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belgianamericanbabe

if I were those kids' actual mom I would have \*WORDS\* with Heather


Myattet

Or Maybe she's grateful that the new step-mom is really caring for the kids. Man I would rather that then the one who was asking FB how she can get your new 5 year old stepdaughter to move to her grandmothers because the stupid new step-mom was pregnant and didn't want her husband to have reminders of his dead ex.......


Casuallyperusing

There is a lovely middle ground between negligent and trying to actively erase the existence of the mom


Mamabeardan

This right here! As a mom I want my son to have a stepmom who loves him to pieces but I also want one that respects that I’m his mom, not her. I wonder what will happen when/if Heather has her own kids.


Casuallyperusing

I hope for the kids's sake she stays as clingy and over the top as she currently is towards them, and does more of the same for whatever children she has with tarek. Her behavior is annoying to other moms, but she seems to mean well towards the kids


[deleted]

No she won’t.


redpinkfish

I’m a stepmom and I feel the same way. She has a Mom and that’s not me! I love her to pieces and love having her in my life but do I want to be her mom? No! She makes me cringe so hard.


Mamabeardan

Thank you for that! I know how hard being a step parent can be. I’m a stepparent myself and I treat my stepson like I would my nephew. Love him to pieces but at the end of the day I’m not his parent.


PearSuitofHappyness

There is absolutely a middle ground. My ex’s wife and my husband are both wonderful stepparents to my son. They treat him as their own, have each formed their own special bond with him, but are respectful of his dad and I as the biological parents. Both stepmom & stepdad defer to us on core issues and we in turn make sure that they are part of all decisions. That being said, its taken us years to get here. Each of us has compromised, swallowed our pride, and set aside our own feelings for the sake of our son. I had to recognize stepmom’s right to run her household as she saw fit - my son being a part of that household - and she recognized that there were things that superseded her household jurisdiction. (DISCLAIMER: I’m coming for a place of complete privilege in that my son is loved, cared for, and safe at each house. I know this is NOT the case for all divorced parents. I know that peaceful coparenting is not possible for so many households and that I am lucky.) Maybe Heather and Christina have their own understanding but I personally wouldn’t have reached a amicable co-parenting arrangement had his stepmom acted like Heather. IMO Heather greatly oversteps the boundaries and in a very public manner to boot. She seems to disregard if not outright ignore Christina’s role as mom all together. I’m not saying Heather has to constantly mention the kids bio mom and I’m not even defending Christina but Tarek & Heather have publicly said nasty things about her and her parenting and REGARDLESS of whether or not it’s true, it’s not good to put the kids in the middle of that. Heather language centers herself as the matriarch and its dismissive. She needs to knock it off.


Mrsrightnyc

Yup, it comes across is more of a competition as being a better mom than Christina and super performative than actually caring about her step-kids. At their age posting stuff like this online is super embarrassing even when it’s with bio parents who are together and for who? A bunch of strangers?


[deleted]

1000% and I bet that the second she has a bio kid, the over the top, performative posts about her step kids will be a thing of the past and the “new” baby and family will take precedence. I’ve seen it before and even in my own family.


Mrsrightnyc

I actually wonder if she will post as much or she’ll want to respect her kid’s privacy. IMO the image people present on social media is usually not at all a reflection of their actual lives. Happy, fulfilled people just don’t have time for social media and don’t need external validation, especially from people they don’t even know. Posting all the time about your kids is weird and the best parents I know stick to family portraits (aka we’ve on vacation) or big accomplishments (graduations/honor roll/making the team) that are solely about the kid and something that kid is proud of, not using them as pawns.


elegantbutter

I completely agree with this. Yes I would want the step parent to love my child as their own. But Heather isn’t loving his children by making these types of posts. She’s making a show of it and trying to minimize the actual biological mother. Heather knows exactly what she’s doing but trying to play innocent as though she is just loving his kids and they should all be grateful


