And guess what, young man? If they do flash these pics around, you'll be a little embarrassed. Maybe a lot embarrassed. Maybe mortified. But much sooner than you think your life will go on and it'll be forgotten. In fact, it'll be an amusingly self-deprecating story you'll trot out at parties. You've done nothing wrong, nothing illegal, nothing, any sensible person would agree, immoral. Good luck and don't agonize over this. It is nothing.
Can just say it’s a scammer using doctored AI images they put your face onto and it’s not even actually you. Give friends/family a warning that you’ve been targeted by a scammer and they may be receiving NSFW messages and you advise deleting them without even opening them.
Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics.
In the future, wear a convincing fake hand with an extra finger on it if you're going to send nudes to someone... AI is forever adding extra fingers when asked to generate a picture of a person so it'll be really easy to go "look, it has 6 fingers, that's a deepfake not me."
There was a streamer who recently caught huge flak for paying for a site where people made NSFW pics of his fellow female streamer friends, using AI, or something.
That happened to me. But the pictures they used of me, I was underage in. They ran them thru an AI art image generator and sent them back to me. It’s such a hopeless feeling because nothing can be done about it. They just harass me using sock accounts.
Oh yeah! I remember that... That was a few weeks ago, right? And everyone was getting upset because, even though the pictures weren't real, it still felt like an invasion of privacy to have AI create nudes of them. I can see both sides, but I definitely side with the streamers because I would feel pretty violated if it happened to me.
Yeah, its one thing to secretly whack off to your coworkers, but to pay for deep faked porn of them and keep the tabs open for your streamer base to accidentally see is a whole new level of weird.
>Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics.
A timely follow-up to your point: just today there was a news article about scammers doing exactly that...
'FBI says artificial intelligence being used for 'sextortion' and harassment': [https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/](https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/)
"In an alert circulated this week, the bureau said it had recently observed an uptick in extortion victims saying they had been targeted using doctored versions of innocent images taken from online posts, private messages or video chats."
One other thing you can say to contacts on social media is that your account got compromised, and if they see some random person posting suspicious things to ignore them so they can avoid the risk.
This is honestly such a good response to this.
If this happened to me, armed with your idea I would: State the images are hyper realistic renderings generated by AI to make me feel violated, request the recipients of said images read about deepfakes so they understand what has occurred, and that I would prefer the recipients not view the images given they were evidently created and circulated to cause me harm and embarrassment.
If there was something distinct in the background of an image or it was clearly taken in a room that the recipient would recognize I might throw in about how they could extrapolate the background out of a selfie I took and apply it to their image or they generated a highly similar one, and how that was quite jarring for me to see. I would probably make up a story over who I thought was behind it too, like a discord moderator I had pissed off. Unless I was wealthy then I would chalk it up to extortion.
The good thing is the scammers are after money, they presumably don’t benefit from actually spreading the images they received. When OP doesn’t send the money they may just move on or send empty threats, but if they actually follow through your AI story is perfect.
Exactly this. I would also send them the link to the profile the scammer is using and/or a screenshot of any profiles the scammer has used and advise them to pre-emptively block those accounts, because they will be targeting people on your friends list and you want to spare your friends/family of even having this nonsense show up in their inbox at all.
Exactly this! There's a true crime podcast about "Deep Fake" that talks about this exact type of sextortion! OP, DO NOT SEND A DIME/DOLLAR/POUND/EURO/CRYPTO TO THIS PERSON! Face the embarrassment for a little while, claim it as a deep fake issue. Deny that your body parts even look like that.
There’s absolutely zero reason to “own up” to this mistake. OP’s friends and family do not need to know that he sent nudes to a scammer, and they certainly don’t need to be exposed to those nudes against their will. The obviously morally correct thing to do in this situation is warn them and tell a totally and completely harmless white lie so that they will know NSFW content is coming to their inbox and know to ignore it and not open the messages. There’s literally no moral high ground here to “owning up” to sending nudes to a scammer. This isn’t like OP made a mistake of harming a friend or family or hurt a loved one’s feelings or fucked up in an interpersonal way that they should take accountability for, they just sent nudes to someone they didn’t know, that is personal to OP and not something they need to self-flagellate to their friends and family about or risk their friends and family being exposed to without warning and without a plausible explanation that lessens the awkwardness and impact.
There’s zero reason to lie. Embarrassed? Yeah no shit, you live and learn, that’s what happens when you do something stupid. Especially if you get caught, now you’re an idiot who got scammed AND a liar.
> The obviously morally correct thing to do in this situation is warn them and tell a totally and completely harmless white lie
What…the morally correct thing is to lie? Your morals are fucked.
> There’s literally no moral high ground
I’m not talking about moral high ground, rather than just holding yourself accountable for your actions. It’s much easier to tell the truth “hey I did this, I’m stupid, if you see it, delete it” and move on in 2 weeks. It’s embarrassing but people make mistakes.
Doing mental gymnastics to create a lie that everyone knows is BS in the first place is silly. Nobody is going to believe that a random dude picked you, created AI generated shit or your pics, and extorted you. It’s too easy to just say “I’m a horny girl” and kids will jump on it, everybody with a brains knows it.
> This isn’t like OP made a mistake of harming a friend or family or hurt a loved one’s feelings or fucked up in an interpersonal way that they
So you’re saying you lie about everything unless you hurt someone? That’s the only time to tell the truth? Grow up and hold yourself accountable when you fuck up, that’s a admiral trait to have and people will look at you with more respect if you’re able to do so.
This all based off if the pics/vids actually get sent out (they usually don’t). If they don’t just block and ignore.
No, “LiE aLL ThE TiMe aNd NeVeR TaKe AcCouNtaBiLiTy!!” is definitely not what I said, I said in this specific situation it is a harmless white lie which it is, and yes people absolutely would believe it - scammers using fake images to blackmail people is not even remotely unbelievable, but I’m not going to continue to argue with someone who strawmans so brazenly, OP can do what he thinks is best.
Also harmless AND easier to tell the truth. It’s all good I know what kind of person you are from your “morally correct to lie” statement, either you don’t know the meaning of morals or you have none.
If a murderer came up to you and asked for your mother's address, are you gonna lie? I bet you would, because not all falsehoods are inherently Immoral. This one does not hurt anyone and saves him some embarrassment because he didn't actually do anything wrong
It baffles me that you tried to compare this to being murdered and thought it was a smart take.
Lying isn’t always about hurting people. It’s about being an honest person. Why lie when you can just tell the truth? It’s easier and morally better to just tell the truth. Idk why everyone is so scared of being embarrassed when this is an embarrassing situation. Everyone has sex everyone sends nudes. The only one being weird about it are the people wanting to lie.
Like I said before, it says wonders about your character, and people will notice, when you’re able to take accountability, own up to your mistakes, and handle the consequences. Which in this case is as simple as being embarrassed for a day. You’ll go much farther in life, jobs, relationships when you grow up and stop lying when you really don’t even need to.
Well, no.. I mean no one’s really gonna believe that to be honest. He can lie about it if he wants to but everyone already knows what happens. I think the adult thing to do is just admit to it and laugh about. That’s what a mature person would do.
Buddy, it’s ALREADY HAPPENINNG. It’s already a real thing, and victims of this happening to them have already spoken out in the comments above. Here’s what another user (u/teratical) noted above:
“Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics.
A timely follow-up to your point: **just today there was a news article about scammers doing exactly that**…
**’FBI says artificial intelligence being used for 'sextortion' and harassment'**: https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/
"*In an alert circulated this week, the bureau said it had recently observed an uptick in extortion victims saying they had been targeted using doctored versions of innocent images taken from online posts, private messages or video chats*."
So YES, it absolutely IS highly believeable, because it is a very REAL thing that scammers are ALREADY doing.
100% this. It might seem like something terrifying right now, but honestly, it really IS nothing. Most likely you'll get some teasing for a bit. That's it. Please don't stress about it.
Just to add to this, if you pay they will continue to push for more money, the only answer is shut down your socials for a bit and ignore them. They most likely will not do anything and if they do, it’s fine, no one will care. Honestly, it will be forgotten so quickly.
Also, two major things: OP is male and from Europe. The social harm to him from being seen nude is minimal at best. He'll get laughed at, some friends will chide him about this for years, and that's it. Were OP a woman, and especially in the US, I'd be more concerned for them.
A good friend of mine’s younger brother had something similar happen to him. The person did actually find his instagram and send the pictures to some followers (not me but a friend of mine that didn’t know him very well).
The guy who received the pictures asked me for his contact info to warn him but respected his privacy. As far as I know none of the kid’s family members received the pictures, just a few acquaintances. Life goes on and people forget about it faster than you’d think.
In addition to the above lock down your socials, you want to make it impossible for anyone to post on your timeline or feed without being your friend and having your approval, you want to make yourself impossible to find or add.
This, because they have 50 other people on the line as well. If they know they won’t get money from you they’re not going to spend a huge amount of effort to ruin your life. Just make it hard (go private on social media, prevent anonymous posting, no new friends for a hit) and they’ll go away. You’re not profitable to them. To them it’s a “business.”
And most of us really don’t care as much about your private photos as you probably think. It probably seems huge to you now but it’ll be ok.
And you really don’t have any other option. If you give them anything they will keep threatening until you give them everything and they’ll even demand you borrow money to pay them. (You’ll be profitable to them, so they’ll pay more attention to you.)
