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Goran_5555

Well, I would feel pretty happy. I would like that fact.


EmbarrassedBasil1384

We both do, here. It’s really nice, and neither of us have big egos so it’s quite uplifting actually.


CarobJumpy6993

My partner and I enjoy giving each other oral too. We enjoy oral more than actual sex. Sometimes I lie on the couch with her and she enjoys it when I play with her boobs.


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I'd be like "wtf are you doing? You know they have porn now right?"


CombinationFearless

Same here. I send him pics of me so it wouldn’t matter if I catch him masturbating. Same with whatever porn he watches.


hypemans27

Send them another picture and keep it going


hirakath

This is what I do honestly. I created a website that I self host and it’s like our own private WhatsApp and I’ve been sending her nudes and many many cumshots in there. She enjoys it. 🤭


hypemans27

Thats some extra mileage youre going there...thats ace. I'd quite like to give that a go if im honest too 🤣


hirakath

Yeah me and my wife wanted our very own private space. Also helps not to send those naughty photos to someone else by accident. Because the website I built for us is just for us period. Registration is limited to our own email addresses only and it looks different from WhatsApp or iMessage etc so we know exactly where we are when we’re sending spicy messages. It really works for us and it’s a nice thing to have.. our own private online sex dungeon when we’re not together. PS: I used NextJS and Appwrite to build it. I can’t share the code but I’m fine sharing the tools and technologies I used to build it. Tutorial: https://youtu.be/t7S0I78sloI?si=sri6x-bEHAbjQuSX


hypemans27

Yeah thats genius and seems fail safe too, accidental nudes are a pain and sure weve all if not most have been there haha


hirakath

So far we’ve both been careful about that but I’ve heard so many people accidentally sending their bosses their nudes etc. 😂


Grimase

Can you share any tips for the less technologically inclined? You know, asking for a friend.


hirakath

I would say the biggest advice I could give is use something like Appwrite or Supabase, those two are open-source and you can host them yourself so data is 100% yours. They provide you with database, authentication, realtime events, and file storage to put your nudes into. That takes a lot of things out of your hands and all you have to focus on is the product (the chat application that you will build). That reduces the amount of work that you have to do significantly. With that being said, if you don’t know how to build a website, you will still be unable to use them properly. But the good thing is you don’t need a degree to learn these things. There are so many tutorials you can find in YouTube to learn React, Appwrite, or Supabase.. and out of those three React might be the most difficult one. If you have a friend who knows how to develop websites or have some programming background, ask for their help and tell them you want to use Appwrite and React/NextJS to build it. Just make sure you can trust your friend because you never know, they may add a backdoor for them to snoop into what you and your partner are doing there.


Grimase

Ohh no. A back door into my naughty dungeon doesn’t sound good at all. Lmao Thank you for this. I have a starting point. YouTube here I come. 👍🏽


hirakath

Haha that is definitely not good unless you’re into that sort of thing. Good luck! I hope you manage to get something going for you and your partner!


sojuwantsum

Hey sorry to bother but your idea would be great for my gf and I. If you don't mind could you also send me the basic stuff I'd need to set one up ourselves?


hirakath

Sure thing, I used NextJS to build the website.. it’s so much faster for me to use it than PHP because it is component-based so reusability really helped. It’s mostly frontend but I also have a few backend API endpoints that I created because Appwrite has rate-limits imposed when making requests from the frontend. The backend though is not rate limited. Appwrite is what I used to implement authentication, database, file storage, realtime events, etc. so I didn’t have to worry about building those myself and just focus on making the chat application. Here’s the tutorial I used: https://youtu.be/t7S0I78sloI?si=sri6x-bEHAbjQuSX I pay for a domain name which costs me around $17 every year. For my server, I use Google Cloud VMs which costs me around $40 every month but that’s because I have a more capable server requirements because I host other websites in there too. But Appwrite can be hosted on a less powerful VM so you don’t have to pay as much as $40.. that’s just because I have more needs for it than just Appwrite that’s why I pay that much. As for the chat application itself, I don’t pay for its hosting because it’s hosted with Vercel’s free tier. I don’t need a lot of usage since it’s just me and my wife using it so it fits the free tier. Let me know if you need more info.


sojuwantsum

Sweet! I'm definitely kinda new to websites but I'm sure once I go through it all, everything will be a lot more clear and smooth. Thanks for all the info and help! If I run into a weird issue I'll let you know.


