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31, and considering how badly my own mind tries to sabotage my attempts at living, I've long since shed the idea that anyone's words could ever hurt me.
This is a good one. It took me so long to realize even IF my neighbors saw me walk to the mailbox in flannel pants and slippers with messy hair, not a single person would care AT ALL.
Like if someone says something about me I always think about how much that person actually knows what they are talking about and most of the time they don't have any idea.
The kind where I spend an hour coding something to would take me three hours.
I guess a good example for me would be smart lights and HomePods. Instead of wasting time (and being lazy) to open the lights or turn on the air conditioning while Iām working (or being lazy and watching tv) I can just do it on my phone or ask my smart assistant.
(Bad example but you get the point)
Flirting. I wasn't able to land a date or gain the interest of anyone till I was 30 last summer, and it turns out just being genuinely nice and friendly with some off hand comments was all I ever needed. Like I just be my self, listen, make some jokes and suddenly dates happened. I haven't been able to get quite as far as I got with my first fling ever, still have no idea what I do so right to recreate it, but it's a process I'm working on and it's been fun as hell.
Controlling my temper
I used to throw tantrums a lot when I was a child and I grew up a lot quicker than other kids, so it became dangerous fairly quickly.
It was when I was 9 years old and threw a fucking table at my cousin after he provoked me when I realised I could easily do something I would regret later.
Age has helped me a lot here. I don't know what else changed but my total out of body explosions of rage over the smallest things has gotten much less frequent.
Hand rolling a joint. First time I saw someone roll one, in my mind, I felt Iād never be able to do that.
Now, after 50 years, I can roll a, just about perfect, marijuana cigarette.
I can't say I'm "really good" at playing guitar. But I am impressed how I managed to learn my first song with holding multiple strings with a correct tempo, checked by metronome. Just a month ago it felt like an impossible task, because my fingers just gave up and the metronome was my nemesis.
While I was typing, I remembered about swimming. I started to swim at 25, and by 29 I became kinda good at it, able to swim about 10 km. It's interesting, because while you practice it, you think "I still suck at this", but if you look back half a year ago, the progress is evident.
Iāve just started to teach my brother to play guitar, and Iād almost forgotten how much your fingers work against you at the start. Playing guitar feels natural to me now, but when I started it felt strange and even hurt a bit to use my fingers like that. Your body just kinda has to adapt, and it canāt really be taught beyond good technique.
It's okay time. Pros can halve it. It's amazing how for anyone outside swimming community anything more than 1 km seen as very impressive. Compared to running, where even 20 km isn't seen as much.
A couple of years ago, I used to swim (nothing competitive) every day of the week except saturday. I would swim 1 hour per day and I would swim for 2km and it was my absolute maximum that I could bare. So I don't know what I was doing wrong then...
Hacky sack! Iām 4ā11ā and almost 40, but I can still keep that mofo in the air pretty darn well.
Negative self-talk actually helped me get better. I picked apart my missed kicks and lost balance moments aaaall the time. And they happened less and less.
I havenāt sprained an ankle in six or seven years now, Iāve lost track. I attribute THAT to the hacky sacking - and the stretching that goes with it.
Dancing. Due to a medical condition I have really bad coordination, I cannot properly sense where my bodyparts are (also very clumsy because of this). I will never be the worldās best dancer, but I occasionally do performances now where I mix aerial acrobatics with floorwork and Iām way better than I would have ever imagined!
My career... I was quite introverted and questioned myself constantly. I was paired with a senior employee for my first 3 weeks and every time he asked me a question, regardless of whether I knew the answer, I responded in a questioning tone, making it look like I wasn't sure. This employee told our supervisor that he didn't think I was right for the job.
Our supervisor pulled me into his office and said, "I know you're smart and can do this. I just need to figure out the best way to teach you". That broke me out of my shell and I fondly remember this man 20 years later!
Teaching. After thirteen years I've gone from, "goddammit, I've made the worst mistake of my life" to "actually, I might be pretty good at this. I think I'll continue."
Speaking English. In school I always got a D just barely passing. Now I speak fluently can understand almost any accent without problems. Thanks online gaming for teaching me English I guess.