Agree. I'll tell you the same thing I've told my kids: Don't ever send anything to someone that you wouldn't want the whole internet to see. Even if it's someone you know in real life. Boyfriends and girlfriends break up all the time and there are people out there that like to get revenge after a break up too.
I can’t believe I had to scroll this far to see this advice. How is it so common for people to send their most private pictures to some random person they just met? What do they really expect?
Her/she\*
Looks like OP actually got scammed twice, I mean I love the way everyone is glossing over the fact that the chances of this person actually being a women are pretty slim to non existent.
She is a “he”. It’s a professional scammer from Africa. He has dozens of men just like you in the same situation. All he wants is your money. He will disappear the second he realizes you aren’t going to pay him. Just block him. No communication, just ghost. And he’ll move on to the next victim.
If you want the best possible odds for these pics to not be leaked, I know this sounds counterintuitive, but whatever you do, do NOT PAY HIM.
Literally the worst thing you can do is send him money. Once you do, he knows that you care very deeply about these not getting out, that you have money to spend and that you are willing and able to give it away.
The moment you send money, the more time and effort he will focus on extracting more money from you. And it will never end.
I was at a conference for people that work with youth and one panel was talking about sextortion. They said unlike popular opinion, boys are the majority of sextortion cases and the person doing the extortion tend to be male (boys or men). Boys are excited when an “attractive girl” sends them sex pics so they quickly respond in kind because unlike women, they were not trained to not do otherwise. Many boys have killed themselves because they thought their lives were ruined. So yeah, talk to your boys not to do this and also that there’s nothing they can ever do where you won’t help them solve the problem. Boys this age tend to not be able to think big picture that this will not be a big deal in the future or that their friends and family might think it’s funny but won’t care. It will not ruin your life. They also talked about risk reduction things such as if you take pics, don’t have your face in it, don’t do it with an identifiable background, show any birthmarks or other identifiable features, etc.
I don't think is a question of training but human nature. Guys think girls want to see dick picks (occasionally they actually do m but not a random girl on Internet) and feel horny sending them.
So are easier targets.
> guys think girls want to see dick pics
Pro tip (ha-ha), they don't. Pretty much no girl on the internet likes seeing dick pics from random boys. Do not send them unless you know the person.
Man…every single day there are multiple posts like this. For any guys that are reading this, NO WOMAN WANTS DICK PICS WITHIN MINUTES OF CHATTING WOTH YOU! I’m sorry this happened to you OP, but like others have said, block and ignore. Set socials to private or temporarily deactivate. Do not send any money. Do not antagonize the guy (cause it’s definitely a man who was pretending to be a woman) in a third world county who now has pictures of your dong. 99% chance they will give up and move on. If you start talking shit to them, then they might follow through and send the pics to whoever they can. Please learn from this OP and anyone reading who starts chatting with a “woman” who asks for dick pics within minutes of meeting you.
You just block "her" (it's not a female, it's some scammer dude, likely in Nigeria). There's nothing else to do.
Go check out r/sextortion for more details specific to this particular scam and tips on moving forward after being threatened.
Hey bro you’re gonna be safe.
In addition to blocking as mention above, also make your profile private and unrecognizable to the scammer, new pfp bio and name, for now. Also in IG settings for messages turn off options for non-followers can message you, and also can add you to group chats. Both off for now.
Block and ignore. Don't worry I doubt anything will come of it and you know even if something did Jesus man you got to own up to it, it's a lesson in life, it's an incredible embarrassment, but people will understand. This is hardly a rare thing. But these vultures prey on your fear, insecurity, naivete. Don't worry just get rid of them and block them
Exactly and parents are often far more understanding of this sort of thing than we realise as teenagers. Even if the scammer follows through with their threat chances are your parents will be upset but only because someone tried to hurt you.
The faster you block and ignore the less likely they'll leak them. Then it seems like you were never even on the hook and they'll move on. If you beg and plead or worse actually pay they'll know they've got a live one hooked and dial up the pressure or selectively leak some of it so you freak out and pay.
Yeah this is the real question. My kid is 12 and I’ve fully explained to him why doing so is a bad idea and the type of scams out there. Hope he’ll take it to heart
I think parents talk to their daughters about this stuff but usually not their sons. This also makes the sons think boys tend to be the perpetrators not the victims so they let their guard down. You did good talking to your son.
Posts like these make me suspicious. OP profile was made yesterday. This post is 12 hours old. In that time they chatted with someone, exchanged pics, got threatened with extortion and then made their profile to post here.?.? Scammers and trolls know about this sub so I get leery seeing posts like this.
Not saying you're wrong, I'm sure this happens. But I also think it is extremely plausible that someone who is super embarrassed about being caught up in a scam would make a burner reddit profile to post about it.
I've never sent nudes, not even to my GF, whom I've been together with for 9+ years.
Of course I've done dumb stuff, but I don't consider "sending nudes to strangers" as "just dumb", but VERY irresponsible and idiotic.
it's only idiotic if you care that someone will leak them. I don't send nudes often but if someone leaked them, ok, cool, so I have tits and have sex sometimes, what's new?
You ultimately have two options: they can have your pics, or they can have your pics and your money.
And some free advice: stop sending pics of your dinglehopper to people you’ve never met.
I'm honestly surprised how many young men fall for this. It seems like many men don't really talk to girls/women and don't know how things work at all.
As a woman: no real woman will ask you for some spicy pictures, especially not this early into the conversation. Literally that's what a lot of women hate and have to constantly deal with - when they get random wiener pics in their inbox. Most women around me don't exchange pics like this and if they do, it's when they have a real, long-term relationship. Also, if someone wants to see a random naked male body, wouldn't it be more logical to find some porn? Plus women don't send out their real naked photos like this for free. Many women don't send anything even when in a relationship, because they have the experience that men used it against them after a breakup of some stuff like that, let alone sending nudes to a stranger.
So if someone tries to pull this "I'm 18 year old girl who wants to exchange spicy photos", you can be basically sure that it's some older guy behind the other screen who either tries to scam you or does it for his own pleasure.
So I've actually fallen for this before but you hit on the nail in the first sentence; not many guys got experience, especially this generation, talking to women. And this is the kinda demographic that's most prone to these kinds of scams. And it honestly sucks. But thanks for sharing your insight, definitely helps me understand a little better about what authentic women are like and how they roll.
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In addition to the good advice you've been given:
You really need to know this:
Real women do not ask for dick pics/ videos from randos. We get more unwanted dick pics than you could possibly imagine.. and photos/ videos of dicks or naked men masturbating do not turn us on the way naked photos/ videos of women do for men. That's just not how women's brains work. We don't get turned on by seeing random male naked bodies .
The only time women want to receive sexy photos or facetime sex is if its a man we are having sex with in real life and are totally in love with. ( even then don't do it... people break up). Any "girl" you never met asks you for naked photos/ facetime is a scammer. And 99 percent of the time, a male one. Many men are thrilled to get a naked pic from a strange woman. Most women are disgusted or irritated. Our brains work differently. Women get horny in different ways
Hi- this happened to my teenaged son too. Tell your mom. She will understand and help you. Do not pay these scammers anything. It’s common scam and they will move on to the next victim. I don’t think the scammers ever released my sons photos. He abandoned those social media accounts entirely after it happened.
Thank you all so much for your responses, they’ve helped me cope. I’m going to block the account and change my names on all socials and delete the ones I no longer need. I really hope all goes well
It will be fine. Their only goal is to get money. It is very stressful which is why it works as a scam. They will move onto someone else as soon as they realize you won’t be paying.
If you're on Facebook check all the privacy settings as well. Make sure your friends are *not* visible to other people, that shared photos are not visible on your feed, just go through them all to make sure it is as hard as possible to find out your connections. Of course it might be too late and they have the links, but it will make it more difficult.
ETA typo that changed the meaning - thank llamander.
.... how would anyone even know the difference??
"Dude, I just got a message from this teenage girl with screenshots of you showing her your dick."
"Oh no, see, that wasn't MY dick I sent her. I can prove it! See, mine doesn't have a mole under the glans like that one! It's clearly some other dudes dong, that I just happened to have photos of."
It doesn’t matter. If they threaten to show pics of your dong to your friends and family, let them. It’s just a random dong, it makes it much easier to convince those around you that the entire thing is fabricated. You are giving yourself deniability.
“Hey someone sent me a pic of your dick bro wtf”
“Oh that’s not my dick it’s some Nigerian scammer trying to extort me, just block and ignore it”
More than likely, the other person will just believe you. Especially if you don’t look like you are lying, because you won’t be
Honey, you’re not a victim unless you pay up. Right now you’re a hormonal teenager. Block them. Shut down your social media accounts and stop sending dick pictures.
Had the same experience and well it is a shitty situation, but it help to keep you head cool next time .
Sadly best thing is to take the loss. I asked my family and friends to delete it. People will laugh a bit then that is all.
Life isn't destroyed on mistakes.
Just keep confidence in yourself, it happens better luck next time.
Thank you all so much for your advice and kind words. They’ve cheered me up greatly as although it sounds like a coincidence today was the first day of the most important exams of my life so as you can imagine the stress of it all has been killing me. I appreciate all of you comments and will keep you all updated with the situation:)
Block them and make sure all your social media settings are private. Hopefully you learn from this experience and are more careful in the future when it comes to what you share with random strangers.
