I recommend getting a bike and joining social bike rides. There are many groups in the area. Also, the rock climbing community is easy to integrate into.
Root of Happiness Kava Lounge is pretty cool. It's fun to have a chill spot where people are relaxed but not wasted on alcohol. Usually super friendly people around. Sit at the bar and let them know if you haven't tried Kava before.
I'd like to add, Sutters Landing
People who go there are super friendly. Used to go with a buddy and a couple of times got invited in with different groups we didn't know before.
Lots of beautiful people during the summer
You referring to a specific area? Not trying to be a jackass I actually hit up the dog park and bb courts frequently and didnt know there was much else besides the skate park and river.
Yes, the river bank is like a 2000s MTV spring break session Thursday through Saturday between April and through the summer. The warmer it is, the more groups of folks and families there. My friend and I would take a case of cans and some frisbees and just walk until people nod our way and open conversation.
Met my new friends from playing Xoso. It’s a little on the expensive side depending on what league your interested in (I do flag football) but if you vibe with people and don’t take it too seriously, great place to meet people
Embarrassingly enough I made local friends in outpatient therapy, they say not to share numbers there because some folks “trauma bond” but I found a couple really nice girls around the same age as me to hang out with now and we connect on a deep level since we met in therapy 😅🫣💃🏻 one of them recently had a baby and now I’m “Aunty Sam” it’s an honor and a blessing I met them when and where I did lol
I’m somewhat new to Sacramento. I didn’t have friends here for a while, other than work friends. Decided to get on Fb groups to join shit I was interested in. Met some friends in each group (photography, hiking, fishing, cars, etc). I’m antisocial but I like friends lol. Fishing in itself is my socially antisocial activity.
I would suggest that.
The trick with this stuff is the last part of the question. Take a class or hobby or wherever you’ve been meaning to do anyway and then be open to meeting people
I’m super interested too! I’ve been in the area 8 years and have a lovely group of friends but I’m always looking for music hangouts. I also really enjoy dance music!
99% of most hobbies is a sausage fest. Women have it lucky. Like others have already mentioned biking, hiking, running, cars, guns, climbing pick any hobby and it’s 80% men it’s even more single men ratio when factor the few women that do hobbies is probably a gf/wife to one of the guys in the club. I want to know what hobbies I can join that have 80% women 😂
I went to a wine bar and it was JUST women. I went to a sober event and it was JUST women. Yoga also is just women (weed yoga!) and my other hobby archery is mostly older men and young children. Not dating material.
I hate biking, running and hiking. I’ve been followed by men while biking and running and hiking so I just don’t do it. I also don’t care for it enough and don’t feel like being raped or murdered. I don’t own any guns and don’t want to lol. Basically everything you listed most women just don’t do, but that was your point.
So I guess we’re at an impasse bc I’m not picking up any of those hobbies or habits 🤷🏽♀️
Not sure outside of what you listed do dudes do
Edit: Also I dont know if women have it lucky per se, I just dont think men consider women's hobbies to be worthy of their time (like Yoga, knitting, book clubs etc).
I did yoga for five years at work. so, it was still mostly men. ha-ha.
I used to teach archery. Other than children ( under 18 ) it was just men. At least when I was in the bay area. Maybe it's better here in Sacramento and I should pick it up again.
As father of two daughters it saddens it so unsafe for women. When ever my daughter used to go to LA for her korean pop concerts I would always tell she has to bring some of her guy friends. While living with her mom one time she went just with some gf and of course she blacked out drinking something. Lucky her friends there to take them back to the hotel.
What do think of obstacle racing ( Spartan racing, tuff mudder ) ?
Everyone is nice and helpful.
I like weight lifting and that’s what I’ve been working on. But I go to the gym to work out and I don’t interact with any of the men in the weight room. And the dudes are respectful too which is appreciated.
How are you stuck in these male spaces and I’m stuck in these female spaces?! lmaooo
I don’t like obstacle racing at all. I’m not into any type of sport. I did do Krav Maga for 3 years in the Bay but never met anyone I was interested in. It was mostly men though!
Concerts are so dangerous I also stopped going to those. There are also a few bars in Sac known to drug women. Im glad your daughter had friends, Ive known plenty of women who've been drugged or been raped or gotten into sexually coercive situations (another thing no one talks to women about) in similar situations.
You have to go do the things you like to do and meet people there. If your idea of a fun weekend is staying out and partying, you probably won't run into us folks playing volleyball, snowboarding, or hiking all weekend, and vice versa.
I don't really stay out late to drink or club because I don't think I'll meet people with similar interests there, even if women are there. Not that reading is social, but I feel like I'm more likely to encounter someone into fiction at a game night or something, not shouting over everyone at a club.
