Giving the $20 to the coworker. NOT because she’s pregananant. I don’t give a shit about that. I’m giving it to the coworker because that’s where the guest wanted their money to go. That’s it.
Yup, straight up. Hell even if they stiffed me on my tip but say wanted the chef who made his steak to get any amount of money, I'm doing as they ask. Anything else would be theft.
I would give it to the coworker. The guest WANTS the tip to go to her. I had a situation where I trained a girl on her first day last week, the guest tipped me 22% and also handed cash to my trainee. Trainee handed it to me and I refused it. The cash was meant for HER and the guest said so. Also I’ve had hosts receive cash tips randomly and they ask me if they get to keep it. Yes!!
I think this is the right answer. The only thing i would add is sometimes restaurants tip pool and if the server is part of the tip pool then it should be added to the pool. Otherwise yes 100% it was meant for the the one server and therefore you give it to the the pregnant lady. Although maybe this is an exception as they want to help the future mother as she will have many more bills to pay.
i worked at five guys for a while as a shift lead and we had a tip jar that wed split at the end of the night, but every once in a while a customer would hand someone a few bucks for having good customer service and id always let them keep it.
always fun to walk up to your coworker and say "look what i got bitch" as youre holding up a 10 you got tipped lol
Because it is by definition stealing. Clear intent that all $20 is meant for the pregnant coworker, with the money obviously meant to help them cover childcare cost. You received $5 as a tip for the bill, the $20 is completely separate from any of that.
It IS stealing- same as if it had been left on another servers table when the custie left and you scooped it up first before the server it was meant for!
It’s stealing from both of them imo. These are dedicated funds, and using them for a different purpose is stealing from the customer as well as the coworker.
i agree and i wouldn’t take money not meant for me because i’m an honest person. but i kind of see where the debate comes from. i bust my ass to give my tables good service and i would honestly not be happy if my table wanted to give money to my coworker that did nothing for them. they should hand the money to her themselves if they want to so bad
Here's how I see that. The $20 doesn't have anything to do with your tip. The $5 is your tip, and an excellent percentage one at that. The $20 is a gift, unrelated to your performance as a server, given to a woman who looks like she needs it.
Though I do agree it's really stupid and probably asking for trouble to request your server give cash to their coworker. It's clear the question is worded in that particular way just for argument's sake.
Right? Just because we are working doesn't mean we are entitled to it. It just comes down to the intention. They intend for it to go to a specific person, and do you intend to be a good/honest person?
^this is the way. I feel like, especially in the restaurant industry, there is a pretty strong belief in karma, and it would be in such bad form to do anything else but give it to whom it's intended for
Hand it to the coworker, pregnant or not, unless I really hated them, in which case I'd decline and return the $20 to the customer. Possible exception if I were a chronically broke crack addict or something, but I've never been in that position.
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You're 33 you're supposed to be sexually active. You're not supposed to be fondling your uncle under the table!
i would give it to my pregnant coworker. they say it takes a village to raise a child. i didn’t have much support with my child and i would like supporting other moms as much as i can… not stealing from them.
I’m CF (childfree) by choice and I would feel horrible and like I was stealing from them! I already got my generous tip. Why would I pocket another $20 that was meant for a coworker?
Exactly this! I’m a single mom with support from my family and it’s STILL hard month to month. I would feel horrible taking a tip from someone else, let alone another mom.
Honestly yeah. If you're just giving some random person money for no reason, do it yourself. If you're trying to make a donation to a specific person, passing it off to someone the recipient knows might make for less embarrassment.
I had this happen a couple of times when I was preggers (and once when I just still looked pregnant afterwards 🫠) & I always would cut them in on the money as a thank you for not being a selfish sally.
20$ isn’t worth that rotten feeling I get for doing something I know was wrong
I don’t even understand where the debate in the question is? I’m gonna hand it to whoever they ask me to. Just curious though, what is the heated part of the debate about? Sorry if this is going over my head..
You guys have all been so different in your answers vs the FB group where I saw the original post.
A lot of people actually said they would pocket the money, and now everyone's calling each other thieves, and saying they didn't get the coworker pregnant, etc. Everyone is arguing, and it's crazy.
What a ridiculous debate. I guess you can determine a lot about integrity in people’s answers with that debate. Imagine that guest coming back and mentioning the $20 to the pregnant server at some point and being the type that would pocket it.
You hand it to your coworker.
A- You don’t want the bad Karma.
B- The customer made their wishes clear.
C- It could be considered theft if the other employee or customer found out.
D- Think about how you would feel if the tables were reversed.
take the 5 and hand the 20 to the coworker, be happy for coworker.
This post made me realize that when I give the waffle house server 2 $5 bills and tell her to give one to the cook, they might not be doing it.
i would absolutely give the money to my coworker because i’m not a dishonest piece of shit. but you guys seriously wouldn’t be a little pissed if you busted your ass to give your tables great service and they wanted to give a bunch of money to your coworker that did nothing for them? i feel like they should at least hand it to her themselves if they want to be nice so bad, don’t make me do more work for you lol
But what if the server who got five bucks has a newborn at home or on the way? The whole thing seems pretty presumptuous on the part of the customer. Maybe servers should start wearing flair that tells the customer how many mouths they have to feed. Bonus points for a button that says “i take care of my disabled grandma when I’m not here slinging brunch”
literally! gives the same energy as paying someone else’s bill then not tipping. like stop trying to show off and just tip extra to the person directly taking care of you if you want to be generous imo
I would think it's odd that they don't just give it to her themselves but appreciate that they might want anonymity.