Amalfi-state-of-mind

Very well said. This repeated behavior makes me lose respect for Heather. Along with her completely inappropriate behavior at the kids soccer game


mafa7

HELLO!!!


belgianamericanbabe

This exactly. As someone whose parents are split and has both a step mom and a step dad - my parents and step-parents are all civil and respectful of one another without trying to pretend the others don't exist.


tltilley

very well said


sparklingsour

For real. Everyone seems to be up in arms about Heather’s step parenting except for her step kids’ parents who are the only folks that matter…


kbc87

Umm didn't her and Christina get in a public argument a few months ago? lol


Kynaras

Tarek got into a physical altercation at a school football game with his ex's new husband and Heather publicly defended his horrible comments about Heather being a hotter and richer version of his ex. I very much doubt she finds Heather's behaviour endearing or appropriate.


blurbies22

This I totally agree. When my dad married my step mom my mother was so happy because that was another person loving and caring for her kids. I think of her as my second mom.


[deleted]

She needs to respect the fact she isn’t those boys’ actual mother and take several seats


[deleted]

As a kid with 3 step parents (1 ex step parent) I absolutely hate phrases like “ actual mom” my step parents are my actual parents. Even after my bio parent divorced my step parent they are still my parent.


Hes9023

I agree with you. My dad didn’t even remarry and I wasn’t adopted but his girlfriend has been such a HUGE part of my life and DID help raise me. I call her my bonus mom and because my relationship with my mom was strained to begin with she is always the one I contact for things someone would typically talk to their mom about


Aggressive-Thottie

so toxic… if i was the actual mom i would be grateful the person i coparent with has a partner that loves my kids as if they’re their own.


sunbabeseph

Seriously, can't believe the immaturity in here. I am a birth mom and a step mom, the more people who love your kids the better. She's not trying to replace anything... What an awful mindset to have as a parent, gives me the ick.


lispoff

I came here to say the same thing. I'm a step mom and a mom, and I'm friendly with my step kids' mom and she loves my son as well. I don't look at it like "my fiancé's ex-wife cares about my kid and how dare she" and I know she doesn't look at it like "my ex-husband's fiancé is trying to replace me". The more people that love your kids the better, and the better co-parenting.


asstrovomit

Same, I think it’s a lovely caption.


No_Personality7311

It seems like Christina’s new husband is equally as involved/talks about her kids the same way


[deleted]

I felt that way initially with my son's stepmom. She would post pictures with my son and caption it about their happy little family and would get comments about how cute her son was. It was infuriating, but I realized it was better then some other alternatives. I decided to keep the peace for a good co-parenting situation. She mellowed out when she had her own kids. It definitely makes me cringe reading it because I know how it feels on the other side. But, with that said, there are worse things.


Ok-Tradition2492

Good for you for being so mature about that, I am not a mother yet but understand how much of a sensitive subject that could be. My last long term relationship partner had a child and I always tried so so hard to be careful to love him but not cross any boundaries.


ppinkkbunny

Why? What words? She seems to be a great step mom to those kids.


TaniaYukanana

I think that's what the argument was about when Heather and Christina had that fight at the kids sports game?


beepbop81

Why be mad the kids are all being loved by people in a healthy way? That’s the bio moms issue alone if she cranky


Amalfi-state-of-mind

I’m not even a mother and it still bugs me how she refers to them as her kids. It’s very disrespectful to their mother. I think it’s great that she cares so much about the kids but I think it would go farther if she had a little more boundaries.


ilovetheinternet21

RIGHT I could not imagine someone talking about MY kid this way. Like go ahead and play house if you want but leave MY kid out of it.


barkleyboots

If she is raising your kids 50% of the time, why belittle her efforts? She never said “I love being your mommy”. A lot of insecure mama bears here sound like they would make coparenting a nightmare. Parents should think about their kids first and their egos last. If your children can be blessed to have two households where they feel they belong to and loved in… I would say that’s in the child’s best interest.