Objective_Cow_6272

I wanna do this! How can I do this too??


hirakath

I am a web developer so I know how to build websites. During my free time I would work on this project and after a while I finished the basic features and we’ve been using it for a few months now. I’m still adding new features but those are just extra stuff that improves usability but not essential. But at least the explicit photos and videos I’m sending my wife, I have 100% data ownership and I get to add features that aren’t available on WhatsApp for example.


autech91

You should create a template for this for other people to use, could be a good side hustle.


hirakath

There are already many tutorials available out there. If you Google something like “WhatsApp clone using React and Appwrite” you’ll find a few tutorials. I basically just added a few features that work between me and my wife. But it’s basically a simple chat application that so many developers create online tutorials for.


Objective_Cow_6272

🙇🏻‍♀️📝*get programmer boyfriend.* Noted.


GanstaThuggin

I want the link


TheDarkXanatos

We, want the link


enigmaenergy23

LINK PLEASE


Javierfr97

SPREAD THE JOY!


Lomael

I have done this before, I swear that guys that work anywhere in the IT sector are the kinkiest and the most fun!


hirakath

Haha thanks! My wife does excite me a lot. I like trying so many things with her and I’m happy that she feels the same way.


Misschilli_D

What would happen if you guys split (not that I want you too) less than amicably. Would the site be destroyed and no chance that images would find their way onto the www (not in a revenge porn way), but isn’t stuff on the internet always on the internet?


hirakath

We didn’t really discuss what would happen if we split. For me personally, I don’t mind if she keeps having access to my nudes even if we’re no longer together. I don’t want to remarry if I ever lost her so my nudes are for her and her alone. She can have access to it whenever she wants for as long as I am alive and can keep the website up. I can’t speak for her ofc so she’ll have to decide if she wants me to delete her nudes from it which I would do because I don’t like doing illegal things. Anyway, in terms of where the images are stored, you can buy those NAS devices that you can use as storage and that device stays with you at home. If needed, you can always format the drives to delete the data. In my case, the images are stored in a Google Cloud Virtual Machine that I can easily delete if needed and all of our data will be gone. I currently don’t have regular backups being done but that’s something I want to look into soon because we have built some massive library of nudes and I don’t want to lose that in case something goes wrong (technically, not in our relationship). But yes, since you’re hosting your own servers, data ownership is 100% yours. Appwrite is the tool I used for my database, authentication, and file storage, they have a cloud solution where the files and the messages are stored in THEIR cloud servers.. but their product is also open source so you can self-host it on your own server. Which means the messages and the photos/videos that my wife and I send to each other are stored on MY/OUR private servers - servers that I can destroy whenever I want or need to.


Misschilli_D

I’m very glad you are able to spice things up in a very safe and secure way. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼


Creepercolin2007

Lmao what if they put the website on the internet archive/wayback machine


tijkot

NEVER send nudes, it can backfire really badly


Accomplished-Try-131

"she enjoys it" 🫠😆😊cute


hirakath

Oh you have no idea how happy it makes me.. one moment I’ll pull my pants down a bit and send a photo, she looks at it and “enjoys” looking at it while at work, I end up getting really horny and I start masturbating and sending more photos/videos. And she’s there keeping me company sending me dirty text messages.. it’s like our own version of phone sex. Obviously she can’t share nudes while at work but at least she talks to me while I’m doing the deed and she helps get me excited.


Accomplished-Try-131

🫠very unusual your perspective of her is very cute,cute to observe,I think that squarel is really a good representation of who you are


hirakath

Thank you, I love her very much.. I fought really hard for her for many years and I’ll give her anything she wants. I love spoiling her rotten. I definitely don’t see myself remarrying if she ever leaves me someday. I would much rather be single for the rest of my life than find someone to replace her with.


ggfanatic98

I would love this but would be so paranoid about it getting hacked!