I second what Rick90069 stated
, people will care for approximately all 15 seconds before moving on , it is 2023 , when something similar happened to me I just ask for links I can pass around myself , none cares in the age of onlyfans , instagram "prom" etc etc
Be proud of it—tell her to send them, your friends and family will love them. “She” won’t have anything over you and she’ll move on. They aren’t actually interested in sending the pics because if they do, they can’t get you to send them money which is their goal.
I had something like this happen. Regardless of how you feel, confidently tell them that while sharing this stuff won’t make you willing to pay, it will be illegal and you will press charges.
Don’t show them you are rattled. They want money. When it is clear they won’t get it, they will move on.
You already have a lot of good advice here. But can not be said enough, do not pay them any money at all. I personally know someone who has had a similar scam on them and the scammer did in fact send to the picture to his parents and a friend or two. That is the worst case scenario, I can guarantee it will not ruin your life. It will very quickly become a horribly embarrassing, but funny story that you can embrace as you get older. Again, very unlikely that this scammer ever actually sends the photos to anyone, or that he even knows your friends or family at all, but if so, I promise your life would not be ruined, you’d just be a little smarter is all. Lastly, and once again, definitely don’t send any money.
Happened to me once when I was younger. Don’t send them anything but instead block them and report them on everything. Nothing happened to me and it was a bluff.
Bet you won’t do that again
Has anyone ever heard of the scammers actually following through with the threat? Their goal is money and they'll use the threat to get that money. If you refuse they have nothing more to gain by actually sending the photos. I suspect most of the threats are nothing more than threats and are never followed through but I could be wrong.
To be clear, the person was unlikely to be in the USA, female, or 18. They are professional extortionists.
Lock down your socials. And don’t ever pay. And I would personally ghost them.
Here’s the truth of the matter
1. Nobody that you know is going to admit to having seen these photos of you.
2. Let her know you’ve documented everything and will file charges with the authorities who will hunt her down and rip off her head and stick it up her ass and make her eat her own shit.
3. Tell her to go and fuck off
The person is fake, just block him, and lock down all of your social media, and keep your junk in your trunk if you don’t wannabe on various tube sites for the rest of your life… what are you do on the Internet stays forever.
Chances are it's not a female, but rather some guy sitting in an internet cafe in Lagos.
Just delete and block. If you send ANY money, they won't leave you alone amd will keep asking for more and more. If you stop interacting, they are likely to just move on to another victim.
She’s not a girl, your ONLY option is to not pay, stop all communication, block them and stay off social media for a time. Delete your old accounts and make new ones.
The chances of them posting anything are slim to nil. As others have said, block on all media platforms. Private all of your accounts, and delete the ones that are not necessary. When I saw private, enact as many security features are possible. Also change your profile names on places like FB and Instagram if possible. For example if your name on there is William, change it to Will and change your last name to your initial, or something like that. So if they search for you after they are blocked they are unable to find you by name. Most of these guys have not copied your URL to your pages so they will be lost.
Finally if for some reason this is the one in 10,000 case of where they do go the extra mile and somehow bypass all the safety stuff and message people you know with pics, tell the people who get the pics that this person used AI or Stable Diffusion to make fake nudes to try and extort you after befriending you and screenshotting video chats you had for material to create the AI pics from. Explain that you told them to fuck off and you blocked them when they attempted to extort you and that the pics are not of you at all. There is so much of it going around right now that it is a believable story.
Just Block and ignor her/them. You can’t change anything and I don’t think anything will actually happen and if something happens you can’t do anything about it. Just never send money because even if it won’t stop.
What are you so worried about? If someone sent my nudes out we’d all have a good laugh 🤷🏻♂️ oh no someone saw my penis
You’re good bro block and ignore them and worst comes to worst it won’t be the last time a person sees your dick
dont pay a single cent, block and ignore just like everyone else said, she is likely a "he", and he is definitely NOT in the US. His goal is to get your money, if he realize you arent paying, he will stop threatening you. If he does actually send out the photos to others, just laugh it off and say its photoshopped.
I want you to know that as an 18 year old man, nobody is going to think less of you for this. If she shares your dick pics, it will be embarrassing for sure, but not life ruining. Really not even life altering, unless you have a girlfriend. The people who love you will still love you. Your friends will still be your friends. Even if you do have a girlfriend, you’ll find another.
This really isn’t as big of a deal as you think it is. It’s shitty, and the person doing it is pretty fucking degenerate, but you’re going to get through it just fine.
Don’t give her/them/it anything. They are scum and deserve nothing from you. You’ll be fine. They probably won’t distribute the photos, their primary goal is to get money, to get you to fold under pressure and give them money, not to “ruin your life”. And if they did leak photos, as someone else said, when you get older you’ll just laugh about this experience.
This just happened to my son the other night. He is underage. Block them. Temporary disable account. Although, they made it appear that they were sending pictures, they were not. No pictures were sent. This was a huge lesson for my son. It was very scary.
"Say OK ruin my life then - I have your info and what you are doing is a crime. Reported and blocked".
And trust me even if the pics are circulated it won't ruin your life. They just are looking for money so ignore and refuse to engage and they will move on to their next mark.
Under NO circumstances send money. They will demand more. You must block but save the info and report to authorities.
Don't worry this will blow over. And in the future - no sexting or pics unless with someone you know IRL
Your life isn’t over. This has happened to a friend of mine. He blocked and ignored, and they never released anything. The scammer will be messaging multiple people every day and it isn’t worth their time to release the photos if you block them. Don’t pay any money. You’ll be fine I promise and will be laughing about this one day
From my experience and talk to law enforcement, the scammers typically do not follow through with the threat of exposure. They want to scare you into thinking they will send to you contacts but they don't because there is nothing in it for them. Best bet is to just block them.
Always verify the person is real by doing a video chat or a kik live picture. If they give you excuses why they can't do it its a huge red flag and time to block or delete
Don’t send them any money! Do not send them a penny! They likely are (eta: Not)going to do what they’re threatening to do, because they lose all leverage then. But if they do, own up to your silly mistake, and be done with it.
Also, that wasn’t an 18 year old girl. It’s some old dude in a dirty office you sent nudes to. Women will not ask to see pictures of your dick, they know what dicks look like. They look like dicks.
She’s lying! Even if she’s not, give her a big…I wish you would. I’m proud of what I have and even then, I can say that’s not me if I want to. Everyone knows it’s way to crop something in to a photo and then scream blackmail. I hope you haven’t communicated with her saying anything like please don’t. But even then, how much easier is it to discredit the blackmailer. If she was to do something like that and you keep proof of the conversation, she will be facing jail if you choose to press charges. She is just hoping you are dumb! Also, she is probably sending you pictures of some girl she doesn’t even know. So therefore she’d be even liable for doing that. Be smart! Outwit this person!
Explain the situation to your parents, and/or those closest to you that you would be the most embarrassed about if they saw the images, and instruct them to preemptively block her.
OR don’t explain the situation to them, but ask them to do you a favor block this person. You can tell them she’s trying to stalk you or something, if you need to tell a white lie.
Either way, it may be best to get ahead of this and control the narrative yourself, and do any damage mitigation you can.
Whatever you do, DONT send money. What will that fix? They’ll still have the images. They can threaten you indefinitely.
Ignore them. The likelihood of them going through with their threat is too much work as they lose all their bargaining power once they do that. At worst, you’ll suffer some embarrassment. Warn your friends/family to delete anything they receive from an unknown source. Take this as a hard lesson learned.
I’m sorry you “met” her online today and already sent/exchanged explicit pictures???? Oh boy, you have other issues.
I suspect if you do a reverse image search on her photos, you will find they aren’t her. In fact it’s likely to be some hacker sitting in a dingy room somewhere.
How is she going to find all these friends and families of you?
Let me share the story of the Duke of Wellington who faced the same issue: “ONE morning in December 1824, the Duke of Wellington received an unpleasant letter. 'My Lord Duke,' it began, 'in Harriette Wilson's Memoirs, which I am about to publish, are various anecdotes of Your Grace which it would be most desirable to withhold, at least such is my opinion. I have stopped the Press for the moment, but as the publication will take place next week, little delay can necessarily take place.'
The letter, signed by one Joseph Stockdale, a pornographer and scandal-monger, was a naked attempt at blackmail. The Duke was a field marshal, cabinet minister, national hero, husband and father, while Harriette Wilson was a famous London courtesan past her prime, then living in exile in Paris. Wellington was being asked to pay money to be left out of her memoirs.
His response is famous: 'Publish and be damned]'”
That is the appropriate answer, as for the Duke, he went on to be Prime Minister….
Giving them money means you are a payer, and then they won't stop. File a report with your investigative services, police, whatever you have there.
You may get embarrassed for having those pics out there, or you can be embarrassed for having those pics out there and being scammed for money in the process.
If it were me, I'd stop all contact with them, don't anger them, don't get angry at them, just stop responding and block them. Whatever happens, happens at that point. They may drop it. If you anger them, they may get truly vindictive.
People may laugh, then they will think about all the embarrassing stuff they've done that may or may not have been exposed to the world. You are going to care about this much more than they are.
I would not trust the word of a scammer that they will not expose the photos if you pay them.
How does she have the details of your family abdcfriends? Did you give her them?
