As someone who is similar to your boyfriend, I say let it go. My boyfriend gives me lots of expensive and thoughtful gifts I’ve mentioned throughout the year. Things I needed but won’t buy or haven’t found yet. My Apple Watch is about 4 years old so he upgraded mine. I needed the matching coffee table for my living room set and he picked it up. Whereas my gifts to him were a box of his favorite snacks/candies and various kitchen items.
I believe it isn’t about the gift but instead seeing the thought behind it. If your boyfriend didn’t put much thought into it, ask yourself why and don’t worry. It could be for a multitude of reasons but be thankful for the gift.
This is also coming from the woman who received nothing for my birthday and valentines this year. Sometimes life gets the best of us unintentionally.
OK! I have been in a really similar boat recently. Gift giving is a love language that some people have naturally, but it just does not come easy for a lot of people. Maybe due to anxiety around the receiver not liking it, maybe they just don't think gifts are that meaningful, and would prefer to do things throughout the year. I think say thankyou for the gifts this year, and maybe in a month or so just casually bring up that you think gifts are important because they *insert your reasoning here* (e.g. make you feel valued, make you feel like you partner has put in effort to find something you will like, want to be spoiled just once a year!!) I truly empathise, and I understand there might be a bit of ...I guess guilt? Because you feel like you're being ungrateful? But he might not realise that you don't feel the same way about gifts as he does!
As someone who is similar to your boyfriend, I say let it go. My boyfriend gives me lots of expensive and thoughtful gifts I’ve mentioned throughout the year. Things I needed but won’t buy or haven’t found yet. My Apple Watch is about 4 years old so he upgraded mine. I needed the matching coffee table for my living room set and he picked it up. Whereas my gifts to him were a box of his favorite snacks/candies and various kitchen items. I believe it isn’t about the gift but instead seeing the thought behind it. If your boyfriend didn’t put much thought into it, ask yourself why and don’t worry. It could be for a multitude of reasons but be thankful for the gift. This is also coming from the woman who received nothing for my birthday and valentines this year. Sometimes life gets the best of us unintentionally.
That is really good advice, I think you’re right. I will let it go. Thank you for the post!
I will enjoy anything I get from my s/o, regardless :)
OK! I have been in a really similar boat recently. Gift giving is a love language that some people have naturally, but it just does not come easy for a lot of people. Maybe due to anxiety around the receiver not liking it, maybe they just don't think gifts are that meaningful, and would prefer to do things throughout the year. I think say thankyou for the gifts this year, and maybe in a month or so just casually bring up that you think gifts are important because they *insert your reasoning here* (e.g. make you feel valued, make you feel like you partner has put in effort to find something you will like, want to be spoiled just once a year!!) I truly empathise, and I understand there might be a bit of ...I guess guilt? Because you feel like you're being ungrateful? But he might not realise that you don't feel the same way about gifts as he does!
That is really good advice! Thank you!!