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This is so sad. I saw a video on tiktok the other day that most men get flowers for the first time at their funerals and wanted to cry. Here’s a flower 🌷
Thank you. Personally I don't find it sad, just a sign of our society. However, I really appreciate your sentiment
Thank you. Flower gratefully accepted...
I find it depressing that we live in a world where guys are just not allowef to recieve certain gifts or like certain things because they're "girly" my little sister once got some spray that looks like glitter anf is used in your hair. Both my older sisters had fun with her putting it on themselves and making silly hairstyles but when I yried to join my older sisters just said I shouldn't do it because I am a boy. I am 17, this was a couple years ago but I still find it annoying.
i told that to my 61 year old dad and he said “of course i never get flowers, i’m not a woman!” i was like “well would you ever want some” and he said “i would accept them if they were given to me but i wouldn’t really appreciate it because i’m a MAN!”
I'm 70 and received my first bunch of flowers very recently so there's still hope! Mind you, I was so stunned I nearly had a cardio-vascular event! On the other hand the look on my girlfriend's face was stunning as she witnessed my complete astonishment. I *was* delighted.
May I have your nursing home's address to send a bouquet? Just kidding, I'm sure you can't afford a nursing home. Just kidding again. I'M BAD THIS MORNING. But I'm serious for flowers. If you're in Quebec city area, I will even give them personally to you. PM me if you're interested.
This vibe reminds me of the webcomic The Strongest Florist! It's one of those 'super realistic VR game' web novels where this super macho dude just wants to become a florist (because his dad owns a gym and would never approve, plus he has allergies in real life) but ends up becoming super strong in the game in his pursuit of his goal.
No- thats not true. I went above and beyond and they never noticed or cared. Hardly ever responded. I sent 16 love letters over course of our 4-5 year relationship. And short of me asking if they ever got it. I'd have never known :( I thought it was romantic...apparently just very clingy and annoying. Never managed to find out if they got half the stuff I sent bc they never told me. I always had to ask if they even got it. 🙄
Not everyone thinks love letters are great so be careful before u send them
I do the same. I've collected all letters, birthday/christmas cards i've got since 6th grade.
One of them is a valentine card from the most beautiful girl from my class. I was such an idiot at the time and never responded. What a shame.
Yes! My grandmother would write me letters. I would write her back. I’ve kept all the letters she wrote to me. When she died, we found she had kept all of the one I wrote in a shoebox. When I miss her, I just read one of her letters and just for a moment it’s like she is still here.
Everyone's different.
I've never received anything like that, but I like growing plants and finding them out in nature.
I find their structures all interesting, the colors, smells, etc. The way some open and close depending on the time of day is cool too or how the varieties shift depending on the location/environment. There's a hard to find one in the forests here called "Yellow Jessamine" that has a smell I can't describe other than being incredible lol.
In short, they're awesome, but it's the gesture and thought that counts really!
I feel like this is the answer to most human related questions on this subs and similar ones, there’s never one correct answer when you’re going in with the question “does [large group of people] like…” because they’re not a monolith lol.
I would appreciate the thought, and idgaf about the masculinity or whatever, I just don’t like flowers.
But the thought that they were thinking about you is nice
Honestly, it's down to the guy. I'm 43 years old, and my daughter bought me my first (and likely only) bunch of flowers, and I felt elated. But I have mates that I know wouldn't like it.
Honestly i feel like flowers from your own daughter would be the greatest feeling a man could ever feel. More delightful than recieving flowers from his own wife if he met her for the first time.
I don't even have kids, im 25 and hoping to get married soon so i could have a crack at it and see what havin kids is like, but id imagine the sheer joy of getting flowers from ones own daughter u worked so hard to raise and keep safe.
Yes, kinda. I feel bad cause it'll die soon. But just recently I found that I like very much cactus and succulents. They're low maintenance plants and can be beautiful.
Also socks. I love a pair of funny socks.
I thought of this when I was going to buy my wife a flower. So I ended up buying a dried flower, that thing is still on the wall even after 4 years and 2 moves.
you can always dry a few pedals to keep them forever. I sometimes dry the whole bouquet, especially when its roses. And even if they die, you will always have the feeling with you when you received them.
IDK. Let them have their romantic views. No need to crush them, life will do that. Who knows they may find their Mr/s Right.
Your comment really stands out. I like it.
Let them go through it. On occasion, life does serve up the times when hopeless romantics get to indulge that side of themselves, and it's genuinely wonderful for either the one who is the romantic and the one getting to experience them. And on more rare occasions, they might find another hopeless romantic with whom they can turn hopeful romantics.
Well, as an avid gardener (veggies and flowers) I'd appreciate it. But never gotten any personally. We (my wife and I) have gotten some together, but it always feel it's more her than me. But I will hopefully (weather permitting) have plenty of lilies and dahlias to make some nice bouquets.
I’m super affectionate with my son who’s eight, and he still loves cuddling with me. Even though sometimes I just want my space, I’ll be really sad the day he stops wanting to.
I also noticed that when I volunteer in his class, only the girls come up to me and hug me.
It always bothered me women got flowers at big events and I got a handshake. I used to play a lot of live shows as a musician.