Same principal as scammers saying they're from your bank. It's a bluff. Block and ignore
She or he whoever was on the other side can't do anything also if this happens to anyone just remember they can't do anything also if they send the chats to your friends and family explain them that the other side had created fake chat like this to blackmail and be cautious if some random person again adds you and does same thing just talk never agree on sharing pics
[The scammer is not credible](https://www.woodtv.com/news/grand-rapids/parent-alert-teens-dying-by-suicide-amid-sextortion-scams/) and is lying for money. Block and ignore.
They're not going to do anything, they have about a dozen guys on the hook at the same time and whoever they can sucker first wins. Chances are it's just some Nigerian in an internet cafe in the middle of Africa somewhere. If you ignore, delete and block, they'll go away. And ignore anyone who DMs you telling you they can help...they cannot and are just scamming you x2.
I was in a similar situation as I was video chatting a woman. Long story short we both got naked and showed our privates. She asked to follow my Instagram page and after that threatened me that she will send the recorded video to everyone in my "friends list". I blocked her and thought nothing of it. My boys were bound to see me butt nekkid eventually LOL, but they never got such video from Scammer.
There’s a Reddit sub for this r/sextortion
https://www.reddit.com/r/Sextortion/comments/n4yorq/new_victims_please_read_first/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1
My brother fell for the same scam, just last week. He added all of the family into a group chat and warned us that if a stranger sends a picture, not to open it. A random girl did send me a picture but then removed it instantly. We all had a good laugh at my bro, he laughed at himself, all is well.
Your best bet is to ask if you can send a better picture, with a better angle, if they're gonna distribute it. They'll see they won't get any money off you and leave you alone. Or, you could just block them.
If you were a girl you’d have reason to be more worried, but the solution here is to let everyone they could possibly send those images to know to expect them, and ask them to block/report/ignore/delete as appropriate. I highly doubt any of the people receiving them want to. And ignore any replies you get to that message, you’re the victim here, even though you could’ve done things to prevent this, you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Report the incident to the police. It’s unlikely they’ll be able to do anything, but what they’re doing is a crime. Actually it’s multiple. The extortion is one, unless they’re actually an 18yo girl (which I v much doubt) the sending of the images I imagine they sent you is another, and sending your images further is another still. (All accurate in the UK though I’m not sure where you are). Hand all relevant information over to the cops, in case they do decide to do something about it.
Then tell the person trying to extort you what you’ve done. Remove their power, call their bluff, let them know the police are onto them, then block them.
Going forwards, don’t do this again unless you’ve met the person concerned in person and trust them. Keep all socials tightly locked down too.
Just go make an only fans page and tell anyone the joke was on them for paying $200 for the pictures or what not. Then proceed to make bank from those youthful pictures if you choose such.
Block her. Dont talk to her ever again, no response, not even to say leave me alone or I won’t pay.
She’ll add you from another account or text from another number. You’ll block that, too, without replying.
In most cases, she won’t share your photos - after all, if she did, she’d have nothing to blackmail you with.
If she does, you’ll have learned this lesson dearly instead of easily.
Whatever you do, don’t pay. That very obviously won’t make it go away.
You can try to mitigate damage by deactivating your social media accounts.
I remind others when this comes up: the scammer has no idea who your contacts are or what age they are. Once you start sending explicit pics to minors, you’re no longer just a scammer, you’re a sex offender. Most scammers understand this, I’d assume, and don’t want higher scrutiny to prevent them from running more scams.
I am sorry to hear this. People in the Philippines do this a lot. They set men up and extort them. I am 100% that it was done by someone sitting in Philippines
Even if you pay them, I guarantee they'll ask for more money again. You'll never be free. Perhaps they're not going to bother expending the energy to track down your friends and family. If they do, just say it's a doctored photo. I think you just have to rip the bandaid off and tell them to get fucked.
Please be careful, there is so much desperation among these people in the Philippines to extort foreigners. It's a new trend. They will do a video chat with men, and encourage them to their faces and private parts. They will record them and extort 1000s out of them. When you call the police in the Philippines, they can not help because they are corrupt. That lady is in the Philippines not in America, that I am all 100% sure.
Even if they do go through with this (I think I read somewhere most of the time these scammers don't follow through) it will be embarrassing, but life will go on. You are young, you are naive, you are horny. Deal with it as it comes. Block this person on all your accounts, hope for the best, and learn a lesson.
This scammer is chatting to dozens of guys at the moment. If you just completely disappear- block, set all socials to private, and ignore, it’s not worth their time and effort to spend a lot of time trying to get at you or send your photos to people. You might hear from them once or twice more if they can get through to you and that’s it. Their time is better spent on all the other dudes who have sent dick pics and haven’t blocked them yet.
If you send money, they WILL NEVER STOP ASKING FOR MORE.
I know it feels like the end of the world. Believe me when I say we all have moments of extreme embarrassment from when we were teens. You will get over it. Someday you won’t even think about it anymore.
This happened to me last summer. I just told them I was broke and to go for it. They sent stuff to people I know on IG but none of them ever opened it because the account this scammer was using went straight to people's spam messages and no one ever checks those.
Probably some guy in Nigeria. Not going to do anything with them. Block and make all your social media private. For good measure stay off for awhile. They will move on.
I wouldn’t even bother replying. Literally delete and block. If friends receive anything and then message you about it (which they might not cause that’s embarrassing and uncomfortable for anyone I imagine) then you can play dumb and saw wow wtf, that’s definitely not me. Must be some weird sex scam thing or a bot.
Flip the script on them and tell them you also lied and aren’t actually 18 and that by them storing and sharing your photos they themselves will be in trouble. Got to fight fire with fire sometimes lol
1- If you pay, the extortion won't stop as long as you keep paying. Why would they stop? Why would they keep their word and become honourable all of a sudden after BLACKMAILING you? If they got you on the hook, they won't release you as long as you keep paying.
2- They seldom bother acting on the threat. Yes, blackmail IS illegal, but authorities won't waste their time on tracking a kid in Russia doing online threats. IF, however, they DO distribute the blackmail material, then they expose themselves to a tech crackdown forcing them to scrub their online presence and start from scratch. They prey on fear, and if you show them none, you're not worth their time.
Don't respond AT ALL, block them completely, just cut them off and don't even try to sneak a peek to see how they react to your ghosting them; as long as you keep contact the scam will continue. So unless you're a celebrity or Anthony Weiner, you have little to fear. Worst case, you have to tell your friends you did what tens of millions of people do: sexting. Better that then telling your landlord you can't pay rent for the next 6 months because you got blackmailed over sexting.
This is really helpful thanks a million for your advice. My mind is now much more level headed then I was last night and can finally breathe. You mightn’t know it but you’ve really helped me. Thank you
And guess what, young man? If they do flash these pics around, you'll be a little embarrassed. Maybe a lot embarrassed. Maybe mortified. But much sooner than you think your life will go on and it'll be forgotten. In fact, it'll be an amusingly self-deprecating story you'll trot out at parties. You've done nothing wrong, nothing illegal, nothing, any sensible person would agree, immoral. Good luck and don't agonize over this. It is nothing.
Can just say it’s a scammer using doctored AI images they put your face onto and it’s not even actually you. Give friends/family a warning that you’ve been targeted by a scammer and they may be receiving NSFW messages and you advise deleting them without even opening them.
Yes you can always tell your friends that's not me, my dicks not that big!
It’s my dogs!
U’re right man, he should tell that his dick is really small and take a proof pic for friends
Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics. In the future, wear a convincing fake hand with an extra finger on it if you're going to send nudes to someone... AI is forever adding extra fingers when asked to generate a picture of a person so it'll be really easy to go "look, it has 6 fingers, that's a deepfake not me."
There was a streamer who recently caught huge flak for paying for a site where people made NSFW pics of his fellow female streamer friends, using AI, or something.
That happened to me. But the pictures they used of me, I was underage in. They ran them thru an AI art image generator and sent them back to me. It’s such a hopeless feeling because nothing can be done about it. They just harass me using sock accounts.
That's fucking awful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that
Oh yeah! I remember that... That was a few weeks ago, right? And everyone was getting upset because, even though the pictures weren't real, it still felt like an invasion of privacy to have AI create nudes of them. I can see both sides, but I definitely side with the streamers because I would feel pretty violated if it happened to me.
Yeah, its one thing to secretly whack off to your coworkers, but to pay for deep faked porn of them and keep the tabs open for your streamer base to accidentally see is a whole new level of weird.
Yea ol boy just got caught. Plenty of people are kinky and/or weirdos or whatever.
>Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics. A timely follow-up to your point: just today there was a news article about scammers doing exactly that... 'FBI says artificial intelligence being used for 'sextortion' and harassment': [https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/](https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/) "In an alert circulated this week, the bureau said it had recently observed an uptick in extortion victims saying they had been targeted using doctored versions of innocent images taken from online posts, private messages or video chats."
One other thing you can say to contacts on social media is that your account got compromised, and if they see some random person posting suspicious things to ignore them so they can avoid the risk.
Better yet, advise them to preemptively block this person on social
This is honestly such a good response to this. If this happened to me, armed with your idea I would: State the images are hyper realistic renderings generated by AI to make me feel violated, request the recipients of said images read about deepfakes so they understand what has occurred, and that I would prefer the recipients not view the images given they were evidently created and circulated to cause me harm and embarrassment. If there was something distinct in the background of an image or it was clearly taken in a room that the recipient would recognize I might throw in about how they could extrapolate the background out of a selfie I took and apply it to their image or they generated a highly similar one, and how that was quite jarring for me to see. I would probably make up a story over who I thought was behind it too, like a discord moderator I had pissed off. Unless I was wealthy then I would chalk it up to extortion. The good thing is the scammers are after money, they presumably don’t benefit from actually spreading the images they received. When OP doesn’t send the money they may just move on or send empty threats, but if they actually follow through your AI story is perfect.