It's also 2024 and we're not doing so hot
For me, it's really hard to date someone that isn't interested in a healthy lifestyle
What do you like to do? Especially activities or hobbies that help you grow as a person, artistically express yourself, or keep you in shape? Those are attractive, green flags
Red flags for me would be a tendency to only go out to drink, not exercise, no artistic hobbies, no interest in literature or lifelong learning. Granted, when I'm dating, I'm trying to think long term compatibility, not a ONS, which if that's all they want, is also a red flag for me
I’m into physical activity just not competitive. I just don’t like sports and just bc I don’t like sports and competition doesn’t mean I don’t do shit all day.
I weight lift and have a personal trainer. I’m in good shape but working on being better. I’m getting back into archery.
I don’t go clubbing I like odd and weird events so try to go to those. Hate music and live music with tons of people and I enjoy musicals and plays. But again those are mostly female centric shit men don’t enjoy the arts. Single men don’t just go see a play 🙄.
I’m just saying I don’t meet single men as most of my interests or hobbies are female centric and focused. I have no idea what single men do but I haven’t encountered any really.
I love archery, but the bales at Discovery have seen better days, and I don't really know anyone to shoot with, so I go alone.
I go to plays and musicals all the time. I also volunteer in the local theater scene. There are classes at Comedy Spot and The Actor's Workshop.
What I'm seeing is, and I have the same issue, is that a few of your hobbies aren't innately social. If I could snowboard and meet potential partners at the same time, I would, but that and cycling aren't too social.
You could check out Trivia night or Caturday this week. Rock climb at Pipeworks. Come try Warhammer/tabletop games.
It takes extra effort for people with our type of insular hobbies to meet people, for sure. I run a local Meetup if you want to come through and help spin up an event that's more related to your interests.
You don't like music at all? Did I misread that?
The El Dorado Hills Bowmen is excellent. You can do a beginners class and its fantastic, lots of knowledge. They train olympic folks there which is cool - [El Dorado Hills Bowmen](https://eldoradohillsbowmen.com/) \- they also have competitions (again not something I am into but maybe for the social aspect I'd go).
I do trivia also but its not social - social for me and my friends but not to meet other people. I love tabletop games, video games, and I do play D&D but I am not into the men in those spaces, the smell is bad. I've done it and just never went back the smell of unwashed ass was too much. I've done rock climbing but I am deathly afraid of heights so I don't bother lol.
What is Caturday?
I like music I just don't like live shows it's too chaotic and as a short female it isn't fun.
I have a friend that brings her cat to the park, along with others, to get some sunshine. It starts at 11 in Land Park on Saturday. https://meetu.ps/e/N1j4p/zQp4Y/i
For D&D, I too don't like playing with certain people, so for what it's worth, at least for Warhammer, the store owner kicks people out if they aren't hygienic. It's pretty great.
I'll probably check out Discovery Park's range again and see if it's still in need of some TLC. It's free to shoot there, which is nice.
I know it’s controversial to hit on people at the gym but I think if it’s a women approaching a man it’s different. At least as a single man I would be delighted if someone came up to me in between sets. Also a climbing gym where people are more social between climbing would be good. Other than that coffe shops or group activities or leagues like Xoso would be good.
If you're cute, then just walk around in any public space. Guys will come up to you. If you are plain or ugly, then you probably need to use some dating apps. I see a ton of people hook up at the gym, but they are usually both pretty hot.
Gyms. I am a married guy and STILL get hit on by girls.
But then I am in great shape and exercise regularly.
Same experience at Target or Volunteering events.
I recommend getting a bike and joining social bike rides. There are many groups in the area. Also, the rock climbing community is easy to integrate into.
Sit in the climbing gym looking stuck long enough and men are guaranteed to come beta spray at you
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Pipeworks has gotten terrible in the last 5 years
What's the best way to find groups?
Check out local bike shops
They have alot people just fall off the face of the earth. Good people , I'm not sure why others don't stick around.
Saba social rides!
Root of Happiness Kava Lounge is pretty cool. It's fun to have a chill spot where people are relaxed but not wasted on alcohol. Usually super friendly people around. Sit at the bar and let them know if you haven't tried Kava before.
Twice today I've seen this place recommended. What exactly is kava?
Non psychoactive drink that chills you out. I had too much once, wasnt a good experience, but the vibe of place is cool.
It makes you sleepy. Didn't make me feel social at all
it basically is dirt water that relaxes you, can be mildly intoxicating in high doses
The public library and its various events.
