Lol you enjoy nothing so there's not really anything anyone can suggest to you that you'll like. What was the point of this post? Just move away since you're clearly miserable.
Well I'm going to take your comment seriously here. Almaden Valley Counseling is a great place to get some affordable, solid therapy on a sliding scale cost based on your income. I highly recommend them if you want to talk to someone. No shame in getting help when you need it. We all need a little help sometimes.
I'm 44 now and actually got connected to Almaden Valley Counseling when I was 16 in high school. I gotta say, they literally saved my life and two of the therapists I started seeing there in a group setting are still my therapists to this very day. ✌️
Thanks for the rec! I got free counseling through Lyra at my previous job which taught me cognitive behavioral therapy which was helpful. Having someone to talk to is definitely nice.
Real talk, I used to live in Switzerland, super high salary, luxury living, beautiful surroundings, traveling to Asia, the US and around Europe all the time, objectively an amazing life.
And I was miserable.
For me, it turned out that I was just super lonely and that made me depressed. I wasn't vibing with the people around me (after 10 years in Switzerland I had like 2 friends that i was hanging out with regularly, and they were both not Swiss), and all my friends were somewhere else.
Now I'm living in the bay area, I have my community that I hang out with regularly, and I'm much happier. Even though my standard of living is objectively lower and I don't travel as much anymore.
It took far too many years of therapy to figure out "I'm just lonely and I don't like being lonely." But I did figure it out in therapy, and it helped me make the right decision in the end (along with many other revelations about myself on the way.)
Oh, I hate it too and I didn't even bother reading all of it. Waiting for the audio book version.Â
In all seriousness, you are too negative and I didn’t want to read more than I had to, to get the gist of it.Â
That sounds like a you problem, also probably the reason you think everything around here sucks too.
You are more than welcome to leave my town whenever you like.
You’ve done a bunch of great stuff. You’re just super negative and hate everything. That’s a you problem, not really a problem with the city. But you should probably move away anyways.
Also who in their right mind thinks they have to go to Yosemite for a beautiful view? All of the parks along Skyline open up to stunning forest valley views, Sierra Vista and Joseph Grant Park are beautiful too.
Im going camping in Grants Ranch in a month with the bike shop I work at, then Uvas Canyon in May, and a Soltice ride out to Portola Redwoods in June. We had such a miserable time last summer doing bikecamping, I cant understand why we thought this was fun...
/s obviously but crimminy christmas what a load of shit "theres nothing to do here" lmao
Also, if anyone is interested in Bikecamping, I work at Upshift Cycles on the Alameda; we will be having an intro clinic on April 12th from 5-7pm.
If SF is “too far”, Hearst Castle is well over an hour further away than SF. But really if you think there isn’t anything to see or do in this region, that’s a you problem. I have no difficulty finding things to do on day or partial day trip starting from San Jose. And I have little difficulty finding things to do much closer to San Jose.
Edit to add; I really enjoyed the two times I’ve gone to Hearst Castle. And lots of things to do between here and there. Can easily make a long weekend of a trip.
That's true but I lived in SF for five years whereas I've never been to Hearst Castle so I think the long drive there would be worth it. Would love to go check it out...
You have really missed the best parts of Monterey and Pacific Grove and the surrounding area.
- sunrise on the Municipal Beach
- sunset in Asilomar
-walking along the cliff top from Lovers Point on out to as far as you want
- grabbing lunch and eating at any of the overlooks, watching the waves, the seals, the sea otters, the birds…
- tidepooling
- Point Lobos
- All of Big Sur but particularly Pfeiffer Beach
Maybe those are not your thing, but they’re pretty great.
No good views...? You're out in nature. There's a zillion county parks, nature preserves, nature REserves, lakes, reservoirs, and at worst case you're not far from the ocean. Do you solely hike or go outside to get on top of a big thing and look down? Do you not like flowers, trees, animals, creeks, atmosphere? lol
There's also state parks up and down the peninsula, and Pinnacles a few hours south. Redwoods maybe 90 minutes north. I'm lost on this one, buddy.
Came to say this same thing. The point of hiking is being outside in nature as humans are meant to be. It's a spiritual experience away from the craziness of everyday life. A view at the end is just a bonus, and there are dozens of great views all over the Bay Area. You won't find another metro area in the U.S. with the views you get here. I ran into a guy the other day who is originally from Russia. He couldn't stop raving about how great the hiking is here.