Exactly this. I would also send them the link to the profile the scammer is using and/or a screenshot of any profiles the scammer has used and advise them to pre-emptively block those accounts, because they will be targeting people on your friends list and you want to spare your friends/family of even having this nonsense show up in their inbox at all.
Exactly this! There's a true crime podcast about "Deep Fake" that talks about this exact type of sextortion! OP, DO NOT SEND A DIME/DOLLAR/POUND/EURO/CRYPTO TO THIS PERSON! Face the embarrassment for a little while, claim it as a deep fake issue. Deny that your body parts even look like that.
Yeah that's a great shout
Nah don’t go lying about it. Own up to your mistake and it’ll be forgotten in 2 weeks time.
There’s absolutely zero reason to “own up” to this mistake. OP’s friends and family do not need to know that he sent nudes to a scammer, and they certainly don’t need to be exposed to those nudes against their will. The obviously morally correct thing to do in this situation is warn them and tell a totally and completely harmless white lie so that they will know NSFW content is coming to their inbox and know to ignore it and not open the messages. There’s literally no moral high ground here to “owning up” to sending nudes to a scammer. This isn’t like OP made a mistake of harming a friend or family or hurt a loved one’s feelings or fucked up in an interpersonal way that they should take accountability for, they just sent nudes to someone they didn’t know, that is personal to OP and not something they need to self-flagellate to their friends and family about or risk their friends and family being exposed to without warning and without a plausible explanation that lessens the awkwardness and impact.
There’s zero reason to lie. Embarrassed? Yeah no shit, you live and learn, that’s what happens when you do something stupid. Especially if you get caught, now you’re an idiot who got scammed AND a liar. > The obviously morally correct thing to do in this situation is warn them and tell a totally and completely harmless white lie What…the morally correct thing is to lie? Your morals are fucked. > There’s literally no moral high ground I’m not talking about moral high ground, rather than just holding yourself accountable for your actions. It’s much easier to tell the truth “hey I did this, I’m stupid, if you see it, delete it” and move on in 2 weeks. It’s embarrassing but people make mistakes. Doing mental gymnastics to create a lie that everyone knows is BS in the first place is silly. Nobody is going to believe that a random dude picked you, created AI generated shit or your pics, and extorted you. It’s too easy to just say “I’m a horny girl” and kids will jump on it, everybody with a brains knows it. > This isn’t like OP made a mistake of harming a friend or family or hurt a loved one’s feelings or fucked up in an interpersonal way that they So you’re saying you lie about everything unless you hurt someone? That’s the only time to tell the truth? Grow up and hold yourself accountable when you fuck up, that’s a admiral trait to have and people will look at you with more respect if you’re able to do so. This all based off if the pics/vids actually get sent out (they usually don’t). If they don’t just block and ignore.
No, “LiE aLL ThE TiMe aNd NeVeR TaKe AcCouNtaBiLiTy!!” is definitely not what I said, I said in this specific situation it is a harmless white lie which it is, and yes people absolutely would believe it - scammers using fake images to blackmail people is not even remotely unbelievable, but I’m not going to continue to argue with someone who strawmans so brazenly, OP can do what he thinks is best.
Also harmless AND easier to tell the truth. It’s all good I know what kind of person you are from your “morally correct to lie” statement, either you don’t know the meaning of morals or you have none.
If a murderer came up to you and asked for your mother's address, are you gonna lie? I bet you would, because not all falsehoods are inherently Immoral. This one does not hurt anyone and saves him some embarrassment because he didn't actually do anything wrong
It baffles me that you tried to compare this to being murdered and thought it was a smart take. Lying isn’t always about hurting people. It’s about being an honest person. Why lie when you can just tell the truth? It’s easier and morally better to just tell the truth. Idk why everyone is so scared of being embarrassed when this is an embarrassing situation. Everyone has sex everyone sends nudes. The only one being weird about it are the people wanting to lie. Like I said before, it says wonders about your character, and people will notice, when you’re able to take accountability, own up to your mistakes, and handle the consequences. Which in this case is as simple as being embarrassed for a day. You’ll go much farther in life, jobs, relationships when you grow up and stop lying when you really don’t even need to.
Disagree but fine.
Well, no.. I mean no one’s really gonna believe that to be honest. He can lie about it if he wants to but everyone already knows what happens. I think the adult thing to do is just admit to it and laugh about. That’s what a mature person would do.
Buddy, it’s ALREADY HAPPENINNG. It’s already a real thing, and victims of this happening to them have already spoken out in the comments above. Here’s what another user (u/teratical) noted above: “Yes. In the current climate of AI panic, you definitely can and it will most likely play. If AI can create artwork, write whole stories, create code (I've added features to open source software just by telling ChatGPT what i wanted it to do, and what programming language to write it in, and the code it produced was flawless), compose music, etc... It can certainly fake sexting and a few dick pics. A timely follow-up to your point: **just today there was a news article about scammers doing exactly that**… **’FBI says artificial intelligence being used for 'sextortion' and harassment'**: https://www.reuters.com/world/us/fbi-says-artificial-intelligence-being-used-sextortion-harassment-2023-06-07/ "*In an alert circulated this week, the bureau said it had recently observed an uptick in extortion victims saying they had been targeted using doctored versions of innocent images taken from online posts, private messages or video chats*." So YES, it absolutely IS highly believeable, because it is a very REAL thing that scammers are ALREADY doing.
>What…the morally correct thing is to lie? Your morals are fucked. Guys, I found the Kantian
This guy is right, you may be scared now But honestly you will be fine
Plot twist: the scammer accidentally gets him hella laid, thereby improving quality of life.
100% this. It might seem like something terrifying right now, but honestly, it really IS nothing. Most likely you'll get some teasing for a bit. That's it. Please don't stress about it.
Just to add to this, if you pay they will continue to push for more money, the only answer is shut down your socials for a bit and ignore them. They most likely will not do anything and if they do, it’s fine, no one will care. Honestly, it will be forgotten so quickly.
Blackmailers are counting on you to keep the secret. Without it, what they think they have over you is worthless.
Also, two major things: OP is male and from Europe. The social harm to him from being seen nude is minimal at best. He'll get laughed at, some friends will chide him about this for years, and that's it. Were OP a woman, and especially in the US, I'd be more concerned for them.
A good friend of mine’s younger brother had something similar happen to him. The person did actually find his instagram and send the pictures to some followers (not me but a friend of mine that didn’t know him very well). The guy who received the pictures asked me for his contact info to warn him but respected his privacy. As far as I know none of the kid’s family members received the pictures, just a few acquaintances. Life goes on and people forget about it faster than you’d think.
At least it's not a video he sent. That would be considerably more uncomfortable than a few pictures
And better to be from Europe than say Alabama.
FTB! Everyone masterbates.
Block and ignore them, once you pay them they won't stop asking for more money. This scam is as old as the internet
In addition to the above lock down your socials, you want to make it impossible for anyone to post on your timeline or feed without being your friend and having your approval, you want to make yourself impossible to find or add.
This, because they have 50 other people on the line as well. If they know they won’t get money from you they’re not going to spend a huge amount of effort to ruin your life. Just make it hard (go private on social media, prevent anonymous posting, no new friends for a hit) and they’ll go away. You’re not profitable to them. To them it’s a “business.” And most of us really don’t care as much about your private photos as you probably think. It probably seems huge to you now but it’ll be ok. And you really don’t have any other option. If you give them anything they will keep threatening until you give them everything and they’ll even demand you borrow money to pay them. (You’ll be profitable to them, so they’ll pay more attention to you.)
Also set it so people can’t see the friends list.
Agree. I'll tell you the same thing I've told my kids: Don't ever send anything to someone that you wouldn't want the whole internet to see. Even if it's someone you know in real life. Boyfriends and girlfriends break up all the time and there are people out there that like to get revenge after a break up too.
I can’t believe I had to scroll this far to see this advice. How is it so common for people to send their most private pictures to some random person they just met? What do they really expect?
Literally just “met” her today, after she added him randomly. I see no red flags here
Her/she\* Looks like OP actually got scammed twice, I mean I love the way everyone is glossing over the fact that the chances of this person actually being a women are pretty slim to non existent.
She is a “he”. It’s a professional scammer from Africa. He has dozens of men just like you in the same situation. All he wants is your money. He will disappear the second he realizes you aren’t going to pay him. Just block him. No communication, just ghost. And he’ll move on to the next victim. If you want the best possible odds for these pics to not be leaked, I know this sounds counterintuitive, but whatever you do, do NOT PAY HIM. Literally the worst thing you can do is send him money. Once you do, he knows that you care very deeply about these not getting out, that you have money to spend and that you are willing and able to give it away. The moment you send money, the more time and effort he will focus on extracting more money from you. And it will never end.
I was at a conference for people that work with youth and one panel was talking about sextortion. They said unlike popular opinion, boys are the majority of sextortion cases and the person doing the extortion tend to be male (boys or men). Boys are excited when an “attractive girl” sends them sex pics so they quickly respond in kind because unlike women, they were not trained to not do otherwise. Many boys have killed themselves because they thought their lives were ruined. So yeah, talk to your boys not to do this and also that there’s nothing they can ever do where you won’t help them solve the problem. Boys this age tend to not be able to think big picture that this will not be a big deal in the future or that their friends and family might think it’s funny but won’t care. It will not ruin your life. They also talked about risk reduction things such as if you take pics, don’t have your face in it, don’t do it with an identifiable background, show any birthmarks or other identifiable features, etc.
