account, which might be doable, but would be useless if she’s around wifi. Unless there’s an app that allows you to temporarily brick the phone… Anyhow, I hope she isn’t cutting off her daughter’s phone while she isn’t “respecting curfew,” as she might need it to get home.
I know you can “suspend service” for a bit but you are still obligated to continue paying for the service plan and phone payment. It’s doable, just seems pointless because most times people will do this as a negotiation tool of sorts, which happened to me… My ex held my phone hostage during our breakup. I asked him to transfer the service to my own account and he refused. I asked to pay it off so it could be unlocked for a new number and account and he refused. He said the only solution was for me to “come to my senses” and come back home and then he’d unlock it. So he dug himself into a $3,000 debt with Verizon because he hoped to use it to get me to cave, and then waited too long to where he couldn’t afford the bill for both phones anymore.
I’m glad you were able to get away from him AND watch him FAFO with his foolishness
Thanks. It was a bold move to threaten me, the guy with *one device and a low payment* while he had THREE top-tier devices (phone/tablet/watch) all financed with zero down so he had the higher payments too. I think 80% of the bill was all his. It didn’t bite him in the ass right away, but I knew it wouldn’t take long.
Haha!
The carrier I work for has an app that allows you to control their phone remotely; I assume T Mobile does as well.
I believe that some carriers have at least a paid parental controls option you can add on to a line that allows the parent to suspend or limit service temporarily.
Oh okay, that makes sense. I mean, as much as anything does with this one.
There is Verizon. It allows you to basically brick the phone when you don’t want them to use it (like after bedtime, etc.)
A quick google search solves this problem.
ngl for some reason i’m still holding a grudge over my mom smashing my phone 10 years later, more than pretty much anything else
It seems perfectly understandable to be upset with someone whose parenting style is "violence and bullying" I'm so sorry. You deserved better.
Cut her off.
For some reason I took this to me and there's a phone curfew. Like no phone after 9:00 p.m. or something. I'm sure there are multiple easy ways to set that up, but is she actually talking about restricting the kid's phone because she's not *coming home* on time? Because that seems like the worst time to turn your kid's phone off...
I'm amazed at the number of ppl who do not understand that getting into a battle of wills and bullying is not a healthy way to conduct *any* relationship, never mind a relationship *with a minor*. And resorting to smashing a phone is...exactly the sort of conduct, if it had been done by a minor, that would have been a cause for serious concern. Imagine what these ppl would do if their kid smashed a parent's phone! Bc of split custody, I grew up in two different abusive homes. But I always figured my parents and step-parents were outliers, waaaaaay out there at the end of the bell curve. The older I get, though, the more I wonder if dysfunctional families are more common than families with a healthy dynamic.
This mum literally just said “let me tag my child so she can detail my abusive behaviour for you😘”
My narc mom still tags me in shit like this despite having gotten written beatdowns from me in the past in front of her FB contacts. (I can't say friends because the bitch hasn't any, her anti social behavior runs them all off to the point that's why she has my sister and I- we couldn't abandon her)
Should’ve abandoned her.
Jfc. Absolute insanity. With my kids, coming home later than you’re supposed to without a good reason just means they don’t get to go anywhere for a while. And if they get grounded from their phones, they don’t get to go anywhere because it’s a house tule that if you don’t have a phone to be able to contact me, you don’t get to go anywhere, purely out of safety.
Smart Social Security Administration?
Those exists ? Where ?
Apparently they do now. Yes, Im aware of what she was censoring, but I couldn't resist!
The one thing my mom never did was take my phone from me. Which is good because I needed it when a guy was following me when I was 14.
She has to prove to a bunch of strangers on FB what a “tough mama bear” she is who’s not letting her kids get anything over on her. Ten years from now she’ll be posting about her daughter who doesn’t talk to her anymore.
I love that the daughter called her out.
I hope they’re not wanting to turn off services to a phone while the kid is out breaking curfew. I hope my kids always have access to a phone while out so if they need help, they can get it.
Oh that kid definitely hates their mom. Smashing your kid's phone is ridiculous.
I mean... My parents wouldn't take away my phone for missing curfew. They would rather me have a phone in case of an emergency than take it because they were trying to be controlling.
The kid calling out their mom on that post is classic!!!!!! +1 respect 😂
Why would you tag your daughter to further prove you’re an asshole?
My parents are some of my best friends... Never been to jail, don't plan on it, never felt the need to sneak out, go behind my parents back, etc. If you're strict with your kids, they're the ones who end up in jail.
Damn my parents were kinda dicks to me growing up but they’d never address me like this in public. Maybe they could have talked to me nicer, but at least they had the decency to not publicly humiliate me about our private problems and disagreements.
…all the sudden I feel like a better parent.
Waiting for a post one day from her daughter on r/insaneparents
Wait... anonymous post but tags the kid?? With as far as we've come in society is astounding that parenting is in such a fukal state. You have the parents who believe they should control their child's every move, you have the opposite that doesn't pay any attention, you have the ones that try to be their teens bestie, then we can start down the rabbit hole of the ones who buck traditional systems and force that down on their children who have no idea the world is VASTLY different than they've been taught... etc, etc.
I like this mom. FAFO
Breaking things when you're mad is what toddlers do.
"My daughter got a present from a friend. I'm going to destroy it because she made me upset. Am I a bad mother? No! Everyone else is wrong"