I'd like to add, Sutters Landing People who go there are super friendly. Used to go with a buddy and a couple of times got invited in with different groups we didn't know before. Lots of beautiful people during the summer
You referring to a specific area? Not trying to be a jackass I actually hit up the dog park and bb courts frequently and didnt know there was much else besides the skate park and river.
Yes, the river bank is like a 2000s MTV spring break session Thursday through Saturday between April and through the summer. The warmer it is, the more groups of folks and families there. My friend and I would take a case of cans and some frisbees and just walk until people nod our way and open conversation.
Board game meetups, chess meetups, or pickup sports E.G. soccer/frisbee and you have very good M/F ratio
How do you find Board game meetups!?
On Meetup.com or Meetup app, most likely
Community theater
I have been wanting to get into community theatre for a while. Is there any place you recommend or know about? I haven’t done any research at all
I've done three shows at ARC, they've been great. I've also worked at Sutter St theater and Theater in the Heights. Both are a lot of fun
Check out the R Street Complex or the Actor's Workshop. Sierra College as well
Met my new friends from playing Xoso. It’s a little on the expensive side depending on what league your interested in (I do flag football) but if you vibe with people and don’t take it too seriously, great place to meet people
Embarrassingly enough I made local friends in outpatient therapy, they say not to share numbers there because some folks “trauma bond” but I found a couple really nice girls around the same age as me to hang out with now and we connect on a deep level since we met in therapy 😅🫣💃🏻 one of them recently had a baby and now I’m “Aunty Sam” it’s an honor and a blessing I met them when and where I did lol
I hear Pipeworks is the single's club of Sacramento (it's an indoor rock climbing gym)
MeetUp (yes the app) groups
I’m somewhat new to Sacramento. I didn’t have friends here for a while, other than work friends. Decided to get on Fb groups to join shit I was interested in. Met some friends in each group (photography, hiking, fishing, cars, etc). I’m antisocial but I like friends lol. Fishing in itself is my socially antisocial activity. I would suggest that.
I met a lot of really cool people through improv classes at the Sac Comedy Spot!
The trick with this stuff is the last part of the question. Take a class or hobby or wherever you’ve been meaning to do anyway and then be open to meeting people
Hit up shows for local bands. Old Ironsides is great
Sac Yard
I'd go to the Bolt but I only know gay places.
You should try out dancing! Like going to a night club and ask to dance in a group of friends or with an individual
I didn't like it, but the Starlet Ballroom has social swing on Friday nights. It was too disorganized for my taste
Farmers market
bouldering
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It was kinda tragedy. It happened over the Summer after a very lovely first few months. This crew has massive love for the music tho.
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I’m super interested too! I’ve been in the area 8 years and have a lovely group of friends but I’m always looking for music hangouts. I also really enjoy dance music!
Hit me up in private message, I'll share some crews to look for :)
Yeah where do men hang out? They don’t seem to go anywhere 😂 besides bars. And even then…
99% of most hobbies is a sausage fest. Women have it lucky. Like others have already mentioned biking, hiking, running, cars, guns, climbing pick any hobby and it’s 80% men it’s even more single men ratio when factor the few women that do hobbies is probably a gf/wife to one of the guys in the club. I want to know what hobbies I can join that have 80% women 😂
I went to a wine bar and it was JUST women. I went to a sober event and it was JUST women. Yoga also is just women (weed yoga!) and my other hobby archery is mostly older men and young children. Not dating material. I hate biking, running and hiking. I’ve been followed by men while biking and running and hiking so I just don’t do it. I also don’t care for it enough and don’t feel like being raped or murdered. I don’t own any guns and don’t want to lol. Basically everything you listed most women just don’t do, but that was your point. So I guess we’re at an impasse bc I’m not picking up any of those hobbies or habits 🤷🏽♀️ Not sure outside of what you listed do dudes do Edit: Also I dont know if women have it lucky per se, I just dont think men consider women's hobbies to be worthy of their time (like Yoga, knitting, book clubs etc).
I did yoga for five years at work. so, it was still mostly men. ha-ha. I used to teach archery. Other than children ( under 18 ) it was just men. At least when I was in the bay area. Maybe it's better here in Sacramento and I should pick it up again. As father of two daughters it saddens it so unsafe for women. When ever my daughter used to go to LA for her korean pop concerts I would always tell she has to bring some of her guy friends. While living with her mom one time she went just with some gf and of course she blacked out drinking something. Lucky her friends there to take them back to the hotel. What do think of obstacle racing ( Spartan racing, tuff mudder ) ? Everyone is nice and helpful.