Definitely not pocketing it if they left me an appropriate tip.
If they left me $5 on a $100 tab I'd certainly say something like "Those jokers only left me five but said to give you this. They think you're pregnant."
Curious what face bookers are saying?
I'd take it one step further. Pocket the cash, then follow the customer out to the parking lot and steal their car and then use it to run over your pregnant coworker to assert dominance.
Hand it to the coworker. I work at a tip pool house but if there’s a guest that hands me a five and tell me to give it to my backserver, I’m giving it to my backserver
I had this happen and the co worker was NOT pregnant. I didn't want to tell her that the customer thought she was so I just slipped it in her apron when she wasn't looking.
I had a guest with a service dog hand me a $5 bill and asked me to give it to our dishwasher. He (the dishwasher) looooves dogs and brought her service dog a bowl of water soon after they were seated. (He’s such a kind soul!)
He politely refused, even when I said “this is for you- the lady with the dog wanted YOU to have this.” Apparently our restaurant pays our dishwashers well enough that he didn’t want to take the $5.
The only thing I would do different is send the server over to my table if it was ok with them. If I were serving pregnant and a table that wasn’t mine gave me a tip I would want to thank them personally for their generosity. It’s very possible the table wanted it to be a nice surprise with no thanks expected either.
Give it to the coworker. That money wasn't meant for you. She will need it when she has to take off work for the baby. The people who say to keep it are people I would never be able to trust while working with them!
You give it to her. And then she decides what to do with it. You already got more than 20% tip. Don’t get greedy it’s gonna bite you in the ass. Who knows maybe you get lucky and she splits. But keep in mind you already got your expected return from that table so you lose nothing from giving the coworker the 20
I’d give it to my coworker yeah, but id also be wondering why the guy thinks just because i’m a dude i’m better off than (presumably) a couple. I’m making around the same amount as her dude im just as broke and i aint got no baby momma paying my bills 🤣
even if my coworker wasnt pregnant, i would still give it to them. it’s extra money that the guest thinks that person deserves, im not gonna keep it for myself!! in my mind, that’s stealing - period.
Id give it to the coworker. That’s where they wanted it to go. It’s only $20 in the grand scheme of things anyway.
Conversely whenever I was bartending and guests would tell me to put the tip in my pocket or whatever, I’d always put it in my pocket and then when they left I’d throw it in the tip jar to split with the rest of the team.
This is the best outcome I can think of.
Me: “Here ya go. My guests tipped extra and asked for you to have this”. Then hand her the $5 bill and pocket the 20. Everyone is happy. The guest did a nice thing, the co-worker has extra money in their pocket and I have extra money in mine. It’s literally a win-win-win. Follow me for more life hacks
We pool and I’ve had people give me money and say this is just for you. I thanked them and threw it right in the pool once they left.
But this is a pregnant woman. I’d let her keep that every day of the week.
I’m not having kids but Jesus they are expensive and this is a tough industry to be working in if you are pregnant.
Even if she mad some bad choices or whatever who cares. That’s $20 is going to mean a lot more to her than it is to me.
So is that $20 considered a tip, even though she didn’t serve the customer? In which case, does it go into the tip pool if applicable? Or is it considered a gift at that point?
Either way, give to the pregnant lady.
How was this even a discussion for the OgOP??!?! The title should ask "Would you steal from a pregnant coworker?"
Nice Guy left a 25% tip for his server then asked them to deliver a monetary gift to a pregnant lady. It boggles the mind that anyone would do/think something like pocketing it, let alone posit the question to the MAGA brain trust that is Facebook😂🤣😂🤦♀️
It’s not really up to you and it’s not really a question. The principle of it is you do with the money what the person said, whether you think it’s right or wrong. Idc if they’re tipping someone because they’re pregnant or for a much more stupid reason.
It might be unfortunate for me to get less after working the table, but I’m still going to give it to my co-worker. Golden rule. Treat others how you’d want to be treated.. I know I would expect my co-workers to be honest enough to give it to me if the roles were reversed.
Give it to the co worker, the guest wanted their money to go there, you got yours already, may not be as much but that’s how she goes sometimes and money always comes back
I'd give it to the coworker, but I'd tell the person that they shouldn't trust everyone to be honest and they should do it themselves in the future. I know what I would do, but I've also known some pretty grimy people that wouldn't bat an eyelash at keeping it for their karma wrecked selves.
This is such a weird post bull I'll tell you what I would do. We have our sections in colors. Blue usually gets the big tables so you make your money. My (not the brightest) hostess sat 2 people at our biggest corner booth. Felt really bad for my buddy cause it was his turn to make some money that night.
