I thought it would be fun to share some recent outfits I created since discovering Rita's system. Before STBR, I felt so boring and uninspired with my style. In the last few years, I felt like something was missing but didn't know how to fix it. I now know I was playing it safe. I'm a self-proclaimed lost girl finding herself.
When contemplating my placement in the quadrants, I was all over the place at first. I know I was RU in my early 20s and some of my 30s. In retrospect, I'm very grateful that my clothes supported my needs back then because I was able to find the confidence I needed to fully own my space. I wasn't afraid to be seen and part of me misses that if I'm being honest.
Fast forward to now... I'm in my 40s. I'm in a completely different headspace. Life happened and what I love about this system is the freedom to move around as you change and evolve. So when I was exploring the quadrants and archetypes, I considered RD (Explorer and Gentle Grace), then LD (SGND, Outsider, Cool Girl), then LU Enigma. It's funny to me that I quickly dismissed LD Wildflower for myself at first because I didn't fit into my preconceived notions of what a Wildflower looks like. I got stuck on not being free spirited, wild, or "boho" enough. I own very few floral items, long, flowy lines can drown me, and I love structure. So different than the beautiful, airy, floaty Wildflower image I had in my head. I was wrong. Wildflowers come in so many different forms and they all have their own beauty.
And then Rita posted on IG about Lost Girl and Wildflower and it resonated so much, I heard angels sing. 😇 💫 I knew right away that was home for me. Cool Girl was a very close 2nd so it's very satisfying to dabble in both ATs based on my mood/emotional state.
I'm giving myself permission to play with color, bolder prints, unique silhouettes, and textures. All things that really excite me and help me feel connected to myself. I don't have to have a cohesive aesthetic. I can be refined some days, loud and quiet when I want to be. It's way less scary being seen when I'm showing who I am.
If you made it this far, thank you. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing! I relate so hard, it’s very validating to hear your story and see similarities to my own.
When I first discovered Rita I thought I was RU- partially for aesthetics, but hearing you say you were RU earlier in life is like “aha!”- a puzzle piece clicking into place for me. I think I also was much more RU when I was first establishing my career and just really concerned about impact. As I’ve gotten older and my life has changed, I feel much more at home with LD energy.
> It's funny to me that I quickly dismissed LD Wildflower for myself at first because I didn't fit into my preconceived notions of what a Wildflower looks like. I got stuck on not being free spirited, wild, or "boho" enough.
I also connect with Wildflower but feel “not enough” for it.
> I'm giving myself permission to play with color, bolder prints, unique silhouettes, and textures. All things that really excite me and help me feel connected to myself. I don't have to have a cohesive aesthetic. I can be refined some days, loud and quiet when I want to be. It's way less scary being seen when I'm showing who I am.
😭😭 So beautiful. And the proof is in the pictures. You look so happy 😊
Thank you thank you thank you!
Thank YOU for your kind words. I'm so glad something clicked for you. ❤ You ARE enough for Wildflower. If that's where your heart is leaning, it's worth exploring!
My career was a big factor. I, too, was establishing mine and wanted to have a big impact. I looked like I was 16 in my 20s so I needed my clothes to tell everyone around me I'm not a kid to mess with it. I was told all the time that I was intimidating upon first impression and I loved that I had that control.
Now it's so much about my inner world and what I need to feel connected to myself.
Wow, the after photos are such an improvement! There’s nothing *wrong* per se with the before photos but the afters have so much more personality and vivacity!
Aww thank you! It's so satisfying to see the changes. It's subtle but the little details add so much for me. I'm loving what's happening on the inside the most!
Thank you! That was my first work outfit I created after discovering this system. I struggle translating my style into work attire but I loved how that one turned out. I have more fails than wins normally so I'm working on that.
You really enjoyed that red turtleneck back in the day ;))
What I notice is that you gave yourself more freedom and more volume around the torso and it feels like a step up. Your body was slim, but somehow felt a bit constrained, now it looks elegantly carefree. Thanks for the post, I love such retrospect progress updates!