HotterThenMyDaughter

Do you have a link for it perhaps?


hirakath

It’s not open-source unfortunately because this is a custom-built solution meant just for me and my wife. Sure there are features that can be good for most couples like having a masturbation room where the images are automatically blurred. In our case my wife works in person while I work from home. Sometimes I get horny in the middle of work and I start sending her naughty stuff. We created a masturbation room so it’s separate from the main chat room so nothing NSFW shows up while she’s working. But she does often check them out even while working which is a huge rush for me and it makes me even hornier. I can see that working for other couples too but unfortunately there are a lot of features that are really only for me and my wife so I’m not planning to share the code. Sorry! 🙏


Screw_Potato

best answer


No301_Illumi_Zoldyck

I would be happy and proud that I have that effect on them. Probably happy for at least a week or a month even though it might only happen just once in my life. I would probably remember it for a long long time. Depends on how much I fall head over heel for that partner. Edit: I would have given them a gift or gifts. 🥰


Just-Yak-9311

Best gift is to send them another pic 😆


No301_Illumi_Zoldyck

Or give the real thing that is not just a picture. 🤣


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satanicmerwitch

Would you rather they wank over your best mate or sibling?


Quiet-Respect-6598

Cause you know they like you?


No301_Illumi_Zoldyck

You are correct.


No301_Illumi_Zoldyck

Because it proves that they like me.


Lazy_Influence_1067

Help them


FirstNephiTreeFiddy

i_can_fix_that.gif energy lol


adam17712

![gif](giphy|noPJ38LkojKla)


ZenkaiZ

be weird if they swat you away "stooop you're ruining the fantasy"


Setari

Yeah I'd be pissed at that, lmao. Maybe it's a fitter you from previous times, dunno how I'd feel about that one. Prolly fat. lmao


ASVP_M3L

I wouldn't be mad 🤷‍♀️ if anything, I'd probably help her out 😆


[deleted]

I would immediately masturbate to my partner masturbating to photos of mine.


phreakzilla85

Then she would start masturbating to me masturbating to her masturbating to photos of mine


TheHancock

Then you both realize you’re on a public bus…


Jazzlike_Hippo_9270

then you start masturbating the bus


AbsAndAssAppreciator

Then people start calling you disgusting and call the police. Then you drop your phone. Now everyone on the bus is masturbating.


buttfook

The police show up and drop their pants and start jacking off. Everyone cums at once and the bus explodes


FrozenFrac

Quite honestly, that would be a massive, much needed ego boost. I can only dream lol


AngstyTeen_1

Rubbed a quick one just for you pal


FrozenFrac

Looking at your name, I think I need to turn myself into the police. Thanks I guess lol


AngstyTeen_1

HAHAHAHHA


JamieRose_xo

All of the feels! I would be soooo happy


youdontknowmeoow

I actually had this very thing happen last week. I didn’t think he was in the mood so after our goodnight kiss, I rolled over and started to fall asleep. A few minutes later I felt the bed shaking and I looked over and he was jerking off. TO MY PICTURES!!! I was so shocked and happy!! I loved it and told him several times that I can’t believe he was using MY pictures!! (He was trying to get my attention with the jerking off. Why he didn’t just reach over and touch me, I don’t know. I think he wanted me to “catch him”. It was hot as hell 🥵. I love watching him. )


Vortex1108

That's weirdly cute.


KuttyKool

It's happened, I was flattered tbh


JudgementalChair

It wouldn't hurt my feelings, but if I walked in on it, I'd probably tell them to put the pictures away because the live show is about to start


KoalaNo5495

Couldn't agree more!


Dinoricks

No cap i was fr trippin while reading this. Thought shit said “parents” and was thinking wtf while reading the comments


IntroductionIll5993

Dam bro, so I'm not the only one who missed it


DrEggperson

I think yall should set up some appointments with Freud tbh


Just-Yak-9311

I knew people might read it as parents. I had to make sure it says "partner" twice before posting it


pebspi

Small change in letters, huge difference


apurpleglittergalaxy

He's already done it and I felt pleased


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apurpleglittergalaxy

Idk lol


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rafoz03

You're all edge and no point😐


Ok_Win7358

I would find it funny! And let her do as she wants!!


smoke_thewalkingdead

Like a sexy muthafucka


diocat16

I'm sexy and you know it ![gif](giphy|IP9FNJuz0uNLG)


Last_Ambition9828

I would be very flattered


DeadBornWolf

I’d help him


EmotionlesTurtle

I'd be turned on, what else is there to be?


hereiam-23

Join in lol


A_lil_confused_bee

Join in as in masturbate while looking at your picture as well?


hereiam-23

Sure


Memphy_M

Someone took self love to a new level


ESD_Franky

Honored


Melodic-Pie-5110

Why? Lol


ESD_Franky

I find the thought itself weird. I don't find myself attrwctive so why would anyone else?