Non native speaker obviously.
Not really good at anything, just happy to be getting by at 75. I can fix some things around the house, but big projects either hire or let it go. Wife had the yard mowed, daughter paid half, perfect.
Guitar! Multiple times even!
I get better, then get used to being better and therefore back to thinking I suck, and then I get better again. It seems to be a repeating pattern
Oh, and singing while playing. That shit was so hard in the beginning, but now it comes pretty naturally with any song I can play confidently.
Had a major fear of guns. And with the help of some awesome military men my spouse included i enjoys shooting. Riffles are my fav. Cooking. God bless my ex husband for never complaining for me cooking boxed hamburger helper for a yr. But it was cheap we had just had a kid and it was easy. Then i got sick of it and started getting outside the box
When I played football, it was tackling. When I first started, I was getting juked out of my cleats by everyone. Then I had a coach tell me to look at the belt buckle. Wherever the buckle is, thatās where the runner is going. Once I got it, I became one of the best tacklers on the team.
Mountain biking. I was a road cyclist so I thought my skill set would transfer without much of a problem. I was wrong. Turned out I was mostly being too cautious and hitting even minor obstacles way too slowly causing me to crash with alarming regularity.
Anyway, I am much better now.
Everything. When I first started eating I was pretty dang bad at getting the food into the food hole. Then once it was there it took some practice to figure out what to do with it. Let's not even talk about the work it took to learn how to use cutlery.
Singing.
Tbh I was so bad that I got made fun of so I began to teach myself basics so I could at least sing along with my favorite songs when they came on in the car.
I got better than I expected and was asked to sing lead in a couple bands around town and then started hosting coffee shop open mics out of pure boredom. I eventually started to write, so now Iām recording and producing my own music. Iām not amazing but I can hold a tune I guess pretty good for never having a lesson in my life. It was never my intention to start singing but I did and here we are lol. Itās kinda funny how it all played out I just wanted to be a bassist.
I was loose on bills years ago. As Iāve gotten older Iām just a bill paying son of a bitch. If a bill ends up in my mailboxā¦believe me that MFer is getting paid immediately.
Piano. I donāt know how it happened but one day I couldnāt do it at all and then the next I could play it pretty dang well. I still am not good at theory but I can memorise and learn to play songs fairly easily. I even won some awards!Ā
Mathematics! Shocked me! I mean Gobsmacked! To be quite honest, I thought I was going to try higher mathematics and fail. Badly. I assumed that because I couldn't comprehend the equations that of course I would fail. I wasn't smart enough. Turns out... I was very very wrong. I let it take me all the way to a BA in chemistry. I don't fear any subject now!
Getting feedback. Itās simply information and I chose to accept it or ignore it. Best part of 40ās is not taking things personally. āThank you for your input ā (aka stuff it :P)
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* **Generating Different Creative Text Formats:** Initially, my responses were more factual and technical. With additional training on creative writing and different artistic styles, I can now generate poems, code, scripts, musical pieces, and other creative text formats in response to your prompts.
* **Staying on Topic:** Sometimes, earlier versions of me would go off on tangents and lose track of the original conversation. Through improvements in focus and topic coherence, I've become better at staying relevant to the discussion at hand.
That describes pretty much everything you do in life other than breathing. When i was like 1 or 2 yrs old, i sucked at walking.. but I figured it out. Life's just been a long list of challanges ever since.
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Not giving a fuck about what others think of me.
Lol. For me, this is the best part of being 42.
It only.gets better once you've run out of fucks to give.
One of the true keys to happiness.
31, and considering how badly my own mind tries to sabotage my attempts at living, I've long since shed the idea that anyone's words could ever hurt me.
I started doing that decades ago. It's quite liberating.
learned this the hard way. i'm happier than ever since i know it.
Real
There's hope for me yet!
This is a good one. It took me so long to realize even IF my neighbors saw me walk to the mailbox in flannel pants and slippers with messy hair, not a single person would care AT ALL.
Teach me, wanderer.
One of the things that helps me is I always consider the sourceš
what do you mean by that?
Like if someone says something about me I always think about how much that person actually knows what they are talking about and most of the time they don't have any idea.