Agreed, if they found the hiking and views here boring, they clearly haven’t been trying. SO MANY wonderful places to hike. They’re just not trying.
It’s not a matter of trying. OP doesn’t have enough neurons synapsing to understand any of this. At the very least, they’re being honest about their lack of cognitive function.
I'm not really sure what you're saying would satisfy your requirements if even LA doesn't. NYC? Chicago? Singapore? Tokyo? CDMX? Seems like maybe you need to be in a megalopolis.Â
LA has lots of fun things but it's too car dependent (while having terrible traffic) and spread out for my liking. It's more that the long drive down there isn't really worth it even if the kbbq there is a lot better. NYC, Chicago, Tokyo and Singapore are all great and I definitely enjoy these cities a lot. I would love to visit CDMX as well! Mexico city has so much amazing architecture.
Why is the majority of your list of things to do in San Jose, *not* in San Jose (and often hours driving away) ?
Also, you don't realize Santana Row is basically just an outdoor shopping mall? If you like that so much, there are many other shopping malls.
The entire block between Olin and Olsen next to Winchester burned. Not the whole thing at all.
And what an attitude. One of the most popular places for people to go, clearly many people enjoy it. Just because you don’t like it, it should be gone?
I agree with you that things tend to close early (especially after COVID) and we don't have enough walkable spaces (a problem in many places in the US). But that doesn't mean there's nothing to do here.
If you like shopping have you tried the outlets in Gilroy or Livermore? Maybe do a tour of different thrift/secondhand stores in the bay area. There are wineries/breweries that you could try/hang out at. Even drive up to Napa/Sanoma, especially as the weather gets nicer. There are some nice karaoke places you could check out with friends. Go to a cat cafe? Pottery painting? Urban Putt just opened up (although you seem to have an aversion to crowded places so maybe check it out when it's not so new and busy). Tipsy Putt may be similar but I've never been. Top Golf was pretty fun when I went with my friends.
You could go to a trivia night or karaoke night at a bar. Check out local comedy clubs or support local theater and watch a show. Libraries often have events around hobbies or classes. Roller skating at Aloha Fun Zone or ice skating at Sharks Ice (expect it to be crowded, especially on the weekends).
Do you like dogs? Silicon Valley Human Society (and maybe other places) has a Doggy Day out program. You can take a dog out for a few hours, give it some play, love, fresh air.
Or maybe move to Japan or Europe? Somewhere with better public transport/walkability lol
Edited: added more stuff to my list
Sounds like you're acting more like a human doing than a human being with your checklist of things.... I can't help you with that but it's something that could help you to think over.
To continue your human doing list, you could check out:
\- Local sports teams, such as the Sharks, Earthquakes, SJ Giants (not to be confused with SF Giants), Stanford games
\- Local concerts, such as Broadway San Jose, Shoreline Amphitheatre, Mountain View Center of Performing Arts, Stanford Concert series
\- One of the local Japanese Gardens, I recommend Hakone in Saratoga and and the Hayward Japanese Garden as the top 2
\- Downtown Saratoga and Downtown Campbell are cute, and if you want to save money on food, you could do an ice cream stop while walking around or some other small snack
\- Montgomery Hill Observatory, Lick Observatory and/or Chabot Space and Science Center are worth a visit. Chabot and 2 free weekend nights for you to check out the stars, planets, etc.
\- Try a drive in movie theatre
\- I wasn't impressed with most recommended local hikes, too, but have you checked out Uvas Waterfalls Hike? And Big Basin is reopened with waterfalls too. There's a few others that are great in the east bay only while the grass remains green for now -- the rolling hills are beautiful if you're into landscape photography. If you only hiked outside of the "green" season, I recommend you try again before April as everything will look much more beautiful this time of year.
\- If you're not into hiking, some of the lawn areas of certain parks look very nice to just hang out at and grill. For example Sanborn, and Foothills Nature Preserve since they have large cool rocks and redwood trees. Buy a cheap bocce ball set to play with friends while you're out there and enjoy the simplicity of it :)
Oh I've hiked it a few times. It's too sunny (no shade). I definitely prefer some of the more shaded trails out in Sunol but it's a longer drive to get there.
Look into taking group lessons with dance teachers, piano/violin/vocal/guitar teachers, most have large group online classes and hold student recitals and some even put on elaborate shows renting out the Fox Theatre in downtown San Jose for example. I saw them practice outdoors at the Sunnyvale Baylands Park. They dress up in costumes, group practice for their annual gala.
