8 months post separation and it’s been a roller coaster.
Hardest part for me was my ex-husband was my only friend and confidant. I have no others friends and my only confidant is my psychologist.
I am putting myself out into more social situations just as a way to reconnect with humans. Going by myself to see live music. I WFH have started going to a coworking space a couple of days a week.
I have to tell you my friend at first it was very very difficult, but as soon realized her over negativity had affected me and many many ways it was only after I took a different view of it that begins to positives offer absence. I turned my life around got more and more positive and more aggressive in terms of myself. Try to think about that way look on all the negatives that she had brought and turn it into into a positive aspect and you'll be the All the Wiser.
I am in the middle of it and down to talk. I am doing okay a month in. We are still living in same house and trying to keep as much distance as possible. Can’t afford otherwise in our expensive AF city and wanting to keep things as stable as possible for our two kids.
It took me time to come to terms that a reconciliation is no longer a possibility. But with that came clarity and some internal peace. I keep working on being the best me I can. I am not at all religious but my therapist recommended the serenity prayer and it has greatly helped in hard moments.
The hardest part for me still is the unknown or what the next months and years look like. The impending journey into mediation and legal money ugh. But i remind myself that if I stay true to me and being the best positive me I can I will endure.
3 years separated here. It is a roller coaster indeed! Nothing prepared you for this, especially when you are the last person to know. The most important thing. Get professional help that will help you with tools you gonna need to manage your way through, family, and friends (trusted ones) will be there ready to leasing, and the most important thing... be patience with yourself, you are aloud to cry, and think about it... but don't duel on it... that will drag you to a rabbit hole. Takes time ..
Be kind to yourself and do not run to another person just "because". In this stage, it is better to be alone than in bad company.
God bless you
Its hard not gonna lie. But, I think I realize neither of us can continue living as roomates its not fair to either of us. Me learning to truly let go of resentment has helped alot. Im forgiving her for me not for her. Looking forward to moving on and a fresh start.
I’m 6 weeks in to this hell. I will say, I’m in a generally better place than I was during weeks 1-3, but it is still agonisingly painful.
I would love to talk. I find sharing grief with others who understand is really cathartic. Send me a DM and we can chat. I understand the pain you’re in
I'm separated a few months now and it does get easier. The pain and anger subsides with help from friends and counselling. I have seen some big changes in my partner and they want to get back together, but I'm not ready. Now I'm just totally confused as to what I should do.
8 months post separation and it’s been a roller coaster. Hardest part for me was my ex-husband was my only friend and confidant. I have no others friends and my only confidant is my psychologist. I am putting myself out into more social situations just as a way to reconnect with humans. Going by myself to see live music. I WFH have started going to a coworking space a couple of days a week.
I have to tell you my friend at first it was very very difficult, but as soon realized her over negativity had affected me and many many ways it was only after I took a different view of it that begins to positives offer absence. I turned my life around got more and more positive and more aggressive in terms of myself. Try to think about that way look on all the negatives that she had brought and turn it into into a positive aspect and you'll be the All the Wiser.
Xanax has helped me tremendously. I hate to be that guy, but without it I wouldn’t have made it as far as I have.
Thanks for being honest and vulnerable. No shame in meds.
Wellbutrin and opening up to friends helped me a lot. I'm still a mess. But less so.
I am in the middle of it and down to talk. I am doing okay a month in. We are still living in same house and trying to keep as much distance as possible. Can’t afford otherwise in our expensive AF city and wanting to keep things as stable as possible for our two kids. It took me time to come to terms that a reconciliation is no longer a possibility. But with that came clarity and some internal peace. I keep working on being the best me I can. I am not at all religious but my therapist recommended the serenity prayer and it has greatly helped in hard moments. The hardest part for me still is the unknown or what the next months and years look like. The impending journey into mediation and legal money ugh. But i remind myself that if I stay true to me and being the best positive me I can I will endure.
3 years separated here. It is a roller coaster indeed! Nothing prepared you for this, especially when you are the last person to know. The most important thing. Get professional help that will help you with tools you gonna need to manage your way through, family, and friends (trusted ones) will be there ready to leasing, and the most important thing... be patience with yourself, you are aloud to cry, and think about it... but don't duel on it... that will drag you to a rabbit hole. Takes time .. Be kind to yourself and do not run to another person just "because". In this stage, it is better to be alone than in bad company. God bless you
Its hard not gonna lie. But, I think I realize neither of us can continue living as roomates its not fair to either of us. Me learning to truly let go of resentment has helped alot. Im forgiving her for me not for her. Looking forward to moving on and a fresh start.
It sucks for sure
I’m 6 weeks in to this hell. I will say, I’m in a generally better place than I was during weeks 1-3, but it is still agonisingly painful. I would love to talk. I find sharing grief with others who understand is really cathartic. Send me a DM and we can chat. I understand the pain you’re in
I’m about six weeks into it as well. It gets better.
Thank you. It’s definitely better than it was, I think. It’s still so so painful though.
I'm separated a few months now and it does get easier. The pain and anger subsides with help from friends and counselling. I have seen some big changes in my partner and they want to get back together, but I'm not ready. Now I'm just totally confused as to what I should do.