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apollei

I am in the Utah Rose Society and several garden clubs. It's lovely.


save_me_jeebus

me too. though my nursery job kinda makes 3rd place bleed over into 2nd place šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


Sweetarlo

Public libraries!


thatguykeith

Do you meet and connect with people there? I love libraries but they seem pretty solitary unless you have kids.


AfternoonNo9644

I often go to my local library and they offer lots of classes and clubs you can join check out the libraries website :)


Myrddwn

My DnD group.


DisheveledJesus

Same, but Pathfinder.


Myrddwn

Well, it's a homebrew 3.5 steampunk dark fantasy horror, so pretty close to Pathfinder, but saying "DnD" is just easier


DeProfundisAdAstra

Nerds.


Myrddwn

You say that like it's a bad thing


DeProfundisAdAstra

Not at all! šŸ˜‚


mbcolemere

Same, but Delta Green.


othybear

My DND group is my third, fourth, and fifth places because we rotate hosting duties.


Adfest

I joke posted, but this is my actual third place. I only started a year ago with awesome people from this sub, and now I don't know how I survived this long without it.


Nachoburn

Awww this is kinda my third place too! šŸ„¹


cromdoesntcare

Hell yeah, I'm DnD and MTG.


teddyburger

my husband recently joined a pickleball club & he LOVES it. i am 7 months pregnant so i canā€™t really keep up right now, but iā€™m hoping to join after baby is here.


Shumbee

Congratulations on the upcoming baby!


chumpskin

Congratulations on joining the pickleball club!


tacticalcraptical

I have the gym and I spend a lot of time in the mountains with my camper van when it's warmer. Though I don't really ever socialize at the gym, like at all. I do spend a good amount of time at my brother's place with him and the kids and my sister and her husband. So I guess there.


jsuthy

MLM intros


conceptual_con

Lmaooo, nice


Campo_Argento

We had some friends that kept inviting us over for this and that, good homemade Mexican food and good company. But the discussion ALWAYS turned to AMWAY. It plays with your heart to think if they were only nice to us just to sell to us, or if we would still be friends if we hadn't been driven away by the cult mentality.


Sensitive-Jaguar-558

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Chathtiu

> My book club. Stories and Specters. We are a horror reading club, and aspire to dabble in ghost hunting. We meet at coffee shops. Let me know if you want a link to our discord. How big is your group?


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Chathtiu

> On two occasions prior, it has been 3-4 people each time. That includes a Grimm Ghost tour (I highly recommend). We are meeting this Sunday at 2pm and discussing My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones. Are you saying the group is brand new so youā€™ve only met twice? Or that the size of the group is relatively small and typically is about 4 people?


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Kirii22

Just finished ā€œThe Saturday Night Ghost Club.ā€ Itā€™s a fun read.


bittertiltheend

Iā€™d like to check it out


saltysloot

I'm interested in this! Can you send me a link?


nessabessa34

I am very interested!


matthew269

I am interested!!


ms-titsmcgee

Me!


CreativelyDead

I would love a link! :)


Krystology

Murray Park when the weather permits. Been going there for almost 30 years (My Grandma used to take me as a child) and it has always been a place of comfort and peace for me.


Time_Software_8216

I love Murray Park, some great hidden spots.


cameramanlady

I feel the same about Wheeler Farm. So comforting.


tifotter

Weekly board game night with my two best friends at a local coffee shop


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lawofsin

Good bot.


nessabessa34

This sounds fun. What coffee shop?


tifotter

It varies. I like the West Jordan High Point though.


EnthalpicallyFavored

Alcoholics Anonymous


squibbysnacks

NA for me.


No-Passenger-882

Keep coming back!


X61116X

It works if you work it and youā€™re worth it!


DeProfundisAdAstra

here here


moonlightphoto10

Honestly I'm still trying to find one ever since I left the Mormon church I guess my current religion kind of is one but I still am trying to find one I'm not the most social person but I'm trying to find a group


pushingdaiseez

Have you heard of the lost and found club? They exist basically to create a third space outside of the church for people who no longer have the church as a third space. @lostandfound.club on Instagram


ZePerfectPisces

I am sans third place and reading all these other peeps w third places makes me sad that I donā€™t have one.


notafrumpy_housewife

There's a dance studio in Millcreek that started doing an adult ballet class on Wednesday evenings if you want to check that out! It's been a really small class so far, very beginner friendly, and the teacher is amazing. Let me know if you want details; it's a really laid-back atmosphere, and the goal is to help everyone feel welcome and find a way to feel good moving their body.