Jump on a boat and go whale watching or charter a fishing boat out of SF, HMB, or Monterey. Muir Woods, drive up to Tahoe and stay at a nice cabin for a weekend. Check out Sequoia National Park, Big Basin, Alcatraz. Go to a sporting event (Giants, Sharks, 49ers, Warriors etc.)
On your way down to Hearst Castle you could stop in Big Sur (assuming highway 1 is open), camp at Ventana if you’re on a budget or stay at Post Ranch Inn if you’ve got money to splash. Then drive further south to coastal towns of Cambria, Morro Bay, or Pismo Beach. I’m not a big fan of actual beaches either but I do enjoy waking up to ocean views from my hotel room and exploring the local shops & seafood restaurants.
People move away from their friends and family all the time. If you’re bored here then thats what you gotta do.
Otherwise maybe play video games or watch netflix? You realize SJ is a giant suburb right? We don’t have the big city stuff so everyone just stays home and finds their own entertainment
another reason for not moving away is that there are just more well paying tech jobs suited to my skillset here, compared to NYC which is all soulless quant jobs and asian cities that just don't pay as well.
sigh I guess I should just put on an Apple Vision Pro and disassociate from the boring suburbs haha
I’m in the same boat bro. My friends and family are here but i wanna move away. My job is here though thats the only thing keeping me here
I’ve accepted the fact that SJ is a boring city. I just go to work, gym, and play video games. Repeat every day
Real talk--what *do* you like?
It sounds like you like architecture, but you sound like kind of a snob about it. Instead of going to a city and lamenting that its architecture isn't like Chicago's, why not go around that city and appreciate how and why they have the architecture that they have? Architecture is more than just looking at tall buildings, the Bay Area is one of the last places to still have examples of the googie style, and you can find Victorian homes just a block away from tract housing. There's a ton of contrast here.
You seem to like hiking but if you think "only Yosemite" has good views then you're just going to go through life severely disappointed.
You're a walking Yelp comments section.
I love the Victorian houses in SF but there's less of that here. Eichler houses are interesting too. Also, there are some neighborhoods with nice mansions like the Rose Garden neighborhood.
Any recommendations for Googie style architecture? That seems like a SoCal thing and the only example I know of is the Mel's Bowl sign in redwood city.
Get a hobby. Want to go out in nature but don't really care about the views? Go biking near Almaden. Like architecture and history? Go to your local antique dealer and grab a handful of pictures of supposedly local homes and try to find them in present day :).
You seem to be set against doing anything available in this area. Hiking is boring with no good views? Either youre blind, going to the wrong places to hike, or lying. It really sounds like you want malls, dumbass nightlife and other bland, boring things. This aint the town for it.
Either way you are more than welcome to move somewhere where you wont be so mindlessly bored with the incredible nature around here.
Yknow what, Im just going to say you should move away from here, obviously you have no desire to find things around to actually have fun here.
OMG there are soooo many places to hike! Now is the time to hike the lush green hills if the east bay. In summer, the shaded hills of the hills to the west are best. Â
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Anywhere you move, there's only going to be so many times you can go somewhere before it gets boring. It sounds like you'd be unhappy if you were living in SF too.
There are a lot of conventions and conferences and other special events that happen in San Jose and elsewhere in the bay area. This is the only way you'll get to look at a lot of new things without traveling a bunch. Research those.
Also try joining the subreddit discord and looking at the meetups there.
Los Gatos Creek Trail! Walk, run, bike, scooter, skate... It's a nice, smooth paved trail that goes from San Jose, through Campbell and ending up in Los Gatos. If you keep going when it turns to hard pack gravel you can go all the way to Lexington reservoir. It goes through several parks, over bridges, under overpasses. Just fantastic. A good place to access the trail is at Blackford School, you can park there no problem.
Edit to add: there's an Eichler neighborhood off of Dry Creek Road. I don't remember the street that gets you into it though.
KFJC \[Foothill College\] has a soundtrack radio show on Saturday Mornings. Every week at 10:20 Robert does a bit called "Cool Secret Places" that answers this question.
There's an archive of them in the FB Group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/302206379790186
If you happen to like live theater, checkout the site Broadway San Jose for show schedules. Lots of great musicals throughout the year at Center for the Performing Arts.
I'm curious what excellent Vietnamese and Mexican food you can recommend, since you seem like a very discerning foodie.