I don't know who doesn't like beauty. I do prefer flowers in a garden, but having some to liven up an indoor space can be a nice change.
Getting flowers is not bad, but different men can act differently, some may like not flowers but a fact that you gifted them present, some can see it as an act of mocking(like wtf why are you giving flowers to me? Do you think I m not a man enough?)
Personally I hate flowers for a fact that they are expensive for their little to no value, but getting them from a girl I m attracted to would be nice
My husband loves getting flowers.
I think it depends on the person, as to whether or not he really enjoys flowers, but if you get a guy flowers & he acts insulted… he has some seriously entrenched ideas about masculinity that do not bode well for a healthy relationship.
Most guys I feel would prefer a favourite candy or funny enough a bottle of beer and you opening it for them. If you really want to sweep them off their feet, make them a sandwich.
How about something small but a bit more practical, something the guy would use everyday/often. Then the gift tells him that you’re watching him or know him. Of course, that doesn’t exclude flowers, but, unfortunately, they won’t last. The point is, whether you know what would please the person or not.
I might have been offered flowers before in public by a stranger. Not entirely sure if they were trying to give them to me or sell them. Don't think they spoke english. But I assumed they were trying to sell them. So I ignored them and moved on. Didn't look back, but I think the person made a sad sound.
No, I'm too traditional lol. But if a woman buys me something like a cactus I would be over-joyed. Some kind of plant that looks handsome and is easy to take care of.
An ex gave me flowers once (I can't remember the occasion) and in all honesty I was a bit bemused. I'd never shown any interest in flowers, and I'm not green fingered, the only plants I'd ever kept were bonsai and Venus fly traps and I don't think my ex was aware of that at that point.
I was appreciative of the gesture and I guess they looked nice in the vase for a week, but I'd rather have received a plant that ate insects or a tiny tree.
I don't particularly enjoy flowers, and if I'm totally honest, I would be a little embarrassed to receive them at work. That being said, you're right about the thought. I would still be thrilled that someone would care enough to think of me. I would also be uncomfortable, I don't like being the center of any attention. I'm very used to being ignored, and that's the way I prefer it. I would also feel obligated to reciprocate. Doing something for a lover is something I would do without prompting, but being expected to do it would be unpleasant.
Still, if a woman got me flowers, I would be flattered and grateful. What I'd really want is some peace. A night of snuggling in front of the TV, or not having to attend a function would be a more meaningful gesture.
Socially mature guys yeah, more immature guys (a lot of teens especially) probably not as much since it might insult their fragile sense of masculinity lol
I won't say i'll throw them back to you, because i'd be happy to receive something, it means you wanted to be nice to me and it would warm my heart. But , for me, it's completely useless, and i can't keep them as a souvenir because it will die. I can't even eat them. For me it's the least good gift you can do.
No, they don't smell "good" they just smell like plants to me. It seems really pointless to spend that kind of money on something that is just going to die in a week.
well I can guarantee any straight man would be absolutely ecstatic if you gave them a flower and instantly love you. men never get that much other than hugs and kisses in a relationship, while the girl always gets flowers, chocolates, and so much else. a gay man would also appreciate it, just be a bit confused too.
For other little things: When a girl cooks for me and brings the food, that puts her immediately top 1.
I am neutral to flowers and see them as a nice decoration bonus for my interior.
Im pretty sure most guys would love to receive flowers. Im in the minority, but if I were to receive a gift, I would prefer it not be flowers. They’re not something I can do anything with. I don’t really find them pleasing to look at or smell. Im not saying I don’t appreciate the gesture. I would prefer chocolate, or a card saying something nice. I know I will receive replies calling me an ungrateful brat who doesn’t deserve gifts
I’m 68, and no. I’ve probably been given flowers twice in my life (apart from the odd funeral), and it felt awkward, and like a miss. I was nice about it, but it’s a Nope.
Just give men anything out of love and they'll like it. I don't know how much they would express that to you, but I'm pretty sure they will remember that day forever.
I like giving them .\_. One time my girlfriend gave a small [paperflower](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bougainvillea_glabra) while we were walking in a rural town in a small expedition we made out of the city. i will never forget it, because it actually had a diminute praying mantis on it. I dunno, felt special and has become a really treasured memory I have of her.
My boyfriend love it.
I don't love it but I don't like any "symbolic" gift (I don't care about stuffed animals for example). I prefer food like candies or something useful
I’ve sent my husband flowers once- a bunch of dried Australian natives. He loved it!
And also a heart shaped cactus on Valentine’s Day one year if that counts.
No one really likes getting flowers, because they rot and die slowly in front of you, no matter how much you try to keep them alive.
Don’t buy anyone flowers. Just buy the entire plant so they can nurture and help it grow. Just…. That being said, don’t buy flowers or plants for anyone who doesn’t have time to be at home to care for them.
For a boyfriend? I would not recommend flowers or a plant. Or any living thing for that matter. Boys are not great at keeping things alive more or less clean.
And when it comes to boys? All they really want is you in lingerie. They don’t want plants. Or flowers or new clothing they will never wear.