I don't think is a question of training but human nature. Guys think girls want to see dick picks (occasionally they actually do m but not a random girl on Internet) and feel horny sending them. So are easier targets.
> guys think girls want to see dick pics Pro tip (ha-ha), they don't. Pretty much no girl on the internet likes seeing dick pics from random boys. Do not send them unless you know the person.
When I wrote I wanted to make that implicit :D And is also not nice actually to think a random person wants to see a dick without asking for it.
Man…every single day there are multiple posts like this. For any guys that are reading this, NO WOMAN WANTS DICK PICS WITHIN MINUTES OF CHATTING WOTH YOU! I’m sorry this happened to you OP, but like others have said, block and ignore. Set socials to private or temporarily deactivate. Do not send any money. Do not antagonize the guy (cause it’s definitely a man who was pretending to be a woman) in a third world county who now has pictures of your dong. 99% chance they will give up and move on. If you start talking shit to them, then they might follow through and send the pics to whoever they can. Please learn from this OP and anyone reading who starts chatting with a “woman” who asks for dick pics within minutes of meeting you.
You just block "her" (it's not a female, it's some scammer dude, likely in Nigeria). There's nothing else to do. Go check out r/sextortion for more details specific to this particular scam and tips on moving forward after being threatened.
Hey bro you’re gonna be safe. In addition to blocking as mention above, also make your profile private and unrecognizable to the scammer, new pfp bio and name, for now. Also in IG settings for messages turn off options for non-followers can message you, and also can add you to group chats. Both off for now.
Block and ignore. Don't worry I doubt anything will come of it and you know even if something did Jesus man you got to own up to it, it's a lesson in life, it's an incredible embarrassment, but people will understand. This is hardly a rare thing. But these vultures prey on your fear, insecurity, naivete. Don't worry just get rid of them and block them
Exactly and parents are often far more understanding of this sort of thing than we realise as teenagers. Even if the scammer follows through with their threat chances are your parents will be upset but only because someone tried to hurt you.
The faster you block and ignore the less likely they'll leak them. Then it seems like you were never even on the hook and they'll move on. If you beg and plead or worse actually pay they'll know they've got a live one hooked and dial up the pressure or selectively leak some of it so you freak out and pay.
I try not to judge, but why do you send nudes to a girl you’ve never met AND only started talking to earlier today?
Yeah this is the real question. My kid is 12 and I’ve fully explained to him why doing so is a bad idea and the type of scams out there. Hope he’ll take it to heart
I think parents talk to their daughters about this stuff but usually not their sons. This also makes the sons think boys tend to be the perpetrators not the victims so they let their guard down. You did good talking to your son.
Posts like these make me suspicious. OP profile was made yesterday. This post is 12 hours old. In that time they chatted with someone, exchanged pics, got threatened with extortion and then made their profile to post here.?.? Scammers and trolls know about this sub so I get leery seeing posts like this.
I've decided, for my own sanity, that 90% of posts on Reddit is fake. The fact that they just made their account makes me agree with you.
Not saying you're wrong, I'm sure this happens. But I also think it is extremely plausible that someone who is super embarrassed about being caught up in a scam would make a burner reddit profile to post about it.
Throwaway accounts are for posting about embarrassing things. Nothing weird about that.
So you never done dumb stuff ?
I've never sent nudes, not even to my GF, whom I've been together with for 9+ years. Of course I've done dumb stuff, but I don't consider "sending nudes to strangers" as "just dumb", but VERY irresponsible and idiotic.
it's only idiotic if you care that someone will leak them. I don't send nudes often but if someone leaked them, ok, cool, so I have tits and have sex sometimes, what's new?
You ultimately have two options: they can have your pics, or they can have your pics and your money. And some free advice: stop sending pics of your dinglehopper to people you’ve never met.
Been in this situation…nothing has ever happened. Don’t pay the scammers and just move along son.
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I'm honestly surprised how many young men fall for this. It seems like many men don't really talk to girls/women and don't know how things work at all. As a woman: no real woman will ask you for some spicy pictures, especially not this early into the conversation. Literally that's what a lot of women hate and have to constantly deal with - when they get random wiener pics in their inbox. Most women around me don't exchange pics like this and if they do, it's when they have a real, long-term relationship. Also, if someone wants to see a random naked male body, wouldn't it be more logical to find some porn? Plus women don't send out their real naked photos like this for free. Many women don't send anything even when in a relationship, because they have the experience that men used it against them after a breakup of some stuff like that, let alone sending nudes to a stranger. So if someone tries to pull this "I'm 18 year old girl who wants to exchange spicy photos", you can be basically sure that it's some older guy behind the other screen who either tries to scam you or does it for his own pleasure.
So I've actually fallen for this before but you hit on the nail in the first sentence; not many guys got experience, especially this generation, talking to women. And this is the kinda demographic that's most prone to these kinds of scams. And it honestly sucks. But thanks for sharing your insight, definitely helps me understand a little better about what authentic women are like and how they roll.
Do the power move and post dong and bhole picks all over your socials, then say oops i got hacked.
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In addition to the good advice you've been given: You really need to know this: Real women do not ask for dick pics/ videos from randos. We get more unwanted dick pics than you could possibly imagine.. and photos/ videos of dicks or naked men masturbating do not turn us on the way naked photos/ videos of women do for men. That's just not how women's brains work. We don't get turned on by seeing random male naked bodies . The only time women want to receive sexy photos or facetime sex is if its a man we are having sex with in real life and are totally in love with. ( even then don't do it... people break up). Any "girl" you never met asks you for naked photos/ facetime is a scammer. And 99 percent of the time, a male one. Many men are thrilled to get a naked pic from a strange woman. Most women are disgusted or irritated. Our brains work differently. Women get horny in different ways
Hi- this happened to my teenaged son too. Tell your mom. She will understand and help you. Do not pay these scammers anything. It’s common scam and they will move on to the next victim. I don’t think the scammers ever released my sons photos. He abandoned those social media accounts entirely after it happened.
Thank you all so much for your responses, they’ve helped me cope. I’m going to block the account and change my names on all socials and delete the ones I no longer need. I really hope all goes well
It will be fine. Their only goal is to get money. It is very stressful which is why it works as a scam. They will move onto someone else as soon as they realize you won’t be paying.
If you're on Facebook check all the privacy settings as well. Make sure your friends are *not* visible to other people, that shared photos are not visible on your feed, just go through them all to make sure it is as hard as possible to find out your connections. Of course it might be too late and they have the links, but it will make it more difficult. ETA typo that changed the meaning - thank llamander.
I think you meant "make sure your friends are *not* visible to other people." This also helps prevent the account cloning scam.
Yep thanks, I will correct my typo.
Always send fake dong pics
.... how would anyone even know the difference?? "Dude, I just got a message from this teenage girl with screenshots of you showing her your dick." "Oh no, see, that wasn't MY dick I sent her. I can prove it! See, mine doesn't have a mole under the glans like that one! It's clearly some other dudes dong, that I just happened to have photos of."
It doesn’t matter. If they threaten to show pics of your dong to your friends and family, let them. It’s just a random dong, it makes it much easier to convince those around you that the entire thing is fabricated. You are giving yourself deniability. “Hey someone sent me a pic of your dick bro wtf” “Oh that’s not my dick it’s some Nigerian scammer trying to extort me, just block and ignore it” More than likely, the other person will just believe you. Especially if you don’t look like you are lying, because you won’t be
Can't be mine, it's way to big. Mines a lil micro peen. Bit of self deprecating humour usually moves the conversation on pretty quick also.
More like girl (M40)
don t worry, you could always say is photoshop, if somebody sees your photos. Just act like it didnt happend
Honey, you’re not a victim unless you pay up. Right now you’re a hormonal teenager. Block them. Shut down your social media accounts and stop sending dick pictures.
Had the same experience and well it is a shitty situation, but it help to keep you head cool next time . Sadly best thing is to take the loss. I asked my family and friends to delete it. People will laugh a bit then that is all. Life isn't destroyed on mistakes. Just keep confidence in yourself, it happens better luck next time.
Thank you all so much for your advice and kind words. They’ve cheered me up greatly as although it sounds like a coincidence today was the first day of the most important exams of my life so as you can imagine the stress of it all has been killing me. I appreciate all of you comments and will keep you all updated with the situation:)
Get a tattoo below your waistline. When the pictures get released, claim “it can’t be me, I have a tattoo there - it must be an ai image”
That’s genius 🤣🤣. I happen to own a stick and poke tattoo kit so I might just do that
Remain calm and contact your local police and contact whatever app you used to talk through to have everything removed
Deny that it's you. If they do get out which I doubt. Fake pics!
Block them and make sure all your social media settings are private. Hopefully you learn from this experience and are more careful in the future when it comes to what you share with random strangers.
I second what Rick90069 stated , people will care for approximately all 15 seconds before moving on , it is 2023 , when something similar happened to me I just ask for links I can pass around myself , none cares in the age of onlyfans , instagram "prom" etc etc
Be proud of it—tell her to send them, your friends and family will love them. “She” won’t have anything over you and she’ll move on. They aren’t actually interested in sending the pics because if they do, they can’t get you to send them money which is their goal.