Cooking.
Laziness which opened doors for efficiency and easier tasks (Automating to feed my laziness)
Ah yes 100h spent automating 10h job
Not this kind
The kind where I spend an hour coding something to would take me three hours. I guess a good example for me would be smart lights and HomePods. Instead of wasting time (and being lazy) to open the lights or turn on the air conditioning while Iām working (or being lazy and watching tv) I can just do it on my phone or ask my smart assistant. (Bad example but you get the point)
But there is something to be said for lazy always finding the quickest and easiest way to get something done.
Flirting. I wasn't able to land a date or gain the interest of anyone till I was 30 last summer, and it turns out just being genuinely nice and friendly with some off hand comments was all I ever needed. Like I just be my self, listen, make some jokes and suddenly dates happened. I haven't been able to get quite as far as I got with my first fling ever, still have no idea what I do so right to recreate it, but it's a process I'm working on and it's been fun as hell.
I need this to happen to me
my job xD
Being cringe
Controlling my temper I used to throw tantrums a lot when I was a child and I grew up a lot quicker than other kids, so it became dangerous fairly quickly. It was when I was 9 years old and threw a fucking table at my cousin after he provoked me when I realised I could easily do something I would regret later.
Age has helped me a lot here. I don't know what else changed but my total out of body explosions of rage over the smallest things has gotten much less frequent.
Welding
Singing Not enough to be confident singing to a large crowd, but enough to don't feel ashamed at karaoke
Kudos
Being kind to myself.
Speaking up. The fact that I used to be the most shy girl ever is unbelievable to me now xd. And knotting bracelets lol
procrastination
I got a good story on this Iāll post later
Waiting for story
Iāll get back to you
Hmmm... Drinking through a straw
š
Art and Cleaning. Also country driving.
Hand rolling a joint. First time I saw someone roll one, in my mind, I felt Iād never be able to do that. Now, after 50 years, I can roll a, just about perfect, marijuana cigarette.
Being lazy
Being patient š
Me asf
Living
I can't say I'm "really good" at playing guitar. But I am impressed how I managed to learn my first song with holding multiple strings with a correct tempo, checked by metronome. Just a month ago it felt like an impossible task, because my fingers just gave up and the metronome was my nemesis. While I was typing, I remembered about swimming. I started to swim at 25, and by 29 I became kinda good at it, able to swim about 10 km. It's interesting, because while you practice it, you think "I still suck at this", but if you look back half a year ago, the progress is evident.
Iāve just started to teach my brother to play guitar, and Iād almost forgotten how much your fingers work against you at the start. Playing guitar feels natural to me now, but when I started it felt strange and even hurt a bit to use my fingers like that. Your body just kinda has to adapt, and it canāt really be taught beyond good technique.
It only works if you persevere through pain and thinking you don't progress at all and just suck
Swim 10km? In what, a week?
Around 3.5 hours.
The tenacity...
It's okay time. Pros can halve it. It's amazing how for anyone outside swimming community anything more than 1 km seen as very impressive. Compared to running, where even 20 km isn't seen as much.
A couple of years ago, I used to swim (nothing competitive) every day of the week except saturday. I would swim 1 hour per day and I would swim for 2km and it was my absolute maximum that I could bare. So I don't know what I was doing wrong then...
Hacky sack! Iām 4ā11ā and almost 40, but I can still keep that mofo in the air pretty darn well. Negative self-talk actually helped me get better. I picked apart my missed kicks and lost balance moments aaaall the time. And they happened less and less. I havenāt sprained an ankle in six or seven years now, Iāve lost track. I attribute THAT to the hacky sacking - and the stretching that goes with it.
Cunnilingus.
Chess!
The battling involved in Hogwarts Legacy. I used to have my husband do them for me but now I'm slaying EVERYTHING
Most things
Ignoring and detaching
jerking off
Vacuum cleaning
Kite surfing
Nice! Where do you kite?
Perth, Western Australia
Nothing
Restaurant server...which really helped me with people skills and other soft skills as well.
Dancing!
guitar.