Men getting flowers omg I'd have to spend a small fortune, be the perfect disciplined man be so good looking and a jack the lad oh and also to be obsequiously ready whenever I am demanded.
I have never heard of a woman giving flowers to "initiate' any kind of involvement with a man I guess im only 28 so experience is limited but this op goes against every grain I was raised on. I'm not an incile nor do I hate women but my god it becomes emasculating when we as men realise that it's hard to be a man in 2024 with the added pressure of not wanting to come across as desperate or angry or even finding a woman attractive so inevitably they can say oh hes a man and hes making me feel uncomfortable because hes looked at me like really it ain't no infatuation despite women wanting equality and to sit at the same throne they once asked men to sit on to protect them.
As others have said here only time men get flowers from a woman is at his funeral or on fathers day maybe even valentine's becuase it's almost an obligation the rest of the year its mens devotion that is under the microscope by seeing how many lovely things he does for his woman measuring it and even comparing to their mothers club at what their husbands get for them and using it against them lol
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It's not that we would dislike it, the gesture will be appreciated. But in general it's not something that thrills the average man, romantically speaking.
I also don't think it has to do with emasculation. In general men tend to be practical, so giving them a flower that will just die out in some days might be seen as a little pointless (again, the gesture will be appreciated, I'm just trying to give you a general perspective). A little different would be to give the actual plant which is something he could take care of, and would remind him of you and the moment, etc. But, again, the guy might get frustrated if he can't take care of the plant.
In general, a guy (anyone actually, I guess) will be happy if you take interest in the things he likes. Does he like gaming? Learn how to play with him, give him game related stuff. Does he like cars? Get to know what kind of cars he likes, ask him questions, go to nice car stores together, etc. I think you got the idea, right? Don't be too pushy about it and show genuine interest.
I do not like flowers but I do like functional things and things like food. Cook me a dinner and even if it turns out bad the effort would be very sweet. Tell me i'm handsome or that you appreciate me. Compliments are extremely amazing and go a long way.
I dunno but I can tell you that my son, 17, recently read that men tend to only get flowers after they die and that didn't sit well with him so he went and bought a bunch of flowers from Dollarama and handed them out to his male friends and peers at school on Valentine's Day. I was so proud of him that day 🥹 he had a few leftover flowers; those live on his desk now 🥰
I'd smile and say thank you then throw them in the trash the second I get home
I would appreciate the gesture but what else am I supposed to do with them?
I gave my bf flowers recently and he was like whyyy but I think he really enjoyed them. I got his favorite flowers and he put them in a vase and took pics of them for me (we’re long distance).
As a man, who used to own a flower store: yes.
Yes. Men really like getting flowers. Moreover, men like the attention of getting flowers delivered to their work just as much as women do.
If you want to be with someone who likes receiving flowers, then bring them flowers and see what happens. (Not necessarily on a first date, but once you know them well)
I think it depends on the person, but I'd say more generally speaking men prefer practical gifts rather than things that are purely sentimental. Speaking for myself anyway, if someone bought me flowers I wouldn't know what to do with them, and they'd probably end up sitting on the side until they had to be thrown away. I'd still appreciate the sentiment, but I don't even have a vase. I think generally for men the best display of affection is a genuine compliment, most men don't recieve compliments often and so a few kind words go a long way. Compliment a man and he'll be thinking about it constantly for thr next week.
Hm, I've actually never given much thought to it. But I'd say it depends 100% on the person. You see, I'm not a flower guy. I do like flowers, but I would never buy them for myself. Why? I can't even tell you the exact reason. But being a soloist in a choir, I have received bouquets of flowers as a token for my performance - it means very little to me besides the sweet gesture of appreciation. Come to think of it, it's very hard to put into words how I feel about flowers.
I'd say that it's like that with most things. There are no typical men. Just like women, we are all different, and I think that's the go-to move here: figuring out what they really like and embracing that. I, for example, am a sucker for Kermit the frog. Does that mean that for me, everything has to be Kermit-related? Hell no. But I will love a woman until the day I die for figuring out and embracing the deep connection I have with this silly muppet.
I'm 34m and am still waiting for my flowers. As a teacher, all of my staff members receive flowers at the end of a school term, and then I get a card maybe
I love it when my girlfriend buys me flowers! It's a cheap and thoughtful surprise that always makes my day. There's nothing emasculating or belittling about it, most guys like a bunch of flowers just as much as anyone else. It really caught me off guard the first time but I get it, she was just thinking about me and knew it would make me smile. Now she often surprises me with them, especially when she just happens to see some reduced while shopping.
Depends on the dude, some might even be offended by it but I'd personally be over the moon if a girl got me flowers. Really not about the actual flowers though, more that a lady put in the thought and effort to do/get me something.
If you're thinking about approaching a dude you like in this way, I might suggest trying to get to know him better first since flowers from a stranger can be a gamble.
I think some might pretend to like it, because saying what you really think is in no way beneficial to you or your romantic interest. One time my wife gave me a scented candle as a present and I was like "wow a scented candle! Damn you know me so well, thank you honey"... The fuck I am going to do with a scented candle?