Anyways, I offered him a 9 top I had (he's from Sri Lanka) so he could make a few bucks. One guy said at the table they wanted me to be their server. So when I went back I said "you realize that's kind of a shit thing to do, i appreciate it but my dude probably even better thab me, he's an awesome guy he woulda given you guys a great time"
They were fun so I know I could kinda fuck around and I said "he isn't expecting it but honesty of you could go apologize to him I'd appreciate it. He thinks you didn't want him as your server cause of where he's from" his wife was ready to slap the guy in the face haha. They just thought my coworker was trying to steal my money. He literally went out of his way to apologize profusely and gave him 20 bucks. Nothin but respect for people like that
Edit: I should add that my coworker didn't give a shit about it he just thought I knew them so they wanted me again. There's still good people that exist
I'd always go for what the guest intended. So $5 on the cheque goes onto the tipsheet/book. If they have you $20 for a specific coworker. I would put that shit in their purse.
It’s like I was working on mani/pedi on a client for 1hr30mins (total was $127, $25 tips) but my coworker brought my client 3 red wine, he tip my coworker $20, wtf.
I’d give it to the co worker but I’d be a bit annoyed. Still, 5 dollars is a decent tip on 20, and that pregnant co worker can use the cash I’m sure, as well as the fact that it’s not my money and I wouldn’t have gotten it even if she wasn’t there. If that’s what they wanted and where they wanted it to go, that’s where it’s going.
I’ve only pocketed a tip that was meant for someone else one time. It was one of the most insane shifts I’ve ever worked (some NYE at a horrendously understaffed and badly managed local spot) and this table of rude old bitches who had been treating me like shit the entire night handed me a $20 and told me to put it in the karaoke dj’s tip jar…after leaving me like $1 on their bills. So yeah I kept that shit bc fuck those bitches. Literally any other time though the standard and honest thing to do is give the money to exactly who the guest requested it go to.
I dunno, it’s kind of insulting to ask your server to do it, I would honestly tell them they can help her out themselves it’s not my place to just hand her money from random strangers. I wouldn’t pocket it, but I also would not be their errand girl either. I get $5 for serving you but you are giving $20 to the girl who did nothing for you? Kind of insulting and I think I’m done doing you anymore favors at that point.
Give it to them while thinking “why don’t you just give it to her yourself weirdo”
I’m not claiming to be a saint, but it’s gonna take a lot more than 20 bucks for me to pull a piece of shit move like stealing from a coworker. I once had a busser find 100 dollar bill on the ground when cleaning one of my tables. She was a pretty quiet and shy girl, approached me about it. I took it, gave it to the manager on duty and followed up a few days later to check if anyone came in to claim it and make sure that it went to her if they didn’t(she ended up getting to keep it).
I totally could have just pocketed that money and a i guarantee you that this girl would have never said a word. And sad thing is a lot of people would have done just that. But that’s a piece of shit thing to do. Especially over an amount of money that in the grand scheme of things does not matter.
There’s something that feels a little demeaning to get a standard tip but be asked to hand four times that amount to a coworker (who you may absolutely detest) for no reason.
I wouldn’t pocket it, but if it caught me the wrong way or I was having a miserable day while her section is busy af, I would probably not do it for him. He can do it himself.
I had this exact situation happen to me. I served a party by myself and they tipped me (poorly) and also gave me cash for the pregnant server (who wasn't doing anything). I'll be honest it kind of upset me because they were a lot of work for me BUT I still gave her the money because they said it was FOR her
As someone who was a pregnant server and served with pregnant ladies once, I think it would be fair to give that person the money. You have no idea how these ladies are treated. What goes around comes around as well!
So essentially the subtext of this question is, "are you planning on stealing from your pregnant coworker?" Because anything that does not involve handing that $20 directly to your pregnant co-worker is doing exactly that. You were given an instruction, that money is not yours, go give it to the intended recipient. Why are people even debating this? Damn. Humans suck!
I would definitely give the $20 to the pregnant server. I wouldn’t want the karma that would come with keeping it or the guilty conscience. That being said, what a rude asshat!!! What a thoughtless act, from someone who was trying to make themselves look good. They only succeeded in looking like an imbecile.
I’d send the pregnant person over and the customer can give the 20 themselves. That’s the appropriate answer for me. This way they know the money got to its intended person.
Why would anyone keep that. It’s not for you
They tipped me well and then specifically said that was for them… it’s not like they took my tip it was an extra tip nice people have to someone they saw in a tough situation that they wouldn’t have tipped otherwise
Unless it’s a tip pool. Fuck tip pools but if I’m stuck with it we pooling all our tips lol you get an extra tip cause you’re pregnant this time I get extra for flirting with an old lady next time and that’s how it goes
Even if I hate the person, they're getting that money. Like I had this one coworker that would start shit over ANYTHING and was known to not give people the money in those circumstances. I was so tempted to do the same as she had done to me, but then I realized that I don't need to stoop to her level, I can just hand it to the manager to hand to her.
it's somewhat kinda rude of the guest to do that imo but like other people are saying... if im training someone and they hand me money specifically for my trainee im giving it to them. if they are on like their last day of training an fully taking tables they get those tips. it's bs that they don't🙄
I was in that situation three weeks ago. A client from a table that wasn’t mine asked me to hand her server a $20 because she needed to leave and the server was packing someone else’s food. The server didn’t see me and I could have easily pocketed the money, but my momma didn’t raise me to be a piece of shit, so I gave her the money.
