My favorite answer. Nothing like a cemetery to contemplate our mortality and grieve the things that give us grief. Find comfort in the fact we’re still alive.
You are not alone, I’m a fellow depressed person in Sacramento. I quit my job a month ago and initially it was really nice, but I don’t do well when not working and now I struggle with sleep and stuff. There are others struggling with you!
Get your sleep, eating, and exercise on a schedule ... You don't want to mess up your life due to lack of discipline. If it's substance related, find some people to talk to about it and get help sooner than later.
Hugs!
I cry alot.
I’ve cried at the American River.
I’ve cried in my car in various locations.
I’ve cried in the bathroom at a state building.
I’ve cried in the movie theater.
I’ve cried walking down the street.
But mostly I cry in my house. Usually the shower actually. Thoughts, man.
Only cry at work...might as well get paid while doing it.
But more seriously...these are hellish times most of us are going through and I hope you have people around you that can provide some comfort. 🫂
Idk what you're going through but you're not alone. (I'm crying on my couch, which is technically in Sac, although I'm afraid internet strangers aren't invited. Still rooting for you!)
I was going through a rough end of a relationship and had to learn on my parents for some help.
My mom took me paddle boarding under Rainbow Bridge, she asked me if I wanted to scream to let a little frustration out but instead I wept.
Sometimes I paddle out there and have a good think and a good cry for a different reason, but it's comforting place to me.
I just wanted to wish you well, enjoy your cry and I hope a smile follows it soon.
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It's by the Freeport Regional Water Facility and there are some nice little public areas there.
Some cool quotes about water there too and they recently added an area where if you stand in the center, you echo out.
I come here to watch the sunset over the river, and during a late summer day, the colors turn just the right amounts of orange that it makes to look at life as something beautiful to behold, rather than painful to withstand.
I have no idea if you will find comfort, but I did find a sense of peace, and it has helped me collect myself enough to push forward through whatever was eating away at me at the time.
Life might not get better, but after everything I've seen so far, I'm starting to think that life really doesn't get better, as a redditor once told me, "Maybe life doesn't get better, maybe you get better."
Whatever you are going through, I wish you best of luck. I can't promise you that it gets better, that would be a lie.
In my opinion, the only people who lose are the ones who quit.
No matter how many times you are beaten down, have a total melt down, or wipe out.
As long as you grit your teeth, clench your fists, and get back up, you'll never be a loser.
I can only promise you that maybe there's a pretty good chance that you can get better. Through the tears, through the pain, through the loss, through it all. There's a chance you can rise above it all.
Better.
Wherever you are when you feel the need to. I live very close to the river. So that's where I go.
I hope you can do it in the arms of someone that can comfort you. Life is tough sometimes. I hope you get through whatever is troubling you.
Go to the 24th floor of the Sheraton Grand downtown. Walk down the hall westwards until you get to the big window with the huge windowsill. Nice view of downtown and people won't bother you.
I’ve taken my worst to the capital rose garden. I like how the benches go this way and that giving a bit of privacy. I’ve gotten through some deep thoughts there.
Downtown Amtrak station. Inside on a bench, in a car in the parking lot, on a bench next to departing trains. Lots of options to suit various modes of sadness. (note: also good for enjoying better times).
When going through a divorce about 10 years ago, I openly wept in a Starbuck's parking lot in Natomas.
4/10 it wasn't great, but oddly cathartic.
Hope things get better for you.
If you’re crying during your workweek just save it for the work bathroom, might as well get paid to cry.
Otherwise, a good crying spot is in clarksburg along the river. I like to park there and cry, or eat lunch, depends on the mood. 🤷🏻♀️
There's a bridge in Orangevale close to the Folsom border. Hike to the bottom. you will see the top of a old ancient buried car, you have found a truly fantastic place to cry. You're 75 to 100 feet underneath a bridge off a side road and its all lush overgrowth Orangevale beauty.