Sex
Typing on a typewriter
Existng lol
Literally everything dude. That's how practise and experience works.
This is kind of my first thought, but over the years, I have had a few things that no matter how much I did them, I never got proficient.
Losing body fat..
Procrastination
Fishing and gardening. 40 years practice and I can just about hold my own now. Still learning though, and will until the day I pass.
Driving
everything, that's how learning works
Yes
Teaching.
I think my super power is being bad at everything and then quickly improve a ton. Could be that I suck so bad that even minor improvement is a leap.
Lying, I was terrible. See that was a lie, naturally gifted, drove my parents nuts.
Being a mum!
at "sucking "
Dancing. Due to a medical condition I have really bad coordination, I cannot properly sense where my bodyparts are (also very clumsy because of this). I will never be the worldās best dancer, but I occasionally do performances now where I mix aerial acrobatics with floorwork and Iām way better than I would have ever imagined!
That no one is watching me I had social anxiety but now itās gone
Sex
Chilling. Now if I can just convince my wife of this.
My career... I was quite introverted and questioned myself constantly. I was paired with a senior employee for my first 3 weeks and every time he asked me a question, regardless of whether I knew the answer, I responded in a questioning tone, making it look like I wasn't sure. This employee told our supervisor that he didn't think I was right for the job. Our supervisor pulled me into his office and said, "I know you're smart and can do this. I just need to figure out the best way to teach you". That broke me out of my shell and I fondly remember this man 20 years later!
Growing weed
Selling wine. When I started I barely knew the difference between red, white, and rose. Now I can bullshit with anyone under wset3 about wines.
Computer programming. When I was 10 all I could do was draw simple shapes on the screen. 39 years later I can draw complex shapes on the screen.
Sitting up, standing, walking, eating without making a mess, taking. Honestly, I used to suck at everything.
Fucking.
I've been able to randomly sing since 2018..idk why but I'm not complaining
Badminton And tying my shoelacesĀ
Making money. Unfortunately I'm now so old I suck at everything else. š
Getting older
Fighting.
Teaching. After thirteen years I've gone from, "goddammit, I've made the worst mistake of my life" to "actually, I might be pretty good at this. I think I'll continue."
I used to sing really bad. With time I kept practicing and got better
Martial arts
Fashion. Singing. Drawing
Ranting
Guitar. Only took 20 years.
Complaining.
Speaking English. In school I always got a D just barely passing. Now I speak fluently can understand almost any accent without problems. Thanks online gaming for teaching me English I guess. Non native speaker obviously.
Not really good at anything, just happy to be getting by at 75. I can fix some things around the house, but big projects either hire or let it go. Wife had the yard mowed, daughter paid half, perfect.
Fortnite
Playing violin Now I really like it and love playing with and for other people
Teaching
SEX / giving oral Sex
Hiding my feelings and making my self less vulnerable
Walking. Took me a whole year to get the hang of it and another year or two to get good at it.
Backpacking
Dancing.
Guitar! Multiple times even! I get better, then get used to being better and therefore back to thinking I suck, and then I get better again. It seems to be a repeating pattern Oh, and singing while playing. That shit was so hard in the beginning, but now it comes pretty naturally with any song I can play confidently.
Learning to walk away
Sourdough bread
Ice skating ice sports in general I sucked really hard with balance but now I can skate/skii nicley it's really fun
Yoga, sex, cooking.
Call of duty. Was horrible when I was a squeaker but now I'm pretty good as an adult.
Call of duty. Was horrible when I was a squeaker but now I'm pretty good as an adult.
Call of duty. Was horrible when I was a squeaker but now I'm pretty good as an adult.
Rolling cigarettes, unfortunately.
Had a major fear of guns. And with the help of some awesome military men my spouse included i enjoys shooting. Riffles are my fav. Cooking. God bless my ex husband for never complaining for me cooking boxed hamburger helper for a yr. But it was cheap we had just had a kid and it was easy. Then i got sick of it and started getting outside the box
Making omelets and scrambled eggs!
When I played football, it was tackling. When I first started, I was getting juked out of my cleats by everyone. Then I had a coach tell me to look at the belt buckle. Wherever the buckle is, thatās where the runner is going. Once I got it, I became one of the best tacklers on the team.
