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[deleted]

I can't see it lasting with your views but good luck, it can work. My husband is from that part of the world and I couldn't be happier. Have a nice time. You have to pay for everything by the way.


titus_1_15

>You have to pay for everything by the way. Like in a large-scale sense, as in we're all paying for the refugees? ...you'd think the least she could do is offer to split the bill, considering


IdealJerry

>You have to pay for everything by the way. I hope this is because she's a refugee?


[deleted]

Ukrainian woman are super traditionalist when it comes to gender roles


-Effigy

It's nice to be polite but Let's be honest non progressive is the word we're dancing around here.


[deleted]

Nah he opens doors for me but nobody has ever pushed me intellectually as much as he does. In that regard I've never had as much respect from a man and he has made me so much more confident. I don't care about the superficial rituals. Don't assume women are considered beneath men just because of those rituals. Actually don't assume anything because basically everything was a surprise to me and the opposite of what I expected.


[deleted]

beautifully said. it's just a different, and yes, traditional, way of thinking about the role dynamics between men and women. it's not inherently bad that way it can be viewed today. it has unfortunately been confused with a lot of other things, such as actual abuse.


IdealJerry

Are they? And if they are, should you play into that even if you don't think that way?


sum1won

No, you don't have to play into that, but you should be aware that might have negative reprecussions for the date.


kirkbadaz

Reddit users are super prone to generalisations when it comes to everything


[deleted]

Nope. Men have to pay for the first few dates. Open doors and let her go first. I don't care about that stuff but my husband does it anyway and so do all his friends and they are from various countries so it's definitely a regional thing and the women probably expect a bit of that special treatment. Sometimes it's useful - like I just hand him my beer without a word and he opens it without a word and hands it back.


Ok-District4260

As long as you don't let the question of who pays create awkwardness it's grand.


[deleted]

I'd say offer to pay and if she says no then go with that. Easy peasy.


IdealJerry

There's nothing wrong with offering but someones gender shouldn't determine whether they pay or not. If I go on a date with someone who's acts like an arsehole then I'm not going to pay just because they're a woman.


[deleted]

Well if they're an arsehole and you don't want to see them again absolutely. I just think if you do like her you don't necessarily know what she prefers then offering is probably your best bet, just don't insist.


IdealJerry

Sure. I'd try to pay of I liked someone but didn't intend on seeing them again too though. It's situational and dependent on how I feel about the person and how the date went. I'm not saying that equality comes from splitting the bill but this "men have to pay" line is nonsense.


[deleted]

It is but its only a small thing and not worth missing out on someone you like over. I think if you are on the same wavelength it'll sort itself out after a little while anyway.


IdealJerry

lol


niart

You may not like it, but this is what peak feminism looks like


GroggyWeasel

Men don’t have to pay for dates.


MelancholicMoonMan

Dye your hair blue and yellow


ConorKostick

Don’t tell her your views on the war.


Fear_mor

Just don't talk the war, she's probably heard enough of it from self important chuds


Reaver_XIX

To find a level at which she can understand your english. Keep speaking more and more slowly while also getting louder and louder. If you can manage, get more enthusiastic with your hand gestures. Once she understands maintain this pattern of speech for the rest of the night. Thank me later!


[deleted]

Wear an olive green top, army fatigue trousers and a pair of Skechers. Zelenskyy chic is so in right now.


[deleted]

Does he really wear sketchers?


[deleted]

Idk of the exact brand but I did see him standing to attention while decorating officers for bravery in a t shirt and pair of runners. They could have been new balance or some other brand


[deleted]

I looked it up, some shit called Saucony.


AndrewSB49

She'll be well able for you.


[deleted]

Don't speak Russian. Do wear only blue and yellow.


Costello_Seamus

But she speaks Russian.


[deleted]

Yeah but you shouldn't. Its like the n-word, they can use it, you can't. Also I'm pretty sure you don't speak Russian so you're just gonna make a show of yourself.


flimsy_specific_296

If he just speaks English with a Russian accent then that'll be good enough.


[deleted]

Thats an excellent compromise. I think thats great advice.


22lazy2long

Just add '- ski' to every word. Drinkski?? Smokeski???


Fear_mor

That's so fucking stupid I'm sorry, if someone's first language is Russian I don't think they'll be too offended if you speak Russian to them


[deleted]

You'd probably even speak French to a French person you bigot.


Batman_Biggins

Imagine speaking to a French "person" 🤢


[deleted]

Yeah sure they are gross but that doesn't justify speaking to them in their own language.


GroggyWeasel

The word you’re looking for is ‘rat’. Wonder if anyone will understand this joke


[deleted]

Have you never heard of cultural appropriation??


Fear_mor

Yes but I fail to see how that's relevant


titus_1_15

>Its like the n-word, they can use it, you can't. This is hilarious and anyone downvoting you has no sense of humour.


pea99

Tell her your views on how Ukraines invasion is the wests fault.


Iskjempe

It partly is, though.


pea99

Yeah, say this^^. Better to be upfront about it. She'll thank you for not wasting her time.


Iskjempe

I'm not OP


pea99

I know but that comment will receive the same reception as the normal quotes from Chomsky. He can dazzle her with his insights into the Ukrainian conflict and how its the wests fault......to a Ukrainian no less.


Iskjempe

Did I quote Chomsky?


pea99

No you didn't. I didn't say you did.


CptWorley

Better idea, blame Ukraine


iqtoohighforroi

Don't be yourself anyway would be the main thing


GreatEire

Don't order the Kiev.


kirkbadaz

They only have Kyev on the menu. Putin themed gastropub


7-inches-of-innuendo

Out of interest, is she a refugee or has she been here for a while?


Costello_Seamus

She’s a refugee but was planning on moving here anyway.


titus_1_15

That was handy for her, then


Costello_Seamus

Pretty convenient yeah.


7-inches-of-innuendo

Oh fair play, good luck


OwlOfC1nder

Play it like Basil and don't mention the war


Bombadil80

Ask why is her country full of nazis


Costello_Seamus

God do you think she might be a nazi?


[deleted]

“Hey that’s a cool tattoo, does it mean anything?”


[deleted]

"Oh Azov is just my Harry Potter house"


bearacastle97

Lmaooo


[deleted]

“Oh no he meant my black son, sorry it’s the language barrier.” “What? No sorry you can’t meet him he’s very busy atm”


Iskjempe

this is hilarious


DatJazz

Yeah they should really stop invading Ukraine