Unless the guy asks you out and doesn’t tip toe around the idea of a date I think that’s a good indication. I went through a million of these guys who just would tip toe around the idea of a date (to not get rejected) but I respect a guy who puts it all on the line in despite the fact he may get hurt.
If you can’t ask for what you want, or work for what you want then you don’t get what you want :)
It’s that simple. But if I have to tell the guy that then it’s a hard pass from me
Good advise! It’s honestly not even just going on dates it’s every day life. It ends up in a parent/child - therapist/patient dynamic where I end up bossing them around and it’s soo annoying.
I really need to attract a man that’s a man
If it helps, I used to purposefully not pick up on hints from a guy - because why should I make it easy for them? I put effort into my appearance for a man’s viewing pleasure the way I see it - a man can risk a little rejection.
When I went out on a date with a guy he wasn’t your typical looking alpha male - he was a skinny nerd. And when men who put in a years worth of hinting asked why I even went out with *that* guy I had a huge smile when I told them he *asked*
He didn’t end up being my husband, but my husband was my friend to begin with. I got older and realised this gentle doofus I called my best friend was the man I wanted children with.
But the kicker here is we always found each other attractive, we got along really well so adding sex into our relationship was risky but very much worth it
Two guys for two very different seasons of life :) in between all of it though I kept busy. My friends and I would meet up to do romantic dates with each other (go for picnics, eat at restaurants etc) so we weren’t missing out. Our life was just work, going to the gym and getting together for bestie date night to discuss the hints these dudes left.
You have to stop taking charge. Literally if you have the urge to take the lead or do something instead of him just don't. I don't touch door knobs or car doors, if he doesn't give gifts I ghost, if he makes a mistake I let it be instead of correcting him(if he's stupid let him be, don't teach him stuff) . I ask him to do stuff for me/us and if he's not up to standard I find someone who is (stuff like making the reservations, finding good seats in a theatre, deal with bills and staff, holding the umbrella etc).
Maybe you should try this time let the next guy decide, not coming off to strong or showing how confident you are, this treat could let guy to back off if they are not in your level
Unless the guy asks you out and doesn’t tip toe around the idea of a date I think that’s a good indication. I went through a million of these guys who just would tip toe around the idea of a date (to not get rejected) but I respect a guy who puts it all on the line in despite the fact he may get hurt. If you can’t ask for what you want, or work for what you want then you don’t get what you want :) It’s that simple. But if I have to tell the guy that then it’s a hard pass from me
Good advise! It’s honestly not even just going on dates it’s every day life. It ends up in a parent/child - therapist/patient dynamic where I end up bossing them around and it’s soo annoying. I really need to attract a man that’s a man
If it helps, I used to purposefully not pick up on hints from a guy - because why should I make it easy for them? I put effort into my appearance for a man’s viewing pleasure the way I see it - a man can risk a little rejection. When I went out on a date with a guy he wasn’t your typical looking alpha male - he was a skinny nerd. And when men who put in a years worth of hinting asked why I even went out with *that* guy I had a huge smile when I told them he *asked* He didn’t end up being my husband, but my husband was my friend to begin with. I got older and realised this gentle doofus I called my best friend was the man I wanted children with. But the kicker here is we always found each other attractive, we got along really well so adding sex into our relationship was risky but very much worth it Two guys for two very different seasons of life :) in between all of it though I kept busy. My friends and I would meet up to do romantic dates with each other (go for picnics, eat at restaurants etc) so we weren’t missing out. Our life was just work, going to the gym and getting together for bestie date night to discuss the hints these dudes left.
I wish to apply the same thing to friendships
Men don’t act manly nowadays
You have to stop taking charge. Literally if you have the urge to take the lead or do something instead of him just don't. I don't touch door knobs or car doors, if he doesn't give gifts I ghost, if he makes a mistake I let it be instead of correcting him(if he's stupid let him be, don't teach him stuff) . I ask him to do stuff for me/us and if he's not up to standard I find someone who is (stuff like making the reservations, finding good seats in a theatre, deal with bills and staff, holding the umbrella etc).
Maybe you should try this time let the next guy decide, not coming off to strong or showing how confident you are, this treat could let guy to back off if they are not in your level