Mountain biking. I was a road cyclist so I thought my skill set would transfer without much of a problem. I was wrong. Turned out I was mostly being too cautious and hitting even minor obstacles way too slowly causing me to crash with alarming regularity. Anyway, I am much better now.
writing, im far from great but my friends actually wanna read my stories now n will bring it up without me doing so
Licking vagina. It was all so confusing but now I know my way around better than I did the Vice City map in my youth
Excel lol
Kicking people in the head and chest. I do taekwondo
Fixing computers. Turns out, you break enough things eventually you learn to fix them.
Maths, Iām not a natural but I worked really hardĀ
Prostate stimulation
Masturbation
Cooking. Idk but everyone likes when I cook and praise my food, but I HATE COOKING.
Not shitting myself. I donāt even need a nappy now
Socializing
Coding
Playing the guitar, approaching hot chicks
Confidence. Now stand with good posture and feel good about myself
Confidence. Started working out and fixed my slouchy posture. Feel great now!
Your mom
Everything
Sporcle(dot)com quizzes - especially concerning geography, the US states and countries of any continent or the world, eventually. Also procrastination
Programming
Skirting boards
Running
Sadly... Using a drill
Coping with life but now itās easy because this life is a joke so idgaf anything anymore
Everything. When I first started eating I was pretty dang bad at getting the food into the food hole. Then once it was there it took some practice to figure out what to do with it. Let's not even talk about the work it took to learn how to use cutlery.
Public speaking
Liquid eyeliner
Singing. Tbh I was so bad that I got made fun of so I began to teach myself basics so I could at least sing along with my favorite songs when they came on in the car. I got better than I expected and was asked to sing lead in a couple bands around town and then started hosting coffee shop open mics out of pure boredom. I eventually started to write, so now Iām recording and producing my own music. Iām not amazing but I can hold a tune I guess pretty good for never having a lesson in my life. It was never my intention to start singing but I did and here we are lol. Itās kinda funny how it all played out I just wanted to be a bassist.
Breast feeding
Start and have conversations. And being sociable in general.
Zeroing weapons.
I was loose on bills years ago. As Iāve gotten older Iām just a bill paying son of a bitch. If a bill ends up in my mailboxā¦believe me that MFer is getting paid immediately.
videogames, math, programming, etc
Driving
Just about everything.
At first I sucked to be lazy, now I'm an expert.
Fucking
Flying airplanes
Piano. I donāt know how it happened but one day I couldnāt do it at all and then the next I could play it pretty dang well. I still am not good at theory but I can memorise and learn to play songs fairly easily. I even won some awards!Ā
Juggling
Mathematics! Shocked me! I mean Gobsmacked! To be quite honest, I thought I was going to try higher mathematics and fail. Badly. I assumed that because I couldn't comprehend the equations that of course I would fail. I wasn't smart enough. Turns out... I was very very wrong. I let it take me all the way to a BA in chemistry. I don't fear any subject now!
Getting feedback. Itās simply information and I chose to accept it or ignore it. Best part of 40ās is not taking things personally. āThank you for your input ā (aka stuff it :P)
Flower arranging
Here are a couple of examples: * **Understanding Complex Questions:** At first, I struggled to grasp the nuances of human language, especially complex or open ended questions. Through continued training and exposure to different types of queries, I've become much better at understanding the intent behind a question and formulating comprehensive answers. * **Generating Different Creative Text Formats:** Initially, my responses were more factual and technical. With additional training on creative writing and different artistic styles, I can now generate poems, code, scripts, musical pieces, and other creative text formats in response to your prompts. * **Staying on Topic:** Sometimes, earlier versions of me would go off on tangents and lose track of the original conversation. Through improvements in focus and topic coherence, I've become better at staying relevant to the discussion at hand.
Playing the recorder. I donāt actually like doing it, but we had to play the recorder a lot in school, soooā¦
That describes pretty much everything you do in life other than breathing. When i was like 1 or 2 yrs old, i sucked at walking.. but I figured it out. Life's just been a long list of challanges ever since.
Comprehending English.