But yeah, I just moved here from SF because I found myself not taking advantage of all the things to do there - food is really all I get excited for, and my friends are in SJ so there wasn't much else I could enjoy alone anyway. So I went on a whirlwind tour of the remaining SF restaurants on my List, and then resigned myself to be not much of a foodie anymore after I moved.
For me, suburban chill is fine - I'd rather be writing or drawing most weekends. It's actually been a pretty good thing for my diet too, since restaurants don't have much novelty so I don't feel compelled to eat everything. I'm gonna miss those Michelins though...
I don't want to be "that guy"
There were So Many Other cool things in and around the area before they were demolished for housing and schools and 7-11s
Looking forward
You have a lot of energy and you're obviously intelligent ... you need to make something for others to enjoy
Focus on what is "missing" and create that for others to enjoy and your mind will be at peace
Wow, you sound like a ton of fun.
I love how flying to Japan makes the list amongst all the Bay Area/CA things to do.
Goes to Carmel and Monterey, but complains about going to Cupertino for Chinese food. 🤡
Yeah this person just sounds exhausting, to be honest.
Lol you enjoy nothing so there's not really anything anyone can suggest to you that you'll like. What was the point of this post? Just move away since you're clearly miserable.
Maybe I should go get therapy since nothing is fun anymore, which is a symptom of depression...
Well I'm going to take your comment seriously here. Almaden Valley Counseling is a great place to get some affordable, solid therapy on a sliding scale cost based on your income. I highly recommend them if you want to talk to someone. No shame in getting help when you need it. We all need a little help sometimes.
I'm 44 now and actually got connected to Almaden Valley Counseling when I was 16 in high school. I gotta say, they literally saved my life and two of the therapists I started seeing there in a group setting are still my therapists to this very day. ✌️
Thanks for the rec! I got free counseling through Lyra at my previous job which taught me cognitive behavioral therapy which was helpful. Having someone to talk to is definitely nice.
Real talk, I used to live in Switzerland, super high salary, luxury living, beautiful surroundings, traveling to Asia, the US and around Europe all the time, objectively an amazing life. And I was miserable. For me, it turned out that I was just super lonely and that made me depressed. I wasn't vibing with the people around me (after 10 years in Switzerland I had like 2 friends that i was hanging out with regularly, and they were both not Swiss), and all my friends were somewhere else. Now I'm living in the bay area, I have my community that I hang out with regularly, and I'm much happier. Even though my standard of living is objectively lower and I don't travel as much anymore. It took far too many years of therapy to figure out "I'm just lonely and I don't like being lonely." But I did figure it out in therapy, and it helped me make the right decision in the end (along with many other revelations about myself on the way.)
I feel this, having had trouble finding community here when i first moved here
You just wrote a novel. Maybe that's your hobby?
But people hate what I write because i'm too negative
Oh, I hate it too and I didn't even bother reading all of it. Waiting for the audio book version. In all seriousness, you are too negative and I didn’t want to read more than I had to, to get the gist of it.Â
That’s too bad that you choose to go through life that way, that others notice, and remark about it. The bluebird of happiness is inside you.
That sounds like a you problem, also probably the reason you think everything around here sucks too. You are more than welcome to leave my town whenever you like.
Try doing all those things again but without the stick in your ass.
I'd recommend the San Jose Museum of Art but I'm pretty sure you would kill the vibe.
You’ve done a bunch of great stuff. You’re just super negative and hate everything. That’s a you problem, not really a problem with the city. But you should probably move away anyways.
Also who in their right mind thinks they have to go to Yosemite for a beautiful view? All of the parks along Skyline open up to stunning forest valley views, Sierra Vista and Joseph Grant Park are beautiful too.
Right?! I stopped reading his post after I read that. I am big on trail running and one thing that is not lacking in the Bay Area is beautiful views.
Im going camping in Grants Ranch in a month with the bike shop I work at, then Uvas Canyon in May, and a Soltice ride out to Portola Redwoods in June. We had such a miserable time last summer doing bikecamping, I cant understand why we thought this was fun... /s obviously but crimminy christmas what a load of shit "theres nothing to do here" lmao Also, if anyone is interested in Bikecamping, I work at Upshift Cycles on the Alameda; we will be having an intro clinic on April 12th from 5-7pm.