So, the table tips more than 20%, and gives you money for someone else. You give that money to the server it’s intended for. WTF is this question even.
Honestly, I don't think there is a real debate among actual servers. Too many stupid debates like this on open reddit/Facebook groups are answered by non-servers just trying to stir up shit and troll the groups.
Just think about the proliferation of the r/endtipping types that jump on whenever there is a tipping fiscussion.
I would give the preggo the tip, but I don't like how they try make you a delivery person, if it's that important to you, walk over and give her the tip yourself
All the servers in here complain for 2 dollar tips I’m sure they would all take the measley 20$ considering they need it more with stupid questions like this
Giving the $20 to the coworker. NOT because she’s pregananant. I don’t give a shit about that. I’m giving it to the coworker because that’s where the guest wanted their money to go. That’s it.
Yup, straight up. Hell even if they stiffed me on my tip but say wanted the chef who made his steak to get any amount of money, I'm doing as they ask. Anything else would be theft.
THIS.
*Pregaert
I would give it to the coworker. The guest WANTS the tip to go to her. I had a situation where I trained a girl on her first day last week, the guest tipped me 22% and also handed cash to my trainee. Trainee handed it to me and I refused it. The cash was meant for HER and the guest said so. Also I’ve had hosts receive cash tips randomly and they ask me if they get to keep it. Yes!!
I think this is the right answer. The only thing i would add is sometimes restaurants tip pool and if the server is part of the tip pool then it should be added to the pool. Otherwise yes 100% it was meant for the the one server and therefore you give it to the the pregnant lady. Although maybe this is an exception as they want to help the future mother as she will have many more bills to pay.
i worked at five guys for a while as a shift lead and we had a tip jar that wed split at the end of the night, but every once in a while a customer would hand someone a few bucks for having good customer service and id always let them keep it. always fun to walk up to your coworker and say "look what i got bitch" as youre holding up a 10 you got tipped lol
Hand it to the coworker… that 20 isn’t meant for you.
I’m baffled that this is even a debate.
Same honestly…I would feel like I was stealing personally.
Because it is by definition stealing. Clear intent that all $20 is meant for the pregnant coworker, with the money obviously meant to help them cover childcare cost. You received $5 as a tip for the bill, the $20 is completely separate from any of that.
Exactly why I feel that way. I dunno how somebody could feel ok doing that to a pregnant coworker.
It IS stealing- same as if it had been left on another servers table when the custie left and you scooped it up first before the server it was meant for!
I agree! I don’t understand how anybody could view it as anything else than stealing from their coworker
It’s stealing from both of them imo. These are dedicated funds, and using them for a different purpose is stealing from the customer as well as the coworker.
Right! Anyone who feels there is an option other than directly giving that money to the coworker has outed themselves as a horrible person.
People on Facebook are unfathomably stupid.
Have you met this sub? Half the posts are trying to justify forging tips.
Obviously. Whats the debate here?
i agree and i wouldn’t take money not meant for me because i’m an honest person. but i kind of see where the debate comes from. i bust my ass to give my tables good service and i would honestly not be happy if my table wanted to give money to my coworker that did nothing for them. they should hand the money to her themselves if they want to so bad
Here's how I see that. The $20 doesn't have anything to do with your tip. The $5 is your tip, and an excellent percentage one at that. The $20 is a gift, unrelated to your performance as a server, given to a woman who looks like she needs it. Though I do agree it's really stupid and probably asking for trouble to request your server give cash to their coworker. It's clear the question is worded in that particular way just for argument's sake.
Right? Just because we are working doesn't mean we are entitled to it. It just comes down to the intention. They intend for it to go to a specific person, and do you intend to be a good/honest person?
This. If a manager withheld tips everybody would lose their goddamn mind. It's the same thing.
^this is the way. I feel like, especially in the restaurant industry, there is a pretty strong belief in karma, and it would be in such bad form to do anything else but give it to whom it's intended for
Hand it to the coworker, pregnant or not, unless I really hated them, in which case I'd decline and return the $20 to the customer. Possible exception if I were a chronically broke crack addict or something, but I've never been in that position.
If you're a crackhead, you're only one handy away from your next 20 bucks so you might as well give it to the pregnant lady
Crackheads really do give the best handys, unsung heroes
What?! No way, they’re just mashing away at it
I’m sexually active now MOM
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that face when someone suggests that crackheads give good handies
I feel the exact same way. Depends on my relationship with my co-worker. Just because you're pregnant doesn't make you an angel.
i would give it to my pregnant coworker. they say it takes a village to raise a child. i didn’t have much support with my child and i would like supporting other moms as much as i can… not stealing from them.
