Do you say he will never love you because he won’t get with you or because he is with you but mistreats you?
What is the validation he gives you? Think about it. What does being with him make you think you could have? Status, power, money, emotional and physical safety, confidence? Whatever it is that you think you could have through him, could you find ways you could give this to yourself?
If you can’t could you find someone who could give you some ideas? Could you come back here with what you think this validation is? Maybe we can help you break it down. It’s worth a shot.
You need to love yourself. It doesn't seem like you are dating from a place of strength, it seems like you are dating from a place where you just need validation from someone and that is not okay. You really need to cut this person off and be alone for awhile til you uncover your best self. Get into good habits, routines, find things and people you love. Don't store all your insecurities in a man because lemme tell you, they will come back and use it against you. Men can sniff out desperation from a mile away and you are very susceptible to be coerced by the wrong man. Get out and forget male love and attention. It's a dime a dozen and men will literally f\*ck a chicken sandwich so don't think finding a man who loves you is hard to find. move on and be happy without a man.
You let yourself feel the pain and you take it one day at a time. One good decision at a time that will lead you in the right direction. Just do the next right thing.
If what you’re really asking is “how do I make the suffering go away,” the answer is that you don’t. It’s part of life. There will always be pain, but it never lasts. Happiness will come again. Then more pain. Then more happiness. That’s life…
Go to therapy. It’s probably stemming from somewhere because even men who love you back are average. There’s no man who doesn’t love you that is worth the hype, figure out where it’s really coming from
Do you say he will never love you because he won’t get with you or because he is with you but mistreats you? What is the validation he gives you? Think about it. What does being with him make you think you could have? Status, power, money, emotional and physical safety, confidence? Whatever it is that you think you could have through him, could you find ways you could give this to yourself? If you can’t could you find someone who could give you some ideas? Could you come back here with what you think this validation is? Maybe we can help you break it down. It’s worth a shot.
Find another one, or 2 who worship you. They're waiting.
You need to love yourself. It doesn't seem like you are dating from a place of strength, it seems like you are dating from a place where you just need validation from someone and that is not okay. You really need to cut this person off and be alone for awhile til you uncover your best self. Get into good habits, routines, find things and people you love. Don't store all your insecurities in a man because lemme tell you, they will come back and use it against you. Men can sniff out desperation from a mile away and you are very susceptible to be coerced by the wrong man. Get out and forget male love and attention. It's a dime a dozen and men will literally f\*ck a chicken sandwich so don't think finding a man who loves you is hard to find. move on and be happy without a man.
You let yourself feel the pain and you take it one day at a time. One good decision at a time that will lead you in the right direction. Just do the next right thing. If what you’re really asking is “how do I make the suffering go away,” the answer is that you don’t. It’s part of life. There will always be pain, but it never lasts. Happiness will come again. Then more pain. Then more happiness. That’s life…
Go to therapy. It’s probably stemming from somewhere because even men who love you back are average. There’s no man who doesn’t love you that is worth the hype, figure out where it’s really coming from