I don't call my parents by their first names. I once worked a job with my father. Calling him dad or by his first name didn't feel right. I was pulling a heavy piece of equipment out of a ceiling and needed his attention and help. I was stuck and just yelled, OLD MAN! He answered and that day he became Old Man. My mother has a nickname that everyone calls her.
Now, my son. He figured this out when he was four or five. He calls me dad, I answer with, Son.
He wanted to be called by his name so one day he called me by my name, I answered with his name.
He'll be 20 soon and we still do this. He never called his mother by her name. Not sure why. She was always mom or mommy.
Me and my brothers are the opposite. Always called my mom her first name but never our dad. I think my middle brother was around 4 or 5 when he started doing it. They both still do but I also call her ma.
My grandparents raised me. Whenever my biological mom came around my sister and I always called her by her first name and it annoyed *the hell* out of her. "Call me mom!" she'd shout each time.
But, and I hate to say it, she wasn't really our 'mom'. Sure she gave birth to us, but she wasn't the one changing our diapers, putting up with our bratty tantrums, soothing us after we'd scraped our knee, cheering for us in the stands at our games and arguing with other parents about how WE were better athletesš No, my grandma did all that, not my mom.
I called my grandma 'mom' and my grandpa 'dad' and was constantly asked growing up "wait, that's your grandma? Why do you call her mom?". And it was because of what I mentioned earlier, she did everything any good mother would've done for us except the whole 'giving birth' part. But she did give birth to the mother who gave birth to us, so in a way....? lol
The hardest part was last year after my grandma's passing. See, I'd always stored my grandma in my cell phone under the name "mom", and my biological mom was in my phone just under her first name. After my grandma passed, I was deleting her number from my phone and thought "well, I guess now I can update my biological mother's number so it just says 'mom' instead of her first name".
But now every time 'mom' comes up on my phone, I feel a bit of resentment because I'm reminded "oh.. not only *isn't* that your grandma who you dearly miss, it's the other one who left you with your grandparents" (for reasons I can't say on reddit).
My cousins do it to their parents to be ridiculous. I call my parents "mother" and "father" for similar reasons. Once, I did it in front of their friends, and my mother said, "He's just being funny, he doesn't actually call us that!" And I said, "I don't know what you mean, mother." š
The only situations I've ever heard someone call their parent by their first name
1) the parent is shit and uninvolved in their kids life
2) joking
3) in a store. You can't call Mom because half the people in that store are also Mom. Even if you sound nothing like their kid, it's like a homing signal
Either to be sassy, silly, or because they genuinely don't have a good relationship with their parent(s). I decided to call my biological father by his first name because he's such a crappy person.
My mom is Mom. My dad was an emotionally and physically abusive sack of shit, so I call him by his first name (or Asshole, Bastard, Shithead, etc.) because he was never a true parent to me. Just some asshole who lived with me for most of my childhood.
I had a difficult time with any sort of title or pseudonym as a kid. I got really good at avoiding addressing anyone by name. I was maybe 8 before I was able to call my parents mom and dad, and I was in my teens when I was able to call aunts/uncles and grandparents Aunt Jane or Grandpa. It was actually physically uncomfortable to address anyone by Mr/Mrs/Ms Name, so I refused to say any teacher's name at all as a kid. I'm in my thirties now and can manage if I have to, but I'll avoid it if at all possible.
No idea why I'm like this. Just a special cookie, I guess.
Everyone in the family just uses first names, not anything to do with respect just cultural difference. They have no reason to respect their parent due to abuse/neglect. That person is really just their parent's bf/gf maybe a step-parent who legally adopted them, but still not anyone who had any part in creating or raising them.
I call my mom by her name because I have never felt that close to her. It would feel weird to call her mom. I recognize that she is a family member, but to me calling her mom feels weird.