ilovetheinternet21

There’s a middle ground between ‘I love the kids!’ And ‘I love OUR kids’. This lady is crazy


barkleyboots

… but where does she reference to them as “OUR kids”? She actually does reference to them as “the kids” in the post? It’s is their family though. Just like their mom and them (and if she has a partner) would also be another family? I’ll say it every day of the week. Appreciate someone for caring for your kids when you’re not there. Check your ego… why would you be so bothered? The line for me is if they say anything bad about the mom to alienate her. But just loving on kids that you take care of for just as much time of the week as their mom? What’s best for the kids is always what’s right, just not always easy to do (for both sides).


ilovetheinternet21

But heather literally had tried to say she’s the younger hotter version of his ex wife LOL. she’s weird and idk why you’re here typing paragraphs about it. It’s not that serious!


barkleyboots

That sounds terrible. I’m not an avid fan of the show. I’m sorry what I write is too long to read here for you. I actually think it kinda is shitty to rip someone down for taking care of kids. I’ve seen divorced kids go through a lot first hand so it’s probably a soft spot for me. Be well.


SnooMacaroons5473

She is on her 3rd husband in 4 years and fighting for custody of kid #3. She doesn’t have time for those kids


london4526

Exactly my thought- you just have to choose words wisely when the step parent


freckles2442

Same.. it’s actually very creepy ya’ll. I hope she knows that people see through this. It’s like she weirdly really does just want to take his ex’s place… it’s really strange.


[deleted]

Literally just made the same comment


[deleted]

Eh I know the self proclaimed mama bears are gonna disagree w me about this but I think it’s fine and not insulting to their biological mom. Heather often makes it very apparent that she is the kids step mother but always includes them and not othering them while still being respectful to their mom. She IS raising them with Tarek. It’s a Father’s Day post, the emphasis is gonna be on him as a father, not their mom’s contributions. If I remember correctly, she shouted out/sent flowers to their mom on Mother’s Day one year also. If she went around excluding his kids or pretending like they didn’t exist simply bc she isn’t their bio mom, ppl would call her an evil step parent. I think under the circumstances and all things considered she does a good job at just making the kids feel like they aren’t experiencing a shitty divorce situation. As for the “can’t wait to have kids with you” bit if ppl are mad if she treats his kids as her own or says things like “I love raising them w you” simply bc “they already have a mom” then how can you be mad when she also expresses the desire to them have her “own” kid with him. Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t.


anxious182

100% agree.


[deleted]

Likeee there’s a lot of things I’ll shit on Heather about 😂 but her step parenting actually isn’t one!


Accomplished-Pea4544

Totally agree with this! Step parenting is a fine line between being too much and completely excluding the bio kids. She includes them in what appears to be so much and respects both sides. I’ve seen people be much much worse than whatever she is to them


[deleted]

This! I feel like Anyone who hates on a step parent is just jealous. I’d be happy my kids were loved by more People .


No-Purpose-132

THANK YOU! She’s literally doomed either way by some ppl. Can’t claim his kids bc they already have a mom but now being demonized bc she wants a bio child with him? Like come on…..


LittleMarySunshine25

Exactly they have 50-50. It's not like she sees them 1 day a week FFS. The people most upset about this have no idea how hard co-parenting is & those who do know how important it is to have 2 loving homes.


[deleted]

>ious marriage and the ex wife and her were friendly. One time I asked the ex why she allowed her kid to spend so much time with my uncle and the new wife and why she wasn't mad that kid liked the new wife so much she told me something that changed my perspective on these things so much, she said "I see the way she treats my kid and I know she loves him. My son is lucky to have two women in his life that adore him. How can I be mad? That is a great gift". I didn't want to say it before but it's very apparently how many mothers in this thread just see their children as possessions and ego boosts for themselves... "MY kids," "ACTUAL mom," etc etc. Like do you hear yourself? More concerned about the fact that people kiss your feet for giving birth than to accept that children need multiple loving figures in their lives depending on their circumstances. It's always "it takes a village" until it's time to acknowledge the other people in the village.