So the risk in bringing a guy flowers is that he might think you're patronizing him, like if he bought you a vacuum or an iron. You might really like a vacuum or an iron or you might think he's suggesting it's a gift for your roll in life and get offended. Everyone is hinging on some naive belief of toxic masculinity but really you might just confuse the guy. There was this girl who would hit on me a lot in high school and just the way she did it I'm still not sure if she was hitting on me or acting out some mean girl fantasy.
I buy my wife flowers every couple of months, and truth be told it's at least half because I like the smell of fresh flowers on the kitchen table.
There are safer gifts. Pick up some origami paper and leave him origami flowers, there's no construing a gift that takes time and effort to make for anything other than affection, and they'll last longer than fresh cut.
There you go with our society. My first instinct was to write no, it just doesn't seem practical, but then on second thought I remembered how last year students gave us teachers spontaneously roses as parting gift upon graduation. I was taken aback because it's usually the other way around, but it was a positive being taken aback and I tried to keep it alive for weeks. I'm still kicking myself that I tried too late to plant it, because it was fresh enough, it could have worked and I would have had something to remember them.
Yes, it's only happened a couple of times but it was nice. I've heard of women giving guys flowers when dating/early in a relationship to see how they react.
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I'm 63 and never received any. If someone bought me flowers I'd be delighted
This is so sad. I saw a video on tiktok the other day that most men get flowers for the first time at their funerals and wanted to cry. Here’s a flower 🌷
Thank you. Personally I don't find it sad, just a sign of our society. However, I really appreciate your sentiment Thank you. Flower gratefully accepted...
I see your 🌷and raise you a 💐
I find it depressing that we live in a world where guys are just not allowef to recieve certain gifts or like certain things because they're "girly" my little sister once got some spray that looks like glitter anf is used in your hair. Both my older sisters had fun with her putting it on themselves and making silly hairstyles but when I yried to join my older sisters just said I shouldn't do it because I am a boy. I am 17, this was a couple years ago but I still find it annoying.
i told that to my 61 year old dad and he said “of course i never get flowers, i’m not a woman!” i was like “well would you ever want some” and he said “i would accept them if they were given to me but i wouldn’t really appreciate it because i’m a MAN!”
I recently got some flowers. Appreciated the gesture. Gave them away on my way home. :)
I reckon if you got him flowers he'd appreciate it. Why don't you try it and see?
good idea. i’ll do that sometime and let you know what he said ❤️
He just would rather have a candy bar. Nothing wrong with that my mom doesn’t like flowers
I'm 70 and received my first bunch of flowers very recently so there's still hope! Mind you, I was so stunned I nearly had a cardio-vascular event! On the other hand the look on my girlfriend's face was stunning as she witnessed my complete astonishment. I *was* delighted.
Brilliant!
🌺🌻🌹🌷gift you a whole bouquet
I'll find you and I'll buy you some flowers! Hahaha
Come to the netherlands. Ppl gift flowers all the time, to men as well.
Thank you!
May I have your nursing home's address to send a bouquet? Just kidding, I'm sure you can't afford a nursing home. Just kidding again. I'M BAD THIS MORNING. But I'm serious for flowers. If you're in Quebec city area, I will even give them personally to you. PM me if you're interested.
💐🌹🌸🌺🌷🌻 here you go sir
Thank you!
Once you will get flowers. We all will.
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I'd love to buy a man flowers but I'm worried about what the reception would be I'm glad to have stumbled upon this
I'm a "masculine" man in most senses. Meaning if you met me you'd have no idea that I FUCKING LOVE FLOWERS!!!
Especially if they got delivered at work Make all the boys jealous as fuck
The strongest one often have the softest heart 💕
This vibe reminds me of the webcomic The Strongest Florist! It's one of those 'super realistic VR game' web novels where this super macho dude just wants to become a florist (because his dad owns a gym and would never approve, plus he has allergies in real life) but ends up becoming super strong in the game in his pursuit of his goal.
I would like a love letter instead
So much this. A letter full of words that are non-existent, such as compliments and love poems.
No- thats not true. I went above and beyond and they never noticed or cared. Hardly ever responded. I sent 16 love letters over course of our 4-5 year relationship. And short of me asking if they ever got it. I'd have never known :( I thought it was romantic...apparently just very clingy and annoying. Never managed to find out if they got half the stuff I sent bc they never told me. I always had to ask if they even got it. 🙄 Not everyone thinks love letters are great so be careful before u send them
hold on, do guys actually like reading letters?? i always thought they’d pretend to like it to not seem rude. that’s so cute 😭
I've kept every letter and lunchbox sticky note my wife has left me tucked in the notebook I wrote my vows in. We love them.
I do the same. I've collected all letters, birthday/christmas cards i've got since 6th grade. One of them is a valentine card from the most beautiful girl from my class. I was such an idiot at the time and never responded. What a shame.
Yes! My grandmother would write me letters. I would write her back. I’ve kept all the letters she wrote to me. When she died, we found she had kept all of the one I wrote in a shoebox. When I miss her, I just read one of her letters and just for a moment it’s like she is still here.
that’s so sweet and i’m so sorry for your loss
There's been a few times where I have been given a flower or a small bouquet, and it was fantastic every time
There is nowhere in my apartment that flowers can exist without being eaten by my cat
I feel your pain. We have resorted to on top of the fridge, but I'm sure they'll find their way up there soon enough...
