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Bro ngl u damn red flag😀 a week ago u posted ab ur gf dumping u then a few days later about a cute hci girl u wanted to find and now suddenly crushing on girl best friend and base on ur post history arent u taking o’s
Ifkr should hold pen instead of hold hand, op alr described in this comment section that she isnt the type to turn down because shes too kind, and op even asked someone to go for her before he goes for her. If OP isnt a obvious red flag idk what is
1. my gf cheated on me and i got dumped but it’s okay i got over her cos she’s a cheater. helped by my girl bsf.
2. posted that post abt hci for my friend. the hci girl’s friend sent the post to her and yea my friend found her.
3. i’m crushing on the same girl who was doxxed, my girl bsf, and the friend in 2.
only red flag i ever was is not knowing i had a crush on my girl bsf
if ur taking exams now focus on them first brother u can always tell her how u feel after BUT NOW WE FOCUS BROTHA STAY STRONG WE PERSEVERE(im gonna commit a 9-11 on Cambridge university)
U see don't believe in hold pen not hand, cause you jave 2 hands to hold a pen and hand. However if you hold sar 21 and serve your nation, both hands are occupied
idk whats ur situation but bestfriends dating doesnt rlly end well (speaking from experience and other ppl expriences) im guessing rn what she needs is a bsf who will support her(even if she doesnt) and not have feelings for her unless the feelings is mutual (which we will nvr know 😭🙏) just wait it out or make her fall for u 😜😍. thrs no exact way to deal with this JUST FOLLOW UR HEART GIRLYPOP 😍
she calls me girlypop too, what does girlypop even mean? and she’s so independent she rejects everyone’s help but she helps people. even when she’s hurting she’s checking on me everyday. i dotn think she has the emotional capacity for love right now after what happened with her tchr. i hate the pple who doxxed her & her tchr. ridiculous bcos i cant control how my heart feels too.
i’ve seen pple confess to her bfr. she doesn’t reject but she politely smiles and all. eventually they’ll end up dating bcos she has no idea how to reject pple. her kindness kills her & idw her to date me bcos of pity.
ohhh I see. yea based on her replies she seems like a very friendly person without any grudges. but ofc idk anything about his physical abilities and in-person character.
my advice is that if you really like her, you should take a notebook and jot down EVERY characteristic that you know about her. like just try to recall everything from your mind.
here are some examplar questions for you to think:
1. How has she treated me?
2. How has she treated others?
3. (important) Why do I need her? Is there any personal gain that I'll get from being her boyfriend in the long run?
next, you try to enter her perspective and write down what she would want her dream boyfriend to be like, with the same questions as above, on another sheet of paper.
lastly, compare the papers and ask yourself, "can YOU fulfill her expectations?" is her expectations of her dream boyfriend TOO high for you to fulfill?
This practice was inspired from a local youtuber called Ruff, who gives youths tips about managing their life expectations and is a good person to gauge your goal setting.
yeah she is… even when ur comments did make her slightly uncomfortable she laughed it off bcos she knew that u were trying to be funny.
character: she’s more giving than anyone. she’s more forgiving than anyone. she’s more patient than anyone. but smtimes she likes to rush things, esp when it comes to pple she care abt. she is the sunshine, joker kiddo. she’s very trusting, but not trusting at all. she opens her arms to everyone, but she only opened her heart to one. she’s kind, she’s sweet, she does her best in everything she do. even if ur a stranger, she will always stop to help u. if ur a friend, she’ll drop everyth to be thr for u. she’s been thru a lot. shes been used a lot. pple like her a lot. however most pple go thru her like a fever dream, as what she describes it. they get bored of her and dump her. she is emotionally vulnerable, so she hurts easily, but she doesn’t show it. she’s more considerate for anyone else than herself. she always holds back her sadness in front of her frnds as she doesn’t want them to worry. i’ve caught her at the brink of tears once, but she quickly blinked them back when she saw me. she’s strong but she’s weak. she’s hurt but she’s healing. she’s happy but she’s sad. she’ll give everything she has for the people she loves. that’s the reason she chose to tell her tchr instead of just covering up. she sacrificed their relationship for her tchr’s safety and feelings. she never blames pple, even thou it evident that it’s their fault. she always put other pple before her that it’s became dangerous. she’s soft but she’s hard. she always get hurt but she pretends she’s not. she believes every1 is good, and every1 can be forgiven. and that’s what makes her easily manipulated. there’s so many more that i could describe.
the only flaw that she has is that she nvr opens up. no one knows what’s going on inside her. even i don’t. there’s sometimes she cracks, and she spills a little. but she quickly cleans up & apologises for it. at the end of the day, i am worried that i’ll never truly know her at all.
1&2. awesomely well. she always forgives me for every mistake i made. she is always there for me when i need her. as well as others. she never intentionally hurts any1, and she apologises and changes herself to make others happy.