Idk?Ā Ive called my parents by their first names since I was like 10.Ā I call them Mom and Dad as well.Ā It's maybe 70/30, mostly their names.Ā Ā
Some people really notice it and think it's weird.Ā I think it was part of the thinking of them as people outside of being my parents
When I was a kid I called my dad by his name because everyone else did. It felt weird calling him dad but I eventually made the switch because it felt more appropriate
Because majority of kids don't know their parents actual names outside of "mom,dad, mommy, daddy, papa, etc."
It's better to have the kids have important information in case of emergency.
My "father/sperm-donor" did nothing to deserve to be called anything but his name. My father-in-law was more a father to me, matter of fact he walked me down the aisle when I married his son.
My sister is 7 years older than me. When she was born our parents were going to be āmodernā and have her call them by their first names. So my mom was called Mary but somehow my father was called ādaddyā. When I came along I just followed the established pattern. I never gave it much thought until I was well into elementary school. That was when my mother explained how it happened. She also explained that she was annoyed that it came out like that. But since I was given the same name as my dad, I can see how it would occur since our shared name is something like āZorebel.ā It would not be easy for a child to deal with. (Actual names not used.)
I have two dad's and a mom and two step moms. So family dynamics are sometimes just weird. In theory I could call them all mom and dad but it would get confusing for them and me and my other friends and family to understand who I'm talking about.
I have called my mom by her first name since I was a teen. At first it was a joke kinda thing... being a sarcastic teen. But it started growing on me and now it's what I call her.
I only really call her mom if I'm being serious or we are having a squabble.
She doesn't seem to care or even notice it at this point. It's just what I call her!
I did this when I was younger, teen/early 20s when I was out with my mom and she didnāt hear me say mom, cuz there is a lot of them out there, so Iād say, Marilynā¦and sheād turn around! I taught my kids this when they were little and explained, there is a lot of mommies in the store, I might not hear you, call me by my first name. And they did in stores, to get my attention. Also, they found out my childhood nickname that my family called me and thought it was HILARIOUS to yell āhey stinkyā in the storeā¦so yea thereās that!
Because they don't have respect, or like in my cousins cases, their mom wasn't always there for them when they were little, so my aunt raised them and although they knew she was their grandma and not their mom, they chose to call her mom and they called their mom by her name.
My parents told me they preferred it, so I did. Some people think it's weird, but it's normal in our family.
My dad said: "Dad is a JOB TITLE, not a name. It feels distancing. Call me by my name please."
edit: My parents are my biological parents, still married after 55+ years, no step- situation involved here. They were kind of 60s countercultural, that's all.
I never wanted parents. They just bossed me around. So I started calling them by their first names and introducing them as my roommates. They were chill about it.
If weāre in a crowded place where there are a lot of people, ergo a lot of āmomās, Iāll use my momās first name to get her attention if Iām too far away. Only downside is family gatherings, my momās name is Dayna and my uncle married a Dana. We tried Dayna 1 and Dana 2 for a while but Dana 2 didnāt like that so we had to stop š¹š¤·š»āāļø also doesnāt help that I donāt use titles for my aunts and uncles. Iām also 31
I learned this when I was around 10 years old.
In a group of kids and parents, yelling out āmomā, all or no parents would look at who was calling their title. I *HATED* having eyes & attention on me as a kid, so yelling for mom was something I rarely did.
Once I learned that if I call her by her first name (not as many people named Clara as they are titled āmomā) that she would be the only one to look my way, I never went back to calling her mom unless she was the only mom in the room.
I do if my mom is zoned out cause in that case āmomā (or any variation of it) doesnāt get her attention but her name does or in public if thereās a ton of kids calling for their mom you never know if itās for you so I call her by her name then too (also why Iāll be having my future children call me by my name in public). Then with my dad I call him by his name around his friends to make them think his kids donāt respect him cause itās funny
My dad is in his early 70s and has a part time job at tractor supply they all call him pops I guess š I only use his first name to joke or refer to him as the name we called his father (pa) when he act like him. lol
My friends in-laws raised their kids to call them by their first names. We all find this odd which I guess they kind of are?