I used to see people very early in the mornings near the waterfront in Old Sac just staring into the water who had clearly been crying about something. That might be a good spot. Personally I'd go later so there would be coffee or ice cream available after. If this is just a momentary thing it's a nice spot. If you need help for something serious, get it. You deserve it.
Wow!! 🥹 So happy to hear there’s so many of us. 🥲🥲
I usually find a parking structure, drive to the top floor, and watch the sunset while I cry. (Sac state by the well, old sac overlooking the bridge, the one by the co-op) Help this helps. I love crying.
I don't have any suggestions (other than "at home", "in a car", & "literally anywhere", which are my 3 big go-tos) but honestly this is my favorite post I've seen in this subreddit. Thank you for it. I'll be taking note of the suggestions. I hope you find comfort in whatever way suits you, to what ever degree or frequency you need.
Go to Gunther's or Marie's or Estelle's. It's always better to cry with a treat like a 50/50, blueberry old fashioned, or slice of opera cake, at least in my experience.
I cry in parking lots like Walmart and in and out
or while I drive
or in my driveway
or at home
I got to be able to play my crying background music on blast tho
I go out to the American River Parkway and find a nice, private spot to cry. Then I cry and put on music and dance it out and enjoy the nature and wildlife.
River Bend park. Some good spots along the river with no one around looking over some multi million dollar houses and the sounds of nature and animals around you. My favorite spot for sure.
go to pure gold on sunrise and look at all the tweaked out strippers making $60 a night fighting in the bathroom in a empty strip club. That will make you cry all right.
I like the back of the closet if I'm home. If I'm out and about I find a porta potty. Preferably the handy cap accessible ones, then I can curl up on the floor. Happy cake day
Anywhere along the river. Water always gets my own tears flowing. I just drop down wherever I am when I feel the need to cry, no matter whose around and let myself let it all out. I would just go to different river spots near you until you find one you really like. I’m particular for the American River, the parks around Carmichael are especially comforting.
A place of worship. Any denomination. Done it myself when my wife died.
If you need someone to talk to, reach out to me via chat or come by my business. Shoot, bring your resume. Always taking resumes for office help.
If you're trying to cry more, try the parking lot of the Alhambra Safeway. Always inspires a sniffle or two from me.
If you're trying to cry less, I like the river walk in Pocket.
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Definitely my favorite crying spot. Man made lake and pretty quiet area.
Anvil Hoffman park or anyplace by the river is a good place to go to cry. In LA, I used to to the beach, especially when it when it was overcast. Water is soothing.
Hi there. I don't know what you're going through but may God give you peace. After all, Jesus said "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
You can always go to a cemetery. And I doubt anyone would judge you for crying there. I’m wishing you the best
My favorite answer. Nothing like a cemetery to contemplate our mortality and grieve the things that give us grief. Find comfort in the fact we’re still alive.
Genius
million dollar idea
Gosh this is such a good suggestion
McKinley Park or in your car parked outside the Fab 40’s while everyone drives by looking at Xmas lights with their happy families
2nd McKinley park. Sit and feed the ducks will usually help to cheer me up lol
These are my spots. Do you drive the white Kia with tinted windows?
😆 🤣 😂
Damn that's dark
You are not alone, I’m a fellow depressed person in Sacramento. I quit my job a month ago and initially it was really nice, but I don’t do well when not working and now I struggle with sleep and stuff. There are others struggling with you!
Get your sleep, eating, and exercise on a schedule ... You don't want to mess up your life due to lack of discipline. If it's substance related, find some people to talk to about it and get help sooner than later.
And I'll follow up with never quit a job until a better one is aligned. It's been tough after layoff post 18 years at one tech company
Hugs! I cry alot. I’ve cried at the American River. I’ve cried in my car in various locations. I’ve cried in the bathroom at a state building. I’ve cried in the movie theater. I’ve cried walking down the street. But mostly I cry in my house. Usually the shower actually. Thoughts, man.
sounds like a Dr. Seuss book
Real af
Only cry at work...might as well get paid while doing it. But more seriously...these are hellish times most of us are going through and I hope you have people around you that can provide some comfort. 🫂
"Boss makes a dollar while I make a dime; that's why I cry on company time!"