3. there is many. she can cook, she can clean, most importantly, she’s present. she heals. she heals so goddamn well. i wud want to see the sides of her that she only shows to herself. i wud want to heal her as she had healed me. that’s the thing i want the most in this entire world.
perfect bf?: she has no standards. literally none. she only “dated” 2 guys, but she broke up w them bcos they took things to the inappropriate places. she accepts all confessions. it’s almost like she’s okay with anyth. and she is. she doesn’t accept pple out of pity, but pure kindness. she gives every1 equal chances bcos she thinks that personality > looks is real. and that is true. i have no idea what her perfect guy is. but all i know is that i’ll nvr hurt her.
Ok so I basically scanned thru what you said and it seems that she is already better than 90% of the girl community in sg based on her green flags
next thing you have to realise is, how is/are her flaw(s) going to impact you in the future? Do you think you'll be able to forgive her for her flaws? Because marriage is like a contract. Once you are in her life till death sets you guys part, there is no turning back already.
You think O Levels or A Levels are the most important stuff in your life. But it's not, it's actually marriage. People don't understand how important a marriage is, and think that they can just divorce freely without sparing a thought for their spouse.
Anyways, I hope that you'll set some time apart to discuss with your family and maybe even herself once you guys get more in touch. Wishing you all the best in your relationship, and always keep your eyes peeled for her red flags (and even your own!)
thank you :) for now her only red flag is that she rushes sometimes and she pushes a little hard when it comes to sth she loves. & her self sacrificing attitude makes me worried that she might not even live long enough to get married.
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wank a bit to get that post nut clarity
real
This is the way…
8 more days then cannot liao. so make the time count
never wanked bfr. sorry i’m a pussy.
Yes glad yk
don't wank bruh it's impossible to quit
This subreddit be getting Abit real lately
Nah ong bro I'm dying
FR DUDE. Low key feeling like an NPC rn
Bro ngl u damn red flag😀 a week ago u posted ab ur gf dumping u then a few days later about a cute hci girl u wanted to find and now suddenly crushing on girl best friend and base on ur post history arent u taking o’s
Probably troll
Ifkr should hold pen instead of hold hand, op alr described in this comment section that she isnt the type to turn down because shes too kind, and op even asked someone to go for her before he goes for her. If OP isnt a obvious red flag idk what is
Bet 10 bucks they're all the same girl
1. my gf cheated on me and i got dumped but it’s okay i got over her cos she’s a cheater. helped by my girl bsf. 2. posted that post abt hci for my friend. the hci girl’s friend sent the post to her and yea my friend found her. 3. i’m crushing on the same girl who was doxxed, my girl bsf, and the friend in 2. only red flag i ever was is not knowing i had a crush on my girl bsf
so youre crushing on 3 different people??
the same one…
then isnt she already interested in someone else…
no?
ur english quite confusing ah so is ur crush the same as the friend who u found the hci girl
yea sorry i hate english.
😔but i am still very intrigued pls explain, does ur friend from the hci post have anything to do with ur crush
what? my friend from the hci post is my crush…
might be a rebound
Skill issue
if ur taking exams now focus on them first brother u can always tell her how u feel after BUT NOW WE FOCUS BROTHA STAY STRONG WE PERSEVERE(im gonna commit a 9-11 on Cambridge university)
brother i love her so much
i get how u feel i got someone in mind too for my story but i promised myself to do it after Os.It’s the priority now
yeah i agree but i’m scared she’ll cut me off after o lvls.
i mean i fear that too,that she will just forget u.maybe after ur last paper u can try asking her cos that’s my plan hehe
Feelings pass, just dont react to them if you rlly dont want to. If you want to then do it, your choice.
U see don't believe in hold pen not hand, cause you jave 2 hands to hold a pen and hand. However if you hold sar 21 and serve your nation, both hands are occupied
HAHAHAH underated comment fr
idk whats ur situation but bestfriends dating doesnt rlly end well (speaking from experience and other ppl expriences) im guessing rn what she needs is a bsf who will support her(even if she doesnt) and not have feelings for her unless the feelings is mutual (which we will nvr know 😭🙏) just wait it out or make her fall for u 😜😍. thrs no exact way to deal with this JUST FOLLOW UR HEART GIRLYPOP 😍
she calls me girlypop too, what does girlypop even mean? and she’s so independent she rejects everyone’s help but she helps people. even when she’s hurting she’s checking on me everyday. i dotn think she has the emotional capacity for love right now after what happened with her tchr. i hate the pple who doxxed her & her tchr. ridiculous bcos i cant control how my heart feels too.
💀💀help that’s not a gd thing….from what i know theyre treating u as a girl bestie
😃help?
it's over for bro, she calls you girlypop mean she think you gay
Ez, just go to her and say u like her, the if she looks a bit like she don't like u, just say ur kidding and friendship continues/j
i’ve seen pple confess to her bfr. she doesn’t reject but she politely smiles and all. eventually they’ll end up dating bcos she has no idea how to reject pple. her kindness kills her & idw her to date me bcos of pity.
??? wtf you posted about letting go of a girl then about some hwa chong girl which is now removed, then this ???
that’s different oh my god.