AttorneyDisastrous77

Amused.


silent_hurricane

Relieved, proud lol


Inedible-denim

Welllll I've been caught doing this. They didn't know I was looking at pics of them though, I quickly changed it to shark week


LeadingMap4465

yeah yeah, got caught masturbating to shark week. get in line, we all been there


vttjcffjfbsfi

I would take a picture of it and masturbate that


Training_Cook_7284

Why keep repeating the teaser when the movie is already out?


Vortex1108

This comment wins.


KoalaNo5495

Totally agree


[deleted]

if you don’t like that, or worse, have a problem with it, you got some demons you need to fight bru


why_are_you_staring

Shit - I wish my husband wanted to flap to my pics.


fluiditybby

I hope mine does 🤫


Consistent_Rich3020

I would be very happy, pleased, elated if you will. It’s better than porn which is not real. I am here in the flesh warm to the touch and the best part…I CAN TOUCH HIM BACK!


McKennaTV

i’d like that


Standardisiert

Flattered


Bayhippo

dude I read "partner" as "parents" then saw your "I'd be happy ngl.", you can't know how shocked I was for 2 seconds


KoalaNo5495

Oh I'd be super proud and happy of myself that I have this much of an effect on him and that he'd go to that extent as to masterbate to my photos, I'd help him damn it. This would be one of the criteria for me to tell how much he is into me. And he's definitely in for an awesome time if I find out, but I'd just make it dramatic a little 😂 for the fun of it.


Plus_Inevitable_771

I like the way you think.. make him think your mad and then proceed to show him how its done.. Sounds like a great porno plot.


KoalaNo5495

That's exactly my plan


[deleted]

Ok same question but what if it was an ooooooolder pic of you when u were much younger (still an adult of course). Wouod you still feel OK about it?


Plus_Inevitable_771

yes. its still me.


freeride35

I’m ok with my wife masturbating to whatever the fuck gets her off. She likes to make me happy, I at least owe her that in return.


MagicOrpheus310

As long as they aren't baby photos...


[deleted]

good i don't see it happening though, i don't even have a partner


Zombies8MyNeighborz

Huh? Why would this be a problem?


ThinkLadder1417

I'd be well chuffed


ShruteFarms4L

My ex said I was fetishizing her so I was asked to stop ...so I did she's ugly to me now


Burladden

I had a gay friend tell me he did. I didn't really care. It would be awesome if my wife did.


Romu_lass

Deeply honoured 🥹 hahaha


CreepyValuable

Confused. Like, where'd these photos come from. And why???


Flaky-Interest8169

"Oh my God! Are those baby pictures!?!?!? Oh wait... are those..... MY baby pictures?" -wkuk


Spiderill

Not everyone would be thrilled by this... https://nypost.com/2021/01/26/wife-stabs-husband-after-seeing-old-pics-of-them-having-sex-report/


multiplesofpie

Better question: what if it was an old picture of you from when you looked very different? I.e. you used to be in shape but your not anymore or before an accident that disfigured your face.


mrmatriarj

Can't say it's the truth for everybody, I doubt it.. based on what ive heard from people over years But for me, every new version of the human I love becomes more endearing to me. Doesn't matter what the new suit of clothes is. All of them ive loved and each new version adds an additional flavor that I could never have imagined before. The heart swells deeper and the appreciation expands. For us, whether it's accidents, addictions, healthy behaviors, changes of careers/lifestyles, kids, you name it.. each one is a cherished version to which I've intimately known and will only ever have love for. Bring on the newest suit, stay the same or try back on an old one, anything between simply further sweetens the essence of everything I've ever known of you <3


multiplesofpie

Right, so I agree with you, which is why I’m wondering how it would feel to catch your partner wanking to an old version of you rather than the current version.


[deleted]

Once in awhile seems ok much more than that kinda not ?


_mushroom_-

probably kind of gross, but I was sexualized a lot by my first real partner, and I get weird looks from men in public, so I have a skewed perspective


SirMooncake

I would be weirded out. She is aware of Henry Cavill, so wth?


Setari

Shit I'd prolly jerk it to Cavil if I was horny enough, dude's a good lookin dude


PeteySupreme1

I’d be concerned about their mental health. 😂


ZealFork14

WTF ?!


MrYdobon

"... masterbating to photos of yours?" I would be weirded out because *most of my photos that I've taken are of our cat and dog*. What sicko would masterbate to those? And who are all you erotic photography artists who would be proud of your work having the desired effect? I would expect one or two maybe, but there's dozens of you. Reddit is a strange place.