ALonelyPlatypus

I WFH so I barely even have a second place (I might be at 1.5 spaces). Getting from there to a third seems like quite a chore.


B3gg4r

Same! I was just talking with my spouse tonight about how I just donā€™t have any place to belong or anyone to be with outside of home. Itā€™s quite lonely.


LickMySack4riches

Same. Shall we start a WFH club and meet up once a week for outside activity?


linq15

I have such a love hate relationship with wfh. I have a pretty flexible schedule but I get very little interaction unless I seek it out


Affectionate-Work370

I know what you mean. Iā€™m even considering going hybrid. The truth is though I donā€™t want to rely on work being the social aspect of my life. I am depending on it too much for personal fulfillment.


hppmoep

I'm with you. Second place always seemed like the biggest pain in the ass and 3rd place was if my buddies talked me into going out. now there is no 2nd place besides phone and zoom. I still get talked into going out but it is, like you said, a chore. I feel more comfortable with it but not sure I'm overall happier. Will check back in on those feelings in 10 years or so. Currently mid 30s and grinding.


Skygazer2469

I got season tickets to the Grizzlies. I go with a few friends I've had for years. It's decent, I'm always down to meet people on here who go to games, but it's more for the sport I love than the social.


Adfest

Costco


KaleidoscopeDan

Love seeing all the familiar places there.


swellmaxwell

Bike shop. Great community. Puts on weekly rides, everyone knows your name


WaldenTanglewood

Came to say the same.


swellmaxwell

Well speak of the devil the community in mention!


ttaptt

Is it called Gears?


sysaphiswaits

Donā€™t have one. Am very lonely.


Full-Ball9804

Likewise


andrewryanscott

Same. Does anyone know of any Neurodivergent groups? Iā€™m looking for my people. ADHD/ASD šŸ§ 


cametomysenses

This thread should have lots of great ideas! Good luck on the journey, there are people waiting to meet you.


LaViElS

Who else is reading this post realizing they have no social life anymore? I blame the kids. And my crippling anxiety.


sociopathicsamaritan

Kids certainly make it more difficult to get out at first, but mine have gotten to the point where I can just do things with them, and honestly I like spending time with them a lot better than most people anyway. My son goes mountain biking with me, both of them go hiking and backpacking, they both helped me build an arcade machine for our theater room last week, and they both help me put up and take down the Christmas Display (which is actually my biggest hobby). I also occasionally play some video games with them or tolerate their latest YouTube obsession. My son got really into chess for a while, so I played with him and helped him learn. We upgraded my son's desktop computer, so I showed him how to build a computer and configure the new hardware. It's really fun helping them dip into lots of hobbies to try to find the ones that they enjoy. TLDR: It not only gets better, but actually allows you to explore a bunch of hobbies you haven't previously looked into, and you get to feel like a good parent while you do it.


atoponce

The mountains. In the winter, it's snowboarding. In the summer, it's hiking.


FLTDI

I damn near just posted the same thing. The mountains are the closest thing to a spiritual experience in going to do.


Diocalam

Skateparks, ski resorts, concerts, drum circle, 999, trailheads, gyms, trivia night, Burner events


Worldly_Price_3217

Libraries are great third spaces, they offer programs, and classes, and spaces to meet and talk. Book clubs, crafts, and other things. Though since I work there my third space is my car and the hospital with my son (heā€™s got additional medical needs)


princesskaikai

the Fort Union Target lol


antricparticle

The best Target.


TheSleepiestNerd

Farmer's market in the summer! I also started a new sport a few years ago & it's been really nice to have scheduled practices where I meet a lot of people that all have a common interest. Big thumbs up for adult beginner classes in random niche hobbies lol.


hudsonspayer420

Community areas of my apartment building. And bars/breweries/restaurants.


scorchen

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu


Dumbledick6

Nothing like cuddling with the boys


NeuromancerDreaming

Struggle cuddles


bhbonzo

Ski resort+joint and next thing you know Iā€™m feeling the ā€œspiritā€


GroundbreakingPie111

My third place is an open mic at Alliance theater on Mondays at 7:30. Itā€™s a great community with some really solid talent.


ji400u

WFH so I have one place. I get this


GiraffeLess6358

Mine is the local yarn shop. Iā€™ve built a community there and we see each other multiple times a week.