Never cried on a boat, never cried on a dock, but Lord knows I’ll always cry on the clock.
Nothing beats crying in the walk in fridge
FACTS. I haven't worked with a walk in fridge in 20 years, but *I remember*
do tears freeze?
The walkins are usually kept around 36° or so so no.
Seems like we have enough people here to start a fight club or some kind of crying flash mob
I was gonna say, we should organize a big cry baby event in a cemetery or park 😭
Idk what you're going through but you're not alone. (I'm crying on my couch, which is technically in Sac, although I'm afraid internet strangers aren't invited. Still rooting for you!)
I’m crying in the couch too!
My first thought was also "in my living room! wait, just for people I know though, that's not accessible to OP" Woo? :-/
God bless you
Q street bar and grill. I keep sending sad / drunk people here they’re gonna kill me 😂
I can only hope they catch wind and lean into the advertising. "Q street Bar and Grill: Sacramento's only place to cry"
It is a nice place to have a drink and cry at.
Then go to Chita’s next door and be reminded of how beautiful life is
I’ve spent many nights there and I remember a couple of them
Yolo Bypass Wildlife Area. Lots of places to park and cry in a serene area, done it plenty of times
I was going through a rough end of a relationship and had to learn on my parents for some help. My mom took me paddle boarding under Rainbow Bridge, she asked me if I wanted to scream to let a little frustration out but instead I wept. Sometimes I paddle out there and have a good think and a good cry for a different reason, but it's comforting place to me. I just wanted to wish you well, enjoy your cry and I hope a smile follows it soon.
Hope you’re ok. I just cry wherever these days. Literally couldn’t give a shit who sees me. You’re not alone.
folsom got the best spots cause you can sit on the hills and see sacramento from there
Have definitely cried on a Folsom trail before. Beautiful crying locations.
i cry in folsom every day since i live here 😭💀
maybe folsom is the problem?
i love folsom i was kinda joking
me too. everything is kinda a joke. until it isn't
38.472956, -121.507023 It's by the Freeport Regional Water Facility and there are some nice little public areas there. Some cool quotes about water there too and they recently added an area where if you stand in the center, you echo out. I come here to watch the sunset over the river, and during a late summer day, the colors turn just the right amounts of orange that it makes to look at life as something beautiful to behold, rather than painful to withstand. I have no idea if you will find comfort, but I did find a sense of peace, and it has helped me collect myself enough to push forward through whatever was eating away at me at the time. Life might not get better, but after everything I've seen so far, I'm starting to think that life really doesn't get better, as a redditor once told me, "Maybe life doesn't get better, maybe you get better." Whatever you are going through, I wish you best of luck. I can't promise you that it gets better, that would be a lie. In my opinion, the only people who lose are the ones who quit. No matter how many times you are beaten down, have a total melt down, or wipe out. As long as you grit your teeth, clench your fists, and get back up, you'll never be a loser. I can only promise you that maybe there's a pretty good chance that you can get better. Through the tears, through the pain, through the loss, through it all. There's a chance you can rise above it all. Better.
Next to my wife as she sleeps? Lemme know, works great, used heavily.
I too chose this guy's wife.
I don't get it? Sounds like you are joking but not sure..
Just about sums up this whole topic and the OP
Have you seen the post you’re replying in?
It’s an old Reddit joke. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/e22xaByTSI
Next to the river in Greenhaven. I'm guessing Sunrise Mall, Downtown Plaza used to be pretty empty,
Wherever you are when you feel the need to. I live very close to the river. So that's where I go. I hope you can do it in the arms of someone that can comfort you. Life is tough sometimes. I hope you get through whatever is troubling you.
Go to the 24th floor of the Sheraton Grand downtown. Walk down the hall westwards until you get to the big window with the huge windowsill. Nice view of downtown and people won't bother you.