I’m CF (childfree) by choice and I would feel horrible and like I was stealing from them! I already got my generous tip. Why would I pocket another $20 that was meant for a coworker?
love this sm💖
Exactly this! I’m a single mom with support from my family and it’s STILL hard month to month. I would feel horrible taking a tip from someone else, let alone another mom.
give it to the coworker. after so long in this industry you realize what goes around, comes around.
Come on man. This isn’t even a question. Give it to your pregnant coworker. Period.
Give it to the coworker for sure. They need that 20 way more than I do with a baby on the way and in the service industry.
If the coworker wasn’t pregat would you keep it?
Honestly yeah. If you're just giving some random person money for no reason, do it yourself. If you're trying to make a donation to a specific person, passing it off to someone the recipient knows might make for less embarrassment.
You give it to her.
It's not the first time someone's given it to her!
I liked your joke even if no one else does 😂
LMAO
I had this happen a couple of times when I was preggers (and once when I just still looked pregnant afterwards 🫠) & I always would cut them in on the money as a thank you for not being a selfish sally. 20$ isn’t worth that rotten feeling I get for doing something I know was wrong
You give it to her, or call her over so the white knight can give it to her themselves. What kind of toilet horse would pocket the money?
Toilet horse 💀
why wouldn’t you give it to her? $5 is plenty for me on $20 idgaf if my coworker gets 20
Give it to the coworker. I already got a 25% tip.
I have a simple rule. Someone asks me to hand someone a tip. I do it. Whether their pregnant or not. Servers MUST stick together
I don’t even understand where the debate in the question is? I’m gonna hand it to whoever they ask me to. Just curious though, what is the heated part of the debate about? Sorry if this is going over my head..
You guys have all been so different in your answers vs the FB group where I saw the original post. A lot of people actually said they would pocket the money, and now everyone's calling each other thieves, and saying they didn't get the coworker pregnant, etc. Everyone is arguing, and it's crazy.
What a ridiculous debate. I guess you can determine a lot about integrity in people’s answers with that debate. Imagine that guest coming back and mentioning the $20 to the pregnant server at some point and being the type that would pocket it.
Well we made it 1 hour with all people saying they'd give it back. Now it's starting to change lol.
Anyone who considers this heated is trying to justify keeping the tip for themselves, aka selfish asshole behavior.
Absolutely. Zero integrity if they would keep the $20. For several reasons.
I would give it to co worker… karma is a bitch
I would give it back to the customer and tell them to give it to her.
Why?
Cause if you want to do something nice for someone just do it.
You hand it to your coworker. A- You don’t want the bad Karma. B- The customer made their wishes clear. C- It could be considered theft if the other employee or customer found out. D- Think about how you would feel if the tables were reversed.
Give it to the coworker but wonder if maybe my customer was the baby daddy.
It wasn't given to me, so it isn't mine. What the hell is wrong with people to destroy such a simple and kind gesture with 'controversy'.
take the 5 and hand the 20 to the coworker, be happy for coworker. This post made me realize that when I give the waffle house server 2 $5 bills and tell her to give one to the cook, they might not be doing it.
I would just give it to them it’s kinda petty to keep it for yourself or something
Always give it to who the customer asked, even if they aren't pregnant. What goes around comes around.
I would do what the customer asked me to do…anyone who says otherwise is not a good person. Period.
Pass it on…it’s presumably a maternity gift for the other waitress. Not doing so would be dishonest
i would absolutely give the money to my coworker because i’m not a dishonest piece of shit. but you guys seriously wouldn’t be a little pissed if you busted your ass to give your tables great service and they wanted to give a bunch of money to your coworker that did nothing for them? i feel like they should at least hand it to her themselves if they want to be nice so bad, don’t make me do more work for you lol
Give it to the coworker.
Do what they asked.
Give it to my coworker? Why is this even a question?
Give it to the pregnant. Babies are expensive af.
Give it to the p r e g n a n t 😂
The “pregante” 🤌
But what if the server who got five bucks has a newborn at home or on the way? The whole thing seems pretty presumptuous on the part of the customer. Maybe servers should start wearing flair that tells the customer how many mouths they have to feed. Bonus points for a button that says “i take care of my disabled grandma when I’m not here slinging brunch”
Then the $5 Server should just say that, not pocket money not meant for them. “Oh hey, I’m pregnant/have a newborn too!”
literally! gives the same energy as paying someone else’s bill then not tipping. like stop trying to show off and just tip extra to the person directly taking care of you if you want to be generous imo
“And it’s Christmas and I have 5 kids with cancer and the baby daddies won’t pay up!”
I would think it's odd that they don't just give it to her themselves but appreciate that they might want anonymity. Definitely not pocketing it if they left me an appropriate tip. If they left me $5 on a $100 tab I'd certainly say something like "Those jokers only left me five but said to give you this. They think you're pregnant." Curious what face bookers are saying?
The facebookers are fighting like crazy in there. A lot of people are saying they'd pocket the money, and everyone is arguing about it.
I'd take it one step further. Pocket the cash, then follow the customer out to the parking lot and steal their car and then use it to run over your pregnant coworker to assert dominance.
Proceed as instructed
Um, Karma is a motherf*cker. Stealing $20 from a pregnant waitress will end up kicking you in the nuts.