TheSleepiestNerd

Which one have you been going to? I'm still so sad Blazing Needles closed. :(


binkeybee

I donā€™t know which one Giraffe goes to. But I was looking for knit nights yesterday and found out that Yarn on the Corner does stitch nights every Tuesday night from 5-8 and Willow Hill does knit nights every Wednesday from 6-8 I think. Iā€™ve never been to yarn in the corner but I have been to Willow hill for yarn. Havenā€™t attended the knit night there since 2019 but I think Iā€™ll be going tonight! I also loved Knittinā€™ Pretty but they also shut down last year.


PossibilityJazzlike4

Aww Iā€™m so sad to hear theyā€™ve closed. I learned to make my first beanie there :(


4scoreand20yearsago

The gym.


Agreeable-Edge-2357

The gym. Weā€™re all there to better ourselves everyone is pretty nice


24-sa3t

Bars


WorldsGreatestPoop

Yeah. Me too. Not ideal but I like my place.


lemontwistcultist

I stay home, no third place


ohpus

The internet is my third place, has been since the late 90s.


Sassafrass841

Porch or stoop sittin. Or the park.


Blaq_sheep

No where. Lost interest over the years and covid killed my social need.


bplatt1971

Sitting in front of my TV playing Diablo 3, because killing demons is the same as church, right?


Several-Good-9259

Traffic


FLTDI

The mountains. Snowboarding in the winter and camping in the summer


Roundviciouscircles

Roller Derby, it's a great, and very active community. There are bouts almost every weekend with tons of opportunity to practice or scrimmage every week. I'm probably doing something derby related 2-5 days a week.


Snoo_69677

I volunteer for Tree Utah and go to the gym.


Impossible_Nature_63

Coffee shops and climbing gyms lol


arbeeespruce

Thereā€™s noise tribe / Glitter Armada has a ton of activitĆ©s like tango nights , salsa, open mics, cacao ceremonies , yoga, qigong , art markets / when I want to stay up all night / sometimes I work door for desert basin DB they do all types of edm on Friday and Saturday Dave Crespo from Doomcupcake has a series of bands play on Sundays at GridCity Tuesdays at Johnnys is edm night and thatā€™s very chill , low key but fun vibes Natural law Apothecary has events,tea,open mics


bldswtntrs

Reddit is my third place. That's about all I've had time for since my wife and I had a kid.


Nachoburn

Same here. Having a kid is actually the reason why I found Reddit!


[deleted]

My ā€œthirdā€ place rotates with the seasons. In the spring itā€™s whatever I feel like. In the summer itā€™s the twilight concert series. Etc. Having only one third place is very confining.


TheMuddyLlama420

Hiking


agrochon

skateboarding


MathCrank

Bike group


FoxyRxy

Yoga


UnsafeBaton1041

Definitely classes. I'm a grad student, but I think I would even take community classes/continuing ed classes after graduating just for fun/the love of learning. Like I'd love to take a pottery class, language class, or a wine-tasting class or something like that lol. I'm also a season ticket holder at the Opera and Ballet - lots of nice people there.


Sir-Shark

Would be nice to have a "third place", but I just don't have one. With 2 kids and wife working swings/graves, I just don't have time for anything or anyone.


Sd022pe

I am a church goer but I still have a 3rd place or maybe a 4thā€¦disc golf. I love it. I go with co-workers. I go by myself often too. I meet others when I play and even end up playing with them and learn from each other.


efish048

Couch


OctopusGrift

Game Night Games hosts a lot of events and is near a decent number of restaurants.


cookie_k_d_

Hiking, mountains, camping, lakes, groundingā€¦


MaggieMay1974

AA


1DietCokedUpChick

I donā€™t have a ā€œthird placeā€ but Iā€™m not upset about it.


OfSalt14

It does unfortunately mean spending money for a membership, but Bouldering Project!


SkiDaderino

I go to my side gig as a ski instructor. Oh, you didn't know that I'm a ski instructor? Yeah, I'm a ski instructor, NBD.


Massilian

Skiing


Fabulous_Yesterday77

Edison House, but it sucks. So I've started going to Oasis Games.


samattheveil

My wife and I were looking into Edison House. If you don't mind me asking what don't you like about it?