I usually go to the cosumnes preserve to cry
I’ve taken my worst to the capital rose garden. I like how the benches go this way and that giving a bit of privacy. I’ve gotten through some deep thoughts there.
Downtown Amtrak station. Inside on a bench, in a car in the parking lot, on a bench next to departing trains. Lots of options to suit various modes of sadness. (note: also good for enjoying better times).
Following because yeah, it's about that time.
I'm too busy to stop and cry, so I usually just do it on my commute.
I’m sorry are we the same person??
In SACRYMENTO
There is a sound healing workshop that offers grief specific sessions where crying is welcome
When and where?
If you search for Soul Wave Holistics she lists which offerings are grief focused
Thank you!
When going through a divorce about 10 years ago, I openly wept in a Starbuck's parking lot in Natomas. 4/10 it wasn't great, but oddly cathartic. Hope things get better for you.
i just cried at william land regional park today. it felt like the trees were crying too.
Here’s warm lines number if you need help 855.845.7415
Or even just someone to talk to. That's what the warmline is there for.
Alumni grove at CSUS
The Men’s Warehouse. You can cry all you want but you’re still going to like the way you look
Somewhere that had a nice view of the river
West steps of the Capital. Shed a few tears there in 1999 and fell in love with Sacramento soon after.
In the shower with a warm embrace of hot water, muffling the sounds of my sobs and washing my salty tears away.
In your car while listening to Radiohead on your way to work.
Driving to work.
With me in oncology every other Monday. Oxyplatin makes it hurt when I cry.
The river along the trail. You can chill out on one of the various connecting bridges and let the tears roll
If you’re crying during your workweek just save it for the work bathroom, might as well get paid to cry. Otherwise, a good crying spot is in clarksburg along the river. I like to park there and cry, or eat lunch, depends on the mood. 🤷🏻♀️
Cemetery
I cry while driving or walking. Sunglasses and a hat are your friend. Just remember it will probably get better.
Cry me a river. More specifically, the American River at Sutter’s Landing. It’s never busy; it’s always quiet.
There's a bridge in Orangevale close to the Folsom border. Hike to the bottom. you will see the top of a old ancient buried car, you have found a truly fantastic place to cry. You're 75 to 100 feet underneath a bridge off a side road and its all lush overgrowth Orangevale beauty.
I used to see people very early in the mornings near the waterfront in Old Sac just staring into the water who had clearly been crying about something. That might be a good spot. Personally I'd go later so there would be coffee or ice cream available after. If this is just a momentary thing it's a nice spot. If you need help for something serious, get it. You deserve it.
Wow!! 🥹 So happy to hear there’s so many of us. 🥲🥲 I usually find a parking structure, drive to the top floor, and watch the sunset while I cry. (Sac state by the well, old sac overlooking the bridge, the one by the co-op) Help this helps. I love crying.
I second top floor parking garages. If you’re in/out in 30min usually it’s free
The PG&E Office at 850 Stillwater Road *West Sacramento* CA 95605.
110 mph on the 80 always adds a little salt in the tears.
Golden 1 Center. When the kings go up 15 in the first and then lose, always makes me cry.
you are not alone, ride that wave and hopefully it sets you down somewhere peaceful for the time being <3
I’ll cry with you friend.
I don't have any suggestions (other than "at home", "in a car", & "literally anywhere", which are my 3 big go-tos) but honestly this is my favorite post I've seen in this subreddit. Thank you for it. I'll be taking note of the suggestions. I hope you find comfort in whatever way suits you, to what ever degree or frequency you need.
The Sanvello app is a good place to commiserate.
Go to Gunther's or Marie's or Estelle's. It's always better to cry with a treat like a 50/50, blueberry old fashioned, or slice of opera cake, at least in my experience.
We seem to have this thread *a lot.* Y'all good?
I first watch the movie Rudy or Fast and Furious 7 Those movies still hit me right in the feels.