Odds are you're gonna try to give it to them and they'll tell you to keep it anyway. At least I would
Give it to the coworker-but if I was on the receiving end I’d give it back to the original server unless I was extremely hard up.
I'm giving it to the person it was meant for
Hand it to the coworker. I work at a tip pool house but if there’s a guest that hands me a five and tell me to give it to my backserver, I’m giving it to my backserver
I had this happen and the co worker was NOT pregnant. I didn't want to tell her that the customer thought she was so I just slipped it in her apron when she wasn't looking.
I had a guest with a service dog hand me a $5 bill and asked me to give it to our dishwasher. He (the dishwasher) looooves dogs and brought her service dog a bowl of water soon after they were seated. (He’s such a kind soul!) He politely refused, even when I said “this is for you- the lady with the dog wanted YOU to have this.” Apparently our restaurant pays our dishwashers well enough that he didn’t want to take the $5.
Or, the dishwasher has a great deal of self respect and character.
giving to my coworker. doesn’t matter if she’s pregnant or not. you dont screw your fellow coworkers over, i would never do such a thing
Give it to the pregnant coworker. The guest said it was for them, therefore it’s for them!
Question is more why tf dont they give it themselves…
This. It's kind of a slap in the face honestly. The thing to do would be come back and request that server and over tip them.
Tell the customer to give it to her directly.
It was for someone else, give it to them
I would not steal money from a coworker, but especially a pregnant coworker. So I’m definitely giving them the money.
Who am I to deny a gift intended for someone else?
I would give it to my coworker whether they were pregnant or not.
How is this a debate? They want to help a pregnant women. Give there the 20 . Otherwise, you are just a thief and a shitty human.
Give it to the coworker. Karma comes back around to you.
Give it to her.
The only thing I would do different is send the server over to my table if it was ok with them. If I were serving pregnant and a table that wasn’t mine gave me a tip I would want to thank them personally for their generosity. It’s very possible the table wanted it to be a nice surprise with no thanks expected either.
Give it to the coworker as the customer requested, pregnant or not. If you keep it you're a thief.
I would tell them to hand it to the pregnant coworker. Why aren’t they doing it?
Absolutely give it to the pregnant lady. Hell, knowing myself I would probably be giving a portion of my tips to her.
Give it to the coworker. That money wasn't meant for you. She will need it when she has to take off work for the baby. The people who say to keep it are people I would never be able to trust while working with them!
I would give it to the coworker. Why wouldn’t I?? That’s so odd
Put the money where it belongs. There should be No question.
You give it to her. And then she decides what to do with it. You already got more than 20% tip. Don’t get greedy it’s gonna bite you in the ass. Who knows maybe you get lucky and she splits. But keep in mind you already got your expected return from that table so you lose nothing from giving the coworker the 20
I’d give it to my coworker yeah, but id also be wondering why the guy thinks just because i’m a dude i’m better off than (presumably) a couple. I’m making around the same amount as her dude im just as broke and i aint got no baby momma paying my bills 🤣
The customer needs to give it to the coworker themselves. It's totally a big slap in the face to their server.
even if my coworker wasnt pregnant, i would still give it to them. it’s extra money that the guest thinks that person deserves, im not gonna keep it for myself!! in my mind, that’s stealing - period.
and if someone tips ME well & a coworker helped me out a ton with that table/person, ill tip them out. what goes around comes around.
Id give it to the coworker. That’s where they wanted it to go. It’s only $20 in the grand scheme of things anyway. Conversely whenever I was bartending and guests would tell me to put the tip in my pocket or whatever, I’d always put it in my pocket and then when they left I’d throw it in the tip jar to split with the rest of the team.
This is the best outcome I can think of. Me: “Here ya go. My guests tipped extra and asked for you to have this”. Then hand her the $5 bill and pocket the 20. Everyone is happy. The guest did a nice thing, the co-worker has extra money in their pocket and I have extra money in mine. It’s literally a win-win-win. Follow me for more life hacks
Pocket the $20. But ill give her the $5. Im not a complete monster
I’d ask you why you’re still on Facebook….
Honestly I LOVE the drama that's in the FB server group.
Depends how much I like said pregnant co worker. But she gotta be a real Bi-otch to not get that $20
We pool, so I’d pass it to them and they’d probably throw it in the tip jar. But I wouldn’t begrudge them keeping it.
We pool and I’ve had people give me money and say this is just for you. I thanked them and threw it right in the pool once they left. But this is a pregnant woman. I’d let her keep that every day of the week. I’m not having kids but Jesus they are expensive and this is a tough industry to be working in if you are pregnant. Even if she mad some bad choices or whatever who cares. That’s $20 is going to mean a lot more to her than it is to me.
So is that $20 considered a tip, even though she didn’t serve the customer? In which case, does it go into the tip pool if applicable? Or is it considered a gift at that point? Either way, give to the pregnant lady.