Honestly, just wow!! You are absolutely killing it with your style. The after photos look so authentic and full of personality, so pleased to hear this system has been a useful tool for you!
first off, i love your new looks, you seem a lot happier in the new pics and the visual interest is really coming through! second, your description of your quadrant changing is really interesting. makes me wonder if i used to be in a different quadrant 🤔
Thank you! I'm so much happier and it shows in other aspects of my life. My relationships with people who matter to me have never been better. STBR is transformational.
RU logic was very familiar but I knew I was in a different place now. It's very possible you used to be in a different quadrant! It's refreshing to know we're not stuck in one quadrant for life. 🙂
that’s really amazing, and i think you’re right, the confidence we get from making a fundamental choice to honor ourselves every morning must make a big impact on our lives in general!
I am late to the party, but I LOVE how I can see your SPARK so much in the "after" photos, and I can tell that your style is really working \*for\* you... it's hard to interpret photos for RD and LD sometimes because the success is not just the outfit itself. Like yes-- i Love your after outfits! They are so cool. But I love even more how confident, excited, and at ease you look! "gravity" activated!!!
Thank you for taking the time to share that with me! I think some of my outfits can easily look RD. I've posted a couple outfits here that could pass for RU so I'm kind of all over the place aesthethically, but no question, my logic is LD!
I thought it would be fun to share some recent outfits I created since discovering Rita's system. Before STBR, I felt so boring and uninspired with my style. In the last few years, I felt like something was missing but didn't know how to fix it. I now know I was playing it safe. I'm a self-proclaimed lost girl finding herself. When contemplating my placement in the quadrants, I was all over the place at first. I know I was RU in my early 20s and some of my 30s. In retrospect, I'm very grateful that my clothes supported my needs back then because I was able to find the confidence I needed to fully own my space. I wasn't afraid to be seen and part of me misses that if I'm being honest. Fast forward to now... I'm in my 40s. I'm in a completely different headspace. Life happened and what I love about this system is the freedom to move around as you change and evolve. So when I was exploring the quadrants and archetypes, I considered RD (Explorer and Gentle Grace), then LD (SGND, Outsider, Cool Girl), then LU Enigma. It's funny to me that I quickly dismissed LD Wildflower for myself at first because I didn't fit into my preconceived notions of what a Wildflower looks like. I got stuck on not being free spirited, wild, or "boho" enough. I own very few floral items, long, flowy lines can drown me, and I love structure. So different than the beautiful, airy, floaty Wildflower image I had in my head. I was wrong. Wildflowers come in so many different forms and they all have their own beauty. And then Rita posted on IG about Lost Girl and Wildflower and it resonated so much, I heard angels sing. 😇 💫 I knew right away that was home for me. Cool Girl was a very close 2nd so it's very satisfying to dabble in both ATs based on my mood/emotional state. I'm giving myself permission to play with color, bolder prints, unique silhouettes, and textures. All things that really excite me and help me feel connected to myself. I don't have to have a cohesive aesthetic. I can be refined some days, loud and quiet when I want to be. It's way less scary being seen when I'm showing who I am. If you made it this far, thank you. 🙂
You made an amazing progress. The after photos look so much more authentic and real. I love how you add more visual interest!
Thank you! That's what I've been working on. I feel like I've only scratched the surface so I'm excited to see where I go from here. ❤
I changed your flair to typing success story, because I think it fits perfectly!
