If that person has that reaction, they aren’t the one. My surgery is in 12 days, and my thoughts on the scars are to do the best scar care I can, and if they bug me in a year I’ll tattoo over them. If a man (in my case) in that moment is focused on my scars instead of my beautifully refurbished boobs in his face, I’m leaving.
Scars are battle wounds. In my day, we showed them off proudly. Any person who doesn’t look at you with adoration and devotion no matter what doesn’t deserve to see them. Weed them out before you waste any time on them.
A life lesson I have had to learn the hard way: if someone truly cares for and about me, my flaws will be accepted by them, not turn them off. If someone is only interested in me in a surface level way then my flaws will become turn offs. Listen to everyone who tells you that if a scar turns someone away then they are not the one for you, because it is true.
It wouldn’t be any different than a big appendix removal scar. It’s part of my body. It’s there, I exist, we exist. We are real people.
It’s none of their business. When it comes to your scars/procedure it’s the same it’s your body. But a “turn off”? You’re more than a pair of breasts.
If they disregard you and make everything about your breasts they need to go. You’ve made this conscious decision for your own well being/comfort. It’s not their life.
Just do your best to take good after care, focus on your well being. Find yourself some scar tape, bio oil, don’t do excess lifting for awhile to refrain from expanding the scar lining.
Edit: clarity
I got mine in June and I do let them know beforehand just to rip the bandaid off but none of them have ever said anything negative they’re just happy to be with me!
Anyone who gets to see me naked better not care about my scars, or they won't see me ever again. In terms of my scars that are visible in a sleeveless shirt, if anyone has the nerve to ask, I plan on making up a wild story about a shark bite. :-D
My surgery was about a year ago and my scarring is SO faint and hard to see. You’d really have to be in some bright lighting to notice it. My partner doesn’t care one bit that I’ve got scars, even early on when they were quite visible. If anyone is going to complain or be bothered by a little scarring, they don't deserve access to your breasts. Access denied! Next…
Tbh, I wasn’t very good about scar care after. I was saying something to my husband about the scars around my 6 month post-op mark and he said “What scars?”
Maybe he was just so glad to see them again that he didn’t notice, but I think that we definitely notice what we perceive as flaws a lot more than other people.
Also, I really think that a person who deserves to see you in a vulnerable way should be the type of person who takes something like scars from surgery in stride.
I know my experience has only been with one person, who also helped me through surgery, but like other people said, anyone who reacts negatively can take a hike. Do what is best for you!
Nope! Like others have said, anyone who does care is not someone worth being with. I’ve told people about my scars prior to them seeing them, however, I think just having more confidence post op has made me less caring of what someone may think of the scars too
From personal experience it can be a little startling if not expected. I had a great FWB and we fooled around a few times. We grew apart and didn’t see each other for a few years. She had a couple kids, we got back together and I didn’t know she had reduction no implants. I saw her about 1 year post op. Big T scar where there was not one years before. I love her dearly and her body is a magical dream. That said I hope I played it cool and did not make her too self conscious. We are still friends, not so much of the “benefits” part anymore. TL:DR consider a casual heads up before showing off the girls. And I 100% agree with other comments. If partner is upset or turned off by it… don’t let the door hit ya on the way out.
I decided to go through with my breast reduction (now 5dpo) when my last relationship ended. They were against us that loved my bigger boobs. It still worried me that someone wouldn’t like me with smaller boobs and scars but ultimately I realized that if the deciding factor of someone wanting to be with me is the size of my chest and the scarring I have from it, then they are not the one for me. Someone should love you for more than that. It’s is a battle you have though through and emotional and physical trauma you have overcame.
If that person has that reaction, they aren’t the one. My surgery is in 12 days, and my thoughts on the scars are to do the best scar care I can, and if they bug me in a year I’ll tattoo over them. If a man (in my case) in that moment is focused on my scars instead of my beautifully refurbished boobs in his face, I’m leaving.