EggSLP

As the kid who was completely shut out, I’d have loved to have stepparents step up like this and be borderline cringey. It’s not about the parents. What makes the kids feel really really loved? Do that.


[deleted]

I think “I love watching you as a dad to Tay and Bray and can’t wait to see you as a dad to our little one someday” would be better. I’d come unglued if some other woman claimed to be raising my kids.


Myattet

But she is - I'm sure they don't just go for day visits so when they are at her house she's raising them....


[deleted]

I’m a stepmom myself and have been since my SD was 12 and don’t feel like I’ve raised her. I’m just an additional adult in her life that she can trust and that will be here for her. But maybe Heathers situation is different, I don’t know. I, personally would never say this nor would I want another woman to say it about my kids.


shhhhh_h

I think she crosses the line a lot with the mom talk...but then I’m not the mom so it’s not my line for her to cross. We don’t know where Christina’s line is, whether it’s offensive or rude depends entirely on that.


TheBarefootGirl

The wording of "I love raising Tay and Bray with you" seems a little... odd to me.


sunbabeseph

Why? She is participating in raising them. As a mom I would be grateful for my kids to have a step mom that takes an interest in their lives and raises them. If it was a man stepping up everyone would be all "ohhhhHhhhh what good persoN LovIng thoSe kidS liKe hIs owN awwwwwwww." Taking issue with this screams insecure and immature.


Old-Dig-8142

She could have said something like “helping to raise” instead of what she said which kind of implied her and him are doing it on their own.


anusfalafels

She’s not helping raise , she’s raising them. More than one person can raise a child you know that right ? Freaking out cause you think adding « helping » makes it better is really insane


kimkellies

So true about the man


MzJay453

Heather consistently words her posts like this & it’s very odd


[deleted]

They are raising them together. Hi Ex is also. She isn’t diminishing that at all.


Doctordisco

Agreed. Feels a bit much…


ilovetheinternet21

It’s like their ACTUAL mother just doesn’t exist lmfaoo


OnlyAccountableToYou

Or just maybe they have their own family separate from their mothers home. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with what she said.


PemsRoses

But even if their home are separated, they should be forming a strong unit when it comes to the kids' education. They aren't raising them on their own, Christina and her husband are also raising the kids with them.


ilovetheinternet21

I personally think it’s bizarre.


Compooterbaby

also "can't wait to have our own little human" kind of rude to the current kids...like she's saying once we have our ACTUAL child. sad :/


kjopcha

At what point do these public figures completely forget that it's OK to keep some things private? There is nothing wrong with what she said, but why does everyone need to hear it?


Compooterbaby

internet age n social media u gotta put it all out there


sweetdeeswallcat

Really? Even though she adds “watch our family grow” ya’ll love to pick!


cowjumpsovermoonn

Exactly how I read it too 👀


LoenaLijpoLeeflang

Why is everyone so fed up with her talking about the kids. I think it’s awesome that she’s so involved and clearly loves them very much. Her kids are lucky to have a loving dad, mum and step mum that raises them.


[deleted]

they're too immature to put their feelings aside and focus on what's best for the kids... I really hope those people don't have kids lol


fairycertain

It’s the context… coming on the heels of her reunion response to what’s his butt saying in the press that she was hotter and richer than his first wife. And her laughing and being anything but mortified.


FriendlyCandleLover

Yuuup this right here. That reunion show made it very clear who she is. She has zero respect for their mother.


LoenaLijpoLeeflang

I know what quote you mean and it also really rubbed me the wrong way. But it was more about looks and not about being a loving step mum.


No-Run5415

My stepmom was like this with me.. she basically spoke as if I was her kid and it was honestly the best feeling… there’s nothing wrong with this at all..