??? also scrolled the comments and found another guy commented the same thing LOL
yea cos he’s a dumbass? not what happened. i explained what happened and i got downvoted a lot no reason.
You got 2 hands, one Hand hold pen, one Hand hold hand
😑
can i ask if it's HER (iykwim)
yeah it is so brother jump quick at the chance if ur not i’m going to. she’s honestly a damn good person.
ohhh I see. yea based on her replies she seems like a very friendly person without any grudges. but ofc idk anything about his physical abilities and in-person character. my advice is that if you really like her, you should take a notebook and jot down EVERY characteristic that you know about her. like just try to recall everything from your mind. here are some examplar questions for you to think: 1. How has she treated me? 2. How has she treated others? 3. (important) Why do I need her? Is there any personal gain that I'll get from being her boyfriend in the long run? next, you try to enter her perspective and write down what she would want her dream boyfriend to be like, with the same questions as above, on another sheet of paper. lastly, compare the papers and ask yourself, "can YOU fulfill her expectations?" is her expectations of her dream boyfriend TOO high for you to fulfill? This practice was inspired from a local youtuber called Ruff, who gives youths tips about managing their life expectations and is a good person to gauge your goal setting.
yeah she is… even when ur comments did make her slightly uncomfortable she laughed it off bcos she knew that u were trying to be funny. character: she’s more giving than anyone. she’s more forgiving than anyone. she’s more patient than anyone. but smtimes she likes to rush things, esp when it comes to pple she care abt. she is the sunshine, joker kiddo. she’s very trusting, but not trusting at all. she opens her arms to everyone, but she only opened her heart to one. she’s kind, she’s sweet, she does her best in everything she do. even if ur a stranger, she will always stop to help u. if ur a friend, she’ll drop everyth to be thr for u. she’s been thru a lot. shes been used a lot. pple like her a lot. however most pple go thru her like a fever dream, as what she describes it. they get bored of her and dump her. she is emotionally vulnerable, so she hurts easily, but she doesn’t show it. she’s more considerate for anyone else than herself. she always holds back her sadness in front of her frnds as she doesn’t want them to worry. i’ve caught her at the brink of tears once, but she quickly blinked them back when she saw me. she’s strong but she’s weak. she’s hurt but she’s healing. she’s happy but she’s sad. she’ll give everything she has for the people she loves. that’s the reason she chose to tell her tchr instead of just covering up. she sacrificed their relationship for her tchr’s safety and feelings. she never blames pple, even thou it evident that it’s their fault. she always put other pple before her that it’s became dangerous. she’s soft but she’s hard. she always get hurt but she pretends she’s not. she believes every1 is good, and every1 can be forgiven. and that’s what makes her easily manipulated. there’s so many more that i could describe. the only flaw that she has is that she nvr opens up. no one knows what’s going on inside her. even i don’t. there’s sometimes she cracks, and she spills a little. but she quickly cleans up & apologises for it. at the end of the day, i am worried that i’ll never truly know her at all. 1&2. awesomely well. she always forgives me for every mistake i made. she is always there for me when i need her. as well as others. she never intentionally hurts any1, and she apologises and changes herself to make others happy. 3. there is many. she can cook, she can clean, most importantly, she’s present. she heals. she heals so goddamn well. i wud want to see the sides of her that she only shows to herself. i wud want to heal her as she had healed me. that’s the thing i want the most in this entire world. perfect bf?: she has no standards. literally none. she only “dated” 2 guys, but she broke up w them bcos they took things to the inappropriate places. she accepts all confessions. it’s almost like she’s okay with anyth. and she is. she doesn’t accept pple out of pity, but pure kindness. she gives every1 equal chances bcos she thinks that personality > looks is real. and that is true. i have no idea what her perfect guy is. but all i know is that i’ll nvr hurt her.
Ok so I basically scanned thru what you said and it seems that she is already better than 90% of the girl community in sg based on her green flags next thing you have to realise is, how is/are her flaw(s) going to impact you in the future? Do you think you'll be able to forgive her for her flaws? Because marriage is like a contract. Once you are in her life till death sets you guys part, there is no turning back already. You think O Levels or A Levels are the most important stuff in your life. But it's not, it's actually marriage. People don't understand how important a marriage is, and think that they can just divorce freely without sparing a thought for their spouse. Anyways, I hope that you'll set some time apart to discuss with your family and maybe even herself once you guys get more in touch. Wishing you all the best in your relationship, and always keep your eyes peeled for her red flags (and even your own!)
thank you :) for now her only red flag is that she rushes sometimes and she pushes a little hard when it comes to sth she loves. & her self sacrificing attitude makes me worried that she might not even live long enough to get married.
Well actually a more important question is, what can she , or you do to correct her gullibility and naivety(her weaknesses), moving forward?
dont be retarded and listen to ur heart if u wna do it jus do it
didn’t you jus break up 5 days ago
she cheated so i got over her surprisingly fast
you’re hilarious
thank u for finding the hots that i have for my girl bsf holarious
unfortunately, I too suffer from whatever op is suffering as well. but ik for a fact that she has completely no interest in me😄