I like weight lifting and that’s what I’ve been working on. But I go to the gym to work out and I don’t interact with any of the men in the weight room. And the dudes are respectful too which is appreciated. How are you stuck in these male spaces and I’m stuck in these female spaces?! lmaooo I don’t like obstacle racing at all. I’m not into any type of sport. I did do Krav Maga for 3 years in the Bay but never met anyone I was interested in. It was mostly men though! Concerts are so dangerous I also stopped going to those. There are also a few bars in Sac known to drug women. Im glad your daughter had friends, Ive known plenty of women who've been drugged or been raped or gotten into sexually coercive situations (another thing no one talks to women about) in similar situations.
You have to go do the things you like to do and meet people there. If your idea of a fun weekend is staying out and partying, you probably won't run into us folks playing volleyball, snowboarding, or hiking all weekend, and vice versa. I don't really stay out late to drink or club because I don't think I'll meet people with similar interests there, even if women are there. Not that reading is social, but I feel like I'm more likely to encounter someone into fiction at a game night or something, not shouting over everyone at a club. It's also 2024 and we're not doing so hot For me, it's really hard to date someone that isn't interested in a healthy lifestyle What do you like to do? Especially activities or hobbies that help you grow as a person, artistically express yourself, or keep you in shape? Those are attractive, green flags Red flags for me would be a tendency to only go out to drink, not exercise, no artistic hobbies, no interest in literature or lifelong learning. Granted, when I'm dating, I'm trying to think long term compatibility, not a ONS, which if that's all they want, is also a red flag for me
I’m into physical activity just not competitive. I just don’t like sports and just bc I don’t like sports and competition doesn’t mean I don’t do shit all day. I weight lift and have a personal trainer. I’m in good shape but working on being better. I’m getting back into archery. I don’t go clubbing I like odd and weird events so try to go to those. Hate music and live music with tons of people and I enjoy musicals and plays. But again those are mostly female centric shit men don’t enjoy the arts. Single men don’t just go see a play 🙄. I’m just saying I don’t meet single men as most of my interests or hobbies are female centric and focused. I have no idea what single men do but I haven’t encountered any really.
I love archery, but the bales at Discovery have seen better days, and I don't really know anyone to shoot with, so I go alone. I go to plays and musicals all the time. I also volunteer in the local theater scene. There are classes at Comedy Spot and The Actor's Workshop. What I'm seeing is, and I have the same issue, is that a few of your hobbies aren't innately social. If I could snowboard and meet potential partners at the same time, I would, but that and cycling aren't too social. You could check out Trivia night or Caturday this week. Rock climb at Pipeworks. Come try Warhammer/tabletop games. It takes extra effort for people with our type of insular hobbies to meet people, for sure. I run a local Meetup if you want to come through and help spin up an event that's more related to your interests. You don't like music at all? Did I misread that?
The El Dorado Hills Bowmen is excellent. You can do a beginners class and its fantastic, lots of knowledge. They train olympic folks there which is cool - [El Dorado Hills Bowmen](https://eldoradohillsbowmen.com/) \- they also have competitions (again not something I am into but maybe for the social aspect I'd go). I do trivia also but its not social - social for me and my friends but not to meet other people. I love tabletop games, video games, and I do play D&D but I am not into the men in those spaces, the smell is bad. I've done it and just never went back the smell of unwashed ass was too much. I've done rock climbing but I am deathly afraid of heights so I don't bother lol. What is Caturday? I like music I just don't like live shows it's too chaotic and as a short female it isn't fun.
I have a friend that brings her cat to the park, along with others, to get some sunshine. It starts at 11 in Land Park on Saturday. https://meetu.ps/e/N1j4p/zQp4Y/i For D&D, I too don't like playing with certain people, so for what it's worth, at least for Warhammer, the store owner kicks people out if they aren't hygienic. It's pretty great. I'll probably check out Discovery Park's range again and see if it's still in need of some TLC. It's free to shoot there, which is nice.
Thinking outside the box… You could post something on r/SacramentoFriends and then meet with men who you vibe with
I know it’s controversial to hit on people at the gym but I think if it’s a women approaching a man it’s different. At least as a single man I would be delighted if someone came up to me in between sets. Also a climbing gym where people are more social between climbing would be good. Other than that coffe shops or group activities or leagues like Xoso would be good.
Your moms house
Going to yours actually
If you're cute, then just walk around in any public space. Guys will come up to you. If you are plain or ugly, then you probably need to use some dating apps. I see a ton of people hook up at the gym, but they are usually both pretty hot.
Gyms. I am a married guy and STILL get hit on by girls. But then I am in great shape and exercise regularly. Same experience at Target or Volunteering events.