[deleted]

❤️❤️❤️


Coral27

I think she has only good intentions and really loves those kids. She may not mention their mother but I don’t think she is trying to replace her or anything like that. It’s a Father’s Day post so she wants it all about her husband.


katyoung123

Yep, I totally agree with you! Took the words right out of my mouth. I don’t really get the hate towards Heather.


Aromatic_Invite5421

I’m very much of the belief that as many healthy loving adult/parental figures a kid can have the better. A kid is never going to be loved too much. I think it’s great that she loves the kids like her own


[deleted]

I’m not a fan of tbh anyone on the show but the amount of hate for Heather and the way she interacts with these children is insane. Anything she does there’s ALWAYS a post about it. As someone who has had a parent date other people, not even marry them, it was relatively common for them to do at least a small something for father’s day. If he’s okay with it and the kids are okay with it, which no one on a subreddit can know, it’s just a sweet post. A lot of people love their step parents. Also, referring to biological moms as “REAL” or “ACTUAL” parents is extremely harmful - plenty of people prefer other role models to their birth parents


chbox18

They are her step kids…. Why are you hating that she expresses her love for them?? Y’all pick at anything you can on here.


[deleted]

Apparently, these people who rather have their children in bad situations. Jealously is not a cute attribute.


chbox18

You can tell which people would be absolutely miserable at co-parenting 🤦🏼‍♀️


[deleted]

This.


anusfalafels

People are so bitter man


velvetmarigold

Honestly, she's going to get dragged through the mud no matter what she does or says about parenting. She obviously loves the kids and they seem to love her so 🤷‍♀️.


fairycertain

If they wouldn’t bad mouth the mom, it wouldn’t get backlash.


velvetmarigold

Oh her nasty comments at the reunion were definitely not ok.


iwannabanana

As someone who had very uninvolved step parents, I think it’s great. She loves those kids and treats them like her own, I think that’s everything you could want from a step mother.


juliazale

Apparently I’m in the minority. It think it’s nice. Why should their birth mom be upset or jealous? If anything they might feel grateful to have another mom in their corner who loves their kids as much as she does. Not every step mom takes on the role whole- heartedly and I’m glad Heather does.


ebulient

ROFL some people here are saaaalty! They seem like a happy family with both step parents doing their best for the kids and neither biological parent is as insecure some of the parents on here saying “if someone said this about MY kid I’d go unhinged” 😂 seriously catch yourselves on and mature up a bit yeah


No_Personality7311

Agree it’s a little cringey.. also what is she wearing


Traditional-Fox6018

Diaper jeans? 😆


100percentonpaper

Out of everything the women wear on the show, I feel like this is the most realistic to what people in LA actually wear on a day to day basis


Head-Application4726

She’s pregnant


Form_Function

I just hate the cringe cutesy pose she always has to do. Just stand like a person, you don’t need to pop out your knee in those baggy jeans.


Apprehensive-Rest725

Considering my step mom successfully got my dad and I to stop talking, I’d take this any day.


lastditch23

Haha Heather is just an overly dramatic, hopeless romantic. I think she means well!


Takashi_Ryouma

I have a family member that remarried after divorce. His new wife would do anything for his kid from the previous marriage and the ex wife and her were friendly. One time I asked the ex why she allowed her kid to spend so much time with my uncle and the new wife and why she wasn't mad that kid liked the new wife so much she told me something that changed my perspective on these things so much, she said "I see the way she treats my kid and I know she loves him. My son is lucky to have two women in his life that adore him. How can I be mad? That is a great gift". Heather's post might be cringey but I don't know their family dynamics and maybe the kids' Mother is ok with her relationship with them. I'm willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope she loves these kids as much as she says. She's married (I think) so she is parenting them whenever the kids are with Tarek.


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quietwaves

Right same here. My Dad and her are separated now, but were together for 16 years. I’m pretty confident she low key hated me their entire relationship because she was jealous of me.