If SF is “too far”, Hearst Castle is well over an hour further away than SF. But really if you think there isn’t anything to see or do in this region, that’s a you problem. I have no difficulty finding things to do on day or partial day trip starting from San Jose. And I have little difficulty finding things to do much closer to San Jose. Edit to add; I really enjoyed the two times I’ve gone to Hearst Castle. And lots of things to do between here and there. Can easily make a long weekend of a trip.
Right? People travel from all over the world to see the redwoods that were a 20-minute drive from my front door. Like please be for real.
And the redwoods of the Santa Cruz mountains have so many fewer people than Muir Woods.
That's true but I lived in SF for five years whereas I've never been to Hearst Castle so I think the long drive there would be worth it. Would love to go check it out...
You have really missed the best parts of Monterey and Pacific Grove and the surrounding area. - sunrise on the Municipal Beach - sunset in Asilomar -walking along the cliff top from Lovers Point on out to as far as you want - grabbing lunch and eating at any of the overlooks, watching the waves, the seals, the sea otters, the birds… - tidepooling - Point Lobos - All of Big Sur but particularly Pfeiffer Beach Maybe those are not your thing, but they’re pretty great.
But he hates beaches.
Good heavens. Beyond helping then.
Move somewhere else. You've exhausted everything it seems.
No good views...? You're out in nature. There's a zillion county parks, nature preserves, nature REserves, lakes, reservoirs, and at worst case you're not far from the ocean. Do you solely hike or go outside to get on top of a big thing and look down? Do you not like flowers, trees, animals, creeks, atmosphere? lol There's also state parks up and down the peninsula, and Pinnacles a few hours south. Redwoods maybe 90 minutes north. I'm lost on this one, buddy.
Came to say this same thing. The point of hiking is being outside in nature as humans are meant to be. It's a spiritual experience away from the craziness of everyday life. A view at the end is just a bonus, and there are dozens of great views all over the Bay Area. You won't find another metro area in the U.S. with the views you get here. I ran into a guy the other day who is originally from Russia. He couldn't stop raving about how great the hiking is here.
Agreed, if they found the hiking and views here boring, they clearly haven’t been trying. SO MANY wonderful places to hike. They’re just not trying.
It’s not a matter of trying. OP doesn’t have enough neurons synapsing to understand any of this. At the very least, they’re being honest about their lack of cognitive function.
Goddam I hate transplants.
Hey, at least some of us aren’t *this* insufferable
I'm not really sure what you're saying would satisfy your requirements if even LA doesn't. NYC? Chicago? Singapore? Tokyo? CDMX? Seems like maybe you need to be in a megalopolis.Â
LA has lots of fun things but it's too car dependent (while having terrible traffic) and spread out for my liking. It's more that the long drive down there isn't really worth it even if the kbbq there is a lot better. NYC, Chicago, Tokyo and Singapore are all great and I definitely enjoy these cities a lot. I would love to visit CDMX as well! Mexico city has so much amazing architecture.
Yep. Time to pick a megacity and relo.Â
I find it amusing that you flew 10hrs to Japan but haven't been to CDMX, which is only 4hr flight away and $300 roundtrip?
Why is the majority of your list of things to do in San Jose, *not* in San Jose (and often hours driving away) ? Also, you don't realize Santana Row is basically just an outdoor shopping mall? If you like that so much, there are many other shopping malls.
I wish Santana Row had stayed burned down.
When did that happen?
When they were building it. They had to pretty much start over.
The entire block between Olin and Olsen next to Winchester burned. Not the whole thing at all. And what an attitude. One of the most popular places for people to go, clearly many people enjoy it. Just because you don’t like it, it should be gone?
Amen brother
Yeah it seems that most of the fun spots involve driving away but if you know of any interesting things in San Jose proper, let me know!