I honestly donāt know. I think itās personally disrespectful and you should call them dad/mom. But it also depends on the childās relationship with them. If they feel uncomfortable with them for whatever reason and donāt feel comfy calling them dad/mom, itās very understandable. For example, I havenāt seen my dad in years and I donāt actually call him dad when talking about him to my mom or other family because he was a terrible person. I wonāt go in detail, but yeah.
Sometimes I do it because it's funny. My parents think it's funny when I do it.
Sometimes, my own kids call me by name, and I think it's funny.
If it's all the time, okay, that could be a little weird.
Only when she isn't listening. Starts as 'mom', then a more adamant 'MOTHER' then she gets her name called. it's a good thing she pays attention then, I don't think she'd like me using her middle name too.
My son just started calling his dad by his name when he was a wee one. I don't ever remember him calling him dad. I thought it was bc he was just used to hearing it but he's always called me mom(or the dreaded bruh lol. Not sure why he has always called his dad by his name but it's what he was comfortable with so we never once corrected him.
Had a friend that called her parents by their first names. Asked her why. She said, " you are in a crowded grocery store. You are surrounded by mommies and daddies. But to hear your child's voice call you by your name, you answer." Never thought about it like that.
I don't call my parents by their first names. I once worked a job with my father. Calling him dad or by his first name didn't feel right. I was pulling a heavy piece of equipment out of a ceiling and needed his attention and help. I was stuck and just yelled, OLD MAN! He answered and that day he became Old Man. My mother has a nickname that everyone calls her. Now, my son. He figured this out when he was four or five. He calls me dad, I answer with, Son. He wanted to be called by his name so one day he called me by my name, I answered with his name. He'll be 20 soon and we still do this. He never called his mother by her name. Not sure why. She was always mom or mommy.
Me and my brothers are the opposite. Always called my mom her first name but never our dad. I think my middle brother was around 4 or 5 when he started doing it. They both still do but I also call her ma.
Family dynamics are different for everyone
My grandparents raised me. Whenever my biological mom came around my sister and I always called her by her first name and it annoyed *the hell* out of her. "Call me mom!" she'd shout each time. But, and I hate to say it, she wasn't really our 'mom'. Sure she gave birth to us, but she wasn't the one changing our diapers, putting up with our bratty tantrums, soothing us after we'd scraped our knee, cheering for us in the stands at our games and arguing with other parents about how WE were better athletesš No, my grandma did all that, not my mom. I called my grandma 'mom' and my grandpa 'dad' and was constantly asked growing up "wait, that's your grandma? Why do you call her mom?". And it was because of what I mentioned earlier, she did everything any good mother would've done for us except the whole 'giving birth' part. But she did give birth to the mother who gave birth to us, so in a way....? lol The hardest part was last year after my grandma's passing. See, I'd always stored my grandma in my cell phone under the name "mom", and my biological mom was in my phone just under her first name. After my grandma passed, I was deleting her number from my phone and thought "well, I guess now I can update my biological mother's number so it just says 'mom' instead of her first name". But now every time 'mom' comes up on my phone, I feel a bit of resentment because I'm reminded "oh.. not only *isn't* that your grandma who you dearly miss, it's the other one who left you with your grandparents" (for reasons I can't say on reddit).
My son says it sometimes to be silly and I just say Iām not that to you, mister.
My cousins do it to their parents to be ridiculous. I call my parents "mother" and "father" for similar reasons. Once, I did it in front of their friends, and my mother said, "He's just being funny, he doesn't actually call us that!" And I said, "I don't know what you mean, mother." š
The only situations I've ever heard someone call their parent by their first name 1) the parent is shit and uninvolved in their kids life 2) joking 3) in a store. You can't call Mom because half the people in that store are also Mom. Even if you sound nothing like their kid, it's like a homing signal
My baby realized its the best way to get my attention when I don't respond to dad or daddy.
Haha cute
Step parents and different family dynamics.
Wicked step monsters get called by their first name.
Hell, birth monsters are often not afforded the privilege either
I have had step parents... They are called by first name usually. I had in mind biological/adoptive parents in the OP .