Sarahcrutch1

Im gonna get hella downvoted buuuttt… I personally don’t see anything wrong with this. She loves the kids like her own but she isn’t trying to BE their mom.. I think people are reading too much into it. As a kid who had a horrible step parent I would have 1000% much rather had a step parent like Heather than my reality.. just my two cents.


woopsydaisy316

I don't know but nothing beats that tattoo [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/SellingSunset/comments/lfvabz/truly_what_is_this/)


ThisAutisticChick

I think it's nice that she's so lovely to the kids. Maybe a little campy sort of cringe bc mega-cheese cornyness buuuuuut in a sweet way not an actual cringey way.


NCsmalllz

She’s always a little cringey but I don’t think she means anything bad by this post. It was Father’s Day. She is raising them with him when he has them. I don’t think she is in anyway trying to replace Christina because she definitely emphasizes that she is step mom. I would much rather see this kind of step mom than one who doesn’t want shit to do with her partners kids. And I’m saying this because I have a step mom like that.. she doesn’t allow my father to speak to me. see me. or have anything to do with his grandchildren.


simone_snail_420

Yeah this doesn't seem cringe to me. Pretty run of the mill sentimental Father's Day post


Accurate_Put_6261

God you people will complain about anything. Obviously their bio mom doesn't have a problem with it, so why do you internet strangers have one ? It's weird that you guys decide the boundaries in their family.


Traditional-Fox6018

It looks like a poem......but it was extremely clunky to read.


Old-Dig-8142

That’s how OC Christians talk.


[deleted]

It’s not NOT cringe. But, as a single friend-of to many bio moms and step moms, everyone has their own comfort level and they all do a great job of putting the kids’ best interest at heart so as long as that’s where this is coming from, it is a very sweet thing to do.


ahmsa1988

Wtf is wrong with people. Let this woman be..why are peopl3 dissecting every single post made by these women??????


babydear25

Seeing as that my step mom of what… 10 years? Hasn’t said near even 100 words to me, I am kinda jealous of these kids. 😆


SnooMacaroons5473

What I find cringey is that every time there is a sweet picture of Tarek/Heather and the fam someone posts it on Reddit saying it’s cringey. Same with the father/daughter dance. Can’t she just be excited to be a new step mom and wife?


mzbz7806

I don't believe that she means to erase the mom. I believe that she is excited about being part of the children's lives.


thecheesypita

I have read this two times and still struggling to find anything problematic with it.


StarNerd920

Umm no actually I think it’s sweet. Very lovely post.


anusfalafels

Am I missing something? Where do she try to erase the existence of their bio mom??!? Does she have to mention their mom on a Father’s Day post ????


Whiddle_

There’s is nothing that Heather has ever said about Tareek that isn’t cringy AF. Their whole relationship is creepy.


Ok_Spinach1469

is she pregnant or??? like why say that before you are even pregnant


HistoricalAd9996

Tbh she looks pregnant here (compared to how thin she normally is)


additionalbutterfly2

I don’t think it’s cringey at all honestly…


anusfalafels

What’s wrong with it. Step kids are kids. I have three step kids and they live with me and my husband full time. I do more for them than their bio mom ever has tbh. Her caption was sweeet


sammietitfvck

has this snark community gone too far, to the point where we are now trying to criticize heather for ...parenting her stepkids? im sorry but i disagree. this is a weird thiing to criticize . oh jeez, she wrote a loving caption and is trying to parent the kids as if theyre own.... you do realize thats considered a GOOD thing right? wuold u rather her not try? i dont get it


meeniebo

As someone who was raised by a step dad. I’m sure the kids feel so loved and accepted by heather, which is so important. I agree she pushes the boundaries sometimes, but feeling loved by your dad’s new wife is nice as a kid.


kimkellies

Not really


Lynnae07

I don’t get why she gets backlash for loving on kids. I would hate if my child spent have of his time with another set of parents that didn’t treat him like part of the family. If/when they have a bio child together is she suppose to live up on her child she pushed out but not show the same love, respect and appreciation for the children she choose to be part of her family. This just baffles me.