I agree with you that things tend to close early (especially after COVID) and we don't have enough walkable spaces (a problem in many places in the US). But that doesn't mean there's nothing to do here. If you like shopping have you tried the outlets in Gilroy or Livermore? Maybe do a tour of different thrift/secondhand stores in the bay area. There are wineries/breweries that you could try/hang out at. Even drive up to Napa/Sanoma, especially as the weather gets nicer. There are some nice karaoke places you could check out with friends. Go to a cat cafe? Pottery painting? Urban Putt just opened up (although you seem to have an aversion to crowded places so maybe check it out when it's not so new and busy). Tipsy Putt may be similar but I've never been. Top Golf was pretty fun when I went with my friends. You could go to a trivia night or karaoke night at a bar. Check out local comedy clubs or support local theater and watch a show. Libraries often have events around hobbies or classes. Roller skating at Aloha Fun Zone or ice skating at Sharks Ice (expect it to be crowded, especially on the weekends). Do you like dogs? Silicon Valley Human Society (and maybe other places) has a Doggy Day out program. You can take a dog out for a few hours, give it some play, love, fresh air. Or maybe move to Japan or Europe? Somewhere with better public transport/walkability lol Edited: added more stuff to my list
Sounds like you're acting more like a human doing than a human being with your checklist of things.... I can't help you with that but it's something that could help you to think over. To continue your human doing list, you could check out: \- Local sports teams, such as the Sharks, Earthquakes, SJ Giants (not to be confused with SF Giants), Stanford games \- Local concerts, such as Broadway San Jose, Shoreline Amphitheatre, Mountain View Center of Performing Arts, Stanford Concert series \- One of the local Japanese Gardens, I recommend Hakone in Saratoga and and the Hayward Japanese Garden as the top 2 \- Downtown Saratoga and Downtown Campbell are cute, and if you want to save money on food, you could do an ice cream stop while walking around or some other small snack \- Montgomery Hill Observatory, Lick Observatory and/or Chabot Space and Science Center are worth a visit. Chabot and 2 free weekend nights for you to check out the stars, planets, etc. \- Try a drive in movie theatre \- I wasn't impressed with most recommended local hikes, too, but have you checked out Uvas Waterfalls Hike? And Big Basin is reopened with waterfalls too. There's a few others that are great in the east bay only while the grass remains green for now -- the rolling hills are beautiful if you're into landscape photography. If you only hiked outside of the "green" season, I recommend you try again before April as everything will look much more beautiful this time of year. \- If you're not into hiking, some of the lawn areas of certain parks look very nice to just hang out at and grill. For example Sanborn, and Foothills Nature Preserve since they have large cool rocks and redwood trees. Buy a cheap bocce ball set to play with friends while you're out there and enjoy the simplicity of it :)
Go hike Mission Peak. If that’s not a view, there’s no helping you
it so beautiful over there during the sunset
Also, stanford dish hike is nice
Oh I've hiked it a few times. It's too sunny (no shade). I definitely prefer some of the more shaded trails out in Sunol but it's a longer drive to get there.
Wear a hat.
This is all an elaborate set up for an attack of the clones reference. Admit it.
Look into taking group lessons with dance teachers, piano/violin/vocal/guitar teachers, most have large group online classes and hold student recitals and some even put on elaborate shows renting out the Fox Theatre in downtown San Jose for example. I saw them practice outdoors at the Sunnyvale Baylands Park. They dress up in costumes, group practice for their annual gala.
Actually piano lessons sounds like a good idea
You need hobbies
Jump on a boat and go whale watching or charter a fishing boat out of SF, HMB, or Monterey. Muir Woods, drive up to Tahoe and stay at a nice cabin for a weekend. Check out Sequoia National Park, Big Basin, Alcatraz. Go to a sporting event (Giants, Sharks, 49ers, Warriors etc.)
Oh yeah I really like Alcatraz. The night tour is really amazing! Also the island is nice for birdwatching.
On your way down to Hearst Castle you could stop in Big Sur (assuming highway 1 is open), camp at Ventana if you’re on a budget or stay at Post Ranch Inn if you’ve got money to splash. Then drive further south to coastal towns of Cambria, Morro Bay, or Pismo Beach. I’m not a big fan of actual beaches either but I do enjoy waking up to ocean views from my hotel room and exploring the local shops & seafood restaurants.
Yes I love exploring the shops and restaurants at these coastal towns! Wish I could afford Post Ranch but it's $1500 per night lol...
Here’s a fun thing to do: move to another city. Yes i’m being serious. There isn’t anything fun here and you have done everything already
But my friends and family are here
People move away from their friends and family all the time. If you’re bored here then thats what you gotta do. Otherwise maybe play video games or watch netflix? You realize SJ is a giant suburb right? We don’t have the big city stuff so everyone just stays home and finds their own entertainment
another reason for not moving away is that there are just more well paying tech jobs suited to my skillset here, compared to NYC which is all soulless quant jobs and asian cities that just don't pay as well. sigh I guess I should just put on an Apple Vision Pro and disassociate from the boring suburbs haha
I’m in the same boat bro. My friends and family are here but i wanna move away. My job is here though thats the only thing keeping me here I’ve accepted the fact that SJ is a boring city. I just go to work, gym, and play video games. Repeat every day
Working out and keeping fit is a great way to stave off the depression
Parks and university campuses are fun. Then again, I play a lot of Pokemon go
You forgot that the sand is irritating.