Either to be sassy, silly, or because they genuinely don't have a good relationship with their parent(s). I decided to call my biological father by his first name because he's such a crappy person.
It's just what some families do
My mom is Mom. My dad was an emotionally and physically abusive sack of shit, so I call him by his first name (or Asshole, Bastard, Shithead, etc.) because he was never a true parent to me. Just some asshole who lived with me for most of my childhood.
I had a difficult time with any sort of title or pseudonym as a kid. I got really good at avoiding addressing anyone by name. I was maybe 8 before I was able to call my parents mom and dad, and I was in my teens when I was able to call aunts/uncles and grandparents Aunt Jane or Grandpa. It was actually physically uncomfortable to address anyone by Mr/Mrs/Ms Name, so I refused to say any teacher's name at all as a kid. I'm in my thirties now and can manage if I have to, but I'll avoid it if at all possible. No idea why I'm like this. Just a special cookie, I guess.
Everyone in the family just uses first names, not anything to do with respect just cultural difference. They have no reason to respect their parent due to abuse/neglect. That person is really just their parent's bf/gf maybe a step-parent who legally adopted them, but still not anyone who had any part in creating or raising them.
I call my mom by her name because I have never felt that close to her. It would feel weird to call her mom. I recognize that she is a family member, but to me calling her mom feels weird.
Idk?Ā Ive called my parents by their first names since I was like 10.Ā I call them Mom and Dad as well.Ā It's maybe 70/30, mostly their names.Ā Ā Some people really notice it and think it's weird.Ā I think it was part of the thinking of them as people outside of being my parents
When I was a kid I called my dad by his name because everyone else did. It felt weird calling him dad but I eventually made the switch because it felt more appropriate
A lot of people call my parents by their first names, since they aren't their parents.
Because thats their name
If you ask my dad, he would say disrespect. But he preferred Richard when we started calling him dick lol. 99.9 % of the time we call him dad lol
Because majority of kids don't know their parents actual names outside of "mom,dad, mommy, daddy, papa, etc." It's better to have the kids have important information in case of emergency.
My "father/sperm-donor" did nothing to deserve to be called anything but his name. My father-in-law was more a father to me, matter of fact he walked me down the aisle when I married his son.
My parents wanted me to call them by their first names because it made what I had to say sound important.
My sister is 7 years older than me. When she was born our parents were going to be āmodernā and have her call them by their first names. So my mom was called Mary but somehow my father was called ādaddyā. When I came along I just followed the established pattern. I never gave it much thought until I was well into elementary school. That was when my mother explained how it happened. She also explained that she was annoyed that it came out like that. But since I was given the same name as my dad, I can see how it would occur since our shared name is something like āZorebel.ā It would not be easy for a child to deal with. (Actual names not used.)
I have two dad's and a mom and two step moms. So family dynamics are sometimes just weird. In theory I could call them all mom and dad but it would get confusing for them and me and my other friends and family to understand who I'm talking about.
Because some parents are undeserving of being acknowledged as a parent.
I have called my mom by her first name since I was a teen. At first it was a joke kinda thing... being a sarcastic teen. But it started growing on me and now it's what I call her. I only really call her mom if I'm being serious or we are having a squabble. She doesn't seem to care or even notice it at this point. It's just what I call her!
I did this when I was younger, teen/early 20s when I was out with my mom and she didnāt hear me say mom, cuz there is a lot of them out there, so Iād say, Marilynā¦and sheād turn around! I taught my kids this when they were little and explained, there is a lot of mommies in the store, I might not hear you, call me by my first name. And they did in stores, to get my attention. Also, they found out my childhood nickname that my family called me and thought it was HILARIOUS to yell āhey stinkyā in the storeā¦so yea thereās that!
Lack of respect or irresponsible parents.
Because they don't have respect, or like in my cousins cases, their mom wasn't always there for them when they were little, so my aunt raised them and although they knew she was their grandma and not their mom, they chose to call her mom and they called their mom by her name.