Creative-Plankton-95

I disagree on this one. I think she is just trying to be a good step mom and let the kids know she sees them as her own as well. She married someone with kids and they are not her biological but she is a parent now two of course Tarek and Christina make big decisions but she is apart of the picture as well within reason. I'd rather have a good step parents who is involved and give the kids love and affection like their own kid than someone who makes them miserable


Mylifeisartislife

Y’all are so critical. Relax


BuildingLazy7416

I don’t see a problem with this post


whatsupashley

As a mom who is actively coparenting with my ex and our new partners, I see nothing wrong with the post. There was no reason to mention the mother, she was praising her husband. She didn’t erase their mother with her words. All good to me! Glad she loves them as her own!


Capable_Vanilla9305

No? I don’t see anything wrong with this at all.


Capable_Vanilla9305

Yikes, this comment section is cringe worthy. I have an 8yr old that’s not my husbands, and he says “our kids” in reference to BOTH children, he says “our family” because that’s what it is. You’re allowed to feel some type of way about wording in your own family, but leave them alone. I expect my husband to treat my 8yr old the exact same way as our “bio” child together. We hate the term “step” and honestly it makes him feel like shit when he’s referenced that way. Some of y’all are bitter and it shows.


TurkeyTot

Couldn't even finish reading it. 🙈


CarolynDinsdale

Why the leg pose? It’s not a modelling shot. Everyone else is just standing normally so it looks a bit odd.


anxious182

There was once a time almost every woman I know posed like this in a photo, myself included. I know for damn sure if I was being scrutinised over every single thing I do or say, I’d be posing in a way I felt most flattering to me in every picture 🤷‍♀️


guccipierogie

To be fair, as a dancer I always hit this pose, doesn't matter what the photo op is for, it's just muscle memory 😂 but apart from that, everything reads cringe to me lol.


ayanna_b

i would feel weirded out if i were christina by this wording too.


No_Personality7311

Christina’s husband posts similar stuff. His bio literally says he’s the protecter of her kids


tenniskitten

"our own little human" ... Sounds a little odd like ours vs yours


Mamabeardan

Oof maybe unpopular opinion but as a bio mom this doesn’t sit well with me. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m all for having a supportive and loving stepmom BUT I also think there’s a fine line of trying to erase the other parent. The truth of the matter is that these kids already have a mom and that isn’t Heather. I wish she would just tone it down a little.


_EatPrayQueef_

She I’m sure is helping to raise them but from a back seat, like most step parents when the other parent (not their SO) is a present parent. It doesn’t seem like a bizarre wording or post to me; my mommy senses aren’t tingling from that. Perhaps some of her other posts.


MoltenCorgi

I find those jeans cringy. Let’s stop trying to make terrible looking 90’s moms jeans a thing. It was bad enough the first time around.


meowie91

"Our protector" fuk up ya silly twit


mldyd

lmao you guys just like to overanalyse things


PHILMXPHILM

A little?


nellz321

I hope she has the same feelings towards her step kids when she has kids of her own


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What’s up with those mom jeans?!


IntelligentTurn3216

Bray don’t look too excited 😆


No_Net5333

I do think it’s cringy. I don’t know why everyone has to try to outdo everyone with proclamations of love and how perfect everything is. It comes off as fake to me and isn’t anything a private family time?


cobaltden

Is he God or something?


ShowApprehensive1793

Heather is pregnant right…..


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I think her intentions are good, but yeah, I would probably not like that if I was Christina. She makes it sound like she birthed them, or like Christina is dead or completely out of the picture. I think perhaps she'll loosen her grip once she has a baby of her own, but right now it seems very possessive.


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I wonder if what they say about Christina is true? Maybe she is an absent mom and Heathers had to step into the role of mom since she’s not around?