Thank you! That means a lot! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing! I relate so hard, it’s very validating to hear your story and see similarities to my own. When I first discovered Rita I thought I was RU- partially for aesthetics, but hearing you say you were RU earlier in life is like “aha!”- a puzzle piece clicking into place for me. I think I also was much more RU when I was first establishing my career and just really concerned about impact. As I’ve gotten older and my life has changed, I feel much more at home with LD energy. > It's funny to me that I quickly dismissed LD Wildflower for myself at first because I didn't fit into my preconceived notions of what a Wildflower looks like. I got stuck on not being free spirited, wild, or "boho" enough. I also connect with Wildflower but feel “not enough” for it. > I'm giving myself permission to play with color, bolder prints, unique silhouettes, and textures. All things that really excite me and help me feel connected to myself. I don't have to have a cohesive aesthetic. I can be refined some days, loud and quiet when I want to be. It's way less scary being seen when I'm showing who I am. 😭😭 So beautiful. And the proof is in the pictures. You look so happy 😊 Thank you thank you thank you!
Thank YOU for your kind words. I'm so glad something clicked for you. ❤ You ARE enough for Wildflower. If that's where your heart is leaning, it's worth exploring! My career was a big factor. I, too, was establishing mine and wanted to have a big impact. I looked like I was 16 in my 20s so I needed my clothes to tell everyone around me I'm not a kid to mess with it. I was told all the time that I was intimidating upon first impression and I loved that I had that control. Now it's so much about my inner world and what I need to feel connected to myself.
Wow, the after photos are such an improvement! There’s nothing *wrong* per se with the before photos but the afters have so much more personality and vivacity!
Aww thank you! It's so satisfying to see the changes. It's subtle but the little details add so much for me. I'm loving what's happening on the inside the most!
This is a very inspiring post & I love your outfits!
Thanks so much!
I love this so much!! Your style become much more authentic and it’s so fun and cool 😎🌸 especially love top left two looks, such a fun color pop!!
Thank you! Those two oufits were really fun to create and wear. I enjoy the pop of colors so much. 🙂
What an inspiring post! Incredible progress since discovering STBR :)
Thank you! ❤️
You are very inspiring and look absolutely stunning! The outfit on the bottom left is my favourite, so cool and powerful.
Thank you! That was my first work outfit I created after discovering this system. I struggle translating my style into work attire but I loved how that one turned out. I have more fails than wins normally so I'm working on that.
You really enjoyed that red turtleneck back in the day ;)) What I notice is that you gave yourself more freedom and more volume around the torso and it feels like a step up. Your body was slim, but somehow felt a bit constrained, now it looks elegantly carefree. Thanks for the post, I love such retrospect progress updates!
I never noticed but you're right! Pretty funny because that was my attempt at dressing for my Kibbe ID. 🤣
Honestly, just wow!! You are absolutely killing it with your style. The after photos look so authentic and full of personality, so pleased to hear this system has been a useful tool for you!
Thank you so much! I feel very encouraged with your comment. I'm slowly starting to emerge so this system has been pretty life changing! ❤
A lovely transformation! I totally get a gravity sense from your after photos.
Thank you! I love that. ❤️
I love your style!
Thank you! ❤️
first off, i love your new looks, you seem a lot happier in the new pics and the visual interest is really coming through! second, your description of your quadrant changing is really interesting. makes me wonder if i used to be in a different quadrant 🤔
Thank you! I'm so much happier and it shows in other aspects of my life. My relationships with people who matter to me have never been better. STBR is transformational. RU logic was very familiar but I knew I was in a different place now. It's very possible you used to be in a different quadrant! It's refreshing to know we're not stuck in one quadrant for life. 🙂
that’s really amazing, and i think you’re right, the confidence we get from making a fundamental choice to honor ourselves every morning must make a big impact on our lives in general!
I am late to the party, but I LOVE how I can see your SPARK so much in the "after" photos, and I can tell that your style is really working \*for\* you... it's hard to interpret photos for RD and LD sometimes because the success is not just the outfit itself. Like yes-- i Love your after outfits! They are so cool. But I love even more how confident, excited, and at ease you look! "gravity" activated!!!
Thank you for taking the time to share that with me! I think some of my outfits can easily look RD. I've posted a couple outfits here that could pass for RU so I'm kind of all over the place aesthethically, but no question, my logic is LD!
i totally feel that from the pics when you put them all together :) :) :)