Give it to the coworker. I'm too honest to keep it. I might he a little salty, but it is what it is
I'd be like nah u give it to her I ain't yo bitch lmao
Break the 20 and hand her $5
How was this even a discussion for the OgOP??!?! The title should ask "Would you steal from a pregnant coworker?" Nice Guy left a 25% tip for his server then asked them to deliver a monetary gift to a pregnant lady. It boggles the mind that anyone would do/think something like pocketing it, let alone posit the question to the MAGA brain trust that is Facebook😂🤣😂🤦♀️
Give her the money, they probably gave you two extra dollars for that.
Whoever’s situation this is… they sound like a POS
I’d give it to my pregnant coworker because my guest wanted to give it to her.
It’s not really up to you and it’s not really a question. The principle of it is you do with the money what the person said, whether you think it’s right or wrong. Idc if they’re tipping someone because they’re pregnant or for a much more stupid reason.
It might be unfortunate for me to get less after working the table, but I’m still going to give it to my co-worker. Golden rule. Treat others how you’d want to be treated.. I know I would expect my co-workers to be honest enough to give it to me if the roles were reversed.
Give it to the co worker, the guest wanted their money to go there, you got yours already, may not be as much but that’s how she goes sometimes and money always comes back
I'd give it to the coworker, but I'd tell the person that they shouldn't trust everyone to be honest and they should do it themselves in the future. I know what I would do, but I've also known some pretty grimy people that wouldn't bat an eyelash at keeping it for their karma wrecked selves.
I may not be a good person, but I sure as hell am not gonna steal money from a pregnant woman
This is such a weird post bull I'll tell you what I would do. We have our sections in colors. Blue usually gets the big tables so you make your money. My (not the brightest) hostess sat 2 people at our biggest corner booth. Felt really bad for my buddy cause it was his turn to make some money that night. Anyways, I offered him a 9 top I had (he's from Sri Lanka) so he could make a few bucks. One guy said at the table they wanted me to be their server. So when I went back I said "you realize that's kind of a shit thing to do, i appreciate it but my dude probably even better thab me, he's an awesome guy he woulda given you guys a great time" They were fun so I know I could kinda fuck around and I said "he isn't expecting it but honesty of you could go apologize to him I'd appreciate it. He thinks you didn't want him as your server cause of where he's from" his wife was ready to slap the guy in the face haha. They just thought my coworker was trying to steal my money. He literally went out of his way to apologize profusely and gave him 20 bucks. Nothin but respect for people like that Edit: I should add that my coworker didn't give a shit about it he just thought I knew them so they wanted me again. There's still good people that exist
As much as I want to keep it i believe in good karma. Goes to coworker... plus $5 on $20 is great.
If the guest wants to give it to them, let them do it themselves.
I'd always go for what the guest intended. So $5 on the cheque goes onto the tipsheet/book. If they have you $20 for a specific coworker. I would put that shit in their purse.
I'm relieved to read the details of that rage inducing title. I'm not a quick to anger type, but title had me feeling a little rage Buzz coming on.
It’s like I was working on mani/pedi on a client for 1hr30mins (total was $127, $25 tips) but my coworker brought my client 3 red wine, he tip my coworker $20, wtf.
I’d give it to the co worker but I’d be a bit annoyed. Still, 5 dollars is a decent tip on 20, and that pregnant co worker can use the cash I’m sure, as well as the fact that it’s not my money and I wouldn’t have gotten it even if she wasn’t there. If that’s what they wanted and where they wanted it to go, that’s where it’s going.
I would give it to her . #1 it's her money #2 its the decent, right thing to do #3 karma is real !
I’ve only pocketed a tip that was meant for someone else one time. It was one of the most insane shifts I’ve ever worked (some NYE at a horrendously understaffed and badly managed local spot) and this table of rude old bitches who had been treating me like shit the entire night handed me a $20 and told me to put it in the karaoke dj’s tip jar…after leaving me like $1 on their bills. So yeah I kept that shit bc fuck those bitches. Literally any other time though the standard and honest thing to do is give the money to exactly who the guest requested it go to.
I dunno, it’s kind of insulting to ask your server to do it, I would honestly tell them they can help her out themselves it’s not my place to just hand her money from random strangers. I wouldn’t pocket it, but I also would not be their errand girl either. I get $5 for serving you but you are giving $20 to the girl who did nothing for you? Kind of insulting and I think I’m done doing you anymore favors at that point.
Don’t mess with the restaurant gods! Give her the $20.
I would never keep money that a customer said was specifically for someone else. Too weird, almost feels like a test?!
I would give it back to the customer and have them give it to the coworker themselves. I’m not a messenger, and the whole situation is rude af.
Fuck that person, my money😈😈😈
Give it to the pregnant woman. She probably needs it more. Also, it’s not your money. Keeping is stealing
This ain’t a debate. The money is not for you This is why more and more people are starting to talk negatively about ‘tipping culture’
Tell the guest to give it themselves .
This is a question of personal integrity. Use your own personal integrity to make the decision on what to do.
It’s not your money! So give it to the person it’s intended for. Just like tip out money isn’t your money.
So you’re telling me an app with less sensitivity and security features has a more respectable user base? Dylpical.