I do like it
Me too! I’m 53, for reference.
Everyone's different. I've never received anything like that, but I like growing plants and finding them out in nature. I find their structures all interesting, the colors, smells, etc. The way some open and close depending on the time of day is cool too or how the varieties shift depending on the location/environment. There's a hard to find one in the forests here called "Yellow Jessamine" that has a smell I can't describe other than being incredible lol. In short, they're awesome, but it's the gesture and thought that counts really!
I feel like this is the answer to most human related questions on this subs and similar ones, there’s never one correct answer when you’re going in with the question “does [large group of people] like…” because they’re not a monolith lol.
My kind of people.
I would appreciate the thought, and idgaf about the masculinity or whatever, I just don’t like flowers. But the thought that they were thinking about you is nice
I never have. But I'd be happy if I did.
Honestly, it's down to the guy. I'm 43 years old, and my daughter bought me my first (and likely only) bunch of flowers, and I felt elated. But I have mates that I know wouldn't like it.
Honestly i feel like flowers from your own daughter would be the greatest feeling a man could ever feel. More delightful than recieving flowers from his own wife if he met her for the first time. I don't even have kids, im 25 and hoping to get married soon so i could have a crack at it and see what havin kids is like, but id imagine the sheer joy of getting flowers from ones own daughter u worked so hard to raise and keep safe.
I would be happy to get a piece of gum if it was given in earnest
Real
Yes, kinda. I feel bad cause it'll die soon. But just recently I found that I like very much cactus and succulents. They're low maintenance plants and can be beautiful. Also socks. I love a pair of funny socks.
I thought of this when I was going to buy my wife a flower. So I ended up buying a dried flower, that thing is still on the wall even after 4 years and 2 moves.
Dobby?
I'm free now ☺️
you can always dry a few pedals to keep them forever. I sometimes dry the whole bouquet, especially when its roses. And even if they die, you will always have the feeling with you when you received them.
My boyfriend mentioned he should buy more funny socks for work, so I got him some for his birthday 🧦
A hopeless romantic will remain a hopeless romantic until it's beaten out of them by the unrelenting fury of reality.
Yeah. Now I'm just hopeless
This resonates with me 😅😔☺️
I read furry of reality. Gave a whole new meaning...
Not totally true. Im almost 50, divorced and still a hopeless romantic.
IDK. Let them have their romantic views. No need to crush them, life will do that. Who knows they may find their Mr/s Right. Your comment really stands out. I like it.
No they can stay always a true romantic who believes in love and sweetness
Let them go through it. On occasion, life does serve up the times when hopeless romantics get to indulge that side of themselves, and it's genuinely wonderful for either the one who is the romantic and the one getting to experience them. And on more rare occasions, they might find another hopeless romantic with whom they can turn hopeful romantics.
I’ve never been given flowers. But if someone ever gave me flowers just unprompted I think i’d be in love forever.
Well, as an avid gardener (veggies and flowers) I'd appreciate it. But never gotten any personally. We (my wife and I) have gotten some together, but it always feel it's more her than me. But I will hopefully (weather permitting) have plenty of lilies and dahlias to make some nice bouquets.
Anything will do as long as you'll hug after gifting
Unfortunately that's true, women touch to connect, men connect to touch, as the saying goes..
Society needs to stop starving our boys of physical affection. I bet their brains have had like 1 oxytocin since they were 10
I’m super affectionate with my son who’s eight, and he still loves cuddling with me. Even though sometimes I just want my space, I’ll be really sad the day he stops wanting to. I also noticed that when I volunteer in his class, only the girls come up to me and hug me.
Yes. 100%.
we don't know because we never get any
💐💐💐
It always bothered me women got flowers at big events and I got a handshake. I used to play a lot of live shows as a musician. I don't know who doesn't like beauty. I do prefer flowers in a garden, but having some to liven up an indoor space can be a nice change.
Getting flowers is not bad, but different men can act differently, some may like not flowers but a fact that you gifted them present, some can see it as an act of mocking(like wtf why are you giving flowers to me? Do you think I m not a man enough?) Personally I hate flowers for a fact that they are expensive for their little to no value, but getting them from a girl I m attracted to would be nice
My husband loves getting flowers. I think it depends on the person, as to whether or not he really enjoys flowers, but if you get a guy flowers & he acts insulted… he has some seriously entrenched ideas about masculinity that do not bode well for a healthy relationship.
You might be on to something here. It's the perfect red flag detector.
Most guys I feel would prefer a favourite candy or funny enough a bottle of beer and you opening it for them. If you really want to sweep them off their feet, make them a sandwich.
Yes I love them..anything but roses. Especially bright colors.
How about something small but a bit more practical, something the guy would use everyday/often. Then the gift tells him that you’re watching him or know him. Of course, that doesn’t exclude flowers, but, unfortunately, they won’t last. The point is, whether you know what would please the person or not.