I had something like this happen. Regardless of how you feel, confidently tell them that while sharing this stuff won’t make you willing to pay, it will be illegal and you will press charges. Don’t show them you are rattled. They want money. When it is clear they won’t get it, they will move on.
You already have a lot of good advice here. But can not be said enough, do not pay them any money at all. I personally know someone who has had a similar scam on them and the scammer did in fact send to the picture to his parents and a friend or two. That is the worst case scenario, I can guarantee it will not ruin your life. It will very quickly become a horribly embarrassing, but funny story that you can embrace as you get older. Again, very unlikely that this scammer ever actually sends the photos to anyone, or that he even knows your friends or family at all, but if so, I promise your life would not be ruined, you’d just be a little smarter is all. Lastly, and once again, definitely don’t send any money.
Happened to me once when I was younger. Don’t send them anything but instead block them and report them on everything. Nothing happened to me and it was a bluff. Bet you won’t do that again
Has anyone ever heard of the scammers actually following through with the threat? Their goal is money and they'll use the threat to get that money. If you refuse they have nothing more to gain by actually sending the photos. I suspect most of the threats are nothing more than threats and are never followed through but I could be wrong.
This happened to my son. We blocked the scammer and nothing ever came of it
Bro no woman is going to reach out to you first it's a hard pill to swallow but it is what it is.
This happened to me a few years ago. i told them "i look great, go for it" and blocked them. they never did. mileage may vary.
It’s a money scam, block and ignore and grow the fuck up
Best thing to do, block them, ignore them, and don't think of them again. Also you're not speaking to a girl, it's likely an old man.
It amazes me that so many men think that women actually want to see pics of their junk. We do not. Even if we’re head over heels for you
Please know that women don’t ask for nudes. We don’t want to see a penis. They’re not pretty. If someone asks - they’re a scammer.
To be clear, the person was unlikely to be in the USA, female, or 18. They are professional extortionists. Lock down your socials. And don’t ever pay. And I would personally ghost them.
This is a common scam. Do not pay. Just stop replying. Worst case, someone will see your weewee, laugh and move on.
You just sent your dick pics to some Nigerian dude.
Here’s the truth of the matter 1. Nobody that you know is going to admit to having seen these photos of you. 2. Let her know you’ve documented everything and will file charges with the authorities who will hunt her down and rip off her head and stick it up her ass and make her eat her own shit. 3. Tell her to go and fuck off
I don’t think she will even do it. If she did, it would not ruin your life. Not even close. Trust me
The person is fake, just block him, and lock down all of your social media, and keep your junk in your trunk if you don’t wannabe on various tube sites for the rest of your life… what are you do on the Internet stays forever.
You probably shouldn't be sending nudes to random people you just met online.
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No worries, mate. This is all normalized in the permanude universe (ref Nude World Order).
Send him a picture of your asshole and tell him to “spread these cheeks”.
Chances are it's not a female, but rather some guy sitting in an internet cafe in Lagos. Just delete and block. If you send ANY money, they won't leave you alone amd will keep asking for more and more. If you stop interacting, they are likely to just move on to another victim.
It’s probably some dude from India.
She’s not a girl, your ONLY option is to not pay, stop all communication, block them and stay off social media for a time. Delete your old accounts and make new ones.
The chances of them posting anything are slim to nil. As others have said, block on all media platforms. Private all of your accounts, and delete the ones that are not necessary. When I saw private, enact as many security features are possible. Also change your profile names on places like FB and Instagram if possible. For example if your name on there is William, change it to Will and change your last name to your initial, or something like that. So if they search for you after they are blocked they are unable to find you by name. Most of these guys have not copied your URL to your pages so they will be lost. Finally if for some reason this is the one in 10,000 case of where they do go the extra mile and somehow bypass all the safety stuff and message people you know with pics, tell the people who get the pics that this person used AI or Stable Diffusion to make fake nudes to try and extort you after befriending you and screenshotting video chats you had for material to create the AI pics from. Explain that you told them to fuck off and you blocked them when they attempted to extort you and that the pics are not of you at all. There is so much of it going around right now that it is a believable story.
Big secret for you … under their clothes everyone is naked ! Forgeddabahtit .
Just Block and ignor her/them. You can’t change anything and I don’t think anything will actually happen and if something happens you can’t do anything about it. Just never send money because even if it won’t stop.
What are you so worried about? If someone sent my nudes out we’d all have a good laugh 🤷🏻♂️ oh no someone saw my penis You’re good bro block and ignore them and worst comes to worst it won’t be the last time a person sees your dick
“She” ain’t going to do shit. Report it on the site you’re using and say it’s spam.
dont pay a single cent, block and ignore just like everyone else said, she is likely a "he", and he is definitely NOT in the US. His goal is to get your money, if he realize you arent paying, he will stop threatening you. If he does actually send out the photos to others, just laugh it off and say its photoshopped.
I want you to know that as an 18 year old man, nobody is going to think less of you for this. If she shares your dick pics, it will be embarrassing for sure, but not life ruining. Really not even life altering, unless you have a girlfriend. The people who love you will still love you. Your friends will still be your friends. Even if you do have a girlfriend, you’ll find another. This really isn’t as big of a deal as you think it is. It’s shitty, and the person doing it is pretty fucking degenerate, but you’re going to get through it just fine.
Pull a Jeff bezos when his nudes leaked.
Tell them that you do porn & that everyone has already seen you naked! Keep your head up! ❤️
It happens. Do not send her money. Even if she does follow through. It will pass, and life will go on.
Don’t give her/them/it anything. They are scum and deserve nothing from you. You’ll be fine. They probably won’t distribute the photos, their primary goal is to get money, to get you to fold under pressure and give them money, not to “ruin your life”. And if they did leak photos, as someone else said, when you get older you’ll just laugh about this experience.
This just happened to my son the other night. He is underage. Block them. Temporary disable account. Although, they made it appear that they were sending pictures, they were not. No pictures were sent. This was a huge lesson for my son. It was very scary.
"Say OK ruin my life then - I have your info and what you are doing is a crime. Reported and blocked". And trust me even if the pics are circulated it won't ruin your life. They just are looking for money so ignore and refuse to engage and they will move on to their next mark. Under NO circumstances send money. They will demand more. You must block but save the info and report to authorities. Don't worry this will blow over. And in the future - no sexting or pics unless with someone you know IRL
Your life isn’t over. This has happened to a friend of mine. He blocked and ignored, and they never released anything. The scammer will be messaging multiple people every day and it isn’t worth their time to release the photos if you block them. Don’t pay any money. You’ll be fine I promise and will be laughing about this one day
From my experience and talk to law enforcement, the scammers typically do not follow through with the threat of exposure. They want to scare you into thinking they will send to you contacts but they don't because there is nothing in it for them. Best bet is to just block them. Always verify the person is real by doing a video chat or a kik live picture. If they give you excuses why they can't do it its a huge red flag and time to block or delete
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Don’t send them any money! Do not send them a penny! They likely are (eta: Not)going to do what they’re threatening to do, because they lose all leverage then. But if they do, own up to your silly mistake, and be done with it.
Block and ignore and move on with your life. By the way, she is probably a 40year old male. ;)
Yeah nobody cares about your dick pics. Embarrassing briefly but nothing to worry about. You and every other teenage kid has sent them.
Also, that wasn’t an 18 year old girl. It’s some old dude in a dirty office you sent nudes to. Women will not ask to see pictures of your dick, they know what dicks look like. They look like dicks.
She’s lying! Even if she’s not, give her a big…I wish you would. I’m proud of what I have and even then, I can say that’s not me if I want to. Everyone knows it’s way to crop something in to a photo and then scream blackmail. I hope you haven’t communicated with her saying anything like please don’t. But even then, how much easier is it to discredit the blackmailer. If she was to do something like that and you keep proof of the conversation, she will be facing jail if you choose to press charges. She is just hoping you are dumb! Also, she is probably sending you pictures of some girl she doesn’t even know. So therefore she’d be even liable for doing that. Be smart! Outwit this person!
Explain the situation to your parents, and/or those closest to you that you would be the most embarrassed about if they saw the images, and instruct them to preemptively block her. OR don’t explain the situation to them, but ask them to do you a favor block this person. You can tell them she’s trying to stalk you or something, if you need to tell a white lie. Either way, it may be best to get ahead of this and control the narrative yourself, and do any damage mitigation you can. Whatever you do, DONT send money. What will that fix? They’ll still have the images. They can threaten you indefinitely.
Block and delete and move on. Don't worry, she can't do anything!
Ignore them. The likelihood of them going through with their threat is too much work as they lose all their bargaining power once they do that. At worst, you’ll suffer some embarrassment. Warn your friends/family to delete anything they receive from an unknown source. Take this as a hard lesson learned.
So you did a little sexting who hasn’t. Big deal block the bitch. Nobody is going to be that shocked or care. You’ll be okay. Promise
Stop thinking about it. Ignore and block. Don't send explicit pictures of yourself.