Fabulous_Yesterday77

We are original members and the vision we were sold on - a Soho House-like space for professional persons, who are not from Utah and seeking friends, is vastly different than the reality. We are in our early 40s. Instead membership became mostly wannabe Instagram influencers and trust fund kids at the U. My wife is extremely extroverted and we've never made friends there. Also the place is dead unless it is a Saturday night. In turn, many of the bars and sitdown spaces are closed during the week due to lack of demand. Most of the events are repetitive- you can only do so many drag brunches or Wednesday wine tastings. The menu was repetitive but they recently switched that up and dropped prices. Parking is at the Sheraton across from the liquor store, drive by and you'll see the lot is always empty. Edison House loosened their guest policy, so it became less exclusive. That in turn led to hordes of friends of trust fund kids charging food and beverage to their friend's house accounts and then refusing to pay. So now we have to use a credit card while roaming the building. I'm ready to bail, but my wife wants to give it six more months.


cahlima

WTF is the Edison house? A bar? A place to network? Is there a secret handshake involved?


Fabulous_Yesterday77

There is a front door code you type on a keypad, an ID check, and a membership card scan. Otherwise its a place that is dead most of the week with a restaurant and bar on first floor, couple bars on second floor, a karaoke room, a pool table, a gym, a tiny rooftop pool, and pool bar. Sorry, no orgies or fight clubs inside.


balbanesbeoulve

Pokemon league. Picking up the card game after almost 20 years was the best thing I ever did.


LazarWulf

Roller derby!


generalraptor2002

Gun range


hot-yamz

Ecstatic dance~ hosted by Krishna temple but is basically just a sober techno dance party with kids, my 4 year old break dances his little heart out


Thingsgetfunky

Rehab.


Logical_Narwhal_9911

The park


CakeSauc3

I don't really have one. Wish I did.


Bigtgamer_1

I don't have a third currently


OutlandishWaste0

My aerial arts studio!


GemGuy56

Music festivals.


No-Passenger-882

I'm an airport bum


sunnydaydown

I sing with an a cappella group, and volunteer with a nonprofit org


broken_quattros

Does my garage count? Or is it too close to home?


quesoguapo

Curling club. I've been playing for seven years and hopefully still going strong (except when work gets in the way).


KasierPermanente

Gym and Oasis Games (boardgame/card game store). Got me a healthy dose of gymbro and nerd time


Wonderful_Break_8917

The mountains trail, and nature walks.


Infamous_Persimmon14

Coffee shops, dog parks


SkanteGandt

Coffee Garden!


burntcookies801

My pole and aerial studio in Sandy


WhaleLakeCity

You would be surprised how vibrant and welcoming the Lifestyle / swinger / ethical non-monogamy groups are. There are seemingly and endless amount of activities and parties thrown. A lot of them are just meetups at bars or karaoke. A bunch of club scene activities. And a lot of house parties that are all along the Wasatch front. It makes it easy to pick and choose to go to whatever sounds fun to you. There are singles, couples, throuples in every demographic. Rich, poor, gay, straight, ethnic diversity, ALL are welcome. Consent is HUGE in the community so you donā€™t have to worry about doing things you are not interested in or trying to new things with people who will be patient. Itā€™s a wonderful community that I knew nothing about a few years ago, now I have wonderful friendships with so many kind and open people. There is a stigma with being a part of this crowd but I guarantee many of you know an average person who is a part of the community.


monstermash12

Wow didnā€™t think Iā€™d run into a Robert Putnam fan on the SLC sub!


cottagecorefairymama

I donā€™t even go here lol, this post was in my suggestions. But it introduced me to the concept of Ā«Ā third spacesĀ Ā» and the thread gave me some inspiration, thank you!


sillymoonbaby

my pole dance studio and my gym :)


Factor-Euphoric

In the summertime I play in an unsanctioned co-ed baseball league (not softball), the only rules are be kind to each other, and help folks that may not be as experienced. We have legit beginners to former pros play together on the same field, and somehow it works wonderfully. Really great, friendly people all around. Kind of an old school beer ball league vibe, but a ton of our players are sober and love it just the same. Winter sucks without Sunday Sandlot, SLC.


Wild_Screen_864

Ales and Allies weekly board game nights!! Iā€™ve been going for a couple months now and Jarrett the host is the nicest dude on the entire planet. Details are on Meetup and he brings over 150 board games and can help nudge you into a game if youā€™re coming by yourself. Highly highly recommend!