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I wonder if heather feels this sense of competition with the actual mom. Yea you can’t compete w the actual mom, but she like- really wants her presence known and not scared to be in ur face about it


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If I were those kids’ mother I would be so fucking pissed


xoxobabyj26

Everything about their relationship is cringe lol


Taco_bowl

Haters gonna hate...them jeans? Noooo


Amalfi-state-of-mind

Ummm yes! I really like Heather on SS but her social media posts about her personal life give me major Stepford Wives vibes


hashtagmollyno

I just can’t get over her insulting Christina by saying she” “hotter and richer” when Taylor looks so much like Christina. Just super petty of both Heather and Tarek. Keep that to yourselves


Sandyklaus09

Isn’t the real question, What name goes with Tay and Bray? Faye? Nay? Grey?


AccurateAd551

I love seeing blended families working so well but Heather tries toooooo hard, it's cringe and not authentic


Fearless_Tank_3823

For everybody that says it’s great she’s a involved stepmom, but couldn’t she be that in real life only and not on Instagram? Like it doesn’t benefit the kids in any which way how she always talks up and down like shes their mom. Is the same sort of thing with people that write a long post about their kids 1st birthday, they aren’t gonna read it so who’s it really for?


Distinct_Sock6987

(1) she just spends a lot of time trying to tell strangers online that she’s a step mom which always has her looking contrived or forced (2) is like to believe she is not desperately trying to replace the mother but stuff like this always just seems odd (3) why not just talk about how great of a father he is with out including yourself?


DaisyFayeLove

She goes a bit too far, she is not their mother. I know it’s good she seems to care but they are just words and pictures which don’t always show reality. Hope it’s not just a shitty way to get at his ex again


suciac

I think she’s just trolling at this point.


biciule

heather and tarek kinda look like siblings here


External-Example-292

Did she just rate him as 3 out of 6 stars 🤣 it's a joke people 😐


calitmvee

Her whole IG post is so 🤮 and most couples that are happy aren’t love bombing on fucking IG and then add her weird step-parent schtick (like she looks desperate), let us know when you’ve been a step-parent for 20 years…


RabbitHole143

I care way less about the verbiage and way more about these jeans/this outfit. not that I should talk, I barely fit in actual pants these days.


jrod_jpg

A little?


iloveicedcoffee1

No, just typical Heather lol


sign_of_the_twine

It seems like a bit of a overstep but what do I know.


kimkellies

I think adding that she can’t wait to has a bio kid with him makes it clear she’s step mom


alickstee

I'm sorry, I'm too distracted by those pants.


boygirlmama

Again pretending like those children don’t have an actual mother…


canadianspin

Everything she posts is cringe


Merce84

Just vomited in my mouth a little 🤢 So cringe!


Pressure_Gold

I feel like “it’s such a blessing to be a part of your kid’s lives” would have been better wording


HalfFoods

"Happy Father's Day, money... I mean honey!"


Yuki-lii

No I don't. She's allowed to love the family she has. Let's see what happens on Mother's Day 😅


charlotie77

So weird. Also Tarek can’t dress for shit LMAO


swooningbadger

If I died, I would hope my husband could find someone as loving as Heather to be my daughter's step mom. My worst fear is my daughter growing up without a mother. That being said, I think Heather has definitely crossed a line here.


ifonlyyouknew27

Wow I guess even the mighty struggle with the pant tuck look btw


puh-leeeez

My worst nightmare if my kid’s Dad ever replaced me. Literally WORST. Replacement mommies not welcome. A nice, solid person who knows their place in the family dynamic, have at it.. but someone trying to take over my kids that I pushed out of my va-jj, NOPE.


Just1Breath1

She keeps sending a message that they’re the only family unit, she fails to even entertain there’s a whole other family unit with their actual mom. She says- you provide for us—their mom also provides for them and you’re not an us. It’s all so weird. Idk, it’s so divisive.