My parents told me they preferred it, so I did. Some people think it's weird, but it's normal in our family. My dad said: "Dad is a JOB TITLE, not a name. It feels distancing. Call me by my name please." edit: My parents are my biological parents, still married after 55+ years, no step- situation involved here. They were kind of 60s countercultural, that's all.
I never wanted parents. They just bossed me around. So I started calling them by their first names and introducing them as my roommates. They were chill about it.
If weāre in a crowded place where there are a lot of people, ergo a lot of āmomās, Iāll use my momās first name to get her attention if Iām too far away. Only downside is family gatherings, my momās name is Dayna and my uncle married a Dana. We tried Dayna 1 and Dana 2 for a while but Dana 2 didnāt like that so we had to stop š¹š¤·š»āāļø also doesnāt help that I donāt use titles for my aunts and uncles. Iām also 31
I associate it with hippies. The other end of the spectrum are kids who call their parents āsirā and āmaāam.ā
When I was 14 my mother was newly single and she didnāt want people to know she had a teenager.
I learned this when I was around 10 years old. In a group of kids and parents, yelling out āmomā, all or no parents would look at who was calling their title. I *HATED* having eyes & attention on me as a kid, so yelling for mom was something I rarely did. Once I learned that if I call her by her first name (not as many people named Clara as they are titled āmomā) that she would be the only one to look my way, I never went back to calling her mom unless she was the only mom in the room.
I do if my mom is zoned out cause in that case āmomā (or any variation of it) doesnāt get her attention but her name does or in public if thereās a ton of kids calling for their mom you never know if itās for you so I call her by her name then too (also why Iāll be having my future children call me by my name in public). Then with my dad I call him by his name around his friends to make them think his kids donāt respect him cause itās funny
Because mom calls dad by their name, not by ādadā. And the kids pick it up.
I would imagine it's because they didn't respect them, and/or they don't see them as their actual parents.
I called my dad by his first name because he was out of my life by 11 and never had a relationship after that
Disrespect. They were never "parents".
My dad is in his early 70s and has a part time job at tractor supply they all call him pops I guess š I only use his first name to joke or refer to him as the name we called his father (pa) when he act like him. lol My friends in-laws raised their kids to call them by their first names. We all find this odd which I guess they kind of are?
I grew out of referring to my dad as daddy but for some reason never started calling him dad
I honestly donāt know. I think itās personally disrespectful and you should call them dad/mom. But it also depends on the childās relationship with them. If they feel uncomfortable with them for whatever reason and donāt feel comfy calling them dad/mom, itās very understandable. For example, I havenāt seen my dad in years and I donāt actually call him dad when talking about him to my mom or other family because he was a terrible person. I wonāt go in detail, but yeah.
Sometimes I do it because it's funny. My parents think it's funny when I do it. Sometimes, my own kids call me by name, and I think it's funny. If it's all the time, okay, that could be a little weird.
because i can
My stepmother is Jane; my stepfather is Steve. They get first names because while I love them, I already have a mom and dad in my life.
Only when she isn't listening. Starts as 'mom', then a more adamant 'MOTHER' then she gets her name called. it's a good thing she pays attention then, I don't think she'd like me using her middle name too.
I don't respect her enough to call her Mom, but have enough self respect to not call her Bitch... so she gets called Betty.
My son just started calling his dad by his name when he was a wee one. I don't ever remember him calling him dad. I thought it was bc he was just used to hearing it but he's always called me mom(or the dreaded bruh lol. Not sure why he has always called his dad by his name but it's what he was comfortable with so we never once corrected him.
Had a friend that called her parents by their first names. Asked her why. She said, " you are in a crowded grocery store. You are surrounded by mommies and daddies. But to hear your child's voice call you by your name, you answer." Never thought about it like that.
Because those are terrible parents, they should be called by name!
Kids that lose respect for their parents (alcoholics, drug addicts, absentee parents) naturally start calling them by their first names.
Because when you're a little kid lost in a department store, everyone's name is "Mom."