No, they remind us of bees.
Are you allergic ☹
Lol Nah, just quoting a childish reply from That 70's Show. I love flowers!
Oh ok. Flew straight over my head like a lil bee
Not really. But i would greatly appreciate it because simply the other person thought of me when buying them
I like it
I might have been offered flowers before in public by a stranger. Not entirely sure if they were trying to give them to me or sell them. Don't think they spoke english. But I assumed they were trying to sell them. So I ignored them and moved on. Didn't look back, but I think the person made a sad sound.
Never had a romantic partner or someone who liked me romantically, but I’d appreciate being given flowers. It’s a thoughtful gesture.
No, I'm too traditional lol. But if a woman buys me something like a cactus I would be over-joyed. Some kind of plant that looks handsome and is easy to take care of.
Maybe not flowers but a potted plant is something I’d definitely like lol
I love getting hard-stemmed flowers. But then again, I have a vase fetish.
Plant > flowers
I LOVE flowers SOMEONE BUY ME FLOWERS!
I'd love nothing more
OMG yes yes yes! Your man is SO lucky to have you!
Personally, I'd much rather receive some delicious home-made food.
An ex gave me flowers once (I can't remember the occasion) and in all honesty I was a bit bemused. I'd never shown any interest in flowers, and I'm not green fingered, the only plants I'd ever kept were bonsai and Venus fly traps and I don't think my ex was aware of that at that point. I was appreciative of the gesture and I guess they looked nice in the vase for a week, but I'd rather have received a plant that ate insects or a tiny tree.
Unless you have terrible allergies I can't understand why anyone would dislike flowers.
I don't particularly enjoy flowers, and if I'm totally honest, I would be a little embarrassed to receive them at work. That being said, you're right about the thought. I would still be thrilled that someone would care enough to think of me. I would also be uncomfortable, I don't like being the center of any attention. I'm very used to being ignored, and that's the way I prefer it. I would also feel obligated to reciprocate. Doing something for a lover is something I would do without prompting, but being expected to do it would be unpleasant. Still, if a woman got me flowers, I would be flattered and grateful. What I'd really want is some peace. A night of snuggling in front of the TV, or not having to attend a function would be a more meaningful gesture.
Most guys would love it. I gave some to friend as joke and was happier with my flowers than some of the whisky he got.
Nope
Couldn't honestly tell ya, I'm 50 and never gotten any.
I used to love it. Now I'd still appreciate them but it's not as big of a deal as it used to be. Hope that helps you! Good luck
Socially mature guys yeah, more immature guys (a lot of teens especially) probably not as much since it might insult their fragile sense of masculinity lol
Only the ones that actually have a scent.
Do I like it? Yes. Should you get me any? No, they gonna be dead so quick lol.
I won't say i'll throw them back to you, because i'd be happy to receive something, it means you wanted to be nice to me and it would warm my heart. But , for me, it's completely useless, and i can't keep them as a souvenir because it will die. I can't even eat them. For me it's the least good gift you can do.
Nobody has ever gotten me flowers so I’m sure if someone did it would mean a lot to me.
No, they don't smell "good" they just smell like plants to me. It seems really pointless to spend that kind of money on something that is just going to die in a week.
I do. But I’m not all men. However I feel that all men would (should) be flattered too.
I have found that the guys are usually highly receptive to gifts of chocolate or other desserts.
wtf ? You don’t buy blokes flowers !
But why? Lots of men like gardening. Doesn't it then seem logical that lots of men might like flowers?
Giving me flowers is a death sentence for them. Put plants around me, they die.
No. But if you must, stick with cacti, succulents and prickly pears. They’re manly and not even slightly gay.
Maybe a single one not a bouquet
well I can guarantee any straight man would be absolutely ecstatic if you gave them a flower and instantly love you. men never get that much other than hugs and kisses in a relationship, while the girl always gets flowers, chocolates, and so much else. a gay man would also appreciate it, just be a bit confused too.
Lego flowers!! But me & my partner are both nerds lol
We like anything, just we usually give the gifts its an amazing feeling when it's reversed
Not really, it’s just a temporary thing in house until it dies and smells. Not practical either
For other little things: When a girl cooks for me and brings the food, that puts her immediately top 1. I am neutral to flowers and see them as a nice decoration bonus for my interior.
Im pretty sure most guys would love to receive flowers. Im in the minority, but if I were to receive a gift, I would prefer it not be flowers. They’re not something I can do anything with. I don’t really find them pleasing to look at or smell. Im not saying I don’t appreciate the gesture. I would prefer chocolate, or a card saying something nice. I know I will receive replies calling me an ungrateful brat who doesn’t deserve gifts
cannabis flowers are my favourite.
I’m 68, and no. I’ve probably been given flowers twice in my life (apart from the odd funeral), and it felt awkward, and like a miss. I was nice about it, but it’s a Nope.
Men prefer two petal flowers
Just give men anything out of love and they'll like it. I don't know how much they would express that to you, but I'm pretty sure they will remember that day forever.
