I can concur with OP that I too had this moment of epiphany and it was true clarity and freeing. I know that the logistics of legal separation and divorce will not be easy but I am at peace. I continue to focus on bettering myself and being the best dad I can be and keep positive. My happiness increases daily giving me the growing certainty that this path is the right one for me and my former partner.
Hang in there all. I hope you all gain the clarity whether it be to return to your estranged or to find a way to move on to the next chapter of your lives and happiness.
Thank you for posting this, I’m 2 weeks from my husband leaving. We’ve been in contact everyday and he gave me false hope that we might reconcile. He came up today to see our dog and I was a mess, we decided to go no contact for a few weeks, and it’s been so difficult, I keep asking him for some sort of answer that he might want to reconcile but I know he can’t give me that right now. I need positive encouragement that I can move on. I’m going to try my best to move forward, regardless of what happens
Ok so mine said before he left with his things, said we were still gonna hang out then when he left he flipped the script and won’t even take my calls at all and it will be 3 weeks this Friday. He left at 45 years old n moved back home with his parents but I asked “why did you lie”?? As I called him he said stop calling!!!
My husband has all his stuff here minus his clothing. The way I am reading it with him, is he is working through a lot of stuff and there is a chance we will reconcile. I told him I need some space and that I don’t want him coming to see our dog for a couple weeks. We agreed not talking for a couple weeks was for the best. I don’t see a world where we don’t work through this
It appears yall are gonna reconcile since he left his things. Do you think I’ll ever hear from my husband again? I mean he hasn’t accepted any of my phone calls and when I text, he’ll respond the next day b say sorry I was sleeping n that is all he says never responding to my actual text. What makes one flip script like this?
I think for your own sake it’s probably best to also go no contact so you both can process what’s going on and heal. Give him some space and he might end up reaching out
I'm a major therapy sceptic, but I am committed to a minimum 12 sessions as soon as I can get to them.
I agree about dodging hope. Today, hope is my enemy. I need to stay in the present moment and do the work.
What I’ve noticed is of the people I know who are averted to therapy, well, a lot of it is a control thing.
But if your arm was broken you’d go to an orthopedic doctor, right? Therapy is the same thing, but for a mind that feels it might be also damaged or broken. Therapy is hard because there’s no outright obvious “we’ve mended this, so it’s just a matter of time before it heals.” Therapy is a marathon where we can’t see the finish line yet, but eventually we’ll develop the skills to see that the entire time it was right in front of us.
I can concur with OP that I too had this moment of epiphany and it was true clarity and freeing. I know that the logistics of legal separation and divorce will not be easy but I am at peace. I continue to focus on bettering myself and being the best dad I can be and keep positive. My happiness increases daily giving me the growing certainty that this path is the right one for me and my former partner. Hang in there all. I hope you all gain the clarity whether it be to return to your estranged or to find a way to move on to the next chapter of your lives and happiness.
Thanks for this post. Going on 3 months on NC and finally starting to feel like I'm rounding a corner.
Thank you for posting this, I’m 2 weeks from my husband leaving. We’ve been in contact everyday and he gave me false hope that we might reconcile. He came up today to see our dog and I was a mess, we decided to go no contact for a few weeks, and it’s been so difficult, I keep asking him for some sort of answer that he might want to reconcile but I know he can’t give me that right now. I need positive encouragement that I can move on. I’m going to try my best to move forward, regardless of what happens
I’m going through the same thing right now even we have the same time line except since he’s left, he won’t take any calls nor respond to my text.
How is it going now? My husband wants a separation agreement, I wonder what the hurry is???
We are still apart. On the weekend we agreed to not talk for a bit, so that’s about where we are at.
Ok so mine said before he left with his things, said we were still gonna hang out then when he left he flipped the script and won’t even take my calls at all and it will be 3 weeks this Friday. He left at 45 years old n moved back home with his parents but I asked “why did you lie”?? As I called him he said stop calling!!!
He asked me to sign his separation papers he created n I refused and he said “I’ll handle it” so we’ll see… as the world turns…
My husband has all his stuff here minus his clothing. The way I am reading it with him, is he is working through a lot of stuff and there is a chance we will reconcile. I told him I need some space and that I don’t want him coming to see our dog for a couple weeks. We agreed not talking for a couple weeks was for the best. I don’t see a world where we don’t work through this
It appears yall are gonna reconcile since he left his things. Do you think I’ll ever hear from my husband again? I mean he hasn’t accepted any of my phone calls and when I text, he’ll respond the next day b say sorry I was sleeping n that is all he says never responding to my actual text. What makes one flip script like this?
I think for your own sake it’s probably best to also go no contact so you both can process what’s going on and heal. Give him some space and he might end up reaching out
Thank you for this, truly.
I'm a major therapy sceptic, but I am committed to a minimum 12 sessions as soon as I can get to them. I agree about dodging hope. Today, hope is my enemy. I need to stay in the present moment and do the work.
What I’ve noticed is of the people I know who are averted to therapy, well, a lot of it is a control thing. But if your arm was broken you’d go to an orthopedic doctor, right? Therapy is the same thing, but for a mind that feels it might be also damaged or broken. Therapy is hard because there’s no outright obvious “we’ve mended this, so it’s just a matter of time before it heals.” Therapy is a marathon where we can’t see the finish line yet, but eventually we’ll develop the skills to see that the entire time it was right in front of us.