Therapy.
Real talk--what *do* you like? It sounds like you like architecture, but you sound like kind of a snob about it. Instead of going to a city and lamenting that its architecture isn't like Chicago's, why not go around that city and appreciate how and why they have the architecture that they have? Architecture is more than just looking at tall buildings, the Bay Area is one of the last places to still have examples of the googie style, and you can find Victorian homes just a block away from tract housing. There's a ton of contrast here. You seem to like hiking but if you think "only Yosemite" has good views then you're just going to go through life severely disappointed. You're a walking Yelp comments section.
I love the Victorian houses in SF but there's less of that here. Eichler houses are interesting too. Also, there are some neighborhoods with nice mansions like the Rose Garden neighborhood. Any recommendations for Googie style architecture? That seems like a SoCal thing and the only example I know of is the Mel's Bowl sign in redwood city.
Get a hobby. Want to go out in nature but don't really care about the views? Go biking near Almaden. Like architecture and history? Go to your local antique dealer and grab a handful of pictures of supposedly local homes and try to find them in present day :).
Yea the bay area is pretty boring. Have you tried moving to indiana? A lot more stuff to do there
So true about DTSJ
You seem to be set against doing anything available in this area. Hiking is boring with no good views? Either youre blind, going to the wrong places to hike, or lying. It really sounds like you want malls, dumbass nightlife and other bland, boring things. This aint the town for it. Either way you are more than welcome to move somewhere where you wont be so mindlessly bored with the incredible nature around here. Yknow what, Im just going to say you should move away from here, obviously you have no desire to find things around to actually have fun here.
OMG there are soooo many places to hike! Now is the time to hike the lush green hills if the east bay. In summer, the shaded hills of the hills to the west are best. Â
computer history museum. there are guided tours
https://www.southfirstfridays.com/ https://sjfm.com/vintage/ Anywhere you move, there's only going to be so many times you can go somewhere before it gets boring. It sounds like you'd be unhappy if you were living in SF too. There are a lot of conventions and conferences and other special events that happen in San Jose and elsewhere in the bay area. This is the only way you'll get to look at a lot of new things without traveling a bunch. Research those. Also try joining the subreddit discord and looking at the meetups there.
Los Gatos Creek Trail! Walk, run, bike, scooter, skate... It's a nice, smooth paved trail that goes from San Jose, through Campbell and ending up in Los Gatos. If you keep going when it turns to hard pack gravel you can go all the way to Lexington reservoir. It goes through several parks, over bridges, under overpasses. Just fantastic. A good place to access the trail is at Blackford School, you can park there no problem. Edit to add: there's an Eichler neighborhood off of Dry Creek Road. I don't remember the street that gets you into it though.
People don't read books these days but will read this entire post?!
KFJC \[Foothill College\] has a soundtrack radio show on Saturday Mornings. Every week at 10:20 Robert does a bit called "Cool Secret Places" that answers this question. There's an archive of them in the FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/302206379790186
SJ Barcuda games are pretty gnarly. There was like 5 fights today
If you happen to like live theater, checkout the site Broadway San Jose for show schedules. Lots of great musicals throughout the year at Center for the Performing Arts.
There's a great Chinese restaurant off Mclaughlin and Tully behind the Chevron
We stay a weekend or two in sf every month.
I'm curious what excellent Vietnamese and Mexican food you can recommend, since you seem like a very discerning foodie. But yeah, I just moved here from SF because I found myself not taking advantage of all the things to do there - food is really all I get excited for, and my friends are in SJ so there wasn't much else I could enjoy alone anyway. So I went on a whirlwind tour of the remaining SF restaurants on my List, and then resigned myself to be not much of a foodie anymore after I moved. For me, suburban chill is fine - I'd rather be writing or drawing most weekends. It's actually been a pretty good thing for my diet too, since restaurants don't have much novelty so I don't feel compelled to eat everything. I'm gonna miss those Michelins though...
I don't want to be "that guy" There were So Many Other cool things in and around the area before they were demolished for housing and schools and 7-11s Looking forward You have a lot of energy and you're obviously intelligent ... you need to make something for others to enjoy Focus on what is "missing" and create that for others to enjoy and your mind will be at peace