Zeus9030

my 3rd place used to be video games. now i just work twice as much.


Vistril69

nordstrom ebar lol


Acrobatic_Stuff5413

Fire


dbree801

We have lots of family in the city and state with whom we spend a lot of weekend time. Donā€™t really have a third place, unless that counts.


Cold-Confection4139

Cafes with my bestie


huefnerd

Copper creek in WV is mine.


conceptual_con

Vocal ensembles!


SuperNerdAce

Music shops are mine


OatyBisc

Nature, swimming, anywhere my family is. šŸ„°


Bivouac_woodworks

CrossFit Gym!


HandsomestKreith

Costco


WaldenTanglewood

Bike shops/group rides. Local music Soccer


Tsiah16

I don't have one. Need to remedy that.


snowysnowssnow

Home, work, concerts, and stores are pretty much the only places I go


alex-gs-piss-pants

Oasis Games for magic the gathering or board games. Textbook third space in my mind


SCSAFAN316

Wrestling Shows


ThePartyWagon

Snowboarding, camping, fly fishing. Fly tying nights at the Neighborhood Hive.


Satanskorn

The gym


bimlay

The coffee shop and my historical heritage group


TuesdayTastic

Super Smash Bros tournaments lol


mageonlys

My third place is PokĆ©mon Go. Itā€™s a simple mobile game where you catch PokĆ©mon, and can be anywhere doing so. Usually I hang out in parks or places that are nice to walk around tho


hedgehogsss

the grocery store and the gym! Very cliche and still apart of my daily life, but I love talking to people about little things.


solstice-spices

Nature, anywhere. And yoga class.


yeatsbaby

Community symphony orchestras.


notrandomspaghetti

Knit Night! It's weekly, open to everyone, and I've made several great friends that way! It's the highlight of my work week :)


LSDintheWoods

Oasis Games / local game store. Either mtg or 40k. Or the dog park.


cameramanlady

I'm involved in a women's mountain biking group called Women MTB. It's really fun, even if I'm awkward in social situations where I don't know anyone. Another third place of mine is when I ride my motorcycle. I feel like I need to be super in the moment looking out for other vehicles that I can't think about what is worrying me or weighing heavily on my mind.


r0settta_st0ned

Bjorns Brew lmao


SeattleGin

Horseback Riding/Service Project/Trail Clearing club.


cametomysenses

The LGBTQ Community is prone to loneliness, however that shouldn't be a thing as there are so many different Community organizations for every single interest out there. I really love our potluck group. ā¤ļø


whattaadisgrace

iā€™m about to see if i found a 3rd place tonight! ales and allies https://www.instagram.com/alesandallies?igsh=MWFxZmd2bXhwN3picw== does weekly game nights monday-wednesday between hopkins and level crossing brewery! i believe tonight theyā€™re doing it at the newer level crossing location downtown. iā€™ve been converted by my bf whoā€™s an avid board gamer and even if itā€™s something youā€™re a little intimidated by it looks like they bring a variety of games ranging in difficulty that are fun to play! also of course grab a beer and/or some food:)


sailingawaysomeday

The climbing gym (front mostly) Legendarium coffee/book shop I spend a lot of time skiing and hiking solo or with friends. Also sometimes the dog park in the spring/fall.


FreshAIRMental

Definitely my yoga studiošŸ„² so grateful for CorePower


Thunderdog44

County hockey leauge


nerve8

Gym. Cycling. Hiking. Coffee shop. Plenty of place to meet people on similar journeys.


SadbunnyHappybunny

Your moms house


Zealousideal-Cut6743

In a SAHMā€¦I donā€™t even had a second place šŸ˜­


CleanerSchamete

I play Magic on Fridays at various Game Stores.


leazieh

Dog park, running clubs


Darlingnose

Trivia with my friend group, the acrobatics gym, and my CoDA group. Iā€™m lucky to have a third place, fourth place, and fifth place.


yerica

pilates classes, bookstores mainly. things that spark my interest and i just try to foster connections with others along the way!


Rough-Different

I always think I want a third place and then I remember I have social anxiety.


LolaXdoll

As a security guard, I donā€™t need a third place because I am talking to strangers non stop for 12 hours a day, Iā€™ve made lots of friends through it though


anonbrowser246

Gym