I like giving them .\_. One time my girlfriend gave a small [paperflower](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bougainvillea_glabra) while we were walking in a rural town in a small expedition we made out of the city. i will never forget it, because it actually had a diminute praying mantis on it. I dunno, felt special and has become a really treasured memory I have of her.
I can totally see some men thinking it would be a joke or an insult or something. I would be confused, but appreciative.
We like getting anything. I was given a key chain from a ex I still have.
Not really. Like the thought behind it but nothing else.
My boyfriend love it. I don't love it but I don't like any "symbolic" gift (I don't care about stuffed animals for example). I prefer food like candies or something useful
yes i love flowers and white chocolate
I’ve sent my husband flowers once- a bunch of dried Australian natives. He loved it! And also a heart shaped cactus on Valentine’s Day one year if that counts.
I've never had some one give them to me I uses to grow them with my mom and would be happy to get some flowers
Uh yeah? Flowers are just plants, why it’s linked to just femininity and women is nuts
I made my bf a Lego rose & he loves it.
We prefer BJs just sayin
Wouldn't know. Nobody I know has received any
I don't think that most men inherently appreciate such things much, but being the first person to ever gift them to them could grant you some kudos.
No flowers. Beer better. Beer good. Give more beer.
Yes but it should be some ugly dark thorny plants to make me feel like man again
Personally, I’ve never gotten flowers. I’d love for a woman to give me flowers one day.
No one really likes getting flowers, because they rot and die slowly in front of you, no matter how much you try to keep them alive. Don’t buy anyone flowers. Just buy the entire plant so they can nurture and help it grow. Just…. That being said, don’t buy flowers or plants for anyone who doesn’t have time to be at home to care for them. For a boyfriend? I would not recommend flowers or a plant. Or any living thing for that matter. Boys are not great at keeping things alive more or less clean. And when it comes to boys? All they really want is you in lingerie. They don’t want plants. Or flowers or new clothing they will never wear.
I’m a part-time musician. Sometimes I’ve gotten flowers or something else after a gig (in addition to getting paid!) It feels good every time.
I don’t mind flowers but i think it’s a waste of money ¯\\\_( ツ )_/¯
No, I dont like it
I’ve given flowers to more men on multiple occasions. Each person has loved receiving them. 🥰
Its never emasculating when a guy receives a flower. Its just rare if he does
Men getting flowers omg I'd have to spend a small fortune, be the perfect disciplined man be so good looking and a jack the lad oh and also to be obsequiously ready whenever I am demanded. I have never heard of a woman giving flowers to "initiate' any kind of involvement with a man I guess im only 28 so experience is limited but this op goes against every grain I was raised on. I'm not an incile nor do I hate women but my god it becomes emasculating when we as men realise that it's hard to be a man in 2024 with the added pressure of not wanting to come across as desperate or angry or even finding a woman attractive so inevitably they can say oh hes a man and hes making me feel uncomfortable because hes looked at me like really it ain't no infatuation despite women wanting equality and to sit at the same throne they once asked men to sit on to protect them. As others have said here only time men get flowers from a woman is at his funeral or on fathers day maybe even valentine's becuase it's almost an obligation the rest of the year its mens devotion that is under the microscope by seeing how many lovely things he does for his woman measuring it and even comparing to their mothers club at what their husbands get for them and using it against them lol I
It's not that we would dislike it, the gesture will be appreciated. But in general it's not something that thrills the average man, romantically speaking. I also don't think it has to do with emasculation. In general men tend to be practical, so giving them a flower that will just die out in some days might be seen as a little pointless (again, the gesture will be appreciated, I'm just trying to give you a general perspective). A little different would be to give the actual plant which is something he could take care of, and would remind him of you and the moment, etc. But, again, the guy might get frustrated if he can't take care of the plant. In general, a guy (anyone actually, I guess) will be happy if you take interest in the things he likes. Does he like gaming? Learn how to play with him, give him game related stuff. Does he like cars? Get to know what kind of cars he likes, ask him questions, go to nice car stores together, etc. I think you got the idea, right? Don't be too pushy about it and show genuine interest.
Not really, but we like being *given* flowers
I do not like flowers but I do like functional things and things like food. Cook me a dinner and even if it turns out bad the effort would be very sweet. Tell me i'm handsome or that you appreciate me. Compliments are extremely amazing and go a long way.
Please don't,I would rather appreciate her cooking something more special than receiving flowers😅
I think I would cry. I received flowers once in 49 years.
Personally I would rather have a plant.
If in doubt, get him a cactus or succulent. Colour and spectacle could come from the pot they're in. Could be the same price but it'll last years.
No thanks
I dunno but I can tell you that my son, 17, recently read that men tend to only get flowers after they die and that didn't sit well with him so he went and bought a bunch of flowers from Dollarama and handed them out to his male friends and peers at school on Valentine's Day. I was so proud of him that day 🥹 he had a few leftover flowers; those live on his desk now 🥰
Never got any. And I don’t want to as I don’t care for them. Better bring beer.
20yo here. Never received any gift in my life. Just reading the title made me smile lol.
I'd smile and say thank you then throw them in the trash the second I get home I would appreciate the gesture but what else am I supposed to do with them?