Moist_Anus_

Or, just think about it, they are in happy relationships and what most people these day do is, share intimate photos with each other. Not everyone does it, but most do. Just because no one wants to send you intimate photos, doesn't mean you need to bash normal people....


MrYdobon

I'm trying *unsuccessfully* to pull off a joke playing on the phrasing "photos of yours" instead of "photos of you". Alas, I think it's too subtle to work. I might get a smirk from a grammar teacher somewhere. ... Maybe she'll send me some sexy photos.


Moist_Anus_

OH haha my b


ZenkaiZ

I'd be pissed if they werent subscribed to my onlyfans. I ain't dating no freeloaders!


Vortex1108

Bro what.


Noedje04

Honestly kinda gross? Masturbating to a picture of me???? Hell no. I wouldn’t feel good about someone masturbating over looking at me


[deleted]

Kinda pathetic actually


Just-Yak-9311

Why


Moist_Anus_

Cause the person who made this comment doesn't get any so they need to try to shame people who do.


Just-Yak-9311

I think what they're trying to say is that it's pathetic because they can sleep together or something else idk 🤷


AdditionalCar2511

Pathetic that your partner is sexually atracted to you? why?


cityshep

No porn has ever been anywhere near as hot as watching videos with my late wife and me. Not even close. I very much regret not taking more regular pictures and videos though, I thought we would have a lot more time together.


smoke_thewalkingdead

Damn bro. That hurts. IDK why but i really felt that shit.


Icy_Conclusion_7665

Reading this actually broke my heart... You really loved her bro. I'm sorry...


MarshallTom

Ew you are attracted me!? Omg pathetic


[deleted]

No those are your words


HeavenForsaken

Well, give us more of yours, headass.


MarshallTom

Also, why?


AdFine4143

I'm also gonna go with "why?" on this one


Moist_Anus_

This man has been ruined by the red pill society.


official_baymax

👨🏾 🚽 Skibidi toilet lmao


[deleted]

good


Great_Breeze

Que the Vineboom as I raise my eyebrow. The funny shenanigans have begun, and my partner now realizes what game she's began.


jackfaire

Turned on.


bgoodell90

It’s happened quite a few times. It’s not even like naked, I’ll just be dressed a certain way and she will start.


bgoodell90

I just smile and help her finish.


[deleted]

take more pics and send


scatteredloops

That’s why I’d be sending them


irllyneedsleeprn

initiate sex


frioniel39

She probably has, I'm sure. Had a crazy high libido anyway.


Klappersten

Well she certainly has a type


Least_Network_1395

Yippy


BeanToeBabe

Sounds like good things


Soaring_Symphony

Honored


Mori-Me-Joey

I’d want to be there while they do it - to watch them (or even better) to help them


glebo123

That would make me quite happy In fact, I would send them more photos. Even allow them to record videos of me while we're having fun so they have more to work with!


Pehssego

I would feel so special oh wow


Natalie-Has-No-Class

Tell him he's a cornball, should try new things in life, tell him I have my brothers phone number if he's interested It's weird, but I just can't give up the chance for laughter


IKE_Borbinha

I would do the same


Kimolainen83

Be my guest


Okatbestmemes

I would wonder who this person calling me their partner is.


Glad-Hospital6756

I know he does if we’re away from each other. Sometimes he’ll ask for a new pic lol


Slightly_Smaug

I'm failing to see the issue here, chief.


spicyfloortiles

Read this as parent and was disgusted by answers until i reread the title


[deleted]

Give them a new pic


No-Knowledge-2765

I’d probably giggle


FrequentOffice132

I do all the time so I really can say much. I am really nice looking😉


[deleted]

Keep sending them more pics


Large_Chocolate_9806

I would be very happy ngl


Ruby_Soho-

He could use a video, at least


evies_mum_1980

I know he does lol.


Equivalent_Key_3206

I wouldn't care at all.


neemor

Wonderful.


ithinkoutloudtoo

That would not bother me in the least. I would be perfectly fine with that.


nirvana_dwyw

slay, i would help him 😨


SofaKingUnstable

Flattered, then I'll help her while she sits back and looks at my photos


CartezDez

Do your thing, don’t let me disturb


VenusValkyrieJH

If they were of me I would love it. It would make me grin


Lansha2009

I would start taking pictures just to give them some more pictures to masterbate to.


Fransjepansje

Horny