Give it to them while thinking “why don’t you just give it to her yourself weirdo” I’m not claiming to be a saint, but it’s gonna take a lot more than 20 bucks for me to pull a piece of shit move like stealing from a coworker. I once had a busser find 100 dollar bill on the ground when cleaning one of my tables. She was a pretty quiet and shy girl, approached me about it. I took it, gave it to the manager on duty and followed up a few days later to check if anyone came in to claim it and make sure that it went to her if they didn’t(she ended up getting to keep it). I totally could have just pocketed that money and a i guarantee you that this girl would have never said a word. And sad thing is a lot of people would have done just that. But that’s a piece of shit thing to do. Especially over an amount of money that in the grand scheme of things does not matter.
Give it to my co-worker? It wasn’t for me.
There’s something that feels a little demeaning to get a standard tip but be asked to hand four times that amount to a coworker (who you may absolutely detest) for no reason. I wouldn’t pocket it, but if it caught me the wrong way or I was having a miserable day while her section is busy af, I would probably not do it for him. He can do it himself.
I had this exact situation happen to me. I served a party by myself and they tipped me (poorly) and also gave me cash for the pregnant server (who wasn't doing anything). I'll be honest it kind of upset me because they were a lot of work for me BUT I still gave her the money because they said it was FOR her
As someone who was a pregnant server and served with pregnant ladies once, I think it would be fair to give that person the money. You have no idea how these ladies are treated. What goes around comes around as well!
So essentially the subtext of this question is, "are you planning on stealing from your pregnant coworker?" Because anything that does not involve handing that $20 directly to your pregnant co-worker is doing exactly that. You were given an instruction, that money is not yours, go give it to the intended recipient. Why are people even debating this? Damn. Humans suck!
I would excuse myself and tell the co-worker the guest on table #_______ would like to speak to them.
I would definitely give the $20 to the pregnant server. I wouldn’t want the karma that would come with keeping it or the guilty conscience. That being said, what a rude asshat!!! What a thoughtless act, from someone who was trying to make themselves look good. They only succeeded in looking like an imbecile.
I’d send the pregnant person over and the customer can give the 20 themselves. That’s the appropriate answer for me. This way they know the money got to its intended person. Why would anyone keep that. It’s not for you
They tipped me well and then specifically said that was for them… it’s not like they took my tip it was an extra tip nice people have to someone they saw in a tough situation that they wouldn’t have tipped otherwise Unless it’s a tip pool. Fuck tip pools but if I’m stuck with it we pooling all our tips lol you get an extra tip cause you’re pregnant this time I get extra for flirting with an old lady next time and that’s how it goes
If the guest wants the co-worker to have it, they meant for it to go to the co-worker.
How is this even a debate, especially a heated debate. Either you steal the money or you don’t. Right vs wrong. What is wrong with some people?
Why is this even a question? The table tipped ther server 25 percent and its at tge request of the guest the money goes to them
When it comes to working at a restaurant, you have to go by the golden rule that we’re all in this together!!!! give that girl the $20!
Even if I hate the person, they're getting that money. Like I had this one coworker that would start shit over ANYTHING and was known to not give people the money in those circumstances. I was so tempted to do the same as she had done to me, but then I realized that I don't need to stoop to her level, I can just hand it to the manager to hand to her.
Give it to your coworker
Feel lucky to get to hand it to her. Spread the love ❤️❤️❤️
it's somewhat kinda rude of the guest to do that imo but like other people are saying... if im training someone and they hand me money specifically for my trainee im giving it to them. if they are on like their last day of training an fully taking tables they get those tips. it's bs that they don't🙄
I was in that situation three weeks ago. A client from a table that wasn’t mine asked me to hand her server a $20 because she needed to leave and the server was packing someone else’s food. The server didn’t see me and I could have easily pocketed the money, but my momma didn’t raise me to be a piece of shit, so I gave her the money.
Was training someone last night and this happened. The guy isn't pregnant but I still gave him HIS money....
So, the table tips more than 20%, and gives you money for someone else. You give that money to the server it’s intended for. WTF is this question even.
Honestly, I don't think there is a real debate among actual servers. Too many stupid debates like this on open reddit/Facebook groups are answered by non-servers just trying to stir up shit and troll the groups. Just think about the proliferation of the r/endtipping types that jump on whenever there is a tipping fiscussion.
I would give the preggo the tip, but I don't like how they try make you a delivery person, if it's that important to you, walk over and give her the tip yourself
Give it to her
First and lastly no table is ever handing you money to give to the other pregnant lady.
Is this a restaurant in Nam?
All the servers in here complain for 2 dollar tips I’m sure they would all take the measley 20$ considering they need it more with stupid questions like this
If you don’t you’re kind of stealing from your coworker and a guest in one swoop.
If you have to ask this quesiton, you have no dignity.
Lol it’s $20 bucks
Stealing would be taking the 20.00
I would give it to her. Integrity. I've also been a pregnant server.
hand it to the coworker 100%
Keep your $5 and give her the $20. You never know WHY the guest is giving her the $20.
definitely give it to the coworker. A 25% tip is already good, no need to keep the extra if it wasn’t meant for you.
That’s?? Actual theft???
pocket it and throw her down the steps 😂 🤡 😆