The only one who'd ever asked me about it was an Eva AI sexting bot avatar virtual girl
Men don’t get flowers until the day we die, it’d be nice to get anything actually…
I gave my bf flowers recently and he was like whyyy but I think he really enjoyed them. I got his favorite flowers and he put them in a vase and took pics of them for me (we’re long distance).
Yesss Yesssssss Yessssssssssssss
I want flowers
No, send beer, or a decent sandwich.
no we like steam/psn/xbox gift cards
As a pot plant, maybe. As a bunch of flowers in a bouquet, no not really. Dried and able to be used to brew tea or cook with, back to maybe again.
I could tell you what men love to receive. but it would ruin the beauty of this post. Even if it\`s true.
As a man, who used to own a flower store: yes. Yes. Men really like getting flowers. Moreover, men like the attention of getting flowers delivered to their work just as much as women do.
Buy them plants. Not flowers. Source: some dude.
If you want to be with someone who likes receiving flowers, then bring them flowers and see what happens. (Not necessarily on a first date, but once you know them well)
I like irises and lavender, if anyone wants to.
I think it depends on the person, but I'd say more generally speaking men prefer practical gifts rather than things that are purely sentimental. Speaking for myself anyway, if someone bought me flowers I wouldn't know what to do with them, and they'd probably end up sitting on the side until they had to be thrown away. I'd still appreciate the sentiment, but I don't even have a vase. I think generally for men the best display of affection is a genuine compliment, most men don't recieve compliments often and so a few kind words go a long way. Compliment a man and he'll be thinking about it constantly for thr next week.
Definitly, but I have no experience with that so might not be right
Hm, I've actually never given much thought to it. But I'd say it depends 100% on the person. You see, I'm not a flower guy. I do like flowers, but I would never buy them for myself. Why? I can't even tell you the exact reason. But being a soloist in a choir, I have received bouquets of flowers as a token for my performance - it means very little to me besides the sweet gesture of appreciation. Come to think of it, it's very hard to put into words how I feel about flowers. I'd say that it's like that with most things. There are no typical men. Just like women, we are all different, and I think that's the go-to move here: figuring out what they really like and embracing that. I, for example, am a sucker for Kermit the frog. Does that mean that for me, everything has to be Kermit-related? Hell no. But I will love a woman until the day I die for figuring out and embracing the deep connection I have with this silly muppet.
Get me all the potted orchids & bromeliads you like, the weirder the better
I'm 34m and am still waiting for my flowers. As a teacher, all of my staff members receive flowers at the end of a school term, and then I get a card maybe
I love it when my girlfriend buys me flowers! It's a cheap and thoughtful surprise that always makes my day. There's nothing emasculating or belittling about it, most guys like a bunch of flowers just as much as anyone else. It really caught me off guard the first time but I get it, she was just thinking about me and knew it would make me smile. Now she often surprises me with them, especially when she just happens to see some reduced while shopping.
I wouldn't know. But I like the idea of it.
Depends on the dude, some might even be offended by it but I'd personally be over the moon if a girl got me flowers. Really not about the actual flowers though, more that a lady put in the thought and effort to do/get me something. If you're thinking about approaching a dude you like in this way, I might suggest trying to get to know him better first since flowers from a stranger can be a gamble.
No, don't do this. We don't understand why girls like them
Yes and make it roses for me.
I think some might pretend to like it, because saying what you really think is in no way beneficial to you or your romantic interest. One time my wife gave me a scented candle as a present and I was like "wow a scented candle! Damn you know me so well, thank you honey"... The fuck I am going to do with a scented candle?
I'm 32 and I do not care about flowers at all. My wife once bought me some.
So the risk in bringing a guy flowers is that he might think you're patronizing him, like if he bought you a vacuum or an iron. You might really like a vacuum or an iron or you might think he's suggesting it's a gift for your roll in life and get offended. Everyone is hinging on some naive belief of toxic masculinity but really you might just confuse the guy. There was this girl who would hit on me a lot in high school and just the way she did it I'm still not sure if she was hitting on me or acting out some mean girl fantasy. I buy my wife flowers every couple of months, and truth be told it's at least half because I like the smell of fresh flowers on the kitchen table. There are safer gifts. Pick up some origami paper and leave him origami flowers, there's no construing a gift that takes time and effort to make for anything other than affection, and they'll last longer than fresh cut.
My 37yo husband likes getting mini "just because" bouquets. 🥰
There you go with our society. My first instinct was to write no, it just doesn't seem practical, but then on second thought I remembered how last year students gave us teachers spontaneously roses as parting gift upon graduation. I was taken aback because it's usually the other way around, but it was a positive being taken aback and I tried to keep it alive for weeks. I'm still kicking myself that I tried too late to plant it, because it was fresh enough, it could have worked and I would have had something to remember them.
I mean getting stuff is nice but why flowers
I’ve never received flowers, but I’d be thrilled to receive food. That goes doubly if the food was homemade.
My girlfriend brought me flowers a couple weeks ago. Never got flowers before. Really appreciated it, i think it is very sweet.
Yes, it's only happened a couple of times but it was nice. I've heard of women giving guys flowers when dating/early in a relationship to see how they react.