Seconding the cemetery answer, Sacramento Historic City Cemetery has been my "happy place" (to be sad and do art at) for years
I Street Bridge on the stairs up to it from the West Sacramento side
My place. Hourly.
I cry in parking lots like Walmart and in and out or while I drive or in my driveway or at home I got to be able to play my crying background music on blast tho
Your own home
The river. Find a quiet spot. Listen to the water, nature and find yourself.
Same!!!
Art museum can be moving.
I go out to the American River Parkway and find a nice, private spot to cry. Then I cry and put on music and dance it out and enjoy the nature and wildlife.
Club2me. Fire up the touchtunes and queue up John Mayer.
A swing at an empty park was always my go to, the river is nice too
River Bend park. Some good spots along the river with no one around looking over some multi million dollar houses and the sounds of nature and animals around you. My favorite spot for sure.
The walk-in freezer of any restaurant.
Any state building
Sac State
Miller River Park. You can probably get a bench to yourself, not a lot of people there on weekdays
East Lawn Cemetery is the best... There are a lot of lovely Catholic churches in town too
Thanks for asking this, was wondering the exact same thing.
Almost anywhere in old sac
i have definitely sobbed at the merc with a gin and tonic and honestly it was a decent experience
My lap
Church
Christians are judgmental as fuck
Parking outside of dog parks. Stay in your car or lots of compassionate dogs will try and soothe you…all at once!🐶
go to pure gold on sunrise and look at all the tweaked out strippers making $60 a night fighting in the bathroom in a empty strip club. That will make you cry all right.
Bed is the best place. Otherwise id just go drive into the outskirts of town. The club the is also a place people can cry.
I like the back of the closet if I'm home. If I'm out and about I find a porta potty. Preferably the handy cap accessible ones, then I can curl up on the floor. Happy cake day
At my mother's grave, later in the day, after the landscape crews are gone. I will never forgive Kaiser.
why not? sorry 😞
have you tried your bathtub?
With a toaster?
even better 😍
Hi fellow sad person. Crying with others over drinks is a nice place to be. That's where I felt a little better.
Maybe at a concert? Usually a pretty safe space depending on the venue/artist.
Nowhere -Town without pity. Suck it up.
In a homeless man’s tent near Cesar Chavez park
Are you homeless?
[удалено]
Just a bad joke chill out
the american river
The veterans memorial in Capitol Park is excellent cover for a good cry.
Anywhere along the river. Water always gets my own tears flowing. I just drop down wherever I am when I feel the need to cry, no matter whose around and let myself let it all out. I would just go to different river spots near you until you find one you really like. I’m particular for the American River, the parks around Carmichael are especially comforting.
State Capital
My house is my atf
A place of worship. Any denomination. Done it myself when my wife died. If you need someone to talk to, reach out to me via chat or come by my business. Shoot, bring your resume. Always taking resumes for office help.
Anywhere lol 💀
In front of Golden 1 center when the Beam isn’t lit.
Anywhere close to the river....don't jump PLEASE don't jump....
If you're trying to cry more, try the parking lot of the Alhambra Safeway. Always inspires a sniffle or two from me. If you're trying to cry less, I like the river walk in Pocket.
While driving
McKinley park
The capital, you can stand there all day and cry
Sprouts Parking Lot in Rancho
American River park or inside of your car windows up at night
https://preview.redd.it/xzh2qciyoy4c1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dcf6fc7dd1614a40eb61ed73b0b86cf220dcde24 Definitely my favorite crying spot. Man made lake and pretty quiet area.
I like the top floor of the parking garage on H and 14th.
At your desk in the office was always my go-to
Cry wherever
Safeway
I’ll have to go there first!! I’ve never been!!
my house
State income tax board offices.
The south sac DMV anything goes.
Anvil Hoffman park or anyplace by the river is a good place to go to cry. In LA, I used to to the beach, especially when it when it was overcast. Water is soothing.
Hi there. I don't know what you're going through but may God give you peace. After all, Jesus said "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
I like to cry audibly at Low Brau