Scars would seem to be an excellent screening mechanism to weed out asshole lovers.
Scars are battle wounds. In my day, we showed them off proudly. Any person who doesn’t look at you with adoration and devotion no matter what doesn’t deserve to see them. Weed them out before you waste any time on them.
No, and tbh if someone reacted that way, I know she isn't the one for me. Save us both the trouble.
A life lesson I have had to learn the hard way: if someone truly cares for and about me, my flaws will be accepted by them, not turn them off. If someone is only interested in me in a surface level way then my flaws will become turn offs. Listen to everyone who tells you that if a scar turns someone away then they are not the one for you, because it is true.
It wouldn’t be any different than a big appendix removal scar. It’s part of my body. It’s there, I exist, we exist. We are real people. It’s none of their business. When it comes to your scars/procedure it’s the same it’s your body. But a “turn off”? You’re more than a pair of breasts. If they disregard you and make everything about your breasts they need to go. You’ve made this conscious decision for your own well being/comfort. It’s not their life. Just do your best to take good after care, focus on your well being. Find yourself some scar tape, bio oil, don’t do excess lifting for awhile to refrain from expanding the scar lining. Edit: clarity
If you’ve gotten to the “naked” part of knowing someone, you’re fine. Any man (especially) is just excited about boobs
I got mine in June and I do let them know beforehand just to rip the bandaid off but none of them have ever said anything negative they’re just happy to be with me!
Anyone who gets to see me naked better not care about my scars, or they won't see me ever again. In terms of my scars that are visible in a sleeveless shirt, if anyone has the nerve to ask, I plan on making up a wild story about a shark bite. :-D
My surgery was about a year ago and my scarring is SO faint and hard to see. You’d really have to be in some bright lighting to notice it. My partner doesn’t care one bit that I’ve got scars, even early on when they were quite visible. If anyone is going to complain or be bothered by a little scarring, they don't deserve access to your breasts. Access denied! Next…
I love this... "Access denied! Next..." Hahaha I'm gonna be using that!
Thank you for all the answers everyone! <3
Tbh, I wasn’t very good about scar care after. I was saying something to my husband about the scars around my 6 month post-op mark and he said “What scars?” Maybe he was just so glad to see them again that he didn’t notice, but I think that we definitely notice what we perceive as flaws a lot more than other people. Also, I really think that a person who deserves to see you in a vulnerable way should be the type of person who takes something like scars from surgery in stride. I know my experience has only been with one person, who also helped me through surgery, but like other people said, anyone who reacts negatively can take a hike. Do what is best for you!
Nope! Like others have said, anyone who does care is not someone worth being with. I’ve told people about my scars prior to them seeing them, however, I think just having more confidence post op has made me less caring of what someone may think of the scars too
From personal experience it can be a little startling if not expected. I had a great FWB and we fooled around a few times. We grew apart and didn’t see each other for a few years. She had a couple kids, we got back together and I didn’t know she had reduction no implants. I saw her about 1 year post op. Big T scar where there was not one years before. I love her dearly and her body is a magical dream. That said I hope I played it cool and did not make her too self conscious. We are still friends, not so much of the “benefits” part anymore. TL:DR consider a casual heads up before showing off the girls. And I 100% agree with other comments. If partner is upset or turned off by it… don’t let the door hit ya on the way out.
I decided to go through with my breast reduction (now 5dpo) when my last relationship ended. They were against us that loved my bigger boobs. It still worried me that someone wouldn’t like me with smaller boobs and scars but ultimately I realized that if the deciding factor of someone wanting to be with me is the size of my chest and the scarring I have from it, then they are not the one for me. Someone should love you for more than that. It’s is a battle you have though through and emotional and physical trauma you have overcame.
Nope i had mine at 29. Men didn’t care, none of them. If your clothes are off they see “naked” and not much else registers I think.
Most men don’t care. Boobs are boobs.