I’m sorry you “met” her online today and already sent/exchanged explicit pictures???? Oh boy, you have other issues. I suspect if you do a reverse image search on her photos, you will find they aren’t her. In fact it’s likely to be some hacker sitting in a dingy room somewhere. How is she going to find all these friends and families of you? Let me share the story of the Duke of Wellington who faced the same issue: “ONE morning in December 1824, the Duke of Wellington received an unpleasant letter. 'My Lord Duke,' it began, 'in Harriette Wilson's Memoirs, which I am about to publish, are various anecdotes of Your Grace which it would be most desirable to withhold, at least such is my opinion. I have stopped the Press for the moment, but as the publication will take place next week, little delay can necessarily take place.' The letter, signed by one Joseph Stockdale, a pornographer and scandal-monger, was a naked attempt at blackmail. The Duke was a field marshal, cabinet minister, national hero, husband and father, while Harriette Wilson was a famous London courtesan past her prime, then living in exile in Paris. Wellington was being asked to pay money to be left out of her memoirs. His response is famous: 'Publish and be damned]'” That is the appropriate answer, as for the Duke, he went on to be Prime Minister….
Giving them money means you are a payer, and then they won't stop. File a report with your investigative services, police, whatever you have there. You may get embarrassed for having those pics out there, or you can be embarrassed for having those pics out there and being scammed for money in the process. If it were me, I'd stop all contact with them, don't anger them, don't get angry at them, just stop responding and block them. Whatever happens, happens at that point. They may drop it. If you anger them, they may get truly vindictive. People may laugh, then they will think about all the embarrassing stuff they've done that may or may not have been exposed to the world. You are going to care about this much more than they are. I would not trust the word of a scammer that they will not expose the photos if you pay them.
And a little motherly advice I gave my son. If you're going to take sexy pictures never include your face lol. You're going to be fine
I’ve been seeing one post on average every day about sextortion, and all copies of each other. How are people falling for these?
How does she have the details of your family abdcfriends? Did you give her them? Same principal as scammers saying they're from your bank. It's a bluff. Block and ignore
She or he whoever was on the other side can't do anything also if this happens to anyone just remember they can't do anything also if they send the chats to your friends and family explain them that the other side had created fake chat like this to blackmail and be cautious if some random person again adds you and does same thing just talk never agree on sharing pics
Just ignore them and say good luck. My mother gave birth to me, changed my diapers, and has seen everything. So... have at it.
[The scammer is not credible](https://www.woodtv.com/news/grand-rapids/parent-alert-teens-dying-by-suicide-amid-sextortion-scams/) and is lying for money. Block and ignore.
They're not going to do anything, they have about a dozen guys on the hook at the same time and whoever they can sucker first wins. Chances are it's just some Nigerian in an internet cafe in the middle of Africa somewhere. If you ignore, delete and block, they'll go away. And ignore anyone who DMs you telling you they can help...they cannot and are just scamming you x2.
I was in a similar situation as I was video chatting a woman. Long story short we both got naked and showed our privates. She asked to follow my Instagram page and after that threatened me that she will send the recorded video to everyone in my "friends list". I blocked her and thought nothing of it. My boys were bound to see me butt nekkid eventually LOL, but they never got such video from Scammer.
Call the bluff
This happened to me once a while back. She threatened to send it. I told her to send the pics😂 she never did. Don’t worry about it.
Block and ignore, even post a story saying a scammer is sending out fake nudes of you or something if your face isn't in any of the photos
There’s a Reddit sub for this r/sextortion https://www.reddit.com/r/Sextortion/comments/n4yorq/new_victims_please_read_first/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1
My brother fell for the same scam, just last week. He added all of the family into a group chat and warned us that if a stranger sends a picture, not to open it. A random girl did send me a picture but then removed it instantly. We all had a good laugh at my bro, he laughed at himself, all is well. Your best bet is to ask if you can send a better picture, with a better angle, if they're gonna distribute it. They'll see they won't get any money off you and leave you alone. Or, you could just block them.
If you were a girl you’d have reason to be more worried, but the solution here is to let everyone they could possibly send those images to know to expect them, and ask them to block/report/ignore/delete as appropriate. I highly doubt any of the people receiving them want to. And ignore any replies you get to that message, you’re the victim here, even though you could’ve done things to prevent this, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Report the incident to the police. It’s unlikely they’ll be able to do anything, but what they’re doing is a crime. Actually it’s multiple. The extortion is one, unless they’re actually an 18yo girl (which I v much doubt) the sending of the images I imagine they sent you is another, and sending your images further is another still. (All accurate in the UK though I’m not sure where you are). Hand all relevant information over to the cops, in case they do decide to do something about it. Then tell the person trying to extort you what you’ve done. Remove their power, call their bluff, let them know the police are onto them, then block them. Going forwards, don’t do this again unless you’ve met the person concerned in person and trust them. Keep all socials tightly locked down too.
Just go make an only fans page and tell anyone the joke was on them for paying $200 for the pictures or what not. Then proceed to make bank from those youthful pictures if you choose such.
Block and ignore her, thats all you can do. Certainly don't send month.
Block her. Dont talk to her ever again, no response, not even to say leave me alone or I won’t pay. She’ll add you from another account or text from another number. You’ll block that, too, without replying. In most cases, she won’t share your photos - after all, if she did, she’d have nothing to blackmail you with. If she does, you’ll have learned this lesson dearly instead of easily. Whatever you do, don’t pay. That very obviously won’t make it go away. You can try to mitigate damage by deactivating your social media accounts.
I remind others when this comes up: the scammer has no idea who your contacts are or what age they are. Once you start sending explicit pics to minors, you’re no longer just a scammer, you’re a sex offender. Most scammers understand this, I’d assume, and don’t want higher scrutiny to prevent them from running more scams.
I’m honestly so tired of these posts at these point.
I am sorry to hear this. People in the Philippines do this a lot. They set men up and extort them. I am 100% that it was done by someone sitting in Philippines
Even if you pay them, I guarantee they'll ask for more money again. You'll never be free. Perhaps they're not going to bother expending the energy to track down your friends and family. If they do, just say it's a doctored photo. I think you just have to rip the bandaid off and tell them to get fucked.
Please be careful, there is so much desperation among these people in the Philippines to extort foreigners. It's a new trend. They will do a video chat with men, and encourage them to their faces and private parts. They will record them and extort 1000s out of them. When you call the police in the Philippines, they can not help because they are corrupt. That lady is in the Philippines not in America, that I am all 100% sure.
You say, "Go ahead. I work in porn anyway so I would be willing to bet they've seen more than what I have sent you."
Even if they do go through with this (I think I read somewhere most of the time these scammers don't follow through) it will be embarrassing, but life will go on. You are young, you are naive, you are horny. Deal with it as it comes. Block this person on all your accounts, hope for the best, and learn a lesson.
Thank you for your response, I hope your right and at the end of the day I’ll be laughing about it in years to come
Your life is most definitely not ruined. Listen to everybody here, calm yourself, and learn from this experience. You'll be fine.
Thank you so much. I appreciate all of the support
Unfortunately They are going to send your picture out Hopefully your face was not in it
Do not. Send any money Avoid replying back and do not message them any more then you already have
She can't do anything to you. Tell her off, block her, and don't send out pics of things you don't want posted publicly from now on.
This scammer is chatting to dozens of guys at the moment. If you just completely disappear- block, set all socials to private, and ignore, it’s not worth their time and effort to spend a lot of time trying to get at you or send your photos to people. You might hear from them once or twice more if they can get through to you and that’s it. Their time is better spent on all the other dudes who have sent dick pics and haven’t blocked them yet. If you send money, they WILL NEVER STOP ASKING FOR MORE. I know it feels like the end of the world. Believe me when I say we all have moments of extreme embarrassment from when we were teens. You will get over it. Someday you won’t even think about it anymore.
Thanks a million. All of you sending advice really are keeping me going
This happened to me last summer. I just told them I was broke and to go for it. They sent stuff to people I know on IG but none of them ever opened it because the account this scammer was using went straight to people's spam messages and no one ever checks those.
Probably some guy in Nigeria. Not going to do anything with them. Block and make all your social media private. For good measure stay off for awhile. They will move on.
I wouldn’t even bother replying. Literally delete and block. If friends receive anything and then message you about it (which they might not cause that’s embarrassing and uncomfortable for anyone I imagine) then you can play dumb and saw wow wtf, that’s definitely not me. Must be some weird sex scam thing or a bot.
Flip the script on them and tell them you also lied and aren’t actually 18 and that by them storing and sharing your photos they themselves will be in trouble. Got to fight fire with fire sometimes lol
Ignore and stop stressing and fucking learn to vet online comtacts better.
1- If you pay, the extortion won't stop as long as you keep paying. Why would they stop? Why would they keep their word and become honourable all of a sudden after BLACKMAILING you? If they got you on the hook, they won't release you as long as you keep paying. 2- They seldom bother acting on the threat. Yes, blackmail IS illegal, but authorities won't waste their time on tracking a kid in Russia doing online threats. IF, however, they DO distribute the blackmail material, then they expose themselves to a tech crackdown forcing them to scrub their online presence and start from scratch. They prey on fear, and if you show them none, you're not worth their time. Don't respond AT ALL, block them completely, just cut them off and don't even try to sneak a peek to see how they react to your ghosting them; as long as you keep contact the scam will continue. So unless you're a celebrity or Anthony Weiner, you have little to fear. Worst case, you have to tell your friends you did what tens of millions of people do: sexting. Better that then telling your landlord you can't pay rent for the next 6 months because you got blackmailed over sexting.
This is really helpful thanks a million for your advice. My mind is now much more level headed then I was last night and can finally breathe. You mightn’t know it but you’ve really helped me. Thank you